#we just don't care about our gender

[sternenschaukler]

What is Cassgender?

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What does 'cassgender' mean?

Cassgender is a term under the genderqueer/ non-binary umbrella for people who feel their gender is unimportant or irrelevant to their life. This can include feeling like you have some sort of gender, but it is not something big or important to you.

Being cassgender does not necessarily mean that you don't have any gender at all. It's also possible to feel like you still have a gender to some extent, e.g. you recognize that you're somewhat non-binary/ agender/ demigender/ cis/ trans.. but you don't find it important enough to really "identify" yourself through this.

Cass experiences may include:

- not really identifying as any gender/ not having a strong genderidentity

- feeling like your gender is an irrelevant part of your identity

- Feeling disconnected from other people of your gender, because they put a lot of importance in their genderidentity. (For example they feel very strongly about being male/ female/ agender and not something else)

- feelings of total apathy/ indifference towards gender

- just not caring about gender altogether./ The very concept of gender is unimportant or seems pointless to you.

Some Microlabels under the cassgender umbrella:

Cassflux: The apathy/ indifference towards gender fluctuates.

Cassfluid: Someone who feels indifferent towards their gender, but also knows that their gender is fluid in some way

Demicass: people who partially identify as cassgender but partially also put imortance to being another gender as well

Where does the name "cassgender" come from?

The term "cassgender" combines the Latin prefix "cass-" with "gender."

Latin cass- (cassus/ casso...):

- empty, hollow, devoid of something

- to annul, reject

- useless, fruitless

- to lack

What do the colours of the flag stand for?

- Beige/ tan and slate/ grey both represent apathy towards gender.

- Black for the absence of genderidentity. (This can mean you are genderless (or semi-genderless), not defining yourself through gender, feeling a disconnect from gendered labels and so on. )

- Green for the non-binary spectrum (Alluding to the green in the agender flag. This stripe is also there to include cass people wo still have a gender alongside those who are completely genderless/ unlabeled.)

How does cassgender differ from agender?

While both cassgender and agender involve a lack of connection to traditional gender identities, agender people identify as having no gender at all. In contrast, cassgender individuals may have any gender, or be genderless, but consider this unimportant or irrelevant to their personal identity. (Although cassflux people might fluctuate with how apathetic they are.) Agender people can, and often do, still care about not having a gender.

Do you have to be non binary to be Cassgender?

No, you don't have to identity as non-binary to be cassgender. "Cassgender" is defined by a sense of apathy or indifference towards one's own gender. This identity can be held by people of any gender, whether they are binary (male or female) or non-binary.

How does Cassgender differ from post-modern genders (Pomogender), gender abolitism, gender-fuck/ genderpunk, or similar terms?

- Pomogender people strongly care about not identifying with any existing genders and feel beyond or past gender. Cass people do not particularly care about one's lack of genderidentity.

- Cassgender also says nothing about wanting to get rid of gender as a concept entirely, like gender abolitism does.

- Genderfuck is a culture that has nothing to do with one's actual gender. It's a punk movement that's about actively opposing gendernormativity, resisting gender norms and the like. It's possible to be cass and do genderfuckery at the same time, but the two are not related.

What pronouns should I use?

Cassgender people can use whatever pronouns they like. Pronouns and presentation are not equal to gender. It is possible to have preferred pronouns, or use multiple sets of pronouns, or just accept any pronouns other people use for you.

How is cassgender related to gender dysphoria?

Cassgender individuals may or may not experience gender dysphoria. The key aspect of cassgender is the perceived irrelevance of gender, which can be independent of feelings of dysphoria or comfort with one's body

Cassgender experiences:

(...can, but don't necessarily have to, include: )

some of those points don't really have anything to do with cassgender at all, but are often asked like: "Can I be X and also cass?"

Relatable story by Vilhart: https://youtu.be/hmKix-75dsg?si=F7QJuO-zpjoBt_k2

- Feelings of total apathy/ indifference towards your gender

- Feeling like your gender is an irrelevant part of your identity

- Just not caring about gender altogether

- You place no value on your gender

- Being (partially-) genderless or agender

- You don't define yourself through gender

- Thinking: because of my AGAB or presentation, people see me as a girl/ boy, so I may as well just be that

- you say you're cis simply because it's safe, easy and comfortable

- "What's your gender/ pronouns?" "Meh, whatever."

- You don't understand gender or why gender and the right pronouns are so important to people

- You are understanding and supportive of other people's gender identity, but you just don't get it

- You don't instinctively know your gender

- You feel like it would be better to redefine gender and gender roles in culture

- You do not care what pronouns people use for you

- You do have a pronoun preference

- When describing yourself as a person, words like man or woman are not an important point on the list

- You can't find a good answer to: "I am X gender because..." that does not involve your body, appearance, or stereotypes

- You can relate to a gender to some degree, (e.g. cis, non-binary, trans, agender, demigenders), but don't find it important enough to need it acknowledged, or to want to socially or medically transition be seen as this gender etc.

