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I think the issue with having way too many guy friends as a kid is that I know have way too many trans women/femme friends now.
#also the only guy friends I got now are trans mascs or trans men#I have one singular cis man friend#I feel like people should have more than that#like he’s become a token friend#for being cis and het#I PROMISE IM OKAY WITH CISHET PEOPLE I HAVE A FRIEND WHOS CISHET
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I love being a FREAK OF NATURE. i love being a QUEER. i love being a FAGGOT. i love being a SEX FREAK. i love being a DOG FAG. i love being TRANSGENDER. i love being SO NORMAL <333333
#i love you t4t tumblr you all make me feel so normal#hate being surrounded by cis het ppl 90% of my day#also Hi my brain meds are working now and I love being alive ☺️#jasperbarks#:3#ftm puppy#t4t puppy#puppy sub#bark bark bark
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Ok so a while back I had a conversation with my friend's aunt. She's a trans woman well into her 50, who has kids and grandkids, and she came out when she was in her 40's. Me and my friends were talking about our queer space, and mentioned the well known "token cishet man"
Now, I'm sure most of us have that guy in our friend group, and it was common for us to just call him the straight guy. But my friend's aunt offered a different perspective ; she once was that token cishet man in a queer group of friends. Getting categorized so strongly as "the cis straight guy" made it harder for her to come out and accept herself. Since that talk with her, I've been careful about it, and guess what? Two women I've once called "the straightest person I know" (different occasions, and it was high school) now have girlfriends! You literally cannot know if someone is queer, and honestly most people are not the straight cisest person out there.
Anyways I'm not very articulate and English is not my friend but like I think everyone would benefit from being a little more careful about the way we treat our "token straight guy", she might be thankful later!
#and like i get it ok having a str8 person in ur queer space and yadayada#but like! if theyre not causing shit!! they should be welcome! this might be their space as well!!#im a trans guy btw and everyone in this story is white so this is definitely not a universal thing#idk ive just seen how men are treated in queer spaces? not all obv but#like trans girls questioning their gender and not feeling ready to come out and tell people deserve to feel like they belong!!#idk idk#i was reminded of this conversation this weekend because i was like of well maybe hes trans has he thought about being a girl#and my friends all went “oh no impossible no no hes the most cis het man” like yea maybe i guess! but has he thought about being a girl
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I present to you: the horrors I would have had more for this ask, but as shown in my previous post, last time I tried to draw for this au it crashed my drawing program and ate my work cisfrin and mirahet scare me please let me out
#lembowe#lembart#> ✦ they/them#ask#in cis and het#fuck it im going to maintag this nobody can stop me#isat#in stars and time#i put way too much effort into this and all i recieve is psychic damage#the cost.... of being a true artist
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Sheep I am in awe of your dedication to fixing in cis and het
Im at aw of my own dedication too
I DON'T KNOW WHERE THE FUCK I AM 😭
just infected my brain like a worm and went "I can fix him"
#isat#isat au#in cis and het#idk its a fascinating convept of Bonnie being sent to a world of parodies#also apparently people have been taking the bit a lil too far#so trying to soften things up a bit#more comedy with angst#BUT I ALSO LOVE THE HORROR VARIANT THATS JUST INVASION OF THE BODY SNATCHERS OR MIND CONTROL THOSE ARE ALSO VERY FUN
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So, I finished squid game season 2 yesterday, and I've been trying to be normal and not have my first post about a wonderful season of tv be about a ship. But the voices are screeching, so I'm just going to say gyeong seok and hyun ju is an amazing ship. There's something about the way that they both extend kindness to others. The way that one of the last things young mi says is that gyeong seok is like a prince. The way that in the next round we watch for the first, and only time all season, as hyun ju is given the space to be a damsel when he saves her. The way that he sees her at her most vulnerable when she is grief-stricken and does his best not to leave her side for the rest of the season. The way that even through that he acknowledges how cool and badass her extensive knowledge of guns is. That's flavor, I have no idea what to tell you.
