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ros-aline · 4 months ago

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It feels silly that I literally have to write down and continuously re-read that I deserve a relationship with someone who isn’t mean :| and that the manipulation and cruelty isn’t worth the attention or validation!!! but it’s also not silly bc I only just now have been Realizing my attachment issues and admitting that I was hurt as a child and seeing how much that still affects me ahhhhh it’s so much and it’s good that I’m thinking about all this but at what cost :(

#feeling very lonely #and weak and humiliated #s/o feelings wheel you come in handy so often #feeling very sad for my younger self #trying to also feel some compassion #d

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finemealprompt · 7 months ago

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DP x DC Prompt #88

Superman didn’t know how to handle having a clone. He was fighting the urge to get close to Kon, guide him in a way no one had been able to Clark, with feeling violated every time he saw the boy. He didn’t want to hate Kon, but he didn’t know how to balance his own emotions.

When Clark admits this to Batman, he suggests someone who can help: Phantom. Dani Phantom.

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sweetnnaivete · 15 days ago

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i've been so miserable lately but at least i still enjoy music and learning

#i actually don't think i can put up with people rn #and that's more on me #but some of it is also frustration with other peoples attitudes #mine might not be good but at least i'm trying to still have compassion #i'm really trying rn and i feel like i'm stuck #thank god for being an academic weapon #but i genuinely feel like i'm undergoing too many changes at once and it's scary and i don't want to be around people!!#i feel like i've lately been concerning myself with others a lot #but all of a sudden now i'm worried about MYSELF and how i'm changing and i'm not the same person as i was even a few minutes ago #i don't rly know who i am #the fact that i still have the same values is very very comforting but otherwise i feel like shit #i've been happy but there's like an underlying melancholia throughout me this week it's so lame #ugh ok shutting tf up now #ceri.txt

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cerealmonster15 · 11 days ago

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i forgot grunt meant like henchman or whatever for a second i thought they were like yeah leonas bitch ass grunts and growls are partial proof to savanaclaw being an athletic leaning dorm lol

#well they also say that in the game not just the manga jkdlfhsdkl like in azuls union bday card #ace was like oh yeah ok you dont wanna be in savanaclaw cause theyre more athletic oriented right #and azul was like NO IM TALKING ABOUT THE SUN SHUT UP!!! jsdklfhsdklfj #anyway i was on the wiki cuz i was trying to remember what their dorm's trait thing is like according to the mirror but i DONT SEE IT.#i rememeber i get it confused with pomesiores . like i think one of theirs is tenacity . but idr which one LOL #the other is maybe endurance...????#that doesnt sound right. i feel like it was broader than that #WAIT I LIED IT DOES SAY IT AT THE TOP i just. missed that part. it IS tenacity lol #what the fuck was pomefiore then....#oh ya theirs according to the wiki is UNRELENTING EFFORTS which i think i did see sometimes written as like endurance or fortitude or smthn #anyway. savanaclaw and pomefiore's ~core value~ always felt similar to me. but also maybe i just dont know what words mean <3 #not in a 'theyre too similar' way like i do think theyre different. i just think it's INCH RESTING when things r like #theyre similar. theres overlap. but theres enough distinction to put them apart #actually them being similar in some regards does feel reinforced by the rook hunt situation like he went from one to the other #and seems to be thriving regardless.... we're onto something here...#hmm what were the others.. i think heartslabyul was strictness...#ok the wiki says severity i think ive seen either eng or a translation that called it strictness lol but severity i feel like is maybe #better word choice.. just a lil... nuances nuances whatever anyway idr the others. actually wait no i know octavinelles is like #benevolence bc azul keeps mentioning it- the wiki says compassion. lol. idk if i just keep remembering close enough or like #remembering fan vs official tls. i think the wiki is doing its own direct tl and not engtwst but moving ON #scarabia is deliberation... ignihyde is diligence... diasomnia is elegance???#why is diasomnia the only one that didnt sound familiar At All LOL i dont REMEMBER THAT ONE #i remembered vaguely what scarabia was bc they make a point of mentioning it in like end of 4 or start of 5?#when they were like yeah we value foresight or w/e in scarabia so jamil hasnt been ousted right away. i like scarabia their #way of showing the different ways deliberation works with like jamil vs how it does in kaliim vs the npcs #like theyre all different ppl but still fit that criteria in their own unique ways.... hell yeah...#anyway yay i got ONE right on the nose [as the wiki has it listed anyway lol] thanks savanaclaw

