#would have responded privately but when you ask someone anon

[shootingthestars]

Hello! This is an ask as out of character as I can be. How would the deal have worked. I presume you used some type of fake hand or something of the sort? The problem is that you still made the deal. The energy got sucked out of you and into them. I was thinking that Maddox doesn't feel tempted to like or follow Red; however, if Maddox attempts to contact anyone from a dimension that isn't PD about Red, Maddox won't be able to form the words. If they do end up conveying anything about Red to someone that isn't from PD, the person immediately forgets the information. :)

-🔥 ( @goddessofthered )

well that wasn’t Maddox. at all. it was simply sort of like- a direct copy of Maddox but wasn’t actually them. They didn’t have any powers because they were simply like a ‘robot’ designed to act like Maddox. It’s also how Maddox is able to be in more than one place, however, those puppets tend to actually have a sort of semblance of power to their name.

[shanastoryteller]

okay now that i've had some coffee, let's chat

specifically, about how you act on the internet is a blueprint on how other people will treat you and how this intersects with the functionality of anon asks

if you've followed me for any significant amount of time, none of this will be anything i haven't said before, or i think be at all surprising to the rest of you, but i guess it bears repeating

so let's repeat: how you act on the internet is a guidebook on how other people will interact with you

like invites like. if you talk about a topic, you're going to get more commentary on that topic. this is because you're demonstrating that this topic is something you're comfortable talking about because you are talking about it

if you respond one way to something, people are going to reasonably assume you will respond the same way to them if they send you something similar. if someone asks for advice and you give it, people are going to think you're comfortable giving out advice and that asking for advice is an appropriate way to interact with you. if someone asks for information and resources and you provide them, people are going to think it's appropriate and acceptable to ask you for information and resources

i've seen this come up with other people before, where they do one thing and get frustrated and upset when that generates more of that thing. but people are just following your lead

now, anon asks

the function of anon asks is that the only way to reply to them is to respond to them publicly. you cannot privately reply to an anon

this means that every anon ask answered tells people how to interact with you. it is not and cannot be treated the same as a 1 on 1 conversation. it doesn't matter if that's not intention or what the anon wants. it's the reality of the situation

i don't answer non-anon asks publicly, with rare exceptions like it's funny or i think my answer to them would be interesting to others and non-upsetting for the askee for me to share (there are times i've given things like writing advice or commentary that i've thought might be interesting to the rest of you, but the askee had something in their original ask that i though they potentially wouldn't appreciate being immortalized on my blog)

if there's ever anything that someone doesn't want me to answer publicly no matter what, they can ensure this by just including it in their ask. even if i was inclined to be a hypocrite and ignore how people want to be interacted with (i am not) i am obviously not going to post it publicly if you ask me not to because then everyone would see me do that and think, rightfully, that i'm a huge jerk

when someone is rude or critical of me on anon, they're putting me in an unfair position. i can either not answer them or i have to turn their answer into a public performance, consumable by everyone. there is no other option

the vast majority of people use anon to say something kind or neutral where my public and private response would be basically identical and that's not what this is about. if i had an issue with anon asks in general, i wouldn't have them on

by sending criticism on anon, they're protecting themselves by not having any of their opinions or thoughts associated with them. nothing they say is connected to them and they're free of any consequences of their actions. in contrast, if i respond, my only option is to respond publicly. which means not only is my response attached to me and my name, but it has to be publicly consumable, i have to open myself up to the thoughts and commentary of everyone else if i'm going to reply

that means, before we get into anything the anon is saying, they're demonstrating both that they're a coward and they don't care about my comfort or my privacy - something they obviously highly prioritize for themselves

if that's the premise, why would i take kindly to anything they have to say after that, no matter what it is?

additionally, if i respond kindly and measured to these types of asks, that tells other people that it's an acceptable way to interact with me

it is not

if this ask had been sent off anon, my response would have been: "glad you enjoyed the story. feel free to toss any typos you notice into a comment (easiest way for me to keep track) and i'll correct them when i have a chance"

when it's just me talking to another person, i can choose to ignore or gloss over any awkwardness or mild rudeness because it's not going to come back to bite me. it's not a performance or a guidebook on how others will treat me. it's just you and me talking

but because it's anon, i have to keep in mind that i'm not just talking to them - i'm talking to everyone else too. so i have to establish that: i'm not interested in a beta, but am more than happy to correct typos; i don't care to hear about about how my typos personally upset you; and, in this case, that this is the type of message i don't want to receive on anon

because if i don't make it clear what i don't want, i'm going to receive more of it. that's simply a neutral fact of how people and the internet work

the more considerate you are of me, the more considerate of you i'm going to be in return

tldr: if you want a response meant just for you, you have to ask in a way that i can respond only to you. which isn't an anon ask. them's the breaks

[weirdsht]

cale with idiots in love trope

- "You're cute" "hm?" "I said you look like a boot."

- casual displays of affection, hand holding bc s/o would space out and may or may not get lost (directionally challenged)

- pretending everything is casual, but they're soooo in love with each other

- "I look like a mess" "the prettiest mess"

- the kids absolutely love when they get cuddles with cale and s/o

- maybe braiding cales hair??

- whenever cale goes somewhere and can't bring them, they'd go like "I'll be going for a while" (cale) "I'll always be here" (s/o)

- stealing cales clothes bc its comfy!!

- "are you asleep?" "...no" "wanna talk?"

- "I love you" "I've loved you my entire life"

Can’t Two People Be Friends? - Cale/Gn! Reader

tags: gender-neutral reader, deputy commander reader, getting together fic, vague novel spoilers, is told from Alberu's perspective, tired Alberu, save Alberu from his dumb dongsaeng, use of degrading words (e.g. stupid) but it's in a loving way, have I mentioned Alberu is tired of Cale's shit?

English isn’t my first language so there will be grammatical errors

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another anon said: cale who acts like a lover to his "closest confidant", though they are not in a relationship, they certainly do act like one– to the point that his crew would question them, to which they'd respond "We're just friends" "What do you mean? They look at you like you're their entire world"– which then starts their operation, get cale a lover

Cale Henituse is someone who has a lot of people under his wing. He's a heroic person busy saving the continents– no, the world. Which was why it is no surprise to find out that he has a close confidant. He has a second-in-command who helps him plan everything and is in charge of backup plans in case something goes wrong.

All of that is normal. Expected even.

What isn’t normal is how they act towards each other.

They act like… people who have a deeper relationship than just friends, for lack of a better term.

Like right now. [Name] is holding onto Cale’s arms as they navigate through this tiresome ball. Looking at him as if he had hung up the moon and the stars.

“Your Highness, you are quite close to the both of them… are we sure they are merely close friends?”

One of the nobles talking to Alberu Crossman questions as everyone watches the commander-and-deputy-commander duo dance in the centre of the hall.

“Of course they are. They have said so themselves.”

Alberu adds on at the end about how they shouldn’t inquire about another person’s private life.

However, Alberu himself is quite frustrated.

It was the truth when he said the two are nothing more than friends. And that’s what frustrates him. The two idiots can’t see the way they stare at each other. Can’t notice how they are unconsciously each other’s priority no matter what happens.

Alberu also knows that he isn’t the only one feeling this way.

No, as a matter of fact, everyone in Cale’s group feels the same frustration the future king feels.

“When will they get together? They deny their feelings as if we didn’t see them cuddling last night while reading a novel.”

On complained one day while eating the crown prince’s cookies.

“I’ve always known that our young master was quite dense in the aspect of love but… hmmm, I must say that this level is getting frustrating.”

Ron shared his own opinion as he served everyone tea.

Well everyone except the two people who are the topic of their discussion. Of course, they aren’t. For they were busy cuddling in the newly installed swing in the garden of the black castle while reading a novel. [Name] is busy platonically nuzzling their head in Cale’s chest, while Cale himself is busy platonically draping his legs over [name] as they lay down on the large swing.

