#you do know sterilizing the gays is one of the Right's goals right?
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Everyone is suggesting stocking up on morning after pills in case they get banned. And Yes! do that! But also if you do not plan to bare a child in the next few years look into long term birth controls.
Even Missouri never banned long term birth controls. They just make you take a pregnancy test before being prescribed it. So as long as you are not currently pregnant and want to avoid having a child during the next 4 years get on long term birth control.
Call Planned Parenthood today because the wait list is usually a month out for the earliest appointment. If they plan to attack abortion and birth control options day one you want to get prescribed them before jan. In case they make it incredibly hard to get prescribed it. But one doctor visit and they can prescribe you the Depo shot for a year. Depo is the least invasive option. If you go for one of the inserts those last years on their own. They just have the risk of slipping and you not know it until after you've become pregnant.
Depo; lasts 3 months, stops or lightens most periods, and income based PP charge 0-20 dollars for low income people to get it every 3 months. You qualify for low income even/especially without insurance. At full price it's 70-90 dollars every 3 months. but if you make less than 30k a year you qualify as low income.
TLDR: Long term birth controls are less likely to be banned and at least will take longer to ban compared to abortion pills. Conservatives don't want to "kill the embryo" which is what they see morning after pills as doing. Long term birth controls stop the embryo from even forming. Look into the Depo or other options before Jan and get prescribed it so you are at least set for the next year.
#politics#us politics#birth control#planned parenthood#election 2024#I know some are looking into surgery's to get their tubes tied#but that's expensive#and even if you find a doctor that will perform it on someone under 40#that doesn't mean insurance will cover it if you are under 40#insurance will see it as something you don't “need”#Depo is far cheaper and at the very least not permanent#i don't want a large chunk of the queer community voluntarily sterilizing themselves#you do know sterilizing the gays is one of the Right's goals right?#don't do something permanent when there are still other options
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Magnus Hirschfeld was a eugenicist. I suggest you read Racism and the Making of Gay Rights by Laurie Marhoefer, a historian of queer and trans people in Nazi Germany, before you go writing posts praising him. He literally advocated for the sterilizing of the "feeble-minded", but oh, he has such a "fabulous mustache"!
Yes, he was. I really should have addressed this in my previous post. In my defense, this is a side topic that requires a lot of elaboration and to do so in that post would've derailed the point. Let's have that elaboration now, shall we?
For those who are unaware, eugenics is a set of beliefs and practices created with the goal of improving the genetic quality of a population. Versions of its practices have kind of always existed, but the term itself was coined by a British polymath named Francis Galton. The problem with it is it's scientific racism. From its start, it was meant as a method of "racial improvement" in society. Galton genuinely believed that all people with African roots were "two grades below Anglo-Saxtons in intelligence and ability." I've not even mentioned yet that Galton created eugenics under the belief that we didn't need to know how the mechanism of hereditary work to see its results. The entire practice was and is an uninformed pseudoscience that always focused more on racial traits than trying to find any truth based in reality.
Eugenics is often considered a Nazi thing because they really loved using it (see the mass sterilization and the Lebensborn program), but reality is that most nations (especially Western nations) have utilized eugenics in one way or another since its inception. In the US, for example, hundreds of thousands underwent compulsory sterilization during the 20th century to prevent socially undesirable traits, disproportionately affecting non-white populations. Eugenics was also used to help ban most Asian immigrants (except for those from the US's ally Japan or the then-colonized Philippines) from entering the country in the Immigration Act of 1924. Counter movements protesting eugenics made serious waves to dismantle some systems in the 70s and 80s, but prisons and other public institutions will still sterilize especially unruly people.
Magnus Hirschfeld, like many scientists of his time, was influenced by the ideas of eugenics. It's not entirely clear cut as it may seem. For one thing, Hirschfeld mostly rejected the racial hierarchy aspect (part of what made him controversial in his time, actually). He did, however, believe that those with disabilities or other undesirable traits should not reproduce. Sterilization was performed at the Institute (often with transgender patients). I also don't deny that he had his own racist beliefs, and I'll be delighted to read the recommended literature for better insight on this topic. I do not praise him for any of this behavior. In fact, I personally find it absolutely horrifying.
Then, why don't I hold it against him? Simply put, I don't find it productive to completely throw away and forget about important historical figures over controversial beliefs. I think Kaz Rowe put it perfectly in their video on Chevalier d'Eon (another controversial figure in trans history). You don't need to like a historical figure to find them interesting and worthy of study, and a historical figure don't need to be a good person to be queer. Without Hirschfeld and the Institute of Sexology, the early practice of sex reassignment surgery wouldn't have nearly as big, and the transgender people who did receive care from the Institute likely wouldn't have been able to transition. You're allowed to feel complicated things about figures of our past and even hate them for some of their beliefs. But you cannot deny that they do deserve at least a golf clap for the foundations they laid.
#Magnus Hirschfeld#Trans History#Transgender History#Eugenics#Scientific Racism#LGBT History#LGBT+ History#LGBTA History#LGBTA+ History#queer history#btw hot tip: i sense bitterness in the mustache comment and I get it. But personal feelings don't have much of a place in debate#when it comes to Hirschfeld and eugenics it's complicated. Who could've guessed!#I mean it when I say you're allowed to hate historical queer figures#i can't fucking stand Jan Morris but I also applaud her autobiography for being one of the first transition narratives in history#it's both an important historical document and an incredibly horrifying example of 20th century racism#i hope i'm making sense. I edited this post heavily for clarity's sake
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So, obviously sanctions on Cuba should be removed because they're terrible, but like, once again I'm begging leftists to stop idealisong socialism and communism. Cuba has been running a double system for years because communism was bot helping the country and the socialist movement literally tore theough Latin America to the point that right before Covid we were close to having an immigration crisis in Trinidad because more refugees were fleeing the country than we could handle.
Like, I'm not saying capitalism is good but the way these folks talk about how state run everything is good, it's clear they don't know what they're talking about. Hell, I'm too scared to even go to the state run hospital for an extended stay because my last experience was horrendous.
Yeah, honestly, one of the worst things that online leftists do when it comes to like socialist/communist regimes is claim that the only people who suffered under communism/socialism and were like, put in death camps and sterilized and murdered were rich landowners. Like really?
