#while also being heavily aro-ace

[theswedishpajas]

I’ve been making some choices in-game for the sake of accuracy to me irl, but they’ve started to catch up with me mentally ✌️✌️✌️

We’re working on it though, just gotta keep at it and learn how to stop myself more in the future 😤

[luckyladylily]

So like, transandrophobia.

To start this out, I am a trans woman, been around in the queer community for a while. I'm also bisexuality, polyamorous, disabled, and aromantic, and I think these other parts of my identity and the crap I've caught over the years for them heavily informs how I analyze something like transandrophobia. My wife is also asexual, so that plays a part in it too.

So every group of marginalized people has their own unique experiences and problems. It's more of a rule than something we've mathematically demonstrated, but as far as these things go it's ridiculously well established, and personally every time I've done even a basic dive into the issues faced by a marginalized group it's been self evident. I could easily list a dozen groups ranging from racial minorities to different kinds of disabled people to different queer identities and analyze their social issues but let's be real, this is pretty well established theory, anyone who needs me to do that is not really interacting with good faith. This is one of the big reasons we talk to people about their own experiences and groups, we cannot reasonably extrapolate the experiences of others from our own.

So like trans men and trans mascs and anyone else that falls under that umbrella has their unique experiences. The idea that we would even question this is weird to me? Like I can't even imagine the kind of evidence someone would need to present to me to change my mind, and given the pattern of the queer community to be shitty in exactly this way to people in our community, yeah that is not happening.

Therefore, we are taking it for granted that the trans men/masc/related umbrella has their own things going on like everyone else ever, and I don't understand how someone acting in good faith can try to claim otherwise unless they are young or otherwise very inexperienced with such things.

The next point of contention seems to be the name, and I gotta be real I don't care and I don't understand why other people do. I've read all sorts of arguments against the word transandrophobia and the majority of them seem to be rooted in a misunderstanding of intersectionality, and even then it's like there is such a thing where people get so mired in theory that they miss the forest for the trees.

Perhaps more important to me, getting overly worked up about something as unimportant as the precise term is... weird. Like exclusionists hating on bi and ace people weird. I remember what it was like a decade ago when exclusionists were trying to police the words of bi women, and five years ago when ace and aro people were under constant attack under the pretense that our language was harmful for some reason or other. You are going to have to work very, very, very hard to convince me that any bickering over language as it relates to transandrophobia is not just more of the same.

Next, "transandrobros hate trans femmes" and similar stuff. I've seen the callout posts and found them completely unconvincing. Again, they read a lot like the old "ace people hate lesbians!" posts I used to see. I'm not convinced that the individuals involved were a problem, I am certainly not able to extrapolate a problem to the rest of the group.

Finally, there is this idea that "maleness is not a vector for oppression" and this invalidates something about the whole transandrophobia thing, ranging from the entire concept of trans men experiencing prejudice to something about language being imprecise all the way to "This is fascist shit, omg these people are basically nazis" depending on who says it. I'm not going to touch any of that and just look at the underlying logic.

This is based off a misunderstanding of intersectionality theory. Many people think of intersectionality as defining intersecting prejudice, like a ven diagram, such that transmisogyny is the intersection of transphobia and misogyny. This is incorrect. Intersectionality defines unique prejudice experienced by people with intersecting identities. Instead of a transmisogyny as the overlap of transphobia and misogyny, imagine adding a third circle that overlaps both but also has its own areas covered by neither.

Applied to transandrophobia, even if we assume maleness is not a vector for oppression, there is no reason to assume that the intersection of maleness with a marginalized identity doesn't result in new issues. Imagine that 3 circle venn diagram that represents misogyny, transphobia, and transmisogyny. Even if you remove the misogyny circle there is still plenty of ground covered by the transmisogyny circle.

This just isn't a valid criticism. It is a pure theory approach based on a flawed reading of theory.

So in summary:

Everyone has their unique shit going on and I've seen no convincing evidence that trans men, mascs, etc. Are the exception.

I not seen any convincing argument that the word itself is bad.

I've not seen any convincing evidence that there is some epidemic of transandrophobia truthers hating and harassing trans femmes on scales higher than normal background queer infighting.

The most coherent objection to transandrophobia I've seen is categorically incorrect and based on a fundamental misunderstanding of intersectionality theory.

I would like to remind everyone at this point I am a trans woman, part of the group that is supposedly a problem for and I've just not see it at all, to the point where it is kind of weird how intensely some people are pushing this.

I'm not trying to be mean or whatever, I'm sure the distress on display here comes from a real place and real trauma, but I've yet to see anything that makes me think there is substance to the objections to transandrophobia as a concept. It feels and reads like the latest round of queer intracommunity exclusionism, and the fact that this time around I'm not one of the target identities doesn't change that for me.

[bloggingboutburgers]

Hi! I know very little about QPRs and I was wondering, what is it like?

