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Male Personality Traits That Women Find Attractive | how to attract women
Male Personality Traits That Women Find Attractive In this video, we uncover the science behind the traits that women find incredibly attractive in men. From confidence and style to empathy, and charisma, flirting, body language we'll explore the characteristics that create deep connections and leave a lasting impact. We'll show you how to actually build a sense of attraction.
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you're grabbing lunch with a nice man and he gives you that strange grimace-smile that's popular right now; an almost sardonic "twist" of his mouth while he looks literally down on you. it looks like he practiced the move as he leans back, arms folded. he just finished reciting the details of NFTs to you and explaining Oppenheimer even though he only watched a youtube about it and hasn't actually seen it. you are at the bottom of your wine glass.
you ask the man across from you if he has siblings, desperately looking for a topic. literally anything else.
he says i don't like small talk. and then he smiles again, watching you.
a few years ago, you probably would have said you're above celebrity gossip, but honestly, you've been kind of enjoying the dumb shit of it these days. with the rest of the earth burning, there's something familiar and banal about dragging ariana grande through the mud. you think about jeanette mccurdy, who has often times gently warned the world she's not as nice as she appears. you liked i'm glad my mom died but it made you cry a lot.
he doesn't like small talk, figure out something to say.
you want to talk about responsibility, and how ariana grande is only like 6 days older than you are - which means she just turned 30 and still dresses and acts like a 13 year old, but like sexy. there's something in there about the whole thing - about insecurity, and never growing up, and being sexualized from a young age.
people have been saying that gay people are groomers. like, that's something that's come back into the public. you have even said yourself that it's just ... easier to date men sometimes. you would identify as whatever the opposite of "heteroflexible" is, but here you are again, across from a man. you like every woman, and 3 people on tv. and not this guy. but you're trying. your mother is worried about you. she thinks it's not okay you're single. and honestly this guy was better before you met, back when you were just texting.
wait, shit. are you doing the same thing as ariana grande? are you looking for male validation in order to appease some internalized promise of heteronormativity? do you conform to the idea that your happiness must result in heterosexuality? do you believe that you can resolve your internal loneliness by being accepted into the patriarchy? is there a reason dating men is easier? why are you so scared of fucking it up with women? why don't you reach out to more of them? you have a good sense of humor and a big ol' brain, you could have done a better job at online dating.
also. jesus christ. why can't you just get a drink with somebody without your internal feminism meter pinging. although - in your favor (and judgement aside) in the case of your ariana grande deposition: you have been in enough therapy you probably wouldn't date anyone who had just broken up with their wife of many years (and who has a young child). you'd be like - maybe take some personal time before you begin this journey. like, grande has been on broadway, you'd think she would have heard of the plot of hamlet.
he leans forward and taps two fingers to the table. "i'm not, like an andrew tate guy," he's saying, "but i do think partnership is about two people knowing their place. i like order."
you knew it was going to be hard. being non-straight in any particular way is like, always hard. these days you kind of like answering the question what's your sexuality? with a shrug and a smile - it's fine - is your most common response. like they asked you how your life is going and not to reveal your identity. you like not being straight. you like kissing girls. some days you know you're into men, and sometimes you're sitting across from a man, and you're thinking about the power of compulsory heterosexuality. are you into men, or are you just into the safety that comes from being seen with them? after all, everyone knows you're failing in life unless you have a husband. it almost feels like a gradebook - people see "straight married" as being "all A's", and anything else even vaguely noncompliant as being ... like you dropped out of the school system. you cannot just ignore years of that kind of conditioning, of course you like attention from men.
"so let's talk boundaries." he orders more wine for you, gesturing with one hand like he's rousing an orchestra. sir, this is a fucking chain restaurant. "I am not gonna date someone who still has male friends. also, i don't care about your little friends, i care about me. whatever stupid girls night things - those are lower priority. if i want you there, you're there."
he wasn't like this over text, right? you wouldn't have been even in the building if he was like this. you squint at him. in another version of yourself, you'd be running. you'd just get up and go. that's what happens on the internet - people get annoyed, and they just leave. you are locked in place, almost frozen. you need to go to the bathroom and text someone to call you so you have an excuse, like it's rude to just-leave. like he already kind of owns you. rudeness implies a power paradigm, though. see, even your social anxiety allows the patriarchy to get to you.
you take a sip of the new glass of wine. maybe this will be a funny story. maybe you can write about it on your blog. maybe you can meet ariana grande and ask her if she just maybe needs to take some time to sit and think about her happiness and how she measures her own success.
is this settling down? is this all that's left in your dating pool? just accepting that someone will eventually love you, and you have to stop being picky about who "makes" you a wife?
you look down to your hand, clutching the knife.