Castro's regime in Cuba literally threw gay people in death camps and Stalin probably murdered as many Jewish people and Roma as Hitler did but the USSR didn't keep as meticulous records as Nazi Germany. I don't care how wealthy or powerful or landowning those people were, they weren't oppressed for what they did, they were oppressed for who they were, and that's unforgivable to me. And I'm sorry but Cuban and Venezuelan Americans often vote Republican not just because of fears of socialism but because a lot of them literally consider themselves white! And, a whole lot of Latinos are socially conservative so that has to be kept in mind.
More holistically, even if it was just rich white WASP men who suffered under authoritarian regimes, that doesn't mean that violence is justified. If your go-to move of dealing with society's ills is guillotining the rich and murdering anybody that you believe opposes your goals, you're going to have a hard time convincing people of the sanctity of your motivations.
Social justice has to be rooted in building people up, of making the world a better and more egalitarian place for everybody, not in violence and destruction. Admittedly, there are wealthy people who think that paying their taxes is violent and destructive, but once again, there's a marked difference between like, Mitt Romney and Donald Trump as human beings, and I don't think Romney's a great person so don't come at me for saying that.
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Meet SHILOH POWELL. They are UNKNOWN/THIRTY TWO years old and hail from JERSEY CITY, NEW JERSEY. Shiloh embodies the constellation, PHOENIX. They use she/her pronouns. Their faceclaim is EMMY ROSSUM.
Phoenix reminds me of Hey What’s Up You Guys, Welcome Back to My Channel, imposter syndrome, only knowing second-hand love, the sterile smell of a hospital room, can’t do math (both because of the gay and because she’s never had a formal education), trying to navigate the terrifying world of Instagram notoriety, a sudden shift in the mannerisms of someone you’ve known your whole life, private hobbies learned in rare spare moments, an unwilling devotion to the stars, the story of Sisyphus, an attention to detail, beanies. Beanies in every color. So many beanies, universal across time and space and identities. A secret beanie cove. Beanies!!!!!!!!
BIOGRAPHY
Major TWs: Various terminal illnesses, and talking about them in a somewhat casual manner.
When Shiloh wakes up as Shiloh, she comes to know herself as a twenty-nine year old Twitter-famous witch with a heart defect, and the first thing that springs to mind is: “Well, at least it’s not another brain tumor.” When you have a mission, particularly when you don’t know what that mission actually is, brain tumors are problematic; they affect your mood, and your memory, and as they grow, your cognitive functions begin to slow, making your already limited time on earth more difficult to navigate. For someone like Shiloh, who has a short yet undetermined amount of time to fulfill a task, staying in operation until the end is imperative. Of course, heart problems come with their own set of complications; namely, she doesn’t know when time is running out. One day she can be out on the town, smokin’ cigarettes and fucking strangers and having a grand ol’ time, and the next—boom, dead.
Shiloh has been a puppet for the stars for centuries, now, as have all who have been cursed with the Phoenix sponsorship, and it’s frankly a pain in the ass. When Shiloh first came into consciousness, it was somewhere in the astral plane, face to face with the former Phoenix—a boy with bags under his eyes, a failure, tasked with passing the torch onto his successor before their spirit dies permanently. The message was simple: “To live, you must complete the task before your current body dies. Your time is limited, you do not know what it is ahead of time, but it is a significant goal that impacts the world in some way, even if you cannot see that in the moment. If you succeed, you live out the remainder of that body’s life before you move onto the next. If you fail, you get no second chances. You die, and that is it.” … Load of fucking bullshit, if you ask her, because who does that? But sure enough, Shiloh blinked and woke up in the body of a young girl with tuberculosis, and from that point on, it’s been nonstop.
It’s also worth noting that Shiloh is not really Shiloh, though for the sake of this life, she is. She actually doesn’t know who she is, as she’s constantly assuming the identities of others and must step as seamlessly as possible into their lives without drawing a great deal of attention to herself, which is neither easily said nor done. She has formed hobbies that follow her from one life to the next, has developed her own set of moral standards, but there is not much freedom in the way that she lives. Sometimes she is born a wife, or a grandpa, or a moody teenager. Sometimes she has a week, or several decades. She’s not always born into the body of a witch, but her powers seem to follow her where she goes—occasionally they coincide with the original host, but not always. Mostly, she doesn’t know why she continues to live life the way she does. There is nothing to gain aside from the possibility of perhaps one day finding peace, or happiness, or love, which Shiloh has only come to know second hand (waking up in the bed of someone’s lover, feeling the way they touch her and knowing that person was loved so deeply, but it’s not her, she’s merely an intruder, always an intruder). It’s a thankless job (congratulations, you did it, have an autoimmune disorder as a display of our undying gratitude!). Every life she comes to realize more and more what she will never have, but for now, she continues to fulfill her duties as though something might one day change.
Anyway, when Shiloh wakes up as Shiloh, not only can she tell she’s a twenty-nine year old witch with an ungodly amount of Twitter notifications, but she’s quick to find out she’s famous this time. Not, like, Angelina Jolie with the paparazzi kind of famous, but Youtube famous, with a boisterous channel with millions of followers and daily content, an aesthetic Instagram and—for the love of God—a fucking TikTok account. This comes with the perk of being able to review hours of content of the body she’s inhabiting, picking up quirks and mannerisms and speech patterns, but also with the added complication of being under the scrutiny of a lot of people. Documented slip-ups are never good. Shiloh also comes to find that she can’t just disappear, because she’s the oldest of a large, loud Jersey family who depends on her income to keep a roof over their heads, so it’s not like she can exactly start a scandal and get herself “cancelled” as was her original inclination. Fine.
What she does do is eventually take her channel down to weekly posts, boosts her acceptance of Instagram ads to supplement the income (those are pretty easy), and enrolls at Polaris, where she’s found her missions take her often these days. It’s always weird, seeing people she knows and has formed relationships with under different identities, but it doesn’t take her terribly long to adapt, as it’s not the first time she’s had to wrestle with this notion.
