#this job is shitty for other worse reasons than that my bosses are condescending

[hey-scully-itsme]

my skills as an administrative assistant are brutally hampered by the fact that I keep wildly underestimating the amount of prompting, coaching, and detailed explanations people apparently expect. I’m no stranger to overcommunication but apparently what I consider overcommuncation isn’t even the bare minimum for these people

[iampikachuhearmeroar]

so this morning, while scrolling through my fb feed, i came across an nyt opinion/advice piece from a 27yo (ie basically me lmao) who is obviously lucky, in a sense, to finally land their “dream job using my (their) skills” etc. like obvs i can’t read it bc of the stupid “you get one free article a month if you either don’t have an account or subscription” (my one free article was used up reading an article about adult adhd like last week)….. thing that nyt does.

but anyway. back on topic lol. the crux of the article in both the headline and the quote snippet was that the advice asker was really dissatisfied with the 40 hour work week that came with her “dream job”. with how having this 40hr workweek gave her no time to do her busy chores like house cleaning or laundry or didn’t even give her time to let her have her hobbies/creative pursuits (whatever they were/are).

however, in the comments on the article (and apparently from those who read the article on the comments, the advice/opinion column writer) a good bunch of like gen Xer’s and baby boomers (im assuming) were ganging up on the asker like “suck it up princess, it’s what life is!!! i work 70+ hours a week and LOVE IT and have just resigned myself to the fact that i have NO time left over to do my “chores”! learn to O U T S O U R C E these life admin tasks to someone else!!! everyone MUST LEARN this in america!!! it makes life so much easier ☺️” and such.

of course, there were plenty of the same bs comments that you see on anything about careers or home ownership towards millennials/gen Z’ers about “learn to go WITHOUT and save save save and squander your time so that you NEVER live and HAVE FUN or TIME FOR HOBBIES! my bet is that your parents did that and they survived just fine while also raising your ungrateful spiteful ass (not including any type of health issues they might have picked up from such long hours/shitty working conditions) so why can’t you just L E A R N to do the same you precious spoilt brat!!! because the reality of Real Life™️ is that you can’t have it both ways!!! then you’ll have early retirement guaranteed, hopefully!!! and know that hobbies really are time wasters most of the time ☺️ or at least they were for me!!! and your precious so-called “creative pursuits” most definitely are time wasters. no one needs THOSE.” and so on so forth.

they also had jibes for her bc the asker wanted to start a family at some point apparently… and apparently it’s “much worse” once you have kids. like. thanks geraldine and henry. you’ve just told us how much you’ve resented having your kids/family in one fell swoop. your opinion which you’ve framed as unhelpful, condescending advice is now voided.

like. i don’t know how rhonda or paul or deandra or philip could miss the point so fucking entirely. why the fuck should anyone- nay everyone (bc that’s what they make it sound like)- learn to outsource their busy chores like laundry/house cleaning/grocery shopping or god knows what else- to someone else???? why is that apparently a standard expected to be learnt in the US???

like why the fuck are you so desperate for people not to have free time to do these things (unless of course they live in some of those shitty nyc or other big city apartment blocks that don’t come with individual private laundries in the self-contained flats or a communal laundry on like the bottom floor or w/e for example) frank????

deidre why the hell are you so bitterly hankering about “be grateful that you have it easier than most and learn that hobbies mean jackshit and just sell your soul and time to your boss!!! when will the generation stopping being “me me me!!!” and “work life balance!” and think about the company’s bottom line!! learn that “work life balance” is never important! work like a slave for 50 years and see if your valuable experience is needed then! that’s when you’ll learn that those hours where you were never being lazy, instead of just expecting life to be handed to you, will have paid off!” or whatever other ridiculously toxic capitalist bullshit they were spitting out.

