#yes I am tagging this so people see it. fuck exclusionists.

[rjalker]

genderdryad for your free exclusionist blocklist. Still hates pan people in 2024. As of literally 20 hours ago. Unbeleivable.

Edit: Wow, also hates mspec lesbians and endogenic systems. find one form of bigotry and the rest just spill out!

Also block:

parxgender

eternaspacic

[stonebutchery]

it's kind of baffling to me that entire sub-groups of queer folks endured a decade of being singled out and targeted for being asexual, aromantic, bisexual, pansexual, nonbinary, polyamorous, etc. and i have yet to see any substantial apologies from people who were directly responsible for causing genuine harm. i find it completely bizarre that there are so many people who want to sweep their past contributions to widespread lateral aggression toward specific queer groups under the rug like it didn't happen so they can wash their hands of it... there are people who are irreversibly traumatized because of this. there are people who took their lives because of it.

i'm wording the post like despite the fact that exclusionism targeting these groups (and more) continues to persist partly because it was a really frighteningly common trend to harass people just because they were ace, aro, bi, pan, nonbinary, poly, etc... and it's crazy to me that many of the people who were affected by this massive multi-pronged public online bullying campaign against the 'unacceptable types of queers' are the ones still receiving messages like "my url got put on an aphobe blocklist in 2016 because apparently a post i made making fun of asexuals got some teenage asexuals harassed and i still distrust asexuals to this day because of that" ...are you fucking kidding me?

we will never achieve any kind of unity as a queer community while we are insisting upon ignoring the hurt that lateral aggression has caused, and acting like the burden lies on the shoulders of the people who were harmed to forgive the people who harmed them and 'just move on', many of whom are not sorry for what they did! or they don't consider what they did to be wrong! how is that not deeply disturbing and troubling to more of you?

03/06/2024 edit: i’m putting a complete moratorium on this post because i am really sick and tired of having my point not only completely misconstrued and distorted entirely but also weaponized against transfems (particularly in replies i have decided to delete about how “ugh yes, exclusionism, and now transfems are bullying transmascs”) i find that really sickening and i’m demanding that it stop, and i can make it stop by turning off reblogs. so i have.

my objective in writing this post was never to request an apology from people who have been laterally-aggressive exclusionists in the past. i don’t think we’ll ever get more than a handful of apologies from those people, anyway. my point was that it was pretty terrifying to witness and experience a lot of lateral aggression that transferred from the real, in-person world to the deeply online spaces back into the real, in-person world in a really fucked up feedback loop and being a young queer person during this time and having that shape me, snd shape the experiences of my queer friends who have been traumatized by it.

however, it is absolutely unacceptable to me that the issue of transmisogyny is so blatantly overlooked by our entire community. for decades, transfems have experienced oppression and exclusion from transmisogyny-exempt women and queers. their exclusion from political queer liberation movements has caused many of the major schisms within our community we are still having arguments about to this day. if you want collective queer liberation, you must uplift transfems. there is no other option. you don’t get to write off all transfems just because one person who happened to be transfem was mean to you online or something.

i have answered and responded to way too many conspiracy-brained transmisogynist reactionaries to allow this post to keep fucking snowballing with people writing paragraphs in the tags about “transmisandry” or “transandrophobia.” please get your heads out of your asses.

this absolutely is the transmisogyny website, as always, and the place where all basic textual comprehension skills go to die, apparently.

[arcadequeerz]

.................🌠🌈26 Yrs old🌈🌠 🔆✨Nonhuman - Fictionkin - Otherkin✨🔆 🌈Pronouns here & Find Genderhoard here🌈 🌠🌈Cade / Moss / Rosie / Henry / Happy / Neon🌈🌠 🧁Queer, Femme Bear, Transmasc/Multigender/Hoardfluix🧁

My blogs Icon is drawn by @/thegameartist03​!

Ocs & Characters tag: Cade’s Characterz General Aesthetic Tag: Cadecore My kin tags: 🖤❌🐇, 🐰🎶🎸, 💚🌿🥀 & 🌟🌊🛰️ -----------Sideblogs ----------- Stimblog: @smilestimz Comfort blog: @cozycade Ft Foxy blog: @funtimezfox Fredbear blog: @70steddybear Archive Stimblog: @arcadestimz Werewolfkin blog: @howlinqueerz Photography blog: @lagomorpix Liminal/Horror blog: @liminalqueerz Theme/Pixel Archive blog: @lopbonniez

>Picrew<

*Mogai blogs if you see me Liking a bunch of your posts, It’s to keep track of them so they can later be rbed to my Genderhoard blog!

**Stimblogs if you see me Liking a lot of your gifs, It’s to later possibly use them in a stimboard I’m working on currently! Sorry for the like spam.

⚠️BYF & DNI Listed below⚠️‼️

+ Please note that I call myself ‘Freak’* often and call myself a queer & fag. If that is something you don’t want to see then probably don’t follow my blog. I will not stop calling myself these things if you ask me to, You’ll just be blocked. *look at tags on post.

+ Since I am a Adult myself, I’d rather not have rly young minors following this blog. If you’re younger then 15 Please don’t follow my blog, Thank you! -Note: I won’t be posting outright adult content here, this is just for my own comfortas I am a adult! Suggestive jokes n such may be a thing sometimes but I’ll mark the post as mature.

+ Do not involve me in any sort of community drama or discourse. I do not care about any of it and sending me anything relating to it will just get you blocked. I do not want to know about any of it or put myself around that due to things like that causing me anxiety. Please respect that. If I interact w someone you know is bad, or has done some horrible thing send me a ask explaining things.

If we’re friends/Mutuals I’d appreciate if you could tag: Animal Death/Injury, Any Mention of Child abuse or death, Heavy/Intense Gore/Blood, Rotten/Dirty/Broken teeth, Pictures or videos of cats in dryers, and Furby Hate/Furbies being destroyed. My catchall tag is: Cade No Lookie.

Anywho! Here is my DNI: This is just a list of those I’d rather not follow or interact with my blog. If you’ve read this please send me a 🎊 to let me know you did, thank you!

Please do not follow or Interact with my blog if you are: (or allow interaction from people listed below):

Do not Follow or Interact with my blog if you are a: non-system little blog, cgl, cglre, or ddlg littlespace blog

Age Regression blogs are a okay to interact and follow this blog (So long as you don’t interact/allow interaction from anyone listed here)

Do Not folllow if you are: anti otherkin, anti therian, anti alterhuman or anti fictionkin or if You don’t believe in systems

Do not follow me if you are anti lgbtqia or anti mogai. Or if your anti mspec identities, or anti mspec gays/lesbians We support all good faith lgbtq/mogai identites on this blog.

Do not follow me if you are a Exlusionist, TERF, Radfem, TEHM, Truscum/Transmed, Or Transandrophobe.

Do Not follow me if you’re anti he/him lesbians or she/her gay men. Do not follow or interact w me if you are against lesboys. Do not follow me if your anti neopronouns. Pronouns ≠ Gender

Just don't follow or interact w me if your a exclusionist who thinks they can decide who is or isn't a part of the community. Yes: this includes if you think straight trans people & straight ace or aro people aren't a part of the community.