Although her first few months at Polaris were uneventful, the day Shiloh met Light, who introduced her to a famous serial killer group called the Lunatics, she felt the first piece of the puzzle click into place. She’d like to say she fit in like a glove, but that’s only an accurate depiction if we’re talking about that OJ Simpson glove; suspicious, divisive, and enigmatic. Her appearance caused problems from the get-go, though that was likely because she’d infiltrated their ranks and was the one who felt most comfortable calling Light out on their abusive bullshit. When Light began to abuse her too, locking her up in rooms, staving her, putting her though physical and mental trauma to try and beat her in line, Shiloh only felt like she was getting closer and closer to what the stars actually wanted. Maybe Light needed to be handled, or perhaps the others needed to be freed, or perhaps the Lunatics would lead her to a certain mark. Whatever it was, Shiloh felt confident that she was on the right path.
—Light’s dead, now. No matter the who, or the what, or the why, for this immediate bullet point, and things are in disarray. Shiloh hasn’t received any indication that she’s solved her mission, and with this new distraction, she’s terrified that her clock is running out and she’s been wasting her time with a group that has nothing to do with what Phoenix actually wants from her this go-around. But she can’t just disappear, because some of them suspect her as it is given her newcomer status, and Shiloh’s got too much at stake in this current lifetime (the Powell kids, the fact that she finally got James Charles to follow her back on Instagram, having no other leads), so she remains in it. Might as well see this through until the bitter end.
INCLINATION
Those with the Phoenix sponsorship are not truly people, but simply a consciousness; meant to be a foot soldier for the stars, Phoenix is always a passionate, cunning individual with an affinity for fire magic, though sometimes they inhabit bodies of witches with different inclinations and can pick up some of those skills, though they lose them again as soon as they’re reborn. These individuals wake up in the body of a person, always with a limited lifespan (often a terminal illness, though occasionally death is destined another way) and is given that limited time on earth to fulfill a certain duty for the stars; if they succeed, they are reborn, but if they fail, the torch passes on. Phoenix is one of the more cursed constellations, despite most people thinking its’ representative of second chances, but with the right person at the helm, Phoenix makes more of an impact on the world at large than most people will ever know.
CONNECTIONS
In the Know: This is either a Polaris staff member/professor, townsperson, or someone who’s been around for centuries that knows the nature of Phoenix and is the one common thread who has known Shiloh throughout multiple identities/rebirths. They might be helping Shiloh try and find a way to keep one identity and be able to live life the way she wants, so she seeks them out early so they can continue their work.
Fan: Someone who’s been watching Shiloh’s channel for years and picked up on the shift in her demeanor. They’re likely nosy and Shiloh avoids them at all costs.
Sibling: Fuck it, a younger sibling who’s also at Polaris and is probably also low key suspicious of changes in Shiloh’s behavior. Bonus points if it’s Jeremy Allen White.
Filling Maryanne Brooks’ #WifeGoals.
Filling Ethan King’s Bad Influence.
Filling Izabel Navorra’s You Spin Me Right Round.
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What do you think about Light's death in Drama Death Note ? Could you do a comparison with Light's death in anime/manga/movie ?
Light’s drama death is…. well, I can see what it is setting out to do, I just think its goals are boring and it accomplishes them pretty poorly, haha.
Rewatching all adaptations of Light’s death for this ask really made me appreciate once more why the manga death is so brilliant. The absolute raw-ness of Light begging for his life is something no adaptation has ever recreated or come even close to replicating in impact. The anime takes most of the same scene and then opts for sentimentality instead of raw pathetic emotion - it cuts Light begging and instead makes him run away and face his past self before dying relatively peacefully - it’s effective in an anime-typical sterile kind of way. A very conservative set-up for a death that is guaranteed to make people cry but that doesn’t offer anything especially new or bold. Good, but not nearly as good.
The movie meanwhile banks more on a tension aspect than a pity aspect overall. It lets Light laugh along with Ryuk for a bit, allowing both Light and the audience to believe Ryuk is helping and killing the Task Force before flipping this around. Then it dramatically drops Ryuk’s “no heaven nor hell” line in order to further raise plot-related dramatics. When Light dies, it’s in his fathers arms, but he’s still insisting he was right all along and it’s not too much of a tear-jerker.
The drama… Well, I am going a bit more in depth here since that’s the main medium you asked about.
Where the manga’s focal point is Light’s raw humanity and fear of death, the anime’s is the solemn sadness of a life gone wrong and the movie’s is plot tension (and fatherhood)… the drama banks more on “the Death Note corrupts”.Which is… let’s be real, kind of lame a focal point.
The final scene in the drama is leaning pretty heavily on the scene structure from manga and anime but adapted to the drama’s more emotional and ‘relatable’ rendition of Light (drama!Light is the only one who doesn’t cite percentages when explaining why Kira is good because he’s gay and can’t do math). This Light starts unraveling and talking highly emotionally before he’s getting shot already - manga and anime Light don’t do that and movie Light gets shot pretty early on so comparing him is hard here.
This Light is also the only Light to not get killed by Ryuk.
Instead Mikami just sets him on fire WHILE TRYING TO HELP. Because setting the room on fire for a diversion is a great idea when the one person you’re trying to save has been shot in the legs and literally cannot leave right now.I know that this is irrelevant to the point but it’s honestly my favourite thing - drama Mikami kills both Light and L and it’s amazing. He’s so funny.
Anyway, this Light’s death is largely a drawn-out sequence of Light crawling over the floor trying to reach the Death Note - he repeats over and over that as long as he has the Death Note, he can’t be stopped and all will be fine. There’s no introspection, no acknowledgement that he’s definitely going to die, just a one-track mind obsession with the notebook that drags out for so long that I was genuinely getting bored watching him crawl around like that.You don’t NEED that much to drive the point home that having the notebook was a bad thing for Light. The drama just needlessly keeps pushing the whole ‘this notebook ruined his life!!’ thing and imo it gives very little emotional pay-off.
Light’s final plea is begging Ryuk to give him the eyes, which is… funny because the shinigami who is, rule-wise, in the position to give him the eyes here is not Ryuk but Rem. It is also funny because the eyes are literally useless to him in this situation and since he’s dying naturally either way, halfing his life would only cut it down to like… a few less seconds than before. Whoa.
I suppose this is supposed to show us how irrational he’s getting in his despair, but honestly? That was clear 5 minutes earlier already. Light’s death in the drama drags out and out and out without actually adding anything new or meaningfully closing Light’s character arc. Random flashbacks to better times that are spliced in between do little to give the empty dialogue more depth.
