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dailymanners · 3 months ago

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When entering any place of business, such as a store or restaurant, if a staff member greets you, then acknowledge them and greet them back.

Although for many jobs it's a required part of their job to greet you, especially retail workers, receptionists, and restaurant workers to name a few, that doesn't make it feel any less dehumanizing to say "Hello!" to another human being only for them to ignore you. Acknowledging staff members and greeting them back is important for acknowledging their humanity, they are, after all, a human being, and not an automated machine.

This is also important when going to check out at a store. If you approach the cash register, and the cashier greets you, you should acknowledge them and greet them back. Cashiers already have to deal with being dehumanized enough. The least you can do is help humanize them by acknowledging them when they greet you and speak to you.

#story time #when I worked retail I had several co-workers #who if someone approached the register and didn't say 'góðan daginn' back #my co-workers would just repeat themselves and refuse to start scanning their stuff until they said góðan daginn back #I did do that myself once or twice #but only to customers who I recognized and had spoken to before (and were speaking to someone else as they were approaching the register)#so I knew it wasn't an issue of being non-verbal or unable to speak that particular day #but otherwise I tried not to make a habit of it #especially with customers I didn't recognize and hadn't heard speaking to anyone else #since you never knew who was non-verbal or was disassociating ect.#I've also been in foreign countries where I was young and scared and afraid to respond to the cashier and give away that I was a foreigner #so anyway I tried to be understanding #but at the same time it did always feel dehumanizing to greet people all day and just get ignored #manners #good manners #courtesy #etiquette #politeness

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icewindandboringhorror · 4 months ago

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On average, what is the total MONTHLY amount that you spend on dining out*?

*(This doesn't only count going out to restaurants, but also stuff like picking up fast food to bring home, getting a coffee on the way to work, getting a premade sandwich from a grocery store deli during lunch, buying a quick snack from a convenience store or food cart whilst walking somewhere, ordering a pizza or any other food to be delivered to your home, etc.)

*(If you often dine out in groups/as a household: calculate and divide the costs so that you get a Per Person average. This is for YOU individually, NOT the total household/group costs)

(I'm sure polls similar to this have been made before (very common topic), I just haven't personally seen one that I can remember, so, I was curious to do my own! I was discussing this with a group of people today and it was very interesting to see how widely the number varied between individuals. :0c )

(Reblog for bigger sample size if you can, and feel free to explain your answer in tags if there's anything extra to add!)

#polls #tumblr polls #I'm mostly in the 0/1 - 25$ category. Maybe the rare month is a bit over $25 if there's something specific going on like birthday.#Which I'm NEVER eating in an actual restaurant (erm... covid... plus I just hate restaurant environments. i would rather pickup #the food and bring it home to a peaceful quiet environment that I control lol). But more typically like stopping by a grocery store deli #section or something. I don't have coffee that much. And I can't eat fast food much due to my health issues/diet restriction stuff #so if I'm out like coming back from an appointment and I start feeling really sick and weak. I know that a hamburger will just #blow up my system and cause nausea or something. So I try to pick the breadiest most #neutral looking turkey sandwich at the safeway deli to eat during the hour ride home or whatever lol #I actually kind of wish I could do stuff like get food more often vecause it would take the burden of cooking everything off of me #but.. alas... Money... and Health Things... T o T #I still wouldn't do it ALL the time but like... once a week instead of once a month or something.. or maybe turning into a coffee #person.. I do love drinks A LOT .. i am a drink person who will have 5 different drinks sipping on at all times #But i just have to make them all myself mostly lol #And I cant really have too much coffee since it will make me sick. so like.. teas and juice mostly #When I inevitably become a millionaire by never using social media never networking and only finishing one #sculpture every 5 months which I dont even post about or sell - then I shall... get more drinks..#I will somehow wean my body onto coffee and drink one a day solely for the ritual of it #Though even then... I would still probably just like.. buy the mateirals to make it at home or something #Like if you had a million dollars you could just buy a kitchen grade ice cream machine and other stuff to make your own milkshakes and #coffees and smoothies and bubble teas. Genuinely I think even if I were a BILLIONAIRE I would still look at playing likr $8 for a single #coffee and go .. uh.... I could just buy the equipment to make this and then save that money. PLUS. its in my house now so no need to #have to leave. I can make my own drinks in the comfort of home. .. ideal..#Like no matter how rich I ever got I would still have the lingering scroogey stinginess. like i am NOT paying for that. I will jus #make it myself. Especially if it was an Everyday thing. Anythign thats part of my routine I try to optimize and make as efficient as #possible... ANYWAY.. In an IDEAL world I would get treats. but probably not that much. as on a daily basis it would start to get #to me and I would just save up to buy kitchen machinery if I was rich lol

