#whats next are you going to put me on a callout post for even THINKING about a guy?? weirdass

[wooyoungbites]

all jokes aside though, if you feel the need to make a call out google doc about people for sexual comments they made in a PRIVATE 18+ SERVER MADE SPECIFICALLY FOR SAID SEXUAL COMMENTS (not even on their public blog!!!), perhaps you should sit with yourself and consider if you really were trying to shield your precious idols (adult men), or if you just wanted to feel superior. just something to chew on.

[bendyartistic]

Be Aware of alexbstudios. (Part 2) TW: uh.. slur, sui mention.

Recently I've been requested by some people to make another awareness post about Alex, and what has been going on since I made my last callout. So.. let's take a look. I'm gonna be honest I have been paying little to no attention to him at all since my post up until this point, didn't think I'd have to.

Ever since I made it, Alex has been talking about me a lot more, and it feels much more obsessive in a way. I think it's funny but also pretty weird considering some of the things he's said about me. Eugh.

Anyways let's get to the stuff from after my callout to the present. This is just a rundown of everything, and there is some stuff I skipped since I didn't feel it was worth mentioning. Once my post had been made, a lot of people went over and said stuff to him (Though I didn't encourage that behavior, I only wanted to make my post so people knew about him, I'm not covering those unless it's important in this.) Little afterwards he made this... post. Erh, are you stalking me and other people?? ALSO don't say the r slur man, like what.

I find it really creepy that he has this list, and has notes along with them about why/who they are. Also why'd he spell my partners name like that? 💀 Next a little after that he reblogged someone's art and introduction saying this. (I don't want to really @ people in this, nor get anyone involved unless they asked to be.)

I still don't understand how Alex views me, but saying this in a reblog no less is so strange. Reblogging another post, saying this with it...

You're right Alex, I didn't need you in my life, yet here we are. Unfortunately. Besides that, no, 12 year old's should NOT be on Tumblr at all, even with restrictions, said restriction should be having the app blocked from their device.

I'm just gonna.. move on from that. Alex reblogged an art post, where he proceeded to @ over 50 people, myself included, saying "surely you can see the problem". I can't fit the entire thing sadly. I don't get what the point in these posts are honestly, besides annoy everyone. He's done it before as well. He got into a small bit of beef with a handful of folk not too long ago, which I got @'ed in at some point I think, didn't really pay much attention to it. Basically the original post is someone talking about art supplies and asking what one's other people use, which I personally think was a very neat post. Alex comes around though for some reason going off on nonsense. Hello? Who invited you!? (Again, censoring names cuz I don't want to get ppl involved.)

I'm honestly kind of wondering why he even showed up. He pretty soon after made this dumb post as if it could have some effect on the situation.. uh?

I guess mark your calendars guys for this date, where we have to immediately forget everything and forgive him! /j And there's this response he gave to an anon responding to his ✨patience✨ post.

Dunno, so far it hasn't because he's still talking about it, so clearly he hasn't gotten over it enough to let it blow over.

He's giving me those like.. stupid sigma edit vibes sometimes. Y'know what I'm talking about? Yeah. Also I'm not sure what to say about this really, but it's pretty funny.

Context for this next one: You and the person on your lockscreen fight god..? That's a weird one.

Wdym racist though? 🤨 Genuinely kinda curious about that. Btw wouldn't that make you like.. 9?? On a different note, I saw him previously talk about this "friend" he has going to a mental hospital, but I know nothing about it, nor do I really want to, however reblogging on an art post saying this feels off. Think the emotes are what do it.

Don't joke about mental hospitals at all, I shouldn't have to explain why. I'm going to move on from all the short stuff now because I do wanna start talking instead of making short joking comments.

Alex made this post, and so it begins with him talking about me again, eh?

Alex, you're already doomed. I can't put it any other way but from what I've seen maybe only 1 or 2 people even like you. The rest either hate you or want to avoid you at all cost, and I don't blame them at all considering you act like a fool and make everyone uncomfortable.

For my thoughts on you? I don't like you, never did. I just have to put up with you because this is the internet, and you'll probably never truly leave me alone like I once hoped. It's a shame honestly that you cannot follow a simple request from anyone. Don't think I don't know about your planned "response post" you're making, I'm still waiting for it. I don't know what good it's gonna do you though. Personally I don't care if you make one, I'd just read it to see the stuff you make up in it lol. (Edit: He decided to stop working on it after seeing this post lol.)

Enough of my rambling, I should continue with this so I can stop talking about him sooner. Regrettably I had to actually look up what this was about, I felt.. iffy reading it.

Saying gyatt right afterwards wasn't funny. At all. I'm quite upset now. There was absolutely no reason for that.

I was gonna be reasonable and say something genuine but I don't feel like it anymore, this ruined my mood. All I have to say is as much as I dislike you, don't actually do that. Sadly moving to the next nonsensical thing, he made a poll post asking this. (It's still ongoing btw)

Are people like.. forced into giving a reason? Like if I for example chose Bendy, am I immediately supposed to state my reasons? What if I don't want to, are we being held at gunpoint? What's up with that? I'm too lazy to interact with the post, I don't really feel like it anyways even if I wasn't lazy. Which one would you choose though lol I'm going to be serious now again cause this last thing is really just.. what the fuck. Palestine related 🍉, someone asking for help came to Alex, and this was his response to it...

MY GOD Alex. Did you really have to respond to that in this immature, insensitive fucking manner? Could it have not been in one of your stupid rambling posts. It should've been. I'm sorry to the person and I'm sorry I had to read it. You're pretty sick honestly. You need help.

That's it. I'm done.

In conclusion:

Alex is still the same and is still never going to change probably. He still shouldn't be here and I believe he really should get off now more than ever. If not I fear what else he might do next.

All I can really tell you folks is please, DNI with Alex, just leave him alone and block him. You're again not obligated to, but I am suggesting it if you want to be left alone by him. And hey, maybe you'll make it onto his dumb creepy list too, who knows. Alright, I'm finished, I stayed up way too late for this... I'm tired. Cya.

Reblogs are much appreciated, it helps spread the word, thanks.

[rubra-wav]

Vox HCs entry #2

Warnings/CW: discussion of toxic masculinity, SFW

A/N: just various thoughts I've had about this man.

