#your only friend

[sebastiansolace-official]

"SEBASTIAN"

"Uhhh SOMETHING REALLY NOT GREAT HAPPENED."

@ask--p-ai-nter

“God fucking dammit.. what did you do, Painter?”

[sebastiansolace-official]

I’m going to kill all of you.

the surface isn't as magical as he imagined 😔

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Hey now, Let her cook!

[akanemnon]

Yeah, Kris is definitely NOT alright.

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[jq37]

It's super funny to me that, in Suffering, the Siren answers Odysseus's question about how to avoid Poseidon completely truthfully even though she was planning on killing him at first opportunity. It didn't even ping her radar as a suspicious question to ask. It's like her day job is drowning mortal men but her nerdy hobby is nautical navigation and she couldn't help herself. She did NOT have to give him any info but she was like, Ooh fascinating hypothetical question! Here's my analysis on the best way to survive. Anyway, get in the water silly :)

[sebastiansolace-official]

Me to all of you <333

seb blows ur brains out asmr

[missmisnomer]

it's always a good day to wake up and choose violence

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[chloesimaginationthings]

Friendship never dies in FNAF..

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[sebastiansolace-official]

PERFECT DEPICTION.

[starcurtain]

I think one of the funniest things about the Sabzeruz event is that the devs choose to go with Candace, Traveler, and Paimon having a whole "Ooh, two mysterious men are going into an alley to have a 'private' conversation; they must be bad guys!" only to then go "Oh just kidding, it was only Alhaitham and Kaveh doing typical Alhaitham and Kaveh things."

Except the "Alhaitham and Kaveh" thing in question this time was talking about Mehrak, a sentient robot that Kaveh built using absolutely forbidden technology, and which he then whole-heartedly willed would develop a consciousness of its own, violating one of the central taboos of his nation's governing agency, committing what amounts to an inherent and extreme felony punishable by law.

Alhaitham and Kaveh: Listen, we're not bad guys discussing illegal activity here. We're just two men having a private, personal conversation. Happens all the time.

Paimon, Candace, and Traveler: Oh cool, they're not doing a crime; they're just gay.

But they were, in fact, doing a crime.

[sebastiansolace-official]

[[Blog intro]]

"Welcome, welcome! Don't be afraid, i'm not gonna hurt you, despite what you have seen, heard, and/or been told. My name is Sebastian.

your only friend. If im correct, your supervisors have told you to secure 'loose assets'. Documents, vials, whatever. However, if I can make it worth your while, i'm gonna ask you to cut a deal. You give me any research you might have on you, and i'll give you some of these items ive scavenged. Here, you can just, pick it off my tail. These would be far more useful to you, compared to some 'silly data', no? If you don't ask questions, I won't either. You get yours, and I get mine. And if you already have anything that might be running low on juice, you can buy batteries on the table next to me. Whenever you wanna get going, the keycard to the next zone is by the radio. Free of charge! No strings attached~"

Welcome to the totally official blog of your friend, Sebastian, the one who works his ass off to get all items for you to buy from his shop. You should really head over there by the way, found your corpse, had a great haul. :3

(OOC rules and such under the cut.)

Action guide:

Interacting with other blogs/RP asks, or sometimes just regular asks if I’m in the mood:

“Sebastian will talk like this.”

*Sebastian’s actions or movements will look like this.*

Interacting with regular asks:

Sebastian will respond like this.

Sebastian will also respond like this.

(Mod talk will be in parentheses.)

[It will also be in brackets.]

Mod talk may also have “OOC” in front of it.

Tag guide:

#Your only friend <- blog tag

Buying anything? <- tag for interactions

Rules:

1. No shipping. My Sebastian will not interact with people if their intention or RP is going to ship with them, as romantic and especially sexual ships of this character feel unnecessary to me. If it’s a joking thing, I’m okay with it.

2. Don’t be weird. Doing anything I find uncomfortable or unpleasant to interact with will be deleted, ignored, warned, or blocked.

This blog is run by @thervbb3rdvckkingfromyt !! If you want to get to know me any better or see any of my art, or fanfics & such, I’m always open for recommendations and asks!

TW: Sebastian may cuss, say “Kill yourself,” mention guns, dead bodies, surgery, drugs, violence, he may post something that seems like yelling, say/post threats, etc. If any of this makes you uncomfortable, feel welcome to block or ignore this blog. Take care of yourself!

[cowardlykrow]

Stop light shenanigans

Extra:

[adobe-outdesign]

"why don't super-intelligent Pokemon like Metagross and Alakazam just take over humanity if they're smarter than us" imagine that a random primate gave you free housing, food, and medical care for the rest of your life for literally no reason other than they want to be friends with you and I think you'll understand

[talk-nerdy-to-me-thyla]

GUYS

GUYS THEY PREMIERED IT FOR BILL ON THE STAR TREK REPLICA SET

[autismmydearwatson]

Every time I watch Dune I forget about it but I'm foaming at the mouth over how Paul has a vision of himself as a powerful, respected, divine figure with millions worshipping him and he just says "Somebody help me"