#transmasc and transfem solidarity

[lgbtqtext]

[dirtcake-1]

This is my friends blahaj Rose. Rose enjoys gaming and monster energy (suspiciously similar to my friend)

Also yeah, this was just a quick drawing I did for my friend so I didn't put too much effort in but I hope y'all like it!!!

[0ffbeatqueer]

This is my new favourite headline I've seen all year lmaooo

[marimboy404]

i love cringefail trans girls transfems who are actually cringe as hell !!! i love you guys you’re actually so silly and so real !! if you are a cringefail losergirl transfem just know i love you !! <3

[vaguely-human-man]

Ah, you misunderstand me. I am the partner doing the caring and this is a post about what an absolute honor and privilege that is. I have loved many trans women through their early transition days both as a friend and as a partner, and it is one of the most awe-inspiring journeys to get to help someone go on. I am a trans man and it truly heals something deep inside me to be able to use my knowledge and experience to help make the transition as smooth and joyful as possible for the women in my life who need it.

It's mutually beneficial most of the time too- my first girlfriend and I literally had a night where I taught her how to shave her legs and she taught me how to shave my face. Many of my favorite t-shirts and masculine clothing items have come from my transfem friends cleaning their closets, and likewise there is more than one woman running around in stuff I used to wear in highschool.

Yeah just. This post is about how much I love trans women and about how people should support and celebrate the trans women in their own lives, especially in the early days.

Idk who needs to hear this but take that early transition girl out. Dress her up all pretty and assure her that anyone who dares to say a negative word will have to contend with you. Do her makeup and gently talk her through the steps, do one eye for her and let her try the other one on her own. Kiss her lips and watch the way she grins like a maniac at the imprint that her black lipstick leaves behind. Take her out to the movies or to the mall, walk around and buy her a pair of good boots without letting her look at the price tag, watch the way she smiles shyly and swoons even while insisting she doesn't need them. Tell her 'My love. You loved them instantly and they had your size- it's fate, they're meant to be yours,' and then help her sit down in one of the mall chairs to put them on, watch the way she prances around in them like an excited little girl.

Hold her hand and talk to the lady at Rue 21 for her because you know she's insecure about her voice. Go in the dressing room with her and gently help her into the skirt she was eyeing- one foot, a second, shimmy, shimmy, up- followed by a wonderfully soft sweater that falls just right over her frame. Hug her from behind while she looks in the mirror and feels beautiful, basking in her euphoria. Whisper into her ear how proud you are of her- how brave she is, how beautiful, how honored you are to be able to share this journey with her.

Take her to dinner and kiss her while you wait for your food, run your hands down her freshly shaven arms and gently caress over the back of her neck. Offer her some of your ramen while you take a bite of her fried rice, and clumsily attempt to feed her a bite of sushi with some chopsticks.

And then. Take her home, with all the bags that now hold the beginnings of her new wardrobe, and help her hang them up, try them on. Let her have a fashion show and gently wipe her makeup off before sleep. Kiss her and caress her and shower her with affection, with praise and love and adoration. Let her melt into your arms and if she cries let the tears soak into your shirt. Gently caress her hair and say 'its okay, baby girl. I love making you feel beautiful,'

Or something, idk.

[agendercryptidlev]

FYI If you're trans, you have to give a shit about trans people who are different than you. You have to give a shit about trans people who identify as a different gender than you, including the one you were assigned at birth. You have to give a shit about trans people in different countries than you. You have to give a shit about trans people who's gender identities you don't understand. You have to give a shit about trans people younger and older than you. You have to give a shit about trans people who pass better or worse than you, and about trans people who are comfortable not passing. You have to give a shit about trans people who are on HRT and trans people who cannot or will not go on HRT. You have to give a shit about trans people who have had multiple affirming surgeries and about trans people who have not and/or will not have any affirming surgeries. You have to give a shit about the trans people you find annoying, embarrassing, and really can't stand.

This is a community not a communime, this fight is about more than just you and people exactly like you, and that's ok.

[intersexability]

Here’s your friendly reminder that AFAB and AMAB are meaningless and obsolete terms!

[sharkboywrites]

It would be great if we, collectively as a community, stopped throwing other lgbt people under the bus to talk about our own issues. It’s really not that necessary.

Like to would be great if we talked about transfem problems without randomly throwing in “yeah because transmascs have it so easy!”

It would be great if we could talk about the issues that come with being a certain sexuality without complaining about lesbians, or bisexuals, or gay men, or polyamorous people and how we think everything is about them (newsflash: its not and they have their own issues because being any type of queer is hard)

It would be great if we could let other lgbt people have representation and be happy for them, instead of turning it into complaining about how others don’t have as much representation. You know you can talk about wlw shows getting cancelled without making mlms feel bad for getting another season of heartstopper right? It’s not their fault and it’s good that they’re getting rep.

