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6: Do you like to be dominant or submissive?
I'd say submissive like 90% of the time, but domming every once in a while would be hot
14: Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?
I'm leaning more towards giving cos I'd like to know I'm making someone else feel good
20: If you could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be?
Oh god, the more accurate question would be who do I not want to have sex with rn lol. Probably at the top of my list though it'd have to be have to be the girl in my class who I've had a crush on for a while (but she has a long term boyfriend 😔) (ig the boyfriend can come to tho lol)
#ask reply#ask#t#i woud sleep with anyone who would have me tbh#my crush on her is kinda waning tho cos she 100% thinks im gay#which is counterproductive#but after her is tied with any of my friends and any tumblr white boy of the month#i am not immune to those curly brown haired motherfuckers 😔
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misconceptions abt nero & weiss: they never fight. if they argue it is amicable.
reality: they rarely fight, that much is true. but when they do someone ends up concussed.
#ooc.#just throwing each other through walls#they were raised in deepground fighting is like 95 percent of the communication that goes on down there#they don't deliberately hurt each other but it is absolutely a squabble for dominance#probably involves actual growling and snarling like animals too#its usually bc one is about to get themselves hurt#which is counterproductive
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Jason’s alcohol tolerance is exactly 0.09%, which Dick knows. Which is the primary reason he roped his siblings into playing a drinking game.
At most, Steph, who likes to think she’s fluent in Jason, — or Batboys with repressed emotions, at least, — anticipated the following:
Angry shouting, maybe some swear words God definetly didn’t approve of, trying to fist fight Alfred’s plants, painting the Batmobile pink, and the works.
She definitely didn’t expect a ruby cheeked Jason to cry in Bruce’s lap.
“What the fuck are we gonna do if we don’t know eachother in the next life, huh?!”
Tim piped up with an a nerdy rant, — technically, if life were to reinvent itself into another existence, it’d simply be an alternative universe being created, — but Jason simply throws his shoe at him.
Bruce, much to Damian’s pride, doesn’t look shaken in the slightest. If he can handle his mother, he can handle everything,
“Sweetheart, I really think that’s not going to happen, thought,” he assures him with gentle conviction.
“But we’re not gonna know eachother! What the FUCK. I want to be your son in every life. I’m gonna kill God.”
“Please don’t kill God.”
“We’re Jewish, what do we care?!”
“Jay,” Bruce promised, “I would find you in every universe.”
That was supposed to make Jason feel better, not make him cry harder. But it’s cute Bruce tried, Dick thinks.
He still grounds all of them for paining the Batmobile, thought.
#GIVE ME GOOD GOLDEN CHILD JASON#yeah - sure - he decapitated several people and monopolized an entire crime system. but he also doesn’t touch alcohol until he’s 22#stops at red lights. does jury duty#which is counterproductive if you ask him but it’s to annoy Harvey#anyway!! drunk Jason being an affectionate puppy <3333#bruce wayne#jason todd#dick grayson#stephanie brown#batfamily#batdad#text#text post
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i feel like im not making any sense but does anyone else feel like there are stories that let u run with them and ones that spell everything out for you
#im reading that post that says artists are directors of audience reaction and not its dictator:#'you cannot guarantee that everyone viewing your work will react as you are trying t make them react. a good artist knows that this is what#allows work to breath. by definition you cannot have art where the viewer brings nothing to the table ... this is why you have to let go of#the urge to plainly state in text exactly how you think the work should be interpreted ... its better to be misinterpreted sometimes than#to talk down to your audience. you wont even gain any control that way; people will still develop their opinions no matter what you do#im thinking abt this again cuz i was thinking maybe the thing that lets adventure time work so well the way it does is cuz it doesnt#take itself too seriously that it gives the audience enough room to fuck with subtext and then