obviously there were FAR MORE people actually supporting the question asker and echoing the idea that the 40hr workweek is now redundant. they were also putting down the opinion/advice piece writer’s advice to the asker….. that was apparently similar to the all the bitter people on the comments saying that the 27yo was just “asking for too much” and had to “learn to suck it up instead of being a petulant and overly selfish dick!!” etc etc etc. we all know the spiel as thoroughly as the macarena now.

because whats so fucking wrong with wanting time to yourself and wanting time to do your busy chores??? why the fuck should i be outsourcing these to other people (unless of course you’re still living at home and your parents are still like “hey what clothes do you need washed i’m doing a load rn” or you have a partner that works from home or has some type of parental leave etc)???? i want to do my own laundry. i want to do my own gardening (ok lawn mowing or tree lopping (if needed) i’d actually outsource bc i can’t lift or push lawn mowers bc they’re heavy af for me or and i obvs can’t use a chainsaw)… but i want to do my own grocery shopping. i want to do my own cooking (although i would consider the meal kit services once i had job that allowed me to afford like $50 a month for one of those meal kits sub services) i want to do my own cleaning.

why, if i lived in the US and not australia, am i just expected to learn to outsource all of these tasks even if i don’t have the money for it??? like why the actual fuck are so many of you so fucking weirdly proud of being absolutely worked into the fucking ground for your “great country” (although this is actually bleeding through to australia too and i hate it); working like literally close to 100 hours a week???

because i wasn’t aware you had to be whatever the fuck his name is from 127 hours and cut your fucking limbs off just to fucking survive a job in either corporate america or just let alone any goddamned job in america….. all so they can supposedly “learn to like working for free and devaluing your worth even more to your employer through overworking yourself and always being available!!! mental health is for those who aren’t built for the Real Adult World™️!!! this person is a prime example of the younger generations being weak and dissatisfied with life so often because of their “oh poor little me!!! care for me!!” act. NO ONE CARES FOR YOU today. stop being so over-expectant/demanding and juvenile!!! only YOU care yourself and you should NEVER expect someone else to pick you up from YOUR bootstraps!!! you’re fucking whiny and conceited babies. the lot of you!!!”

because i honestly don’t know who the fuck would enjoy working 70+ hours week with no time to themselves to do what they enjoy doing…. or enjoy having zilch time to catch up on errands and life admin duties or just general house chores; especially if you’ve moved cities or an entire fucking state/s away from your family and support network. let alone doing the same thing on 40 hours a week.

and on top of everything, let’s not even get started on the time spent commuting to and from work or even commuting for life errands/tasks etc etc- especially if you’re like me and you’re nowhere near the capital city’s centre (ie sydney australia for me) for there to be reliable enough public transport and longer commute times to certain places in those cities (that i’ve bitched about plenty before on other posts on here about work/jobs).

get your head out of your asses warren and viola et al and realise that work life balance is literally NOT ASKING FOR MUCH and is asking employers to just have basic respect for their employees time if they work fulltime. it’s literally detrimental to ones health if they have to sacrifice what feels like (or what is literally like) their entire fucking existence to their employer just for meagre pay and just to fucking survive.

because i read a heart-breaking article last night from huffpost (posted by buzzfeed on fb) about a woman in the US who literally hid her having a second baby from her employer for an entire fucking year (literally the entire pregnancy and birth of the baby and the first 6 months post pushing the baby out) during the pandemic all because she was scared she would get demoted or lose her leading of a project and lose her bs “temp” job which had really turned into full time work although the employer never said anything about it being actually full time hours or whatever…. and plus the lady herself was apparently to scared to ask to be put on the books fulltime too for some weird reason.

like honestly. fuck capitalism. fuck thinking that “work life balance is just too hard for employers to add and regulate. it’s an excuse and ploy for workers to be unprofessional, unproductive and lazy!” or whatever the fuck. everyone deserves time to themselves to pursue their interests/hobbies and busy chores/life admin. no one deserves to waste their entire life working 70+ work weeks for those employers who literally have no respect for their employees personal lives and time.

and particularly during the time that is the pandemic as we’ve seen so many companies having to learn to wholeheartedly embrace working from home and more flexible schedules for their workers. worklife balance is absolutely fucking beneficial for everyone involved.

america fix your bullshit work ethic right now lmao.