Do Not follow me if you’re a true crime blog [aka if you romanticize literal murderers fuck off]

Do Not follow me if you’re a pewdiepie stan, Do not follow me if you are a fan of Harry Potter or South Park, Do not follow me if you support/defend Scott Cawthon & Do not follow me if you watch hazbin hotel/helluva boss

Do not Follow me if you're a Zionist or Anti Palestine, Do Not follow me if you’re Anti pro choice & Do not follow me if you are Anti BLM

Do Not follow or Interact with me if you are: Pro harmful para, Transid, Transrace/Trace, Transx, Transabled, a Proshipper, Xenosatanic, Medpunk or Radqueer or support those groups.

[gab-has-adhd]

"I have issues but you're just as bad." 🃏📍

Gab / Lubel / Illumi

28

🇨🇵

🏳️‍🌈(pan-greysexual/demiromantic)

🏳️‍⚧️(agender - masc expression)

Mentally ill and neurodivergent (ADHD, BPD, possibly PTSD, anxiety disorder)

Anarchist

Taken

Current hyperfixation: Hunter x Hunter

Art blog: @lubelzoldyck-artworks

Please be 18+ to follow either of my blogs (frequent suggestive and gore posts)

If you see an opinion you don't like on my blog, please just block me and move on. Don't try to engage discourse with me. I don't like discourse. I am bad a rethoric and it really is just mentally stressful for me. I'm not here to discuss.

I'm an anti, but if you are one and believe death threats / d0xxing / suicide baits towards pr0ships are okay, just fuck off.

Other fandoms I might share stuff of: Homestuck, Saint Seiya, Good Omens, Versailles, Mozart l'Opéra Rock, les Misérables, Undertale, Deltarune, OFF, Jojo's Bizarre Adventure, Team Fortress 2, Yu-Gi-Oh, Full Metal Alchemist, Houseki no Kuni, Saltburn, etc...

Find my DNI, kin list and socials here:

I'LL COPY MY DNI HERE IN CASE SOME PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO CLICK ON MY CARRD OR CAN'T FOR ANY REASON. DO NOT INTERACT (that means reblogging, yes, even a post I am not the OP of, I check every blog in my notifs) IF YOU ARE:

LGBT-phobic

A truscum / transmed

A TERF / SWERF

A matfem

Far right, alt-right

An aroace exclusionist

A radqueer or supporter

Contradicting orientations / identities

An endogenic system

Believing otherkin / fictionkin / kinning in general can be compared to LGBT orientations / identities

Mad Pride / anti-psychiatry

A pr0sh1pper or supporter

Or if you believe fiction can 100% never ever influence reality

An anti who believes harrassing / death threats / suicide baits / d0xxing is a good and efficient way to "get rid" of pr0sh1p

A drawn CP (l0li / sh0ta / cub / babyfur) supporter / enjoyer / artist

Racist, sexist, xenophobic, antisemite, fascist, white supremacist, etc...

Defending cops

"Doesn't see colors"

Supporting Israël

Anti-kink at Pride

A hisogon, illukillu, zoldyckcest, stridercest or other p3do / incest shipper (even if it stays SFW)

Defending Andrew Hussie

A problematic paraphile (p3do, z0o, n3cro, etc...)

DD/LG, CGL, ABDL

NFT / crypto

Against AI art

Supporting JKR

Actively in the Harry Potter fandom

TCOAL fan

Hetalia fan (yes I know I used to be one but. Really I don't wanna have anything to do with that anime ever again. Thank you)

I pretty much am obsessed with Illumi and Hisoka. Sometimes I will make memes about them or just post rambles about them. I have a "few" headcanons about them, which I talk about on this post 🌸

Frequent personal tags I use:

#gab talks / gabs stuff (when I post stuff)

#gabs face / #my face / #selfie (when I post selfies)

#gab memes (when I shitpost)

#gab replies (when I reply asks)

#gab makes polls

#posts i interacted with

#posts i talked on through tags

#polls (for the polls that aren't mine)

#my beautiful silly girlfriend <3 (when I reblog gfs posts or tag her on one)

#my art (when I reblog my art)

#self-reblog (when I reblog something I already posted or something from my art blog)

#stuff I want / #need

Other frequent tags:

#fav

#forever in my heart (the old fav tag)

#meowing cats

#kitten

#accurate visual representation of adhd

My art blog: @lubelzoldyck-artworks (⚠️ frequent gore / suggestive artworks)

My girlfriend's blog: @sparkling-ladysapphire 💕

My friends: @opossumprince @mey51 @cat-mutual @yamithemoonwitch @forbiddenseason @oloreandil 🌸

PLEASE GIVE MY SNEASLER BERRIES ON POKEFARM ❤️

[100nebulas]

HAI my carrd is outdated and ill remake it ! later

heres a pinned post to fill in in the meantime ik its ugly but whatever. important stuff yknow

About me

Astrid, Ava, Stella

They/She

Sapphic, Arospec

White

18

adhd autism :)

Byf

most of those are just squicks but pls be especially diligent abt the bold ones !! also pls tag long posts see i italicized it that ones just really annoying to me. you can hit those with "Ava Don't Look" thank u

"we live in a simulation" type of unreality

"..." on its own

pregnancy

gothic lit

ok ko

images of the cop pride flag

milk cookie from crob/crk

long posts

dni moment

Obvious DNI criteria (racist, antisemetic, ableist, lgbtphobe, TERFs)

Ace/arophobe, panphobe, biphobe, anti-MOGAI, transmed, truscum, anti he/him they/them lesbians, exclusionists in general

Anti-anti/proshippers, fujoshis, selfcest shippers all of you are freaks

18+ blogs

Uncritical fan of any media you consume

Dsmp fans

fuck nuts frickin is not good. dont interact with me if you participate in it. BUT . i know a few of my long time friends and mutuals do enjoy it CRITICALLY. ppl i am already friends with can stay in regards 2 this but im making my stance on it clear right now

other stuff below the cut so this doesn't get too long

extra which is directly copied from my carrd mostly

On my main, I'm very forgetful when it comes to tagging.

If you have something blacklisted that I forget to tag, feel free to remind me, or if it's recurring, soft block/unfollow. I won't mind! Do what you need to make yourself comfortable.

I don't have any post tagging system. If I make one, I'll add it here.

I've kind of just been unfollowing people lately?? if we were mutuals and i unfollowed for seemingly no reason you can dm me and I'll probably follow back. this is mostly me just tryin to curate my dash 2 my interests i promise its nothing personal adghzjfxfj !!!