#squid game#246 x 120#park gyeong seok#cho hyunju#if you've seen my only other post about squid game you know how i feel about non cis het pairings with 5 seconds of screentime in kdramas#and they got me again damn it#no hate to no eul ever like at all#but her basically watching him through a scope for half the season was not enough to hook me#the camera was showing no eul's subtle compulsion toward gyeong seok#but i was visually seeing with my eyes gyeong seok's subtle devotion to hyunju#i feel like i'm being dramatic
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was losing my mind abt being a trans guy and how absolutely erased we are by fandom spaces when it comes to anything mlm being "fujobait" and "for fujos" but then calmed down a second and realized idc. i am the yaoi they detest and they love. i am god
#crossposted from my twt bc its a banger idc#i am god#transmasc#trans#amory rambles#tired of fandom spaces becoming more and more anti trans issues in general#boiling things down to yaoi and yuri and that only cis women are in fandom spaces is actually nuts#trans ppl are erased from fandom so much its literally so bad lmfao#not to mention nb and intersex people#since when were cis people driving the bus 😭😭😭 KSNDNMD#also idc abt fujos. theyll figure out their gender stuff soon enough amen#the attacking of anything mlm for being “fujo bait” is batshit though#even yuri and het stuff feels wholly uninclusive towards trans women imo
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ICAH is taking over my brain. I had a nightmare about Miracis and Cisabeau and woke up hating everything.
Unfortunately for me, I gotta finish a fic that takes place in this au
#in cis and het#in stars and time#im going insane#im going to throw something#i hate it here#get this au out of my brain (i will keep coming back to this au)#i don't think you understand#miracis actually scares me#i actually jumped away from my phone the first time I saw her#that's not a joke#im being serious
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watching the like normie and subby rafe-girlies react to him being tied up on the boat is so funny to me
its fully him tied up by the wrists like he's been in that exact position before and the captions "omg daddy <3 on my knees for him", its so silly, i love it lol
#being in a fandom mostly full of cis(het or wlm) sub/bottom women is so funny cause yall see these men SO differently than me#not in a negative way btw lol#its just so funny to me#but babe that was NOT his first time in that situation- just last time it was consensual /j /silly#🪲#cw suggestive#cw nsft#cw kink#obx fandom#obx#outer banks#obx content#rafe cameron#obx spoilers#obx s4#obx season 4#obx series#obx netflix#obx4#rafe cameron obx#rafe obx#outer banks season 4#rafe outer banks#outer banks rafe#outerbanks rafe#rafe cameron outer banks
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Played killer chat ONE TIME and now it’s four days later I have about a thousand saves, several play throughs and three reads of the Halloween story under my belt to mine speech patterns for a character I found terribly cringy and am now in love with. (In terms of cringy-edgelord-eboys not in terms of writing, he’s exceedingly well written). Anyways now I have around 5000 words of corruption based dddne ronin porn on my computer. Is this penance for my sins?
EDIT:I posted it btw its on my ao3 same username same spelling
#killer chat#killer chat fanfiction#ronin beaufort#it is a FANTASTIC GAME YALL.#RATE IT ON ITCHIO AND WISHLIST THE DEFINITIVE ON STEAM FOR ME PLS & TY#will post it on my ao3 when I’m done but I’m about half way? atm and need to go to bed so it’ll prolly be in a few days#I still need to edit my L x reader fanfic but it’s at 30k words and I can’t even look at it atm#too much#and my gtop one. why do I write so much fanfic??#(spoiler alert it’s bc I love it)#i posted it btw its on my ao3#EBOYS BEING CRINGY AS IN CIS HET STRAIGHT MEN USING THE ALTERNATIVE STYLE TO MAKE THEMSELVES SEEM EMOTIONAL AND EMPATHETIC WHEN THEYRE#ACTUALLY JUST FUCKING ARSEHOLES#like quentin tarantula wannabes like cole fucking “im so deep and edgy i treat people like shit” sprouse#not actual members of an alternative fashion subculture lol had to clarify
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Can I dump on you some fandom musings? So I’m a fairly new Tennant fan and I’m not all up to the whole lore, but it was my impression just from the general fandom chat that there is some ambiguity when it comes to DT and sexual/gender topics. Like, many fans seem to think or jokingly imply at least that he’s either not all straight or not all cis, and it can assume many forms, from fans who clearly just hate his wife and want him with Michael Sheen to fulfill their fanfic dreams to fans who want to self-identify with him to the max, like if they’re gay/bi or not cis themselves they would like DT to be somewhere on that spectrum himself. The latter is at least understandable to me, unless it goes overboard into actually imposing on him this preferred identity and getting mean if the reality disagrees, the former is straight out delusional thinking mixed with undisguised misogyny, imo.