- You're feeling a disconnect from gendered labels

- You're feeling like an impostor, or like you're not telling the whole truth when you're in men-only/ women-only groups

- You have looked up a lot of different genders, but find it difficult to fully relate to people in the communities, because they often feel very strongly about being this gender

- You feel exhausted if you have to conform to gender norms

- Feeling exhausted with gender in general

- You feel neither gender euphoria nor dysphoria

- You have gender/ body dysphoria

- If you suddenly woke up as the opposite sex, it would be a change, but ultimately it wouldn't really bother you

- You're cassgender because you want to be free from having to care and think any more about your gender

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[arohuacheng]

the thing about pei ming. is that what the narrative shows you straight out is him in a relationship where he didn't follow the typical romantic convention of abandoning everything for the other person. and then him attempting to cover for his nepotism grandkid. and then his reputation for sleeping with a lot of women. and then it really doesn't want to let you talk about the fact that he's very consistent about making sure that the women he has relationships with are taken care of after he's gone. or that he was doing the honorable thing by not taking the easy way out of a war and did his best with an impossible situation with that woman afterwards and made sure she was taken care of to the best of his ability. or that shi wudu, water tyrant, trusts him so much that he's essentially appointed him as shi qingxuan's guardian in case anything happens to him. like YES he's a whore. AND.

[novella-november]

Is this fanfic friendly? I feel like an outlier.

I guess this is my sign it's time to throw together a FAQ post to link to lol.

Yes, every event for this blog is fanfic friendly :D

Though as I mentioned on my Ominous October post, for events that include multiple short stories, I encourage everyone to flex their creativity and take one of their planned short story fanfics, and at least *attempt* to turn one of them into something entirely original; rebuilding a character and story from the ground up to stand on its own two legs is no easy feat, and that is what makes it so fun!

It really gets your creative gears turning, to make an "au of an existing material" to be something entirely original, and you can be pleasantly surprised about the things you come up with!

As a few people say, its not just a matter of "filing the serial numbers off" -- you have to add in just as much *or more* as what you take out when you are turning a fanfiction into something that is original and completely divorced from its original source material / inspiration, and that is a hard, but very rewarding challenge!

Obviously, this is not a requirement (there's no hard requirements for any of the challenges, other than no cheating, including no using AI),

but if you would like an extra challenge for the short story events and you're planning on doing entirely fan-fiction, I highly recommend trying it out at least once, and seeing where it leads you--

you may find yourself pleasantly surprised by what you find down that rabbit hole!

[filmbro]

how did we let the word "pansexual" get to the mainstream... I'm sorry some people were so biphobic they invented an entirely different word just so they wouldn't have to call themselves bi but can we stop giving it legitimacy now

[acerikus]

Someone being extremely annoying in the replies of my flowey and clover gif and I'm running out of patience 😭

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

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[cobra-creampuff]

why are they laughing at him as he gets straight up killed??? he doesn't deserve this! he's a sweet kid at heart! he literally just needs one (1) real friend!!

[selvepnea]

Thinking about. That one post about art. And how it's never good enough. Since you're the one that made it. And how. It might relate to how I view myself?

[thrassisfras]

One of the things that really drew me in when I first watched the animated X-Men show (around 2020-21) was the fact that none of th relationships they had, romantic or otherwise, looked like "traditional" relationships. The thing I really liked about Gambit and Rogue specifically was that they needed to find other ways to explore what intimacy meant for them.

Adding in Magneto to that dynamic adds in an interesting angle for Rogue. It's more possible for her to have that "normal"-looking relationship with Magneto - but at the end of the day, is that what she really wants?

idk I'm coming into the X-Men very late and I haven't read a lot of the comics. I've just seen the two big animated shows, a couple of the movies, and read the stuff with Exodus and Sinister so my grasp of these characters might not be as extensive as someone else's I just...I can relate to Rogue in that way. Because any relationship I have with someone isnt going to look or be "normal" and there is a part of me that wishes it could just because god would that make life so much simpler for me.

[dinosaurcharcuterie]

I just realized I don't want gender neutral bathrooms and changing rooms just for gender reasons. I don't even want them just for practicality reasons, or just for economic reasons.

I want gender neutral hygiene spaces because, in my experience*, women who are bursting to get out of a sports bra and/or pee are wont to say unkind things and excuse it as "between us girls", and men do not wash properly if they think the bro code protects them.

[allthoseotherworlds]

Whenever we have a boil water advisory here (twice in the past 6 months, both for the same facility, which is probably not a great sign for their internal systems) someone has to go and make a snarky comment about how people shouldn't complain about it because some indigenous communities are under boil water advisories and have been for a while and so forth.

