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[thatsbelievable]

[honeytonedhottie]

hyper femininity⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🎀

im super excited to write this post because my relationship with my femininity has been something that i remember rly well and im super grateful for. i feel like embracing my hyper femininity has made me grow and glow so i wanna share ways that i embraces and strengthened my femininity 🎀

TRUST UR GUT AND INTUITION ;

we have gut feelings for a REASON. most of the times when we have gut feelings about someone or a situation we are nine times out of ten RIGHT. something that i've learned to do is listen to my body and my gut intuition more.

and to add onto this, TRUST UR OWN JUDGEMENT. a lot of the time we are used to being preached to about how we should feel and respond to certain things, and something important to always prioritize is discernment.

but please trust ur gut and trust ur own principles and judgement because no one knows u better then you. at the end of the day u know whats best for u and u are responsible for doing whats best for u so dont put that responsibility/power in the hands of others.

HAVE WOMEN TO LOOK UP TO ;

having women that u look up to is so so good for u because it gives u a role model. some women that are my role models include ; kimora lee simmons, jang wonyoung, bella hadid, megan thee stallion, jia song, alexa demie, paris hilton, and SO much more.

also having lots of female friends, watching female influencers etc i think all contribute to my girlyness. my absolute favorite female influencer is manifestelle because shes so smart and wise and AMAZING to listen to.

BUILD A STRONG SELF CONCEPT ;

know ur worth and own it. as a woman, make sure that u keep company that uplifts you and keeps ur confidence high because in this world everyone is so obsessed with "humbling" women.

do lots of confidence and self concept work to the point where absolutely NOTHING can phase u because ur so secure within urself and ur femininity. confidence is important for everything but especially important for women.

BE SOFT ;

being super in tune with and aware of my emotions has helped my femininity bcuz i used to have a bad habit of repression because i thought that being sensitive was something that i had to be ashamed of. but i learned that its NOT true and i learned to embrace it through doing lots of journalling and shadow work.

SELF EXPRESSION ;

i found that my femininity was strengthened when i allowed myself to express and be creative. doing things like dancing, song writing, journalling, keeping a blog etc has just been so good for my girlyness as a whole.

being able to express urself in how u speak and advocate for urself is also immensely important because no one is gonna speak FOR you so u need to speak for you and express urself clearly. you can do so by starting to practice saying no and saying when u like something and when u dont like something.

[atlantis-area]

TAEMIN - Advice (2021) 3rd anniversary

[ash-says]

Tips on how to dodge personal questions in a Professional Setting:

I know. I know. I said I will be on a break and I still stand by that but it was difficult to throw away the sudden surge of motivation so here I am.

I received a request to make a post on this long back so here is your girl serving it. Honestly I am not much of an expert at it either but I have some ways that work sometimes so here goes nothing.

1) Do not give in to the pressure.

Literally that's the starting point. Whenever someone asks us a personal question we feel obligated at some level to answer because of xyz reasons. That's why we first need to escape the pressure of answering.

2) Straightforwardly and Politely state I am not comfortable answering that.

The bulletproof method. No explanation needed.

3) If you are in a situation where the person is being really nosy and can't take a no for an answer. Try saying to them,"I don't understand how it's relevant to our topic of discussion."

4) If you are not in a position to decline at all which happens when the person asking the question is of higher authority and has influence in this situation give vague answers that lead nowhere.

Example: So are you dating anyone?

It's tough to say in particular you know the dating scene nowadays it's difficult to put a name on anything.

Or what do you do on your weekends?

Nothing just the usuals. I am an office worker after all.

This creates a sense of familiarity with the crowd but at the same time does not reveal anything in precision.

5) Turn the topic on them. One of the smartest things you can do is make them the central focus. People love to talk about themselves so it works most of the time until you come across someone truly smart.

Example: hey how's the new office? Are you liking it here?

Ans: Well I am still getting used to the environment here. What about you? How long have you been working here?

