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any transition guide that tells you to 'slim down' or lose weight in order to pass is full of shit. you do not need to lose weight to pass. let me say this again. you do not need to lose weight in order to pass.

your masculinity can and will be recognized without needing to lose weight.

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life is to short to suppress yourself. Have a cringe anime girl pfp. Be a furry. Use weird pronouns. Name yourself something wacky. Change your identity. You have one life. Don’t ruin it and waste it because of other people’s opinions.

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something that really needs to be discussed more under transandrophobia is this very insidious emotional sexual abuse that cis mothers inflict on their trans(masc) sons/children. this gross almost incestuous enmeshment and entitlement that they have to our fucking bodies and how anything we do with our bodies is an attack on them and their body somehow

its such a vile and disgusting form of abuse and its genuinely hard for me to talk about because its something that i went through myself, on top of other abuse

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(Before i say anything more i want to make it clear that i dont hate the person im talking about here nor do i think shes a bad person, i just need to get this shit off my chest. Personal vent below)

Im so sick and tired of my friend continuasly implying i have it way easier than her. For context shes a trans girl, a trans girl who got into social transition mere months after her first gender therpaist appointment and is VERY close to HRT, only having issues with her dad and a few family members having trouble adjusting (being in a phase of denial). Why is this important? Because she constantly implies i have it so much easier than her. A woman who has gotten so far in her transition with relative ease, is telling me, a guy who is nowhere near SOCIAL transition, let alone medical, whos gender therpaist doesnt even believe him, a guy who has parts of his family that have a high possibilty of just straight up abandoning him, lives with a step-dad who constantly rubs in that hes his “daughter”, who only has the support of his mom (barely mind you) that i have it easier. All because im closer to turning 18 than her.

At this point im not even sure if she understands that i cant just magically get T when the clock strikes midnight on my 18th. I dont understand her behaviour. Dont get me wrong, im not saying her life is all sunshine and rainbows, im just so fucking tired of someone whos gotten so far (significantly easier than me) telling me that i have it easier because im “close” to 18 years old and her dad is a dick to her sometimes (guess what, mine is too. Constantly. You want a fucking medal?)

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the main reason i am such an active advocate for trans solidarity and trans unity is precisely because i know from experience how much adopted radfem ideas hurts the trans community.

i used to hate myself for being a trans man! i used to believe i wasn't truly oppressed despite the very real transandrophobia i faced! i used to make "i hate all men too don't worry im sorry for my fellow men" jokes! and it made me fucking feel like shit!

as an older and wiser man, i now know the difference between productive discussions of misogyny, and straight up radfem bootlicking!

if i can find at least one trans boy like i was and help them unlearn what i thought as a baby trans, i would be the happiest man alive

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it brings me great comfort to know, or to hope, that the day I die a trans child will be born. and they will be much happier than I ever could be. I pray for them, because it is easier to pray for the nonexistent than it is for the living.

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Does being misgendered bother you? Maybe a scale from yes greatly to not at all/i find it kinda amusing. (Nuance could be included, “yes, but only from friends and family” for example)

No rush or pressure!

This seems to range greatly in the other trans people I know IRL so I’m curious.

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I have a gender therapist appointment tomorrow and im fucking DREADING it, have been since the start of the month. Im already expecting to recive another metaphorical middle finger from her tomorrow so im trying to set my expectations as low as possible.

“Oh we cant do anything until you visit a regular psychologist! Your too mentally unstable for now!” Have you considered that its (and hear me out here, truly insane, mindblowing, UNBELIEVABLE theory ahead!) because im suffering with near crippling amounts of dysphoria? And your doing fuck all about it? Even though thats why im here? For you? To? Help? Me???

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It is so annoying when people respond to "the queer community has an anti-masc problem" with "well society loves and praises masculinity!" Okay... yes... but that's not what we're talking about 😭 The queer community ≠ society as a whole. Also? The society that praises masculinity does NOT praise queer masculinity. Cishet society does not praise butches, masculine trans people, or anyone who is masc in a queer way. And unfortunately, many queer people have this same problem.

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Made this a while back and never posted it, but I figured I should now that I actually started T!!!

(Not a self portrait, this is just some guy)

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*grabs your hands and speaks to you in a tone that is so gentle* they/them pronouns stop being universal once you learn a person's pronouns. Sometimes that person's pronouns will include they/them and in that specific case you are allowed to keep using those pronouns for that person. In any case where you learn a persons pronouns and that person doesn't use they/them, you should no longer use those pronouns for that person. If you continue to use they/them pronouns knowing that person doesn't use them, you are now misgendering that person. Kindly stop doing that please. Thank you, I love you.

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why everyone gotta make fun of trans masc names? who gives a fuck if alex and jay and oliver and elliot are popular. cis people have popular girl and boy names trans women have popular names, like leave trans masc the hell alone for once in our fucking lives. No one cares if you think Elliot is overused.

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turn into Godzilla

Your friend can be Kong and then you can fight!