fuck with them back yknow. i think it was#mentioned somewhere that they werent even planning to run with the postapocalyptic elements that are hinted in the show but changed their#mind after the one off with the frozen businessmen and dominoed into marcy and simons backstory. on the other side there are stories that#explain too much to let the story speak for itself and i think it ends up having to do more with the crew trying to lead ppl in a certain#direction than expand on what they have and i see a lot of this with miraculous. like when interviews and tweets are used as word of god in#arguments and it becomes a little stifling to play around with it knowing the creator can just interject. u can say its the crews effort to#engage with its audience but it feels more like micromanaging. and none of this is to say there ISNT room for stories that spell things out#theyre just suited for different things. if sesame street tried abstract approaches to themes and nuance itd be counterproductive#a lot of things fly over my head so i need help picking things apart to get it- but it doesnt have to be from the story itself. ive picked#picked up or built on my own interpretations listening to other ppl share their thoughts which creates conversation around the same thing#sometimes stories will spell things out for you without being so obvious abt it that it feels like its woven into the text. my fav example#for this might be ATLA using younger characters as its main cast but instead of feeling like its dumbed down for kids to understand why war#is bad its framed from a childs point of view so younger audiences can pick up on it by relating to the characters. maybe an 8 year old#wont get how geopolitics works but at least they get 'hey the world is a little more complicated than everyone vs. fire nation'. same for#steven universe bc its like theyre trying to describe and put feelings into words that kids might not have so they have smth to start with#especially with the metaphors around relationships bc even if it looks unfamiliar as a kid now maybe the hope is for it to be smth you can#look back to. thats why it feels like these shows grew up with me.. instead of saving difficult topics for 'when im ready for it'#as if its preparing me for high school it gave me smth to turn in my hands and revisit again and again as i grow. stories that never#treated u as dumb all along. just someone who could learn and come back to it as many times as u need to. i loved SU for the longest time#but i felt guilty for enjoying it hearing the way ppl bash it. bc i was a kid and thought other ppl understood it better than me and made#feel bad for leaning into the message of paying forward kindness and not questioning why steven didnt punish the diamonds or hold them#accountable. but im rewatching it now and going oh. i still love this show and what it was trying to teach me#yapping#diary
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Mike, El, and Will - scared of my guitar by Olivia Rodrigo, Mike POV
GUYS I'M A REAL FAN ARTIST NOW READY:
Sorry this one took a little longer to get out, I am recovering from surgery!
@your-local-bi-guy @imatotallynormalteengirlok @throne-of-crows
@best-thing-at-this-party
#my edits#byler edit#byler#stranger things#mike wheeler#i also went to a callback while recovering though so it's kinda just general irresponsible workaholism#i booked it tho which is kinda counterproductively incentivizing
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"Any assessment of the emotional component of the reconciliation of [Empress Matilda and Geoffrey of Anjou] remains speculation: the chroniclers are silent on the issue of whether [they] grew to love, hate, or like each other. We do know, from their movements and actions, that Matilda and Geoffrey eventually arrived at a businesslike arrangement with a united viewpoint toward the dynastic, geopolitical goals that had dictated their marriage in the first place."
"Matilda and Geoffrey effectively transitioned from a Divide and Rule model to a Collaborative Union from 1144 onwards, in which they worked together throughout their marriage to ensure rulership over their territories and gained their rightful lands, as well as ensuring the inheritance for their children. Matilda and Geoffrey’s political partnership can effectively be argued as the most successful through applying different models of rulership. Ultimately the Plantagenets regained Matilda’s inheritance through Henry, conquered Normandy, and produced several male heirs."