If you send me a post with my interests, I will love you forever

friends can ask for my discord

Interests and Hyperfix

specil inch rest

Kingdom Come

Yume Nikki, Yume 2kki, ynfg in general

Ton's Mobile Game Universe

Sonic the Hedgehog

Kirby Series

Pokemon

Pollys Orangebox Rewrite

Classic edgy Creepypastas

Rhythm games

Character design

hyperfixations ive had that are also worth mentioning bc these tend to come back in bursts

Scp foundation, Confinement by Lord Bung

Splatoon

ENA by Joel G

Kirby

Eve MVs, Kara No Kikuo

Deemo

Mystery Skulls Animated

Junji Ito mangas

No Straight Roads

My Stuff

Kingdom Come - high fantasy original universe ive been super invested in worldbuilding on. see content for it on my artblog!

Startown - my oldest original story, revived !! ye olde childhood fiction about a young superhero in space, with a wish to protect the multiverse.

Nightlight - my own yume nikki fangame that i promise i'll work on at some point

[olderthannetfic]

i think queer slur discourse is an extremely american thing. i live in a violently homophobic country and along with slurs unique to here for lgbt people, queer is the one most commonly used. I hate that term and listening to people from first world countries who've probably never faced any homophobia outside of being called a slur online tell me that if I don't like the term I'm attacking their identity is so fucking gross. I'd love it if they realized that their reclamation is not universal. If someone called me queer, I'd be livid as no actual lgbt people here call themselves queer here, the only persons who use the term are homophobes looking to degrade and abuse us. So while everyone is entitled to their own feelings about the term, the idea that saying queer is a slur and tagging for it means you're a radfem or terf is fundamentally wrong and uniquely western.

People can call yourself queer all you want, you're entitled to that, but the implication that the only people who don't like it are terfs is insulting.

--

Fair enough.

However, it’s objectively true that it was the common umbrella term in the US until recently, and from what I saw, a fair chunk of the rest of the Anglosphere. Then there was a massive pushback from exclusionists. Many of the tumblr pushback posts show extremely obvious TERF red flags aside from dislike of this term.

Yes, these issues always have conflicting needs involved in a highly multi-national, multi-lingual space. And on this one, I am firmly team Queer Is A Valid Umbrella Term In English And Calling It “The Q Slur” Is A Red Flag.

“Gay” is also constantly used as an insult, but we don’t see this same behavior around that word.

[spaceysoupy]

I wasn't trying to argue with you, but I see now that you weren't going to be anything but hostile if you didn't think I agreed with you. I fundamentally disagree with you on the concept of gender and sexuality in general. Gender is a really bad way to define attraction because it can mean so many different things to different people, often in contradictory ways. Lesbian doesn't needed to be divided between multispectrum and monosexual because because gender isn't that simple anymore. The only reason to put qualifiers in front of the word lesbian is to give cover to people attracted to binary men who don't get enough warm and fuzzy feelings from identifying as bisexual. Monosexual means attraction to only one gender. How is that not impossible? You can't really know someone's gender without talking to them, and you're not going to stop being attracted to them if their gender is something you never heard of or it doesn't fit your past experience with that gender. People are not attracted to labels. Basing how you define your attraction on labels is restrictive and crisis-inducing. People don't need to modify their identity every time they find someone attractive. What I think makes a lot more sense than what you tried to tell me, and it's inherently non-exclusionist without causing misunderstanding or requiring further explanation.

Look, I’ll reply to you once more asking you to leave me alone. After that, if you send an ask about this again, I will be blocking you. I don’t know where you got in your mind that I was going to be “hostile” (interesting choice of words there) after I simply told you “I’m not willing to engage with anything like that at this moment, I am incredibly busy and, honestly, tired of discourse entirely” and told you to have a nice day. Ending the conversation. But nice job projecting I guess!

As someone from a culture where my gender is incredibly important to my people and our future, I do not and will not agree with you that it is some nebulous concept for everyone. Perhaps with a eurocentric background, but spoiler alert not everyone who talks about gender and sexuality is talking about the colonially imposed concepts peddled by cisheteropatriarchy. Which I was pretty clear with in my original thread on twitter, which I assume is where you came from. Unless you saw me tag something as 2S or mspec lesbian positivity and decided to fuck around in my inbox, which would be incredibly weird, but I’m choosing to give you the benefit of the doubt.

If you believe monosexuality is impossible, fine, good luck telling conservative cishet white people that. I’m sure they’d love to hear that they’re actually attracted to multiple genders./s

I never said people have to modify their identity every time they find someone attractive, that’s purely you and your prescriptivism talking. Which I talked about.

And, yes, before you call me “hostile” again, I AM being snippy, because you’ve wasted my time when I thought you might be open to having a genuine conversation, called me hostile, and your bimisia and views on gender are fundamentally incompatible to us having that conversation. Clearly neither of us are going to change that, so I’m asking you to leave me alone. Again. I will not engage again, I will just delete your ask and block you. Have a nice day.

[nb-bottombitch]

✨Pinned Personal Info Post✨

❗icon creator can be found on instagram @/nudekayy❗ header is my own personal photo 😌

❗❗Updated: 17 Sept 2024❗❗

‼️‼️ 18+ ONLY ‼️‼️

Hi all! I'm Tiger 😊 Please get prior consent before before using another name or anything degrading, yes even if you're anon! I'm a non-binary transmasculine submissive bottom-- I started T (9/12/20) and I’ve been horny on main ever since

 I'm a queer aroace, so I'm not attracted to you, but yes I do fuck. Also, I am polyamorous, and am always looking for connections with new people 🥺🫶

♡♡♡ Please please please send me an ask if you need anything tagged, we care about people’s triggers in this house ♡♡♡ 

I have a fairly organized tagging system, but if you’re looking for anything specific feel free to ask! Also, my original content and posts are tagged #my content and #personal posts. #my content is horny posts, and #personal posts is miscellaneous stuff that isn’t horny, and probably isn’t welcome for reblogs. Vent posts are tagger #tiger vents. If a post is tagged #my content, I’ll tag if I’m comfortable with reblogs. I have a queue and the tag for anything coming from the queue is gonna be #stuck on queue.

This is a side blog, so I can't follow you back :( I follow from my main, which is @/j***-**s, so like... just be aware 👀

Kink List 

bondage; ropes, chains, cuffs, gags, blindfolds 

orgasm delay/denial + overstimulation 

consensual non-consent 

degradation/humiliation 

spanking + beating in general 

pet play 

choking

knifeplay + edgeplay

object insertion 

(I’m a monster fucker and I have no shame, get over it, there’s gonna be monster fucker stuff here) 

(there’s lots of other kinks, but these are some of the main ones)

Hard Limits 

vomit

toilet slave 

24/7 TPE

forced body modification 

feederism 

racism, sexism, transphobia

pedophilia + sexual age play 

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==

100% Masochist

100% Degradee

100% Rope bunny

100% Pet

99% Submissive

98% Slave

97% Non-monogamist

93% Experimentalist

88% Primal (Prey)

78% Exhibitionist

74% Voyeur

63% Brat

47% Boy/Girl

42% Ageplayer

38% Switch

12% Primal (Hunter)

11% Dominant

10% Vanilla

6% Daddy/Mommy

0% Rigger

0% Owner

0% Master/Mistress

0% Sadist

0% Degrader

0% Brat tamer

DNI

minors and ageless blogs; this is an 18+ blog only 

empty blogs will be blocked

cishets-- this is a queer only space

TERFs, transmeds, truscum, nb and aro/ace exclusionists can also leave

homophobes, transphobes, sexists, racists, aro/aphobes, lesphobes, nbphobes, all of y’all can suck my dick and die 😘

thinspo/ED blogs

MAPs, noMAPs, pedophiles; no explanation needed, I will block you, report you, and anonymously report you to cybercrimes, don’t fucking test me 

if I see any of y’all interacting with me, you will be blocked, die mad about it 😘

[catsafari25]

I was tagged by @let-the-whump-commence thank you! (Notifications didn't tell me you'd tagged me, thank you tumblr! 🙃

1. why did you choose your url?