‘Merely friends my ass’

Alberu thinks to himself as he watches the two from the window while sipping on the tea Ron served.

The people inside the room merely complained about Cale and [Name]’s relationship. They did not say anything about forcing them to get together and be in a romantic relationship.

And it’s not because they respect what the two have now.

No, it was simply because they didn’t need to say such things out loud. The complaints they have said out loud are enough confirmation to ensure that everyone is on the same page.

That everyone will be doing their best to show those two knuckleheads that what they have is more than platonic.

“You do know that you only let [Name] braid your hair like that. Do you realise just how much special privilege you give them?”

“What special privilege? The kids also braided my hair.”

Alberu’s dumb dongsaeng stared at him in confusion and the crown prince swears his about to have an aneurysm.

“Yes, but they are your kids. Of course, you’ll indulge them.”

“That is true…”

For a moment Alberu thought that they were finally heading somewhere.

“But [Name] is the only one who can braid my hair neatly like this.”

Turns out the only place they are heading to is back to square one.

Alberu pushed down the urge to smack a chair in his beloved dongsaeng’s face. How could he forget Ron’s existence? The Ron that does every task perfectly, but still could not braid the redhead’s hair because ‘only [Name] can do it perfectly’.

Cale better be glad Alberu didn’t transform Taerang into a hammer and threw it in his face.

“I love you, you know that right?”

[Name] had asked Cale during one of their cuddling sessions and Raon’s ears perked up.

“Of course I do.”

Cale answered casually and it got Raon’s hopes up.

“Are you guys together???”

He asked, eyes full of hope.

“What do you mean silly? Of course, we’re together, we’ve been friends for years now.”

That night Raon did not speak to any of them, and the two idiots only thought he was sick and tried to coax him to talk to them.

Subtle advances like that continued for a while before they all admitted defeat. One day Rosalyn even straight up asked [Name] how they felt about Cale. To which the deputy commander only responded with “he’s my best friend of course” before going on their merry way to steal another one of Cale’s clothes.

Just when all of them are about to give up Alberu caught the two of them talking in that same swing one night. 

He was about to go back to the palace. Only went to sneak into Raon’s castle to talk to Cale about an important business that cannot be said through a communication device. However, just as he was about to teleport back he heard the two.

“Why are you still awake?”

“I couldn’t sleep. You weren’t in bed.”

“Wanna talk then?”

Alberu silently scoffs at them. Even their conversations sound like their married already.

They talk for a few minutes. Topics vary from the mundane to philosophical questions no one can answer. 

It didn’t look like Alberu would get anything from eavesdropping so he thinks about going home.

But then…

“I know we’re both too busy. I know this will only add more burden to you. However, I must say it.”

[Name] spoke gently. Their eyes which were previously watching the stars shifted their focus to stare at Cale’s face.

“I love you. I love you so much. I love you more than life.”

That made the crown prince stop in his tracks. For a moment he remembers Raon’s complaints about how they seem to say “I love you” to each other without it meaning anything. For a moment he doubted if it was a confession.

Of course that didn’t stop him from recording the whole thing.

“I love you too. I’ve loved you this entire time. I’ll love you even after death.”

At Cale’s reciprocity, Alberu finally moved to give the privacy. He may want to see the two of them get together, but he does not want to see them kiss. A confession was enough to satisfy him.

But the irritation he feels from waiting for them to confess did not go away.

Hence why instead of going home he first went to his instructor, Choi Han.

Alberu Crossman did not say to the swordmaster. He only hands him a piece of paper before going back to his palace.

In that paper wrote:

The two idiots are finally together. I have a recording if anyone is interested. I’ll show it in exchange for a recording of you lightly smacking my lovely dongsaeng head upside-down. I’m sure my instructor will understand where I’m coming from.

Choi Han does. He greatly understands where his student was coming from.

That’s why, the next morning he was setting up a hidden recording device with a smile on his face.

Oh, he also got everyone’s permission before he set it up. In fact, most of them cheered at the thought of him physically knocking some sense in their young master’s head. 

[whataperfectwasteoftime]

Where was this “censorship is bad” attitude when it came to the confederate flag. Or does this only apply to pedophilia.

Anon, I know you aren't actually interested in the answer to this question, because if you were you wouldn't throw it into my inbox like an accusation while hiding behind the mask of anonymity, but I'm going to treat this question like it was sent in good faith, because I think the issue with this argument is that people aren't willing to apply nuance to situations and to paint everything with the same brush.

I'll be honest, this question DID trip me up. I feel that these situations are different... but WHY? I'm going to make an attempt to answer, but do keep in mind that I'm a white woman and that readers of color would be better able to articulate the arguments here, but I don't want to burden them with responding to this as they have already spoken up and have had to defend their presence in this fandom more than they have had to already.

1. Tagging/Consent:

The fic featuring Joel and his daughter was tagged with all appropriate warnings. Readers could read the warnings and determine whether they wanted to read the fic or not. The themes (that most, including me, would find disturbing) were communicated at the top, and if someone ignored the warnings and continued to read and be upset by the content, that's on them.

The use of a confederate flag (as a tired and harmful stereotype of "southern" aesthetic) was NOT tagged. Readers did not know about the existence of disturbing/upsetting content because they were not warned. Readers were unaware and could not consent, and as a result some of those readers very politely (AND PRIVATELY, AHEM) asked that the author remove the reference, explaining their reasons. Things escalated when the author refused.

Alternatively, the author could have kept the reference in and tagged it as "the main love interest is a piece of shit racist" and then people could have decided if they wanted to interact with it.

2. Audience response

These two situations were met with a very different response. It might not FEEL different to those blogs that feel they are fighting for taking disturbing and/or harmful content off of the internet right now, but it is, I promise.

In the case of the confederate flag: first, the author was messaged privately and asked to remove the content. They refused. Then, several posts were made explaining the harmful history of the confederate flag and why it's inappropriate in a fic that isn't tagged appropriately warning the reader of racism. At no point did anyone "call out" people who interacted positively with the fic. No one made lists of people who liked it and called them racists. People only attempted to point out WHY it is harmful, AND educate others on the history of the flag, because as many people pointed out, non-Americans don't necessarily have the same context.

Now, in the current situation, that's not what happened. To my knowledge, no one reached out privately to the author about it. (BUT once again I must refer you to point 1, where this was tagged appropriately with warnings and any reader should have been aware of what they were consuming). The reaction was to publicly call out not just the author, but everyone who had interacted with the post, and then started picking fights with others who were adding commentary. The "I'm just raising awareness" argument falls on deaf ears because that's NOT what is happening. If that were the case, no one would have posted screenshots of my blog and insinuated that I, as a mom, abused my own child. I let that one go in the interest of keeping things civil, but that is a personal, inflammatory attack on me and does not fall under the guise of "raising awareness." This WAS meant to incite a negative response towards specific people in the fandom and we all know it.

3. Miscellaneous thoughts

I read the post detailing Tumblr's terms of service and it wasn't entirely clear to me whether fictional content involving minors is included on the list of violations to the ToS, and frankly, it doesn't really matter to me. The fic was taken down, and from screenshots of the original fic, it looks to me like the author was internationally trying to be inflammatory, which is their perogative, and I'm not particularly bothered that the fic was taken down. I'm not crying "boohoo, censorship!" because I want to read it or because I think incest is good, actually.

So it was removed. But is writing it a crime? No, it's not. Just because something may violate a website's ToS doesn't make it a crime, and people are throwing around that accusation regarding this fic, and it simply isn't true. That's where I got involved, because I'm a precise and literal person and I like it when things mean what they are supposed to mean. That fic wasn't illegal. Gross? Sure. In bad taste? That's up to opinion, and mine is yes, but my opinion on whether it's yucky or harmful does not make it a crime, nor does the fact that it violates the terms of service of Tumblr dot com. I chimed in because words like "illegal" have specific definitions, and this does not meet it.