#writeblr#this is a mashup of like 3 dates i accidentally went on lol#by that i mean that i was out with a woman on a date in 2 of these situations#and a man just. joined us. and we were too awkward to say anything while he tried to ''date'' me#& one was a longterm friend that i was like. you what????#like he's nice he's a doctor and my mom was SO happy she was like raquel think about it#''it's a perfect love story you grew up together and reconnected as adults and like the same things and he's friends with ur brother#and his sister is one of ur close friends!!!''#yes but alas. he is a boy . she only likes girls. can i make it any more obvious#anyway im tryna write about like the force of male attention being actually incredibly ingrained to women like we are SUPPOSED to like it#it's seen as the only important thing#even if ur gay#and it's a nuanced thing idk#and while rn i i.d. as lesbian#like .... it wouldn't be UNTRUE to say i am probably like ''cusp bisexual'' bc i CAN experience attraction to men bc like .#sexuality is fluid...#don't tell straight ppl tho bc they do not understand the concept that ppl don't necessarily need a solid everlasting label#they're like GET in the BOX#if ur gay & in boston i'm 30 and pretty please come kiss me.#(i usually only date older ppl sorry in advance tho)
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huge ew at all the people who erase the bisexuality of the bg3 companions. they aren't "playersexual," they aren't "gay coded" or "lesbian coded," there are MANY instances of them expressing romantic and/or sexual interest in other characters of varying genders. and not just your tav. it's not a suggestion, it's part of who they are no matter who your tav is.
#bg3#thoughts about media#you can obviously see certain companions have a preference#which is a normal thing for any bisexual to have!#and it's equally as normal for a bisexual to have no preference!#but astarion clearly favouring men doesn't make him gay#karlach having flirtatious interactions with shadowheart doesn't make her a lesbian#gale being terribly hung up on his ex girlfriend doesn't make him straight#bisexual means a whole array of different expressions of attraction to all genders#it doesn't just mean whatever halsin has going on lmao#and that's not to say i'm against companions in games like these being gay/lesbian/straight#but that's NOT what bg3 did
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For those who seem to be confused by whether or not I am gay or straight, I'd first like to tell you to mind your own fucking business. But if you really must know then I'd tell you that I'm sort of between attractednesses right now, I'll have to get back to you about that later.
#henchman things#its like those people who say they dont know what foods their favorite since they probably havent tried it yet#i dont think im attracted to men or muppets#hopefully the weed will help with that#i thought i was attracted to women on acount of how some of them make me feel all weird and atomach achy but im not sure
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#feminization kink#feminization captions#sissifyme#faggot sissy#feminizedmen#permanent feminization#sissy femboi#what a sissy wants#feminine sissy#forced ferminization#i love to kiss men#this is what makes us girls#attracted to men#Jacquithesissygurl
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sometimes i sit here and think 'yeah i'm a pretty normal person'. and then i remember that i am fully preparing myself to write a 20-ish page academic paper on how enjolras and grantaire directly relate to achilles and patroclus and that love and passion conquers fear and cynicism
#i... might be obsessed#les mis#the iliad#its a comparison between the iliad and les mis#specifically focusing on those four characters#enjolras#grantaire#exr#enjoltaire#achilles#patroclus#patrochilles#and i just love all of them so much#i have a several page brainstorm about how they relate to each other and its just so interesting#“What we lack attracts us. Nobody loves the light like the blind man”#“There are men who are born to be the opposite the reverse the counterpart. They are Pollux Patroclus...”#lm 3.4.1#“My dear comrade's dead-- Patroclus-- the man I loved beyond all other comrades loved as my own life-- I've lost him”#Iliad (Robert Fagles translation) Book 18#I have several copies of each book#i am obsessed with these characters#this is either going to be the greatest paper I ever write or its going to make absolutely no sense but i'm ready for it
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hm. idk, maybe the reason Luke Newton isn't announcing new projects or posting any Bridgerton content is because some of you demons treated him like hot trash instead of a creative that you wanted more work from and he decided fuck it, this isn't worth the stress. you know, like a lot of creatives who get mistreated do?
like this is a man who went from couch surfing in a friend's house and bartending to make ends meet, deciding that the Bridgerton audition was the last one he'd do before he quit, to suddenly being recognized on the street because that last audition propelled him to star in a global show where fans who have zero media comprehension blamed him for his character's actions and literally stalked him at any hotel he happens to stay at. he went from being a dude doing musical theatre and shopping at thrift stores and recording random songs with friends and posting silly memes on Twitter to being harassed on his only social media page and his friends insulted and his partners bullied by his supposed 'fans' and anything he posts being so microanalyzed that he can't do a damn thing without someone coming out the woodwork screaming about how he's the WORST and won't he think of the FANS!?