I've shared about it several times before but... It's a big relief more than anything. It's not something I could define easily, but it sort of brings me a solution to be left alone in a world where people seem somehow obsessed to put everyone in pairs for some reason – while at the same time never risking to dive into something I feel icky about like sex, or plain don't understand like romance.

It's just great to be able to hold hands with someone, cuddle with someone, roast movies with someone, have pet names with someone, and know they're perfectly content with the way you are together, all chill like this, without "catching feelings" for you or whatever. (God that's such a weird expression. So many heavily romance-coded expressions are so broad for something so specific, it weirds me out.)

People are gonna assume things about you because let's face it, most people probably don't get it, but it doesn't matter – plus, some actually do anyway, or still don't get it BUT also have the decency not to assume things, and that's pretty great.

And it's a great relief from the fear of abandonment that being aro-ace makes me feel – because when you're aro-ace and friendship is like the highest possible level of human distinction you feel, but it's not for other people, you just know you're always gonna be naturally put in the background of people's lives as soon as they get a romantic lover/sexual partner and possibly kids. You're always gonna come AT LEAST second and be left behind in a way. Having a queer platonic partner is having someone who agrees to keep you company and not let you feel lonely, while not putting you in the dead center of their life or on top of a scale of value, because they know THAT wouldn't feel right to you either.

It's letting me be myself, and be happy, and be comforted, without having to make compromises on my very identity. It ticks a lot of boxes for me in a way I didn't think could exist for my whole life until then.

...At least that's my experience of it, of course it's a very personal thing

[sinnabum45]

Kiss? 😳

[Image description: monotoned comic of Ace Attorney characters, Phoenix Wright and Miles Edgeworth. First panel, Phoenix is holding Miles's face while leaning in to kiss him. Miles is unaware of what Phoenix is doing. Second panel, Miles quickly turns away. Phoenix is shocked and a tear is in his eye. Third panel, Miles is looking away from Phoenix and blushing. Phoenix notices and is shocked. Fourth panel, Phoenix is holding Miles's right wrist and blushing while smiling. Miles is turned away with his left fist in front of his face. He is flustered and blushing heavily.

Second image description: Doodle of Phoenix and Miles with an "x" to indicate that they're being shipped. Their names are under their heads. Under Phoenix, text reads "Bi-romantic + Ace". Under Miles, text reads "Aro + Ace". Below text reads, "HC: They can spend months away from each other and be perfectly fine. Most of their time together is spent by just hanging out and maybe cuddling. Phoenix is more open to being intimate/affectionate than Miles. Still a rare occurrence tho." End description.]

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Phoenix didn't let Miles know 5 business days ahead of time that he was gonna kiss him, so Miles needed a minute to process LOL 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

And also some HCs for Phoenix and Miles relationship! I imagine that they are both on the ace spectrum and they're completely fine being apart for long periods of time. They do call each other often tho! Kissing (or more 👀) is a rare occurrence for them- they definitely banter or talk about the law way more often. Plus, they always hang out with Trucy! 🥺

[dunmeshi-darlings]

Do you happen to have any head canons for characters sexualities?

Indeed I do have a few personal thoughts on each characters sexuality. Some of them a bit divisive

Laios - Pansexual I feel like laios wouldn't care about his partner's gender It's definitely more a personality thing for him.

Marcille - Bisexual but has a HEAVY preference for woman. Here's my first bit of difference from popular fanon. I believe marcille is bisexual due to the succubus arc. No shame for the lesbian marcille people, just not for me personally.

Chilchuck - Bisexual but doesn't realize it. One of those "what? Everyone's had a same sex attraction before" or "what? Some guys are just incredibly hot" situation. The one that doesn't realize they are bisexual and just think that is normal.

Senshi - I personally view him as asexual, though not sex repulsed. He doesn't have negative views or feelings towards sex. Simply that it's more of a whatever situation and doesn't feel strongly about it. Would rather be cooking.

Izutsumi - Demisexual. This one is my biggest disagreement with fanon as while I fully respect and support people that view her as aro ace. I just personally view her as Demisexual and that she can have sexual feelings for a person if she is deeply connected to them romantically.

Falin - pansexual like her brother, but has a preference for woman (blushes heavily seeing marcille naked in the shower, and also called shuro attractive). Again it's more personality than anything.

Some Bonuses

kabru - Gay, I can't see kabru as being anything besides being gay. Especially with how he interacted with laios but most importantly how he interacted with Mithrun. (I personally like them together)

Mithrun - bisexual, but the demons influence fucked with his desires so it's hard to fully pin down what I would consider him.

Shuro - Demisexual, with how he fell for falin after knowing her for awhile and relating to her in such a way when she was admiring the caterpillar. I feel like he is like izutsumi in that he would be into a person sexually only after knowing them for awhile.

Namari - lesbian, look at her. The woman longingly stares at the Kikis legs. She is incredibly lesbian.