[kob131]

So the OP of that post just deleted their blog.

Before they claim I tried to harass them- 

I’mma gonna post the response I made to them and link to the original reblog to showcase I did NOTHING to make them reblog.

https://kob131.tumblr.com/post/626185371460468736/modernmythmansion-you-know-what-really-bugs-me

Well good thing I’m not one of the ones who do that.

Too bad you openly say ‘I am speaking for the RWDE Tag which is composed as individuals’ so what you specifically do doesn’t matter.

When I’m expressing my negative feelings and opinions I don’t expect them to listen, I am simply reaching out to those who are just as unhappy, that’s what the RWDE tag is for. Despite what you see on the vile slums of social networks, there are plenty of people who express their thoughts and feelings just to reach out to others and work out there problems

Actually the RWDE tag is for criticisms according to several members of the RWDE tag.

Or is about venting and nothing else? Lot of people love to claim that as well.

You want to proclaim a group is X? Make sure said group doesn’t give conflicting info.

Well not my shit pal. And the ones who I am speaking for are not either.

Too bad they disagree with you. Wanna try saying that to Soku or Dudeblade?

If that’s what they’re gonna say, then say it. Just do it in a way that accepts the reality that they probably won’t listen, and instead use that criticism as well what you liked about the show and create something new.

Can’t, get called egotistical and demanded to be booted if you do.

Same tag did that shit.

Good, because I don’t. In fact you and your ilk love to accuse us of doing that because your definition of threatening and demanding is so broad, and don’t act like you don’t do that, you do that.

“Hey don’t say stuff I don’t do! We can’t be held accountable as a group!”

“Fuck you, your people did this and I’ll hold you accountable as a group!”

Nice double standards you have there.

Tell me, how does one DO expresses their subjective criticism that acknowledges that its subjective and not fact? Please, I would LOVE to hear how its done.

“In my opinion”.

There.

Oh ok, so it’s only okay when your kin do it.

A. Actively attacked RWBY fans.

And B. I call the individuals idiots for the reasons given in my posts.

Your assuming that I have a beef with Jaune, or that other dissenters do have a beef with Jaune as this rabid mob does we are in league with each other. You tend to assume what you want to prove in order to prove something else.  

‘They’re acting in a way I disagree with, they’re not True Scotsmen!’

You never clarified your group and you don’t make any exceptions on who you do consider ‘your side’. Considering the general way you referred to everything- You implied a general side.

Listen to me carefully

And. Who. I. Speak. For. Do. Not. Do. That.

Not me, not Psyga315, not rwde-rwby, not ironpines, not eight-of-penticles, not Adel Aka on Youtube, not us.

And yet I know at least two of those guys (Psyga315 and Eight-Of-Penticles) openly supported that shit. And Adel Aka CAUSED some of this.

Still ain’t buying it,

Well in my experience, RWDE hasn’t done that, and from my experience, there are just as many Stans of RWBY who have acted just as venomous as rabid shippers and those who side with RT seem silent about it. So it looks like we got dirt on both of us don’t we?

Considering I openly act as an individual and actively attack RWBY fans-

Nope, not really.

Also considering your personal experience means nothing outside an individual context-

You willing gave it up.

You could accept the fact that RWDE isn’t a hive mind and I won’t assume all RWBY fans are a hive-mind either.

But of course you sort seem to broaden the definition of “Threatening and Attacking the creators” to any form of dissent.

Too bad you don’t.

But you seem to have a VERY hard time to consider anyone’s experiences outside your own, don’t you?

I have actively disregarded my own experiences for objective fact- That means nothing to me.

If there is an alternate tag besides RWDE I can use so I don’t get lumped in with this mob could you tell me? Because I will happily do it.

claiming you’re speaking as an individual and then using plural pronouns and terms

Not what I said and you know it. Don’t use plural terms and pronouns and saying you speak for a group you do not define.

