#unhealthily obsessed with it ngl

[wikitpowers]

what everybody else sees:

kit and ty inside:

[florencechase]

“They were all in love with him. He had that effect on everyone. He was…”

“A natural?”

“Entirely unnatural.”

_

I guess it’s not a secret that he also has that effect on me, so I drew him, because what else would I do? So here’s Lestat in one of my favorite outfits of his

[aihoshiino]

It was obvious Ai loved him…but seeing it said on screen still makes it tragic…i almost felt i had a lump in my stomach Hikaru could've been alright if they just had a happy family together but no 😭😭 with the dvd now revealed, do you think Ai would've gotten back together with Hikaru if she knew that "I can't love you" was a lie? Even as a family i feel like that's a possibility now

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, ngl… now we have the full context of the HKAI breakup and a better overall understanding of their r/s dynamic, I've actually been thinking about their first on-scree conversation in episode/volume 1 - where Ai speaks to him on the payphone. I'd always kind of zeroed in on it as important because it was the one and only time pre-flashback that we'd gotten an actual exchange between the two of them, one sided as it was. And I was especially always really curious about the "No, I'm not trying to get back together" line because it implies A Lot even when we just hear Ai's words.

And now that we know that the HKAI relationship was 1) so unhealthily codependent that Earth's Most Autistic Creature, Ai Hoshino noticed and went mmm i gotta get the fuck outta here 2) ended by Ai herself and 3) Hikaru met that breakup attempt with LET'S GET MARRIED I think it makes it clear that the moment Ai reached out to him he immediately leapt to thinking there was a chance of them getting back together, probably out of pure wishful thinking. And Ai, realizing that he hadn't moved on or been able to grow past her, had to gently but firmly turn him down. And keeping in with that theme of miscommunication tragedies, they were probably both having a VERY different conversation:

What Ai meant: "[I know I'd just be a burden to you, especially with the twins and I don't want to put that weight back on you so] I'm not trying to get back together." What Hikaru heard: "[You're a burden and I can't bear the weight of putting up with you so of course] I'm not trying to get back together."

Minor sidebar, but Takahashi actually highlights that moment in particular during her interview in First Report, the anime guidebook (I promise I'll get it translated soon… I promise…!!!), noting that Akasaka actually gave her the full details as to the HKAI dynamic so she knew how to properly convey Ai's feelings for him at that moment (then noted that as a fan of the original manga she has very mixed feelings about getting spoilers… bless her LOL). So Ai's vocal delivery in that scene can also be considered a pretty big clue…

ANYWAY UH. My point is that I don't think they'd ever get back together unless Hikaru got his shit together and was more stable & less prone to clinging onto Ai at the first opening. She herself even says that they broke up because his obsession with her was consuming him and she wanted him to be able to stand on his own without her, because she thought that was better for him. It's possible that him and Ai being in each other's lives vis-a-vis the twins and Ai being more able to set boundaries (in hindsight, her turning him down is actually really good progress for her!) he could've developed a more healthy relationship with her, but his fixation on her then and in the present day is so all consuming I guess it's hard for me to imagine.

[playchoicesconfessions]

Sent by @cadybear420

‘NGL. It's actually kind of funny when CA is deemed better for being more realistic than OG HSS partly because the OG MC becomes universally popular relatively quickly, when CA has arguably done similar with Rory. No if anything, they handled it much worse with Rory. People like Clint, Natalie, and Danielle being unhealthily OBSESSED with Rory, to the point where Natalie straight up had a mental breakdown when Rory was taken by Danielle to hoco. I'd be fine with this if it actually contributed to Rory's character arc but holy fuck it felt way more like they were just trying to force them onto our MC and make them seem more desirable. OG MC may have been super popular but A) the story rarely if ever made a big deal of it, and B) everyone else existed very much so their own characters rather than as MC's cheerleaders who just blindly worshipped the very air they breathed.’

POST/CONFESSIONS DO NOT REFLECT THE MOD’S PERSONAL OPINIONS!