Thanks for the question, I do hope you read and think about my response, and if anyone else has anything to add regarding the difference between these two scenarios, I'd welcome the discussion because I'm sure there are nuances I've missed.

[jikooklove9795]

Ppl are laughing about Tae’s friend comments on his insta dance, tkkrs having a meltdown..

but didn’t Jikooks friend once say they weren’t dating?

Both these situations are not comparable (in my opinion). I don't think the person who called Jikook "fake love" in his IG story is a friend of them anymore.

There was this pic of Jikook under a heart arc which was leaked from Jimin's Dad's phone (Kakao talk). It was in 2018. K ARMY tried to protect their privacy by saying that they were cos players and this kept it from spreading more and attracting unwanted attention. However, this supposed "friend" of theirs posted a pic of him along with Jikook where Jikook were wearing the same outfit from the leaked pic. Thus, proving the people in the leaked pic were indeed Jimin and Jungkook. He posted this in 2023. His account was public at the time. K Army and other fans asked him to delete this pic and threatened him. To which he responded by saying that he would post more pics of Jikook. He did a Q&A in his IG where someone asked him if Jikook were dating. He answered it by laughing in a mocking way and said it was fake love. It was all a mess and then he went private.

I think this person had a fallout with Jikook and was using this pic to gain popularity/attention. But then when people started calling him out he panicked and called them fake love as a means of damage control. Cause maybe he realized his actions where edging towards exposing Jikook and he knew the consequences it would have on him. I wouldn't trust the words of someone like him whose intentions seemed very suspicious and shady.

Anon, you said people are laughing cause of Taehyung's friend's comment under the dance video. I don't think much about that comment. To me that comment is not proof about Taehyung's dating life. I don't know if he's dating or not. An article was published last year which stated that Taehyung had a break up. So, maybe he is currently single since I believe the report was published with his knowledge and consent. When it comes to the dating lives of any of the members I will only believe what I see and what they choose to share with us. Anything regarding this topic from third parties is not a confirmation to me.

Support the artists, enjoy their works and trust them.

[whinlatter]

What do you think of Ginny’s “I knew you wouldn’t be happy if you weren’t hunting Voldemort” line in HBP? Do you feel like she’s mischaracterizing Harry or do you think there’s some truth to it? Or do you think the line meant something else entirely and people are just taking it at face value?

great question, anon! i think there’s a lot of truth in that line, even though i don’t think ginny realises quite how much at the time.

i think it’s important to remember how much ginny doesn’t know at the point she says these words. we know she doesn’t believe in or know anything about the prophecy (‘All this Chosen One rubbish is just the Prophet making things up as usual’). we know she knows nothing about horcruxes, and while she knows harry has had private lessons with dumbledore and that he was with dumbledore the night he died, that’s really the extent of her knowledge of it all. it’s why harry letting slip he’s going to go bump off voldemort in DH is such a shock to her: harry talks candidly to ginny as he would to ron or hermione, who are both in the picture, and gets a stark reminder of how little ginny knows when she responds with shock (‘So it’s true? That’s what you’re trying to do?’)

important, too, that ginny says these lines at the funeral of someone harry loved and cared for. harry - a person who already has enough reasons to seek revenge on voldemort - has just had one more reason laid at his door why voldemort needs to be brought down and paid to pay.

this is what ginny means when she says harry would not be happy if he wasn’t hunting voldemort. were harry to leave the task of hunting voldemort to others, he would not be content: he would be restless and angry and would find it unbearable (à la sirius in ootp). ginny would not ask it of him - in fact, she relates to it (‘Maybe that’s why I like you so much.’) she knows their relationship would not be tenable under those circumstances, either. she knows he would choose the cause over her, and she accepts and respects it (‘There some things worth dying for’ - i’ve talked about it elsewhere, but ginny believes in self-sacrifice, as all of harry’s loved ones tend to do).

i think people who bristle at this line (often doing bad-faith readings of the books to support different ship agendas, once again a reminder that you can make the case for other ships without wilfully misreading the text) don’t like the implication that harry fighting voldemort is about him making himself happy. their argument is that this responsibility was put on harry by others: that harry is only ever a victim, that it’s not about his happiness but about an externally-imposed duty, that he did not choose this path.

but while the text is clear that harry is a victim in many ways, it is also absolutely clear that harry chooses to be the chosen one. he chooses to make the prophecy true: he chooses his own path, as dumbledore knew he would, and he does decide that it is the only course of action he can live with. it’s happiness in the sense of ultimate purpose and a satisfaction in the service of a worthy goal, one no-one else could succeed in. it’s hermione who puts it most bluntly back in ootp (‘Do you like having this connection to You Know Who?’) harry bristles at this at the time, but the truth is he does get some sense of drive and purpose from his connection with voldemort and the fusing of their fates, in ways he increasingly (though silently) comes to accept as the series goes on.

so the reason the words are more true than ginny could ever know at this point is the narrative is the fact (as i say, often overlooked in analyses of harry’s trauma but vital to his character) that harry does derive something like happiness from taking on voldemort alone. ginny doesn’t know about harry’s choice to be the chosen one: she just knows him, and she ends up making a shrewd and correct assessment of him even without some very important information about harry’s road ahead.

(last thing - it’s worth clocking how harry reacts to this line. he can’t bear to hear her say these things (not because they are false; because they are true!) and he leaves because he’s worried he will buckle and change his mind if he keeps sitting with ginny, because she brings him happiness too — a different kind of happiness, one he has decided he is not entitled to because of the fate he has accepted for himself. to harry at least, it’s a scene spent with - by his own narrative admission - someone who understands him perfectly. worth not leaving that part out of the analysis, i find…)

[homelanderbutbig]

You are a tremendously talented artist, writer and shitposter. I have alerts for you turned on so I can see your magnificence as soon as you post. You’re seriously one of my favourite blogs and an integral part of this side of The Boys’ fandom. I’m grateful that I get to exist at the same time as. Never forget that you bring immense joy to all those around you, that your presence is a blessing, that you matter so much to so many people. You are very loved by myself and others, we will always be here for you ❤️

- Fridge Anon

I'll keep this under the cut for people who don't wanna get blasted with a wall of text, lol. Using this as an excuse for a life update.

I'm a very private person, I don't like to talk about myself and my issues on here. I've mentioned a few times in the past about my unsolved medical problems. It started out in 2023 with eye blurriness, then slowly evolved to include headaches, neck and shoulder pain, and light sensitivity. It's 24/7, I wake up and go to bed feeling the same.

I've had countless scans, tests, needling, injections, and pain/migraine meds. Nobody knows what's wrong with me, nothing has helped to alleviate my symptoms, and it's just been getting worse month after month. Every time I try to get my hopes up with a new practitioner, telling me they can 100% help me no problem, it all just comes crashing back down because it doesn't work. It's almost been two years of this now, no diagnosis, no recovery plan. Neurology wait times are 1 1/2 to 2 years, if I'm lucky.

As the months have gone by it's been getting increasingly harder for me to keep up with the hobbies that make me happy, especially with this blog. Writing fics is a struggle because it's difficult to make out the words I'm typing, everything is an unfocused blur. Drawing is more challenging because of my shoulder pain correlating to my drawing arm. While my head and neck are more of a sharp, stabbing pain, my shoulder is different. It's essentially as if someone has their hand digging into the muscle and is clenching with all their might, never letting go. It's just a hard rock that gets aggravated if you even touch it. I'd been managing for the most part to draw regularly, but since about January I've noticed my hand and fingers go numb the longer I try to draw. It's becoming increasingly limiting.

Basically, as time has gone on I've been just completely exhausted. There are so many things I want to do that I just can't do anymore. This depression has just been building more and more each passing month, like my life is just pointless. I've been feeling like I'm letting everyone down by not producing the same level of work that I could before, that I was proud of. I feel little joy in what used to be fun.