- He is a musical theatre/drama fan

He gives me this energy so much due to how dramatic he is in general. His first instinct when Alastor comes back is to instantly make a callout on live TV in the form of song. 💀

I feel like he listens to musicals in 'secret' - but it's not actually nearly as much as a secret as he thinks it is. I feel like in general he gets very loud when he's passionate or excited about something.

I just have a mental image of him thinking nobody in Vee tower can hear him while he absolutely yells the lyrics of a song with headphones on at full volume while dancing out the choreography to the song.

He'd deny everything about it if you brought this up however. He grew up in the 50's and due to that I feel as if he would be very insecure about it. I'll elaborate more on that in the next point.

- Still has a fair few beliefs to deconstruct

He is from around the 50's time period, and due to that I feel like he would have a lot of internalised toxic masculinity.

He is on and off with Val who's obviously GNC, so I think he doesn't gaf too much about others and what they wear and do anymore

But I think he has a lot of shit he directs towards himself still.

Elaborating on the liking theatre thing and denying it: I think he would stubbornly deny it because he thinks it's 'too feminine' for himself to be interested in and that he thinks it makes him 'less of a man' and shit kinda like that.

I also think because of this he also has horrendous perspectives on showing emotion.

It is already canon that he hides behind a mask at all times, but I feel like even if he 100% trusts someone to be genuine around them he still wouldn't let himself do so due to thinking he's 'less man' if he does things like cry or directly seek any kind of support - especially emotional - outside of his usual compliment fishing behaviours.

I don't think his perspectives usually pertain to others as he's had a lot of exposure to different more up-to-date / nonconforming people with Val and Vel - but I do definitely feel like he has hella internalised bullshit.

Dating him in this aspect would be hard because you would need to be there reassuring him that it's okay to do things which society deems as 'feminine' - especially with what 1950's society deemed as being normal and abnormal for men.

He needs reassurance so bad about it.

I can see him as trying to keep up his mask of not needing any kind of help from you even when it's obvious he's cracking under whatever (pressure, overwhelm, stress, etc. Etc.)

- This man can't dress himself well for shit

(Mostly based upon past Voxtagram posts)

This man's closet outside of his usual outfits is largely button-up/polo shirts and cargo shorts with the most horrifically ugly patterns you've ever seen in your life.

The only reason his outfits look good ever is because of Vel forcing him to not dress like shit.

I can imagine him walking out of his room in a blue and red polo and black cargo shorts with a snapback on and Velvette and Valentino just looking at him in utter horror. 💀

I also like the idea of him having equally chaotic socks. Like you have the usual put together outfit he has on, but then he takes off his shoes, and they are eye shatteringly ugly with words printed on them.

It's ironic because if you date him he will be probably pissy about you dressing well going out together.

He's a hypocrite 🙏

- He doesn't like sweets

I can see him as not liking things that are sweet at all.

He absolutely takes his coffee black as well, it's the most bitterest gag-worthy flavour ever and you are terrified at how much he seems to like the taste.

The sweetest thing he does like in the way of drinks is diet coke.

I feel like he survives on energy drinks, but I don't think he enjoys them at all and just tolerates them.

He doesn't like desserts either. Maybe tiramisu but not frequently.

I can see him actually liking dark chocolate though. I feel like he likes bitter things.

He's totally an absolute cunt about it as well.

If he sees you having coffee with milk/creamer and sugar he's the type of person to go "ugh. I don't know how you can drink that." While fake gagging at you.

He's that mf

A/N I have multiple ideas for drabble/fics, but my brain decided to write this out for now.

If you like sweets a lot he would be annoying as fuck about it 100%

I'm a bit hesitant to post like full fics or drabbles as I don't want to in the moment be like 'yeah, this is great!' Then look at it the next morning and be tweaking out because it feels OOC or I could have worded things better. Perfectionism is a fucking nightmare 🗣/lh

[victimsofyaoipoll]

Round 3

Propaganda Under Cut

Kairi

kairi is the third protagonist of the kingdom hearts series and the third member of the destiny trio, alongside fan favorites sora and riku. sora/riku shippers HATE kairi, and will go out of their way to discount her at every turn. the hate for her ranges from typical "she's a boring bitch" to fans of soriku making five-hour long video essays reassuring their fellow shippers that the big bad kairi won't show up in the next installment – to quote one video, "she's in a box. she's on the shelf. four walls, no door." kairi is the greatest bogeyman the soriku fandom has ever known, to the point where most of said video essays and fanon meta posts focus not on why sora and riku should get together, but rather on why they don't like kairi.

Literally has a 100+ page Google doc fan theory writing her out of the narrative and putting all of her (few) canonical accomplishments onto half of the popular m/m ship (soriku). Don't even get me started on how her memory was completely written out of the canon plot of re:coded. KH is a nightmare to explain so dude trust me she is THE victim of yaoi

She is so fundamental to the plot and themes and narratives of game and yet it is near impossible to find anything about her thats not ship bashing pre-mlm with the other two characters. I dont even care if she ends up with one of the main characters i just want fans to see her as a cool character to love or like, anything other than “annoying comphet girl.” You can write your mlm but pleaae stop inventing comphet where it doesnt exist. She does not even get to spend time with sora ever?? Why does everyone see her as a threat and a thing to destroy?? Let her have friends so help me

Misa Amane

she gets treated in-canon the way fandoms treat female characters that Threaten an m/m ship. it's like, "oh why don't you go sit in the corner and be pretty, misa, while the Men have intelligent conversation and pretend they aren't ten seconds from fucking each other, doesn't that sound nice?" it's infuriating. and MAYBE it's better now but i remember her getting treated the same way in fanfiction too, like we all need to do just as badly by our female secondary characters as fucking tsugumi ohba, but with the added insult of making her be alternately oblivious of the relationship between light and L or actively trying to sabotage it—incompetently, of course, because god forbid misa be allowed dignity or moments of cleverness.

she's one of the first characters I think of when I consider old school fandom misogyny. The annoying bitch and clingy crazy gf allegations were AFTER HER ASS. She's also a lot more intelligent than people gave her credit for, but most seem inclined to take the Very Biased word of our unreliable, narcissistic narrator and his homoerotic arch nemesis and claim that just because she's bubbly and into romance that she's also a complete moron. Which is blatantly untrue. Everyone was afraid of Misa girlbossing too hard. Killing people and devoting yourself to the deranged twink of your dreams even though you know he'll never love you back??? Having a hardcore goth aesthetic and being so Hot even literal Death Gods are into you?? God forbid women do ANYTHING!

