#trauma dumping on the internet

[thequeenrainacorn]

I love my mom, and I know my mom loves me. Shes great about accepting people and has always been an ally to the queer comunity. I have two sisters, both of whom are attracted to multiple genders. They barely had to come out because it was so acceptable in our house.

Which only made it sting harder when I came out as aromantic. Only to be met with something along the lines of, "this is a joke right?"

Not from malicious intent but her genuinely not understanding that that was a thing. She made it clear she loves me after and has never said anything again, but even that sigular moment of rejection hurt so deeply.

Not to mention issues I've had with friends and that one of the above sisters continues to not understand my identity and disrespect it.

It still haunts me everytime I find pride things with no aro flag option.

I feel like we always see parents who are 100% super supportive allies, or parents who are horrible and cruel.  At least in media or in the most popular stories.  But I feel like that ignores just how many people have parents where you just have no idea?  And even if you think they’ll accept you on a surface level, you don’t know if they have a breaking point.  Especially if you need to go on hrt, or request they change the way they think about and refer to you.  Sure they’re liberal and all, or centrists, or “tolerant”, but how far does that stretch?

I think most closeted LGBT+ kids live like this, wading around in the grey area.  I’d like it of more of us knew that was normal, I’d like if we talked about it more.

[wafflekatt89]

I look back and I see a little girl. 

A little girl who laughs and runs and plays. 

She loves to share her stories 

and she knows she can always run to her parents 

if the need arises. 

She feels comfortable around her father 

and she trusts her mother completely. 

Her parents could never do any wrong. 

She was so happy, she forgot. 

She didn’t want to lose that trust. 

Then she was yelled at and hurt. 

Slowly, that faith evaporated. 

That girl stays in her room; 

hiding from the world. 

That little girl grew up and her stories  

are kept close to her chest. 

She deals with her problems on her own. 

Her father makes her uncomfortable and  

she doesn’t trust her mother with how she feels. 

She finally learned what had happened 

on the night she forgot. 

“It doesn’t affect me.” 

 She told herself. 

“I didn’t even remember it.”  

She thought to herself as she cried. 

“Why does it still hurt?”  

She whispers amidst silent, shaking sobs. 

“Why did I trust them?” 

Her eyes are still wet but she’s too tired to cry. 

I look back and I see my descent from 

bliss to comprehension.

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[reignmaefall]

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[lilislegacy]

HELP you are so funny for this 🤣💀

I just laughed for 5 minutes straight. I feel like people who don’t pay attention to your random rare lore that you drop in your tags are missing out cause girl you funny as fuck

honestly i forget that some people actually look at my tags LOL. i usually just say random things that come to my mind 😂

[cdroloisms]

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[janeway-lover]

y'all they had Elmo on talk shows and shit talking about this tweet

[redroyalblues]

"So, imagine we're all born with a set of feelings. Some are broader or deeper than others, but for everyone, there's that ground floor, a bottom crust of the pie. That's the maximum depth of feeling you've ever experienced. And then, the worst thing happens to you. The very worst thing that could have happened. The thing you had nightmares about as a child, and you thought, it's all right because that thing will happen to me when I'm older and wiser, and I'll have felt so many feelings by then that this one worst feeling, the worst possible feeling, won't seem so terrible. But it happens to you when you're young. It happens when your brain isn't even fully done cooking—when you've barely experienced anything, really. The worst thing is one of the first big things that ever happens to you in your life. It happens to you, and it goes all the way down to the bottom of what you know how to feel, and it rips it open and carves out this chasm down below to make room. And because you were so young, and because it was one of the first big things to happen in your life, you'll always carry it inside you. Every time something terrible happens to you from then on, it doesn't just stop at the bottom—it goes all the way down."

red white and royal blue, chapter thirteen

[riveriafalll]

Do you ever think back to your childhood and go “hey, my parents actually weren’t that bad?”

And then remember the time you were cleaning out your room and binned a bunch of trinkets along with all the usual bedroom detritus, and they got mad that you didn’t donate the trinkets to charity, so took all the bags out of the bin, dumped them on your bed while you cried hysterically because there were maggots crawling all over your room, and then made you sort through the entire lot, still crying and almost throwing up from the smell, and having to throw maggots down the toilet with toilet paper, until you had a small bag of trinkets that were salvageable?

