#which: it’s all on a spectrum right

[bloomburnburial]

i always come to the conclusion that autism does not seem like a useful way of describing my personal experiences but god damn if it hasn’t been a running theme throughout my lifetime. schrodinger’s autism…

i guess it’s more “this doesn’t fully encapsulate my experiences but I do gain insight into myself when I look through this lens and that can be useful sometimes; however I have other experiences that make me feel as though using that label for myself would be somehow disingenuous”. I mean I’m pro using what fits and discarding what doesn’t quite, and this has always felt like it doesn’t quite. thought not fully formed, honestly. one of those things that I don’t need to make a decision about. can remain a running theme without requiring commitment either way

[starchild--27]

my mom: you know, i won't mind who you'll end up with, boy or girl or anything else. <3

me: yeah, i know you won't mind. <3

my mom: except for when you'll end with no one at all. <3

my recently as aspec-identifying ass: ... ._.

[sergle]

There's something about like. A certain genre of posts / Online Opinions about insecurity/depression/misery/complaints that are so unhelpful that they wrap right around to being straight up hilarious. and it's the ones that are more or less written to the tone of "Feeling bad? That's gross!" Like, just so you know, don't voice your insecurities/ have low self esteem, because that's offputting! You're gross and weird. Don't be insecure about that, though. That would be stupid if you felt insecure about people disliking you for being insecure. Not attractive. You should be thinking about being as attractive as possible. You shouldn't make comments about suicide, even if you're suicidal! Keep those thoughts entirely to yourself. Make sure nobody around you knows you're thinking about this. It would Make Them Uncomfortable. It's better to keep these thoughts in your head where they can fester. Don't post OR talk to friends with complaints about you feeling miserable or depressed. Tbh people who are sad/upset a lot? Kinda a red flag! You are probably miserable because you're a bad person and you've brought this on yourself. If you don't have friends, it's because you're awful to be around. Easy! Solved the problem for you. And no, there is no nuance to this, got it? So, make sure to feel bad about feeling bad, but don't feel bad about it, because, well, that's just gross. And annoying! You might've wanted your brain rotted thoughts to be Peer Reviewed, you might have just needed to vent- you might've been hoping for some comfort, to get things off your chest. Well, don't! Don't talk about thoughts or feelings that are negative with your friends, you'd be burdening them and that's only meant for THERAPY. #SponsoredbyBetterHelp #MentalHealth like, DAMN. that's so helpful. you're so good at helping. I um really liked the part where these are all hard and fast rules that encourage keeping feelings bottled up and keeping your friends at arm's length. That's really funny of you.

[eclaire-went-bam]

although i think it's important to acknowledge the complexities of aro & ace identities, & to be welcoming of aroace identities that may be sex/romance favourable/hypersexual & seek those relationships, i think it's still important to acknowledge that completely romance/sex repulsed aroaces are still a minority in the ace community despite being the stereotype. & we should still listen to those voices,

[seaoftales]

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[stuck-in-the-ghost-zone]

[opens-up-4-nobody]

OCD is pretty common among autistic people, and many of us who dont have full-on OCD may experience some things that can be kinda similar to some aspects of it. I'm on the spectrum myself and i also have this issue of basically getting stuck on some thoughts. It sucks, sometimes it's something that makes me angry but doesnt actually matter that much in the grand acheme of things and i just end up in a bad mood over something stupid and cant stop thinking abt it for a few days even though there are no new thoughts about it, i just keep going through old ones again and again and again. I dont know if there's a term for it, but hey, at least I'm not the only one, and neither are you. Generally i just look for distractions and wait until the thoughts get less obsessive and annoying

That makes sense, thanks!

[rawliverandgoronspice]

One thing I really like is that the whole Unhallowed Vespers trilogy (so Litany, Descant and Antiphon) is that is really served as my brainstorming test grounds for Thralls.