Not only is she the victim of yaoi culture, she is the victim of early 2000s misogyny by an author that wanted to introduce a girl character because he knew his male rivals were getting too homoerotic. She is a goth bimbo icon who portrays what I think is one of the few callouts for stan culture and what parasocial relationships can do to both the stan and the idol. The fact that she is a toxic fan of Kira and also hot, funny, sociable is tragic in its own way, which I think the author did try to touch on but was too misogynistic too really get through. Of course, she was reduced to villain status by the fandom and anime alike because she got in the way of the supposed romance in their psychological horror anime.

[maybeamiles]

Okay so something happened in the Honkai Star Rail community that really bothered me and I'm trying to put into words what makes me so upset about it.

So Hoyoverse recently hired a new voice actor named Chris Niosi to voice one of their new characters. He is no longer voicing this character. The reason he is no longer voicing this character is because a bunch of people found out that in 2019 Niosi released a shitty internet apology for being abusive to people in his personal life in response to callout posts on Twitter and Tumblr. During this time he also violated an NDA about a role he played in Fire Emblem 3 Houses, and was replaced with Zach Aguilar. He did not face any criminal charges for this behavior, but it is a thing that happened. Naturally people are upset about this and kept asking for him to be fired, and some VA's stood up for him claiming he'd changed, and fans began to lash out against them too. Niosi ended up resigning, and Hoyoverse will hire a new voice actor.

So far, it seems this controversy has not affected his work. Since 2019 he's played Reigen Arataka in Season 3 of Mob Psycho 100 and was an NPC in Genshin Impact.

Now I have a few problems with the community reaction to all this:

Problem number 1: I spent way too much time in the Dream SMP fandom, and have heard way too much bullshit about people being abusers in their personal lives to be ok with any of this. Like part of the reason Dream SMP was so awful is that every other week there would be a new post along the lines of "Dream is the Worst! Here are 7 Heavily Censored Screenshots To Prove Why!" This stuff instantly activates my "I don't like this" senses, I have a very bad reaction to these things.

Problem Number 2: He's a fucking actor. Just because he now has a bit of fame in the community doesn't mean he's somehow more worthy of criticism than he was before. Hell, he still has work in the industry. Just go look up his IMDB. The only reason it matters more in Star Rail is because a lot of the Hoyoverse VA's make extra money off of being Hoyoverse VA's, like how Dan Heng's VA gets the other Star Rail VA's together to do music covers. Even then, he's WORKED WITH HOYOVERSE BEFORE. THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS THAT HE'S NOW VOICING A PLAYABLE CHARACTER INSTEAD OF AN NPC.

Problem number 3: Personally, I don't see what online abuse allegations from 2019 have to do with his role as a Voice Actor. Would working at McDonald's or in a less flashy job stop him from hurting people? No! Now, if I was hiring him, I would be nervous about that NDA violation, or that the abuse allegations might flare up into a PR disaster (like they ACTUALLY DID). I might not hire him for a major role. I might take concerns about his mistreatment of his colleagues more seriously. He might not be a Good Face for my company. But, at the end of the day, he is still a Guy Doing a Job, parasociality be dammned, and not doing This Job will not make anything better for the people he hurt.

(Also your (and my) favorite game has like, one not-pale dude in it and is made by a huge dev team that probably has shitty people in it just because that's what happens when you get a large enough group of people together but like heyyyyy let's all jump onto boogeyman of the week now shall we?)

(now, concerns about parasociality I do respect. Hoyoverse VA's are VERY parasocial, and tend to make a bit of extra money from fans by doing cool Hoyoverse VA things. But most people are like ABUSER = BAD AND GROSS and... ugh onto the next slide).

Problem number 4: ABUSER = BAD AND GROSS is a stupid black-and-white mindset and I think everyone who has this mindset should grow the fuck up. People can and do get better, I know people who have gotten better, people who it would be really fucked up of me to stop speaking to because of things I wasn't even alive for, when I don't even know the people who were hurt. People who have already had enough guilt and now need the space to live again. Hell, I've hurt people. You can't divide people into "good" and "bad" and you have to make room for change because if you do not you will hurt someone badly and that mindset will either break you with guilt or turn you into one of the "bad" people without even realizing it. (i reblogged earlier a comic about this exact phenomenon go read it)

At the end of the day I do think it was a good thing Niosi resigned because jesus fucking christ this was a PR disaster, and I would have hated to see him do something like Elliot Ghindi and use the parasociality of Hoyoverse fans to hurt more people (which is just a possibility, not something Niosi has actually done), but I don't think the internet Hate Mob was a good thing. I think bringing up someone's irrelevant personal details into their work life is a universally bad thing and even though he's a semi-public figure, nobody's private life should be exposed like that. There are court systems for a Fucking Reason and I know that they are flawed but also I genuinely believe that this whole internet tradition of making "callout posts" and stuff is incredibly toxic and abusive and I don't want it to keep happening in the fandoms I'm in.

[sophieinwonderland]

Okay, you know what, let me just go on another little vent about the author of the Sophie is Dangerous Document's victim complex.

One of their accusations is that I caused them to be "blacklisted" by the endogenic community. Now, I don't actually recall telling anyone to block them. I don't really care what other people do. But they sure told people to block me and other pro-endos.

And I think we need to acknowledge some basic cause and effect here.

Because you know what? I do have a pretty decent following. If you make a big callout document about me that was making erroneous claims that are either stretching the truth or outright lying in some cases, and just making mountains out of molehills in other cases, it stands to reason that some people might not like that.

But I am still only one blogger. And I am pretty controversial, I'll admit. I'm sure even some of my followers would agree with you that I've gone too far at time. So I'm sure you could call me out and still have a decent following by other pro-endos.

But then you also go on and callout Cambrian, another major pro-endo and a moderator of r/tulpas. By attacking both of us, you've probably alienated the entire tulpamancy community on Tumblr.

Then you also go on to attack Nox after that, who ran multiple syscourse-related blogs and was becoming a pretty prominent syscourser.

Now you've alienated friends and fans of three major pro-endo bloggers, AND you are actively creating an environment of mistrust. Because if you've already gone after these three, people are going to be wondering who you'll go after next.

And your reason for targeting Nox is because you didn't like them calling anti-endos a hate group. Which alienates the many pro-endos who share this view, that the group of people defined by hating us for existing are, in fact, a hate group.