Charles Beem, The Lioness Roared: The Problems of Female Rule in English History / Gabrielle Storey, Co-Rulership, Co-operation and Competition: Queenship in the Angevin Domains, 1135-1230
#WHAT I'VE BEEN SAYING!!! (in my head)#empress matilda#geoffrey of anjou#my post#historicwomendaily#It's very common for historians and historical novelists to overly focus on the emotional component of their marriage#usually by presenting it as wholly negative and dysfunctional#Which is honestly...incredibly counterproductive and misleading when it comes to studying them as historical figures.#We don't know what their marriage was like. We don't know what they felt about each other or if that evolved over time#As Beem says any assessment of their personal dynamic has to necessarily remain speculative.#(and honestly: Matilda offering donations to Godstow abbey for his safety in the 1140s and founding an abbey soon after his death in#honor of him and her parents - without mentioning her first husband - does open the door for potential reassessments of their relationship)#However: what we DO know for sure is that they had an exceptionally successful partnership#demonstrably the most effective from all Angevin rulers of England#And unlike all female rulers & their husbands from 12th century Europe they did not present threats to each other's authority#They also seem to have more or less respected each other's chosen titles (Empress and Duke of Normandy respectively)#And contrary to the popular idea that they fought for control over their sons#they actually seem to have been very cooperative in that regard - especially where Henry was concerned#See: Geoffrey sending Henry to Matilda with Robert of Gloucester#Matilda sending Henry back to him after his conquest of Normandy#Both of them originally fought for their own rights/power but eventually decided to transfer the dynastic succession to Henry#Matilda dropped the title 'domina Anglorum' from 1148 and Geoffrey relinquished his title of Duke to Henry in 1150#in order to promote him as the heir and king-claimant in the war#It was clearly a joint decision and it wouldn't have worked had their views and goals not been united and cooperative#and honestly I find this demonstrably successful partnership SO much more interesting for both of them than needless - and baseless -#speculations on their personal dynamic#that have influenced and warped popular views of them as historical figures
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thinking about this post but also it's more than that. do you ever think about how stories starring men are allowed to be about humanity but stories starring women have to be about Womanhood
#it's just the same discourse from like the 2010s about how girls will read about boys but boys won't read about girls#and we haven't gotten anywhere#even when it's like in a feminist way!!! there's room for stories about Womanhood obviously#but believe it or not ''women'' is not the only significant trait or experience that that half of the population has#and frankly I think it's counterproductive to focus every woman-centric narrative on the Woman aspect in some kind of feminism way#especially I feel like in adaptations that get a more hashtag feminism focus! like that story was about a person that was a woman#and you made it into a story about Women. which. ok#but was it not enough for her to just be a human being#experiencing human experiences that perhaps men could relate to#but a story with a male main character is allowed to exist on its own terms#no one's like. okay the main theme of this is obviously something to do with masculinity#(unless that's actually true)#a man is still the default character to explore your ideas and adding the ''girl'' trait is seen as like this extra distortion#that you would add only if you wanted to explore Womenness#like everyone's putting a guy in situations but hey maybe your guy could be a woman#even if the specific situation doesn't call for it#did you ever think of that?#and a lot of it I think is because men are conditioned not to relate to female characters#so making a male character would work to expand your audience because female readers are still willing to invest in him but not vice versa#but that doesn't mean we should just keep perpetuating the cycle#and only making stories about women specifically for women about Womanhood#that's just cementing the problem even further#obviously this is all a generalization and there are exceptions#this also applies to things like race#like in the US if you're making a story with a nonwhite main character suddenly it has to be like About Race or something
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JUTOS TELLING YALL THE WAKE TF UP AWAKE DROPPED
#this is vee speaking#fast rap used to be samatoki’s flow and this is the second song we’ve gotten where juto’s going off what happened lmao???????#i’m not mad the song’s going stoopid just????? what if samatoki isn’t speed spitting in his solo LOL#anyway i’m glad juto finally dropped lol#if kr had listened to me when i said it would be counterproductive to drop on bb album this wait wouldn’t have felt so bad i bet#but it’s chill lol#this song reeeeally feels like gangster rap like even more so than other mtc songs which is crazy lol#but so far i’ve been lowkey getting what i’ve asked for in these mtc solos lol#for rio’s he’s critising chuuoku which is what i wanted and in juto’s he going ‘leave it to us’#and in bsb he���s all about how alone he is so he’s gotta do it himself#i was hoping awake would show how confident juto is in mtc’s power so i might be getting sumn sumn lol#and so samatoki………….#Youtube
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sorry I'm having ratiorine thoughts again but dr ratio who infamously said that only in moments of solitude and despair, when help is absent, fools grasp how to pick themselves up gave aventurine something to help him out exactly in that moment instead
#// personally I think he has a soft spot for him whether u ship it or not but#// I think it's also a testament to how kind ratio is beneath his grandstanding and snobby act#// screwllum had him figured out!!! He kept saying he's acting like a medical doctor#// he cares about people no matter his snide remarks and seeming lack of patience#// also when he says that showing his true nature to help ppl is usually counterproductive;#// does he mean his sharp side? His soft side?#// given he seems focused on making people learn to pick themselves up#// I think his true nature is his kinder and gentler side#// which he rarely shows because he doesn't want people to rely on him#// but rather to rely on themselves#// in this essay I will—#// also happy pride month got em#▷ mediocrity incarnate ◁ ooc.
