#wibta (would i be the asshole?)

[aita-blorbos]

WIBTA for having my son killed?

I (M60) recently married my son (M23)'s beloved fiancée (F23). Please note that this was a political arrangement. Ever since the marriage, my son has been depressed. My wife is also deeply unhappy and clearly does not love me. I know this because I caught her in the act of being alone, without a single lady-in-waiting as a chaperone! Naturally, I assumed that she must have quickly dismissed an illicit 'companion' before I arrived - namely, my son. As punishment, I banished my wife's best friend from court, but that still doesn't solve the root of the problem: I suspect adultery between my wife and my son.

I am the king, so it is very important that my wife is faithful to me. It is also important that my son doesn't embarrass me in public. However, at a ceremony where everybody in the kingdom is invited to watch heretics get executed, my son had the audacity to demand to be made regent of one of my provinces. I wouldn't let myself be tricked. I knew he wanted access to an army he can use to kill me, and if he didn't do that, he'd probably try to fight for religious freedom. I refused, and he drew his sword on me! Fortunately, my most trusted confidant (M21) who I met a week ago was there to disarm and arrest him.

Not long after that, my mistress (F25) stole my wife's jewelry box and showed it to me. It turns out that my wife keeps a portrait of my son with her most valued possessions! This is as close to confirmation that they are having an affair as I can get. I am now faced with a difficult decision. My son has stolen my wife from me and threatens to tear down everything our dynasty has fought for! The anguish my son's betrayals have caused me will hound me to my grave. Yet I fear for my immortal soul were I to order his death.

I asked my religious advisor (M80) what I should do, and he told me that God wants me to kill my son. HOWEVER, I don't fully trust his input, because he also tried to threaten me into killing my confidant - my first love! So, I'm trying to find a second opinion. WIBTA for eliminating a traitor and adulterer who is also my son?

[garbage-waifu]

hey Tumblr hive mind, I have a question of morals.

I am a low level manager at a charity retail store. I set up an interview for a candidate for a backroom position and the candidate interviewed yesterday. The store manager interviewed her, and the manager said the candidate was "very very shy but extremely sweet, which wouldn't be an issue in the back room".

The manager then had the candidate go to the assistant manager, who was doing the task the candidate was interviewing for. It's a semi-complicated task, so I understand if the candidate kind of just watched what the assistant manager was doing. But I walked away and came back a couple minutes later, and the candidate was in the task area looking over the guides used and the assistant manager was talking to her in a training way, which feels really off for a first interview. After ten or so more minutes, the candidate was thanked for their time and dismissed.

The assistant manager told me that the candidate was "too shy and timid to make goals".

I am seething. You stuck a shy, anxious person in a weird, close scenario (in the task area they were less than a foot apart from each other), doing a task that should be paid training during an interview, and then deny her because she is shy, which has no pertaining qualities to the solo task of the job.

Would I be the asshole if I said something to HR? I really am still ticked off about the managers forcing the interviewee into doing things that would have been paid training to anyone else, and then denying her for no real reason.

[aitapolls]

Story:

My stepdad has the habit of not throwing away rubbish. One of my chores is the kitchen (cleaning and dishes), and I get super frustrated when he doesn't throw them away.

It's not that he isn't ABLE to throw them away; he is fully able to and always dud before he started dating my mum, but now he just doesn't. He has a million different disgusting habits (not saying pardon me after burping and farting REALLY LOUDLY, keeping a ton of dishes in his shed and letting them grow mold etc, etc) but this is the one that frustrates me the most.

I've told my mum to ask him to stop, but she just says that I have bad habits too and to just put up with it.

[citizen-zero]

WIBTA for taking advantage of my boss’ possible manic episode?

I know this already sounds bad but hear me out.

So I (30M) am the sole employee of this guy (62M) who’s honestly just a miserable boss and an even more miserable person. It sucks so bad working for him—the pay is horrendous, he’s verbally abusive, and the working conditions are awful (in the winter I literally have to stay bundled up the whole work day because he refuses to put the heat on in the office). He wouldn’t even give me holidays off if it wasn’t for the fact that there’s basically nothing to do those days because everywhere else is closed. I’m almost positive he unironically thinks poor people should die if they can’t work. His nephew (aka his only living relative and just the nicest guy) came by yesterday to invite him to Christmas dinner and he told him he’d see him in hell.

I cannot stress this enough—it’s BAD. I’d quit, but it’s been hard finding a better job and I’ve got four kids at home, including one with special needs.