And look, while I 100% consider anti-endos a hate group, I'm also not going to make public callout posts attacking the character of any pro-endo who disagree with me. At worst, I might vague them with my own responses. But overall, this isn't personal. It's a matter of opinion. And I can still respect that some might disagree with me on this if they're respectful in turn.

But you resort to personal attacks and callout posts over this difference of opinion. You made the pro-endos who disagree with you feel unsafe interacting with you because not only did you disagree with the people calling anti-endos a hate group, you made callout posts and told followers to block them.

And when you put followers of these pro-endo blogs in a position where they felt like they had to choose between you and them, is it any surprise which most of them chose?

You keep blaming everyone but yourself for making you a pariah without processing how your own actions led you here!

[private-bryan]

It's my update-the-age-in-my-bio day today, and, considering what kicked off in the world this time last year, I've decided to be spread a little love as my gift to myself this 7th of October. I was originally thinking to do a callout like this next year, when I reach the big 40, but fuck it, there's no time like the present.

I'm not particually good at sharing stuff like this, but I want to get better. Apologies for the forthcoming sop 😜

There are five particular people I want to call out on here, all of whom have made my life better in small ways since I joined this hellsite.

Firstly, to the two people I consider my "tennis partners", volleying memes and posts from Portsmouth to Glasgow and back in @queer-cosette's case (who was one of the first people to like and comment the first fic I'd written in years), and half way around the world in @soratobukujira's! You two make boring days at work so fun and silly, and I've learnt more about bunnies and Heathers and Maiko than I expected!

Next, @imstressedx, who has listened to me spitball ideas and who has provided inspiration for several of my fics, and genuinely moved me by making the very first piece of fanart for something I've written, in the form of a dustjacket for one of my binds. You're an awesome person to know and a talented artist, and, to repeat to you what you once said to me, the world needs more people like you in it.

Speaking of bookbinding, I owe so much thanks to @areseebee. Without the endnotes in your works I would have never decided to join tumblr in the first place, and the want to put your writing on my bookshelf was the direct impetus for me picking up at least two new hobbies (in the form of bookbinding and tablet weaving for the book ribbons) - my bank balance and crafting table probably thanks you less so, considering how much equipment and supplies I've bought to practice! You're inspiring, friendly, and an all-round great human being. Thank you for putting up with my fanboying with such patience, both on here and AO3.

Lastly, and by no means least, @derrygirlstrash aka @carouselunique. Miranda messaged me within hours of me signing up here to say hello, and I don't think I'd have engaged half as much as I do if she hadn't. We've discussed headcanons and future fic, fed each other with prompts and jokes, shared her amazing art and my makes, and she was the first person outside of my immediate family that I gifted a book I'd made to. You are always a ray of sunshine when we chat, even when things around you aren't necessarily going in the direction you'd like, and one day I'd love to be able to thank you in person.

I'm so grateful to be able to call you all my friends, and please know that I love you all!

Right! I'm off to eat a whole birthday trifle in one sitting now, and pretend that I'm not going greyer day by day…

[windowscrazyerror]

Aight let's go through all this shit for the bajillionth time

I did not SA my ex. I obviously have no way of proving he's lying but he has no way of proving he's telling the truth. You can however look at his past history of lying about literally everything else and admitting to faking a callout before and think really hard about whether or not it makes sense to believe him

The group chat thing: I need to stress that I had grown up being taught over and over again that adults talking about sexual things with minors online was normal and if you ever questioned it you were the weird one. This was hammered into my head since I was around 7 or 8 years old because it was normalized in all the online communities I was in. At 17 I was just barely starting to unlearn all that, and my understanding at the time was "anyone under 18 can talk about sex things with each other regardless of age, but maybe once you turn 18 it's bad I think????" Which is not correct but it made sense through the lens of my Literal Decade Of Online Brainfuckery. I don't know why you're bringing this up like I still believe it was normal, I'm 23 now, obviously I have had time to learn and grow from that.

The "stalking you" was me several years ago freaking the fuck out over you putting me on blast making serious accusations that were not even accurate. You know, like you're doing again now. I don't remember exactly what happened but I'm pretty sure it was just me posting about you on twitter... after you posted about me on twitter.

If I'm understanding this next part correctly the "other victims" you're referring to is one person who I'm friends with now. I'm pretty sure you did not get permission from him to use him as ammunition against me in your callout here. That whole situation is really not your business and I don't want to get into the details here but I'm just going to say it's been resolved.

The necrophilia jokes were again me being 17 and immensely mentally fucked up. I recognize that it was wrong now and don't do it anymore. I genuinely don't know what else you want from me. (also that behavior came from another alter in my system who doesn't even interact with minors at all anymore. I'm not going to make a big deal of this because I'll get accused of using DID as an excuse or whatever but I do want to mention it.)

Just to make it perfectly crystal clear: I do not discuss anything sexual with minors. I am not a pedophile or a groomer or whatever you're trying to make me out to be, and I am not the same person I was when I was a teenager coping poorly with a lifetime of trauma. I have apologized repeatedly for the things I actually did, to the people who were actually affected, I do not need to spend the rest of my life publicly apologizing over and over and endlessly self-flagellating.

Hopefully this is all I have to say on this forever but considering people love digging up old dirt over and over again I honestly doubt it

[silver-heller]

So um, I've been vaguely informed (the details aren't really my business) there's been a situation so I just want to clarify something:

My vent posts are just that, vent posts. They're not me making an educated callout on an individual and they shouldn't be seen as THIS PERSON IS JUST A TERRIBLE PERSON AND HERE'S THE 100% LOGICAL REASONS WHY. I only put it in caps to clarify I think that's how I came off, my vents don't reflect how I actually see people, they reflect how I see people in that hurt state.

Does that justify not adding clarity to begin with? No, and I will definitely do so in the future, but I feel clarifying now is better than just leaving this confusion in the air. So here it is.

I will be more careful in the future that my vents don't breach containment, I tried to be clear the goal was not harassment and I do genuinely feel bad that apparently someone saw and took it as quite genuine. In this situation, it was less about the person and more a trend of people accidentally making a character's "evil side" into an alter like entity because they think it's cute, funny, or hot. People are often way more willing to accept that than actual system relationships.