There are ideas in there I realize I don't like as much as I thought in hindsight, or conflict with other stuff I decided I'd rather pursue instead, and I get to have explored them before committing to those in a more long-form kind of project --or some that are too subtle or complicated to be carried out outside of writing (mostly thinking of a ton of Ganondorf character details, some things about gerudo culture that I want to tweak, characters that are getting axed because We Don't Have Time, etc).

On the contrary, there are things I set up in there I never actually got to explore, and I get to pull out that thread in here instead (basically every single of the hylians' character arc roughly, Nabooru, even Impa in a way). It's pretty weird and interesting to revisit the same core ideas twice, but in a different medium and with different character arcs in mind starting off the same thing.

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

analyzing hermes, emet-selch, the ancients and ascians, how they're written, and the fandom's reaction to them be like hm. emet-selch's role in this fuckery is compounded by the fact that his backstory as a genocide survivor is incongruous with his ruling a huge genocidal colonialist world power in the present da [ANTISEMITISM BLAST]

[subconsciousmysteries]

there's an outbreak of BPD in men and it's called The Manosphere.

Since they are men and we villainize men more readily, everyone's insisting that "no it's not BPD, it's Covert NPD / Compensatory NPD". Failing to realize that these two conditions are the exact same thing. BPD is literally just the unstable and more openly wimpy version of NPD.

The core psychology of both disorders is the same solipsistic, self-obsessed sociopathy where you are completely driven by your insecurities and you view other people as mere tools to ease your constant suffering.

[microwaving-tesilid-argente]

the writing fanfic to "huh? this doesn't seem like how romance is normally written" to "am i somewhere on the aro spectrum" to "oh god the reason i dont identify w the generic aro label is bc i need a microlabel" to "fuck i need to rewrite this whole fic" pipeline

[tasmanianstripes]

Sometimes I remember absolutely batshit insane discourse topics I saw when I was a teen and I am just. Amazed

Also, the fact that adults also said this just adds to the insanity tbh

[when-did-this-become-difficult]

me livestreaming the ohio senate in the minutes leading up to a vote that will determine whether or not gender affirming care is outright banned for minors: this is the bad place

"It also prevents doctors from prescribing hormones, puberty blockers or gender reassignment surgery before patients turn 18" per the Cincinnati Enquirer.

[jonathanrook]

okay but the problem is. and the reason i don't actually id as ace. is that i have. ya'know. been sexually attracted to people before. two. to be specific.

[crystalkitty1220]

mustard.

What am I Iooking at here

[foxxsong]

Man, I get wanting to shit on homeschooling conservatives about trying to brainwash their kids or whatever and I'm sure that happens in some cases, but this pervasive idea that homeschooling is always a red flag HAS to go.

You know what my family did to try and ensure I was only exposed to the "right" topics in the "right" way? Send me to private school. You know what other families with conservative or religious agendas did to ensure their kids would only experience what they approved of at school? Sent them to a fucking private school. Even the families that did not have NEARLY enough money to properly justify private education did it because of how much they wanted to ensure their kid was only exposed to their values.

You know what caused my parents to finally start considering homeschooling for me and my brother? When our disabilities made attending an actual school too difficult or even impossible. The other cases of people I've known or met who were either homeschooled or homeschooling their kid(s) were pretty much exclusively cases where it was detrimental to the CHILD to be attending in-person schooling.

Conservatives have options to continue sending their kids to school while still teaching them only what they want. Disabled kids and their families? Often homeschooling is the only way to keep their kid in school while also valuing their health.

If I had kids I'd sure as hell prefer to homeschool. I couldn't finish my high school diploma because I know firsthand how little our education system gives a shit about the health, well-being, and reasonable milestones of its students (and it's only gotten worse since I dropped out). You can give a child a good education on their terms while also letting them have experiences for growth and meeting a wide variety of people without having to rely completely on a system that does not care about them. And the idea that people would be suspicious of me? Just for not wanting to subject my kids to the hell I and other people like me have gone through? Pisses me off.