#who's the token cishet

[the-valiant-valkyrie]

Just Good Friends becomes SIGNIFICANTLY more hilarious with the introduction of two little headcanons

[salmon404]

I think the issue with having way too many guy friends as a kid is that I know have way too many trans women/femme friends now.

[beautifulboyjpeg]

I can't describe it, but George from Seinfeld is the most unintentionally trans character I've ever seen. They're just not cis at all, no matter which way I look at them.

[goldiipond]

it's not that uncommon for a large chunk of fandom to settle on one specific sexuality hc for a character but i am glad tpn tumblr is in pretty much unanimous agreement on the correct take that gilda is a lesbian

[calciumcryptid]

You know, I think I really popped off with all the Naturals Division leaders so far being queer women.

[non-un-topo]

When that first cramp hits 5 days before the start of the semester

[acerikus]

... So I may have gotten one of my irls reading homestuck woops

[lunarflare64]

*tries to make a cishet ordinary guy mcplain face OC*

Five minutes later

"Actually he's transmasc and has whore eyes and he's a wheelchair user"

[spencer-is-dead]

Getting back to a story I was writing and the premise is literally

🔥 RECLAIMING THE MAGIC SCHOOL FOR THE GAYS 🔥

That’s it the entire story

[limerence-leftovers]

I know two men who are currently single. One is 26, and the other is 38.

I’ve spoken with both of them at length about what they want in a woman, seeing as they’re cishet and white.

They both immediately went for physical attributes. Thin, but needs to have a nice butt. Boobs can’t be too big. One likes short hair, the other likes long hair. They also went into facial features for some reason. That was the part that made me really uncomfortable as I hadn’t expected either of them to have been that focused on appearances.

Aesthetics came next. Both want ‘alt goth / witchy’ women. It should be worth noting both of these men said their potential partner can’t wear too much makeup.

Lastly came personality and interests. They both said this is the most important thing to them, but they also ‘have to be pretty’. Oh, and they need to listen.

I have some single ladies I’ve also spoken with.

It’s the opposite. They rarely care about looks. It’s about chemistry, emotional connection, feeling safe, and sharing common goals / ideals.

While I know it’s not ‘all men’ it sure as fuck is a lot of you. Also both of these men think they’re part of the ‘good cishet white liberal men’ who voted for Kamala, despite one of them not voting at all.

He’s the 38 year old. To make things worse, he’s trying to date a 24 year old. 🤷‍♀️ His criteria for a potential partner was also under the age of 30 because it means less baggage and they’re still ‘fun to be around’.

You don’t want to know what he doesn’t bring to the table. Either of them, rather. 😅

We do have a male loneliness epidemic, but it’s not women’s fault. We don’t owe you anything. We’re not vending machines you put tokens into and get sex out of. Male culture made by men and perpetuated by men has made men this way. And it’s your job as men to fix it, not point the finger at us and say it’s our fault for not wanting to be with you. Some of us like myself want to actually HELP you, but you guys rarely want to listen. You instead want to complain to us about our gender and how unfair we’re being by not giving you a chance.

We don’t owe you anything.

On January 20th, 2025 and forward, they’re going to try to take our rights. They may succeed.

Men have to take from us because they’ve gaslit themselves into seeing us as the enemy, despite having driven us away by their own actions centered around self interest.

“It’s not all men. But it sure is a lot of you.”

[madphantom]

Huge fan of the token cishet guy in my friend group because he's a literal walking neon green flag, we had a situation where a creepy guy tried to get into the group and he

sat between the fem presenting people and the creep even though he himself was uncomfortable, but decided that his discomfort as a cis man is not as intense as ours as female read persons

was included in our strategy discussion on the situation and brought up himself that his best friend in the group was agreeing with too many of the creep's talking points

pulled his best friend aside and told him that he was hitting a sore spot in the conversation and it was making some girls uncomfortable

told us afterwards that he finds it completely unacceptable that we have to strategically plan a fun evening with friends. Immediately offered to take matters into his own hands if we wanted him to.

at some point during the discussion the next day he was so disturbed that he had to step aside and take a couple deep breaths, and by doing so he walked into the camera frame of the movie we were shooting and ruined a take. It was hilarious

texted the creep and told him that his behaviour is unacceptable and he has to leave. Discussed all his talking points with us thoroughly, then kicked the creep out of the group chat.

sent the text to another girl we know who's been trying to get the creep kicked out from her organisation for five years because he won't stop being touchy and trying to date below twenty year olds.

when I mentioned that I kind of feel guilty and like I overreacted he sent a long text that started with "discomfort is real. fear is real." and only got better and more supportive from there.

afterwards he went with us to a film screening showing a documentary about intersectional feminism and wrote into the group chat that the film offered a really interesting POV and he learned a lot from it

he's most likely coming with us to the feminist battle day protest on Friday even though he's nervous about going to protests

In conclusion: Neon fucking green flag, folks.