like damn he can't have a girlfriend without being harassed, he can't travel without being harassed, he can't like or not like social media posts without being harassed, he can't post a fucking MEME without being harassed, he can't take a vacation or cut his hair or hold someone's hand or just live his life without being blamed for some bullshit or another. but yeah, okay, 'when will Luke Newton come back?' as if it isn't your fault he's AWOL now
#luke newton#colin bridgerton#polin#lukola#bridgerton#bridgerton has a bullying problem- from kanthony fans to benophie (i see y'all with your anti blogs and your mean opinions) to polin#y'all lukolas say you're fans but most of you are the ones microanalyzing and feeling entitlement to this dude#and you know what?#jakola#because y'all straight up sip the hateraid and lbsr rn and call a spade a spade: you don't know this jack (jake? idk and idc) dude#you don't care about his achievements and aren't fans of his 'work'#you just want your stand-in avatar nic to have male attention as if male validation is the end all be all of a woman's success#and you see luke as the stand in for all the men who hurt you in the past but like he is literally not doing anything and y'all will be mad#and project that he somehow hurt nic as well by 'rejecting' her for his girlfriend who you hate because lbr she's conventionally attractive#when NICOLA Is conventionally attractive TOO ffs#how dare y'all make me step up to bat for a white man this way#leave him alone#aren't you exhausted?#'he didn't like xyz social media post and his girlfriend gives me the ick and he's not posting and appeasing me and blahblahblah' shut up#like y'all shut down at someone so much as raising their voice at you or posting some mild criticism for your bad takes#but you expect a man who has openly revealed his ADHD and anxiety to be the punching bag for all your vitriol#because he's not living his life in a way YOU approve of? like who are YOU to dictate how someone does and does not exist on this earth?#do some soul searching#do i love Luke's acting and want more of it and for him to star in everything i wanna watch? of course#but rn i'm gently cradling his face going 'baby you should RUN' because y'all are the PITS#YOU are the problem#one day y'all will realize that
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I’m thinking again about Astarions sexuality and how I've seen some people (to be fair, just a few) talk about it. Mainly, people pointing out his flamboyant behavior, and that us as players are learning more about his past male lovers than female ones and basically all these things for some people pointing to him being gay or at least not interested in women in the same way he is in men. And him only being a romance option regardless of gender, because, well, all companions are and he is therefore just "playersexual", only showing interest in female player characters because he has to, because of the game mechanics.
I think what really rubs me the wrong way about this topic is that it echoes the kind of things bi/pan people (speaking as a bisexual woman myself) find themselves dealing with irl. Whether through some form of internalized biphobia or from the outside through other people's comments. Of course this is about a fictional character so it’s not like he has any feelings that could be hurt. But when i see people tallying up how often he mentions men vs. how often he mentions women it really reminds me of a way of thinking I sometimes fall into in regards to my own sexuality. This is definitely just an internalized response and not something I actually believe when I truly think about it for a second, but I know these patterns of thought very well. Of observing my own behavior. How often do I find which gender attractive? Am I attracted "enough" to women? Do I talk about men's attractiveness too often? Is it the other way around? Am I only saying this woman is attractive to prove something to myself? I literally have a girlfriend and my attitude towards mine or other's sexual orientation is generally a huge big "whatever, I don't care". And I still have a passing thought like that from time to time.
So seeing people talk about a fictional character in this way really sends home how many people (whether consciously or unconsciously) see attraction as some sort of equation, you can solve, where in the end you get a result of either gay or straight.
#bg3#baldurs gate 3#baldur's gate 3#astarion#this has been sitting in my drafts for a few days but i thought why not just post it. its been on my mind.#i saw someone in the notes under a post about astarion literally counting off how often he mentions men vs women#and asking for proof of where he shows he is in fact attracted to women.#like... do you see what you're doing here??#aaaand another thing since people love bringing up his flamboyancy.... he is obviously playing that up a lot#because you know... that whole 'i have to seduce people so i am safe' thing#not saying that thats not also the real him but breaking it down to flamboyant=gay makes even less sense in the context.#its not that i think people shouldn't headcanon him as gay or asexual or whatever#i think thats great too. seeing different people's readings of the character.#just.... leave out the bi-/panphobia ffs. people dont have to show proof that they are in fact bi/pan.