It was the username I originally used waaaaaay back in my runescape era, because I like cats and safaris and then it stuck because I am No Good at change.

2. any side-blogs? if you have them, name them and why you have them.

*cackles*

catsafarithewriter: my TCR blog, with a dash of generic Ghibli.

sardinesandhumbugs: my witw blog :D

inventionofparanoia: originally my wolf 359 blog, then devolved out into generic podcast blog when the fandom appeared dead.

I do have at least.... uh, eight other sideblogs that I've mostly forgotten about and/or are only for personal reference.

3. how long have you been on tumblr?

It must have been back in 2012? I think I came across the term 'ace' just before the exclusionists hit, which was around that time, and it has been a trip watching this site's opinion on ace folk finally begin to calm the fuck down again

4. do you have a queue tag?

Yep, and it's 'cue cat' because I liked the alliteration and the homophone pun. (For sardinesandhumbugs its 'messing about in a boat on the river with queue' because I like puns and catsafarithewriter it's 'the cat queues')

5. why did you start your blog in the first place?

A friend mentioned tumblr and I thought I'd give it a try - I figured it'd be an interesting platform for fandom shenanigans, and it's slightly more interactive than ffnet (but about as buggy)

6. why did you choose your icon/pfp?

Cause I'm ace and Belle was my favourite Disney princess growing up :D

7. why did you choose your header?

*goes back to check what my header is* oh, just because I like Doctor Who and Kingdom Hearts and I can't be arsed to change it

8. what’s your post with the most notes?

The road to el dorado meme about toilet paper from last year. (Technically originally posted on my TCR blog for some reason, but w/e) It's nice to know the half hour I spent photoshopping toilet paper wasn't for naught XD

9. how many mutuals do you have?

According to tumblr, 38? If I know you in person or you're a fandom mutual, you are a Mutual+ and you deserve all the good things <3

10. how many followers do you have?

268, honestly more than expected for this nonsensical blog and I'm fairly certain not all of them are bots :D

11. how many people do you follow?

404, but fittingly I'm pretty sure most of them are dead or inactive also I keep accidentally following people on the buggy tumblr app

12. have you ever made a shitpost?

asldkfjasdlfkj usually only on the fandom blogs

13. how often do you use tumblr each day?

Eh, I usually check on my phone in the mornings, and then on the laptop in the evenings.

14. did you have a fight/argument with another blog once? who won?

I once had a discussion over fandom interaction, back last year when I really wasn't having a Good Mental Time and I think that's the closest I ever got to an argument. (Basically, I felt pressured to produce creative content, but was getting no feedback and apparently that just fed into an unhelpful anxiety-depressive slump)

15. how do you feel about “you need to reblog this” posts?

They trigger my "you told me to do it so I won't" response so I don't. Also I know some folks who follow me get anxiety from those types of posts, so I don't want to spread that.

16. do you like tag games?

YES. NEXT QUESTION but I hate tagging people I don't want to feel like I'm annoying anyone

17. do you like ask games?

PLEASE ASK ME NONSENSE, IT MAKES ME LAUGH also any asks over fandom stuff is always welcome, I'm 85% on tumblr just for fandom shenanigans

18. which of your mutuals do you think is tumblr famous?

I honestly have no idea who is famous on tumblr; I just bumble around and hope for the best

19. do you have a crush on a mutual?

Hella aroace, but platonic crushes on @let-the-whump-commence (you write so good! also hellllo angst!) @tcrmommabear (love of my life <3) @jeremystollemyheart (you just seem like a genuinely cool person and beloved witw mutual) and @wolfiethewriter (2020 was the year of garbage, but it was a little less garbage for you being in it <3)

20. tags?

^see 16. Please consider yourself tagged if you want to though <3

[evilform]

pinned post

the following text contains information crucial to keeping our internet interactions peaceful and comfortable for everyone involved. thus, i would heavily appreciate it if you read through the entire thing. this might get long, so i will be putting it below a read more.

putting this on top for now: if you interact with bubsy3d/littlestpetshoponline/rainbowtail in ANY fucking way, fuck off and block me. i dont want anything to do with you, i do not fuck with you, and i do not owe you an explanation. leave me alone.

first off, this blog:

- is not tagged by interest or media, although the main things you’ll see here are the op’s rambles, half-life, portal, tf2, warrior cats, and OCCASIONALLY retro gaming and indie games. some of these do contain triggering content, of which i will try to tag most common ones. - has semi-regular mentions of cat death (i am grieving the loss of a dear pet. please be respectful.) - has EXTREMELY regular pda posts and talk about my girlfriend. - has raunchy humor, and constant swearing. - has frequent posts of “discourse”/politics/activism, and heavy topics of social issues.

however, i do tag flashing, death mentions, paranoia/psychosis inducing images and posts, bigotry, and suggestive/sexual humor (both under ‘nsfw’)

next, a "do not interact" list. fuck off and block me if:

-you believe that misandry, cisheterophobia or reverse racism is an issue conflatable to LGBTphobia and racism. -think punk, hippy, PLUR, emo, scene, and other counterculture subcultures and communities are SOLELY just fun aesthetics. (yes this includes you bitches whos only interaction with ‘plur’ as a political movement is XD bright color furry!! but then refuse to speak on political topics or are, god forbid, a conformist or abuser LOL either you stand with us or you don’t!) -you are against xenogenders and neopronouns, or people using whatever pronouns they want. -you are a queer separatist (or, as the tumblypoos love to say it, ‘exclusionist’) of any sort. -you use slurs you can’t reclaim, or reclaim the r slur heavily. -indulge in lolicon, shotacon, cub, “noncon”, feral/quadruped porn, beastiality porn, ABDL, babyfur, or CGL, or support those who do. -you make fun of people who do not get jokes/don’t find your jokes funny. -you make fun of how people talk/type in any way. -you listen to lapfox/halley labs/emma essex, msi, botdf, or any of these other shitty abuser bitches (i dont care if you pirate it. youre still supporting an abuser. fuck off) -you’re anything similar to the above. -you are very tolerant of any of the above.

notable sideblogs:

ghostofrattmann - portal sideblog cronaalbarn - soul eater sideblog corruptcule - portal 2 ship (wheatley/av core/ft core/spc core) sideblog shared w/ my girlfriend

[aromoji]

FAQ

(Pwease no rebloggy, this is subject to change)

[Insert any invasive question about my ethnicity]

I’m Ghanaian American. My parents were born in Ghana and I was born here. For some reason both black Africans and black Americans seem to have a problem with that. I will not elaborate on this.