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uncanny-tranny · 3 months ago

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"If men got periods/needed abortion/got ovarian or breast cancer, those resources would be handed out like candy! They'd be more plentiful than ATMs!!"

You mean perisex cis men. You mean perisex cis men. Say what you mean.

I'm a trans man. I avoid all medical care because ninety percent of my doctors have not treated me properly because I am a trans man. I am acutely aware that doctors would be more than happy to not provide me care on the basis of my being trans, even if it costed my life.

Every time I so much as think about the doctors, I'm reminded of men like Robert Eads - of how my care is at the whim of the opinions a doctor has about my life. And because of my own past negative experiences, I hesitate to open my patient portal to schedule an appointment. When I have gotten a good doctor, it's not been the rule, it's the exception. I have a doctor right now who I'm lucky to see, who actually treats me like a human being. I'm celebrating that a doctor finally treats me like a person.

If you want to group all men as being the same, I hope you're willing to have that blood on your hands. Because that care is routinely kept away from men, and it's a real, tangible, systemic issue.

I don't talk about this because I see being trans as this negative thing, but because I want to continue living and I want my trans siblings to live. I understand the frustration that people have who say this - it's another systemic issue that also costs lives. However, I am alarmed at the trend of... forgetting or perhaps erasing that this is still an issue for men, that we literally aren't treated the same as somebody like a cis perisex woman. No doctor has ever treated me like one, and of that I know for a fact. And this is a simple fix - be clear about who you mean when you talk about a group of people or a specific phenomenon. That applies when you are talking about any group of people because, generally, these overgeneralizations will be useless because it can't apply to everyone, and might just hurt a group of people you may not even be intending on hurting.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #long post #shout-out to my first primary care that's been Normal that i am alive and trans #he shouldn't have been a needle in a haystack but unfortunately that isn't uncommon of an experience #obviously not every trans experience is like mine but it's also somewhat uncommon to not have at least one like this in my experience #unless you have just come out and therefore haven't had any time to adjust your life how you want/need to #or unless you already don't see doctors or have lucked out (it shouldn't be a matter of luck but unfortunately this is often the case)#worried that people are going to misinterpret or misappropriate my words so.... this post is salt circled #while trans women and people who aren't trans men ALSO experience this stuff i cant speak as a direct authority #i can talk *about* their issues because i mostly follow them and hear their stories but i'm only an EXPERT in this realm

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maingh0st · 4 months ago

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i know i'm not the first to say this, but the acolyte's cancellation has confirmed how tired i am of disney's decision-making when it comes to their content. i know nostalgia is the easiest way to a big payout, but we can only take so many spinoffs before the universe starts to feel too small. but then fresh content—content that's building on the canon by looking to old star wars lore while asking new questions—fizzles out.

it's the sequel trilogy all over again. we're promised something new, something that actually expands the canon rather than just recycling it, even bringing in concepts from legends, and then the rug is ripped out from underneath us & we're punished for ever caring about any of it. silly babygirl! palpatine was always the big bad (don't worry about the fact that this is thematically nonsense and not foreshadowed in any way), and rey isn't a nobody ("your parents sold you because they loved you"), and this isn't a story about how the force transcends human categories and dynasties (represented by a grey jedi force dyad between a legacy skywalker and a nobody orphan from a backwater planet, fulfilling not only balance between light and dark but also transcending the old to become something new). silly idiot!!! rey's a palpatine by birth and a skywalker by self-adoption and god forbid she create her own identity outside of these names our fans recognize. watch as she stands alone on a sand planet that has no personal significance to her, ending her arc almost exactly as she began. but look!! two suns! neat

