#this man was so unhelped

[livsthetruth]

I was definitely one of the people making fun of the fact that Jordan didn't react to Billy's death at all and it was terrible acting but I was on my grief episodes rewatch and yeah the acting was still trash but you also realize that nobody fucking asked him. Like he was failed when it came to support through his grief real bad. He wasn't supported properly. Nobody tried to get him to actually stop with the distractions and actually get him to face it. Nobody asked him or got him to see what he was doing was all in his grief. He was just enabled in his own behavior. Spencer's support was the opposite. Nobody was enabling him in his own distraction and deflection. They wouldn't let him. Spencer's mom, Dillon, Coop and therapist were not having it. Saw it for what it was, called it unhealthy, said he was deflecting and grabbed him by the neck. Jordan was deflecting and distracting exactly like Spencer but because his way of distracting himself was so mundane and harmless like tryna fix a table/fridge/open a box, it was easier for the ones around him to be like okay well let's let him just do that and not talk about it. Don't ask him. Let him keep busy. If he wants to distract himself with all of that irrelevant and stupid shit, let's leave him to it. He was acting like what he needs right now is help with those every day things and that's how you're helping him. But really you're just helping him with the distraction. Nobody actually helped him IN HIS GRIEF. They just enabled his distractions. He was actively just running from his pain. By the end of it, he was left unhealed. He wasn't feeling better, he wasn't being helped, he had a lot of pain he was holding onto by himself and only shared it when he finally got to be alone with Spencer. He did not face or deal with a damn thing. That's why he was the LAST ONE, Jordan was the unsupported one.

[myimaginationplain]

It kind of fucks me up to see some people come out of watching RGU having absorbed absolutely nothing of what the show has to say about patriarchy, misogyny, & queerphobia, outside of "men bad, lesbian good." Which like.....sure, I guess? in the absolute barest sense, I suppose RGU is partially about that.

But if this show's thesis were really as simple as "lesbian good," then Juri & her role as an antagonist on the mini patriarchy that is the Student Council would simply not exist at all. Juri would've won all the duels, kicked Akio in the nuts, freed Anthy, & ridden away into the sunset with Shiori in her arms before Utena even showed up if that were the case. But she obviously didn't do any of that despite being a lesbian, so there must be something more complicated at work here.

A lot of RGU's narrative is dedicated to deconstructing binary social systems & the ways in which they harm those trying to and/or being forced to fit within one of two narrow boxes; man vs woman, adult vs child, princess vs witch, prince vs devil, special vs not special, romantic vs platonic, etc. So for someone to watch all of that beautiful complexity, only to filter it through yet another essentialist binary...sucks, to say the least.

[hijinxinprogress]

Civilian Gothamites realizing they can get vengeance through Sword!Robin

Gothamites figuring out if they happen to mention a rogue treating animals poorly within hearing range of sword!Robin that rogue will be in custody with at least four fractures and a concussion and Damian being completely aware that like 63% of these people are lying but it’s the only way he can get experience with the nonlethal takedowns he’s experimenting with bc everyone keeps complaining about how he treats his opponents and allies 

Like he’s guiding a civilian to safety and they mention that “this would be the worst thing to happen to me today if riddler didn’t stab my fucking cat” and this civilian does not own a cat but they did own a car that was just paid off but riddler fucking crushed it with a stupid ass hot air balloon that’s shaped like a fucking question mark and Damian is aware of this bc he was the one that verified the insurance claim (but he’s been looking for a reason to punch Nygma in the throat since his last Arkham escape when he called Damian a moron)

And he also knows that if he plays along with it and says ‘as if I’d let that gaudy and tactless imbecile get away with committing such atrocities’ when prompted that he’ll get away with barely a slap on the wrist like he gets three half hearted but long lectures he’s not going to listen to and an online sensitivity training seminar he goads Tim into completing (Damian and Tim 100% try to trick each other into doing work they don’t want to do and full heartedly believe the other has no idea what they’re doing)

Bruce’s tendency for finding small crashouts at risk of becoming future rogues in Gotham and deciding they need love & supervision but what actually happens bc he’s so fucking awkward is they get almost the same amount of supervision just with like an hour of intense helicopter parenting a week but honestly besides that they just have more money and resources to do fuck shit

Tim 🤝🏾 Damian: using the manipulation tactics they learned from their mothers then later improved on with help from an assassin cult and bat/cape interrogation questioning techniques on the homies

[wereoz]

i think declan touching doyle’s hand and saying ‘i remember you…’ and doyle responding ‘i’m sorry’ was the perfect way to end the emily & doyle & declan arc. it’s the perfect way to show that in a horrible, dysfunctional way they were a family (forced to be!!) and even though emily and doyle wanted each other dead and declan lives without both of them, a little bit of each other will live in all of them forever. honestly including this in the same ep where it’s revealed declan was born through doyle keeping his mother captive to force her to give birth, and emily’s disgust at that really makes this arc more powerful and tragic. like - she had to live with that man and make loving him believable. she had to believe 100% she was in love for him for this to work, not to mention she was further trapped by actually caring for declan and wanting to know he was okay. it’s a painful, confusing situation with no good outcome. if it’s not believable, you die and compromise the operation. if you believe it, you compromise your morality and identity and when everything ends you feel as though you’ve destroyed your home, your family. emily was left feeling so empty. god <//3

[backpackingspace]

Listen. Odysseus practiced his dad skills on his men.