[jewishbarbies]

Joe definitely broke up with tay. there is no way in any universe that she would’ve ever broken up with him and anyone who thinks otherwise is delusional

I recommend watching antphrodite’s YouTube vids about them and their dynamic. So interesting and accurate (and kinda hot at some points ngl)

I love antphrodite!

i feel like via taylor’s own admission, she was unhealthily obsessed with joe for a long time before dating him and then she had him and he realized she wasn’t the fake persona she pretended to be to get him, so he broke up with her and it shattered her bc of that unhealthy obsession. and it’s bc of that obsession she felt so betrayed by it and had to publicly drag him and has been trying SO HARD to get at him with these destructive and fake relationships.

[felteverywhere]

gen v might legitimately inspire me to get active on here again ngl.......... unhealthily obsessed with it rn

[thatdayindecember]

Do yall remember the guy from the psych ward I was OBSESSED with? Idk what I said about him back then but I felt insanely connected to him but also quickly realized it was extremely unhealthy lol. We were admitted together twice and the second time, before I left, he asked me if I wanted to stay in touch but I chose to not do so bc of I knew I was unhealthily obsessed/attached. So we never spoke again.

I ran into him at the grocery store today. So surreal lol. First of all, why the fuck was I was obsessed with him lmao? Nah ik why, I was losttttt and that was my pattern yk, find a man to get attached too. Butttt it was nice seeing him tbh. I often wondered how he's doing nowadays. Turns out he's doing good! He's been clean and sober for 1.5 years, is engaged and also expecting a baby!

Happy for him. And for me for realizing how different everything is now. How different I am lol. I learned a lotttt over the past 2 years. Seeing him def made me realize that.

But ngl it's also lowkey triggering to be reminded of that time bc, in a mentally ill fucked up way, I still miss being sick like that sometimes yk. But life is so much better now and I will never go back, no matter how hard my brain tries to convince me to do so. That bitch a liar lol

[girls-are-weird]

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[haknew]

hey jess someone in the uquiz asked about what songs you're currently unhealthily obsessed with <3 you should link them here u.u

wow thanks person who asked me in the uquiz and jess for bringing this to my attention here they are: 

the “ 1am and you can't sleep, you're caught up in your own thoughts of a different time, and if you can only get through this dreamy night, maybe it'll all be okay” song is dreamy night by lilypichu

 “there's flashing lights, loud music you don't like, and this party where you don't know anyone, you know you don't quite belong” is don’t quite belong by dodie clark

 “wandering in flashing lights, you can barely walk straight, the world spinning how long has it been, as you try to run after the one you love, trying to catch them” IS TBH how long ... BUT !!! specifically jeon woong’s cover of it okay don’t laugh at me 

“a butterfly flies across a meadow, soft grass tickling your bare feet as you sit, sunshine welcoming you, a breeze whispering ‘i really love you"’ is jacob’s cover of ifly 

“the clock ticks time away, each sound echoes in the emptiness, you sit alone at a table glancing at the empty place across from you, wondering what kind of future could have been” is what kind of future by woozi

 “you have fallen down the rabbit hole, trapped in an alice in wonderland type tea party when you spot someone familiar across the room, trying to get away...” is get away ... by ... verivery ....

“a warm cup of coffee and a fading smile, the bittersweet taste of not just the drink, but also knowing this is the last cup of coffee you'll ever share with them” is last cup of coffee also by lilypichu ! but it’s unreleased so i listen to the longer cover version by natsumiii and valkyrae ! 

“imagine a sad emo jazz bar, you're drunk and alone and all you want is for someone to take you home” is take me home by ateez !

[tomriddlejustposted]

why do people think it’s funny that i've augmented my body to be resistant to most magical attacks? even those muggle magicians can’t pretend to steal my nose if there’s no nose to steal 

[evacado3]

I’m simping hard for samuel 😭😅😱 can I Nsfw for him anything is fine

Oh look what we have here~ Ngl I was literally think about this in class, and it’s my first time writing actual nsfw soooo it might be a little awkward, bare with me lmao 🤣

Make Me Yours

Warning: nsfw, mentions of yandere behavior

Word count: 760

He's staring again, you took a deep breath, recalling the past few days where you've caught Samuel looking a little longer than normal. Honestly you didn't mind, you wanted to know what made him like this, and what you should do to make him look at you more.

But the stack of work in front of you cut off your ideas, there's no way he's making you hand it all in tomorrow. Does he know what the word mercy means?

"Why are you still here."