In fact, if labeling yourself automatically makes you something, could I label myself as a professional fantasy novelist? Because I would love to magically become one by just labeling myself as one.

Too bad that’s not how that label works.

Dude, I’ve seen you been actively hoping against a gay ship in RWBY in the past, and when RWBY shifted gears from Black Sun to Bumbleby, you threw monkey boy right under the buss and sided with the Bumblebee Fans because you need to defend RT so badly.

https://kob131.tumblr.com/post/625914212492951552/im-not-a-homophobe-proceeds-to-pretend-bumblebee

https://kob131.tumblr.com/post/625893206660464640/httpsroosterteethcomgpost5f0047a9-557b-42c0

What was that about assumptions again?

P.S. One of my followers hated me because they were a Bumbleby fan and I am THAT hated in their circles.

If that’s not sycophancy, I don’t know what it

You misspelled ‘consistency’.

In what way am I? Please quote me and dissect it, because just say-so isn’t gonna cut it.

Dude, I’ve seen you been actively hoping against a gay ship in RWBY in the past, and when RWBY shifted gears from Black Sun to Bumbleby, you threw monkey boy right under the buss and sided with the Bumblebee Fans because you need to defend RT so badly.

Make broad generalizations, never bring up evidence, never be specific as to make research hard, bring up a past event to sell to your audience-

How many SJWs have done this again?

Edit: Also deleting their blog and likely running away.

Because you decided RWDE was in league with the mob instead of discern them, you put all those in RWDE as bad, and those not in that tag as good and demand others to play by your rules.

That’s called and In-Group-Out-Group bias, or Us vs Them

https://kob131.tumblr.com/post/626161036319473664/i-just-saw-a-thread-of-tweets-praising

You know, it shouldn’t be hard to make RWBY look worse than FMA. But like every example before hand, a RWBY critic manages to fuck up so badly they make RWBY look better afterwards. Which is I recommend they stop making comparisons- RWBY fans don’t need more bullshit to spread around with the critics shitting themselves and giving them ideas.

Yeah you make a real good example of that.

Also, you make this distinction between ‘RWDE’ and ‘the mob’ ... when the shit I have been listing have been said IN THE RWDE TAG. By popular members too.

Mary Mother of Jesus Christ, how many times I gotta tell you, the internet is a shitty place, we can call this shit out until the cows come home, they aren’t gonna stop.

The world is also a shitty place- That doesn’t mean we give up when people are being shitty. No excuse.

And you people are no different, Allow me to quote a YouTube commenter on Adel Aka’s video Monty’s Vision is irrelevant

“These people are trying to dismiss criticism my claiming they have the moral high ground. Most people won’t insult the work of a dead man and those that do will get shat on by the others who hold Monty as infallibly sacred. Its called a “Threat Narrative”. It works by reducing the: agency, willingness to harm and invulnerability of your side and do the reverse for the opposition. Watch as everyone rushes in to attack your opponent as if they are stomping on a puppy.”

Except that I don’t chew you people out through the moral high ground-

Almost always through factual fuck ups and hypocrisy.

Because they are using the SAME mythology of alienation, groupthink, and authoritarian bullying as they do, even though they hate to hear that. At best, they have command over composure and language, but it’s often used in a smarmy or condescending matter.

Sounds a lot like the RWDE tag (alienating the creators from positive feedback, attack anything that isn’t negative against RWBY and make it so the creators cannot do anything they don’t approve of).

I am speaking for the RWDE tag which is composed as individuals, because I am certain I am not the only one who feels this way, but of course you use the RWDE tag to ghettoize and marginalize us in your con-jobs to discredit us.

Group. Noun. “ a number of people or things that are located close together or are considered or classed together. “ Your talk of the RWDE tag falls under group.

But it’s not just feeling you use but numerous other things like assumed methods.