[raineandsky]

#53

Hero work is already unforgiving. It’s even more so in a tiny little town like this.

The population is less than a hundred, and one of this population is the hero.

The ‘agency’ they work for is themself, since clearly no one else is willing to do it. They can see why, though. Their most busy day had them chasing down a pair of thieves, which took all of an hour, if you include the lunch break they had halfway through.

Criminals don’t seem particularly interested in doing their deeds in a little place like this. There isn’t really anything worth doing crime for—the petrol station is the most expensive place in town, and that’s because the prices there are already criminally high.

So if there’s no criminals, there’s somehow even less villains.

The hero envies the heroes in the city, to be honest. They’re working day in day out, keeping villains in line and ensuring the safety of their cities. It must be nice, to feel useful. Villains laugh and actually fight, and the heroes take them down every time. The most the hero gets here is a teenager avoiding school and a stolen chocolate bar, really.

So it’s a surprise, to say the least, when a building explodes on the other side of town. The hero hears it from their tiny little home office. They can only sit there in confusion for a moment, staring at the rising smoke, before they lurch into action. They’re a hero. They need to go and figure out what’s going on. There might even be someone to save if they’re lucky.

‘The other side of town’ constitutes a two minute run. People are huddled around the remaining dregs of the building, nervously eyeing the smouldering rubble. Police are already dragging out rolls of tape to cordon the place off. The hero approaches the nearest officer of three—the town’s entire supply of police—clearing their throat to ready their business voice. Go time.

“‘Scuse me, officer,” they open with what they hope is an air of confidence. “Could you tell me what’s going on?”

The policeman glances back at the building with a frown. “Building’s exploded,” he says like it’s obvious. Which it is, they suppose.

“Do we know what caused it? Is it foul play?” The hero tries to keep the hope out of their voice, but from the scowl the officer gives them they clearly failed.

“We can’t say yet. We’ll have a team heading in soon to check it out, so I suggest you just—”

Another explosion sets off from inside, gutting the building like some already horribly mangled fish. Debris flicks to the ground around the onlookers, prompting screams and hurried attempts to shield themselves. The hero stays rooted to their spot, squinting through the settling dust. The entire building is leaning to one side like it’s sagging in defeat.

“Ah,” a voice rings through the brown fog. “Is this our hero? How cute.”

No way. “Who are you?”

A bright laugh cuts through the horrified whispers of the people brave enough to stick around. High, cruel, everything the hero’s been looking for.

A figure strolls through the cloud like they’re making a debut. A soft smile sits on their lips, confident and self-satisfied. “I’m your new favourite nightmare.”

The hero can barely contain the grin threatening to split across their face.

Finally.

[abomination-nation]

please for the love of god help me

hi furblr, I'm looking for information and It's driving me insane trying to find it.

I am looking for a list/descriptions of interactions that furbies(and related) have when they play together. I am specifically interested in the interactions between beasts with IR sensors, but if you have bonus information about those bluetooth guys then that'd be awesome too. I know that Furbies and Shellbies with IR sensors (including furby babies in this) are all compatible together and they can talk and play games... but nobody seems to have a list of conversations and games they can have together. Which is weird, because I would have figured somebody would! All those things are preprogrammed responses, after all. I know that two Furbies can play Hide and Seek with eachother, but I'm not exactly certain what the win condition for furby-on-furby hide and seek is. I also know that Furbies can get eachother Sick. AAAnd that's all I know.

Does anybody have any information on games or conversations furbies do together? Furbies and Furby Babies? Shelby too? I'm willing to read a list from offsite so you can spit a link at me if you have one.

[jennycalendar]

cordelia: giles, i’m scared of going onstage!

giles: just imagine the audience in their underwear. that’s something that people say in moments like this, right?

cordelia: now i feel WORSE :(

giles: cool ❤️ goodbye

[queenofthursday6599-blog]

You know, when I think about Arcane I can't help but think about the fact that I'm not a huge fan of how Vander handled things.

I mean his heart was definitely in the right place, he wanted to protect his children and his people, but to be honest there were moments where I felt like he was very confidently doing the wrong thing.

Specially in a child rearing sense. Now I just want to put it out there, that we the audience are shown a biased depiction of Vander.

Just about every scene he's in he's surrounded by his people who (mostly) look to him for protection, his children who adore him, or his enemies who are literal drug lord gang leader bad guys and corrupt policemen. Who are not humanized by the story until after his death.