That was more of a statement than a question, he adjusted his glasses before walking over to your desk.

"Uh, cause I haven't finished work?" you tilted your head, a bit confused about where this conversation's going.

"No, I'm asking why are you in this company." he leaned forwards to you, giving a perfect view of his cold eyes.

Eyes of a born leader, no, dictator.

You gulped, not anyone would understand what he meant, but you knew well just what he's trying to say. Did he find out?

Find out about you're obsessed with him? Oh he knew that well, since the golden age of Big Deal, he's always spotted you around.

Being unhealthily obsessed is one thing, but the unwillingness to change is the real problem. The things you'd do just to be in his arms are preposterous, and so is your behavior.

From following him to all the way to Workers without a guaranteed position, working your own way up to assistant manager just for him to acknowledge you have been nothing but amusing to Samuel. Of course, he knows all your efforts, it was him who recommended you to the boss anyways.

"T-that's a weird question director, are you tired? Maybe you should go home first." you chuckled, so what if he knows, would he make a move? Obviously not, why would someone like him want to touch you?

His scent flowed to your nose which you had to resist taking a sniff. He smiled, a really fake smile, "Miss y/n, I think you comprehend me perfectly, is there an issue as to why you won't answer me?"

Now he's just teasing you, after a long day at work, you could slightly see the makeup fading away. His neck tattoos were slowly revealing themselves.

Samuel honestly didn't know what fueled him to make theses actions at this moment, all he knows right now is that your perfume smelt sweeter than usual. Bending down even more, his nose almost touching yours, he stared.

"Director?" you snapped him out of trance, he cleared his throat loudly before replying.

"Are you finished?"

-----

He flattened out his tongue on the crook of your neck, broken moans escaping from you in satisfaction.

You forgot how you ended up there, spread out nicely on his desk, waiting to be pleasured.

"I-hmm I never thought you would be interested," you breathed out, his hands busy fiddling with your bra. The blouse was already out of the way, his shirt torn in desperation, even his glasses were nowhere to be found.

"Sweetheart, you were the one who never approached me, was watching from afar that fun?" he whispered in your ears, hands trailing from your back to waist, squeezing softly.

Busted, Samuel has always knew. You whined in embarrassment, his grin didn't help you feel better about yourself. His hair was back down the way it was when he was still in the Gangseo Union, you didn't realize just how much you missed it.

He proceeded to connect his lips with yours, indulging you in a rough and passionate kiss. The faint taste of cigarettes laid on his tongue, looks like he never quitted smoking after all.

All that elegant facade to lure in clients has blinded you from his actual character. They say old habits die hard, they weren't lying.

Groaning lowly in your mouth, Samuel couldn't wait anymore, he was never a patient person to begin with. He could see you can't wait as well from the soft pleas falling out of your mouth.

"You're enjoying this a little too much aren't you," he taunted while unzipping his pants.

Bullshit, if you've waited after the same dick for years, naturally you'd be eager when he's finally in your palm.

"Put it in already," you gave out a needy cry, rubbing your thighs together to give yourself some pressure.

"What should I do, should I make you my little girlfriend?" he hummed, tearing your skirt apart to display your wet panties.

"Fuck Samuel, just make me yours already."

"Your wish is my command."

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Andddd my job here is done, please imagine the rest, I still can't write a full smut, man I'm getting there ok DO NOT JUDGE MY SMUT BROS

Sometimes I forget Samuel's a two faced bitch with a really pretty smile

[lispectore]

ngl dream and george probably felt pressured to say they are okay with nsfw and shipping in general because the way people were going about it was so thinly veiled and they also probably didn't want their fans to start infighting about shipping boundaries. sad that they didn't get to make an informed decision. like bruh i wish there was a youtube analysis video on the phandom and dan and phil because i would tape dreams eyelids open and force him to watch it so he can finally realize how dangerous and friendship-ruining shipping can be. obviously it seems fine now since dream is currently unhealthily obsessed with dnf 💀 but i wish he did more research into fandom culture, especially considering he only started using social media in his 20s...

i think you're overstepping now and projecting what ur thoughts are on it vs. what dream and george must think. i know that we talk a lot and make comparisons of dnf to dnp, bu they're extremely different. the way that dream and george have been shipping themselves before fame and knew each other years prior to becoming ccs means that their bond wouldn't be one to stop existing as soon as something bad happens. i think dream and george are extremely aware of how dangerous shipping real people can be and do you know what else i think? i think they don't give a fuck about people shipping them, we're talking about a different context and a different mentality when it comes to it. i think if there is someone who had enough time to research and talk about it with his friends about what makes them comfortable and what doesn't, it's dream. i also think the way you worded some of the stuff here makes it seem like dream coerced sapnap/george to accept his boundaries as their own as if george and sapnap aren't grown ups who can very well speak up. weirdass take ngl.

