#toxic relation traits

[barbaragenova]

"Part of the horror of a toxic relationship is that it’s codependent. You can fight against the strictures of it, but for a while you stay, you compromise, because of your need for love or belonging, or your belief that this person has your best interests at heart, or that you’re responsible for holding them together. A lot of the time there’s no big explosive event that makes things clear, it’s more the building up of a pattern that you’re not even sure you’re seeing correctly. You feel like your intuition is broken, which makes it really hard to make any big decisions. "

[unitedwecaresposts]

The Toxic Relationship: How To Identify And Take Action

It is toxic when you feel unsupported, misunderstood, denigrated, or assaulted in a relationship. It is poisonous when your emotional, psychological, or even bodily well-being is in danger during a relationship.

Individuals grappling with mental illnesses such as bipolar disorder, major depression, or depressive tendencies may exhibit increased vulnerability to toxic relationships due to their preexisting sensitivity to negative emotions.

Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship

You feel exhausted and underappreciated because you give more than you receive.

You frequently feel mistreated or as though your needs need to be addressed.

Over time, your self-esteem takes a hit.

You feel assaulted, degraded, misunderstood, or unsupported.

After chatting or spending time with the other person, you experience depression, rage, or fatigue.

It's always your fault, and they reverse events such that mistakes you previously believed they had made are your fault.

Toxic Relationships' Effects

Your self-esteem, general mental health, and physical health may all be seriously harmed by toxic relationships in addition to your physical health. Establishing boundaries, looking for support, and developing a safety plan are critical. 

In addition, you can assist online experts and therapists. United We Care is a reliable application where you can get quality couple therapy or help you get over toxic relationships.

[yes-no-maybe-soo]

So if this isn't a dream or an AU it's pretty safe to assume that the LIs have been altered in some way. Something is clearly off, and not just with their actions but their appearance and manner (for example the dilated pupils, Sylus showing off his tongue I felt so uncomfortable during that part help this isn't you babe,). As spelled out by the dwindling sanity meter they've lost their marbles and the fucking plot, so to speak. And with this, they've also lost control and pose as real threats to MC.

So... can you imagine how devastated they'll be when they are snapped out of their insanity and are hit by the realization that they tried to do harm to their beloved? Their soulmate? The one person in the world that they treasure above all else? The same girl that they'd all burn the whole world down for if it meant her survival?

They've dedicated their lives to protecting her. They've used their own bodies to shield her from danger.

It'll be soul crushing to realize that this time they were the danger.

[bumblingbabooshka]

I think Sarek and Amanda Grayson both lowkey seeing their children as little experiments in different ways is undeniably bad parenting BUT .... I mean you talk about matching each other's freak .... Like imagine for a second Sarek is like "I am going to show that Humans are just as good as Vulcans by molding this Human child and my half Human son into the perfect Vulcans - This will show that despite what society thinks of as their genetic inferiority, they're just as good as any Vulcan." and Amanda's response to that is to think "Sarek is wrong...Michael's humanity MUST be preserved...so that I can show her all the love and affection I can't show Spock and maybe through their sibling bond all my unspoken and unexpressed love can trickle down to him through her." What are you both DOOOOING!?? You guys are NUTS like PLEASE just TALK to each other and compromise about how you're going to raise your children!! [Love the drama though] So I'm imagining in my head that Sarek is severely pressuring both Spock and Michael to act as perfect Vulcans their entire lives with him or else they're failures not only in his eyes but in all of society's (because he's an ambassador and raising these children is tied irrevocably with his work as such) WHILE Amanda is secretly trying to funnel her humanity and love for Spock through Michael and as such failure to receive, express, or internalize that love is failing not only your mother but also the entire Human race. Damned if you do damned if you don't! Who do you want to disappoint more, kids?

In 'Point of Light' Amanda says that she gave Michael all of the love, joy, and affection which she wasn't "permitted" (we must question the use of the word - what stopped her from directly giving Spock this love? I'm not saying there wasn't pressure for her not to, I'm saying the word 'permitted' absolves her of any personal choice or failing in a way that's interesting to me) to give Spock and though this is on the surface level sweet and probably meant to be interpreted that way, I submit that it must be kind of fucked up to hear that your foster mother was maybe only so kind and caring to you because she felt she wasn't allowed to act that way towards her "real" son. Michael Burnham as a tool for both her parents, however unintentional, is very interesting and I'm not sure it's something canon considers (haven't watched the show, I just like imagining things). The feeling that you have to be grateful to these people for not only being your parents but being YOUR parents. For taking you in and giving you a beautiful life - you have to pay them back, you have to make them especially proud of YOU. Because they didn't HAVE to, did they? Because you're not their "real" child. In the end, it's always Spock - isn't it? The love your mother gives you is Spock's love and if only one child can enter the Vulcan Science Academy then it has to be Spock. You're the appetizer your father serves before the REAL main course and your mother's stuffed doll which represents the thing she REALLY wants to hold and you know they genuinely care about you. That's the worst part. Because you know they care and they didn't mean to hurt you and the voice in the back of your head keeps telling you that any hurt they've dealt you pales in comparison to the debt you owe them and they love you, they love you, they love you, they love you, they love you [repeat as often as need be: remember the debt]