Combining this with the fact that the CGI fire he dies in looks absolutely ridiculous and not even remotely realistic, I think the impact of the scene falls flat completely. Kubota is doing a great job with acting, but that isn’t saving the bad script and the horrible special effects.
His death in the drama is the most unique take on his death technically, but it manages to just… not do anything that’s even remotely powerful or interesting.
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to all the horrible people on my gc who need to chill and give me time to proofread for capitalization, this is for you.
my askbox is open and depleted so maybe consider dropping a request in?
kid!flintwood with a treehouse, which was made into a muggle au because reasons and ended up having very little treehouse, regrettably
Marcus and Oliver live in a backwater town called Green Billows
there was this kid named Tom years ago who was obsessed with (but bad at) french, so the town was immortalized as “Gonfler Vert” which modulated to “Goinfrer Verrue” which mean “Hog Wart” and damn if the children didn’t find that hilarious
and so the town is called Hogwarts, now, at least by the kids
the grown ups hate it so much but what can they do
the teenagers are too “cool” for that, but they ironically call is “Hogs Mead” because they are lit as shit man they’re Grown Up and Too Cool
they think they’re original & edgy
(no one corrects them)
teenagers, am I right
there are 4 schools in the town, they’re all very small
Small Town Drama happened and no one would talk about it
and everyone involved is now dead but they keep the drama Alive bc honestly their lives are kinda boring
Oliver goes to Godric’s Primary, the elementary school for Gryffindor’s Academy of Excellence
he’s on the little league soccer team as the goalie
it’s his favorite thing to do
little 6 year old Oliver is toddling around with his soccer ball when suddenly a boy grabs it from him
Oliver is stunned
instead of a rational response, he turns to the boy and goes, “do you know how to play?!?” really excited because he wants to play with someone and he thought no one would play with him but now there is someone who wants to play and this is so cool
and Marcus just
“you… want me to play with you?”
he’s ready to scorn Oliver on the first sign of rejection
Oliver just blinks up, wide-eyed, and nods enthusiastically
of course, Oliver’s mother sees him be pushed over, and is slightly worried, but Oliver and Marcus play “soccer” for a good 2 hours, until they really should be heading home for dinner
and she goes over and Oliver’s so excited because he made a new friend, and “where are your parents, Marcus?“
he bites his lip and shuffles his feet and "well, they’re Out Of Town on a Very Important Trip”
and she looks at him and says “well, who brought you here, then?” and looks around and realizes, there is no one else at the field. it’s just the three of them
he explains that his nanny stays at their house but lets him run around while she does the chores, and she let him go to the park today
Mrs. Wood looks at Oliver and decides that this boy is not walking back to his house alone so the three of them go together
Marcus ends up going to Oliver’s for dinner and they have such a Time and it’s wonderful
they play against each other in little league and they’re best friends
when they are like 8 they build a treehouse with Oliver’s father
the Woods kind of surrogate Marcus, who’s a little abrupt, a little brash, and a lot angry, but a genuinely good kid
it makes coming home to an empty house slightly better
because when Catherine had quit his parents hadn’t bothered to find a new nanny, just made sure the groundskeeper would check in with Marcus every few days
they have sleepovers in the treehouse and they are so close
when Oliver’s 11 (Marcus is 12) Oliver realizes that he’s never met Marcus’s parents and–oh God, does Marcus even have a home?
so Marcus takes Oliver over to his for a “play date”
the house is huge and imposing and spotless and dead
Oliver hates it so much
Marcus’s room isn’t much better
it’s sterile, all freshly pressed, with neat corners and white walls and not a thing out of place
Oliver almost makes a joke about ocd until he looks at Marcus, who looks like he’s about to be sick, right there on the pristine hardwood that probably cost more than Olivers entire house
Oliver decides “fuck this” and drags Marcus out of there with his soccer gear
they play until Oliver forgets that horrible house and that horrible silence and sterility and that look on Marcus’s face that he never wants to see again
Marcus hits puberty first, and shoots up
Oliver is pissed because damn it, Flint, I liked looking at your face when we had conversations
to which Marcus looms over him or exaggeratedly crouches with a smirk and his shoulders shake when he laughs and his eyes crinkle in such a cute way and Oliver must be going crazy because Marcus is terrifying and there is nothing cute about his penalty shots
when Oliver hits puberty he gets taller but not as broad and boom! hormones come in and Fuck Up his life and Flint is really weirdly attractive and–shit, Oliver might be gay shit fuck damn he
gay?
cue crisis. his parents aren’t homophobic, neither are his classmates. he doesn’t think.
he starts hanging out less with Marcus, starts hugging him a little less, because damn, what if someone (Marcus) found out that would ruin everything
meanwhile Marcus is on the team at Slytherin Secondary School (SSS, pronounced “(hisses like snake)”) and trying to convince his friends he’s Cool
he starts being a little meaner, a little rougher, starts pushing Oliver away more
and even though they’re both pushing the other away they also are hurt
because the other is pushing them away, and God, are they no longer the most important people in each other’s lives?
Oliver’s freshman year, his first match on Gryffindor’s varsity team against Marcus, they do what they’ve always done
go out for cheap, greasy food after the match, what they’ve been doing since they were 7/8 and playing little league against each other
but talking about this game is dangerous they’re both sooo defensive about it
and worried about what their teammates would say walking in on them like this, eating together, on what looks suspiciously like a date
they explode. right there. in the fucking 5 guys and
its nasty
Oliver says things like “I can’t solve your abandonment issues, Flint, it’s not my fault your parents didn’t love you enough to stick around”
and Marcus says shit like “at least I’m not an annoying little twit who can only talk about one fucking thing. God, you’re such a boring person, Oliver, is anything in your brain not soccer” and
that’s not all but its where each of them hurts most from and they
they’re fierce to each other after that
but not only did Marcus lose Oliver, he also lost any sort of parental figure he may have had
the Woods still invite him over to dinner and Mr. Wood takes him out to baseball games
he and Oliver’s dad got really close bc Mr. Wood was always around the house when Marcus stopped in and stuck around because he had nowhere to go
and so Oliver feels betrayed by his parents and Marcus feels betrayed by his friend and alone
he starts pushing the Woods away and, well, there’s not a whole lot they can do, and as long as he’s happy then it should work out
it doesn’t work out, at all
Marcus and Oliver are vicious to each other during that time
absolutely horrible
until Marcus’s junior year
Marcus’s dad has a heart attack and has to recover
so he’s at home
it’s what Marcus has always wanted, except it’s
it’s horrible
his dad yells and is violent and completely out of control and Marcus has no idea how to deal with that
Marcus is a very confrontational person
eventually they get into a fight so bad that Marcus ends up in the ER with 2 broken ribs and a bruised jawbone and a broken nose after his father pushed him down the stairs and Marcus,,
Marcus swings into a depressive episode
because he’s disappointed his dad when his dad came home to see him, finally cared about him and all he could do was disappoint him
like he’s disappointed Oliver
he stops doing his homework, stops going to practice, even long after his ribs heal
after he spends a week in bed, staring listlessly at the wall, Oliver marches in, shoves soccer gear at him, and says “get up, loser, we’re going running”
Marcus cracks an eye open
“in cleats?”