6) Another thing you can do is dance around the topic but not on the topic. You remember how you used to write a 1 mark question for 5 marks exactly like that. Tell the prequel and sequel of the question but never answer the exact question.

7) This one is kinda rude I won't suggest doing it around randomly but if you have been in the corporate space for sometime you would know that there are some people who like to ask things only to belittle you or spread gossip or to be mean. The jealous ones that don't have a life of their own.

In case they ask something or say something rude or cross a boundary just start singing a song or change the topic completely. Don't acknowledge anything they say and continue with your random talks or humming. Trust me it's the easiest way to get rid of them.

Still some are persistent and will try to get an answer. Simply say it's not worth discussing. It's boring.

8) Apart from that there are subtle things you can do which can create a persona that conveys you are not open towards personal questions. You can do it by simply detaching yourself whenever someone starts talking about their personal lives. Don't be a participant or a listener. It gives a que you are not looking to bond personally and many other similar things.

9) If you are truly in a toxic work culture where your colleagues seem to constantly bug and bully you to share personal stuff (happened with me in my previous workplace) Firmly state,"I come here to work not to make personal relations."

10) Ignore.

I hope it helps even a little there's not much we can do without offending the other person but we can be gentle and polite in our tone and gesture that's the only way.

That's all for today's show on ash-says. Stay tuned for more illegal tricks and explosive opinions.

[zzzzzestforlife]

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[0-0katie0-0]

I’m asking tumblr a very important question. Mostly to the subs of the hypno/brainwashing sphere.

How does one keep their attention while listening to files?

I find myself overthinking things while listening to files. Such has *do I really feel this?* or *what am I suppsed to do?* even tho files describe things.

I’ve been having a lot of trouble with this layely and am looking for suggtions and/or tips or tricks.

[sonandheirofnothinginparticular]

[preservationofnormalcy]

Hey, do I bought this gun from a gun shop, and it's fitting two bullets at once. The way that I know this is because, well, it's a revolver. When it goes "bang" twice when you only pulled the trigger once, you can tell. When I bought it, everything was normal. Clerk was normal. Shop was normal. But now it fires two shots at once. 3 trigger pulls. Not practical, but with the little shooting I did do, it's, well, unique? Both bullets hit in rapid succession. Kinda neat.

Now to the problem. All markings disappeared when I checked on it at home. That's problematic for normal law by itself. Let alone all the extranormal shenanigans going on with it.

On the one hand, it's interesting. On the other hand, uh, I kind of don't know what to do with it? I feel like "turn it in" is probably the safest bet but I wasn't really sure how to do that with OPN, so I figured I'd ask.

I can hear our director of security, Orson Knight, breathing down my neck.

Magical firearms are pretty illegal - despite what some folks in camouflage robes might tell you, the second amendment does not guarantee access to extranormal firearms as of ‘67. Ammo is one thing for self defense purposes but we have some strict laws on the guns themselves. Look up our PSA, “Well Regulated Magic Militia: Magebore & Other Esoteric Weaponry”, which I worked on, for more information.

For this weapon specifically, we absolutely might ask you to turn it in. The markings disappearing is incredibly suspicious, as you pointed out, and we want to make sure this wasn’t a weapon involved in a crime, extranormal or otherwise.

To turn it in, you can either go to the nearest large city to where you live and walk down a Main Street. You’ll see our eye logo on some building, probably. Make sure to disassemble the firearm and carry it in a discreet case so as to not cause alarm. When you go in, you might see signage for “Mike’s pipe warehouse” or something. As long as you also see our logo, you’re in the right spot. Tell the receptionist that you have an “item for the Office” and they’ll take it from there. You may be asked to fill out some paperwork so we can compensate you for your purchase and make a statement to the agent there.

[onehundredwishesss]

How to have beauty and brains:

• Get that degree: You will learn a lot of skills during your studies, you gain more self-confidence and you will more likely get a well paid job. Remember, no one can take that away from you.