[ihavevisions]

Actually the lines between femininity and masculinity are pretty blurred in vat7k but whatever whatever I digress

[ace8space]

An Incomplete List: Things I love about RWRB by Casey McQuistion (and what it has taught me)

The tooth-rotting fluff.

The angst.

The happy ending.

The message(s).

The history, in general ("History, huh?").

Greek mythology references.

All the hidden queer stories, specifically.

The plethora of vocab words - extremely helpful to me as a writer.

So. Much. Joy.

Henry's passion for literature. I relate.

Alex's perfectionism. I relate.

The characters as a whole.

Queen.

David Bowie.

The V&A.

Tumblr. Tumblr, tumblr, tumblr.

Bake Off. It's so relaxing...

All the things I understand now thanks to Casey and Matthew and Nick and Taylor (and everyone else).

Love.

The fact that the fandom brought me to Tumblr. (I know I already said this, but I really, really love Tumblr.)

[castleofravens]

tbh as someone with bpd, the way people talk abt fitz makes me feel physically ill like wdym youre inherently toxic because you idolize certain people wdym youre evil because of mere thought patterns wdym there must be no reason for you to be this way youre just a bad person wdym you’re undeserving of love and literally being alive because you feel emotions really strongly

(the issue is that they take these traits he inherently has and says he’s toxic for stuff he can’t control it’s never his behaviors and if it is they blow it way out of proportion??)

also hi don’t use narcissistic psychopath sociopath etc as descriptors for yes even the villains (this part of the post isn’t meant to be really mean, ik that language is normalized but yeah let’s not use mental health language and/or outdated terms in a stigmatizing manner!)

[sn0w-o]

My toxic trait is whenever I don't like one of my posts, I straight up and delete it

[deepthoughtsallday]

I think my toxic trait is that I believe I would survive for at least a year if there would be an apocalypse.

[jasonsthunderthighs]

Been thinkin of doin somethin completely new out of my ✨comfort zone✨

[whitelightremains]

My toxic trait is going on pinterest and thinking I can draw everything

(Traditionally. With graphite pencils. On the spot.)

[onthesamepageeee]

My toxic trait is that I'm "Crush culture makes me wanna spill my guts out" and "So I fall in love just a little, oh, a little bit everyday with someone new" at the same time! 🤡😓

[artbyace]

how do people flirt this is so so scary im literally sobbing and throwing up

[maro0on]

toxic not really toxic trait

i have this weird toxic but not really toxic trait where like if i see or hear someone do something, i just think like "oh i can do this or that", but if its like something near the fields of my real capabilities i just think like "i can do this better than them"

for example, my sister was talking about how like how nasty the food from her job looked and she couldnt eat it cuz of the "presentation". and in my mind, i immediately thought like, "get me in that kitchen, i can do this better than all of you" cuz i liked to cook sometimes and i do some of the cooking for the family (emphasis on some cuz i only know the simpler recipes) and its weird cuz idek how to cook the food they had. idk how its made or what its made of but at the back of my head i would just think "i can do this better"

ALTHO if its something idk and i see someone do it like for example, a painting. i just think like "i can do this.... not better but certainly do it" i be looking at the mona lisa and think, "yeah i can do this bitch pls"

[kikithelucifer]

some of my toxic traits that i’m aware of to be okay with myself.

let’s make everyone feel a little comfy with their demons for a while.

(or what I think is toxic trait that I have)

1. I hate someone telling me i look like someone else, even if it’s a celebrity sometimes. i rather be compared to shrek.

2. i don’t initiate at all at the beginning of a relationship/ friendship because i only want to show interest in people, who are really interested in knowing. (why i don’t make any new friends) especially with guys. I’m the coldest iceberg with guys trying to talk to me.

3. i overthink decisions which end up making me take longer deciding things

4. according to my friends, i’m a dry texter… but truly i really prefer talking to close friends irl or on call. (not toxic, just comes from living the early years of your life with those flip phones and only getting to know your friends irl in school)