[askdyo]

(( Happy Pride Month from your local rancid shadow man!! Dyo went in depth on his orientations in this post but as a refresher, he is ASEXUAL but indulges and engages very heavily in kink spaces, particularly BDSM and being a Daddy dom. While this can be sexual in nature, there's a very stark separation between engaging in sexual activity and being attracted to people. Dyo isn't attracted to anyone. He is also in the AROMANTIC spectrum, possibly Demiromantic but not super sure. Canonically he has held romantic feelings for folks in the past a few times, but they were under very specific circumstances. He does currently have romantic feelings for Milly. Anyway, so I included the Ace, Demi-Aro, and Leather Pride/BDSM flags for him :) I won't be marking this post as NSFW because I don't want to associate Pride stuff with adult topics because they shouldn't be!! Just note I typically DO and WILL tag any Kink posts as such. Dyo also (technically maybe) could be considered trans since he canonically accepted a male identity despite his species defaulting to non-binary, but I've had mixed reception on him being labelled trans by different people from the community, and since I don't really think he would personally label himself as that I didn't include it! But if you want him to be a trans icon and think that's okay then sure why not~ ))

[infiniteorangethethird]

hellou hi i have a question if you don't mind :]

so, i have been considering using the loveless label for a while because i relate to y'all heavily but there's one issue. while i don't think i experience love for other people in a way loving folk seem to describe love..? i very much want to BE loved

this is probably tied to my NPD, both the loveless and the needing love parts

basically my question is - can you still be considered a loveless aro(ace, apl etc.) if you desire to be loved (w/o being able to reciprocate)?

sorry if it's a stupid question because maybe it defeats the purpose? idk. i've searched all of the internet and couldn't find anything even close to an answer tho so yeah :')

hi anon, my apologies for taking so long to reply 😭 I don't have an excuse besides a somewhat busy schedule and "I suck at replying at reasonable times sometimes" lmao

Short answer: yes.

Long answer: the good thing about the loveless label is that it's deliberately meant as a very fluid and dynamic label, defined by its user first and foremost. Some people call themselves loveless because they don't feel love at all, while others may use it because the love they feel does not seem to fit societal expectations, or even because they do feel love, but it's not as intense/special/important to them as society deems it to be.

All of these are just examples, but it illustrates the many ways one can interpret this label for themself. If you feel it is a good descriptor of your experiences and you feel comfortable using it for yourself? Go for it! (And welcome to the community <2)

As someone who works to deconstruct the romanticized idea of love, though, I can't help but make a note on the "wanting to be loved" part. (To be clear: this is NOT a jab at you, anon, nor at anyone who might be feeling similar; moreso thoughts and advice you can chew on if you'd like, or ignore if you don't.) In a lot of people's minds, there's a very strong connotation between "love" and "any kind of positive treatment", and as such I think it's worth asking ourselves: what do I mean when I say I want to be loved? Do I want them to feel a certain way about me, to act a certain way around me? What kind of treatment am I expecting of people who say they love me?

Love is a very individual thing, and knowing what you mean by love can help both in figuring out those expectations and in communicating them towards others. It also helps deconstruct the idea that "action made from love = good & action made not of love = bad". People who love you can still hurt you (hence why it's good to know what treatment you want, besides being loved), and people can still act good to you without love being a motivating factor behind it.

I hope this helps!

[flowerbloom-arts]

Hai! Do you have any headcanons for Legs and Louie? If not thats fine :]

Oftentimes I really need a character to stick around in my brain for a while for me to feel comfortable enough to develop headcanons, kind of like a fine rotisserie chicken, and Legs and Louie haven't QUITE reached that point but I have a few patchwork ideas I've gathered while passively appreciating their screentime in both the show and Tapped Out dialog.

I like the idea of ace Legs!! Maybe he's also somewhere on the aro spectrum; I always enjoy the opportunity of putting characters somewhere in there since I relate heavily to the experience (my own sexuality is very..... Hard to untangle, so I choose to remain unlabeled until further notice.)

Louie on the other hand, I'm not so sure about his attraction situation, I'll have to do some more soul-searching for that.

What I do know is that I enjoy them being platonic besties forever since childhood, and they have a very intimate closeness that might raise some eyebrows but they're both fully committed to the friendship gig, and sometimes it'd peak through the veil of professionalism.

I get the feelings Louie is just a tiny bit anxious about his place in the world and isn't completely certain about what he's doing with his life, and having Legs there by his side when he's a whole lot smarter (to Louie) and a whole lot more competent (to Louie) makes him feel a bit bad. Legs doesn't care at all about this, he's loyal to a fault and whatever academic ambitions he had in life can be left to the side for the sake of his friends. Legs doesn't doesn't see it as a tragedy at all; attaining knowledge IS the journey, but maybe some playground bullying is still rooted deep in the back of Louie's mind.