it takes three hours for Oliver to get Marcus showered and dressed, but they finally make their way down to the soccer field and Oliver plops a ball down at the edge of the penalty box and says “when you get it in 5 times we’ll go home” and Marcus
Marcus is so confident. he’s the starting striker, en route to an ivy probably, he can do this easily
but he hasn’t worked out in a month and a half, and his feet are not listening to his head
it’s fucking brutal, and it takes him two hours to score the required five goals
once he does, he falls down into the dirt
Oliver leaves him there, saying “same time tomorrow, don’t be late” over his shoulder as he leaves
Marcus does not get up the next day, and Oliver comes and drags him out again
and again
and again
until Marcus is getting up on his own and to the pitch
he even starts to look forward to these practice sessions with Oliver
he doesn’t think about the stack of work on his desk getting steadily bigger
(he does, and he starts to work through that, too, but damned if he was going to tell anyone)
eventually he goes back to school, back from “medical leave,” but shooting with Oliver continues
it’s just relegated to the weekends
they’re not fixed
they don’t talk to each other, for one
but it’s an improvement
anythings an improvement to the radio static that had been driving Marcus crazy
and it works
Oliver realized last year that he was hella gay
he tried messing around with his lab partner, Percy, but nothing had come of that
Percy really wasn’t his type anyway
broad shoulders came to mind, but were quickly shoved out
he’s not out, but he’s dealing with the fear, trying to bring it up to his parents slowly, because it’s
it’s hard and anyways it’s not like there’s a reason to at the moment, he’s not exactly dating anyone
Marcus is just trying to avoid his dad but he’s so upset
there must be something wrong with him if the people in his life keep leaving
we all know about what happens to gay men who feel alone
hookup apps in strange cities and high-risk behavior
at the away games during the tournament, Marcus goes completely off the rails
he tries to drown this loneliness in meaningless grindr hookups and alcohol but its not working and he can’t handle this
and then he gets home to find his father in the hospital after another heart attack
the man dies that night and Marcus is selfishly slightly relieved and not much else
and he’s spiraling fast
so is Oliver
nothing in his life is working out
he’s gay
his stats are not where they need to be for recruiters
none of his teammates like him
his grades are subpar
he has like one friend
two if you count Marcus, who still hasn’t forgiven him about the stupid fight his freshman year
and so Oliver is just so alone he throws himself into soccer and ends up almost bowing out his knee
he gets a stern talking-to by his coach
because a blown-out knee is the end of any shot he has at a career and he can’t afford that
the team can’t afford that, not with championships so close
he goes out to their treehouse to sit and look at the stars and think about why
why he’s here, why he’s doing this
it’s intense he gets vvv existential and it kinda hits him that holy shit he’s in love with Marcus
like my boy Oliver goes all the way with all his self-examination and he just realizes it out of nowhere
he doesn’t really do anything about it, but it’s kinda nice to know
their teams play each other in semis and Harry, Oliver’s new midfielder, manages to score the winning goal and they knock Marcus’s team out of the running
Marcus wants to be pissed but honestly? Oliver deserved it
anyways they start patching things up now that it’s the off season and they’re back to their regular off season practices
it’s really lowkey and Marcus stops trying to lose himself in far away cities and starts focusing on the now
and a week after semifinals Marcus gets a call, from Washington can you believe it Oliver they want me
and Oliver’s so happy for him but
he’s not good enough yet for washington, or anything like that, so he throws himself into practice
they become practically inseparable again
everyone on Marcus’s team either hates him or fondly thinks he’s an aloof, avoidant asshole so him not socializing doesn’t do much to morale
one night they’re in Marcus’s house’s kitchen and Marcus is trying to teach Oliver how to cook chicken and all Oliver can see is how good Marcus’s shoulders look in that shirt and shit that’s Oliver’s shirt shit shit and on the one hand it’s so warmingly domestic and on the other hand it’s possibly the most erotic thing Oliver’s ever seen in his 16 years of being on this earth
damn its Flint in a shirt and sweatpants get it together
but he can’t because he’s so Goddamn sappy
then he thinks about how someday there’ll be a woman who gets to see Marcus like this every day, the way he looked when it was just the two of them or at the dinner table, when the weight of the world falls off his shoulders and he lets himself want to be happy
there’s a woman who will get to sit at the counter like Oliver is doing and watch the shifting muscles in Marcus’s back as he cooks
maybe a little girl will run down the stairs laughing with bouncing pigtails and her father’s dimples and Oliver
Oliver wants with an aching that leaves him breathless and hollow and he thinks he chokes something out about the bathroom but he has honestly no idea and he gets the fuck out of there
because it hits him, suddenly, that Marcus is going to have this happy future without him and
Oliver takes the fuck off, runs out of there, and sprints to the soccer field, realizing when he gets there that he’s barefoot, wearing jeans, and phoneless
he sits there and just sobs, and then it starts raining, and he’s miserably sobbing in the rain and damn if that’s not the perfect accompaniment to his thoughts at the moment
after some amount of time a door is flung open next to him and he is bodily hauled into the backseat of a car
Marcus, looking intently forward and very noticeably not at him, grinds out “strip” and what the fuck
this is hardly the most appropriate situation but Oliver gives no shits at that point he’s exhausted
so he does as he’s told and Marcus shoves blankest back at him and he cocoons himself in them, still sniffling as they drive home
he falls asleep on the way back, probably, because the next thing he knows is that he’s waking up in Marcus’s bed and Marcus is reading a book on the sofa with the light streaming in behind him and that really didn’t help anything did it
why was Marcus so unfairly attractive it was, frankly, inconsiderate
anyways they stay at Marcus’s house for a while because “soccer, mom! soccer” and well
soccer
they practice but it’s domestic bliss and hell and Oliver is letting himself hope and it’s so painful and so hard and how the fuck is he supposed to deal with this
meanwhile Marcus is just Shook that Oliver hasn’t left yet, that his sunshine boy (the second he thinks this he decides to never use the term again, and to possibly rinse his brain with bleach) actually wants to spend time with him
Marcus is a puppy underneath all those layers of angst and they gripe at each other all the time and they’re grouchy but
they also have stupid inside jokes and they laugh about dumb cat videos online (although neither will admit to watching them) and they watch shitty action movies to critique them together
Marcus is just so enamored and terrified
he cares about Oliver so much and he knows that Oliver will leave him, just like everyone else, just like he did before
but he’s ignoring that and trying to enjoy the time he has with Oliver right now
anyways their spring break is disgustingly couple-y and the way they act is so gross and it’s just nasty and sweet and all those good things and they just decide to take what they can
they take walks and hold hands and they go to a carnival
they only go on the terrifying roller coasters though because they’re adrenaline junkies and hardcore men who Aren’t Gay
ok maybe not but if anyone says anything then they vehemently deny it
when they get back to school very little changes and no one really mentions anything but??