But I don't wanna be too much of a downer. While I'm still really unsure about my future, I want to at least keep this blog going because it really does make me smile despite all my personal bullshit. I might not be able to draw/write as frequently as I have in the past year, so please forgive me in that regard. This is a long road that I'm stuck on and I don't know when it will ever end. All I can do is navigate it the best I can.

And for anyone who's sent me an ask over the last month, I apologize if you're thinking I've been ignoring you! I like to take my time answering people who are kind enough to send me thoughts, and I've just been a bit swamped with life so my inbox has been on the backburner. Please be rest assured, if you've sent me something I will eventually respond. ❤️

I wish to bestow a sad lil' gremlin Homelander onto you, Fridge Anon. Please hold him close to your heart, print him out, stick him on the fridge and give him a kiss every morning for good luck.

Thank you again, to anyone reading this. You all have been pretty much the sole light in my life, and I wish you all know I would be nothing without your kindness. I hope you can forgive me venting this much, lol. 🫂🫂🫂

[animehideout]

Your work is super good! Would it be possible to have the Sfw alphabet for gojo pretty please? Or what he's like when he falls in love and is committed? Whichever you would rather do.

SFW Alphabets For Gojo Satoru ♡

a/n: Thank you Anon for this cute request I really had fun writing this one, I hope you enjoy it <33

Note: I'm working on all the requests so don't worry my loves 🫶🏻🩷

A: Affection.

( How he shows affection?)

Gojo is openly affectionate, whether in private or public settings, be it during meetings, on the street, or in the presence of his students, colleagues, or even higher-ups. He consistently engages in subtle displays of affection, such as holding hands or loosely wrapping his arms around your shoulder or waist. Indifferent if others are looking, he doesn't mind if your lovey-dovey interactions make others uncomfortable or cringe. Especially at home, he'll latch himself to you as if he were a 6Ft tall koala.

B: Babies.

( Does he want to settle down and start a family?)

Gojo is good with children, he's able of taking care of them financially and never fails in making them laugh with the silly faces he makes. Eventually he likes to get married but he only lives the moment with his partner till both of you are ready to take that step. Satoru doesn't want to rush things concerning kids he would like to have children but that depends on your decision, might also consider adoption if you want kids but don't want to go through pregnancy.

C: Cuddles.

( How does he cuddle you?)

This 6ft giant is definitely the big spoon. Would he crush you with his arms? yes. Would he let go of you once he traps you in his embrace? No. When both of you are cuddling, his strong arms would engulf you and give you all the warmth you need. When he gets home exhausted from work he loves to get babied, he lays his head on your chest, your steady heartbeat soothes him to sleep.

D: Dreams.

(Dreams he wants to achieve with you?)

Gojo is a guy with big dreams, and having a partner makes achieving those dreams even more exciting. He dreams of traveling the world with you, collecting souvenirs from every country and city both of you visit. Probably would make a shelf full of souvenirs collection. Satoru has got a sweet tooth, so he's eager to try the various sweets and pastries from different countries, even planning to make you a sweet tooth too so you can enjoy them together without you complaining that it's too much sugar.

E: Ending.

( What would make him break up with you?)

Cheating is a deal-breaker for him; he would end the relationship immediately. He values himself highly, so if his partner picks someone else, it hurts his dignity and pride. He won't hesitate to break up on the spot and won't give any second chances or even care to listen to explanations or excuses. He sees them as a waste of his precious time and energy. ( who would cheat on Gojo tho🤔? )

F: First Date.

(How did he ask you out? and how it went?)

Confident af yet so laid-back, he'd casually ask you out, assured you won't say no. Being a busy guy, he'd likely do it through a text or call, saying something like, "Hey, wanna go out on date with me? I'll pick you up at 8:00 p.m." Without giving you much chance to respond, you might think it's a simple hangout. Surprise! He takes you to a fancy, high-end restaurant, covering all expenses for your first date and every date thereafter. He's a true gentleman🥹🤌🏻.

G: Gifts.

(What kind of gifts he gives you?)

He likes buying expensive gifts from expensive brands, especially accessories and perfumes, and he does it randomly without occasions, just to spoil you. Spending money on you is like a job for him because he sees it as his duty. However, he doesn't really think about what you might like; instead, he picks things based on what he personally prefers. Surprisingly, you end up liking them because he has good taste 🤌🏻.

H: Hobbies.

(What hobbies he enjoys doing with you?)

Satoru has two main hobbies to do with you; shopping and watching movies. You prefer shopping because when you watch movies, he often spills the beans and gives major spoilers about what happens, making you frustrated with the messed-up order of events, and sometimes canceling your movie night. On the other hand, he enjoys shopping together because he gets a free fashion show from you. Would make you try on various clothes, and he even lets you pick out shoes for him. It's like you both are bees, buzzing around from one store to another, making fun of ugly clothes and having a good time gossiping and judging designers.

I: Impression.

(Your first impression of him?)

You'd be excited to meet the strongest sorcerer, the famous Gojo Satoru that everyone talks about. However, when you see him for the first time, you might be surprised, thinking, "What the heck?". It's hard to believe he's a teacher with significant responsibilities. He appears childish and unserious, He may seem annoying and talkative, mostly bragging about himself, and you could notice him being a disrespectful to older folks. This creates a negative first impression. Yet, as you get to know him better, you'll discover that he's truly wise and responsible, although he does have a hefty ego.

J: Jealousy.

(Is he the jealous type? How does he deal with it?)

Satoru is a chill guy who doesn't easily get jealous or offended. He's confident in how he looks and who he is, believing he's better than other guys out there. If a guy comes up and starts showing off in a not-so-smooth way, he'd mock and tease him, laugh and make fun of him. But if another guy comes along and seems capable, oh boy, he'll go all out to try and make him look small, overshadow, belittle and embarrass him in front of you. Gojo will do whatever it takes to show that he's superior and the perfect match for you.

K: Kisses.

(How does he kiss you?)

He likes giving hugs, but when it comes to daily kisses, he's all about the goofy and playful ones. He plants them all over your face, making a sound like 'MWAH,' even squishing your cheeks and giving them a big ass kiss. He giggles during these kisses and enjoys how you playfully push him away. Annoying you with his love is something he really likes to do.

L: Love Language.

(What is his love language?)

His has two love languages combined; physical touch and giving gifts. He loves having his hands on you, and he's also a fan of PDA ( Public Display of Affection) . He became addicted to your touch, even if it's just a pat on the head. Additionally, he enjoys giving you gifts because 1st, he loves you, 2nd, it's also a way for him to flaunt his wealth.

M: Mornings.

(His mornings with you?)

For a man with heavy responsibilities hanging on his shoulder, he would wake up quite early and you are forced to wake up with him, and the thing is, he doesn't wake you up like normal people do, he would be overly hyped and excited. Would tickle you till you fall off bed, would literally startle you in your sleep with his random tickle attacks. Whines a lot if you refuse to wake up or if you hit him with a pillow. Once you're fully awake he likes to enjoy breakfast with you in the balcony while both of you enrich your bodies with an intake of vitamin D. 🌞

N:Nights.

(His nights with you?)

He's a night owl, nah seriously lacking in sleep, yet always full of energy. During the night, he might suggest dining out, but if you're tired, he'd order food delivery and just hang out at home. He'd even join you in your skincare routine, then tucks you to sleep. He watches over you, making sure you're comfy, and only then does he join you in dreamland. He never drifts off before you. 🌌

O: Opressive.

(Is he controlling in a relationship?)

Gojo is super open-minded, values independence, and trusts you a lot. Normally, he's not the controlling type, but when it comes to your safety, oh hell no, he gets strict and over controlling. If there's something risky going on outside, he won't let you take a single step outside the house without him knowing about it.

P: Pet Names.

(His favorite pet names?)