And like. I don't disagree that it's important to continue to care about indigenous and other rural communities having access to safe drinking water.

And obviously their plight is worse than me going a couple of days with a boil water advisory. Though I will note that the hospital here is also under the boil water advisory and that does have real consequences for people that they are allowed to complain about.

But also overall I do feel like scolding people not to complain about some inconvenience they're experiencing because other people have it worse is not really a great way to go about doing activism for those other people who have it worse.

[lastoneout]

*grabbing young queer people by the shoulders* listen to me. radical feminism is inherently transphobic. you cannot rehabilitate it or reclaim it or make it trans inclusive, I don't care what the people on twitter who claim to be authorities on queerness say. the foundation of radical feminism is nothing but bio and gender essentialism and biphobia and aphobia and anti-kink rhetoric and intersexism and yes, misogyny. it does not offer a future, not for bi people, aroace people, sex workers, not for kinksters, or intersex people, cis women, or trans people regardless of gender and you should care about those people. it will never result in queer liberation because it is an ideology of exclusion and hatred. you gain nothing by buying into the idea that half the population is evil by birth or by transition. you gain nothing by acting like women are perpetual victims who can't think for themselves and are tainted by their association with men. being a man or being attracted to them is not a sin. if we truly want to stand a chance of dismantling the patriarchy we actually NEED men on our side especially marginalized men. they are our allies.

the problem with terfs is not just transphobia, it never was, the radical feminism is also so unbelievably harmful. you cannot save it and it will not save you, stop drawing lines between queer people and join hands with them instead. remove people who are actually harmful, not innocent people who happen to have the wrong sexuality or gender or job. we get there together or we don't get there at all. we need each other now more than ever. do not listen to those who seek to divide us even if they are queer. we all deserve so much better than the hell radical feminism pretends is a liberated future.

I do not blame anyone who fell prey to this rhetoric, I know it feels good to have a common enemy and lash out at those you think are siding with them however they do it, but men, especially marginalized men, are not your enemies. and it's never too late to realize that and change for the better.

[like-sands-of-time]

Idk there's just something good-different about the culture with rare pairs (tbh with fandom and "shipping" in general, it's so toxic now instead of accepting) when they're actually rare. I'd rather a super niche sub group in a fandom that has less than 10, 100, 1000 works and one whole discord server than whatever the hell is going on on Tumblr here with jegulus as an example. That shit used to be a rare pair, especially considering we know little about James and even less about sirius' younger brother. and now y'all are making cutesie little social media AUs and rewriting every single marauders era character to be nothing like they were and erasing Lily from existence to make them all self inserts or OCs and it's just an entirely different energy than fanworks and discourse even 10 years ago for that fandom.

Idk it's something about the energy around it... Like it's full of arrogance and like this idea that because of the bravery of those who came before and fought for the normalization of fandom you can just say and do whatever and people aren't allowed to criticize you without it being homophobic and ageist or sexist or whatever else . You can just have shitty takes and shitty personalities. You can be entitled and annoying while also being disabled or gay. But your inability to understand nuance and complexity with anything is sort of your whole problem so I wouldnt expect y'all to get it

[happy10thousandyears]

Have to say I don't rly fw white ppls definitions of gayness

[mynqzo]

reposting this information to it's own post because asker was a racist.

What's going on right now in the Republic of Georgia / Sakartvelo? A new legislation just passed that official bans - human rights essentially, gay-marriage, gender-firming care and surgery, any 'promotion' of queer identity. Soon after this legislation passed, trans model Kesaria Abramidze was murdered as a direct consequence of this.

Why is this super extra bad? Besides the several many lives at stake, the safety of queer families and the lethality of hate crimes, Georgia's wish to enter the EU is falling to a complete simmer due to this, soon to be extinguished completely. Here is an article about the international reaction to this legislation:

What can you do to help? The biggest thing we currently rely on is international push back especially from the EU members and the possible overturn of this in the upcoming election. It does not help that this law is implemented due to greedy fucks and Russian puppets in Georgia who benefit from this. source:

You might hear many refer to this as 'Russian law' which is due to the fact that Georgia, under this puppet-leadership mimics Russian laws like the 'Foreign Agents Law' that was put into work only a few months prior the law assumes 'only receiving foreign funds makes an organization a foreign agent.' and I don't think I have to explain how horrendous that is.

We also rely on our president to veto the legislation before it goes into 'full effect' (though the consequences and effect have already begun) but even with this the political party which instated this legislation argue to over-ride her veto in parliament. source:

The most important thing right now is vocal pushback, and public support of the queer community. with what happened to Kesaria (may she rest in peace) a lot of trans people are fearing for their lives, and queer families no longer can remain in their own country if they want to continue to be themselves in any way.

Spread love, a lot of it like as much as you can offer to queer Georgians everywhere.