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made some charts for my favorite messy polycule according to the expansive and over-complicated headcanons that exist only in my head <3

1. are actively in a romantic relationship

2. have, at some point, actually had sex

3. have, at some point, had a toxic homoerotic best friendship AND a dramatic breakup

4. are, like, actually best friends

5. cannot currently interact for the sake of the timeline :/

6. are not allowed in the same room because they will try to kill each other (and not in a fun way)

7. has no idea that they’re in a polycule

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thinking about them (kinda-immortal kinda-ex-companions-of-the-doctor polycule) again

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I voted for 11, Clara, Graham and Jack for exactly two reasons:

1) the second half of season 7's stories are the kind of stories I like. The right combination of mystery and wonder and adventure.

2) I would love to see Clara, 11 and Jack flirt interact with eachother in the most unhinged fashion. And than there's Graham. Chef's kiss.

(All groups randomized) Which group would you like to travel space and time with the most?

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Clara is probably the most misunderstood character, both by haters and fans. No, she didn't "become a bad person" or "made the Doctor worse" or "pushed him beyond limits" or whatever made up stuff you hate/praise her for.

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Favourite Designs: Frieda Lepold ‘The Starry Night’ Custom Couture Gown [x]

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Favourite Designs: Frieda Lepold "Yule Ball" Haute Couture Gown

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you either die a blogger who answers every bad faith criticism or maladaptively oversensitive misunderstanding with earnest explanation or you live long enough to become the sort of person who replies to shit with “yes, I think every cat and every person who likes cats should die immediately, that’s exactly the conclusion you should be drawing from what I said”

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Art by Camille Andre

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I found an interesting thread on twitter about how fandom puts the well- being of fictional characters above that of actual abuse victims and I wanted to share it cause some of y'all really need to read

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Full names and details of every man who was convicted of raping Gisèle Pelicot. The list includes 50 men who could be identified, besides Gisèle's husband, ranging in age from 27 to 74. Among them are a firefighter, a journalist, a nurse, a construction worker, and a prison guard. Most have families of their own, and only about half had previous convictions.

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Love bombing is not a euphemism for "too much affection too soon," or "high desire for contact."

"Love bombing" is a term originally used in the context of cults to describe a deliberate and coordinated recruitment method that involved feigning friendship and interest in a potential recruit, via flattery, flirtation, physical affection, and very directed positive attention to everything the recruit says in order to lure them into the cult.

Since cults and abusive relationships operate in similar ways and use similar tactics, love bombing in an interpersonal relationship looks like manufacturing closeness in order to trap someone into a relationship in which the abuser has all the control.

And I know these days there's a million bullshit junky articles out there that make you think this is a symptom of cluster b personality disorders, but there is no way for you to be love bombing somebody without realizing it.

If you are an affectionate person and the level of affection and attention you give makes someone uncomfortable, you are not "accidentally" abusing them.

If you are uncomfortable with the level of affection and attention someone is paying you, they are not de facto abusing you.

Love bombing is about using someone's desire for human connection to fast track them into a situation you control that they will feel disinclined to leave.

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History wants so badly for Cleopatra to be beautiful. Like they can’t conceive of Rome being intimidated by anything less

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For some reason the Empty Flowerpot Quest isn't working for me.

It's not even showing me the little labels.

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Well, yeah. It's a twitter post, almost all twitter post about the matter ate like this.

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No? We are saying that middle eastern (or white mediterranean with similar features to them in this case) people are disproportionaly considered terrorist even when this accusation is unwarranted.