[banghwa]

okay hiiiiii i’m finally on holidays but i’m sick and i have a headache but i didn’t want to drag this out for too long lest i forget lol so idk if this will make much sense and also i am in no way intelligent enough to claim i understand one thing about bts lore sksksk but here we gO (this is the reflection//persona anon btw sksksk sorry i took so long classes have been hectic asf i have so much work to do lol)

so yeah i was reading the analysis about the wings short films and was thinking how you linked lie and filter with their common themes of control— how jimin is the one controlled in lie and gains control in filter and imposes the listener to choose what he has to do kinda thing.

so just because i am unhealthily obsessed with intro: persona i was like: “hm, what if there was a slight connection with reflection as well?” so i read the lyrics and didn’t really pick up on much. however, the analysis you linked provided me with the crumbs i needed to satisfy my needs lol.

intro: persona is, quite obviously, about questioning the sense of self: “who am i?” a question which namjoon repeats throughout the entire song. how does he perceive himself, and also, how do others perceive him? the persona he’s created— or the mask, if you will— is the one of the rapper, the performer who writes songs that he wants the world to hear. yet behind that mask is his shadow, his hesitation, his flaws that come up once he’s been scrutinised by the public eye, that he is more than conscious of.

this shadow haunts him, yet not as much as it did when he wrote reflection. in reflection, it eats him up from the inside, tears him to shreds, and he hates it, hates himself because he is his shadow, that he wants to mask with his persona.

he wants to find himself: is he his persona, the person that the world sees and idealises? or his shadow, the person that most people are unaware of, that “the world is not interested in”? this is a theme that is common to both persona and reflection, (it transpires a lot more in the short film, which is why the analysis made me screech in delight lmfao).

in the short film we see namjoon looking at several reflections of himself in the mirror, an illusion to show that he is unable to discern his true self, “the one to really identify with”. an idea i really like from that analysis was his turning to tattooing his arm in order for people to see him expressing himself. i love this because tattoos are marks that are visible, simply so, to individualise the person who has them. he does this because, as op said, “he cannot do this for himself in his own mind. he is confused about who he really is, and it has prevented him from truly liking who he is. instead he is haunted by his possible identities.” (ngl op snapped with this like mad respect to them)

now with persona, we see an evolution in how he perceives himself. the tattoos in reflection, imo, are the beginning of the persona he forges for himself. an exterior that people can associate with him. and he may have hated this before, but in persona he embraces it, owns that he is just as much of his shadow as his persona, even if he still doesn’t know what they are individually, or who he is as a person. he knows his name is R, and “[he] might have been deceiving [him]self, [he] might have been lying, but [he’s] not ashamed of it, this is the map of [his] soul.”

at the end of the song, he still asks “who the hell am i?”, because he still doesn’t know, and he may never find the answer, just as he said in the second line, but he owns it because it is himself, and he’ll live with the shadow and persona that are intricate parts of his identity.

but yeah anyway idk if this makes sense lol i may be looking way too deep into this sksksk but i’d love to hear your thoughts on this as well <333333 take care :]

oh my gosh...oh my gosh oh my gosh????? no because you’re so right reflection really is the incarnation of namjoons "shadow" relative to his persona, reflection IS all about grappling with his place in the earth, ALL of our places. he struggles to see himself as anything other than "another diameter to the earth," he’s focusing on living his life cinematically, but he’s lost, he can’t live himself because he struggles with who exactly he’s supposed to love. in the short film, i know it’s hyyh related but the scene where he’s trying to get to the phone booth but it’s chained up, as much as it’s about his character not being able to be there for taehyungs character, it could just as much be about him not knowing how to call for help.