• Hairstyle and outfit: find a hairstyle that matches your face and an outfit that matches your body type and skin tone. A hairstyle and an outfit can make or break you.

• Learn new things: Gaining more knowledge or skill is really valuable. Be curious and never stop learning. Whether it's cooking, budgeting, starting a business...

• Meet new people: Learn more about types of people, psychology, communication, cultures... You have to deal with people your whole life, so why not making the best out of it?

[mysterymastere]

If you ever feel self-conscious about your weight, know that you really only need to lose the 3 pounds between your ears. You can't be self-conscious if you give up thinking.

[raven-at-the-writing-desk]

I know it might be a dumb question but what are your thoughts on Jamil? I love reading your rambles and analysises, and Jamil is one of my favorite characters! 🐍

You can read this post for my general opinions on Jamil! If you’re interested, I’ve also written this post, which delves into my thoughts on Kalim and Jamil’s complex relationship.

At this point in time, my thoughts and opinions haven’t changed much. However, what I will say is that Jamil is a very popular character among my friends! I think being surrounded by Jamil likers has helped me appreciate him more.

[thatsbelievable]

[rqbossman]

Hey, just a quick heads-up, here on Tumblr it’s customary to give your blog a profile picture and a bio, to make sure people don’t confuse it for one of the Many spambots! Also you absolutely don’t have to but most people here like to keep their Likes and Following private. That’s totally up to you though.

Welcome to Tumblr on behalf of the TMA fandom, Alex!

Thanks, I only just learnt how to reply to people so it might be a while!

[cj2accountlost]

Excuse me artists, please provide assistance with these horns

(Rainbow line art is just because I forgot to add my name)

Here is what they look like

[notmazikeen]

omg. today the personal trainer was leaving and he held my hand????

he knows i have a boyfriend too so idk what to do lols... he's been really flirty today and its uncomfy but like should i tell my boss?

[foldingfittedsheets]

Something that literally changed my life was working with a friend on a coding thing. He was helping me create an auto rig script and was trying to explain something to me but his words were just turning into static in my brain. I was tired and confused and there was so many new concepts happening.

I could feel myself working toward a crying meltdown and was getting preemptively ashamed of what was about to happen when he said, “Hey, are you someone who benefits from breaks?”

It broke me.

Did I benefit from breaks? I didn’t know. I’d never taken them.

When a problem frustrated or upset me I just gritted my teeth and plowed through the emotional distress because eventually if you batter and flail at something long enough you figure it out. So what if you get bruised on the way.

I viscerally remembered in that moment being forced to sit at the table late into the night with my dad screaming at me, trying to understand math. I remembered taking that with me into adulthood and having breakdowns every week trying to understand coding. I could have taken a break? Would it help? I didn’t know! I’d never taken one!

“Yes,” I told him. We paused our call. I ate lunch. I focused on other stuff for half an hour. I came back in a significantly better state of mind, and the thing he’d been trying to explain had been gently cooking in the back of my head and seemed easier to understand.

Now when I find myself gritting my teeth at problems I can hear his gentle voice asking if I benefit from breaks. Yes, dear god, yes why did I never get taught breaks? Why was the only way I knew to keep suffering until something worked?

I was relating to this same friend recently my roadtrip to the redwoods with my wife. “We stopped every hour or so to get out and stretch our legs and switch drivers. It was really nice. When I was a kid we’d just drive twelve hours straight and not stop for anything, just gas. We’d eat in the car and power through.”

He gave a wry smile, immediately connecting the mindset of my parents on a road trip to what they’d instilled in me about brute forcing through discomfort. “Do you benefit from breaks?” he echoed, drawing my attention to it, making me smile with the same sad acknowledgement.

Take breaks. You’re allowed. You don’t have to slam into problems over and over and over, let yourself rest. It will get easier. Take. Breaks.