He likes giving you cute, cheesy names in public to make you blush like “Pumpkin spice of my life” or “Cute lemon cupcake”, but mostly calling you “baby”or “babes”. He also enjoys being called by cringy pet names or anything other than his real name. If you ever use his real name, Satoru, he tends to overthink, worrying he might have done something wrong or that you're upset with him.

Q: Qualities.

(His good and bad qualities?)

He's got plenty of great qualities ; responsible, supportive, funny, and attractive, making him total boyfriend material. Like everyone else, he has flaws; he can be really egocentric, always showing off his looks and skills, even though everyone already knows what he's capable of. It's just how he is, but sometimes it might make you feel a bit insecure or less important in the relationship.

R: Rules.

(Do you have any rules in your relationship?)

Rule number 1 : never underestimate him, or he'll break up with you. Rule number 2: trusting each other, is crucial, without it, your relationship could fall apart. Rule number 3: express your feelings openly, give him praise, and shower him with compliments.

S: Sad.

(How he cheers you up when you're sad?)

It can swing either way – he might make you laugh and lift your spirits, or he could say something that deeply offends you. If he's all about you, flirting, tickling, promising your favorite food, and cuddling protectively, he's sure to bring a smile. But, if he cracks just one egocentric, self-absorbed joke, you're gonna snap.

T: Teasing.

(How he teases you?)

Gojo loves to see you mad at him, he finds amusement with your annoyed expressions, that's why he pulls pranks on you so often. After arguments he places things on the higher shelves so he can tease you about your height, tall or short in all cases he looks like a giant next to you “oh can't reach that babes? lucky for you your handsome man is 6ft tall”. Would also make you blush and tease you a lot if he catches you staring at him.

U: Unique.

(Something unique or special about him?)

He's got this adorable habit of doodling, and surprisingly, he has a bunch of markers. He likes doodling on your shoes and phone case. These doodles usually reflect his mood. He's actually quite talented. His drawings often bring a smile to your face or make you laugh.

V: Vulnerability.

(Is he vulnerable in your relationship?)

Being vulnerable is tough for him; it hurts his ego and shatters the image he maintains as the strongest. When he's sad, he avoids letting his facial expressions betray him. Despite trusting you, he prefers to keep his worries to himself, even if it feels overwhelming. When he's emotional, he retreats into solitude, needing time alone with his thoughts until he calms down or figures things out.

W: Wedding.

(How would he propose?)

Even in serious moments like a marriage proposal, he keeps it playful. He might take you to the top of a building at night to enjoy city lights, and then suddenly, he drops the bomb: "I think we shouldn't be dating anymore." It gets super serious; you might even tear up, wondering what went wrong. He silently watches as you bombard him with questions, then out of the blue, he suggests, "Let's get married instead," leaving you completely stunned. With a silly smile, he adds, "Hm so what do you say? I even brought you a ring," pulling out a velvet box from his pocket. He makes up for the scare with a romantic night afterward.

X: Xtra.

(Extra headcanon)

Surprisingly, he enjoys gossiping and spills all the details, especially about those higher-ups. He uses a bunch of curse words and can spend hours talking shit about them and about how much he wants to use his curse technique on them to get rid of them. You often join him in these gossip sessions, especially when someone gets on your nerves.

Y: Yuck.

(Something he hates in general or in you?)

Gojo dislikes weakness, especially in people with potential but are afraid to try or improve themselves. With his strength, weakness irritates him. He hates it when you gives up on something you're good at just because you're anxious or lack self-confidence. He'll go out of his way to try and motivate you and knock some sense into you.

Z: Zoo.

(Does he like pets?)

Gojo is open to the idea of having a pet, like a puppy, because they're energetic and adorable. However, his busy schedule doesn't allow him the time to properly care for it—feeding, showering, and regular walks. But if you insist, he might consider it.

[certifiedsexed]

hey so i am a Rambler so i'm going to elaborate on why i'm asking but, what would you say is the adequate age to have partnered sex with someone of your age you're in a serious relationship with and trust very much?

i'm going to try to like, tldr it a Lot but basically my girlfriend and i have been dating for nearly 7 months (anniversary tomorrow! let's go), she currently lives to the city next to mine (like, 50 minutes away or so?) and while we've seen each other a good few times and our parents are friends with each other she's recently told me that her and her family is moving to my city, and fortunately actually pretty close to my house too (yay!). we're very good with communication (at least i think so 😭) so we've talked a bit about sexuality-related stuff and we both agree we'd like to try something like that when we both live near each other. both of our families are very sex positive and open about letting us do our thing if it's in private and we do research first but then my doubting comes in because what if we're like... not prepared enough? or not mature enough? though i don't actually know what exactly i think could happen (i think it's generally "what if we're not mature enough to consent" or "what if we get hurt somehow" but mostly it's just a strong Anxiety about, if i may say, fucking it up) i don't want any of us to be like, affected in any way because of that so i'm a little scared LOL. you're the best resource i have for this that isn't my parents (thought that'd be an awkward conversation) so i thought i'd try to ask you about it! :0

also since i just realized i didn't even specify on this at the start (😭), i am 13 and she's 14 with only a few months of difference, tho i'm pretty sure that when she moves here it'll be after my 14th birthday? (we are also both afab, i assume that doesn't really matter but just in case you wanna give any specific advice?)

thank you SO SO much in advance just typing this out has eased my thoughts a little bit

Hi! I'm a fellow rambler, so welcome. ^_^

My simple answer? There is no specific "age" that is "adequate" for you to have sex. There's also no specific age as a child where you "can't" consent to having sex with someone in your age-range.

If you both want to have sex and decide to have sex, that's great! That's an adequate time to have sex!

If you're not prepared enough, let me tell you what happens: you stop and you talk about it.

It sounds like y'all are doing well and there's no reason for your communication to suddenly die the moment sex becomes part of the equation.

If y'all can talk about having sex, then you can try to have sex and talk about it as you try. Not being prepared enough does not have to be a nightmare situation, Anon.

Realizing "oh hey I don't know how to do this" can be fixed simply by saying that to your girl and asking, "Do you know? Should we do some research?"

It's not a failure and its perfectly okay to realize you don't know what you're doing! You haven't done this before! In fact, your girlfriend might not be prepared and not know what she's doing! In that situation, you should be kind and explain if you know or say, "Let's do some research" if not.

If she wouldn't respond in a similar manner or would be mean about it, then that's a sign not to be having sex with her and that y'all need to have a conversation about respect. Still not a failure on your part.

As for maturity…Maturity is such a bullshit line to draw in the sand, Anon.

There's no specific "maturity level" you have to reach to have sex. If you guys try to have sex and suddenly stop communicating, or don't know what you're doing and just get mad at each other, that would be an issue but its literally just a communication issue, there's no actual "maturity" level you need to reach.

If you get hurt somehow, y'all are actually in a great space for that to happen! You have supportive parents, you have a girlfriend who communicates with you! It sounds like y'all will be okay even if you DO get hurt. That's actually great.

Much like fucking up, its possible but it doesn't have to be a nightmare situation or a relationship end. It's okay. People make mistakes, it happens. Sometimes that actually makes it better and/or more memorable.

Just keep communication in mind. If you decide on having sex, talk to your girlfriend about your worries! Let her know you're scared of fucking up. She might be too and that's a good conversation to have!

So is asking her if she has any boundaries or anything specific she does or does not want to try! This is a great chance to improve y'alls communication skills, frankly.

Certain websites [like Scarleteen or even Teen Vogue] have good information if you're trying to do research on sex, just for a starter. Also HUGE congrats on that anniversary. <3

I'm not sure how much this helps but let me know if you have any other questions, Anon. Wishing y'all luck. <333

[traegorn]

Okay. So I got a super long ask that is... a lot. And it's anon, so I can't respond privately -- but I want to address it.