and then in persona he’s STILL wondering who the hell he is, but he’s content with it, instead of the melancholy of reflection, wondering about the point of anyone’s existence, in persona he talks about how that answer will probably never be found because of the beauty of individuality. he still struggles with his worth as an artist, but he leaves the construction of his persona to others, essentially retiring his control on the mask.

in reflection he very literally etches how he wants to seen into his skin with ink, trying to keep control of the way he’s perceived as to not let the shadow out. In persona, the ink is drawn around him in the doodles, he has no control over it, he acknowledges the separation between himself and his persona, as well as his shadow as an integral part of himself that he cannot part from so long as there is a mask. im going to scream kim namjoon you did it again.

(also pls omg you have nothing to apologize for!! dont worry about taking your time im so happy you ended up sharing your thought with me I might cry :’) thank you so much!! 🥺🧡)

[britnxyspears]

Ngl metal gear is really great for learning cultural trivia. They do have a Japanese equivalent to weebs, its people who are unhealthily obsessed with cowboys and guns and wild west, think all of America is wild west, even has like... intercommunity discourse on treatment of Indigenous folks in their media, how corrupt the laws are, how women are treated etc. In these shows/movies.

Where did I learn this at the age of 13? Googling 'why is Revolver Ocelot a cowboy' and going through one of the weirdest rabbit holes yet. Some of it was from US tourist/teacher sources, some of it was from people who have always lived in Japan, some of it was just directly related to the character of Ocelot but honestly I wanted to learn more about cowboy fan culture in Japan bc I thought it was kind of neat, that was like my first time learning how other countries perceived the US that wasnt 'everyone is lazy and eats too much'

It also kind of made me appreciate Ocelot more, Kojima really just put a cowboy in mgs1 to make the western fans happy in his very American centric action stealth game. It's funny bc there really was no reason for a cowboy to be in a military game which is why I googled it in the first place so like, I guess it makes sense culturally.

The fact that Ocelot and Otacon are both a gift to and tongue in cheek joke about these types of people is something that I always liked about mgs. Kojima and co. Are just like really aware of the kind of people at home and in other countries who play their games and like to give little nods to everyone. While still making fun of them

[uglypastels]

4-73

Here it goes 

4. What do you think about most?

You ;) lmao, no uhhhhh... food? 

5: What does your latest text message from someone else say?

from my bf: Hi bb 

6: Do you sleep with or without clothes on?

with 

7: What’s your strangest talent?

that I have none 

8: Girls… (finish the sentence); Boys… (finish the sentence)

Girls like spaghetti, Boys like spaghetti-os (WHY WAS THIS THE FIRST THING THAT CAME UP IN MY HEAD)

9: Ever had a poem or song written about you?

i have unfortunately, it’s like a tradition here that for secret Santa, you write a matching poem for the person you picked, so i’ve had a few poems written for me... all horrible. 

10: When is the last time you played the air guitar?

I prefer drums lol, today (In the Air Tonight by Phil Collins) 

11. Do you have any strange phobias? 

Needles for sure, but if we really are talking strange, than it’s not of heights, but dropping something from high up. Or falling. actually, not even from high up, even like a bridge, or a manhole. i’m so fucking scared of dropping anything anywhere and not being able to get it back. 

12: Ever stuck a foreign object up your nose?

lmao i had this barbie bracelet that looked like a septum ring and i loved to pretend i had one. so technically up my nose, but almost.

13: What’s your religion?

Atheist <3 

14. If you are outside, what are you most likely doing? 

walking back home 

15: Do you prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it?

BEHIND

16: Simple but extremely complex. Favorite band?

5SOS???

17. What’s the most recent lie you told? 

that i liked the result of my group project

18: Do you believe in karma?

yeah

19: What does your URL mean?

pastels that are ugly

20: What is your greatest weakness; your greatest strength?

weakness: anxiety, strength: creativity

21: Who is your celebrity crush?

Tom Holland

22: Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

yup, it was kinda boring alone lol

23: How do you vent your anger?

unhealthily (is that even a word?) 

24: Do you have a collection of anything?

books, pins/badges, and i used to collect angel (figurines) when i was younger)

25: Do you prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online?

on the phone

26: Are you happy with the person you’ve become?