I sent you an ask and you never answered it!

It’s likely that

I never got it

You were blocked 

I’ve already answered this

It’s a random positivity ask (which I appreciate but not sure how to respond to those)

You were rude in your ask and I didn’t feel like answering

I forgot until it was too late, which happens when my inbox gets a lot of asks at a time.

You sent it to the wrong blog (I.e, sending asks about my ocs to this blog instead of @ochood )

Non is just a prefix, black people don’t have a monopoly on the term! I suppose you think nonbinary people are racist huh?

This person explains it better than I can. Plus we’re talking about marginalized groups here. Black people are a marginalized group. Binary people as a whole are not so the term nonbinary isn’t appropriative at all. Also shut up, racist.

Follow up: If we can’t use non-[marginalized group], what can we use instead?

There are other words to describe the people you’re talking about

non-transfem- TME

non-lgbt- cishet, or people who aren’t lgbt

non trans - cis

etc

Black people don’t have a monopoly on the acronym nb! I’ll call myself nb if I want to!

I’m always gonna mean nonblack when I use the acronym nb. Die mad about it.

Hey, the op is [insert post] is [someone on my dni]!

I usually double check myself, just to be sure. If the person’s url is uncensored I’m not going to post the ask

Have you heard about [someone who is mutuals with someone who is mutuals with someone I’m loosely connected with]?

Most likely, no. And unless they’re an immediate danger to someone or they’ve got my name in their mouth, I don’t care.

Are you an anti?

Yes. Here’s why

Please don’t send asks about this

Are you an inclusionist/exclusionist?

Yes and no. I do think aces + aros are lgbt but they still should have spaces outside of the lgbt community because they have issues that both overlap with the lgbt community but are also different as well. Idk wtf is going on with the inclus community, but exclus are nonetheless insufferable, I’ve never met a single ‘respectful’ exclusionist who doesn’t thinks unironically calling themselves an aphobe is a personality trait or doesn’t reblog from people who feel that way. As someone who’s definetly not cishet in any sense of the word, I don’t believe the acecourse is about the “cishet aces and aros” like they claim.

Also as an addendum: I don’t like being called queer nor do I agree with calling people who do not reclaim the term as such, but that doesn’t mean people who are comfortable with the label shouldnt be allowed to reclaim it for themselves and take pride in it. Unironically calling yourself a queerphobe is cringe bro, and calling people “kweers” is disrespectful to asian queer people who use it as a personal identity

I’m also pro-pansexuality, no I don’t think pan people oppress or harm me as a bi (and trans) person. Yes, they should check their transphobia, but that is the case for people of any orientation.

Please don’t send asks about this. I am not a discourse blog, and I’m trying to stay as far away from any lgbt related discourse as possible, but I want to makae my stances clear for anyone that wants to follow me and must know before doing so. 

Do you need dysphoria to be trans?

No. Next question. 

Please don’t send asks about this

Are you pro/anti mogai?

I dont personally engage with the mogai community (and I’m pretty sure a lot of the identies people make fun of are literal trolls. Come on, no one’s actually calling themselves audiosexual...right?) but people who use mogai as an insult or run flop accounts  are cringe.

Please don’t send asks about this

Why do you continue to use the ace flag even though known homophobe David Jay made it?

He didn’t. It was created by a user named standup on the AVEN website, who has no connection to David Jay himself. A lot of aces don’t even know who the fuck this person is anyways.

Edit: I no longer identify as ace but this still stands.

Please don’t send asks about this.

Do you know who [x person/group/thing] is?

Most likely no. Not to sound like a hipster but I dont usually keep up to date with trends. If I do hear about something, it’s most likely from twitter or instagram.

Is x AAVE?

I have a tag dedicated to what is and is not aave.I know some things overlap with southern culture but others are specifically for black people. No, I can’t tell you how to stop using AAVE.

Hey, I can’t see your blog or reblog your posts!

You were blocked. And now you’re block evading. I don’t remeber why I specifically blocked a user, but it’s most likely because you’re on my dni.

But I’m not on your dni?

You probably said or did something annoying then. Lol.  Or you’ve added a stupid comment to someone else’s posts and I don’t want that nonsense on mine, so I blocked preemptively.

There’s the occasionaly chance while I was blocking people on a spree in the notes of a bad post you may have gotten caught in the fray, and if so, I apologize.

However, there’s also a chance you also blocked me on @mojiis and yet continued to interact here. So I blocked back.

Can you tag x?

I have a list of things I usually tag because they come up on this blog a lot.  I cannot do catch all tags, as I have way too many followers for that. The closest thing to that is the “ask to tag” tag when there’s something potentially triggering but I’m not sure what it is. Everything is tagged as “x tw”. If something is extremely triggering, I’ll tag it as “major tw”

Do you tag slurs?

I’ve decided in order to be fair I’m tagging any possible lgbt related slur as the letter itself. Hopefully those who dont want to see it will have it black listed and I wont offend the people who reclaim it. I don’t tag the n word, as I reclaim that one. I always tag the r slur

Can I message you about something/someone?

Unless you’re a mutual, most likely no. My DMs are only open to mutuals. 

Do you want to be mutuals?

 I don’t usually follow back people who follow me, especially if you’re under 17. I’m sure you’re a nice person, but don’t post about things I’m interested in.

Can you give me advice on x?

Most likely not, because I’m not an expert or an advice blog. I’ll try, but dont take my word for it. I’m also tme, ablebodied, not jewish, singlet, etc, so I’m not able to accurately answer questions about transmisogyny,  (physical?) ableism, antisemeitsm, “sycourse”, etc. 

I might be able to give advice on school related stuff, but remember that students are not a monolith, and what worked for me may not work for someone else.

What’s your main blog?

If you know, you know.

Why do you continuously move mains/change urls/update themes?

I’m inconsitent. Plus someone is stalking me.

Can I tag you in posts I think I’d like?

Of course!

[queenofthecommunistcannibals]

Aspecs are LGBT+

Seriously. We should be in there. If you don't think so you are either misinformed or prejudiced. Who are aspecs actually hurting? (A lot of this is geared more to asexuals because for some reason that aspect of my orientation/identity is attacked more often). Aces don't care if you have sex. We don't attack you for having sex. We literally just want to exist and be recognized.

Exclusionist arguments make no sense. Here is what I hear most often from them and my rebuttals all in one place:

"The acronym is LGBT"

Yeah, as of the 1990s. When it started in mainstream conciousnesses the 1960s it was just "Gays and Lesbians" or "Gay Community" (Things like that. The community was initially fairly hostile to the people who would now identify as transgender and to bisexuals. Literally Wikipedia could tell you this. 1980s it became LGB then 1990s LGBT and in the 2000s they added the Q. There has never been a "complete acronym." (I am largely ignoring "Queer is a Slur" because you'll note that it was a self chosen term, much like gay, and the negative connotation was removed, much like gay, which was used to mean "immoral," we have taken it back and I am not letting bigots play with it again. There are many, many good reasons to use queer, the most important -- in my opinion -- being spite and inclusivity. (I did think that it started as an LGBT+ term, it didn't, and I apologize for the misinformation on that part. It started as an insult specifically as a term to describe effeminate men, however, words evolve). I understand that the term hurts some people and I probably use it too liberally, but I have only ever heard people tell me it is a slur and not to use it when they are attacking my existence so I am disinclined to aquies to their request.)