[motziedapul]

@hinaypod has been shadowbanned for unknown reasons - either bad actors, or an auto flag, or because we post links as part of our podcast promotion. Or perhaps the Palestine posts, who knows.

Either way, while we wait for Tumblr to respond to our ticket, it's the perfect time to tell everyone to follow the @ above if you want to follow a Magnus Archives inspired, Rusty Quill Network official podcast about a Filipina immigrant dealing with supernatural threats in Toronto caused by cursed objects and immortal rich occultists from the 1920s who fuel their magic off violent death.

It's about how supernatural horror will never trump the horrors of real life fascism, and about how love, especially queer love, can change the very fabric of reality.

The protagonist is a 5 foot tall cheerful, warm and sunny Filipina woman with magic powers and personal trauma that's ten times worse than your average grumpy podcast man. The main villain is a faceless, nameless, powerful immortal threat in a fine suit, only known as The Benefactor.

It's got that delicious, TMA inspired analog sound (from phone calls and tape recordings) and spooky standalone stories mixed with an overarching plot that a lot of our listeners have made murder boards and spreadsheets for 👀 Theory crafting is popular in this fandom. Some episodes are so scary that people can't listen to them in the dark, but others have described it as their comfort podcast. We have more sound effects and music than base TMA; it adds to the horror, but we also like to include old jazz and classical music depending on the moment and character.

It's female led with a BIPOC majority main cast, and it's so overwhelmingly queer that we have a token cishet couple (an immortal Instagram influencer and her drippy bloody monster husband who crawls on the walls).

The protagonists are queer, the villains are queer, and we've got love stories both wholesome and toxic, happy and tragic. Old men in love, young men in love, young and old men and women in love, women in love in the 1920s, women in love in the 1940s, men who love women then men, women who love women than men, gay betrayals, lesbian tragedies, trans seductions of 150 year old former villains, NB romances in-between taking over the world.... Romantic surgeries and beheadings...

And milk tea 🧋

We're not the kind of podcast that'll ever get as huge as The Magnus Archives, but that's not really what we're aiming for. We're just aiming to reach people who would resonate with our message and love Hi Nay as much as we do!

So give us a follow and a listen! You can find us on Rusty Quill (they approached us, not the other way around 😉✨) and on almost all the major socials, and of course, wherever you listen to podcasts.

[soup-mother]

sometimes the "pet cishet guy" in a pride space is actually a closet transfem who doesn't feel safe or comfortable coming out to the group (ask me how i know) and this uh...yknow.....also doesn't say anything about the presence of terfs in said group lmao. you don't even have a token tranny you have someone who doesn't even feel like you won't be transmisogynistic to her.

[pickled-flowers]

Ok so a while back I had a conversation with my friend's aunt. She's a trans woman well into her 50, who has kids and grandkids, and she came out when she was in her 40's. Me and my friends were talking about our queer space, and mentioned the well known "token cishet man"

Now, I'm sure most of us have that guy in our friend group, and it was common for us to just call him the straight guy. But my friend's aunt offered a different perspective ; she once was that token cishet man in a queer group of friends. Getting categorized so strongly as "the cis straight guy" made it harder for her to come out and accept herself. Since that talk with her, I've been careful about it, and guess what? Two women I've once called "the straightest person I know" (different occasions, and it was high school) now have girlfriends! You literally cannot know if someone is queer, and honestly most people are not the straight cisest person out there.

Anyways I'm not very articulate and English is not my friend but like I think everyone would benefit from being a little more careful about the way we treat our "token straight guy", she might be thankful later!

[sunshine-zenith]

Thinking about how Ballister tried to convince Nimona to conform when he’s been singled out and targeted his whole life — how the whole kingdom was against someone outside the original knight bloodline joining them, how he had to work harder and still faced backlash, how even on the day he was supposed to be officially made one of the knights he still visually stood out because his armor was black while everyone (save Ambrosius, Glorith’s descendant) wore white

He was ignorant and sheltered, and he was also a queer elder seeing a queer kid embrace things that scare him because he was hurt just for existing — imagine how much worse it would’ve been if he intentionally rocked the boat like that

Thinking about how, despite everything he tried, he was still labeled the villain and she was still called a monster, and eventually he was willing to throw away everything he knew and loved to protect her. Thinking about the joy he experienced once he started cutting loose and questioning all the limits he put on himself and others put on him. Thinking about how he was tokenized and targeted growing up, thrust in the spotlight from a young age and how even then very few people were willing to try and actually see him for who he is. Thinking about how he saw Nimona

Thinking about evolution and growth within the queer community, about in-fighting from actual good (if fear and ignorance based) intentions can be even more damaging than malicious intent, about how for some queer people being seen as “just like cishets” is a matter of life or death while for others embracing being “different” is the thing that keeps them going, and how empathy and understanding of others can unintentionally heal yourself. Something something something, we come together and then we win

[voidtongued]

Warframe is for transgenders, queer people, and the token cishet in the friend group who may or may not end up a gay transgender in a few years