Anyway, so here’s where I’m wondering if I’d be the asshole. Today was Christmas Day and he showed up at my house out of nowhere (huge red flag, I know). At first I thought he’d forgotten I had the day off and he was here to chew me out, which was worrying enough, but then his whole demeanor changed and he was super happy and excited and talking about how he was going to raise my salary. He even mentioned possibly making me a partner in the firm.

Now if that was it, I’d feel a little weird about the suddenness of it but it’d be fine. I’m not going to complain about having more money to feed my family. But then he started talking about how he wanted to pay our mortgage off. He talked about wanting to pay for our son to get the very expensive medical care that’s probably going to save his life. He mentioned at one point that he was going to be donating a huge amount of money to charity too—I knew he was rich but it staggered me. All this from a guy who doesn’t (didn’t?) even want to turn on the heat or the lights because it costs too much money.

It was such a sudden and drastic change that happened very literally overnight and now I’m kind of concerned he’s having a manic episode or something. I really, really want to accept his sudden generosity (I probably will; my wife is all for it and thinks he owes it to us), and I would love to believe that he’s truly had a sudden change of heart (an actual Christmas miracle lol) but I’m just worried about the possible consequences of accepting huge financial gifts like this from someone who I believe might be experiencing some kind of break from reality. Even if there’s nothing legally wrong with it, I’m worried about the ethics of it.

TLDR, my asshole boss might be in the middle of a mental breakdown. WIBTA if I accepted his offer to pay off my mortgage and my son’s medical expenses?

[phosphorescentspaceman]

AITA for locking up my coworker for all time but having a situationship with his clone

I, (35ish (immortal) M), have my evil cannibal coworker ( 32ish (immortal) M) locked up in my basement (he kept murdering and eating the other employees even more than my best friend got them killed, which is saying something). He is very hot though, and his non-evil clone is making me Feel Things.

WIBTA if i asked him out?

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBTA for sabotaging my boyfriend's hookup with his girlfriend by filling his sex playlist with DJ Crazytimes

I (28NB, they/he) have known my boyfriend (call him C, 29M, he/him) for some 15ish years now. As long as I've known him, he has been on and off again with his girlfriend (call him T, 29NB, he/him). Respectfully, and with love, C and T are two of the worst and most annoying people I know. I want to marry them both specifically so that I can study them under a microscope like a parasitic virus.

Technically they're monogamous, but they're both hooking up with other people (myself included), usually the same people, because they have the same taste in lovers (bad). I have suggested that they give actual polyamory a try, and they reject the idea wholeheartedly. I think they get off on their dynamic, and far be it from me to try more than the bare minimum to dissuade them from it.

A couple months back, they got into a fight and broke up (again) because T (who was unemployed at the time) stole $50 from C (who works at GameStop) so that he could pay for a tank of gas (using C's car) to go hook up with another guy a couple states over. C was not upset that T was hooking up with another guy (because he was Also hooking up with that guy and knew he would not have a leg to stand on), but because of the stolen money + car.

C and I currently live together, because you can't afford an apartment on a GameStop salary, and also, like I said, he's my boyfriend. I'm making carnitas tacos next Friday, and T is coming over, because despite everything, he has nothing else to do on a Friday night. I know that C and T are going to get into a huge fight, and I know that it's probably either going to end with them getting back together out of spite or with someone's vehicle getting keyed--I'm betting on both.

Here's where I think I might be the asshole. I would really like to get inbetween them. Not in a "I don't want you to date each other" kind of way, but in a "holy shit you are both so insufferable i would like to get in on that" kind of way. I currently have my thing with C, and I've hooked up with T once in the past, but I would really like to make it official with him as well.

My plan is as follows: C and T are going to be in the same space again next Friday. They're going to fight, then hook up, then get back together again. C is one of those cybersexual "i built my own computer and run it on Linux" people, which is to say, he thinks tiktok and youtube are evil, and he he thinks spotify premium is supporting megacorporations. So, his sex playlist for T (we do not have our own sex playlist) is just an actual folder of mp3 files.

While C is at work, I'm going to log into his computer and change several of those mp3 files to DJ Crazytimes' Planet of the Bass, which I play often, and he is frequently annoyed by. My hope is that he'll realize it was me, he'll come and yell at me for ruining their hookup, T will take my side to piss him off, and the tension will get to the point where they let me join their hookup, and I can ask to date both of them after that.

To be clear, I recognize that I'm also Incredibly Toxic for enabling and encouraging this behavior. That said, I feel like I'm justified in this scenario considering C and T are both Also toxic, and furthermore, it is a known fact that I'm dating C right now, so for them to hook up, C would technically be cheating on me. I asked C's sister (a childhood friend of mine) for her take on whether it would be funny or just annoying, and she just told me that we all deserve each other, so I think I should be good. Am I being uniquely shitty here?