What I get from the source himself though, after reading up a bit, observing for about a year and listening to the latest podcasts, is this: I can’t see how anyone can realistically assume that he is not straight. Lol. Like, if we listen to the man himself and see what is publicly available, he’s as cookie cutter straight as dudes go. I mean, his first crush was Madonna for god’s sake (and he said this before, not just in the podcast, in case some people want to invoke the so-called PR). And his three known girlfriends (known to me, but at least they’re actual acknowledged girlfriends, not tabloid suggestions) are: Anne-Marie Duff, Sophia Myles and Georgia. All three could convincingly play sisters lol. Or, with good make-up – Madonna. The man clearly has a type (nothing to be ashamed of) and his type is that of about 90% straight dudes: petit blonds. There’s just no ambiguity here if we don’t engage imagination or rumors, all of which could be 100% fan made.
It’s a bit harder to judge when it comes to the cis topic. Mostly because it’s something that only the subjects themselves can acknowledge or not, there are no outside factors that can serve as a definitive ‘proof’. But here we have his preferred pronouns, which are he/him.
Mostly, my conclusion is that in all these fan speculations, whether malicious or totally benign, there’s a lot of latent/internalized homophobia, even if fans themselves are gay/not cis/genuinely progressive. Because after checking available facts I can’t really see where these assumptions about DT could come from other than him going against many gender/straightness stereotypes of so-called toxic masculinity. And many fans who genuinely think they don’t have these ingrained stereotypes and even fight against them, actually do have them as it turns out. DT fits a lot of those not-straight stereotypes, like his love of colourful clothes, his many close friendships with women and gay people, his love of camp, of course his support for LGBTQ+ people for many years, even his physical attributes: thinness, gracefulness, delicate features, his damn manner of sitting… The amount of gender envy he invokes, his whole non-toxic deal.
Many things. Lots of tiny green flags for not straight and/or not homophobic people, which in fact shouldn’t add up to form ANY conclusion about his actual sexuality/gender expression, but somehow still do. I could’ve understood this in so-called tinhatters because they seem generally insane and malicious, but I realize that quite often I see it even from normal fans, even if expressed in mostly playfully suggestive ways that you can’t really pin down as statements of fact, but which still impose a particular identity on a living person who never admitted such identity and in fact stated the opposite several times, both in word and in deed.
It’s not the worst thing that could happen of course. But I personally wouldn’t want to impose an identity (or question their clearly stated identity) on a real human, even if it would be comforting for me personally, and it’s exactly what this suggestive attitude from the fandom made me do when I first started to get into DT (through Much Ado). I actually thought he was an out bisexual, and may be a non-binary person, because fans were very suggestive in this area as well. It’s actually when I saw that he stated his preferred pronouns in the Macbeth program, when I learned that it was never stated otherwise before, and I started digging for what else wasn’t true.
It’s just that I don’t think it’s OK to impose sexuality/gender on a real person based solely on vibes, even if playfully and in a benign way, it’s my little pet peeve. Because if we do that, logically we can deny gay people their sexuality as well (vibe check failed) or disbelieve trans people who pass insufficiently for us…
Sorry about writing a whole essay, it’s because English is not my native language and I can’t be concise and efficient when trying to make a point. I like your art and general style, so I decided to dump it all on you, sorry.