Maybe that anxiety is also why Louie keeps interpreting everything as an order to kill and he's more than ready to do so at a moment's notice, it's a tough guy readiness he thinks he needs to have to make up for the rest of his personality.

(This idea will be something Louie would express in the Mafia/School swap AU too - the poor boy's insecure)

I imagine Louie made a valiant effort to befriend Johnny Tightlips off-screen when he first became part of Tony's main caporegime but Johnny is so professionally walled-off and "shy" it kind of felt like a total rejection to Louie, which he needed some friend counseling to get over. But they're chill in a kind of distant way nowadays.

Legs gets a little nagged by his family over marriage and kids (he still has alot of contact with his fam back in New York [state], Louie on the other hand... Not so much, especially after being betrayed by his ma over the canned sauce) and in response he'd say he's already married to his job and it's got an inhospitable womb for children. Sorry ma.

Not for the main show but here's a little doodle I made for the backstory of their matching piercings in the Genderswap AU :]

[mightymelancholy]

Adding on to a previous post since I feel it's more appropriate to explain here. Warning it gets ranty

I feel a lot of people would miss these "this character is xyz" tweets and live streams. I mean Peridot having little to no sexual/romantic attraction didn't even cross my mind as a young kid or even when I got older. Her being aroace had to be pointed at to me by other YouTubers since I didn't have Twitter (not calling it "X") to see the tweet or the book alluding to her to be aroace. Also because her being aroace wouldn't automatically block off from fusion, since fusion represents varying relationships like toxic relationships, romantic, sexual, polyamorous, monogamous, platonic, and familial relationships. It seems weird to imply Peridot can't have strong platonic and familial fusions just because she's aroace. That's an unfortunate stereotype that the Crewniverse fell into.

Also I won't even get into how Alastor's asexual/aroace identity was vaguely referenced by a joke that was very easy to miss.

Go watch this good video by The Ace Couple

And Octavia hardly contributed to Helluva Boss due to her being overshadowed by her neglectful father that sexually coercived a person with a poor education and a daughter, employees, and himself to financially provide for. I'll keep bringing up how terrible of a character Stolas is any chance I get lol But again a character being ace and or aro is an afterthought even to queer creators, but characters like Angel Dust, Fizz, Blitzø, Ozzie, and Stolas can mention how gay they are. There's nothing inherently wrong with sexual humor it is just that the writers of Hazbin and Helluva think overusing it is funny.

Full Moon was so bad for this 😭 Like making fun of sex toys by having the Cherubs think there torture devices isn't that funny and since they're intentionally or not making fun of people who use them. Like making fun of sex toys and BDSM is hardly funny anymore and really wasn't before at least in the ways some people did it so childishly. The people that participate in those things already get stigmatized enough, why is the show using it as a punchline??

It's just weird and kinda fetishy that the writers depict the prominent gay male characters in the show as extremely sexual people, while asexuals and aromantics can't even mention their orientation. The show uses the word gay or other similar words a good amount of times but only says ace ONCE in Hazbin Hotel that could easily go over someone's head. If people have to go looking for evidence and confirmation outside the show proper then that's not what I'd call good representation. What if platforms get taken down or the posts get removed for whatever reason, then that PROOF of the characters sexuality is gone.

Point is add more characters that are explicitly or heavily implied to be ace and or aro. This shouldn't be hard to make diverse characters important that are also their own person while not ignoring their sexual and romantic orientation. If a character can say they're gay/lesbian/bisexual etc. and like sex with pride, then why can't an ace/aro character.

[rosieethor]

Hello!! I was just curious if you and Madeline Dyer were planning on doing an anthology of being aro and ace combined? Thank you! And I hope your weekend has been well!

This is a great question with a somewhat unsatisfying answer: we don't know.

I am really hopeful that Page Street (the publisher for Being Ace and Being Aro) will want to continue the series and do anthologies for other microlabels under the aro and ace spectrum umbrella, whether I am involved in them or not. I think there's a lot of potential there and clearly there's demand for it! We won't know for sure what our publisher wants to do until further down the road, and it probably heavily depends on how Being Aro does in the market.

Anyone who is invested in seeing more projects like this, I highly recommend following Madeline Dyer, who is the brains of the operation. If there are going to be more books in the series, she'll be the one driving that ship. Anything you can do to spread the word about Being Ace or Being Aro is very much appreciated, and while you're at it, check out Common Bonds and Common Bonds 2 because something something rising tides lift all boats and two cakes (four cakes) are better than one!

It has occurred to me that there's a possible other interpretation of your question and I might be totally off base here so let me also add, if you are asking if there will be an omnibus where both are printed together in one book, I doubt it, but never say never! I'd love to see it happen, but my knowledge of publishing tells me that it would be too expensive to print in this economy. But never say never! A special edition with all the stories together would absolutely rule!