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stardustdiiving · 15 days ago

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I need to think of hat radish fic ideas that would suit having Nahida as the POV!!!!

I want to experiment with writing her especially since she’s my favorite between the two but all my fic ideas just…keep being more suited for Wanderer’s POV

#it’s not even I write very wanderer centric fic honestly…I feel it’s pretty balanced but I think I just enjoy writing hat radish as having #certain insights on each other that they #wouldn’t say about themselves in their own narration #I also write them as internally ‘preparing for the worst’ when it comes to #their assumptions of how much the other person likes them. ie: wanderer will try to read nahida’s actions towards him as #transactional and avoid the idea she genuinely cares about him and wants him around #while nahida underestimates how much empathy/compassion wanderer would be willing to #extend to her . not bc of how she views wanderer as a person but more how she views herself #which is a funny duality bc often she believes more in the idea of wanderer’s capacity to be kind than he himself does ? MISJDKD #I have a very vivid idea of how I would write this from Nahida POV I jsut don’t have a digestible plot o can tackle around it !!! we will #see. bc I desperately want to write her POV I have some ideas I want to experiment with for it #it’s just often there’s cases where o want to write Nahida having problems #but my vision for characterizing her is being someone who rationalizes out of considering #these things problems. so to sell the full intrigue in my mind u need to have characters reacting to her #hence why I think I gravitate towards wanderer pov to study her #on the verge of writing like two iterations of some ideas I have from each of their perspectives 😒#there is too much I want to study all the time #fern.txt

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lettucedloophole · 20 days ago

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lov and peace on planat earth... ✌️

#just read some crazy tumblr drama and man...#makes me glad i'm not being hyperscrutinized #also makes me glad though that i can admit when i was/am wrong. it's difficult but important #granted i probably haven't done it enough. atonement is... difficult?#navigating what's the right thing to do... it helps to be honest with yourself #and lead with compassion. 🫶#it's kind of a delicate balance to keep but you need to be really hard on yourself but at the same not too much #it's a little maddening but i guess that's just life when you have a morality complex #and i've settled in that. would much rather obsess insanely about morals instead of abandoning them #the hardest thing isn't that but a lack of connection with others #i try. so hardd to make connections and even with other queer and nd people i'm failing so bad. 😭 and it makes me wonder like.#what is WRONG with me #i am content for the moment though i feel bad for my one friend whom my mental state is entirely reliant on #i try very much not to let them know that it is though 😭 we're both busy #do online friendships and dating app things usually just not turn out? maybe i just need to stop getting so down about it.#it'd be easier to do that with a healthy amount of friends though #not giving up overall tho... might for a little bit. you know. take breaks of the Will #but it's not over til im wiped off of this godforsaken rock #have my journal entry tumblr

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cerealbishh · 5 months ago

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"Henry cares for Faran. The Liars normally have to be the ones caring for others. It just makes me melt!" - Zaria on Twitter about Henry(x)