I don’t need to do any of that- Almost every single post of mine is structured around factual faults beyond any assumption of innocence or straight up hypocrisy, You do it to yourselves, like saying you speak for a specific group of people then a general group like the RWDE tag,

The people I have mentioned before and identified themselves with this tag have CALLED OUT that behavior

And yet you say you speak for the RWDE tag, a far BIGGER group than those people.

But you decide to affiliate us with them anyway because you want to discourage others from listening to us.

You say as the point of my reblog was to call out your inconsistency, nothing about your credibility with you making it about that. Especially since my posts usually tackle you guys on an INDIVIDUAL LEVEL.

Your not our boss, your not our father, your not the police. Quit acting like you are.

First Amendment pal

[dannissa13]

NaNo, day 28

So as it turns out, I was wrong but that’s not a surprise to anyone at this point. My evaluation is today and I’m a mess, honest to god fucked up mess.

Let me start from the beginning. I really thought that no one will touch me before my lead comes back from vacation, which would have been next week, and I’ll get a metaphoric “get out of jail free” card for now at least and I’ll figure out what to do next later this weekend. I’ll have plenty of time to think things through and will definitely be ready for anything that may come. Boy oh boy was I wrong. First of all - I would’ve procrastinated the actual living shit out of this “getting ready” period and wouldn’t have been ready at all, second - I was fucked the moment I came to work. So as it turns out, my psychic powers are at it again - the previous few days I had this strong and reoccurring feeling that this thing was coming and it would be earlier than expected. Which came fucking true. And even though this clairvoyant premonition came upon me (it was definitely just my logic telling me “bitch get your shit together, the doomsday is coming and you’re not doing shit about it” so yeah, I’m joking about it like it’s some kind of divine revelation) I did nothing about it, just wasting my time and nervously chilling - it’s when you ignore the impending problems instead of solving them and just do nothing while dilly-dallying your time away until that shit from before inevitably catches up to you and it’s suddenly a big surprise when you get a bite in the ass from your responsibilities that you’ve neglected. I’m a pro at this.

So, I wasn’t preparing myself in any way, shape or form for this and I truly wasn’t ready to find a notice email in my inbox about that evaluation that was going to happen today, at the last hour of my work day and everyone’s invited (except that one person who’s out of the country). That was fucked up. They should’ve warned me 24 hours in advance like they are actually obligated but no, it wasn’t even 12 hours of time before my execution. I’ve panicked immediately as I saw the text and I’ve stayed in panic mode for the whole morning.

The thing is, knowing what was about to happen only made it worse. If I had to go to that meeting immediately it would have been so much better and so much worse at the same time but ultimately easier on my nerves. I was so jittery that I honestly had to go to the bathroom and coaxe myself into a state that resembled anything close to being able to function for about fifteen minutes which is both worthy of praise and ludicrous. So, not only I needed to calm myself down, I’ve also had to have some help from the outside so I’ve called my mom who had basically recited back to me all those things I made my mind on about this work situation, reaffirming me and supporting me through a crisis. That helped a little, I’ve stopped catastrophysing for a moment and had some clarity for a brief period of time which I used wisely and frantically texted my best friend all about the situation. She listened and supported me too, which carried me through the threshold of panic back to the realization I’ve had some time ago - the world’s not gonna end if I loose this stupid job, my world is not going to end, I’m not gonna die immediately or anything, I’ll be okay, it’ll be fine. So with that though I’ve decided to do the best thing and started a boring and mind numbing task of comparing different legal requirements in two different documents. That calmed me down real fast, I was so focused on figuring it out that I’ve honestly forgot about the time.

Well, the thing is, I saw and heard the omens of my future firing all day long and became both pissed about the situation and impatient to finally get a clear answer, some resolution to this whole thing. I was pressed for so long I just wanted this to be over no matter the results. So I did my job the best that I could and today was no different. Just before we were supposed to head out to the same meeting room I was interviewed for my job the last time (when I got it, how fitting, it was going to end where it’s started, like a cycle coming to an end and I like those clear endings, when everything comes to the beginning) I have finished my task and sent it to my nine boss, mentally braced myself for the worst and got ready to be fired.