i don't even know if fanservice is the right word. at a certain point, it just starts to feel like they're quaking in their boots at the thought of doing anything new. i had my gripes with some of the choices in the acolyte, but at least it was unique. it explored a new era and asked questions that star wars has only ever flirted with. like: what happens to the children who are uprooted from their homes at such a young age, yet can't find their place in the jedi order? how does one survive in a supposedly honorable system that nevertheless relies on the repression of some of humanity's most fundamental emotions? is it possible that an organization dictating exactly how one ought to interact with the very life force of the universe... could perhaps be faulty and shortsighted? what happens when the ways of that order clash with other cultures and worldviews? (spoilers: space colonialism). and that's not even to mention the ideas they play with re: the force itself (vergences! plagueis! force witches!)

i know not everyone loved the show, but a lot of people really did care about it. a lot of people, like me, were excited to see these new questions being raised. but forget it—the disney gods have decreed that it didn't hit some magical threshold of streaming hours or reach a "broad enough" audience in the two months it's been out. but don't worry guys. turn your brains off and tune in for the next spinoff 2 chewy 2 bacca

#btw much respect to the team who worked on producing the acolyte #it's not their fault #i'm just reflecting on how much love and wonder i used to feel toward star wars #and now i'm just. so jaded. and tired #and there's more that could be said #about the *really* interesting political analogies we can make between the acolyte and our world #but i need to sleep #i don't usually post star wars stuff and ngl am scared of the fandom #don't be mean guys i'm literally just a stranger on the internet #star wars #the acolyte #long post #disney #tros #the rise of skywalker #also: rip #manny jacinto #would've loved to have had you in the star wars world longer than one season #ALSO i know this is a broader issue with streaming in general #but atm i'm thinking about disney specifically #rey palpatine #oshamir #sequel trilogy #streaming #disney +

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skunkes · 6 months ago

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reposting some old doodles i still enjoy a bit

#a doodley #guys im having realizations i dont really know what to do with #ive said this tons before but my main issue with art rn is like #i Know anatomy. and what it's Meant to look like. my issue is straying away from Correct and going with Good like how some of my stuff was #before i really started learning. loose and not restricted #but my obstacle is that nobody draws the way i want to draw. and im bad at coming up with my own stuff...i need to copy and osmose off #someone else. well. it turns out there is someone who draws the way i draw. and its cheye of the past.#dont get me wrong if i look thru the rest of the art in the (year) folder these came from; 80% of it sucks #i wish i cld have what past cheye had but with current cheye tweaks and refinement #but idk how to do that. something weird has happened to my mind i really cant envision and make art the same way anymore #idk how he did it back then....i wish i Knew bc current me cant make anything out of sketching or thumbnails or just going at it #arghhh #i try and force myself to draw stuff like this now (interactions) and it looks. so stiff. and bad proportion wise but idk how to fix it #which isnt to say the proportions (for example) in THESE drawings are perfect but they dont scream Wrong or Bad or Incorrect to me ykwim...#idk! idk what to do with this. ive never known how to go back and study my own stuff

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copia · 5 months ago

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not to get dramatic but one of copia’s dissociative translations in his troubled head was seeing sister imperator’s saucer of pills as a mug of tea and biscuits. he’s clearly an unreliable narrator who sees things we can’t trust to be true; going off of this, can we trust that the mug of tea he was handed before the encore was actually that? who’s got time to down a whole mug of hot tea when you’ve still got three songs to perform? isn’t it a strange beverage to give him out of all the other options? don't get me wrong i'm absolutely not being serious here (also not insinuating that copia is ill like seestor, i'm going down the psychological route) but what i'm saying is he could have been handed medication he didn't want to acknowledge

#what i'm saying is he has some issues #so treatment for that was also replaced by something innocent and nice #i'm nervous of posting stuff like this because i always worry people will misunderstand my intent (<- autism) so just to be clear #i am NOT saying that i think this could have been an intentional choice in the film #i'm just being silly #'the curtains are red' moment #i'm acting like a girl who did 3 months of a film studies qualification then had to drop it and get serious about stem #sorry this is another consequence of the insane temperatures in this country rn #i feel out of it #the band ghost #rite here rite now #papa emeritus iv #alsooo i know those shots are not strictly from his pov unlike those where he sees the normal chair / cat tree / tea & biscuits #again. not serious #cheers #posting post-friday-night-drinks or i will end up deleting this