#pretty little liars: original sin #pll: original sin #henry nelson #ben tyler cook #look i know people don't like him but ME do #i know he wasn't the best boyfriend in summer school but he was trying!!!#he does have an issue with boundaries/oversharing/nosiness but i feel like that's a fairly normal issue(he needs to work on it)#maybe i just like ben tyler cook...#i don't even post many gifsets for male characters yet here i am defending him #also could be because he gives me strong lucas beattie/lucas gottesman vibes and i remember really liking him with hanna(until some point)#him getting upset at her for being mean to kelly kinda reminded me of lucas with hanna about kate in the books iirc? but i'd need to reread #pllosedit #henrynelsonedit #bentylercookedit #bencookedit #i honestly would be happy to have him back next season as faran's friend but idk how likely that is tbh #just a dorky romantic sorta dude with a strong moral compass and a heart of gold :p #i would LOVE to know who they were gonna cast if they kept henry as asian-american #i think he also reminds me a little of holden? i also liked him too #pretty little liars: summer school #pll summer school #pllssedit #honestly wish they would stop straightening ben's hair i love his little waves/curls and the messiness... i mean gif 9? what a cutie #if ben himself ever talks about henry i will replace the quote #honestly henry probably gave faran issues by saying ''i love you'' but then wouldn't leave the c*lt for her...#but also she didn't say it back? she honestly didn't have to if she wasn't feeling it but idk maybe it hurt him and that's why he wouldn't?#if i'm being honest though FUCk that c*lt storyline... that was just for shock value and not even GOOD shock value #i truly believe he acts impulsively when he feels like someone will be hurt or is hurting #i wonder if he was working on illinoise and that's why he wasn't upped to a series regular?#sir don't join a c*lt... go to therapy!!! pls i BEg

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talentforlying · 1 year ago

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tbh i think the coldest and most shocking thing that can happen in an argument with this man is if you call him "john" and he corrects you to "constantine". biggest red flag you can find on the play. sounds pretentious when you're not experiencing it. means he's absolutely fucking furious with you.

#like here's the thing: he's not going to correct you if he doesn't know you or like you. he won't give anyone that power over him #he won't ever let some random jackass know they've gotten under his skin. it's just not worth the effort to him.#so if he's correcting you? it means you know him on a personal level. it means you're at Bare Minimum good friends #and it means he's so fucking angry that he's rescinding your place in his life until the argument is resolved. the castle gates are closed #you are now on professional speaking terms until this is resolved and the professional constantine is a real nasty piece of work #who will not spare your feelings or try to salvage whatever you've built with him. professional constantine wants the job Done #i've talked before about how little effort his father put into naming him after his mum died and how unemotional john's been about it since #and how unique it must feel when someone says 'john' to him with love or care or compassion after a lifetime of hearing it in anything but #like his first name doesn't usually mean a lot to him! its use is not a closely guarded privilege!#but if he cares about you then calling him 'john' can feel as intimate to him as a kiss #and if you burn him he will snatch that level of access away from you for Months. sometimes Years.#so! yeah!! if he ever corrects your name choice in an argument then you've Really Fucked Up Buddy!!!!#( also. hypocrite that he is. if you're on 'john' terms and you call him 'constantine' in an argument FIRST he will be absolutely WOUNDED )#( and he will cover with that professional veneer. that cold uncaring mask of anger. but it's trapped-cornered-animal anger )#( it's let-me-cover-this-injury-before-you-can-really-get-your-fingers-in-it defensiveness. and he will be cautiously distant afterwards )#( headcanons. ) I'M JUST LIKE THE BASTARDS I'VE HATED ALL ME LIFE.

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aforeffortenjolras · 6 months ago

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really trying to find ways to take care of myself that are doable and enjoyable when possible. and i really feel like with meditation i've had a lot of progress in letting go of things and being able to not get bogged down by circumstances, and i'm having so many more good days and just feel so much lighter overall :)

#personal #like i make these little chocolate things so i can get the seeds i'm supposed to be eating #and i'm finding ways to move my body that feel good and not like a punishment #and then i make my little salty spearmint tea lemonade drink after and i feel so good #still trying to not be on my phone as much and i just started oil pulling which just sucks but hopefully i'll get used to it #or find some way to make it better #i've also felt a lot of stress in the relationships with the people i live with but i feel like over the past few weeks we've been able #to talk through things and actually work things out?? which is crazy to me.#i'm not used to having conflicts resolved without it leaving permanent distance between me and the other person #and i know that feeling like this is easy when i'm not in school and only working part time #and i'll probably feel terrible when school starts again and then i have to move in with my parents after that.#but! what is important is practicing compassion and i am working on that and i will certainly not #run out of opportunities to practice it more #basically not only am i not really actively trying to destroy myself anymore but i am actually trying to treat myself with love for probabl #the first time in my life

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kindnessoverperfection · 2 years ago

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I've found that, when interacting with others (or myself), it's useful to consider the lessons I'd want to teach a growing child.