[unnamed-idi0t]

Hi I’m basing headcannons on nothing guy I heard you base headcannons on nothing AND I WANT TO HEAR THEM!!! NOW!!! GIMMIE YOUR FORSAKEN HEADCANNONS !!! ANY WILL DO 🫵🫵🫵🫵🫵‼️‼️‼️‼️ /nf /silly

:3c

Survivors

Elliot is a menace. Absolute piece of shit. He lost his ability to gaf YEARS ago. The only thing holding him back was his job requirements

The only reason he doesn't gobble up all his pizza like a madman is bc of gluten intolerance and dairy allergy

He once screamed at Chance for a solid minute before aggressively healing him back to full

This may or may not be based off how I play Elliot

Taph lowkey has a crush on Builderman except it's not lowkey literally everyone knows it

Except Builderman

Dusekkar is the only one that OFFICIALLY knows. They think she could do better /silly

TPAH AND DUSEKKAR <333 They share a room together and managed to convince Builderman to make them a bunkbed

Dusekkar is top bunk because Taph will fall off the bed

Chance loads blanks into his gun because he's stupid /aff

Admitting this to Elliot while the other was angry at him was not a good idea

:3

Rolls a dice to see how long he should cook stuff for/how much stuff to add

Banned from the kitchen

So is Elliot tbh

Guest 1337 is in a polycule with Daisy and Matt

I struggled over who I liked with him better until I realized he has two hands

He still thinks Matt is dead and mourns that a ton, along with not being there for his daughter and wife

I heard one-sided Chance/Azure was a thing and then got retconned but FUCK CANON I DO WHAT I WANT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Chance wants Azure so badd

Two Time agrees

Azure hates them both but his hatred for Chance is new and fresh and his hatred for Two Time is deeply personal so it evens out

007n7 retired from hacking shortly after adopting c00lkidd

c00l gui stuff was just c00lkidd being a menace there after

007n7 made sure it never hurt anyone too much tho

His favorite pizza flavor is PINEAPPLE the FREAK /j

it's a major reason Elliot hates him sm /silly

Survivor’s Cabin:

(Other furniture can be added/taken away)

(Don't listen to the numbers I'm bad at them </3)

It's two survivors to a room, the order goes as follows:

Shedletsky & Builderman

Taph & Dusekkar

Elliot & Two Time

Noob & 007n7

Guest & Chance

They all take turns doing chores. Builderman made a list

Noob likes to cook and is GOOD at it too

Taph can only do trash duty because she is not allowed near the kitchen and managed to make an explosive from a broom and mop bucket

She likes disposing of it (💥💥💥) anyway so it's all good

Sundays are “fend for yourself” days.

no chores, everyone makes their own food, etc etc

Killers (not much here </3)

1x likes chicken and it weighs on him heavily.

Eggs are a good substitute

In fact anything that reminds him of Shedletsky

Whenever another killer compares him to Shedletsky he just sighs heavily and sulks in his room for the next hour or so

When 1x4 does his hair he gains +100 confidence

hence where all the quips come from w/ Betrayed 1x

He says them in his head he just only chooses to speak when he gets more confidence to

I like to think those rounds where killers are afk/don't do anything happen in canon too

Pretty rare

Sometimes you don't have the energy for jack shit

Spectre always throws a hissy fit tho

Guest 666 and Guest 1337 have pleasant conversation during these times :3

1x4 takes care of c00lkidd

In a bad and good way

He's teaching the child life skillz AND how to behead your enemies effectively

Doe is the uncle that bought you illegal fireworks

Azure is the gay cousin that refuses to talk to anyone at family gatherings

Guest 666 is the cat.

And then, of course, obligatory queer headcanons 💥💥✨✨

Elliot - He/him, bi :33

Chance - He/they, pan

Taph - She/her/💥/💣, unlabeled

Builderman - he/it, gay

Shedletsky - he/him, bi

Two Time - They/them, unlabeled

Guest 1337 - he/him, poly and bi

007n7 - he/him, aro/ace

Dusekkar - they/them, aro/bi

Noob - she/they, unlabeled

I also have Taph hcs for how she refers to different survivors :D

[mechanicoyote]

“I’ve lived, died, loved and lost. I’ve betrayed and been betrayed, killed and was killed. I was dead inside a long time before my corpse hit the dirt.”

“So forgive me if I’m past givin’ a shit.”

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Multiship/Multiverse/OC friendly rp sideblog to my main, @dunaskmenuthin, run by TNTpig(25+, she/her, ASD/OCD/anxiety haver) I’ve got 14+ years of writing experience, and I’m excited to get further into the HH/HB writing community! (Discord rping is preferred, but not necessarily required!) -Semi-selective, though not mutuals only. -I usually do multi-paragraph to novella length threads, but I can do shorter form if that’s what we both wanna do. And I don’t need replies to match length, just please give me something to work with. -I don’t do exclusives, I feel it limits the fun I have writing. -General roleplay/thread etiquette apply here- no spamming, no anon hate (unless I do an ask specifically requesting it or our characters are like that with one another), no stalking, no badgering, all that good stuff. This is supposed to be fun, so let’s keep it that way!