And then left you in that room after you’d taken all the rubbish back out, and left you crying on your bedroom floor, desperately cleaning with tea towels and shower gel to try and get rid of the smell, and slept on the still damp floor because you weren’t allowed to change your bedsheets until the next day?

Or is that just me?

[the-music-maniac]

random rant incoming

Y'know, while I think the ship of Kazurei is absolutely adorable, I'm also perfectly happy with Kazuki and Rei being purely friends, cause tbh I love the idea of platonic love and unconventional families and two het men not being absolutely terrified of being conceived as gay with that no homo shit because they don't see it as an issue, and just raising a child together with a friend - we need more media representation of platonic love and unconventional families and they're so adorable and I love how the show depicts them already -

H O W E V E R

The homophobic people I've been seeing online going "oh thank god they're not gay, NOW I can watch it" or just refusing to watch it because they STILL think two totally platonic guy best friends raising a kid together is too "gay"????  It's pissing me off. Enough that I want to ship them even harder out of spite - draw a shit ton of Kazurei fanart and make their eyes bleed. I already liked this ship, it's fucking adorable, but my shipping was also 100% casual. Not ride or die. I would be perfectly happy with them as platonic best friends raising an adorable 4 year old. But damn is that petty side of me taking over now.

I understand if people are tired of media putting too much importance on romantic relationships and not enough on platonic, it's an exasperation I totally understand and definitely feel as well. And of course you don't need to watch media that you aren't interested in, and I 100% understand if people just straight up don't like Kazuki and Rei together as anything but platonic because they don't think it fits! All of that is so valid. But I think it's the entitlement in these specific comments that piss me off. The implication of there being too much lgbtq+ rep nowadays, of all of it being too loud, oh no I can't get away from it, oh no, must you turn every single character gay??? You can't see a single straight person on tv! We aren't able to ignore your existence anymore, oh the humanity!  

I hate to break it to these dumbasses, but the internet has been shipping canonically platonic characters together since the beginning of the internet. The only difference is that they don't have any complaints about it if it's a platonic guy and girl friendship that’s being shipped romantically. It's just interesting how they only start finding an issue with romantic relationships overshadowing platonic ones when it's two people of the same gender. And the nature of these types of complaints piss me off because despite how much better lgbtq+ rep has gotten over the years, we are still so far from having enough rep in media. So many people have grown up with heteronormativity shoved so far down their throats (me included) that they didn't even realize what their sexuality was until adulthood! I can't even watch an insta reel of a guy and girl being best friends without the entire comments section talking about how they're secretly in love with each other! People look at me and their automatic reaction is always that I must only like the opposite gender, and if I happen to want to go on a date with a girl in public instead of a guy there will always that part of me that screams unsafe unsafe unsafe. And people can't even handle the existence of a cute little anime about two PLATONIC guy best friends raising a kid, or the existence of a fucking ship that isn't hurting anyone???? Give me a goddamned break

[honeypleasejustkillme]

nothing is real and yet i am attached to the internet like it’s what birthed me

[angelstrawbabie420]

crazy how i have no one

[mallo-person]

Finally realized how fucked up my life wassss

Yippieeeeeeee :D

[pepsimaxolotl]

I often think about how different my life would be if I never roleplayed Pokémon via tumblr ask blogs as a teenager

[snarltoothed]

ohhh my god. women talking about their lives on tiktok is not a “trauma dumping epidemic” what do you MEAN “lately there’s this trend of women sharing aspects of their lives knowing they’ll be praised for their vulnerability” what the fuck are you talking about??? i’m losing my MIND. we live in the digital age. so many people share every aspect of their lives online, but god forbid women post anything about any personal lived experience they’ve had now, i guess

[saa-na]

i want to be able to let go of my eating disorder identity but i am also fantasising about people i meet asking a question that will casually let me me tell them that i'm recovering from one. in these fantasies that information is the last step it takes for me to actually connect with someone, the thing that will make them finally see me and love me. which is of course beyond stupid. i think i have arrived here through recognizing all the ways in which an ed is isolating and then thinking that sharing the truth would somehow connect me to people. but that's not what would happen.