If a child makes a mistake, I wouldn't want them to feel shame. I wouldn't yell at them, humiliate them, or in any way indicate to them that their mistake is a reflection of their worth or of who they are as a person.

Instead, I'd want them to associate the process with love and joy. If they say something that hurts someone's feelings, or otherwise ostracizes someone in some way, I'd compassionately explain to them. Ideally, they'd walk away knowing why they said / did it in the first place, how to handle similar situations in the future, and would accept the consequences (e.g. if a friend no longer wanted to hang out with them).

While the consequences may sometimes be painful, I'd do my best to instill in them that mistakes are human and natural, and that the process of learning from these mistakes is an opportunity to improve connections with others and express love.

I have a tendency towards excessive guilt. Memories in which I've said / done something ignorant or hurtful are infused with this guilt and shame- but ideally, I'd feel a sense of love and peace, and perhaps happiness, when looking back on them. Because they were moments of growth, moments I learned how to be more compassionate (even if the actual learning came years later).

So I'll put this out into the void:

When you make a mistake, that is not a reflection of you as a person. It is a moment in time, a moment which was informed by your past experiences. Humans are not static labels, or monsters in an RPG game. We are social creatures who live and learn and react and grow and experience and love. Be gentle with yourself and move forward knowing you're doing so in accordance with your values.

#parenting #internet culture #self compassion #i'd also want to teach them critical thought of course - there are varying ideas of what constitutes mistakes or ignorance or harm #and that's a messy subject which is often a challenge to teach and is beyond the scope of this post but it's important #to avoid being subject to manipulation or becoming reactionary #but anyways #to clarify something in the tags here: it's okay of course to feel bad. that's a normal response. but it's not necessary. and a culture of #shaming people for their mistakes isn't helpful in the same ways it isn't helpful to do that to a child. people become defensive and/or #self-hating. divisive and reactionary and more easily manipulated. fearful and ashamed and avoidant. afraid of disagreements or of trying #anything new. increased all-or-nothing thinking and blowing things out of proportion. it just doesn't help in the long run #sometimes when someone says something i want to express hatred and mockery towards; i think of my trans friend who's full of light and love #and compassion. who came from a smaller more conservative community and used to have some of those same stances (and may still hold some of #those feelings/anxieties). and i remember that i can be firm on my boundaries and spread love and acceptance and safety *without* spewing #vitriol at anyone who makes even a minor mistake. i want people who were impacted by oppression and bias to have space to grow and #find safe communities and be able to think for themselves. i dont want to push them away or be another person in their life screaming at #them. there's always a person behind the screen.#like that doesnt mean i have to interact with them. in fact in most cases it's better to step away. and there are still unsafe people out #there- but yelling at them won't do any good either. saw a tip to focus on the people you want to help rather than the opposition #and that's been super helpful for me

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quixoticanarchy · 1 year ago

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how to grieve. how to compass that grief. how to feel despair, maybe, and yet refuse immobilization. how to say, it is not for me to decide when all is lost. it is not for me to declare the future over, ended, empty. it is dark and anything still could come out of that darkness. how to grieve. how to grieve. without hope or without it, how to keep going all the same

#thoughts without answers ig #i think despair and hopelessness and just overwhelm Will happen even if you try to reject them or shame the feelings #esp for people who havent spent much time looking the horrors of the world in the face. and even for those who have #i think also that immobilization as outcome is more dangerous than the feeling itself. to feel w/out hope is not the same as to give up #and some ppl are not motivated by hope. it is not the only force that can spur change and effort and compassion