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[bucksboobs]

Curious about your hcs for 911 characters sexualities? Like tbh the only character I can see as fully straight.... maybe Athena? Everyone else is at least a lil fruity (love hc of aro/ace!Ravi tbh, so done with 118 hijinks)

So as much as I joke about Buck 1.0 wanting to seduce Bobby, I do actually see him (and Athena) as one hundo percent straight. Basically the only straight people in LA.

Chimney and Maddie have such strong bi4bi energy that I can’t help but read them as both being a little bit bisexual and Chimney having had some hookups with guys pre-Tatiana. Maddie’s never explored her attraction to women much in practice, since she went from Doug to Howie pretty quick but being with Howie helped her better understand it, which is why she teases Buck so much about his boy crushes and also why her best friend is Josh (gays flock together)

Lucy is so bisexual, Lena Bosko is so a lesbian, and Ravi I actually see as bi and being Not Interested in getting involved with the 118’s nonsense is a separate thing. Until he hooked up with Victoria I actually though Albert was gay but bi is fine for my Hanikkar Agenda

I’m not going to contradict any canon LGBT sexualities so we’ll skip over Hen, Karen, Buck, Josh, Tommy, etc.

Now for the controversial part:

Eddie I, personally, hc as gay and deeply, deeply, very deeply in denial about it. I think he dated Shannon because that was what was expected of him (I had a similar experience of being Expected to eventually marry my childhood girl best friend, so like I am aware I’m projecting a little.) and while he has romanticized that relationship to Hell, Heaven, Purgatory, and back, he wasn’t really attracted to her physically. In fact I don’t think he really understands what physical attraction is because he’s so heavily compartmentalized his attraction to men that he’s unaware of it even when it does happen. He hangs out with Tommy ringside and does Muay Thai with him shirtless and never questions the way his heart speeds up or his palms sweat because to him it’s just the excitement of making a new friend. In fact I have a lot of headcanons about how he views sex as his Husbandly Duty, as a chore that he has to do to maintain relationships, and that once he finally breaks through the layers and layers of repression, learning to love sex (with men) and be excited about it will be a magical and healing experience for him. Obviously that’s a very specific interpretation of the character but it’s my personal opinion.

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Oh, oh!!! Lovefell questions, because I adore learning about 'variations' on common AUs.

Is there any kind of... bias for or against any specific sexualities (or is everyone a kind of pan/omni sexual?) Like if there is a variety, are people who are pan or bi seen as 'more' desirable/reasonable than someone who is, say demisexual? If sexualities doesn't have much impact does romantic attraction play any part? such as would an aromantic person be seen as more sensible then an alloromantic?

Do people commonly go on a 'i'll scratch your back if you scratch mine' basis, or is it more common for people to approach any kind of exchange in a 'i want to get the most in return for the least from me' or is it a heavily subjective thing that each person differs so widely on that there isn't a common point/majority of the time spot?

Is the state something that grows as a young monster matures? or is it something that is expressed and handled a little differently, but from that same source of the emotional imbalance, in young monsters? Does it act a bit like human puberty in that it feels like, in short order, they go from having a firm grip on their emotional selves to having little to no control over their emotions?

Obviously family will be a different support system from friends and/or lovers, but do larger groups ever try to start more broad support systems for each other, or is the level of that challenge too high for them to tackle due to their collective struggles? If their are larger group support systems, do they have to work in a hush hush manner, or are they able to just do their thing without any significant worry about if they are noticed?

What is the most popular treat/food?

These are all very good questions thank you!!  Unfortunately I am not even a little succinct ever so I am answering under a read more lol

Is there any kind of...  bias for or against any specific sexualities[...]

  It's a little complicated.  I generally imagine monsters have a much more fluid culture around sexuality and gender, so they don't often label things, more so work off of their own personal preferences, with exceptions of a few things that would carry over from human culture post surfacing- but that's beside the point lol

  The reason it gets complicated is predominately because, above all else, you don't want to gain any sort of difficult or negative reputation.  It's not necessarily *just about your own personal needs being met, but playing your role, which isn't even all that different from standard Fell, except it *will more immediately and directly impact your chances of survival.

  This of course often leads to people compromising their personal preferences for the sake of not being ostracized, basically.  And with the "condition" at play, a lot of people's own preferences become...murky.

  The ever looming threat of isolation makes most too scared to explore what would actually work best for them.  It's why most monsters aren't exactly any definition of the word healthy while still underground.  It's all a balancing act, and it's typically a much safer bet to try pleasing others and taking what you can get from that than seeking what you actually *want, rather than scraps of what you need.