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absolutely sucks shit when people are like HOW DARE YOU SUGGEST PUTTING ANY CONDITIONS ON YOUR VOTE as if. the constant shift right doesn't have to do with the belief in major parties that they're owed votes by default on account of not being the other guy.
like they're going to ignore the public's wishes either way but fuck, you don't have to make it that easy for them. literally the second they get in. oh pwetty pwease Mr Biden can you wespect basic human wights? don't worry sir you'll still get my vote if not but I thought I'd ask nicely!!!!
hold their fucking feet to the fire dude. make it clear that your vote is conditional on them listening to the public on the clear and vital points.
(btw 'refusing to vote for Clinton is how Trump got in' no it literally is not. please remember that Trump lost the popular vote anyway and only got in because your country has a weird fucked up system where states are allowed to ignore how their constituents vote.)
(Refusing to vote New Labour after the Iraq War is how the Tories got in over here. Kinda. because what actually happened was we had the first hung parliament since 1979, and then the Lib Dems sold the country up the river for some minor concessions. and then Labour spent the next 10 years actively kneecapping itself by painting its own leadership as a bigger threat than the Tories, and when they had a leftist leading them they still brought the Tories to a hung parliament again in 2017.)
(anyway the point is you all seem to have a majorly inflated sense of how much democracy is involved in elections. Ultimately in cases where the race is close-run it is not the electorate that decide, it's like 100 people in positions of high power, be it the electoral college, the party leadership, or otherwise.)
(none of which is to say your vote is useless. your vote is valuable to politicians. there's a limit to how much they can get away with ignoring the public. but. because your vote is valuable, it's only useful as leverage if there's a possibility you might not give them it. and let's be clear, people WILL change direction if they're worried about losing votes. but unless you're offering them massive funding, then the only reason your opinion would carry any weight is if there's a possibility of your vote being withheld. if you stand up and say VOTE BLUE NO MATTER WHO YOU'VE GOT MY VOTE WHATEVER HAPPENS then like. You might as well just say 'ignore me, pay attention to those guys who might not vote for you'.)
if the centre and the left's votes are vocally assured regardless of the party's policy or stance, then the party will move right. bc they've already got you, so it's time to court the undecideds. YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT NECESSARY TO A POLITICIAN'S SUCCESS TO LISTEN TO WHAT YOU WANT. they don't care. you have to use what little leverage you have, your vote, to make them care. it's the only form of accountability we can bring about that doesn't involve, like, storming the winter palace 🤷♀️
#red said#so fucking sick of this 'morally required to vote for the right party' shit#even if that's TRUE don't fucking TELL THEM THAT??????? that's literally ALL THE LEVERAGE WE HAVE WITHIN THE LAW#and these HOW DARE YOU EVEN WHISPER THE IDEA THAT YOU MIGHT NOT VOTE FOR THE LESS FASHY GUY people are uhhhh#probably not on board for physically or financially threatening politicians personally. which i too would prefer we avoid#i don't actually want to wheel out the guillotine and set the House on fire. that sounds. counterproductive. to a better world.#but you know if you want to avoid that then the only method of affecting change you HAVE is putting conditions on your vote#stuff like lobbying and public protest and calling and writing to your representatives does work#but only to the degree that they believe the anger you're demonstrating represents a threat to their electoral prospects
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If there was ever a time to play the world's smallest violin, this might be it
#x#silly comments#miscellaneous#this was in response to a video about how attempts to portray science as cool and fun can be counterproductive#because it gives people a skewed view of what science is which encourages unscientific thinking#WHICH IS ACTUALLY DANGEROUS#people celebrating a dumb holiday by eating pie/pi shaped cookies and memorizing digits? I think we'll survive this hardship
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why did lola send neil the countdown though this was so unnecessarily dramatic imo
#the pig blood on his stuff and bloody happy birthday jr i can understand it had a great shock value#but the countdowwnn didnt really had any effect. neil just ignoredd it until he got snatched away#was is just a building tension thing? wasnt the perspective of the final matches eniugh#idk idk. maybe the butcher of Baltimores ppl were just theater kids#lola did sound very. very dramatic idk how to translate théâtral in englsh it is too late#my theory is that she just wanted to have fun wgile doing her job#and thus the countdown which was unnecessary and could have been counterproductive for them tbh#Anyway.#aftg
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Sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if I had a dad who was a better dad, and I was close to? Would I still possess this lack of desire to be in any kind of romantic relationship with a man or woman? Like I never been in a serious relationship much less romantic one EVER. I've had close friendships come and go, three friends I'm still kinda close with from high school, but dating? I never actually dated in any traditional sense. Mostly my social life in high school and 20s were going out with friends, going to raves, parties, hanging out at someone's house, or the mall, going out to eat/coffee.