It ended up hitting on a sour spot because for a long time I've had a deep and extremely important relationship with an alter of mine, but I'd constantly worried due to the nature of said alter, it would be heavily judged and not as accepted as if I just saw him as a fictional character. This is not a justification, but an explanation for the layers of hurt on top of it being a very bad stereotype. The fact I haven't been more open about the relationship is on me, and you know what? I should be, even if others will look down on me for it. That's their damage.

I can't speak for the original intent of the user I was venting about, and I should have been clear I was reacting to how it all came across rather than knowing their full intent. Which yes, it came across really bad but, people make mistakes. People get scared and do dumb things. It happens, so again, should have been clear their intent was unknown, it just came off bad in a way that made me feel like I had to block to protect myself.

I'm not going to tell you not to "tattle" on me. That's really 100% up to you, but I do ask you to keep in mind the point of my vent posts before you do. Cause yeah, me venting because I am upset or triggered or what the Hell ever is going to sound really bad, but if you asked me once the dust was settled I'd probably just say, "yeah that user made a mistake, and it was enough to deeply hurt me to the point I don't want to talk to them anymore. I don't think they're a bad person, I just don't want them in my space to avoid future issues". But, next time I will try to cool down and be more open about my process, as I realize how bad some of the things I said sound.

I shouldn't have painted them as a bad moot, I should have just explained I didn't think they were very conscious of the fact I was plural, so I wanted to be more careful about moots from now on to ensure that part is understood loud and clear in ALL its regards before I accidentally put myself in (unintentionally) triggering spaces.

So uh, if it wasn't clear please don't harrass this person. Also please don't judge my friends for just trying to be supportive. Most of them only vaguely knew about the situation and only two of us were involved. They were responding to what they knew at the time and were extremely protective due to the hurt I was feeling.

I'm gonna try to make this the last post I make about this, but I just genuinely never meant to hurt anyone so I wanted to say my peace.

[therichantsim]

Below the cut is a long-drawn-out rant. I debated long and hard about doing this but I’m tired of keeping bottled up. So, I’m about to get messy as fuck and put all my business out there. Frankly at this point, I don’t even care. I tried to let it slide because I don’t like drama unless it’s in a sims story. However, at this point I have nothing to lose since apparently the people I once called friends stopped fucking with me anyway. 

I don’t know what’s being said in the private chats and DM’s, but I notice some interesting behavior ever since @shanisims posted her “goodbye post”. I don’t normally do callout post or bring personal drama out into the open, but my intuition tells me some shit is being said about me that ain’t true. Shanisims befriended me and we began chatting in the DM’s, then on Discord. We shared story stuff, personal stuff, then we started collaborating together. We swapped sims. I did some builds for her, and we collaborated on each other’s stories. She engaged in my content and vice versa. Then one day she just stopped. Once I noticed I stopped engaging too. Then next thing I knew... I was blocked on all platforms. I have another blog I use for shitposting that I follow my favs from. I really enjoyed her story, so I quietly continued to read it from there. At some point she alludes to a “beef” when she brings my OC’s persona into her story. She mentions that Bishop looks different because of “reasons”. Then she does it again later on in the story when Bishop is featured. My question was why allude to anything? No one was asking unless you want them to ask. 👀🤨 It was passive aggressive, calculated and cunning. Mind you whatever offense that allegedly took place happened over a year ago.  So, I decided to ask her what her problem was. I sent her message from that account, and I said it was me. I didn’t pretend to be anonymous. I wanted to know what her beef was with me and if she has such an issue with me that she had to block me why continue to use my sims, my builds and my character’s persona? I told her I felt used. She goes out of her way to be extremely friendly and overly helpful online then for whatever reason she just turns on you.  In the past I’ve been told by her and a few others that I am not afraid of confrontation, and that I can come off very blunt and direct. I’m 49 years old I don’t have time for games, and I try very hard to make sure I’m understood online. However, I do think, re-read, and re-write my words many times before I hit send so that they aren’t misinterpreted online since my tone can’t be heard.  All I know is not too long after her goodbye post went up, mutuals I have had online friendships and history with stopped engaging with my post. Some even unfollowed me. I don’t know what she’s telling these people. When I confronted her, she never responded. Instead, she played victim and did a goodbye post. You would’ve thought I bullied her, pulled up to her house and was outside ready to fight or something. I’m also calling out some of my so called “mutuals” cough cough @storiesbyjes2g and @ladybugsimblr​ because in the year 2023 where online friendships are no longer considered a foreign concept, people like y’all will happily discard them instead of doing the hard work of confronting, communicating, accountability, honesty and resolving. Instead, you hid behind platitudes like “protecting my peace” or pretend to be cool just to go radio silent afterwards. But I’m just some random lady on the internet so, who gives a fuck right? This goes for anyone else that may have passed judgement on me regarding Shani without knowing all the facts. I still don’t even know what happened! Take away from this what you will but I wanted to put it out there because I’m hurt and felt like being a petty bitch. Now here is real drama you can “protect your peace” from. 

[kckenobi]

fic writer interview

Thanks for the tag @katierosefun! Took me a minute to finish this and post but.....

Name/nickname: kasey!

Fandoms: I feel like I tend to be on the fringes of fandom for most media lol, with Star Wars being the only one I've really been active in. But I guess the ones floating around in my brain most often are bly manor/hill house and Star Trek tng?

Two shots? I don't actually know if I have any, except if you count Room to Grow and A Moment and A Memory which were connected (completely forgot the titles of both of those for a sec, wow).

Most-popular multi-chapter fic: as far as subscriptions and kudos it's probably bloodlines, my fic about Dooku, Obi-Wan and Anakin getting stranded together. But more recently Rhapsody and Blue, my orchestra au, has gotten some lovely attention, which is nice bc that one's definitely closer to my heart!

Actual worst part of writing: "oh god that's a huge plot hole"

How you choose your titles: I usually try first for a theme from the fic that can be summed up in a word or two, but after that I pick from song lyrics or poems lol

Do you outline? Yes, usually! Or I at least come up with a plan. I have to outline for longer projects or I'll forget where I was going and run out of steam. For shorter ones, I usually try to at least have a beginning, middle, and end thought out from the beginning, even if they're not fleshed put! Doing that just keeps me from hitting a wall and fizzling out when I get stuck, bc I at least know what's supposed to come next.