first off thank you for liking my art i grow at least 10 times in power whenever someone compliments it dhdgwhwjw soon i might be able to draw a background on my own
i think where more of the well-meaning ppl come from is that one interview w arabella weir where he said that people assuming he's not straight doesn't bother him, which i feel like is a pretty healthy mindset for someone to have (especially in 2008) bc it helps takes away the stigma around queerness in that it's not something to be afraid of being labeled as. but then also you can tell even from the brief description arabella gives of her friends' attitudes that the reason people kept assuming he was gay was bc of some really toxically masculine/homophobic attitudes so ...idk lmao. i never really gave it a ton of thought. for me at least i just take him at his word and i don't look into it or make any more assumptions bc i don't know him. like his dating history or whatever matters a lot less than him outright saying "i'm an ally not an active participant"
#i maintain that it would be so funny if he was actually some flavor of lgbt bc this means he has to give his ally award to somebody else#anyway anon While i do agree i think he is straight and if u think u got queerbaited by him u are fucking insane#and it's not great to assume someone's sexuality off how people talk abt them rather their own words#there is a gigantic difference between denying queer people their sexuality and assuming a cishet guy is queer#cishet is seen as the default. lots of queer people first start out thinking they're straight#so this is why i wouldn't go to bat defending the sanctity of someone's straightness in the same way i would fight someone#if they said an aroace person is just a straight person faking it for attention. like there's a huge difference there#also re gender this is something i've been kinda keeping in the back of my head but there's a sentiment#(mostly i've just seen among tinhatters which i have all blocked lmao)#that dt is this Inherently Androgynous Beauty and then they'll show a picture of him in a t shirt and jeans or something#and it's like ohhh you're only saying that because he fits the beauty standard of tall thin and white#and it's a difficult annoyance to express bc part of Why i like him as an actor is that he plays femininity/androgyny/#characters with some kind of Gender going on very well#but there is still a huge difference between that and propping up a cis guy for being the epitome of nby vibes bc of his physical features#especially if several of the people doing this are known to be cis/het and weird and fetishizing towards queer people
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when i started watching blue eye samurai i was like 'it would be really easy to start posting Mizu Bigender Real. however, i won't limit myself to interpreting her as a woman + trans man as projection because this show has a lot to say about the role of women. then they did stuff that made it impossible for me to not say Mizu Bigender Real
#why did she see a man and a woman being intimate with a man#and immediately flash back to herself. AND ONLY HERSELF. getting close to her male worstie#could you be the man and woman answer quickly now ❓️#because also she saw couples being close with each other INCLUDING an alt timeline of herself cis in a het marriage#and didn't ONCE think of him????? could it be that you could only fully express yrself in intimate situations as a queer..#AND ANOTHER THING. why does she fill the narrative roles of the ronin and the bride in that episode#not even 1 for each timeline. she's both simultaneously#and can y'all remind me#what the word is for someone who is likely fill traditionally male and female gender roles at the same time ❓️#mizu bigender real#i might maintag this but i have to finish the whole series so i don't get spoilers#blue eye samurai#edited to add the tag. not even sorry for maintag crimes this show came out in 2023 we need people to talk aboht it
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do we think austons a trump supporter
yeah probably lololol... most likely he doesn't care or bother to vote but ema has commented on a trumpie christina marleau post with "proud of you 🇺🇸" before so. it's a yikes
#easks#money affords these ppl privilege i cannot even begin to understand#immigrants FROM MEXICO who support him most likely bc it saves them money and they assume the rest of the nation#gets handouts or smth... i cant fathom another angle there lol#well. religion. if u think all non white cis het ppl are gonna burn for some reason but anyway#my truest guess is that am34 isnt filling out a ballot but is absolutely impacted by fiscal conservatism and insane patriotism lol#n holds those beliefs himself bc he is shielded by wealth and being able to tune it out most of the time#least he has the decency to keep his trap shut when asked and not force us all to reckon with it
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Part of me wants to empathize with the cishet man who is afraid to even appear gay. I think what the cishet man often fears by being seen as queer in dress, in mannerism, in taste, in speech, is that he fears his manhood will be stripped away, his humanity questioned. It's uncomfortable to think. It's uncomfortable to feel, and when you often don't face that for who you are, it feels even more biting. It feels like you have been stripped of a comfort you have had for decades, for your whole life, in one fell swoop.
It's certainly rooted in queerphobia, sure, but as a trans man? I would be lying by omission if I pretended like my own manhood wasn't questioned daily because of who I am, if I pretended like I haven't face violence for my manhood. I would be lying if I pretended like it's perfectly safe every time when people suspect I am queer (not even trans, but "just" queer).
#queer#lgbt#lgbtq#queerphobia#queerphobia tw#i can understand the impulse but the thing i won't understand is when a man turns to violence to ~prove~ he is not One of Us (derogatory)#and i have had cis/het men who were horrified to even know people like ME exist and i have encountered some disgusting displays of hatred#it's things like this that make manhood interesting to me. it's the contradictory idea that man is independent whilst also...#...being hyperdependent on maintaining An Image and defending That Image to the death if necessary#off-topic but FUUUUUCK redd animal crossing for the fake painting i bought by mistake
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The patriarchy says men can’t relate to women.
It says that you always have to put other men first, always.
Your wife is a nag, your sister is a bother and an annoyance, your daughter is a burden. When he says “women am I right?” about your family members, you’re supposed to nod and laugh along with him. Ally alongside a stranger over the women you’ve known for years because women, am I right? You’re both men. By the grace of his gender he understands you more then a family member ever could.