Like "romance" or dating just did not happen for me during my teens and twenties. There were folk I was physically attracted too, but I never wanted to date, or be anyone's girlfriend, it just was not something that I even really thought deeply about. It just never HAPPENED. I got busy, work, school, trying to keep in touch with a few friends. My hobbies are often solitary ones (gaming, reading, movies/tv, online fandom spaces).
and I ain't sad about it. I just sometimes wonder if my dad was actually a source of trust, comfort, and affection, would I still be aromantic? Would I be so disinterested in dating/romance/marriage if I actually was raised in a household were my parents loved each other and were affectionate? I DUNNO.
#anyways this is just a ramble brought on by seeing Daniel LaRusso being a good girl-dad and thinking ~that must be nice~ lol#can't relate at all tho like the least interesting thing about him is him being a dad I kinda forget that Sam is his kid#even the idea of marriage for me feels so foreign and wrong#like having a person around you constantly would drive me NUTS#even living with my mom I have my own suite and space that is very separate so I can disengage completely from ppl#but being that way seems counterproductive for being in a couple/relationship which is why I don't want one
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still don’t plan to watch any purgatory streams, but i feel so much better having worked through why i dislike it so much and what, in my opinion, caused the event to be such a mess.
its good to analyze what does and doesn’t work with media and what caused it to be so! feeling mad and upset is a lot easier to deal with when you understand what exactly is making you mad and upset and why it was created in that way.
#i AM going to laugh at quackity for falling into feature creep though.#it’s better than being mad at him#for making an event made to make people frustrated and upset and being surprised when fans got frustrated and upset#… which is also kinda funny like again. what did he expect.#talking#qsmp#putting this in the main tag because id like to encourage people to work through their feelings with this as well!#i think telling people not to post any negativity is counterproductive because then we end up with people bottling up their feelings#and fighting over if ‘discourse’ posting is ok or not on top of everything else#just don’t put it in the tag of course
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Should I write a little analysis explaining all the reasons Will loves Mike and why it makes sense that he loves Mike and why Mike is deserving of that love and how Mike's individuality and character depth is what will make byler endgame a satisfying conclusion for both Will and Mike
#just because people are being annoying about mike#and dismissing his importance because they think acknowledging it takes away from will#which is ironic because really dismissing mikes importance and individuality and personhood actually just#diminishes the beauty of wills love for him#which means you have to ignore a large portion of wills arc#so really you're taking away from will by taking away from mike#its extremely counterproductive and annoying#also “little analysis” is probably a lie because i get carried away all the time#byler#mike wheeler#will byers#mike wheeler analysis
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lmao @ the post on my dash below the one I just made being about the evangelical christian persecution complex
#it's a subject that I regard with both scorn and a deep sense of pity honestly#because it's nonsense but it's also the result of purposeful traumatic conditioning since childhood#I think it's reductionist to be like 'oh they're just acting like victims because they can't be homophobic anymore!'#because unfortunately I can verify that they acted like that when they were allowed to be homophobic too#it's a very deep-rooted issue that's been going on for decades#and which is reproduced by purposefully traumatizing children so#it's all just very sad and weird and xenophobic#like I remember being scared for big bird when I was shown big bird in china because I'd been taught that I'd be killed if I ever went ther#they made me act out skits where I'd be murdered for refusing to recant my beliefs to 'prepare' me#I was taught how to use a gun when I was like... nine I think? at church camp#like I cannot overstate how fucked up it all is#and it's not okay but I don't think that making fun of people who went through that conditioning will change it#it'll just make them double down tbh#I understand the urge but I think it's probably counterproductive#like harassing mormon missionaries. feels good temporarily but it just makes them more ensconced in the religion.
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