What are these acronyms?

[aretheytheasshole]

OP wanted to know if they'd be the asshole for leaving their girlfriend for humiliating them.

Not at all. Because drunk or not what she's doing is emotional abuse plain and simple. Even has the whole they say they're sorry and won't do it again but they do it again thing.

And if she's willingly telling random strangers at the bar about their sex life then who knows what she's spilling to people they do know personally. Stressed and drunk or not she's the asshole, not OP. As far as the size thing goes that does not make you any less of a man. Because plenty of women I know have told me just because it's small doesn't mean the man doesn't know how to use it. Just saying. So my advice to OP is to keep standing your ground and don't ever go back.

[vividwhatchamacallit]

Wibta for going to the ER without telling my mom?

So I (f17) have for the last 3 days have had extreme issues breathing to the point of not being able to sleep and have had both large parts emy body go numb, my mom (f39) had said it's multiple different things ranging from anxiety to asthma and insist going to a doctor would be a waste of time and we should just wait it out. I believe it is more than that however as the worst either of these has done is caused mild light headedness while this has gotten to the point that I my hand are so numb and shaky that I can barely hold something for more than a few seconds I'm contemplating going to the the ER tomorrow while she's at work to see bit I'm not sure. So wibta

[aita-polls]

WIBTA for listening to Hitler's speeches for a book?

I just want to preface by saying that I do not agree with those views at all. Causing millions of people to die just because they don't fit your standards for a perfect human is the most twisted and evil thing someone could do, and it's so shocking to see how many people agree with this.

I'm writing a dystopian novel, and the fictional country it's set in has a government that is controlling and very much based on fascism. It's not represented as good- they lie, convince young children to sign up for their army, murder, etc.

Now, a big part of this is how the people- other than those on the poor side- do not care. It doesn't affect them, so they don't see a problem. A child dies because he was accused of sneaking over from the other side? ‘Well, that's just how it is.’

Because of this, the leaders of the country have to be horrible people, but excellent leaders. Propaganda needs to be rampant. Otherwise, it's not as realistic that they'd be borderline worshipped.

I was thinking of listening to some of Hitler's speeches- as he's probably the most infamous leader who fits into that category- and having the leaders of this fictional country do their speeches in ways very similar to him.

However, I'm worried that someone will see what I'm listening to and think I'm a neo-nazi. Or that most of the speeches uploaded will have been uploaded by neo-nazis.

[real-raincode-takes]

WIBTA? I (??M) want to leave my partner (10000F) in my mind palace?

for some background: I (??M, adult) am an amnesiac. apparently before this happened, I made a deal with an ancient god where I gave her my memories in exchange for her murder powers. we’ve been together for a few months now.

well currently we are stuck in a magical torture labyrinth. the only way to get out is to either leave and break up with her, or I can stay here and die. she opened a emergency exit for me but now she’s acting all sad and saying “it’s fine” and “im used to being alone.”

she’s cool I guess. she’s really annoying and tries to rip my dick off but she’s also been really helpful. she’s also got massive boobs and sometimes she’s nice and we hug. and apparently I am the one who asked to be partners in the first place. but im not currently suicidal (which is her fault for making me want to live again)

look im pretty sure she dies either way. also if i leave i forget she ever existed, which sucks, but i dont want to die? so i dont think im TA, but she’s acting sad and it’s making me cry.

so would i be asshole if I leave the mind palace without her?

[trivalentlinks]

saw this cute reddit Am I the Asshole post by reddit user tway23421 with peak enemies-to-friends energy and thought my friends here might like it.

Also here's another enemies to friends story from its comment section with a similar energy, but from the rebellious asshole kid perspective (by reddit user D_OShae)

AITA (Am I the Asshole) abbreviations:

WIBTA = would I be the asshole

NTA = not the asshole

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1st image: reddit r/AmITheAsshole

Posted by u/tway23421 11 hours ago

WIBTA for spraying some kid with my garden hose daily after he walks all over our lawn

I (37M) live with my wife (37F) and son and daughter ( 9 and 11 respectively).

Recently, there has been this kid who comes by our house after playing soccer and either rides his bike or walks over the lawn with his cleats on his way home.

It started out as me giving him stern looks whenever I saw him, then it slowly progressed to me asking him to just go around.

The last time I asked him to stop he made a point to stomp extra hard and twist his feet in to the grass to piss me off.

Since then Ive just been hosing him. The first time I sprayed him with the hose he ran off, but then for some reason he just started standing there while I hose him like he enjoys it.