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It's so fucked honestly that people genuinely believe that others Need to put effort into their appearances in order to be attractive. Like I dunno about you guys but I fucking love people's natural appearances, messiness and all. We are not the same.
#speculation nation#like sure i love a cool outfit as much as the next person. but i never base my attraction off of that alone.#and honestly i personally find extensive makeup Less attractive.#not that it makes someone Ugly. but by that point it's more like. idk. an art form?? and im not attracted to art.#im attracted to real people. sweaty hairy people with laugh lines and messy hair and WHATEVER else#real people!!!!! both men and women!!!!!! shut the fuck Up with your 'id be more attracted if they put in some effort'#i care about someone keeping up with basic hygiene sure. mostly bc my nose is very sensitive to smells lol#but thats not what they ever mean by this. they see an average guy just existing and go 'hmm he needs to put in more effort'#like shut UP if you dont like the average joes then go away!!!! more for me!!!!!!!!!!!
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I always think well if I dated a man, I wouldn't feel as insane. I wouldn't feel so awful or jealous. And then I remember why I came to the conclusion that I'm a lesbian. I just wouldn't care if it were a man. I just can't bring myself to care about men like that 😔😩😭
#personal#I've definitely been like oh hes paying attention to another girl thats a shame :((( about it like damn you were supposed to pine for me#forever and ever#but its never like I'm going to kill someone over it. I don't feel sick about it. I don't feel bone crushing sorrow#😭😔#but I feel like maybe I experience comphet a tad? because I look at cute couples like jenna and julien#or jessi and ty and wish to have that. like i want what they have so bad but also that will never be me because im gay#i wish there was more lesbian and gay rep in media#god does not LIKE ME . he said here is. bad parents who hate you. here is bpd and other undiagnosed issues#and other undiagnosed issues that were probably half the reason you felt so isolated in your high school experience. thanks to bad parents#here is 🩷 COMPHET!!!!!!!!!!@@ you're actually GAY and those boys you were crazy for? yeah . they were cute and all but thats IT#NO emotional connection!!!! none at ALL!!!!! 😍😍😍 you also don't feel sexually attracted to them either ♡#but what DO i feel for men?? just comphet? I feel something I think but its not love. its not a craving . its like#I want to be worshipped by a man and then tell him no 🩷 i want nothing to do with you but you should like me actually#??????????????????#does that make me a bad person? do I care if it does? I mean
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currently obsessed with these two... i could be a good mother
doodles and notes under cut:
#tracey gravity falls#quattro gravity falls#tracey and quattro#gravity falls#my art#brrd art#what else#chirping#ok yea#this is my handyman au i guess#could handyman bill be canon in this?#he'd have to fight quattro for it#soos showed him how to fix the pipes because he was going stir-crazy and it just stuck#tracey likes making realistic attractions#dipper feels weird about both of them because it just makes him uncomfortable to see his face on someone else#they get that and mabel helps them figure out how they like to dress and style their hair#they make necklaces for each other in lieu of the hats#stan and ford are a little wary around them because old men lots of experiences#but they warm up#soos and melody practically adopt them#traceys the only one who still has a crush on wendy but he gets over it after the novelty of “cool older girl” wears off#everyone in towns like “this is the least weird thing to happen. i guess theres more pines kids now”#idk rambling haha i like rolling them around in my brain
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It's impossible to find a video about fashion history without an airhead who self-identifies as a fashion historian - because she LARPs on week-ends and owns a sewing machine - inserting a 5 minutes tirade in defense of corsets.
#but why women wore it for centuries#GIRL#do you want to talk about foot binding?#because that happened for like a thousand years#or genital mutilation#or breast ironing#or forced feeding#all done by women for centuries#enforced by women on little girls#corsets literally caused chlorosis#and other health issues#some mothers forced their daughter to sleep in a tight corset and would tie their hands at night so they couldn't take it off#how fucking dense must you be to be unable to understand that when a woman's only value is in what men have decided is beautiful#she will torture herself and others to reach this status#every culture has something done to girl that ranges from painful to horribly mutilating#either to make them attractive to men#or pure in the eyes of men#it's everywhere#and it has nothing to do with women being 'stupid'#but with fucking patriarchal oppression#go wear corsets in a public park pretending you're Ariel at 38 years old but spare us your opinions gooooood
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okay so like im super late to this fandom but like I loved this movie soo much!??!?
i only have one complaint....