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gaypornluvr420 · 2 years ago

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and are these child slave quinoa vegans in the room with us right now

#i know some probably exist but most vegans are very conscious abt where they get their food from #i’ve seen vegan recipe website comments sections tear the cook to SHREDS for using hershey or nestle or anything in that vein #and can we stop pretending that non vegans don’t also buy food produced by slavery.#where do you think most of your food and clothes come from?? do you think only vegan products use slavery??#EVERYONE needs to be more aware of where they’re buying things from because there’s so much more #slavery going on than ppl in developed countries would think #i didn’t know until i started looking into it bc obviously no one wants to talk abt it #and guess what!! vegans are usually the ones raising awareness abt corporations using slavery or treating their workers badly!!#bc the whole point of the lifestyle is compassion!!! so holy shit stop treating us like we’re the bad guys #bc vegans annoyed you once or bc you feel guilty abt eating animal products and are trying to make yourself #feel better by shitting on us #sry i just saw a post i otherwise agreed with but it kept mentioning “child slave quinoa vegans and im so sick of ppl talking abt this #phenomena that doesn’t really exist.#also no i don’t hate non vegans i know it can be more difficult and expensive etc. whatever.

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getinthefuckingcarkitten · 9 months ago

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The Doren storyline has so much potential i hope it gets more content soon

#Just. The way Doren realizes that PC's behavior isn't normal and tries to genuinely help them #I especially like to imagine her and Foxy's dynamic... She knows Foxglove is a troublemaker but also worries abt her #She can see the signs of abuse a mile away and has the combo of authority and warmth that loosens up Foxy and helps her feel safe to vent #But like... Despite her noble ''i can fix her. platonically'' aspirations i doubt Doren would be able to scratch past the surface much #Foxglove is never saying the name of the partner that makes her cry and show up with a split lip or dried blood in her nose #And Doren is Too Nice to push the issue. So she just offers a warm embrace and whatever measly comfort she can #I also love the idea of her going softer on Foxglove despite her misdeeds because she can see she's Going Through It lol...#She endures the weird stares it gets her from other teachers if she mentions it (especially Winter) bc she just wants to help so bad #Doren and the dog with bite issues she picked up at the pound and insists it just needs some love #Meanwhile Foxglove i think would lightly cling to her. Probably run to her every time Avery is being a dick. Just to end up having another #breakdown bc it isn't Avery comforting her but also deep down i think she genuinely appreciates it #Just. Someone offering you compassion w no ulterior motives for the first time... Both scary and delicious #Foxglove trying her hardest to not Act Out because Doren is just So Nice would be so funny. Her veins r popping

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desperatepleasures · 1 year ago

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cw: animal neglect, pet illness

it's easy to say "do your research before getting a pet" but like what does that mean in practice? and frankly it's not unreasonable that someone would go to a pet store that sells bearded dragons, and buy a kit that the staff claim contains everything you need for a bearded dragon, and take that at face value. "do your research" but if you can't trust people (pet store staff + the companies selling those kits) to give you even remotely solid information, what do you do? how is the average person supposed to know what sources to trust?

and then skip forward a few months and you call a vet clinic because your bearded dragon is lethargic and not eating and can't use its legs because these companies are allowed to sell you a "complete" kit that doesn't include uvb lighting for a desert reptile. and you had no idea! you trusted what you thought was a reliable source!

I don't have a conclusion for this it just breaks my heart as a vet receptionist every time I have to gently break the news to someone that their pet is sick because they were lied to about its basic needs

#i guess the moral of the story is have compassion for the owners who genuinely are trying and want the best for their pet #which is not all owners! some are just shitty!#but i can't let the existence of shitty ones harden my heart against those who do want and need help #it's hard to hear about the animals suffering but when the owner is also suffering then i feel that too #animal neglect cw

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bodiesoflight · 1 year ago

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hey just to let you know op of this post:

https://www.tumblr.com/bodiesoflight/733794261873655808

is an endo and endo safe (just check the tags). i assume you’re anti-endo so just to let you know. if you arent i apologize for bothering you.