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crystalpallette · 3 months ago

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so I finished side order recently

#splatoon #pearl houzuki #agent 8 #marina ida #acht mizuta #my stuff #inktober piece 2 :)#shoutout to my brother who reminded me i could replay the credits whenever because i had to get some extra refs for eight's model #and saved me from having to slog up the tower again #now if only splatoon could do that for every cutscene eh. please #i want to relive a lot of cutscenes and youre killing me for it splatoon #anyway did you know splatoon's official art has. well it wildly varies from piece to piece #they all follow like a very loose guidelines but also they all split off into their own things half the time #me with seven tabs of art trying to figure out if i want to do lines to separate pearl's fingers: so this one has lines but this one doesnt #'this one isnt relevant to this issue all fingers are splayed'#so in the end i just did whatever i wanted. i think that's a core tenet of art. do whatever you want. forever #also spent an inordinate amount of time trying to figure out what was etched into marina's headphones #im 98% sure it is the off the hook logo. but nothing save from booting up splatoon and checking myself would say for sure #and i didnt wanna boot up splatoon cause if i did then id inevitably be down a couple hours because 'oh well im here already. one run maybe'#but regardless!! im proud of how this came out even if i was supposed to have finished two days ago to keep with my schedule #especially the bg :) i think i did really good on that.#and eight's little smile i think thats the charm point of the whole piece and it took me about ten drafts to get it properly #i think i did good on that too.#im so enamored with splatoon rn help

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collophora · 8 months ago

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Found a cool color palette. Might finish it later. (Probably not.)

#star wars #star wars the clone wars #star wars rex #star wars the bad batch #Glitched half an hour on his face for no reason #just cause I couldn't figure a skin color #like I come from impressionism #you know this small art movement #where half of the Chinese artists I follow borrows their wonderful color palette #Color palettes who are perfect to draw noice anime boys #but (we can't lie) where everyone tend to draw only fair skinned characters #So I'm bugged trying to draw realistic people with that #would probably help if I forced myself to do studies ya know #instead of looking at gensh1n art #skill issue as people say #maybe is should draw on a bigger file too #like not draw face with realistic feature on a 300x300 px square XD #But again this drawing was me procrastinating on another one #I hate finishing illu #I just wanna plan/doodle and layout #for others #my jobs of heart are storyboard or color key artist #background paint or compositing hell no #clean animation? kill me #I had a burn out last time I touched a graph editor #too bad that's the most demanded and entry level jobs #v_v #tips for people who want to enter animation industry #don't be like me #finish stuff

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aethersea · 26 days ago

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I saw a post proposing that the reason the Doctor always ends up on Gallifrey at a time after he last left it but before the next time he'll visit, and other Time Lords similarly are all showing up on Gallifrey in a chronological manner, is that the TARDIS just handles it. and that is great! but I would like to propose that, as well as and alongside this, Time Lords have a biological like-calls-to-like thing going on that means they're extremely unlikely to encounter each other out of order. it's like how birds can sense north. Time Lords can sense each other, and are repelled (like magnets) by other Time Lords who are at a mismatched point in their chronology.

the TARDIS is handling it, but she's doing that partly by avoiding any time & place where the Doctor's spidey sense starts tingling. (the Doctor is not aware of this.) that's why the Doctor and the Master don't run into past/future incarnations of each other: any time one of them aims for a planet the other is already on, if they'd be running into each other out of order, they get the heebie jeebies and turn around.

#doctor who #doctor who meta #finx rambles #I haven't watched any doctor who beyond nine & ten so if canon contradicts me – well. it's doctor who #epitome of 'do I contradict myself? very well! I contradict myself! I am vast; I contain multitudes'#and I think this is neat #in both senses of the word #oh for a fun detail this would mean that the doctor simply cannot go back to gallifrey before it burned #every one of its people would flinch from him #and he from them #alien and anathema and itchingly wrong in this place that he loved and destroyed #I know thirteen had some funky stuff going on with gallifrey but! from dashboard osmosis #it does seem like she was at no point having a good time there #so my theory could still hold #perhaps she was viscerally repelled by and repellant to every time lord she met #with all the rest of the issues she had going on would she even notice?#or just chalk it up to more mental illness?