You can’t be interested in girly stuff, heaven forbid teenage girl stuff. You like bands until teenage girls are into them and then they’re posers and name the songs because get out of my space don’t you know we can’t be in the same space?? I can’t be like you. I can make horrible jokes about you, demean you, generally look down on you but I can’t be like you. That’s the sin.
Stay away from chick flicks, pink, anything that women have left their painted glittery fingerprints on. If your friend hands you her purse stand there with the most uncomfortable expression and make sure to project put upon expressions at every man on the vicinity so he knows you’re suffering.
Always make sure you’re acceptable to your male friends and male coworkers, they are your priority your social currency. And a woman trying to be your friend is just a pick me, the only reason a woman is trying to be around a man is so he might date her. They just want male approval. Those poor things. They want to be one of the boys. Because no girl can like beer and sports. Anyway move, can’t you see Saturdays are for the boys, we’re going to the man cave, the sanctuary from all the women, no girls allowed sign on the door. You look at your friend to see if he approves. He does, good.
You want to stop drinking but that’s how you bond with your men. Your statues is from being able to handle your liquor, being able to hurt yourself just enough that you’ve proven your manliness. You thought about going vegan but they’d make fun of you. Hurting other things is a part of it as well. You have to be the strongest one.
And men, if you like women. If you like hanging around your female friends, or your mom (you mamas boy) or your sister you’re a sissy. If you value women, care about their opinions or give advice on their hair or listen to their debates about the right dress, well you’re gay.
That’s the only explanation for caring about a woman.
You’re not a real man because to be a man is to be absent of anything “woman”. Men are from mars women are from Venus and we are completely, completely separate species and not the same one put down two paths of blue and pink.
There are so, so many differences between men and women there are too many to count I can’t even get into it and it’s not the fact that one calls themselves men and one calls themselves women. No thats… there has to be more than that.
And we hate the people who change from men and women because what do you mean the line is that thin. That there are “female” traits waiting in my dna, that we are the same species after all and our similarities are waiting in my bones.
Because then what keeps me from everything we joke about with her. All the violence of being a woman… that’s not me that’s not because I did everything right because I did all the man things and I followed all the rules. And the men and god forbid the girls who were secretly among us all the time, the gays ones the girlish ones well yeah we treated them like women. They didn’t follow the rules. It’s easy to be a woman but god please don’t treat me like one.
Because being a man is a set of rules of expectations lest you be thrown out but it’s also a biological fact, and you’ll always be one but ban estrogen because that could change.
We joke with our friends we perform correctly and at the end of the day it’s still that woman is human and it’s in your bones. Half of your worlds your cultures you try to keep yourself uninfected by it sneaks up your mind and into your heart disgusting. You’ve sunken your nails into your arm as though you can pull it out out your skin and when you lift them off, the lines they left on your skin they’re pink. No, no wait they’re darker you’re safe.
But when you look into your mirror and you look into your eyes.
Damn it.
You really shouldn’t have cried.
#mens lib#poetry#the only difference between a man and a woman is that one calls themself a man and one calls themself a woman#the lines they left on your skin#woman is a social class that every man can be pulled closer to. the misogynistic cis het ones stay far away from it and act as if#it’s a natural distance but then you see the wall they built the guns they enforce it with and you know that it’s in them#it’s their mothers voice guiding them growing up#it’s their sister telling them how the world works#it’s the familiar voice when they’re scared playing in your head#that’s why you keep yourself safe by not listening to any woman#not being guided by them#least they change and become a part of you#safe spaces are a joke… but keep the women away from us they said#intersectional feminism
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like sure say what u want about 'allies' doing their best, but i will never forget the time that i said "thats homophobic" as a joke when i dropped a pen; and my white cis/het coworker got so upset that she went to the manager because apparently she felt stricken by it and got into her head that i was somehow calling her homophobic. and like. the manager literally spent over 15 minutes talking to me about how i should be more careful and that some people are uncomfortable and think that im calling them homophobes.
#lost.txt#homophobia#like idk how to explain to u#that cis/hets will weaponize things like this in order to be seen as a victim#so that they can reassure themselves of their superiority#and power#especially when it comes to dealing with minorities#because it was not about the joke#it was about making sure that the space stayed safe for her and unsafe for me#because i cannot exist without being seen as mean/violent as a butch gnc lesbian
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