Ideas you probably won't get around to, but wouldn't it be nice: hmm, I like to think I'll eventually get around to everything I want to? But there's definitely a handful of ideas I've started only to put them on the back burner—I was thinking about a sequel to Rhapsody in Blue for a while, but i just had a hard time deciding what the conflict in that story would be since Palpatine is dead lol. But I'm not saying I won't get to it, because I still might!

Callouts @ me: how—many times—can you put an em-dash in one paragraph—also you write about the same themes over and over again—

Best writing traits: Hmm, I think one of the things I've gotten good at over the years is structuring a scene/structuring a longer plot. It's something I think was hard to learn, like as far as pacing and the balance between dialogue and action, and how to weave multiple plot lines into something that feels cohesive. Reading my old writing vs recent stuff, that's just been something I've noticed!

Spicy tangential opinion: the whole "only queer people can write queer stories" idea hurts people who are closeted or questioning more than it protects anyone, and no one owes you any piece of information about their identity to justify their writing ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

tags: @calltomuster @meantforinfinitesadness @pandora15 @giggles-and-freckles @indigostars @tessiete

[lustrumlane]

Dropping My Elf Callout Post || Kit || RE: Eph || ATN: Bartender

Oh- oh. Oh. OH HELL NO. Kit slams his hands on the podium, and then recoils as the pain shoots through his finger tips. Too hard- fuck…! He has to resist the urge to cradle the injured limb. How do the lawyers on TV make it look so awesome? “N-not to be this guy, but are you fucking kidding me right now!?” His eyes are narrowed. “You’re like, what? Dressed for Renfaire 2017 and you didn’t think that was relevant to mention when I asked?! You got mad at me for asking about the possibility of you wearing a motherf- sorry, sorry-“ His mother would be disappointed if she heard him talking like that. “Sorry. S-sorry. I don’t mean to yell, but like… come on…!”

The private eye’s voice turns pained. “You claim you were so desperate to put out the fire. That you ran over to try to put it out right away, and that your poor ear got burned in the process. Then explain to me why I didn’t see you. Why weren’t you yelling? Calling to see if someone was trapped? Are you going to claim next to claim that your water spell requires total silence? Even if it failed, surely there was something else you could have done? Call for help, or get people, or f-fucking… anything! I thought I was going to die-“ His voice cracks. “If you were so goddamn desperate to help, why didn’t you help me?!”

Kit takes a breath. Like Eph’s (non-existent) water, anger slips through him quickly and leaves him left empty. The private eye tugs at his hat, pulling it further so it shades his eyes. “… I don’t believe you that you wanted to help. Upsilon is dead, and you couldn’t even bother to take this- this act off. To tell the truth and to put it aside until we caught you in it.” He turns to the bartender. “You said that the gun would cost everything that you had. Can we take that mean the price would vary, as long as the customer was willing to give you all their coins?”

[enbycatboygf]

My Journey over the last 2 years

Hey everyone, kind of a heavy post that will talk about a lot of not fun stuff but a post I want to make. 2 years ago was a a dark time for me, I felt like I lost a lot of people in my life and that I was a terrible person. If it weren't for 3 people I wouldn't be here today. I felt like I had done something that made me like a person I never wanted to be, a person I swore I wouldn't be. Yes I'm gonna be vague because frankly I don't want to dredge shit up. I pretty much disassociated for weeks maybe even a month. I don't remember anything from that time and then when I did come back I didn't know what to do so I put on an act of pretending to be ok. I felt like I had no one until I talked to @/Oneironaughti. He helped me from that hole I was in. Then I started hanging out with @/cherrimisu and spending sleepless nights watching shows, movies, playing games and just having an amazing time. They truly felt like my bestie and really are. Then @/AverySaii and I reconnected and it was great. We played games and talked about the time where we kind of just missed becoming greater friends earlier and I was able to vent a bit to them as well. Then came the callout, if you know you know. I spiraled again, feeling like I could lose the few people that had helped me. But they didn't leave me, they stuck by me. I felt like a week before I told them about it my life was just over and I had nothing to look forward to. I considered the worse thing possible, I considered ending my own life. This feeling had come up a lot in my life but this was the first time I had gotten so close to going through with it. Despite being so happy earlier in the year when coming out about wanting to transition and be seen as a woman, I felt like I didn't deserve that happiness. I felt like I had to disappear. It was because of those three that I didn't do it, they still accepted me. They saw something in me, they actually wanted me around. So despite feeling like I had nothing I carried on for them and put the knife down. I healed after that, slowly. Then when my birthday came around in February 2023 I finally did it and scheduled my appointment for HRT. I would talk about it on my birthday stream and then cry later like I had done the year before when I knew I was trans. The day after the appointment happened I had my HRT. 3/17/2023 I took it for the first time, then the next day I took a picture of myself in the mirror of my bathroom with no shirt on. I wouldn't look at it until about 30 minutes ago today 3/21/2023. I was shocked, my body hair mas a fraction of what it was. My face is so much different, my chest is so different, my hair, everything. I had nothing in my eyes in that picture, just someone trying to get through life with no one bothering them. Just trying to take the path of least resistance. Then looking in the mirror I saw the light in my own eyes, I'm happy. I have two partners that love me and I love them. I dress in bright colors and amazing outfits. I connect to people now that I can express myself as a woman. I actually have a lot to live for, I have better myself in a lot of ways. I'm not just stuck thinking my life is over because I fucked up once. My mistakes no longer defined me, I grew from them so I would never make the same ones again. I'm not broken, I never was. I was just changing into who I am now, and that's ok. It took me 30 long years to get here but I'm happy, I can finally say I am happy. I may not be my perfect self but i am so much more closer than I was last year.

there is no tldr, because if you don't think I'm worth the read that's your opinion but I finally think I am. I know who I am and i know what i want, I'm no longer settling for coasting through life. Thank you Onei, Avery, and Cherri. I wouldn't be here with out you all.

Art is by Elora_Primrose, please follow her. She does great art and made this piece of me and my friends last year.

[kuriboo]

My mental health has been really bad for the past like week or maybe even two to where my anxiety is really high and I keep having flashbacks to like two years ago

And it's. I can't keep myself off twitter as a side effect and it's actually kind of gross. Twitter's gross and toxic and I don't even want to be on there

It's related to accusations against a certain youtuber. And it's like. I was never extremely into the guy's content. He got me into animal crossing and splatoon, and my interest in either waxes and wanes. He's on a collab channel I was more into for a while, but he was my least favorite of the three. I think I saw myself in him a little too much in a bad way. I saw my flaws and flinched away. It didn't help that he was also noticeably really mean to some people, and back then we didn't know what the dynamics were really like off camera or if it was jokingly or what, but even if it was "joking" it could still hurt and I was really sensitive to that.