Spoiler alert: I got the job. I’m fully a part of the team now. That was, honest to god, a surprise for me. I didn’t actually believed it for a second when my asshole boss started with “you’ve passed”. I was so ready to just filter everything they were going to say that I was barely able to hear what was actually being said. So, he started with kinda praising me but in a condescending way, which is perfectly reflective of what kind of person he is. Than, a lot was said about my performance and other stuff that was actually legit and real this time around. Like, none of the personal attacks I received the first time around. Mostly because our main creative guy, who’s my mentor here, spent an entire month by my side and saw with his own eyes how I work. It’s hard to bullshit a person who knows what’s up. And I was really trying, so nothing could have been said about this aspect of my performance at this job. And my asshole boss had to be sorta nice to me and talk to me like a person. That was fun. All of them said things to me that hurt, not because those were attacks but because the issues they’ve brought up were true. That’s what made it so hard to swallow, they knew all about my flaws and put them on blast. I’m not a perfect person. That’s shitty but I always thought that was only my problem. Not anymore though, now I have to deal with people who are allowed not to like me and I have to be okay with that. I’m so used to being surrounded by people who love me and support my worldview, my mindset and everything I stand for, that it’s now incredibly difficult to comprehend the mere existence of people with different albeit incorrect and unjust opinions and not only do they exist but that I’ll also gonna be forced to coexist with them and deal with their shit. I know I need to work on myself and I have a lot of issues I need to confront, but knowing is a one thing and hearing it from the people you can’t stand to the point of despising them is the completely other. The fact that I hate these assholes and them being so right about my flaws is a punch to the gut. I was disheveled after the conversation ended even though in my head I made snarky comments about everything that bugged me even a little bit. I put on a hard exterior even though I’m all bark and no bite. That’s pathetic really but I can’t help it.

So my asshole boss had to acknowledge my attention to detail as well as my writing and narrative skills. It was difficult to not comment on the fact that I know I’m good at it because I’ve had to work for it. Of course I would be great at that stuff because not only did I already have a talent for it but I’ve also put an immense amount of time and effort into getting better and growing said talent to be something bigger. Like, dude, I know I’m good, I’m doing it for three years now, tell me something I don’t know. And, sadly he did, they all did, but I’ve already talked about that. Still, being recognized for something you do best felt good. It felt right, it felt like it should’ve happened and when it happened everything fell in the right places. It was correct.

It didn’t feel like a victory though. I felt like I’ve been smeared with shit, like actual fucking disgusting shit, and was left to marinate in it. When the meeting ended I was uplifted and okay, somewhat angry at them, but ultimately holding it together. But on my way home I just bursted into tears and couldn’t stop. I’ve cried on an off again for hours, discreetly, like a wounded animal, hiding from my family members because I didn’t want anyone to see me this way. I like being in control, I like being tough and in charge. On that goddamn meeting I was told that people want vulnerability from me but I cannot give them that. I won’t give them this pleasure of seeing me be weak. I don’t trust people because I have my reasons and I don’t want any of them to get an easy leverage on me by exploiting my low moments so I won’t give them any. I might be better off just gritting my teeth through it than acknowledging that it’s hard and it’s getting to me. I’m surrounded by people who won’t miss a chance to mock me. I can’t just give them this.

I felt really dirt-low and I know why now and I’ll need therapy after all of this to properly process everything that has happened but overall it wasn’t a catastrophe and ultimately I’m fully okay, fine and functioning. It was a tough ride though, not gonna lie, I felt every emotion possible in a span of one day and I was fully exhausted. Ended up crying myself to sleep. What a winner, right?

Understandably I didn’t do much in the writing realm, but can you blame me? See ya later, I guess. I’m out.