Y'see, sometimes I get asks which I'm pretty sure get sent to me just because I'm a witch who happens to publicly exist on the internet. Like the person sending it to me doesn't seem to be someone who's familiar with the kind of stuff I say -- or else they probably wouldn't have sent it to me to begin with. And they ask me for advice or help though. So I feel like I want to give it still.

But it's probably not the advice they think they want.

Let's see how this one starts:

So this is how it starts. Now the first thing you might be asking yourself is "When has Trae ever talked about 'demons' online?"

The answer is never. This is not a thing Trae talks about. Frankly, I don't even like the word, because it frames the supernatural world in a very Christo-centric viewpoint. Like I believe in noncorporeal things and "energy-shit," and I believe those things can be malevolent -- but calling them "demons" invites a framework I literally do not believe exists.

(You can think whatever you want -- I'm not in charge of you. I do think plenty of witches need to unpack their Christian upbringings though)

The other problem with the "which demon" line is that it implies some sort of authoritative list exists that wasn't just some jackass occultist writing down everything he could think of to piss off some Christians -- or some Christian pissed at some non-Christians trying to other and villainize them. These two kinds of people are largely where 99% of those lists come from.

If a noncorporeal being exists, and if it's malevolent, and if it's "attached" to someone... it's just some guy, y'know? This isn't some grand story. When someone gets mauled by a bear, we don't say "But it was Lord Ursus! King of all Bears!"

Nah. It's just "that bear over there ate Bob's face." We might name it then -- "That Face-Eater" -- but it's not special.

Anyways. That's just the first paragraph. There's so much more, I'm going to put in a cut.

Okay. So... The person "Dabbles." You know I'm a witch, right? And that I literally promote people dabbling? Like I want folks to try stuff out. And like when y---wait, SUCCUBUS? I read that, right? You think she's a literal succubus.

Can she shape shift like in that Piers Anthony book?

This is where I kind of immediately fell off. Like, no ma'am -- she is not a succubus. She might be a shitty or manipulative person, I don't know - I just have your account of things, but she's not a literal succubus.

Human being. She is a human being. I don't even know what "creates deceit and deception" is supposed to mean. Are you saying she lies to them? Or are you saying she makes them want to lie? Because those are very different. If it's the former, okay -- liars lie. Got it. If it's the latter... nah. That is not happening. If they're lying, then it's their own damned fault.

And like... I don't want to dismiss the concept that a malevolent being can't attach itself to someone, because I've... seen shit I don't talk about. But, like, they don't make people do shit. People do shit all on their own.

If you're to be believed, it just sounds like you're dealing with a manipulative jackass. No external paranormal shit required.

But we continue:

So I dated this person for a while, and she was great when we were the only people in the room. Like when it was me and her, the person she acted like made me fall in love with her.

But the moment a third person entered the room, she would become someone else. She was sharper, meaner, and more defensive. She wasn't the same person.

We broke up for a lot of reasons, but this certainly made it easier.

You're right, this isn't DID. This is just normal, human shit. We become different people at different times. And sometimes the better version we think we see in someone else isn't the true version of them at all, or at least it's only a part of them.

And sometimes when someone changes in a way you don't like in a different context, it's not always the context's fault.

You need to define "portal." Different people use that word for different stuff.

And I see we're moralizing drug addiction. Great. Awesome. Horse is preeeeeeetty high there for someone going to random witches on the internet for advice.

And, like, ma'am (I've been assuming you use she/her from the context of this -- but I'm sorry if I'm wrong), you're asking a witch this and bringing up tarot and talking to spirits and... like... that stuff's normal for like 80% of the people I talk to on a daily basis. None of those people have "demons" attached to them.

It's a weird thing to bring up as "proof."

I feel like you've forgotten what community you've come to with your issue.

So, nothing affects them. Could it be, and I want you to consider this, that it's because nothing supernatural is happening.

There are so many details that I'm missing here, so I can't be sure of the actual dynamics at play, but what you're describing to me sounds like an incredibly mundane, human scenario.

Like, it literally just sounds like you're describing an incredibly unhealthy home -- and I'm not even sure if that's true since I just have your version of events. I don't even know the ages of the people involved. You have given zero indications of anything out of the ordinary happening that isn't explained by "one or more manipulative people are somehow involved in this story and it's unclear which ones they are."

This is not a "demon." What you've described is just dysfunction.

[vladdyissues]

Yeah sorry if my question was a bit confusing. But that question was meant for you. Let me try to rephrase my blabber.

When it comes to the few times you've drawn Danny as trans is it because you found the idea to be hot instead of thinking of danny as a character? if it wasn't only sexual when it comes to T-Danny then what do you think of the Trans Danny headcannon?

That is as literal as I could try to phrase it 😓. Sorry if that might sound accusatory but I mean this question with no malice, just curiosity. Since to only times you have drawn him as trans are sexually I was wondering. lastly, I felt the need to clarify that I am trans because the times I have said I don't like a trans danny someone has always bashed me for it, either calling me transphobic or don't appreciate any kind of representation when the “representation” in your case is just porn. I trans headcannon characters all the time, I do in fact think your art of trans danny is really good. But Danny as a character just doesn't hit my trans-dar as it does for many others. Because for me he's square is not going to fit into the circle hole.

You may be asking these questions with no malice, anon, but I'm detecting a strong tone of disapproval. I could be mistaken—it might just be a language barrier and words getting muddled—but nevertheless, please allow me to respond with some questions of my own:

Why does it matter what I think of the trans Danny headcanon? I'm no authority figure. I'm just some goofball on the internet. My opinion is no more (or less) valid that the next person's. If I prefer Danny as cis, that's just my personal view. I'm not intimidated by other people having a different opinion than me, nor am I going to force them to see things my way. I'm not a missionary. I don't proselytize. Live and let live, that's my golden rule.

Since to only times you have drawn him as trans are sexually I was wondering.

I like drawing erotic art. I decided at the last moment to challenge myself and draw a trans variation of Danny having sex with Vlad. I thought it would be cool to try something different. It's really no deeper than that.

I felt the need to clarify that I am trans because the times I have said I don't like a trans danny someone has always bashed me for it

I'm sorry you've received backlash over an opinion, anon. No one should ever feel the need—be forced, in other words—to disclose private, personal information about their sexuality or gender in order to justify something as silly as a headcanon about a cartoon character. I find that kind of behavior detestable. It's only a few degrees' difference from forcing a person to expose their genitals and "prove their gender" before they're allowed to use the restroom.

You said "times" in the above quote, so I gather this has happened more than once. Do you regularly find yourself mentioning that you don't like trans Danny to other people in the fandom? Are they asking you point blank, or are you offering your opinion freely? Could it be your choice of words is causing others to get the wrong impression of you? Because in my experience, a simple "trans Danny is okay, it's just not my thing because of personal gender reasons" is a perfectly valid explanation, and I don't know anybody (other than haters) who would call a trans person transphobic over something like that.

[...] when the “representation” in your case is just porn

The phrase "just porn" raises a lot of big red SWERF flags, anon, I can't lie. What's wrong with porn? Does it have any less merit than other forms of media?

I don't like making assumptions, and please correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems that the real issue here—indeed, the underlying essence of this ask and the previous one—is not that I drew Danny as trans exactly one time, but that I drew him having sex (enthusiastic, consensual, and clearly pleasurable sex) as a trans man.

I will not apologize for that.

Closing thoughts: One person's representation is another person's dysphoria. I get it. If you don't like trans Danny content, anon, don't go looking for it. Block the #trans danny tag. Don't go around asking people what they think about the trans Danny headcanon. You've already established that you don't like it, so why should it matter what someone else thinks? Are you looking for approval? Someone with a similar view? Why risk getting angry, or bashed again, or possibly triggering yourself? It's better to just avoid bringing it up. Focus on the things you do enjoy.