"Aspecs don't face oppression/prejudice" (this is usually so eloquently phrased as "aces are not oppressed for not wanting to fuck")

First of all "not wanting to fuck" is not what asexuality is, the same way as "gay" is not "wanting to fuck" your own gender. Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. Like people who experience sexual attraction, it isn't a choice. It's something that just is, a core part of our beings and personalities.

As for oppression? I've covered this before. A whole lot. I don't always tag things "aphobia" but if you look in my "asexual" tag for five minutes you will see it, if you actually read/listen you'll get it. It isn't just "getting called a plant online." I literally do not give a shit if you call me a plant. The sentiment behind it is obnoxious, but I really don't care. There is hate, bile, and misunderstandings coming in from sides, just from cishets but from exclusionists. And on both fronts it has only gotten worse the older I get, the less acceptable my asexuality/aromanticism becomes. If your entire rhetoric is based around your opponent lying about their experiences...you're probably wrong.

Also, oppression does not define queerness. If discrimination disappeared the LGBT+ community would not. We are bound by much more than hatred inflicted by outsiders. Did a gay couple in the US suddenly become less LGBT+ when he was able to get married? Is a trans woman in Jamaica or Uganda or Russia more LGBT+ than one in New York or San Francisco? No! And it sounds crazy when you put it like that.

"Aspecs take resources from LGBT people who need them!"

Ah yes, the opposite argument. If aces don't face oppression they wouldn't be using resources. We wouldn't be welcomed in by pride parades as well as organizations like The Trevor Project, GLSEN, and others (with the notable exception of Dan Savage). We wouldn't get """""your""""" resources if we didn't need them. Organizations don't have to help everyone who comes through the door.

So which is it? We aren't oppressed or we take """""your"""" resources? And if we need those resources who are you to take them away from us?

"No one over 21 should identify as ace! It's childish!" vs "Kids can't identify as ace because it is innately adult! You are sexualizing kids!"

I shouldn't have to point out why this is a problem. We can't be both.

"We just don't support cishet aspecs, LGBT aspecs are welcome"

That's a misnomer. And even if you mean cisgendered heteroromantic aces or cisgendered heterosexual aros you are lying. L, G, B, and T aces/aros constantly report feeling unwelcome and attacked. They are only allowed in if they denounce that aspect of their identity and beg for forgiveness for existing.

And what about me? I'm aro/ace. I am not L, G, B, or T or hetero in any way. I am the void.

If you are on the fence, think about these things and these attacks.

If you're an exclusionist, drop your pretenses.

It's time to admit this has nothing to do with protecting some kind of sanctity of the LGBT Community and everything to do with being cruel to aspecs because either you don't understand us and someone lied to you or you're just an aphobic asshole.

The thing I want to stress the most is we are all on the same team! There are actual threats to the Queer/LGBT+ community and it ain't asexuals and aromantics.

[briannafrostgirl]

1-25 cause i'm an asshole girlfriend XOX

Love you baby ❤️

1. what is your gender? Can I say Amazon?

2. what are your pronouns? she/her/hers

3. what is your gender presentation like? Hmm... IDK. I think I’m more of a femme, but my dress style is a little butch

4. what is your Gender Euphoria Outfit? Cute crop top and short shorts

5. what makes you feel validated? Being complimented on my hair, clothes, makeup, ect. Tbh, it doesn’t happen nearly enough and it really helps.

6. top five favorite parts of your body (n why you love them)? Hmm... my legs - I’ve always kind of liked the shape of them. My hair - it’s a mess a lot of the time, but it’s a beautiful mess. My lips - they’re probably my most feminine feature and I’m very fond of them. My eyes - don’t know why, just like em. Can I say my breasts? They’re really cute, lol

7. favorite trans meme/bit of trans humor? A few good options I can’t quite remember, but probably this:  https://samael.tumblr.com/post/146212141815/khatoblepas-there-they-are-the-two-genders

8. how did you pick your name? To be honest, i got it from a Lonely Hearts Club doll and then it became the name of my first Wizard101 character. Yes, I was that girl growing up. Then it was an account name/gamer tag. By the time it was time to pick a name, I kind of had always known what it should be.

9. what does your name mean? It’s celtic (like me lol) and it means strong. 

10. do you have any trans pride merch? A trans flag sports bra, a trans flag hat, and a trans flag shirt that I designed myself. I love them all very much

11. recent happy trans moment? This is pretty depressing, but I’m struggling to remember something very recent. I can remember a time a while ago where I was taking pictures of myself naked and I felt very feminine, so maybe that

12. favorite trans headcanon? Black Widow

13. favorite canon trans character? (alt: 2nd favorite trans headcanon?) Going with a 2nd headcannon because I keep not watching the few shows with good trans rep in favor of watching the same cis-centric shows and movies again and again, because I hate starting new shows.

I’ve been headcannoning Ryder from Mass Effect Andromeda as a trans woman for a while now, but lately I said fuck it and now Shepard’s trans too. Whoops ;)

14. favorite trans blog(s)/trans blogger(s)? Oh no! There’s so many!! Aaagh! I follow a lot of really amazing trans bloggers, so no shade at all to anyone not on this list. You’re all amazing and I value you all. 

Now, onto the list. I mean, obviously @sagaofsarahrose  ❤️ She’s incredible and if you’re not following her, you should be. @skylightsofmylife @latex-tiddettes @thefiresontheheight @casey-is-a-jazzpunk and @themaddahlia are all super cool folx who do lots of funny/inspiring/really fucking neat stuff. And like, a million other cool trans people I follow here and on Instagram (less than subtle instagram plug)

15. favorite trans celebrity? I have a soft spot for Teddy Geiger, cause a) my girlfriend loves her and b) I feel like I don’t see enough trans wlw rep in the little mainstream rep we do have, so it warms my heart to see her and her fiance so happy together. Also I just found out she co-wrote one of my favorite One Direction songs, so...

16. song that gives you Big Trans Feels? Can’t Trust the News and Lived a Life by Enter The Haggis 

17. something you wish you could tell your younger self? That being a girl is something you can just do. You don’t have to keep living like this just cause no one ever told you there’s another way. Like hell, that fucked me up so bad growing up. Cause I wanted to be a girl, but I didn’t think there was any way I could. Fuck...