It's not really so much of me putting the guy on a pedestal that's wounded me. If that's all it was, well, I'm nobody, and talking about it wouldn't matter. I'd get over it. Whether the accusations are true or not isn't really my place to comment on. This is really not what's eating at me

It's the initial allegation and how it was presented

And I feel really guilty over this because yes victims should be listened to and believed. Just because the accused has a lot of fans doesn't make him automatically innocent and yadda yadda.

But if we ignore the shoe rp part of the situation (wild sentence, i know), a lot of it really comes down to boundaries not being established and misunderstandings, which is part of what happened to me a year and a half ago or so

Because the boundary wasn't established then, either. Keep coming to me for help, I was told, I'm here and I'll listen, talk to me. And I did.

There was also the fact that this person who used to talk to me constantly really suddenly pulled away and we barely talked and we used to talk about their aus and ideas and they started talking only to other people instead about that and that, uh, was really painful to adjust to as well. It was on me for putting too much care into that friendship and for thinking I mattered or something, but that's neither here nor there.

Point is, I did go to them to talk when I wasn't doing well because they told me to. There was no boundary established on that so I kept doing it

I crossed a boundary that was never outlined to me and I was yelled at and lashed out at for it during a really low period in my life.

So I, uh, tried to respect what was happening and stopped. We stopped talking altogether for a bit, the other person saying they needed a break, and I respected that. In the meantime, they went behind my back and tried to turn friends against me. Things started gradually getting better, we played a game with some friends together, it was looking up. We stopped playing for the night and they said goodnight, see you tomorrow :)

I thought it was getting better

Next day, I was kicked from several servers we shared and they sent me an essay on why they never wanted to hear from me again. During the middle of my shift at work, I read this during my lunch break and had to work half a shift feeling like that

I've blocked that person on every platform I can think of and made no attempts to communicate with them since. If they want to ever talk again, they have to reach out to me, because they set that boundary and I'm respecting it.

There's a lot of nuance and detail missing from this. I did a lot of things wrong. This is no callout post, I am not naming names, I am just airing my feelings because bottling things up is not healthy and I've been doing that for like a week and I am self destructing. I am not comfortable talking to people one on one on this, and this is my personal blog, so I'm just talking to the void.

So let me relate this back to the topic: initial allegations against youtuber. Ignoring the shoe rp, it boiled down to miscommunication and boundaries that weren't established being crossed and leading to someone lashing out.

Which feels very similar to what happened to me a year ago

And I've been trying to heal from that. I'm trying to do better and be better.

But this whole situation is a huge reminder of all that pain I went through, and just makes me feel like I could be called out at anytime. It wouldn't be undeserved, but it would kill me.

"You're empathizing too much with a sexual groomer" yeah okay whatever

I'm in a lot of pain right now and it hasn't gotten much better in the past week. Knowing now the youtuber is out of the hospital helps a little, but I'm pained and terrified.

I don't want this to cause worry. I'm not, this point on, going to do anything to myself

I'm trying very hard to be kind to myself

I am simply saying words so I'm not bottling this up so much anymore. I don't want to talk about this to anyone, so this is the best I'm getting on that front

It's late so I'm not explaining myself well. I've been so stressed.

If anyone's reading this, please be kind to the people around you. Kindness is a great gift

[sophieinwonderland]

An Autopsy of the Syscourse Brackets

Oh, hey! I saved this draft back in April! I figured with a round two coming, I might as post it now!

...

It was about a month ago when the Syscourse Brackets were announced (Future Sophie here: It's obviously been way more than a month now), hoping to bring about a new era of intercommunity connection. It... didn't do that, shockingly. So, let's talk about where it went wrong, and what someone could learn from their mistakes.

Have actual brackets and communicate: Part of the confusion that occurred later was a result of nobody really knowing what going on at any given point. Having actual brackets you can look at is a big part of what makes brackets fun. You can look at the brackets and predict who will be facing who in the next round. These syscourse "brackets" lacked that, which led to confusion, and just a worse feeling overall. Real brackets also assures that the brackets after the initial matchup are fixed and isn't just the creator choosing the matchups each round. And, I mean, I'm pretty sure they did change the brackets as I doubt a 3-way poll was how they intended to end them. And there was some weirdness where they demanded @/traumascumathena write an essay to be included in round 2 which I would normally brush off as a joke between friends but that essay wasn't written and they weren't put into the next round, so... yeah...🤷‍♀️

Do a better job reaching out to both communities: In the end, there was a sea of anti-endos, only a few pro-endos, only one actual endogenic system, and zero mixed origin systems represented in the brackets. Even if not intentional, this gives the appearance of bias.

If your goal is making a safe space, do a better job of that too: Publicly attacking your participants and accusing them of spreading misinformation after already accepting them isn't helping create a safe space or communication between the communities. Especially when combined with the fact that, as mentioned in the last point, the only person you attack this way is the only endogenic systems in your brackets.

These are real people and consent is integral: Two different systems sent confessions to the syscourse confessions blog stating that they didn't want to be included in the brackets. Being included was harmful to both of these systems. Congratulations for the ones who were okay with their inclusion, but not everyone was. And I would like to remind people that this popularity contest did include some systems who were minors. Reaching out to confirm that they were comfortable with this should have been a top priority. At best, this was negligence and they never considered that people might not want to be entered into this popularity contest against their will. At worst, they were too lazy or just knew their brackets would be smaller if people were given the opportunity to not be included. None of these possibilities are very good.

People should feel safe criticizing the brackets: I think the initial framing of the brackets as a fun game to heal syscourse was itself harmful. For myself, I didn't want to criticize the brackets up until the callout post because I felt like doing so might harm the community. But we also see this in the blogs who were included in the brackets against their will. They turned to the confessions blog and didn't make these posts on their actual blogs because they didn't feel safe doing so. And this, to me, is a huge problem. People shouldn't feel unsafe in communicating displeasure towards being involuntarily included in a popularity contest.