Marcus picks up Oliver every day???? so theres gotta be something right??????
Oliver looks at them blankly. “yes, we practice soccer together, I told you that.” “right, soccer” “yes, that is the sport I play”
no one’s stupid enough to say anything to Marcus
except Malfoy, the twat, but Marcus knows Oliver knows Potter, so it’s all good
but there’s a $467 pot riding on when they’ll admit they’re dating (winner-takes-all)
Oliver gets shitfaced and confesses to Angelina, Katie, and Alicia one night, and then his entire soccer team knows
they’re creepily good at keeping their mouths shut, but he suspects that’s because Harry’s still too busy with his legal issues to notice anything
one day he’s complaining to Angelina about how unfair it is that Marcus has attractive abs and an attractive personality, because what the fuck Ang that’s so unfair
and Marcus overhears their phone call and is like “ok that’s definitely platonic I mean he’s jealous obv no need to get my hopes up” and
it gets progressively gayer and gayer
they probably end up saying “I love you” to each other or something
every time this happens they think to themselves “I know I mean it romantically but Straight Man McHeteroson does not so don’t make it gay dammit”
and it gets so, so bad that all of their teams are so fed up
cue Operation: Bonfire
Ginny came up with the name. it was the best thing they didn’t all hate, so they kept it
their teams try to get them together, obsessively, and they’re just taking it the wrong way
honestly the Slytherins get in on it because God damn it it’s getting kinda pathetic and it’s not good to have a pathetic loser as your team captain
nothing works
school lets out, and preseason starts in a month
Oliver’s family (his parents and younger siblings) go to Scotland to visit relatives, but Oliver stays behind for soccer
of course, Mrs. Wood sighs, before kissing Oliver’s head and giving Marcus a hug
and Marcus and Oliver are living together again and it’s so disgusting and domestic
Angelina comes over for breakfast and she’s appalled at these two oblivious idiots and gives up on them
she texts Oliver “jesus this is nasty u 2 better work ur shit out”
Oliver sends back a string of emoji that she’s fairly sure were just a keyboard smash
Oliver cracks halfway through week 3
after two and a half weeks of this he’s so fucking done he can’t do this anymore
it might ruin everything but he can’t stand the constant picturing of this woman and their daughter and a happy, middle-aged Marcus being an attentive father and a doting husband and–God, he’s gay
so he kinda blurts it out one day
he still has no idea what he said
Marcus kinda blinks at him
and Oliver runs
but only upstairs. he learned his lesson last time
Marcus stares at the doorway for a good 5 minutes, processing
the first coherent thought he has is “damn, Montague’s going to lord this win over Malfoy for a good year. serves the prick right”
before he realizes what just happened and
why did Oliver run? what??
he’s too tired/hungry for this, so he goes back to sleep like the clueless asshole he is
Oliver tries to avoid Marcus, but he doesn’t have his license yet and he doesn’t want to run the 30 miles home so he just sulks around the house all day
finally Marcus catches him in the kitchen, crowding him from behind and sinking his nose into the crook of Oliver’s neck
Oliver freezes, his finger hovering over the buttons on the microwave, and how do microwaves work, again?
more importantly, why was Marcus????
Marcus mutters, “is this okay?” into the crook of Oliver’s neck and Oliver lets out this super embarrassing, breathy moan
it gets kinda nsfw and I’m too lazy to write that now but I totally will
they don’t fuck then though because it felt kinda like,,, rushing it? and they really didn’t need to
they spend so long at the beginning of their relationship making out and just learning each other’s bodies
neither of them ever thought that they’d get this, so they savor it
honestly they don’t really have sex for like a good 2 years because there are so many other interesting things to do together
like soccer
its gross & nasty just like them
anyways they go to the same college and are gay & happy
Oliver does end up blowing out his knee halfway through his professional career and they adopt a little girl
then another kid
then another
wow suddenly they have like 5 where did they all come from?
then it becomes dogs, and cats, and Oliver never knew what it was like to not live with a loud, happy family and Marcus never wants his children to know a silent house
but he still complains, because dammit Wood we’re not a walking, talking, adopting machine!
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30 Minute Experiment: Marriage #30ME
Okay, let’s do this. I promised/threatened that some of these ramblings might get very personal, so at a certain point, you might be reading this experiment as my personal diary blog where I’m talking about whatever’s on my mind at any given time but always geared towards one topic. I also have decided to create a hashtag for this experiment, #30ME, short for “30 Minute Experiment” (duh), but also because it’s mostly about me, there’s a “ME” in there. I haven’t been 30 years old for a very VERY long time.