Its now progressed to me sitting on my lawn chair pointing my hose at him, and him just staring at me while he does so. Sometimes we even make small talk.

Im ngl, it started off as a really bitter relationship, but Ive actually gotten to know the kid quite well, we talk for maybe 15-20 mins everyday, and he doesnt seem to mind being hosed down after sweating hard playing soccer.

He comes by daily and we just shoot the shit while I hose him and he stands there for a bit.

Wife told me I need to stop, even after I explained it to her she said Im making us look like childish idiots.

I guess I could stop, but honestly its really funny waiting for him to come by and I see no harm in it. WIBTA?

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Comment by D_OShae 4 hours ago:

NTA, and this is actually kind of sweet.

When I was in my teens, I used to visit a small greasy spoon (diner) where my friend was a waitress. This old guy (late 70s) came in every day at the same time and sat in the same booth. He would order one of three meals. One time I sat in "his" booth doing some homework (and drinking a ton of coffee refills). The man came in and told me -- not asked -- that I needed to move. I did. It happened again a couple of weeks later. He called me a little bastard for sitting his both. A couple of days later, I did it again on purpose. He called me a little bastard and told me to move. I moved my books. The man grumbled and sat down.

Over the course of about two months this scenario got repeated. Somewhere along the line I asked him about a ring he wore. The stories started to come out. I learned he and his late wife came to that restaurant for over 20 years to have dinner. I was sitting in her place. However, I kept asking questions, and he kept relaying his stories. This man lead an AMAZING life, and I listened to any tale he wanted to share. This went on for two years.

When he died at the age of 81, I went to his memorial. I met his children and grandchildren. When they asked how I knew him, I told them my tale. His children laughed because he called everyone a little bastard, male and female alike. Then I began to recount some of the stories he told me. His children verified some, but then they heard stories he never told them. I ended up meeting with his children several times to tell them everything he told me.

Mr. Banhke, I am not a believer, like I told you many times, but I still think of you and your incredible life. You are not forgotten.

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AITA (Am I the Asshole) abbreviations:

WIBTA = would I be the asshole

NTA = not the asshole

[aita-blorbos]

WIBTA for turning one guy down for another?

I'm in a really awkward situation right now. I have... Something? I don't know how to define with this one man. Like I'm attracted to this really intense, passionate guy who's kind of... Really insecure. See, this guy was my music tutor, and I recently got an opportunity to advance my career in music thanks to him.

Until now, none of my interactions with him have been face-to-face. A few weeks ago was the first time we ever met in person. He admitted he'd grown attracted to me, one thing led to another and I went back to his place. For the record, he's a bit older than me, but I'm an adult. I stayed the night, I don't remember everything that happened exactly but what I do recall was wonderful, at least until the morning after.

See, once I could get a good look at the guy's face, I realized he's kinda. Not the best looking man I ever met. He also kind of had a meltdown when I actually saw his face for the first time. It started with him screaming at me, calling me a lot of really cruel things, but then he just... Started crying. From what I could put together, he's been really harshly judged and isolated all his life because of his facial deformity and it's a hell of a trigger for someone to see his face when he isn't expecting it. I couldn't help but feel really sorry for him. At the same time, I'm kind of scared that if he has such a strong temper, he might hurt me in the future if I was to keep seeing him informally after he took me home.

As if that wasn't enough, I also found out recently that my ex-tutor has been up to some really shady shit to support himself, since my music lessons were pro bono. I'm not sure of every pie he's got his fingers in, but he's involved in blackmail and vandalism at least. I'm pretty sure that's how he facilitated that opportunity in my career, for instance.

Anyway, to further complicate things, I met someone else I've kind of always held a candle for since we were kids. See, I had this crush on a boy and I'm pretty sure he liked me back, but circumstances kept us apart and we only really got back in touch as adults. Funny enough, he actually asked me to dinner the same night I ended up going to see the first guy, but. Yeah. That happened.

Anyway, my childhood crush is still really sweet, and he's really into me too, and when I tried to tell other people that I was kidnapped by a deformed musical genius in a mask and whisked away to his lair under the opera house, he was the only person who believed me- at least once my ex-music tutor hanged a man from the roof of the stage.

So, WIBTA if I go out with my childhood friend?

[the-ace-with-spades]

People, do the WIBTA with me here for a sec

I live in a building with shared laundry room for all studios - two washers and two dryers.