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sanjipussyindulgence · 1 year ago

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i know i get pissed about the yamato gender discourse/general transphobia in the one piece fandom at least once a month... but how do you read this panel and miss the point. freedom is such an important concept in the series and, as we see from the newkamas, that includes the freedom to identify as whatever gender you want. you are actively ignoring and disrespecting one piece's values when you misgender yamato, kiku, or any other character. i hate people.

#one piece #transphobia mention #yamato #yamato son of kaido #ivankov #inazuma #one piece yamato #o-kiku #kikunojo #bon clay #like OBVIOUSLY one piece has had some problems in the past with how the queer characters were depicted.#but i think its important to remember that oda is a middle aged cishet japanese man who wrote a majority of that stuff in the 2000s/2010s #of COURSE theres gonna be issues #overall i think that the queer characters in one piece are positively depicted and its because of this message here #so when people dont get it i wanna rip their heads off

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intuitive-revelations · 7 months ago

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I don't know if I'm excited or frustrated at the 'future children' angle for Susan's origin. On one hand... I'm very interested in the possible links to the likes of Miranda, the Other etc.

On the other hand... ok confession time: This may make me a minority in the fandom, but I actually really dislike the 80s-90s retcons of Susan's origin. (Birth of a Renegade, Lungbarrow etc.)

I kinda just like her and the Doctor being some of the last surviving members of what was once a family on Gallifrey. I find the mystery and tragedy of what happened on Gallifrey, with implied student uprisings and political assassinations, far more intriguing than any twists saying "actually she's not really his granddaughter". Fortunately, some things can be canonwelded into that (eg. Susan really could be also related to the president / descended from Rassilon), but stuff that actually gives her an origin elsewhere is always a pain.

Idk. I just see once being a parent (and losing it all tragically) as such a crucial part of the Doctor's background and Susan fits very well into that as far as I'm concerned. Anything disconnecting her from that, or worse erasing it completely, ultimately damages what I find to be one of the most compelling things about the Doctor and Susan. :/

The few posts I've already seen talking about this suggests this is an unpopular opinion, but I'd be interested to know what people think, and if they agree or disagree...

#Doctor Who #The Legend of Ruby Sunday #Susan Foreman #Doctor Who Spoilers #DW Spoilers #DW Meta #DW Theory #and I guess....#(light)#DW Negativity #like... as much as I love the pseudocanonicity of looms this is one issue I've always had with them #and is part of the reason I much prefer stuff like Penelope and Ulysses #It's just like the Doctor tbh #I love having many different possible origins and mysteries #but the second we start 'canonically' going one way or another you kinda lose me #this is also my issue with the Timeless Child as you're probably tired of hearing from me by now #as a 'possible' origin for the Doctor: genuinely delightful; stunning #as “THE” origin of the Doctor:...nah.#I also never hand an issue with the question of 'where did she come from' 'where are her parents' etc.#they're dead obviously #why they're dead and who they were is the interesting quesion #and part of what makes the Doctor 'Who'

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statementlou · 3 months ago

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Tbh i am not surprised that a person who openly talked about having drinking problems since 1d days, because of how crazy 1d worked has been agressive. What surprises me is people being surprised (they never seriously saw drunk person?). But i am also confused about this whole book. Apparently Maya said that that book is not fully bout Liam but compilation about her exes and some of the worst parts are not about him. But recently she said that the book is “ofc about him” so what is true then? Or did she meant it that ofc some parts are about him or that whole book is about him?