Don't. Just don't: If you made it this far, you might be thinking that you can fix their mistakes and still salvage the concept. But none of this addresses the central problem. You can't heal a divide by pitting people against each other in a popularity contest. This was always a bad idea. It never was going to be a friendly competition between people who hate each other. The cheating that happened during the brackets was a direct result of this hostile environment. The results of the brackets made somebody so depressed that their partner felt like they needed to make over 50 accounts to cheer them up. And while I certainly don't condone cheating, I truly feel like this is a situation where we need to hate the game, not the player. Because the brackets themselves created the environment that harmed the system in question to this extent.

The brackets were a terrible idea that were executed even worse with arbitrary made-up rules, attacks against participants, and it wasn't even a real bracket.

For those who do want to make actual brackets, it's not hard to find generators to make it super easy. I found a generator with just a quick Google. Imagine how satisfying the brackets could have been if they looked more like this from the beginning:

Future Sophie:

That's the end of the draft I made in April.

Overall, I feel the original syscourse brackets, despite being billed as something to unite syscoursers, were a poorly handled mess that only served to create more drama.

The nature of the brackets as a popularity contest between real people who hate each other meant that being a drama generator was always all they were going to amount to. But the poor handling of it made that so much worse than it could have been

[thilsiktonix]

Before I say anything here, I want to say that I dislike Sisi for my own personal reasons, and I certainly don't endorse any of their actions. I think they've done disgusting things, and there should be a discussion about that. That said, this is going to be a mainly Kagebros-centric reblog, because I feel like a major problem is being overlooked, so I wanted to mention it.

I want to also say, I don't support nor encourage any harassment towards Kagebros, or frankly, Sisi, either. Bullying someone off the internet isn't the way to go about these things.

For example of something that Sisi has done, here is the AI zine they've published:

And here is seafoamsol's tumblr post, documenting all of the traced artwork that Kagebros has sold:

Here is Alex Milne, one of the artists who Kage is stealing from:

And lastly, here is Kagebros's response:

[Full thing in case it gets deleted.]

To put it simply: Tracing and selling artwork is stealing. Not only is Kagebros using artwork from non-consenting artists (such as Alex Milne, a man who is actively fighting for his life against medical struggles while people go and steal his art)—but they are directly profiting off of people who have been deceived into thinking that what they are buying are 100% original works.

In Kagebros's apology, there isn't any acknowledgement of the fact that they have traced over official renders, as well as official art, both from TF:One and from IDW. Check Sol's post if you want to see proof of that. Take very close look at the art, especially on the IDW side of tracing; the poses are nearly the exact same, as are the designs (down to each and every line and curve). Only very minor things are changed.

There is, however, acknowledgement that they traced over toys. That itself is something that's morally dubious at best. If something is traced from a toy, that's something that buyers are going to want to know.

Either way, this isn't a true apology. You can't apologize for something you haven't even acknowledged. Even if they do apologize and take full accountability by admitting to their actions, people have every right to still be angry. I'm angry, myself. I've purchased Kage's art before. So have many other people in the fandom. That's a lot of money taken from a lot of people who didn't know they were financially supporting someone who regularly traces.

To the people who are harassing Kage: You are directly impacting the spread of this information, and making it harder for true action to be taken. The more that you do, the better they look. If you are going out and harassing them, you are worse than them.

If you want something to be done, contact TFCon staff, Etsy, and wherever else the traced artwork is being sold, and ask for them to be removed. Likewise, please please please support the artists who have been exploited by this person for money. All of the people involved with each and every piece that Kage stole have, even as individuals, put hours into what they've made. They don't deserve to have their artwork stolen, let alone sold at a convention to people who don't know any better.

And last of all: spread the original callout post. It's important that people see and are aware of what has been done, so they can avoid purchasing from Kage, both online, and at any conventions they may be attending. Awareness is the most important part here. People should at least know what they're buying before they make the choice to buy it.

This Post is by someone that wants to remain anonymous, they DM'd me this and asked me to post

The callout campaign against Kagebros has gone WAY too far. The lengths these people have gone to violate someone’s boundaries and privacy in order to “warn” people is incredibly excessive and is dealing horrible damage to their mental health and wellbeing. It needs to fucking stop.

The situation has spiraled completely out of control, spurred on by people who would rather side with a proud AI artist than have a civilized, adult discussion about tracing. Said AI artist has a history of attempting to ruin Kagebros’ credibility, spreading disinformation and rumors about them and their nonprofit charity zines, now going as far as to allegedly incite people to nonconsensually take photos of them at their booth at TFcon Baltimore, and block-evading their socials in order to find more posts to pick apart.

As they have stated already, Kagebros never had ANY intention to scam people, which understandably doesn’t change how those affected may feel. That being said, they could have very easily traced over things without altering them in any way at all, like many others within the convention vending sphere have blatantly done without a callout from these same people who care so much about “calling out tracing”. There tends to be a gray area in the realm of tracing techniques within the art industry (especially professionally), and there is plenty of merit for their actions to be criticized. As they’ve stated, they were under the impression that Official artwork/figures were okay to trace over and alter, which they now know to avoid doing so in the future. Even if the details and credibility of the piece can be scrutinized, they still made a conscious effort to alter the pieces in question to be more original.

Although said effort may not be enough for most, they now KNOW that. End of story. They can't immediately change the pieces they had available for sale, and they should be showing change through their future pieces and actions, which is something that’s up for judgment by anyone. And yet the people starting this have needlessly dragged it on, inciting others to keep spreading the accusations to further audiences, leading to more harassment.

Seafoamsol had admittedly unblocked Kagebros and “offered” to have a talk with them about the situation, but their own intentions are extremely questionable, as a conversation should have been the first priority, rather than a callout post. They assumed Kagebros’ intentions without giving them a single chance to address it themselves before the callout, and are now going forward with the narrative of them being a scammer.

Again, if they truly were concerned, they could have unblocked them and had a conversation before the callout was made, instead of assuming their intentions were to deceive people.

The situation is very nuanced, meaning there's a lot of points to be acknowledged on both sides in order to come to a conclusion, which could have happened peacefully if adults just had a civil discussion with each other. There is a justifiable talk to be had here, and reasonable changes to be made, but this can’t be accomplished productively if people continue to jump to conclusions and assume intentions. This has done nothing–and WILL do nothing–but hurt people, if this behavior doesn’t stop. mistakes will be made, lessons will be learned. Please look at this situation in its entirety before coming to your own conclusions based on assumptions made by people with evidently questionable motives and a history of causing problems for others and driving them out of the community. 

Thank you for reading.