For one there's Vi's pretty obvious eldest daughter syndrome, which Vander does nothing to try and curb. In fact I feel like in most of their scenes together Vander is treating this unhealthy dynamic as Vi being her sibling's leader and that she therefor needs to take more responsibility for them.

Even though I feel like Vander teaching Vi that way of thinking caused a lot of problems for all of the kids.

Sure it's great when your kids can work together, but there shouldn't be a pecking order among them, and if there is you shouldn't encourage it.

Vander fully expects Vi to take responsibility for Powder(which makes some level of sense considering she's 4-ish years younger than Vi), but also Mylo and Claggor, who are both the same age as her.

Meaning that if Vander trusts Vi to look after herself (and Powder) I feel like he should be able to trust Mylo and Claggor to look after themselves.

Vi should not be saddled with the responsibility of being in charge of her siblings, who are literally the same age as her.

If Vander is going to be reprimanding Vi for getting into trouble, he should be getting on to Mylo and Claggor just as much.

Sure Mylo and Claggor mention that Vander is going to be upset, but it's very obvious that the majority of the responsibility rests on Vi's shoulders.

Which, sure they look up to Vi and listen to what she has to say and what she thinks they should be doing.

But if it's to the point where Vander thinks it's gotten to the point that they will literally blindly follow Vi into dangerous situations because she said so. Then I feel like it's time for Vander to have a sit down with the rest of his kids and have the very important "Thinking for yourself" talk.

It's- You can't raise your children to just blindly follow their oldest sibling their entire life, and raise the oldest child to be the caretaker of the rest of their siblings their entire life.

Yeah, Vi needs to think things through a bit more, because the other kids look up to her a lot, and will go along with whatever her plans are, because they think she knows what she's doing and they trust her.

But also the other kids need to know how to assess things for themselves, rather than just blindly follow whatever it is Vi says, no matter how much they look up to her.

Like this man fully thinks that his 15 year old daughter, who clearly has problems with her temper and being impulsive herself, should also be responsible for her two adoptive brothers who are functionally the same age as her [one with a pretty obvious superiority/inferiority complex], alongside her younger sister who already has problems of some kind of anxiety.

Mylo and Claggor are just fully not held to the same standard as Vi in spite of being the same age, and literally getting into the exact same trouble. Their choice to go along with what Vi planned, is put onto Vi's shoulders when it shouldn't be, because if Vi is old enough to know better in Vander's mind, so are Mylo and Claggor.

If it was just Powder I could somewhat understand. She's younger, more impressionable, she idolizes Vi, she's not as strong or fast as the other three and if Vi forgot that at some point Powder could have gotten left behind or hurt.

You know the general "You need to be a good role model for your younger sibling because they look to you for guidance" stuff.

Like the fact that Vi feels the need to fight Piltover in order to secure a better life for Powder in Act 1 tells me so much just how parentified Vi is when it comes to Powder's care.

Which I do think originated from before Vander adopted the girls, to be fair to Vander. Vi gives off the vibe of looking after Powder having always been her responsibility.

To be unfair to Vander, I don't think he did anything to try and undo Vi's over responsible and over protective mindset when it came to Powder after adopting them.

[weed-cat]

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[seilon]

had the privilege today in one of my film class discussions to respond to someone saying that superhero movies aren’t inherently political with “marvel is funded by the US military”

[aropride]

that post has actually shifted my perception of stupid fucking PrObLeMaTiC MeDiA discourse forever i think i need to chew on the topic for like 8 hours and decide how i feel about it then

[piplupod]

why do counsellors think it's helpful to tell you "you shouldn't feel that way!" when you tell them something like "I am so stressed about spiders to the point where i have crying breakdowns thrice a week" or "I feel like I am somehow secretly a terrible person that needs to push everyone away to keep them safe from the rot that is inside of me"

like ... golly gee, thank you so much, that's soooo helpful, can't believe i never thought "wow! i shouldn't be feeling this way!" before, pretty crazy that you can just cure me with that one declaration!

[indigo-art]

I heard there was a discord server for tsp content creators? And also that we were supposed to contact you about it? I am actively working up the courage to ask for an invite,, but I wanna be sure I've got the right person first (like. 1,000% sure) (I'm just. Nervous)

I have no idea who sent this to me but with all due respect how am I supposed to respond to this in any type of way you'll even see? Yes there is a discord server and yes you can ask me for a link but PLEASE do so in DM's. Asks are like the worst way to ask, and even worse when it's anonymous.

[apotelesmaa]

One of the funniest things about hollow knight is that there’s a character named elder bug who is set up as an old man character yet confirmed to be younger than like 80% of the cast. The small baby shaped protagonist is actually older than most of the other characters, (probably) including hornet.

[confuse-and-lonely]

Drawing goes through such an ugly phase that i am having an identity crisis