18. what would your Ideal Fashion Look be? Somewhere between lesbian Irish farmhand and lesbian cowgirl. Lesbian

19. (how) does your gender relate to your sexuality? Hmm... kind of a hard one to answer TBH. I think I knew (subconsciously) that I was a lesbian before I knew that I was a woman. But, because at the time I thought I was a straight man, I didn’t feel great about how much I was interested in lesbians. Even now, as a lesbian myself, I still grapple with some guilt and shame when seeking out wlw content (something terfs do not help with in the slightest)

So I guess, I would say they’re intertwined. I don’t know what it would be like to have one without the other and I’m glad I don’t have to (no disrespect to cis lesbians or straight trans people, y’all are valid as fuck. I just personally am very happy with how my gender and sexuality intersect) 

20. do you have a comfort item? I have an emotional support mermaid. Does that count? Her name is Helena

21. what makes you feel euphoric? When my girlfriend says I’m beautiful ❤️/ any time I’m out w/ my mom or sister and some one says “you ladies”

22. what genre of media would you love to see more trans characters in? Superhero movies, video games, Disney princess movies, and Star Trek. Specifically as protagonists and love interests in all of those. Basically just all the things I enjoy (which are all coincidentally absurdly slow with any kind of LGBTQ rep)

23. claim something as trans culture. Someone else has probably done this, but D&D. D&D was one of my favorite things to do growing up, but I’ve only allowed myself to come back to it as a woman and sorta... reclaim it, I guess. So yeah, D&D is now a trans thing (tm) and everyone else has to ask our permission to play (but like, just don’t be a transphobic, queerphobic, homophbic, racist, ableist, sexist, exclusionist dick and we’ll probably let you in)

24. give some love to your trans friends/mutuals (alt: give some love to the trans community in general) Hmm.. I’m not entirely sure what this one means. But if you’re trans (offer not valid for transmeds cause why you gate-keeping? The cis (tm) don’t need our help babe) I love you  ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

25. what's your favorite part of being trans? Getting to be me

[edjectedly]

My Experience Being Ace

I have wanted to make this post for a while, but since my fuck ton of emotions are making me sick to my stomach I decided I would do this tonight. If this helps anyone who has been through similar struggles it will have been worth sharing. I want to say right now that this isn’t the best story, there are a lot of triggering things, and I will put them in the tags, so if you want to know what I have been through after figuring out my identity feel free to click the “Read More” after looking at the triggers in the tags

READ THE TAGS

I figured out I was asexual when I was thirteen. When I was 11 I started wondering if something was wrong with me. When my friends hit puberty they started telling me all this stuff about sex and how they couldn’t wait to have it and I was like..... “Haha me too! Definitely, but um how would I know that’s what I am feeling?” It was bad. I really thought something was wrong and I didn’t want to tell my parents and I didn’t want to deal with not being normal. Then, I found the word ‘asexual’ and I was like... this is me. I didn’t feel so alone. It was amazing, until I wanted to tell people about it.

I was thirteen at this point, and I thought I knew everything about myself. I was a biromantic asexual and I had a community I belonged too. I was figuring out my gender and it was great. So I wanted to talk to my mom about because of course I did. I told her I was bi, and she was like alright sure if that makes you happy. Then I told her I was asexual and she got so mad. She insisted I didn’t need any labels, that I didn’t know anything yet. Everything was just a phase and I needed to stop saying that. All because I was asexual. She did not care that I thought I was bi, she cared because she thought I didn’t want sex. At 13, that was my mom’s biggest concern with me.

My parents call me a prude, despite knowing it bugs me. Despite me telling my mom is was disgusting for her to keep insisting that’s all it was. That’s also when I found all the hate against asexuals online. It was so hard to read it, but a huge part of me felt like I had to, and then one of my friends decided to tell me that the only valid part of my orientation were the ones they thought were “oppressed enough.” My friend dropped me, and a lot of others in our friend group, because I wouldn’t agree that asexuals were basically straight.

I have had romantic relationships end because my partners, after figuring out I wouldn’t change the fact I don’t desire sex, give up on everything else surrounding our relationship. I think three of the most impactful times this has happened need to be shared, but they were definitely not healthy situations for me to be in and when reading any more you will find the most triggering parts of my story.

The first was when I was about 13 and just figuring myself out. I was dating this guy named Gabe and it was great! He was a football player! He liked my body more than my personality and that’s what he told all his friends! We were about to go to highschool, and he was telling me about how we were going to have sex by the end of the school year. I told him no, we weren’t and he wanted to know why I said that when I should care about him like that. I reiterated that I was asexual and so he went to my friends who agreed with him. I was just being selfish, how could I expect to be in a relationship with someone when I wouldn’t have sex with them?

The second time was at the summer of my sophomore and beginning of my junior year with this girl named Tiffany who I dated on and off for a bit. She was a year above me and just so small and cute and I really cared about her. I spent hours learning how to play our song on the clarinet for her. Then she cheated on me, and asked me how could I be mad when she needed to have sex with someone. I was making her feel undesirable. My sexuality was hurting her. I ended things with her for good at the beginning of my Junior year.

The third time actually happened in between me and Tiffany seeing each other. I got really serious with this boy who I don’t want to name, but will call D for now. We dated right up till April of my sophomore year so it was in total 9 months. He had been my shoulder to cry on when me and Tiffany broke up and he was the best. He told me he wanted to have sex with me around the four month mark and I told him no. But then I thought back to all the other relationships I had lost for being a prude so for his birthday I was like we can try it. After that it didn’t matter that I didn’t like it. I didn’t want to loose him though, so until he got violent I tried to deal with it.

I was taught that sex was expected. That I needed to suck it up and deal with it or no one would love me. Who would want to be with someone so broken? Which is also a big part of what factored into my depression and self harming tendencies. These thoughts of how awful and selfish and just bad I was for not having a desire everyone equates to humanity hurt me and never won’t be something I don’t think about.

Now I am so much happier, but I am still unlearning all the damaging things I have been taught about being me. This is why I don’t want to hear exclusionist tell me that asexuals aren’t oppressed enough. This isn’t the Olympics, we are NOT competing to see who can be hurt the worst, but we do need to recongnize that the things asexuals (and aromantics) face are because of their identities. Yes there can be some overlap in the root of these issues, but that does not mean that my problems weren’t also because of my lack of sexual desire.

I am allowed to not have a desire for sex, I am allowed to enjoy sex if I choose to have it, I am allowed to choose not to have it, but a huge part of me wishes I could be an allosexual, because it would be a lot easier. I would love to understand sexual attraction, I would love to experience it, and I would love not to doubt my validity because some people think my community is stealing from others. 

I don’t want to see anyone, and I mean ANYONE, saying anyone who is asexual/aromantic is basically straight. To not be cishet you literally just have to be not heterosexual/romantic or not be cis and last time I checked asexuality and heterosexuality are not synonyms and the same can be said for the romantic attraction.

Also, I use the split attraction model. It helps me feel comfortable in my identity and helps me. If you don’t use it that is 10000% valid, but remember to not invalidate those who use it.

[trendercore-aesthetic]

I finally made an about me

It's more of an FAQ, but whatever. 

It’s a page on my blog, and it’s linked in my bio. Don’t feel like clicking on either of those? Here’s a link. Still not appealing? It’s under the cut too.