This fandom is big enough for all of us and our many different headcanons. Trans Danny, cis Danny, intersex Danny, eldritch monster Danny with questionable anatomy, there's plenty of room for them all. I don't have to agree with every single person's opinion, but I can certainly respect that opinion and quietly, gracefully step away from conversations and content that doesn't pertain to my interests.

This is fandom. We're all here voluntarily.

[pleasantspark]

I know I said I wasn't getting involved but this really is bothering me.

Sometimes the critic side gets a little too trigger happy in allegations when it comes to people criticizing Viv or her Shows, they complain [controversial person] is borderline obsessed when the same can be applied for everyone in this fandom.

It feels like you all ran out of shit to complain about in the critical community rather than actually taking a step back and doing other things you scroll through other critics. air out a extremely incorrect buzzer statement with a very oftentimes ironic and tone deaf response with no thought otherwise and people agree because they believe anything someone says because [popular opinion at the time].

Everyone, you can call out hypocritical behavior. I only did because this behavior is literally what we the people shat on the stan's for doing it, and now that we're doing it, we think its fine?

I seen people say "URURFKODSFIKSDF CHAI IS OBSESSED!!!11!" when you guys post about the same animation problem, the same drama issue, the same this that and the third or you post about how the critical community is toxic when you too also contributed to most of the toxcity.

Look, if you want change here's an idea.

Actually handle issues with people privately.

I don't stress this enough, how old are you guys? 20? mid 20s? Calling people out is really childish, if you have a problem with someone please take it in DMs, the main reason for the R word discourse was because supposed adults didn't actually handle this properly.

I know I am hang up on this, but I really cannot stress this enough that none of you will actually solve issues when you avoid accountability and responsibility by responding to someone AFTER they requested you before and made a response calling you out,

You know, the same behavior we critiqued Viv for? There's tons of people in this community that has this issue and it doesn't help they surround themselves with anons who (might as well be themselves) that egg on this toxicity.

You are adults. Act like it.

"But Anons pre-"

If an anon stirs a pot, delete the ask, and make it clear you won't do it, you are a pushover who wants it for drama.

This community became the very community we shat on, and this is no longer a critical community this is literally the DeviantArt Ranting Community.

If I was still in, I would have called out anyone who dared do this shit, but it's clear that I did my due diligence and will be calling out the community in it's entirety. See ya soon and PLEASE CALL THE COMMUNITY OUT MORE OFTEN INSTEAD OF BLINDLY AGREEING WITH THEM BECAUSE [POPULAR OPINION GOOD, CHAI BAD.].

[wannaeatramyeon]

Yandere!DG + Reader: His hold on you

TW: as above, nothing too bad tho. Platonic. Could be read as x reader if you want. For non-anon anon request.

Friends tell you you're lucky to know someone like DG, to have him look out for you. Introduce me, they would ask and when you shake your head, their eyes cloud with resentment and jealousy.

DG had warned you not to share anything about him, no matter how much your friends begged. A little part of you preens at the special connection between the two of you. It's private, intimate. A secret little club just for you and him.

You hold onto this connection and thought when your friends distance themselves.

Even your own parents are blinded by the pop-idol persona; the fame and fortune and perks of being associated with the country's favourite singer. All too happy to let you and DG spend time together. They dismiss any concerns with a wave of their hand while surrounded by lavish gifts.

So who can you actually tell, who will listen when you mention how uncomfortable you are. How you can't exactly put your finger on why your skin crawls, your stomach drops, and the discomfort continues to grow each time DG contacts you.

(Truly, the hold he has on you scares you, you admit to yourself that one time. The last time you can recall DG leaving you just about long enough so you can form your own thoughts. Moments of clarity before he sinks his claws in again. He has only made that mistake once.)

He used to be sweet, and you would respond to him giddy with excitement. DG! A K-pop idol! Paying attention to me!

But now he feeds you far too much bitterness. It's unbalanced. You never know which side of him you get.

When he pushes just a little bit too much, when you want to scream at him to leave you alone through tears, he's all sunshine and sugar again. Like how it used to be. Like he knows what words are on the tip on your tongue.

And when you're all buttered up, then he would chide you for being silly and young and you should just listen to him, his voice light and full of laughter. Hasn't he been good to you? Hasn't he been good to your parents?

Yeah he has, you concede. He's older, more experienced, seen the world. He's right. What do you know in comparison? Barely anything.

So it's fine. Everything is fine. You're just spiralling for nothing.

On top of that, the last few months have been better.

He's been nothing but nice to you. You can't bring yourself to ruin such a good thing.

Yet something unsettles you. And you know you sound insane. Crazy. Because why would DG do this? Why would he even break in?

Things are misplaced in your own room, or something you swear was right there disappears for a few days and miraculously turns up.

Little harmless things. Things you should hardly notice it but the insidiousness builds and builds and builds.

A book missing on your bookshelf, photos switched around.

You stop being able to relax or rest in your own home, only catching moments of fitful sleep as your mind races and your sanity hangs by a thread thinking someone has been in your space and messed with your things.

Even your ID disappeared. You turned your room inside out, was shouted at by your parents for losing such an important thing before it appeared on your bed.

Lying right in the middle, on top of the covers. So obvious. You can't have missed it.

Could you?

"Why would I do that? How? You must be seeing things." DG denies when you ask, body looming over yours and eyes flashing.

Maybe he's right. This is DG after all. He's busy. He's been nice lately. You don't want to rock the boat.

You think about your missing items, the misplaced things. Yeah. It is ridiculous to think DG would have any involvement.

Must all be in your own head.

"Y/N," he says, lips quirking and eyes a little unhinged, "It's funny though. Isn't it? If someone messed with you like this."

Is it? You think it's not, but you don't know what to think anymore.

"Seeing you go a little crazy," DG prods.

"It's ok to laugh." Somehow that feels like a threat.

So you laugh and laugh and laugh yourself sick, until your eyes are streaming and you convince yourself it's tears of laughter and DG is right.

[daylighted]

I’m sorry to be that person but i simply can’t understand what happened with artyandink, i love their posts and bots and i would just like to understand better what happened since the posts and everything weren’t really clear for me 😭

so basically the very short & sweet ( update after finishing writing it: it was not short or sweet ) answer is that she word for word copied one of my writings, alongside many of my other ideas ( at the very least mentioning wanting to do them at the same time as me so she could put hers up first and get validation for an idea that wasn't hers, i imagine, but that's speculation ) and then when i stopped letting it happen and called her out on it, she blamed it on photographical memory of all things, but at least stopped, so i thought it was done.

phase two is when she started being incredibly rude and passive aggressive to me or anyone that would listen about how we didn't interact with her stuff anymore, and how it wasn't fair. which is honestly incredibly rich, isn't it? because she rarely interacted with our things, or gave them the recognition that she wanted in return. but really, it wasn't about fairness and doesn't matter if things are interacted with equally or whatever, she was just mad nobody was hyped for her things anymore because the only things we saw from her, weren't her own ideas.

in between this phase & phase three is when she starts genuinely harassing me personally. messages on discord privately, tagging me in a public server if i don't respond in time ( we have a six hour time difference! when it's morning for her, it's the dead of night for me! ), private messaging me on tumblr, sending asks on tumblr. literally all in the same 30 minute span max. always asking things along the lines of if i think she's a bad person, or guilting me personally, about never interacting with her things.

this is not like an excuse or whatever, but at the time, i was hardly posting on tumblr / less than i am now, because everything i wrote got taken, so i lessened it a lot. i was only ever on tumblr to post my things when i did, and that was it! very rare! so interacting with her things was hardly ever on my mind!