  Under the right circumstances, that can actually work out pretty well for those who are aro or ace, but in equal measure it can also make it much, much harder.

Do people commonly go on a 'i'll scratch your back if you scratch mine' basis, or[...]

  It definitely varies, but overall it's usually more balanced, partially for aforementioned reasons.  Reputation is *super important, and if you pick up the reputation of someone manipulative and draining, you won't last long.

  Overall, when I mentioned things had sorta self stabilized, most monsters have found spots in the system that work alright for them, and are...amicable.  With those they work with.  It doesn't *always work out super well, especially if a monster "destabilizes" or Falls Down, it can put a lot of pressure on those around them to compensate for the change, which can level out super easy...or cause a lot of unnecessary grief in its wake.

Is the state something that grows as a young monster matures? [...]

  It is a little like puberty haha, but it is also noticeable from the get go.  Or, well.  When the "medicine" had been distributed initially, it had affected pretty much everyone the same over a brief period of time, though it probably started more noticeably causing the less desirable symptoms in younger adult and older monsters the fastest (but not by much).

  Since then, due to the nature of it actually mutating their souls, it's passed on genetically.  Monsters born under those circumstances are typically more emotional and vulnerable from the jump, but not *too much more than a monster child from a different AU, so it does kind of worsen as they age.

  A random hc that is surprisingly relevant here is a general one I have about how "monster puberty" works.  It's much more heavily based off of a monsters magic level than a specific age window.  Weaker monsters will usually go through it more quickly and earlier, while stronger monsters typically go through it more slowly and evenly over a longer period of time.  Sometimes the monsters own stability or health at the time will change this/cause "speed bumps" or similar, but those are the guidelines I typically work off when writing any younger monsters.

  That being said, in this case, health plays a bigger role, and due to the strengthening of their souls, most monsters generally mature more slowly, with the exception of it usually starting younger.  But that's under relatively healthy conditions, with needs being met.  And because that's super hot and cold due to Fell living conditions, a lot of monsters experience a kind of bumpy "puberty" almost more similar to a humans, where it more readily imbalances their emotions and causes things like growth spurts or "growing pains".

Obviously family will be a different support system from friends and/or lovers, but [...]

  It varies wildly!  I know I've mentioned a "system" and reputation and blah blah blah like 90 times already, but it's not like, a formal, organized thing.  It's just...implied.  You do your best to find your place and then, so long as you're not disrupting something else, you stay there.  I mean, we all have our parts in the ecosystems around us, this is no different, just a bit more...high tension.

  When it comes to *actually organizing larger groups, it depends.  Like, Grillby runs a club, he employs dancers and a couple other bartenders, and sort of lowkey security but you didn't hear that from me.  For the most part, they all know they're a part of this group.  They rely on each other, and there's...some level of trust there, but it's not discussed or kept track of beyond each individual monster being more inclined to keep an eye on those they're familiar with.

  Obviously Asgore doesn't have a problem with that sort of thing.  Monsters depend on each other, and he’s making Snowdin better off overall.

  But there *are "webs" of monsters who *do aim to run more under the radar.  This is...more delicate.  There can be different motivation for why they're operating so, and some of those motivations can be dangerous.  While Asgore prioritizes keeping monsters alive, it doesn't mean he’s willing to stand by idly with any, uh, misbehavior.

  It's also more risky for the members themselves since keeping *any major secrets about potential alliances can make *you seem untrustworthy, and if things fall through or implode with that group, can leave you high and dry with others unwilling to take the chance of trusting you.

  It's also usually just more complicated in general, the larger an acknowledged group gets.  Everyone has different needs and when everyone's already kinda running on half empty most of the time, all it takes is a few stray sparks to hit the tinder for things to go south.

What is the most popular treat/food?

  While their CORE problems, and thusly supply problems, remain pretty similar to UF, I will say that Muffet's stuff is actually really popular.  She knows how to cater, in more ways than one.  Her cupcakes might outsell her donuts though (not a euphemism)

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look as a lesbian I don’t get why it’s so awful to just want lesbian spaces?? We as queer people all have different experiences and we can have smaller spaces while still embracing the whole community.

Lesbians go through different experiences than bi non-men do. That DOES NOT mean “we suffer more” or whatever because I hate the whole oppression olympics shit. We are not attracted to men neither sexually nor romantically, and that’s what makes us oppressed in this heteronormative world. We go through harassment, corrective rape, violence, and conversion “therapy” because we are homosexual. If my dad ever found out I was exclusively attracted to women I would get kicked out. Why is it suddenly so awful and “gatekeepy” to ask us to have our own spaces? We still have sapphic spaces! We even have bi spaces and pan spaces! Heck, I see gay non-women are allowed to have their own spaces!

It’s harmful to be treated as a monolith. I’m not attracted to men, and saying im an “exclusionist” for this is lesbophobic. I’m not evil for being exclusively attracted to non-men. I’m not evil for saying we should have our own spaces while we’d still have sapphic spaces!