WHY IN THE WORLD IS JACK'S HUMAN FORM BARELY SEEN!?!?!?!? LIKE DUDE??!?!? HES SOOO PRETTTYYYYY AHHHHHHH
(for any other jack fans like me here are all the scenes he's human lol)
like... i get that Merlin is the main character but YOU CANT SHOW US THIS ATTRACTIVE FELLOW FOR A FEW SECS AND THEN DEPRIVE US OF HIM FOR THE ENTIRE MOVIE!!!! \(;a;)|
oooo here r some of my fav screenshots of him when he's a dwarf loll
my boy is so done with his group of idiotic friends (mainly Arthur lolll)
https://www.tumblr.com/kittenninja14/731916269075480576/hey-yall-i-just-found-this-incredible-video-and
#he's soo freaking cute in his human form?!!?#like what?!?!#he's fictional for pete's sake#yet here i am.... having a freaking CRUSH on him#screw u Miraculous for making me have a taste in blond attractive men#now im obsessed with this prince loll#random but alsooo i love his invisible cloak its so well-animated!!#anywyas#time for real tags ig#jack#prince jack#red shoes and the seven dwarfs#jack red shoes#jack rsat7d#rsat7d#KN14 rambles
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Hate hate hate the idea of being catcalled but also hate hate hate that I never get catcalled it's stupid I hate it
#hate when people hit on me#but also hate that it doesn't happen often#hate that i dont feel pretty because random men dont find me pretty#most of the time i feel really good about myself#but this nasty hatred lays underneath it all and makes every positive i have about myself feel like a lie#anyways! goodnight love yourself because you're the only one who truly knows you and your beauty is not measured by whats “conventionally#attractive“ you're beautiful because you're alive and because you have love and are capable of love#gn#ren won't shut up#delete later idk probably not i always forget
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lesbian masterdoc and the unforgivable damage of making people hear compulsory heterosexuality and think of "can lesbians have crushes on men?" (no) instead of "are heterosexual women settling in unhappy marriages with men bellow their worth because of economic and social pressure?" (yes)
#not claiming the theory was without flaws but it sure didn't describe some virus mental affliction that exclusively plagues lesbians#for starters the theory was primarily about marriage. so it did recognise the historical fact of lesbians forced into marriage to avoid#honor killings and the still present possibility and threats especially when it comes to cults and strong religions#(once again mentioning as a Jeová's witness in a brazilian periphery my girlfriend accepted the tool of losing her entire family and social#circles to reject an arranged marriage at the age of 17. and she's bisexual. but THAT is what compulsory heterosexuality alludes to)#but more often than not when it addressed lesbians it was as the inherent threat they pose to heteropatriarchy#that they mere existence proved women were not all born to serve men. and that their lives often proved women are much happier and#accomplished when away from the burden of men.#and this acknowledging just how much loneliness was a reality through lesbian's experiences#at the same time I can understand the frustration of that feminist theory being reduced to 'comphet is when lesbians in high school were#pressured into picking one of the Backstreet Boys to lie about finding attractive'. and even more so when that non universal and much less#serious example somehow morphed into 'comphet is when bisexual women either lying or confused about being lesbians have sex with men and#find it unfulfilling' because accepting that narrative erases and harms lesbians#so I understand the 'comphet isn't real' posts especially because written like that it tends to refer to lesbian masterdoc and following#fiasco. but at the same time that wasn't the original intent of compulsory heterosexuality the actual feminist term#this is just me complaining about how social media butchers theory tho unless they are specifically naming Rich and the many other feminist#who wrote about heterosexual marriage as an institution I won't bother lesbians for venting frustration about neoliberal erasure of lesbian#the original theory sure didn't claim lesbians were immune to all this misogynistic violence but the term was never exclusively about them#and tended to ask more of 'where do we stand as women and feminists as a group much more interested in destroying heterosexual marriage than#simply making it more bearable?'#this got a little messy and senseless I'm tired#.txt
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wrote a whole long post about dean’s relationship to his queerness and then deleted it because i couldn’t put it better than: there is a word i know. but i can’t say it. i can’t think it. i’ll just keep drawing horses
#like as a teenager/young adult/probably through most of the series#i truly don’t think dean actually conceptualized himself as a queer person#it wasn’t that he didn’t notice that he was attracted to men#it was just that even though he knew that was what he was experiencing he refused to let himself think of it in those terms#thinking about kissing boys would be like thinking about getting to attend the same school for an entire year:#dad wouldn’t allow it so therefore it’s impossible and even the act of wanting it would be betraying dad#and so dean calls men buddy and brother and calls himself straight#and only a tiny voice in the very back of his mind even registers it as a lie#HOWEVER because this post is so bleak here’s a reminder that he does make peace with his sexuality eventually!!!#we are three years post-canon he is out to all his loved ones and has gay sex with his husband several times a week!!
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