#trans man of color

[upthebibliopunx]

hi friends, i’m stepping outta my comfort zone and giving that whole “being vulnerable and asking for help” thing a shot. full transparency: i don’t feel great about asking for donations; i really didn’t want to. but it’s been a long time since top surgery seemed like a feasible possibility and it would literally change my life. even if you can’t donate directly, a share can be just as valuable and would mean just as much. ❤️‍🔥

[void-thegod]

You want to be different, unique, and special?

Be something and/or someone people don't understand and don't try to.

You probably wouldn't like it so much then.

[joyboythehopepunk]

not meant for me

maybe i am just one of those people who are not meant to find a lover.

or a friend.

because i am one of those people.. who is only attracted to a very specific subset of women. who look a certain way. and maybe it is trauma. maybe it is autism.

but i have always been like that. and i have fought it my whole life. to be "reasonable" about it.

but i am hurt and disappointed every time.

they say beggars can't be choosers

then i'll die alone, i guess.

[void-thegod]

it is almost like there are intersections of existence which people are ignorant of, fear, and/or hate!

im a trans man. im a person of color. specifically black/white. im attractive. im intelligent. i grew up poor. im neurodivergent.

i live at so many intersections of existence it is exhausting to think of. bc people hate/misunderstand me for one or more of those things.

transandrophobia is real. just like racism is real. or misogynoir is. or ableism. or lookism etc etc

[iceymane]

he/him because I don’t miss 🏳️‍⚧️

[void-thegod]

Distance yourself from abusers by seeing them as the fallable humans they are and protecting yourself by staying away from them!

Some people don't know how fucked up they are. Some people do and don't want/can't heal.

We've all hurt someone. The point is to try not to. To heal the aspects of ourselves capable of it. To become better people, period.

The first step is acceptance. For me that's about being honest about where I am and what I want and then striving towards it.

Maybe that means staying away from people until I find someone I can trust not to hurt me in the same ways I've already been hurt. Maybe that means staying away from everyone, because I can't trust anyone.

I have trust issues. Does that mean I try to hurt people or take my pain out on others? No! But some people actually think refusing their take is abuse. Some people would rather have me (in a toxic way) rather than not have me at all.

Fuck that. Stay the fuck away from me if you can't extend me the same understanding and compassion I've extended towards you!

Stop trying to clearly distance yourself from abusers by calling them narcissists or sociopaths or psychos. It's time to face the facts and swallow the harsh truth that literally everyone has the potential to do harm - not just a specific subset of mentally ill people.

[genderqueerdykes]

now that my post about breaking down one's idea of what a woman looks like has circulated for a while (thank you all), i'm now going to make this post, as i do not want people to derail that specific conversation, nor this one.

we also must break down our idea of what a man looks, acts, sounds, behaves, and presents like.

men are not cis, het, allosexual or highly sexual beings, tall, muscular, strong, hairy, deep voiced, broad chested/shouldered, emotionless, mean, aggressive, unemotional, uncaring, distant, cold, stoic, heartless, standoffish, bread winners, bad/absent fathers, macho, obligated to work despite disabilities, or obligated to be "the man of the house."

men are people. first and foremost.

men are allowed to express just like anyone else. men do not have to be pillars of their communities. no obligation. men are allowed to be disabled, tired, weak, emotional, caring, compassionate, asexual, aromantic, friendly, warm, in need of support, neurodivergent, mentally ill, chronically ill,and have personality disorders. men have their own struggles and we have to stop telling them to "suck it up" and "move on" and "pull yourself up by your boot straps".

we are forcing men to do this: this is a cage of our own design.

once we dismantle this idea of how a man "should" be, once more: we will move past radfeminism, patriarchy, trans/androphobia, and fostering a culture where this is an acceptable way to treat men. it's not. we must allow men to be diverse. we must allow men to be who they are on the inside

[void-thegod]

i dont really get being proud of being trans, or black, or anything else you cant help.

being trans is something intensely personal for me.

all the different minorities i am and the trauma ive sustained from existing just.. makes me not want to be around people

it definitely doesnt inspire openness.

plus like.. people ask the same invasive uninspired questions about being trans.

im so sick of humanity.

i have things to be happy about.. none of them involve the things ive been misunderstood, ostracized for, etc

i really just wanna be left alone with one person.

happy pride to everyone who feels different tho

[turtleblogatlast]

Leo learns something about himself 🏳️‍⚧️

Based roughly on this old post.

Bonus:

[Leo is taking the fact that he was born biologically female simultaneously very well and also not so well but overall he’s mostly coping with the fact that it was Draxum that just essentially gave him the turtle equivalent of ‘The Talk’.]

[iliothermia]

Matillo

[lgbtqtext]

[now-serving-cunt]

As a brown trans boy it sucked so badly to watch those “gender envy” slides on tik tok and see only white boys with fluffy hair. It was a little thing but it made me feel invisible even in my own community. So these are men that look like me and give me gender envy. If you’re POC disabled/ don’t see your self in common trans discussions feel free to add on.

[actuallysolace]

POV: You’re a demigod at Camp Half-Blood in dire need of surgical operation But Do Not Fear, Will Solace Is Here

[void-thegod]

I like being a man

What I don't like is the extra bullshit

Like being demonized and pathologized for being pretty typical actually

Yeah. I want a gf. Real bad. Been single since 2017. No sex.

That doesn't mean I'm looking to hop in bed with you immediately. But I do want intimacy and a connection

Somehow that's unbelievable

Somehow it's cringe I want a soulmate

Very strange how the same people who generally complain about misogynistic men want me to act more like them

Thoughts?

Also being brown and/or attractive doesn't help. More bullshit projected onto me

Edit: a fictional character named Margo Henson from Magicians said something like "you can be the pretty one, or the smart one, or the strong one but you can't be all three"

And im realizing what she meant. Fucked up

[turtleblogatlast]

I’ve remembered that colors exist

[skydollthing3692]

What if I say I want your duck?