#type: gender

[biracy]

So at what point did people forget that "transvestigating" refers to "conspiracy theorists measuring celebrities' nose bridges and waist-to-hip ratios with digital calipers to 'prove' that every single person in the public eye is secretly transgender and was 'inverted' by the J- sorry um. by The Global Elites" and not "a trans person finds an internet comic relatable"

[adhd3m0n91]

Notes thing!

So I've seen people do this stuff and I figured I'd try it!

Soooo some goals!

200 notes- I'll actually finish writing stuff

300 notes-I'll try harder to fix my sleep schedule

400 notes-I'll try to stay on track with my homework instead of drawing during my extra time at school

1000 notes- I'll tell my mom that I'm genderfluid and explain what it is

1100 notes- I'll ask my mom for a binder

1200- I'll show my tumblr posts to my mom X3

thats. probably about it

Sooooo each person can tag as many people as they want and leave as many notes as you like!

@pepsi-overdose @h4z311 @kirbythesixth @kirbyhasadhd77 @winnie-likez-starz @th3-r4t-48 @w3r1d0 @imthetruealphahere @aiden-aka-thanos @sleepyezzy @ilikesmut1 @ink-sans0fficial

edit: ITS BEEN 26 MINUTES YALL ARE FAST

edit 2: LETS MAKE IT TO 1000 BITCHESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

[incognitopolls]

For example, a man has a crush on a lesbian. He is otherwise secure in his gender, but wishes he was a woman so that he could date that lesbian. Is it okay for him to wish that?

This is not asking about whether acting on your feelings for that person would be okay; we're talking solely about the internal/mental side of it.

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[sonickitty]

Technically it didn't really pass thru the legislature, actually,

[new-gender-unlocked]

New gender unlocked!

These lantern bugs

Lantern bugs

watercolour, ink, pencil crayon

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[leonardoeatscarrots]

A super cool way to be an ally that barely takes any energy or time is to simply choose "prefer not to say" when forms, websites, accounts, etc, ask for your gender. REGARDLESS of whether or not you're trans or cis.

Doing so doesn't usually affect your account or the content you see or your likelihood of getting a job, and it can HELP normalize privacy in online and workplace environments and STOP "prefer not to say" from becoming just a codeword for transgender.

Unless the person or site asking legitimately NEEDS to know DO NOT SURRENDER PRIVATE INFORMATION. And the more people who keep their information private, the less obvious it is when the person doing so is trans.

[lgbtqtext]

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[ineffably-queer-book-lover]

Wholesome. 🥰

[incognitopolls]

This is not asking whether it's okay to hit anyone. This is also not asking whether it's sexist for someone to be fixated on being "allowed" to hit women.

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[adorablegorilla]

"Biological essentialism is bad" should not be a controversial fucking take

[quinn-host-arc]

the statements "clothes don't have gender" and "clothes can and do invoke gender dysphoria and euphoria for many people" can and should coexist.

[shamebats]

Gendered parenting is so weird. As a little kid I was a total daddy's girl, I was told I would always try to sneak into the garage, I was always very interested in everything he was doing and would follow him around while he was working, but while my family was never the type to outright say "you can't do that because you're a girl", they simply didn't entertain the idea that I could possibly be interested in cars. Then when my little brother was born, it was just assumed he would become a mechanic like our dad because he was a boy. Even though he, unlike me, didn't like being in the garage much and wasn't all that interested in what dad was doing. Once he got to a certain age, dad started making him help and would drag him away from his actual interests for it, which lead to a lot of arguing and not much actual learning.

Gendered expectations sort of create doubles of children. There's the real child with their actual personality, interests and behaviors, and then there's the Gender Child.

My real brother hated soccer and team sports. The Gender Child that existed only the minds of the adults in his life needed to play soccer because that's what a Boy Child does.

Growing up, I always felt like adults didn't actually know me as a person and they weren't interested in getting to know me. Because they felt they'd already learned everything there was to know about me when they were told "it's a girl".

When I talk about how I never got gifts I actually liked from my relatives (to this day I still don't like getting gifts that aren't something I picked out myself), it isn't actually about the gifts themselves. I don't even remember them. What I do remember is the feeling of being given gifts that were seemingly not bought with the real me in mind. They were for the Girl Child™️ version of me. The me that adults wanted me to be, not who I actually was.

[mostly-funnytwittertweets]

[e-rated-beardo]

So this is pretty important, actually?

Once when I called my GP's office to request an appointment, explaining that I appear to have symptoms of a UTI, the nurse on phone duty checked my file, noticed my name not matching my legal gender, and asked (in an extremely clumsy way which we don't need to quote in detail here) whether I am a man or a woman, because that would make a difference in the diagnosis.

She didn't actually need to know that though, did she?

Does my gender identity determine how a UTI affects me? No.

Does my legal gender determine how a UTI affects me? Nope.

I think that if she had had the terminology, she would have asked for either my "biological sex" (sidenote I'm not going to go into how that's actually complicated and not one single thing) or my assigned gender at birth. Do those determine how a UTI affects me? I mean. Not really?

Because. The thing she really wanted to know. Was just the shape of my junk. (Which does have a bearing on how UTIs affect you.) But she'd probably been taught that it's rude to ask a sick person if they have a dick or a hole, so instead she went and caused a sick person two days of gender dysphoria 🙂🙂🙂 and only even got the info she needed because I happened to know that detail about UTIs and private parts 🫠 Great times were had by exactly zero people that day and honestly, it wouldn't have been particularly hard for her to do better.

really not sure when it happened or why but personally I'm pissed that the queer community at large seems to have given up ground on the "people with penises/vulvas/testes/ovaries" language to sex & gender essentialists in exchange for the much less precise, much more demeaning "AGAB" language.

is it because you're scared of the word vulva? of acknowledging out loud that some people have penises? of recognising that many many people, including but certainly not limited to trans people, have mixed sex characteristics that cannot be accurately summarised by "afab/amab" as shorthand for "female/male"?

"in [GENITAL RELATED] situation AFABs will need to do X and AMABs will need to do Y" there are "afabs" with penises and "amabs" with vulvas. Saying this shit makes you look so unserious & honestly transphobic (given the ongoing erasure of post-op trans people within broader community). Intersex people and GRS have both existed for long enough (fucking forever and, decades, respectively) that we should well past making this basic fucking mistake.

quit referring to people by a vague & often violent event that happened at their birth as though it defines ANYTHING about how they & their body currently operate, and start using precise language so you at least look like you know what you're fucking talking about.