Let’s get to today’s topic, and as my friend David Kwong says in his show, The Enigmatist, “This is where it gets good!” (and I’m totally paraphrasing his act here, but hopefully it’ll get to start its run at the Geffen Theater in L.A. so people on the West Coast can see it and love it as much as those in and around New York! Shameless plug and link! https://www.geffenplayhouse.org/shows/the-enigmatist/)
So today’s topic is MARRIAGE, and it’s impossible to write about this topic, let alone for 30 minutes, without it getting personal. Obviously, I’m not married, I’ve never been married and I probably will never get married.
It’s not that I’m against the institution of marriage per se, as I have many friends who are happily married and that union has definitely made them better people, and they all generally seem happy. Sure, I’d love to have that kind of happiness myself but I have this weird thought in my head that I’ll never be married, and it’s something I’ve said SINCE I was actually 30 years old. I remember when my friend and Magic Shop buddy Joe Warda was getting married. It’s how I got the apartment sublet where I now live. He was a little older than me but he met a woman at a wedding and when they got engaged, I told him “I’ll probably never get married,” and he’d respond with a smile, “That’s what I said!” (Note: Joe is no longer with that woman. I doubt he’ll read this but if he does, I hope he’ll understand that I’m not stating this fact as judgment. I just remember those conversations fondly.)
You have to understand that when I was younger, say 11 or 12 years old, I was already a dreamer, and back then I dreamed of being married and having a family, particularly kids. My family was a bit dysfunctional, and in some ways, it still is, but it probably wasn’t nearly as bad as I remember it. Sure, I had problems with my Dad and my younger sister, but they were all things we got over once we got older and grew apart by distance.
So here’s this 11 or 12 year old Ed thinking about having that house with a white picket fence (or in my case, black!) and being able to show that I could be a better father than my Dad. I even set a DATE for when I wanted to get married by, and that date was 1/1/00. I was going to be married and with a life partner before I was 35 years old, which seemed like an honorable enough goal.
The problem is that in the time before and since then, I never met anyone who I felt that I could spend the rest of my life. That’s a lie. I met one or two but our relationships never got anywhere to the point where I could propose the idea of even living together. I mean, anyone who has seen my apartment knows that it’s not a place where ANY human should live... let alone TWO humans. I also used to make a joke when I moved in here about how happy I was to not have a roommate after about 6 years of roommates. I would say that I’d never have another roommate... and that was even if I got married! Can you even imagine two people being married but not living in the same place?
So there’s that... the apartment but in the last four or five years, there’s also been the matter of money, because I would want to be a responsible spouse and contribute to the household. I couldn’t imagine being married and not being able to do that, but I also wouldn’t mind marrying a rich superstar with so much money they can take care of me. I doubt that would ever happen, although it’s a nice pipe dream.
There’s also the matter of kids, and though I haven’t really told a TON of people in my life, that stem cell transplant I had over six years ago of the leukemia? I was told before it that I wouldn’t be able to have kids afterwards. It was suggested i might want to freeze my sperm just in case I ever find a partner and want to have kids. So I found a sperm bank to do just that but quickly learned what I already knew... that the five months of chemo treatment I’d been getting to be put into remission had pretty much sterilized me. The transplant took that to the Nth degree, and I feel like the doctor should have mentioned this months earlier rather than waiting so long. I know that when women get stem cell transplants, they’re put into early menopause killing their ability to have kids, too. So imagine being MUCH younger than I was when I was told I couldn’t have kids and know that you can never procreate or give life. Fortunately, anyone my age who went through that may have already been married and already had kids, but not m.
Back in 2013, I still thought that I would find a partner and have kids some day despite my advanced age, and that was already over six years ago! So there’s that... impoverished men who can’t have kids are not exactly ideal husband material.
There’s also the idea that as I get older I would want to have someone there for me as a companion and to help me if I needed it. In the last five years since I’ve been back in New York, I’ve had a few procedures that require anesthesia, and those require you bring someone to take you home. I have a limited number of friends to call on for something like this, as I may have mentioned in my “Friendship” piece last week. Imagine if I’m still living in the same situation I’m in now when I’m 70, I’m probably gonna want or need someone around. I know what my Mom’s been going through since my Dad died in 2009, and honestly, I don’t blame her for being depressed.
And now on top of all that, we’re all in quarantine. We’re afraid to go out. We’re afraid to be in public with many people. I’m sure it’ll be a long time before anyone will be comfortable getting close or intimate with a stranger.
Oh, and that brings me to another point, and I’m sure this might come as a shocker to some but not to others... I’m asexual. I was already veering towards this before I got leukemia but the radiation I got before transplant was so damaging that it pretty much neutered and sterilized me, so I don’t even seek any sort of partnership for sexual pleasure. It’s just never something that crosses my mind. Again, anyone who knows me (especially the more attractive women around me) may have already figured this out. Who knows? Being a declared asexual is nothing that’s quit as socially acceptable as being gay or trans... but I’m starting to get off topic here.
I should also mention that if my brother, Rob, is reading today’s piece, he probably will text or EMail me saying that I’m oversharing, that I’m revealing parts of my life or lifestyle that should be kept private. You know what? Fuck that shit. (Sorry, Rob, and anyone averse to profanity.) We live in a world where everyone has to conform to certain social norms, and that includes the expectation that men my age will already have found someone to marry. My father started later and only found my mother when he pushing forty, which I always thought may ave contributed to the differences between us because by the time I was 15, he was already almost 60 i.e. older than me.
The idea of me getting tomorrow and having kids right away is just not something that crosses my mind... that is, other than when I decide to make the topic of today’s #30ME be “marriage.” I think a smarter or less brave person might immediately scrap everything I’ve been writing for the last 25 minutes or so, but maybe it’s because I just don’t know what the future brings, I want to get some things off my chest.
And I say it again... I have absolutely zero issues with the concept of marriage, and I love all of my friends who have found someone, and I love all of their partners and spouses, too. Marriage is right up there with birthdays and funerals in terms of something I like to celebrate. If I know when your wedding anniversary is, you are likely to get a YouTube video of the Flintstones episode where they sing “Happy Anniversary” to the tune of the William Tell overture, something my brother and I loved to do ever since we heard it.
I guess there’s still a chance I might get married someday. I’ve spoken to one of my female friends about possibly marrying when we hit a certain age... maybe I said 50 or 60, I can’t remember... but a lot would have to change in my life (and hers) for that even to be feasible as a marriage of convenience to make sure we both have someone in our old age.