phase three. personally feels like a crashout to me because it's actually insane. the same day that she again messages me, this time asking if i got an anon abt her, which alone is crazy that even happened because who talks shit about someone, to someone else? that they might not even know follows? i tell her no, because it obviously feels shady as fuck. and so she starts being really weird. things like, well i got this ask in the screenshot i'm sending you, and a second saying you definitely got one, but i don't have the screenshot of the second, because i deleted it, but not the first. shady, right? anyways. same day as all of this, she gets on the server like, hey guys, i'm gonna let my friend take over my entire tumblr & discord, her name is dani. hope this is okay! and not even two seconds later, she was suddenly 'dani.' please keep track that this is her second persona. so obviously, she gets kicked because it's weird as fuck, it was honestly just something you had to be there for to see how weird it was, i guess? she changes her tumblr user to daniisms, starts messaging all of us ( in the server, i have not clarified! ) privately and stuff, saying that well, arty was just depressed, that's why she gave away the entirety of her accounts. like any of that makes sense to do.

phase four is actually the most diabolical one because she gets blocked! by all of us! because again, it is weird as fuck. this is when she private messages people again but now her excuse is, oh, NONE of this was me, i've been gone for a month, this was a hacker. so hackers steal supernatural writers tumblrs and their discords, somehow, which mind you, how would anyone even know her discord user? it's nowhere on her account from the last i saw, and so genuinely, how would a hacker know this information to hack her there? so hackers make up an imaginary friend to blame their issues on, and when it fails, that's when they leave your account to you? and also you just so happen to conveniently come back right when the hacker is gone?

the text messages she used in her 'evidence' were faked. you can recreate them exactly in iphonefaketextmessage, something that every writer i've talked to knows, because we've used it at one point for our own writing. suddenly, now that 'she's' back on her own account, she's continuing fics that her hacker made.

she's clearly convinced herself that i'm an enemy and that i'm stupid all at once, because even to this day she is bringing up my name to people that she wants to befriend now that people aren't interested in being friends with someone so conniving and honestly? psychotic at this rate. she apologizes in my messages for everything, still not taking any accountability, and then to everyone else & where she can be perceived, she's trying to discredit whatever i say while trying to paint herself as a savior for "shutting down anyone that says a thing bad about dahlia."

even in her defenses against herself, she literally cannot stop herself from trying to take away from what SHE put me through.

i hope this is further clarification. a lot of the evidence of things i say in here is in my first post, and there's also more i didn't talk about. this was supposed to be short & sweet but it is an incredibly complicated manner, and i just want to be done with it, but she won't stop bringing me up.

and i hate that i have to say this at all, but i really, truly hope this isn't you, arty. seriously. the consequences of our actions are tough, but that's why they're consequences. if you see this, and i know somehow you will, even though i keep you blocked and don't talk about you except for the one post i made and one reblog i did yesterday when you again had my name in your mouth, please leave me alone.

[bratbarzal]

I don’t get why you can’t handle things privately off anon with these people rather than shaming them and sending hate

key word there is privately - I have messaged creators privately and had conversations about my intentions and about my posts, I’m genuinely not the type of person to indirect all the time

the only creator I haven’t messaged has me blocked, so I can’t - I really don’t like the idea of someone saying I’m trying to stir up drama when the intention with the posts I’ve made (asks aside because I can’t control what people say but when I respond I’m trying to have a wider discussion about issues and taking it away from individuals at this point) has been to try and make this space safer for everyone involved

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again I’m not trying to police what happens on here but I AM trying to say we all need to be held to account. everyone has a place as long as they’re responsible with the space they’re given.

idk where the conversation got derailed but it IS your responsibility if you’re putting content out to do so safely and that’s the only agenda I’m trying to push. tags and warnings are how you do that, and if you add them THANK YOU that’s the only issue I’m trying to raise here, we all had a great opportunity to have an adult conversation and make positive change and somewhere along the way it’s been spun to the point of serious offence to where the actual issue is being overshadowed and undermined

I was never shaming anyone for what they write or how they write, only that I have seen poorly labelled fics more and more on here, and it’s becoming a problem and as someone who was on this site long before I should have been, I know the impact being exposed to this content has and I wanted to try and raise awareness of that fact so that we can all just be more considerate

I would never send anon hate to ANYBODY that’s not my style and it never will be you can literally ask around, I’m not afraid to DM people if I think there’s an issue

If I have something to say I will say it to your face (and if someone has me blocked that’s their own personal choice but they obviously don’t want to hear it and I don’t appreciate being made to look like a mean girl for not being direct when I’m not given the opportunity TO be)

but I did say in my original post, I knew it was going to get spun into something and I tried to make my point clear. I’m not gonna be silenced on it but I’m done with this whole thing now I’ve said what I wanted to say

I also don’t appreciate being linked countless posts from certain people who continue to indirect and won’t approach ME but IM the hater and IM the one being toxic. If you don’t like me block me, unfollow me, forget about me.

[antimony-medusa]

forgive me, as I genuinely don't want to come off as mean or anytihng like that, but per your reasoning as to why Phil is adamant about not doing lore on realm smp, I feel like some of your reasons go beyond what he has explained on stream (his own reasons being that after the mental exhaustion of qsmp he just wants a break from doing lore--since he emphasizes that he's just not doing lore "for now" and it's not a permanent thing as far as he has stated), and that it comes across more like theorizing, which in my eyes, feels a touch parasocial in a way?

you're right in that he very much prefers to have control over his own lore, something he makes very clear, but to say he's possibly been "soured on the idea of character storytelling" or that "lore" no longer is appealing to him are... I'm sorry, I don't know where this had come from, and it feels more like theory than otherwise. And it's just that, I think that if we are talking about how parasocial some audiences are and how we really shouldn't be like that, I also feel as if this should apply to a lot of other things, like theorizing on something a content creator does or doesn't do. I guess what I'm getting at here is that, would you find it parasocial to make up theories or speculate on why a content creator does or doesn't do something, even when they've already provided a different reason? or is there something here that makes this different from parasocialism that I might be missing?

Anon, if you think I'm too parasocial for your comfort, you are free to block me. To my mind, it is the nature of communication to attempt to derive meaning from language, and sometimes I attempt to read subtext under literal spoken communication, using the context of other things a person has said (which is an interesting challenge for me, as I am quite autistic). I did not intend to express that this (possibility of phil being burnt out on lore dependent on other people) is absolutely what is happening, as I do not know Phil Watson the person, and am not privy to his thoughts. In response to someone theorizing that phil's lore actions were motivated by a desire to avoid chat being parasocial (something he has not attributed his actions to), I intended to offer an alternative theory, based on what he's said about the ending of DSMP, QSMP and Origins. Which he has spoken on multiple times.

This was absolutely theorizing, but I feel comfortable that it was a level of parasociality that I am okay with, as a) this is a level of analysis that I bring to most language-based communication, attempting to draw a fuller picture by bringing in context of other things a person has said, b) I don't know if it's true and did not intend to make a statement of prescriptive fact, it's just a thing that makes me go huh, maybe this is going on, sure don't actually know though! I apologize if my lack of attachment to this idea was unclear, that was an off the cuff response where I was mostly responding to the idea of phil being "dismissive" of lore, c) I did not say this in his chat or TTS, or in person, this was a response to an ask on my tumblr blog only seen by people who click onto my blog, i didn't even maintag it. It does not affect Philza Minecraft's life in the way that people showing up to tts "dadza can you adopt me" while he's at work does, if entirely privately on a different part of the internet I post "man it would sure suck to have your storytelling efforts blown up repeatedly, I'm not surprised that he's taking a step back right now. Anyways I'm going to put the kettle on".

There's theorizing in direct contrast to someone's stated explanation, and then there's like— having thoughts about the nature of joint storytelling. It's not a worrying level of parasociality to have thoughts about people, you can consider their actions beyond the literal words they say. I have also been theorizing that Phil didn't like people calling him Dadza for the past year, based on him spamming the PARASOCIAL response and his facial expressions when it happened. Or you know, I attempted to read the social cues.

I probably should not have responded to this in detail so I apologize for dropping another essay on your dash, everybody. My word count today has been HORRIBLE because I'm spending it all talking on tumblr. When I get locked into the sprint channel for good in about two days you'll know what happened.