We can talk about our issues without making other queer people out to be our enemy, because they’re not

[towost]

poppy is so me trust

You guys are gonna hate me but yeah I had to draw these 2 for the comic before I can work on the next page so it’s being uploaded next week, teehee

I’m not very happy with what I did with Poppy so I’ll likely change it but I think Boxten looks good (The jewelry are gifts from Glisten)

Speedpaint below as usual <33333

[metalbeetal]

LESBIAN WOMAN AND A GAY MAN!!!

also willow probably sets him on fire routinely (for haha funny)

[adams-r1b]

someone yell at me to quit making these and focus on my uni homework (detail from 'Bacchant subduing a charging centaur greek mythology mural in Pompeii' c. late 18th century by Michelangelo Maestri)

[aliyahali]

[abearinthewoods]

One transmasc to another, please reflect on how your actions may cause actual harm to transfems.

A joke made in anger that is entirely unactionable does not warrant tattling to the organizations that are currently trying to strip all of us of our rights, and are looking for any reason to villainize our transfem comrades.

What’s been done cannot be undone, but please for all of our sakes remember that we’re all under the same boot, and licking said boot won’t make it any less likely to crush you too.

It’s our responsibility to take care of each other, learn from each other, and to look long and hard in the mirror when someone says your words and actions are harmful.

Solidarity. Solidarity. Solidarity.

(Most of this is answered here: https://www.tumblr.com/abearinthewoods/770794163004407808/okay-i-dont-know-a-lot-about-the-situation-but-i?source=share)

I need everybody to understand one uncomfortable but super important truth.

Class solidarity means an end to the oppression olympics.

You should never be looking in your neighbor's bowl to see if they have more than you, only to see if they have enough.

Like lets take a step back for a quick moment and recap whats going on here. She made jokes about killing one of the most unsupported and invisible members of the LGBTQ community, because why?

Like no, lets actually address that.

Trans men want to use terms like trans misandry and trans androphobia to talk about their oppression, not terms like trans misogyny and trans emasculation. and for this they got bomb and death threats from other people in the trans community?!?!?!?!?!?

Because trans men want to use words centered around their their hatchling gender, not their egg gender, to describe their oppression, because they don't want to center their discussions about their issues around some axis of women as the most oppressed, they got hit with a massively outsized amount of hate from (a tiny collection of, lets be very fucking clear here.) mostly trans fems who drunk a little too much of radfem's cis-male hate that they decided to transpose onto trans men. All escalating to bomb threats which my inbox is now also full of.

This is your brain on oppression olympics.

This is the threat to class solidarity.

This is the threat to class solidarity.

This is exactly what they want. For us to be fighting over who has it worse. I don't give a fuck who has it better or who has it worse, and i sure as fuck don't care about any narratives that center this question around one's identity or demographics as some kind of universal truths that overrides individually.

Even when I do bring up ways in which cis or trans men have it worse, or ways in which women commit crimes more than men, I try to focus it on purely countering the opposite narrative, to make sure I am only pushing the pendulum back towards the center, nothing more.

No experience is universal and arguments about stats and oppression and privilege tend to paper over peoples individuality.

Solitary means respecting how we are different. How that changes how we all experience the world. You can't tell a trans man you have it worse than him without disrespecting this because you can not know his life, what he went thru, how his brain's chemistry makes minor changes to how he sees or deals with adversity that build up over time, or how the same difficulties may be harder or easier for somebody to handle or overcome based how they were raised or what other experiences they went thru.

There is a reason why countries who are not at war with each other fly their flags all at the same height; never flying their flag above their ally's flag. They stand as one. United. Because that is what solitary actually means.

We stand at a fork. Down one path is trans men using words like trans misandry to talk about their oppression and trans rad fems on tumblr not interjecting with some bullshit, and down the other path is trans men still using words like trans misandry, but also the hostility comes out and you'll get shit like them telling the same trans radfems to stop calling their oppression trans misogyny, and start calling it trans misandry, and the whole world goes blind. Because i've seen how understandably upset trans women have gotten at me when they've mistakenly thought i was actually suggesting that, its not a blow in the gender war we'll come back from if it enters the discourse.

(as an aside thought experiment, its actually kinda hard to truly only be sexist in one direction. like one could argue that slutshaming is implying there is something dirty or unclean about men/manliness that they 'taint' women with by having sex with them. but you'd rightly call me dick if MRAs started showing up to the local feminism meet and interjecting that every time the topic comes up. And as an MRA, So would I. So please lets stop trying to argue over the "true" direction of acts of sexism and let people be individuals who experience and talk about it in their own way.)

((Final aside, it would make things easier for our intersex and enby brothers, sisters, and gender nonspecific siblings to cast aside this gendered concept of oppression))

[crwndsprkzy]

starts popping off my feminine body parts like lego pieces and hands them to my transfem friend in exchange for a peen

[liminityy]

masculine trans women 🤝 feminine trans men

[nicolyevens]

Does this make you feel something faggot?