Words have meanings, and the lesbian label is important to me, for all of its history and all of my struggles. I’m tired of us all being seen as “big mean lesbians who hate men” so so much. It reeks of misogyny to me.

I am heavily disappointed, and I ask everyone to please understand why bi lesbians are harmful.

I'm disappointed you've missed the point of my post. I was talking about the history of different lesbians and sapphics being excluded and hated in our community through generations. The conversation wasn't about bi lesbians specifically, it was about the butches, transfemmes, Pan/Bi, Aro/Ace, nonbinary, and countless other identities that were or ARE still considered not "valid" members of our community at point or another. I was pointing out how this "Bi Lesbian exclusion" is just a repeat of past mistakes and in the retrospective it is rooted in radfem/terf ideology that claims sapphics have to present and feel a certain way to be accepted. I didn’t say anywhere that being attracted to non-men is evil, I didn’t call anyone a “big mean lesbian”. You’re putting words into my mouth. That entire post was about defending sapphic’s right to attraction and expression.

Lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non cis women and etc can all be oppressed, harassed, hate crimed, rejected by friends/family and other terrible things for their non heteronormative attraction.

Some people are failing to realize these exclusively “one identity spaces" they feel are being threatened don't actually exist in real life. Sure someone can have like, a "nonbinaries only" discord server or a meet up with friends who are all the the same identity. But a majority of queer spaces in real life? They don't have those rules because theres no way to separate queer identities neatly like that- There isn't a need to. You're going to find bisexuals and pansexuals and nonbinaries and trans people and all sorts of other identities at the same lesbian bar, the same sapphic support group, the same circle of friends.

So what exactly are these "spaces" that every other identity has and lesbians supposedly don't? Maybe ask why bisexuals, pansexuals, etc also being in a sapphic space feels so threatening to some in the first place? They have a right to be there as well. We are a community.

A label can be used and defined as whatever the owner of the label is comfortable with! "Lesbian" has always been an umbrella term. It can be a singular identity or it can describe any sapphic experience or it can do lots of things, labels have always been flexible in this way. Someone using the label differently than another person isn't harmful. It's expression.

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Oo! Or Naruto meets Dungeon Meshi!

Okay, so like some spoilers ahead for Meshi, so under the cut.

Demons in Meshi are located at the bottom of the dungeons and are responsible for their formation. The Elemental Nations are a place that figured out how to seal demons inside people. So we're doing away with like half the lore in Naruto now.

There are still ninjas, and Obito is being manipulated by a Dungeon Lord who was still alive because his demon had been sealed into a tree. The connection is allowing the Dungeon Lord to work on unsealing the demon.

It's a Tallmen-only country, despite the elves trying, because thanks to how they handle their demons, the Tallmen's powers aren't exactly the same as magic, so they can fight back pretty well.

Anyway, Naruto mostly happens canon, except for the Goddess thing and all that, and... I'm sorry ,but Kurama follows demon rules of Meshi now. No friendship between Naruto and him.

However, Naruto hates the idea of anyone else being treated as he was. The actions of him, Gaara and Bee changed some opinions, but the civilians still heavily dislike them. He still is refused service, still sneered at and called an abomination. So, Naruto decides to leave. His death outside the Elemental Nations will cause the demon inside him to escape, but a dungeon will form around him instead.

Naruto isn't alone, though. Sakura follows, as do Kakashi and Shikamaru. Rock Lee, Ino, Chouji, Tenten, Iruka and Gai are only a few steps behind as well. (There is some drama with Naruto not getting with Hinata because 'she waited so long for you' but he isn't interested in her even if she's nice. It's why Kiba and Shino don't follow too.)

Sasuke, Karin, Juugo and Suigestu also go, but they don't follow the others. Too much bad blood. They keep in touch through summons and letters. It's enough.

Naruto and his younger friends form a large adventuring party to earn money, while Iruka, Gai, and Kakashi more or less retire to run a business of sorts. This way, they end up running into Laios and his party. They become friends.

I imagine that Naruto's large party often breaks up so that it's more fun for them to. When Falin is eaten by a Dragon, Namari alerts Naruto when she sees him after she accepts a new party. Naruto was alone at the time as he'd taken a small break from adventuring, but ran right to Laios to help out.

Small nerfing of the Ninja powers will have to happen to make things consistent, though, as otherwise it wouldn't be an interesting read. Naruto, as well, would realize no one knows what causes dungeons to form, and would have to come to the difficult choice to tell them about why. Including his theory about the Winged Lion.

Pairing ideas: I'm kinda feeling Sakura/Rock Lee, Chouji/Ino, Kakashi/Gai, Aro-Ace Iruka, Tenten meets a pretty girl, Shikmaru/Naruto... Marcille/Falin of course and Chilaois!