No

27: What’s a sound you hate; sound you love?

hate: i answered this before and said children crying, but they don’t even have to be crying.  love: rain <3 

28: What’s your biggest “what if”?

What if I didn’t fail my classes two years ago (cause that's when my life went to complete shit) 

29: Do you believe in ghosts? How about aliens?

Yes. Yes. (or at least, I’d like them to be real) 

30: Stick your right arm out; what do you touch first? Do the same with your left arm.

right: tablet, left: pack of Arizona ice tea 

31: Smell the air. What do you smell?

nothing??? 

32: What’s the worst place you have ever been to?

uhhh... i can’t remember

33: Choose: East Coast or West Coast?

neither

34: Most attractive singer of your opposite gender?

Harry Styles 

35: To you, what is the meaning of life?

42

36: Define Art.

something that should have been fun in the process of making, but eventually just makes you want to gauge out your eyeballs and then cry :) 

37: Do you believe in luck?

sure?? 

38: What’s the weather like right now?

windy and it just stopped raining <3 

39: What time is it?

11:16pm

40: Do you drive? If so, have you ever crashed?

Nope, and because of the idea of crashing, i probably never will

41: What was the last book you read?

The Executioner, by Chris Carter

42: Do you like the smell of gasoline?

Absolutely not, trauma triggers <3

43: Do you have any nicknames?

Zuzia is already a nickname (well, diminutive, same thing) 

44: What was the last film you saw?

I watched a part of Dolittle???

45: What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?

I broke my wrist

46: Have you ever caught a butterfly?

no, never even tried

47: Do you have any obsessions right now?

yeah

48: What’s your sexual orientation?

don’t know, don’t really care

49: Ever had a rumour spread about you?

during a student exchange with a polish school, everyone thought i was dating of the dudes from that school (ngl i did have a crush on him and we did hold hands on a trip to Amsterdam AND he let me borrow his raincoat when we arrived back at school and i still had to cycle home while he was going back with car but FAKE NEWS) 

50: Do you believe in magic?

same with ghosts and aliens, i hope it’s real

51: Do you tend to hold grudges against people who have done you wrong?

nah

52: What is your astrological sign?

Sagittarius

53: Do you save money or spend it?

save

54: What’s the last thing you purchased?

a few bday presents for my mom :) 

55: Love or lust?

love

56: In a relationship?

YUP <3 

57: how many relationships have you had? 

2 (and that half one with a polish guy since it was rumoured but still cute lol)

58: Can you touch your nose with your tongue?

nope

59: Where were you yesterday?

in bed

60: Is there anything pink within 10 feet of you?

yes. boxes

61: Are you wearing socks right now?

sure am

62: What’s your favourite animal?

zebra??

63: What is your secret weapon to get someone to like you?

humor?? idk people dont like me 

64: Where is your best friend?

at home

65: Give me your top 5 favourite blogs on Tumblr.

@spiderrrling @captainpeggy40 @duskholland @justasmisunderstoodasloki @appreci 

66: What is your heritage?

Polish (and Dutch?? eh kinda?) 

67: What were you doing last night at 12AM?

texting my boyfriend uwu

68: What do you think is Satan’s last name?

Johnson

69: Be honest. Ever gotten yourself off?

yeah

70: Are you the kind of friend you would want to have as a friend?

sure

71: You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late one more time you get fired. What do you do?

cry and try to get him out of the canal, fall in myself by doing so probably

72: You are at the doctor’s office and she has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. a) Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? b) What do you do with your remaining days? c) Would you be afraid?

a) i would tell my family and closest friends b&c) no idea 

73: You can only have one of these things; trust or love.

trust

happy now? 

[socialjusticefail]

Ngl, I’m sick of LGBTQ relationships being portrayed as absolutely flawless with no rough patches and the two characters in the relationship being near unhealthily obsessed with one another to the point of codependence. (HarleyIvy in the series, Ruby and Sapphire ect. I like them and all but their need for each other is never explored as being codependent.) I wanna see a realistic relationship. A loving one with two people who love each other, but with bumps in the road once in a while. (1)

(2) I wanna see an LGBTQ relationship that portrays the two people in said relationship as having their own personalities, likes and dislikes outside of their relationship and sexuality, while still remaining healthy at the same time.

.