Sorry, just confused

I also am not surprised- we've learned so much more about the real stories of things and about the guys' actual lives over the last years, and the story that has unfolded around Liam has been totally consistent throughout if you've been following it, and so the information Maya is telling us is shocking and upsetting but not difficult to believe. I got an anon yesterday saying they were worried about getting similar revelations about the other boys, like "if Liam could be doing this we just don't know, any of them could", and while in a way that's always true I guess, anyone could be doing anything in private like... that doesn't really concern me. Because none of these Liam revelations are coming out of nowhere, there have been many MANY steps along the way leading us here if you've been watching, and he has talked openly about both his mental health struggles and his addiction issues. So to answer that anon... to find out something similar about Louis would in contrast contradict everything we know about him and no I'm not worried about it. Is he probably very irritating, absolutely, but an abuser or a loose cannon, well that news would shock me. But anyway as for the book I don't find it strange that she was nervous when it came out and treading lightly and later decided, fuck it. In the absolutely on point tiktok she dropped today (YES👏GIRL👏FUCKING TELL THEM👏) she even mentions attempts to keep her from publishing the book, presumably by Liam's team, that I am riveted by and cannot WAIT to hear more details about actually- like I said I don't find it at all strange that she was nervous and downplayed it a bit then. But if she says now that it's just about Liam, well, I would say it's been clear from the beginning that the book is their story. Maya herself brought up the parallel of songs being written about stuff and I think it's the same thing; it's true (she was in an abusive relationship that involved certain kinds of events) but maybe not 100% literal (I'm sure details were changed to make the story work, it's not like a word for word timeline of their interactions or whatever).

#maya henry #blah blah blah #re the tiktok also lmaoooo are people really saying she wants money her family IS RICH like RICH RICH #but hot damn the part about enabling UH HUH !!!!!#yep yep yep #in terms of the other guys and what would shock me... well obviously we know Zayn has also had a history of agression #and we know WAY too much about him being pushy about sex lol #I would not be shocked to hear he crossed a line... but think he's probably just a bit of a fuckboy #I absolutely do not trust Niall behind closed doors but the songs we have about him seem to tell a pretty consistent story;#self absorbed but basically harmless #harry... who tf knows what he is like outside of being with Louis but I would be shocked to hear of him being aggressive yeah #I have a lot of issues with him but taking advantage of people or being pushy are not even on the radar #and as for Louis... like I said yeah it WOULD shock me. I don't just love him because he has a nice face!#it's BECAUSE of the ways we do know him and know what he's like. because of his tenderness and care #and his consistent kindness and love #and his openness about his private side #so yeah- it would shock the hell out of me it really would #but then I think that anon also was worried about eleanor spiling smth about their relationship so we are not coming from the same place #my kneejerk response was I'm sure he paid her on time what else are you worried about lol #although out of everyone if someone was going to say he lashed out at them I suppose it would be her #it was probably one of the most difficult and frought relationships in his life #and one that he did not want #so! but still no it doesn't worry me #tbh there was one thing in mayas video today that did surprise me which was the premeditation #Liam actually planning using the fans against people and sneaking around doing stuff #I guess even believing everythign I had chosen to paint a picture in my mind of someone who was still #basically unaware of the wrong they were doing and more flailing than plotting #and that shakes me a little. and makes me very unhappy to hear #liam discourse

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little-pondhead · 11 months ago

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Oops.

While learning to control his powers under the guidance of Clockwork, Danny accidentally curses his own bloodline with the Curse of Sentient Food several centuries in the past. Originally, a witch was supposed to curse his family. Oops. Well, the Fentons were always adapting, and technically, either way, he'd end up battling dino nuggets at three am in his underwear, no matter who the curse came from. So he shrugged and continued on.

Unfortunately, this also means that out of nowhere, the timeline shifted, and some of his very distant relatives are now battling their food into submission at every meal because Danny is ultimately way more powerful than some mortal witch from the 1600s. His version of the curse reached literally everyone he could ever be related to for the last few centuries. Even if they were adopted into the family!

So, returning to the present time after training, Danny is a little startled to see some news clips of people's dinners coming to life and beginning revolutions. Wow, John Fentonightingale really got around, didn't he? He felt a little uncomfortable that now all these random people had to deal with their share of Fenton luck, but from some of the interviews, everyone seemed to be handling it pretty well!

Especially his so-distant-they're-on-another-tree cousins, the Kents, who contacted his family directly, asking how best to prepare a zombie turkey. Their son was coming for Thanksgiving with his new wife and some coworkers, and they just refused to make the guests fight for their lives on a holiday!

They invited the Fentons to join them, of course.