#trauma books

[doubledaybooks]

A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara is the book everyone is crying about.

[traumatizeddfox]

“i have… no human sensations”

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

what kind of books on cptsd would you recommend?

Hi there,

Here are some books the mods recommend:

The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel Van Der Kolk (PDF linked)

It Didn't Start With You - Mark Wolynn

The Pain We Carry - Natalie Y. Gutierrez

What Happened to You - Oprah Winfrey

Here is a list of some more trauma-related books

Take care!

[furiousgoldfish]

Could you recommend some books about trauma?

Yeah! One of the first one I read was 'Toxic Parents' by Susan Foward. Then there's 'Why does he do that', by Lundy Bancroft, which explains in detail the intentions behind specific acts of violence and abusers 'losing control', it's a great breakdown of all violent and abusive behaviour. Understanding the abusers intentions helped me to get out of self doubt and self-blame.

On trauma specifically, Pete Walker's 'Complex PTSD' is a great guide to recognize and deal with symptoms such as emotional flashbacks, catastrophizing, self hatred, aftermath of neglect. It moved me forward a lot with my own recovery.

Recent one I read was 'I'm glad my mom died' by Jennette McCurdy, it offers an inside perspective of how it is to live with an abusive mother who enmeshes and parentifies a child, and the painful aftermath of living with the consequences. It also teaches a lot about eating disorders and how they feel from the inside perspective.

If anyone reading this knows of more helpful books, add them in the comments!

[laptoparmageddon]

[gampix]

Guilt.

[mxxnlightsblog]

It's crazy how trauma makes you push people away when all you want is love.

[loveelizabeths]

love elizabeth s.

[flipflopmaster]

Situationship went a lil bit too far

[worldlywritr]

Oh yes, the past can hurt. But you can either run from it, or learn from it.

- Rafiki, The Lion King

[swirlingyouintomypoems]

Will I always be alone in this house? Reading books that are too hard for me in the long fatherless hours?

let your dad die energy drink - daniel lavery and cecilia corrigan/bob’s burgers, 2011/family line - conan gray/@parentless-suggestions/promises of gold - jose olivarez/unknown/dna - lia marie johnson/i am angry because of my father - halsey/part of me never left that house - mada hayyas/unknown/father - demi lovato/franz kafta/unknown/primer - aaron smith/family line - conan gray/untitled - frank wright

***sorry for all of the unknowns on this one. I really do try to find the sources for everything but I kept coming up empty w these. If you know the sources pls comment/send me an ask or dm and lmk!!

[doubledaybooks]

The New York Times bestselling classic by Hanya Yanagihara

[glassclownz]

My predictions for Bill’s parents

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

Hey, I am planning on reading some books about trauma (thanks for the recs, though I wasn't the one who asked) but learning about trauma is often triggering to me. In a very special way, it feels different than my "more often occuring" triggers. It feels more like being taken back to the time when that happened. I often, because I forgot a lot of my past, also remember things again. Or I see myself in trauma reactions and get in a bad mood because everything on me seems to be a trauma reaction tbh.

How can I make reading such books safe and comfortable for me? Or is it overall a bad idea?

hey anon,

It can definitely be difficult to know when you're ready, and for what. Some amount of being triggered can be tolerated and contribute to the lessening of the trigger, but if you push yourself, you risk recession.

It sounds like learning about trauma is triggering you to the point of flashback and resurfacing memories. Honestly, without more info and time, it's hard to be sure whether you should take a break from learning about this, or if this is one of the big bumps you have to get through in order to further your healing. Everyone's journey looks different.

The main things are: are you in a safe place to process things? Can you make room for this at this point in your life? Do you feel it is inevitable and that you will have to process it one way or another? If your life is somewhat stable, it might be time to expose yourself to things that trigger you. It might be time to remember. This will ultimately be up to you, as you know your situation and mental state best.

Here, here, and here are some articles regarding trauma processing and when to do so.

Here are some links to help you cope:

Grounding

Coping with flashbacks

Coping with triggers

Take care.

Mod Misa

[derangedthoughtssideblog]

when I read aftg the first time I thought the best scenes were "thank you, you were amazing" "it's always yes with you" "i am nothing and as you've always said you want nothing"

but now I can see that the best scene is clearly when Neil asks Andrew how he can stand their relationship after everything he went through and then he tries touching his arm and Andrew says "no" and Neil stops and "that's why"

destructive

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