We’re going through a lot right now, and believe me, going through it completely alone really sucks but also knowing how moody I can be, I can’t even imagine someone else living here with me without us driving each other crazy.
I’m not sure if this will be the last I talk about this topic. It’s actually the first I’ve ever broached it in my life since hanging with my Magic Shop pal and colleague, Joe Warda. I have a lot of friends that I can get real with but this topic rarely if ever comes up, even with my friends who did get married and ended up splitting, something that’s happening way too much right now.
And with that... my time is up. Another #30ME tomorrow!
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What Liberal Equality Looks Like and Why We Need it More Than Ever
I’m not sure what you’d call the people who oppose “black sites.” For those unfamiliar, the Central Intelligence Agency has operated secret bunkers in major cities on US soil. Operatives disappear people who haven’t been charged with any crime to these sites. These detainees don’t get a phone call so their families can know where they are, a lawyer, or due process. They are sometimes tortured.
I’m not sure what you’d call people who oppose arresting journalists for reporting on a protest and then charging them with felonies. And I am not sure what you’d call people who oppose bans on immigration based on nationality.
I’m not sure what you’d call people who oppose starting a trade war that will hurt every American who buys things, along with the 80% of US workers in the service sector to protect the 10% who work in manufacturing whose jobs will be done by robots within ten years either way.
You might have, at one time, called these people libertarians. Unfortunately, that label has become less accurate as many libertarians have openly supported these policies and the candidate who pushed them.
The word I now use to describe the people who reject authoritarianism, whether nationalistic, socialistic, or both, is “liberal.”
Deirdre McCloskey is emerita professor of economics, history, English, and communication at the University of Illinois at Chicago. She recently wrote for Reason, “Adam Smith defined liberalism in 1776 as the shocking idea of ‘allowing every man [or woman, dear] to pursue his own interest in his own way, upon the liberal plan of equality, liberty, and justice.’”
Liberty and justice might seem like more pressing issues today. But I believe the liberal vision for “equality,” often slandered or ignored by libertarians, is foundational to the liberal plan.
On equality, economist Friedrich Hayek wrote in the Constitution of Liberty:
From the fact that people are very different it follows that, if we treat them equally, the result must be inequality in their actual position, and that the only way to place them in an equal position would be to treat them differently. Equality before the law and material equality are therefore not only different but are in conflict with each other; and we can achieve either one or the other, but not both at the same time.
Hayek preferred equality before the law to material equality. Libertarians have shortened the goal to “Equality of opportunity, not equality of outcomes.” The purpose of this pitch is to delegitimize state efforts to rectify inequality.
The problem is that libertarians have traditionally de-prioritized the “equality before the law” portion of Hayek’s quote. Whether it’s voting or marriage rights, or sodomy laws, many self-described libertarians support the continuation of unequal treatment before the law for certain groups of citizens.
The Federal Housing Administration was created to give white Americans home loans at below-market rates for the purpose of excluding Black Americans from home ownership. Owning a home is the biggest contributor to household wealth for the middle class.
Which libertarians railed against the FHA for denying Black Americans both equal treatment under the law and equal opportunity to build wealth?
Visions and interests compete. Smart, well-meaning people disagree about how to live. Poverty and Welfare Policy Analyst Sam Hammond lays out a future for liberalism by taking on the “facile” libertarian view that freedom of expression is a “negative right” while voting or marriage rights are “privileges” conferred by the state. Liberalism means consistently applying the rules about who can vote, marry, and speak to everyone regardless of who they are or what they plan to do.
Liberalism does not engage in identity politics to perpetrate tribal warfare via the state. Liberalism advocates equality before the law and equality of opportunity. It rejects bigotry as a legitimate basis for lawmaking.
Another important difference between liberalism and libertarianism is that liberalism rejects bigotry, full-stop. True equality of opportunity for all races, genders, religions, and so on requires more than equal treatment under the law. It requires equal treatment in the private sphere as well. The opportunities I want extend very far beyond the (too broad) scope of the state. I want the same opportunities to live and work and buy and sell regardless of my identity.
Liberalism says government should apply its rules consistently to everyone regardless of who they are or what they believe. Liberalism goes further than that, though. Everyone has a floor for how poorly they are willing treat the people who look, sound, act, and believe like them. Liberalism asks people to apply that floor equally.
There’s a reason white people haven’t spoken up much about discriminatory FHA home lending. There’s a reason native-born, white, Christian people aren’t up-in-arms about CIA “black sites” or country-based immigration bans or trade wars. There’s a reason the US turned away Jewish refugees fleeing certain death. Because we too often see the world as “us” versus “them.”
These lines are important to some people. Liberalism does not advocate fighting bigotry with authoritarianism. Liberalism recognizes that forcing a bakery to serve a gay couple is lowkey sectarian violence.
But liberalism seeks to get everyone cooperating in the market economy regardless of their tribal affiliations by de-emphasizing division and advocating the prosperity that results when people go along to get along.
Decreased sectarian violence and increased cooperation across ideological, religious, racial lines resulted in a Great Enrichment. Defined by McCloskey, it is “A rise in Europe and the Anglosphere of real, inflation-corrected incomes per head, from 1800 to the present, by a factor, conservatively measured, of about 30. That is, class, about 3,000 percent.”
Economists estimate that the cost of rejecting TPP to the US is $131 billion annually in real incomes. And this is just the beginning. In addition to trade, this administration has free speech, the right to protest, and due process in its crosshairs. As long as we continue to consider Americans who don’t look, sound, or seem like us as deserving less protection and opportunity than those who fit in our tribes the gains we’ve made from liberalism will continue to erode.
McCloskey:
What to do? Revive liberalism, as the astonishing successes of China and India have. Take back the word from our friends on the American left. They can keep progressive, if they don’t mind being associated with the Progressive movement of the early 20th century, and its eugenic enthusiasms for forced sterilization and for using the minimum wage to drive immigrants, blacks, and women out of the labor force. And we should persuade our friends on the right to stop using the l word to attack people who do not belong to the country club.
Today, more than ever, we must decrease division so we can enjoy the freedom and prosperity that cooperation can bring. Before the state and in our private affairs, we need liberal equality.
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