#thought catalog

[zwriteseverything]

Online dating in your 30s is wild because one minute you’re getting a sweet guy who wants to talk to you and the next guys feels the need to send you dirty ass pictures within two minutes of talking to each other like bro I don’t want to see your crusty old ass dick please keep that shit to yourself.

Like tell me how I met a guy yesterday mind you we had one really good hour conversation on the phone. He’s already asking me if I want to see his dick and his toys, please you haven’t even told me how sexy and beautiful I am yet, and you already want to start off the relationship in a sexual nature. Like I already know this is not gonna go anywhere. It’s just sad. Someone send help.

[mindandheartcollision]

losing a person you love makes you think you’ll never be able love again. that’s the biggest misconception about love. It’s true that you never truly stop loving the people you lost or said goodbye to. but you will meet new people who will touch your heart again, who will teach you to open up again. you will still love the people you have lost, but you’ll realize that love isn’t something that can be reduced to one specific person. love multiplies with the people you decide to let in.

[xsssy]

We're literally so cute.

I have a 'The Devil Wears Prada' cerulean sweater speech about how using cute emojis and being cringe is a way of saying f-ck the patriarchy and building community.

[hyena-woodie]

I've been listening to some Dr Who themes today, and I came across some Master themes. I found that I love the Saxon Masters theme the most. Which is weird, considering he might be my least favo New Who Master.

I just love the buildup and the drums in the background, with the electronic sounds through it. I don't know, I just really like it.

I also makes me think of the music they play in a popular Dutch theme park (but surprisingly you could put a lot of Doctor Who music in that list)

[studyhelianthus]

"Historically, women's intellectual contributions were often undervalued or constrained by societal expectations. Although progress has been made, women who engage in deep intellectual or philosophical work may still face biases or find themselves outside what is traditionally expected.

Female thinkers and writers often have to navigate stereotypes or assumptions about emotional expression being more their domain, while intellectual depth is sometimes seen as more typical of men. Breaking away from these norms can make their voices feel even more powerful, unique, or groundbreaking in certain circles." - ChatGPT 🪴����

"We need more deep women in this world who make life more than a journey; a lifetime dream worth fighting for. Deep women should be celebrated. Their depth should be praised and recognized." - Thought Catalog 🎊

[bloopducks]

A New Era

Thank you for all the versions of myself who got me to where I am today.

[hannahaura]

Brooke Renner

Full excerpt -> Observer of Love

TikTok-> Brooke

[mom-tog-raphy]

I LOVE THIS! And it is so true! Great piece, thanks for writing it and sharing!

“9. Lisa Frank is not the name of a woman, it is the name of a movement, a culture, a way of living. It is a theory, a concept, a belief in something greater than yourself. It is the belief that all girls are entitled to dolphins covered with rainbows, jewel-encrusted frogs, and unicorns in acid-trip colors hugging each other. It is the ideology that no notebook is complete until it literally hurts your eyes to look at from so much color saturation. It is the hope that no school supply, no matter how insignificant, will be left un-bedazzled. It is the knowledge that your eraser cap, and that of your granddaughter’s, and her granddaughter’s after her, will not be some boring little nub–it will be a diamond covered with butterflies in a rainbow of colors. It is the dream of a better tomorrow.”

— Things 90s Kids Will Have to Explain To Their Children

[be-kind-to-all-kind]

7 Reminders When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

1. You’ve been in a similar headspace before. And you’ve gotten through it. It might not have been easy, but you made it until today. And that was the old you, who wasn’t armed with as much wisdom and experience as you are currently. Even though you might feel like the world is weighing down on you, you can get through this just like you’ve gotten through everything else in your past.

2. It’s okay if you’re not doing okay. Strength doesn’t mean pretending you’re fine when you’re not. Strength doesn’t mean juggling twenty different things at once because you’re terrified of disappointing anyone. Real strength requires honesty with yourself. It’s okay to admit when you’re struggling. You’re not superhuman. You’re going to struggle here and there — and you don’t have to hide that from the world.

3. You can’t conquer all your problems at once. You need to take things one step at a time, one day at a time, one minute at a time. Even though you might be worried sick about all the things you need to get done by the end of the week, you can’t do everything at once. Break your tasks into manageable pieces. Figure out a plan. And then work on whatever you can right now without worrying about all the things you’re not working on. Be proud of yourself for every little bit you accomplish.

4. You’re not the only one feeling this way. Even though you might feel like you’re on an island alone, you’re not the only one going through these emotions. Plenty of people are struggling, even people you know, even people who appear perfectly fine on the outside. Never feel like there’s something wrong with you, or like everyone else is able to cope with situations better than you are. You’re not the only one experiencing this type of pain.

5. You’re allowed to take a mental health break. You’re allowed to relax when you’re feeling overwhelmed by the world. You’re allowed to take a few hours, days, or even weeks away from your responsibilities. If you feel yourself burning out, you need to do something about it. Working yourself too hard is going to lead to more trouble down the road. You don’t want to exhaust yourself. You need to treat yourself with kindness.

6. The only person you need to please is yourself. It’s not selfish to do what’s best for yourself. If you’re always running around, trying to please other people, you won’t have any time left for yourself. Even though you want to make your family and friends proud, they aren’t in charge of the course of your life. You get to decide what path to take — and you should choose the one that makes you happiest.

7. Crying might be exactly what you need. Don’t stuff down your emotions because you feel like you’re overreacting. If you feel like crying, then let yourself cry. Release those emotions before they tear you apart. There’s nothing wrong with shedding some tears. There’s nothing wrong with being an emotionally available human.

(Post on thought catalog by holly riordan)

And a personal bonus:

8. I like you and am here for you and believe in you and so do a lot of people even if you don’t know/believe it and it will all be ok eventually as it was before and you’ll be at least fine (:

[mscudilove]

Since I understood that I was in charge of the direction of my life, I understood that love was a choice. Loving someone is easy at the beginning when everything is new and exciting. Later on the years pile on, and so do the silly fights and misunderstandings. Love is an action, it's the way you choose and stay committed to the path.

[flojournal]

[biglisbonnews]

A Tribute to Lance Reddick’s Versatility And Range Friday, the world lost one of its great talents. With a career spanning nearly three decades, Lance Reddick was a face and voice you’d immediately recognize, and the glue that held many of television’s great shows together. https://thoughtcatalog.com/brandon-trones/2023/03/remembering-lance-reddick/

[lace1127]

“Sickness has poisoned my time

And I searched for a cure

And it blinded my sight

And I'm almost sure

That I've had my fill for one life

Everything good was a lie

All my friends turned to snakes

And love turned to spite

And I held the blame

Cause you couldn't carry its size

And I see it complete in my head

Now I dont believe but I like to pretend

That the war inside me will kill the man I have been”

[artistmarchalius]

I wanted to design my own female Alastor for funsies and put her in clothes she might have worn in the mid 1930s. Once I’d drawn one outfit it was hard to stop. Of course I had to turn them into a catalog page!

[hyena-woodie]

I've been thinking about starting a big worldbuilding project. I will have to start it after I have finished some stuff that is nearly done, so it will be a while. But it is something I have interest in. I have been inspired by for example; The mystery flesh pit (if you don't know what that is, please google it, is it very interesting) and monument mythos (on youtube, go check that out too).

I just love weird shit, things that have this deeper, sometimes more disturbing, layer. I also love things where you uncover bits and pieces of lore each time (so if anyone has any recommendations, please let me know :) ).

Idk when I will start with it, and it is all very fresh still, only vague ideas, but it is certainly something I want to do some time.

[leslieseveride]

i'm having thoughts about this and they're all completely normal.