I work 4-5 shifts a week but only have 3 scrubs sets so I need to do a wash mid work week. I come home at 8pm and within 10 min put the washing on, then 8.30 put it in the dryer for a slower cycle that doesn't destroy the scrub fabric, that takes 2h (sometimes I do my regular laundry in one bit as well, so it takes 2.5h total). I go to sleep after putting the dryer on as I have to wake up at 5.15am next day, and go to sleep, expecting to pick up the dry laundry in the morning.

More than once, I found that someone took out my clothes mid-cycle --- they're wet in the morning and on the side table in the laundry room, while someone else's dry clothes are in the dryer I was using. I end up wearing a wet uniform at work because I have no other choice really or borrow some scrubs from a friendly doctor (they can use their own bought scrubs, nurses can't) and get verbal with my manager if she's at work that day.

I've tried asking in the building group chat to please not do that or at least put my clothes back into drying once finished but no dice

(Would I Be The Asshole)

I would put them under the sink or give them a splash with a glass of water and then leave them on the same table they keep leaving my clothes/uniforms

[aita-irl]

WIBTA for confronting my partner about them sending hate anons to themself?

I (19X) have been in a long term, long distance relationship with my partner (19M) for three and a half years, and we are planning our future together and discussing where to live (different countries), so we are really committed to one another and are planning on staying together for all our lives.

One thing i have noticed though is that whenever my partner gets upset with me, or when i have been busy and unable to talk to them, they suddenly get an influx of hate anons.

The most recent time one of those anon clusters brought up that i probably don't love my partner, that i am cheating with someone locally, and that i will break up with them, which came up when i was away and unable to text them for most of the day. It only ever happens in situations like this, and since neither me nor my partner doesn't have a lot of followers i doubt that some random asshole stumbled onto my blog first and then decided to send my partner hate anons where they make shit up about me, and it upsets me because pretty much every singe time that happens, it's when i have been too busy to talk as much as we usually do, such as when i'm spending time with local friends, since i don't like texting people when i'm hanging out with people because to me that comes off as rude.

This behavior has escalated over the past year, and it's starting to frustrate me that my partner doesn't seem to trust me or try to talk to me about any of these thoughts, and i just don't know what else to do other than confront them about my suspicion, because it makes me feel like shit for having a life with a lot of obligations outside of just texting my partner.

I can't exactly know for certain if those anons are their own that they send themself, but since they mostly seem to appear during situations only they and i know about, it would be one hell of a coincidence for said anons to be real, and the writing style is relatively similar to the one of my partner, it makes me doubt the authenticity of the asks.

TLDR; My partner gets weirdly specific anons whenever they are upset with me, and i suspect said anons are fake and i don't know what else to do other than confront them about it.

[omalahsocs]

WIBTA if I refused to see my brother?

I (60Tre) just found out that my Sire Embraced a new childe. It's not like I'm jealous of my Sire's choices because he and I have bad blood (ha ha very funny, I know, we all have vaddy issues). The problem starts at home in the Chantry.

I've been living separately from them for a while now and it's been very difficult. It's a grudging sort of situation on both ends and there's a lot of drama because I'm not the picture perfect scholar that they expected my Sire to adopt sixty years ago. I -do- like to study though! I love to learn things, it's just that I don't necessarily want to learn the things they're wiling to teach me, and that's a whole other kettle of fish.

So the problem on my end is that I don't want to go to the Chantry to meet this new sibling. I'd be perfectly fine with meeting him elsewhere but the elders are being a bit cagey about why he can't come and see me. On top of this is the fact that there were ghouls that recently vandalized my haven while I was out of town taking care of business for the Prince. They left me a note that was basically to the point of 'this wouldn't have happened if you would just come home'. My haven was a mess from almost the top to the bottom, I had projects in the works in my lab that were destroyed and the physical notes were burned up (I do have copies on a thumb drive that I keep in my purse, so that's fine but it's really the princepal of the matter.)

I'm old enough that in any other clan it would be expected that I don't have to lean on my elders for help. And a big sticking point for me is that I want my independence. But there's my new brother. He doesn't know anything about what he's been pulled into, as far as I know. If I go back to the Chantry, I could be support for him. The kind of support that I never got when I was Embraced. So... would I be the asshole if I refused to see him?

[aita-rotomblr]

wibta for bitch slapping my ex girlfriend.

okay so I dated a girl named uh, let's call her. bitch. anyways, bitch was a hyuuge gold digger. shes said she changed her ways, and wants to get back with me, and it really seems like she has! she's a lot nicer, she doesn't ask for stuff, she's stopped being such a dick in general! but I have two amazing partners who treat me well. part of me feels bad, but if she approaches me again, should I listen to my gut and fight her? :3

-@saiidol