#type: gender

[verytwilly]

This is so precise in its analysis that I can see myself referencing it to help explain my own gender experiences. My explanation to people on my gender identity is always that I simply don’t have one and it’s exactly because I don’t find it useful in understanding who I am. Like, sure if knowing someone’s primary sex characteristics is the only thing you care about go ahead and use my body and facial features to place me as male. I don’t care… that’s your perception. But the second you try to use that information to assume anything else beyond the medical/biological… you’re going to be wrong.

Seeing me as male will not help you know if I’m a potential reproductive partner because I’m overwhelmingly attracted to men (regardless of their particular presentation). Seeing me as male will not help you understand my personality because I’m very emotional and nurturing. Seeing me as male will not give you any insight as to my interests because I’m not interested in sports or any kind of mechanics. I may like woodworking but I’m primarily interested in fiber arts. Seeing me as male will not help you understand what job I have because I’m a teacher (albeit highschool but still, not considered a typically male job). In this way, gender and sex become useless in positioning me in the world for the vast majority of situations. So why should I identify at all with maleness? All the stereotypical associations our current culture still has with men largely do not apply to me. It’s useless to me. And judging by all the tags people have added to their reblogs of this post, it’s failed other people many times too… but that’s not at all surprising.

Gendered parenting is so weird. As a little kid I was a total daddy's girl, I was told I would always try to sneak into the garage, I was always very interested in everything he was doing and would follow him around while he was working, but while my family was never the type to outright say "you can't do that because you're a girl", they simply didn't entertain the idea that I could possibly be interested in cars. Then when my little brother was born, it was just assumed he would become a mechanic like our dad because he was a boy. Even though he, unlike me, didn't like being in the garage much and wasn't all that interested in what dad was doing. Once he got to a certain age, dad started making him help and would drag him away from his actual interests for it, which lead to a lot of arguing and not much actual learning.

Gendered expectations sort of create doubles of children. There's the real child with their actual personality, interests and behaviors, and then there's the Gender Child.

My real brother hated soccer and team sports. The Gender Child that existed only the minds of the adults in his life needed to play soccer because that's what a Boy Child does.

Growing up, I always felt like adults didn't actually know me as a person and they weren't interested in getting to know me. Because they felt they'd already learned everything there was to know about me when they were told "it's a girl".

When I talk about how I never got gifts I actually liked from my relatives (to this day I still don't like getting gifts that aren't something I picked out myself), it isn't actually about the gifts themselves. I don't even remember them. What I do remember is the feeling of being given gifts that were seemingly not bought with the real me in mind. They were for the Girl Child™️ version of me. The me that adults wanted me to be, not who I actually was.

[thelightfluxtastic]

I have a research background in weight stigma and I currently work in mental health, often with LGBTQ+ clients.

I've met nonbinary people who struggle with disordered eating because they only ever see androgyny depicted as featureless thinness.

I've met trans women who struggle with disordered eating because they've internalized the idea that girls are meant to be thin, dainty, and delicate.

I've men trans men who struggle with disordered eating, because they feel women are allowed to be soft/curvy but men need to be muscular or thin and flat.

So many trans people are convinced that weight loss is the key to appearing as their desired gender, even when they want radically different gender presentations.

The societal idealization of thinness and fatphobia falsely invades and derails people's idea of what their "ideal body" should look like.

[liberate-women-now]

Obsessing over changing your body to meet a specific ideal is not liberation, its slavery to a system that profits from our discontent.

[dragoncuspid]

These are some “test” photos my mom took of me today

Her Instagram

[da-mous]

actually can't stop thinking about this. competition flowing so seamlessly into love, like there was never a distinction between the two

men are taught that they will not be loved except through the admiration that a winner deserves by proving himself better than another man. his value, then, can only come at the cost of another's

here, as the losers throw themselves passionately into the winners' kisses, leaning up into them and groping their lovers, love is revealed never to have been a scarce resource won only through competition. rather, the competition itself is shown to have been an expression of these men's love for one another all along

heres a comp of all the kissing I caught at tboy wrestling 😗

[justdavina]

Sexy Cross-Dresser!

[witha-boxofscraps]

Let’s not forget this iconic little guy when it comes to Christmas. Bannakaffalatta who is referred to as their own gender (“ladies and gentlemen and Bannakaffalatta”), who insists they are called by their full name and not a nickname (“Can I just call you Banna?” “No. Bannakaffalatta.”) and is part of a suppressed minority who have fought for their right to marry (“You’re a cyborg?? You guys have more rights now! You can even get married!”)

And Bannakaffalatta bit the dust to save everyone else and I think that’s pretty iconic.

[my-castles-crumbling]

Me every time someone refers to me and my wife as “ladies” or “the girls”

(This happens so much around the holidays sos)

[whatkindofsoupp]

me on animal jam when I was 7 (I thought it counted as personal information and if they knew they would. Like hack my computer or something. I didn’t know how computer safety worked)

yeah

[mantisbreath]

freshly fucked selfie

[boingogender]

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ੈ✩‧₊˚ VAMP ☄. *.

✰ an alternative to person term for those who use the word "vamp" in place of boy, girl, person, etc., though not necessarily exclusively.

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!! not a gender, tags for reach !!

requested by @vampitsm / @vamptranny !

taglist: @rwuffles , @cyberneticloverboy , @fangpunk , @honey-makes-mogai

don't wanna be on this list anymore? message to be removed! or message to be added, heheh.. >:)

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[krasnymay]

Mostly nothing at all but when it's something, there's two ways it can go

explain your gender in 10 words or less without using boring words like “male”, “female”, “nonbinary”, “masculine”, “feminine” or “androgynous”.

go!

[liberate-women-now]

Backwards answer.

[thenighttimeparadise]

I just had a three hour long debate with some guy in his 40s about how and why liking women in their 20s is not just a preference and isn't just bc you wanted kids all of the sudden or because you like the way their skin looks and how the "take care of themselves more".

Why do I even bother?

[theflaggerrrr]

" Gender (top) "

A flag for gender in general. Nothing wrong with this one.

" Gebder, Genfer, Hender, Gendrr, Fender, Gendet, Gedner, Gemder & Gejder "

A bunch of evil and fucked up versions of gender. Ew. Ew.