#convince cis men that therapy is fine and normal actually and good for you even. bc the shame around going to therapy means | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

snekdood · 2 months ago

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men are inherently traumatized under the patriarchy bc they're pressured or forced to conform to the standards of manhood, which to put very simply, is to never express of feel emotions, which makes them bad at socializing, thus rendering them eternally isolated.

#it IS inherently traumatizing to bottle everything up or only be able to express it in indirect ways.#even more so to be told you HAVE to live life that way or else you're not Man Enough.#its like trapping an explosion- sure everything outside was left unscathed but the inside of whatever you used to trap it with is fucked #you just. rot from the inside out when you ignore your own pain 'for others sake'#i put that in quotation marks because a lot of the things guys are taught to believe are a burden for others to 'deal with' emotions wise #is like any other day of the week when women are openly loudly and unapologetically talking about it.#the inherent isolation that comes when you are/are perceived as a man is no joke.#everyone else follows the rules of the patriarchy so they dont think to ask you how you feel nor think you even need it #all it takes it one really rough day. and you and i BOTH know these (cis specifically) men dont have ANY of the therapy tools #necessary to help themselves through that pit. bc its 'not masculine' to go to therapy .-.#i think this is the huge wall we all run into here. like no its not any womans obligation to be a therapist to a man. at the same time #the [more often than not cis] men we have these days are more likely to go to therapy but the 'therapy is gay' thing still has a good #stronghold. at the very least guys always see it as someone having a weakness if they need to go. so what we need to do is somehow #convince cis men that therapy is fine and normal actually and good for you even. bc the shame around going to therapy means #we'll always be stuck here.#dont be a therapist but at the very least- let me ask you to pass on the message of how therapy is good and doesnt detract from their #masculinity. and dont say it in a snobbish 'i told you so' way either. deeply unhelpful and ur just doing it to fuel ur own ego.

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