[link above]

thanks for letting us know!

#we feel somewhat more complexly about endo etc stuff than the black and white argument you see most often wrt s/scourse in that we dont #believe in the argument that you can have these things without them being a result of smth actively disordered in the brain e.g.#dissociative disorders and we do feel that there are differences wrt spirituality in poc and that kind of ''multiplicity'' in a sense as an #indigenous asian poc + that there are additional disordered forms of ~multiplicitly~ (possibly just presentation wise) in psychotic #disorders etc and that current psychology leaves a lot to be desired in terms of both research and the general western colonial focus of it #+ being extra aware of the fact this disorder hides a lot from you yknow so theres a lot of room for ppl who identify these ways to #just perhaps not have as much insight or help to recognise there's more going on rather #than ''endo'' theories n we dont rly find the general discussion of how its held as ''s/scourse'' on here productive nor wish to participat #in it much but altogether no we don't quite support endos though we also dont support the belief that every endo is inherently just some #''faker'' etc bc there is so much grey area and Even if they are faking it is often the result of other issues etc so it just doesn't make #much sense to us to not show them the compassion of trying to be understanding to the fact theres more likely more beyond surface level #going on than some malicious or trendy intent and to be cruel to them accordingly etc #— with this post in particular though we feel it doesn't matter all that much since op isn't an endo themselves as #opposed to what this ask says (taken from their pinned referring to themselves as traumagenic) and this post #doesn't make any harmful statements that would be interpreted differently through the lens of endo supporting #so we'll leave it up for now but let us know ofc if op is otherwise fucky or means more than we know with it (as we dont follow or know #anything about op beyond a brief checking their blog)#ask #anonymous #sorry for the longwinded response we just hadn't posted our thoughts on this here yet and figured we'd make an encompassing statement on it #beyond what we've said in our blog description #(<- see link in about or tag in our pinned)#spirituality we mentioned btw wrt ''t/lpamancy'' etc and how its misused by whites in ''s/scourse'' etc #tldr: we find it more complex than the immaturity and black and whiteness of the arguments+beliefs held within s/scourse currently and #made a little statement on that +#feel this post doesn't make harmful statements nor is op an endo so we'll leave it up unless there's more going on #but again thanks for informing us and giving us the opportunity to make a statement on this!

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blujayonthewing · 2 years ago

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so I was skimming some of the flavor text in the dnd cookbook justin got for christmas, and the intro to elven cuisine mentioned many elves having dietary restrictions like vegetarianism and veganism because of "their great respect for all life", and not to be too galaxy brained and/or maybe kind of a bitch but I really feel like a lot of elves and druids specifically aren't vegetarian, because they have a better than average respect and compassion for all life but they also have a better than average understanding that that includes plants

#nothing that's alive wants to be killed and eaten actually. sorry #I think having a mindful and respectful relationship to the ecosystem and your part in it makes more sense for compassion and ethics #than trying to draw lines around which living things' desires to live and be uninjured do or do not count enough to qualify for mercy #and in dnd where there are entire peoples whose magic allows them to talk to animals AND PLANTS #I really feel like you either have to make peace with being IN the food web rather than separate from it OR... starve to death #get really good at living solely on fruits and milk. or get real weird and feed on carrion only maybe #I dunno #this is about fantasy peoples mostly but it IS also about like...#it used to be an accepted scientific truth that animals didn't have thoughts and feelings at all #it's still widely believed (and increasingly disproven) that certain 'lesser' animals can't feel pain or fear #studies are beginning to suggest that plants may be able to communicate and have some kind of consciousness that's not very well understood #I dunno it's like... we have an instinct to distance ourselves from the things we eat for our own comfort but that distance is an illusion #nothing wants to get eaten but everything must eat #worldbuilding

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