Who the FUCK am I?

Oh? You wanted to know more about me? Here are some details.

I’m Ryan

I’m 17

Gender: FTM

Sexuality: Panalterous Asexual (What this means - panromantic means attracted to all genders. Alterous means someone who can’t be described as neither being (entirely/completely) platonic nor romantic, & is an attraction best described as wanting emotional closeness without necessarily being (at all or entirely) platonic &/or romantic)

Religion: Jewish

Race: I’m mixed as fuck, but the best way to describe it would be afrolatinx and native.

My hair: Blonde, because I bleached it. It’s naturally red though.

Other things: I’m autistic, and have eyes that barely allow me to drive (don’t feel like opening that can of worms)

What’s trendercore?

okay so trendercore is essentially the reclamation of the idea of the word ‘transtrender’ and surrounds the aesthetic of people commonly called ‘transtrenders.’ this usually means:

- bright colors

- pride (rainbows, flags, being excited/happy about your identity)

- soft things

- gender noncomformity

but really though you don’t have to do any of that stuff to be trendercore. trendercore has that as like a general aesthetic but really, all you need are two things:

1. The belief that you do not need dysphoria to be trans

2. The belief that policing other people’s identities and presentations is wrong

And there you go. You can trendercore. Trendercore is meant to be super accessible meaning you can pull it off anyway you feel comfortable. Personally, I find it really hard to float with gender nonconformity, so I just really rock the other stuff.

I know way before @uwumars made a whole fuckign guide about this. In fact, if I’m correct, Mars inventened trendercore.

How often do you post?

My queue is currently at 50 posts per day. I post in between there too. So…a lot?

Why is the title on your blog Captain Pottymouth?

Someone derailed one of my posts and proceeded to call me captain pottymouth because I swear. Fuck them. Who the fuck cares about swearing?

What do I use to alleviate my dysphoria/help in my transition?

I am, at my most basic level, a twink. Let’s talk my transition.

My height dysphoria (5’ 3" lmao), is, hilariously, my worst dysphoria. I use lifts. Specifically, these lifts right here: https://peecockproducts.com/peecock-height-increase-insole.html

On the other hand, I am d e s p e r a t e for top surgery, so this is the binder I use. it works pretty well: https://www.gc2b.co/products/nude-no-2-tank

Packers? Of course: https://www.toolshedtoys.com/stp-fitz-stp-fitz-20-stand-to-pee-packer-mr-softie.html

Closet? I’ll update this later with the clothes that I buy but H&M is amazing.

Wanna learn more about me or see asks?

Search ryanspeaks or ryan speaks on my blog. You’ll see it all.

Hey, I tagged you in something and you didn’t answer!

It’s probably because my notes are usually pretty crazy. It’s best that if you tagged me in something, that you also send an ask mentioning it. I’ll have to find it, and it might take a minute, but it’ll get handled.

You reblogged something I made. Can you take it down?

I have shitty eyes so I tend to miss DNIs. I’m super sorry if I did. PM me or put an ask in. I’ll remove it. No reasoning necessary, just send the post. Even if you just send your username I can remove it pretty quickly.

What is your DNI?

I like to think that if you read my bio, which has no DNI, you would already know if you weren’t welcome here. But since ya don’t:

Acephobes (yes that means you, ace exclusionists), arophobes (yes, that means you, aro exclusionists), biphobes and panphobes (that means you, bi and pan exclusionists), cis bootlickers (that means you, transmeds and truscum), selective allies (that means you, cishets who have decided to pick and choose who to support), pedophiles and pedophile apologists (that means you: MAPs, ageplayers, DDLG, and anyone who supports those communities), transmisogynists (that means you, TERFs, radfems, and anyone who uses their ideology), gay men fetishists (hello, fujoshi. get the fuck off my blog), lesbian fetishists (do i have to make it any more obvious?). Don’t bother if you’re a fascist (aka Trump supporters).

Hopefully that’s it. Don’t make me add more.

Is it worth saying that this doesn’t apply if I discourse with you? If I’m discoursing, interact at your own risk. It’s not my fault if you end up looking stupid.

Can I submit a post?

You can so long as you don’t participate in any of the above. Also make sure your username doesn’t include anything triggering like the r slur or the f slur. Pretty much anything from discourse to art is allowed

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the tags, since people keep reblogging them: #seriously yall......this happens time and again and i'm getting fucking sick of it #do you remember i-am-a-fish? do you remember when you let ace & trans exclusionists target & harass i-am-a-fish off this site? i see the same tactics being used time and again on different ace & trans & nb & gnc bloggers. and it WORKS! it works every time! people on this site fall for it every time and i am SICK of it

#would you just. look at people's blogs and judge them on their recent and overall actions. #if people have been personally hurt by them then yes listen to victims #but don't take screenshots of posts from years ago as the sacred truth #i see bloggers apologizing again and again for the same things and then realizing: 'oh shit they don't want an apology. these people just want more shit to throw at me. these people just want to use me as a target. an apology was never going to be enough'. that is an incredibly toxic cycle that leaves no room for growth, and exposes vulnerable people to mob harassment. 

#and also....let people grow? i'm proud of how quickly the standards of what is appropriate and respectful are changing & progressing. we are all constantly learning new things about what is and is not appropriate to say. and that's good!! but the result is that what we considered appropriate a year or two ago we now know probably shouldn't be. so like...look at people's recent posts if you want to know their recent attitudes. don't go attacking people for stuff they said years ago unless you have reason to believe they still believe & are perpetuating it #especially when so many people on this site are goddam teenagers holy shit #i honestly wonder if that is the reason so many people in online spaces are unwilling to admit they were wrong or change their opinions. bc we've erased the concept that you're allowed to be wrong and grow and update your opinion.

so if you admit you are wrong now you're opening yourself up to be attacked years down the line #as a popular blog i’ve had to learn when to clapback and when to just...let it slide. often it's better to tell people off in private or block them. but callout culture is encouraging us to just...automatically hit back fullthrottle in a way that puts our target at risk for public harassment #so i see a lot of crappy but lowkey comments getting people dunked into shitstorms and it's just....#a lot of time and energy spent harassing people who...aren't really the people you should be concerned about?#and who could probably learn & grow if given the right incentive? #idk i'm seeing a lot of stick and very little carrot. and a lot of black-and-white thinking that leads to more violence than i'm comfortable having in an online community

i need some of you to realize that call out culture, by design, rewards people who make the most outrageous & aggressive accusations, without regards to truth or context. it encourages people to misconstrue, to erase context, to outright lie. it feeds the instinct to attack, with or without cause. 

and that naturally enables certain types of people (terfs, exclusionists, bigots) who already have a vitriolic bandwagon behind them, to target & harass minority bloggers whose inclusive platforms they do not like to see becoming popular.

this has happened time and again, it has driven good people off this site, it is traumatic and unhealthy to everyone involved. purity culture creates an atmosphere of fear & paranoia, i am begging you to reexamine this attitude of mob violence in online spaces