#this isn't all as feminist as you think it is

[fearoftheminotaur]

I think that's splitting hairs over the definition of "its own kind of special". Like if OOP actually said that gay T4T was special, even as a clarifying addition to the post (and maybe she did?), that's an important distinction, but as it is it's fair to read the post as putting down the gays as a lower tier. That said, I don't really have a problem with that part of the post, compared to the part right afterwards where they implied that straight t4t is the cure for being a manhating feminist. That doesn't help anyone! Lesbian transfeminists just get further alienated and branded as irredeemable monsters. Trans men get told that the trans women they date won't become separatists when it is widely known to be extremely easy to be bigoted against someone you make out with (it's a big part of misogyny actually).

I don't want to spin a logical spiral around it or anything, it just a tumblr post, but it is absolutely creepy to talk like this about trans women whose politics you oppose, especially when trans lesbians have been vocal for a while about how creeped out we are when people keep suggesting making out with trans men as a cure for oppositional feminism! This isn't the first ever post to be like this, it's a wider problem, and that's all the more reason not to link to OOP's blog/identity.

it should go without saying that the statement "these women would be cured of their distrust of men if they just made out with us more" is violently misogynistic

and yet

[captainsamuelmorrigan]

Poolverine NSFW [mentions & talking about sex acts]

Logan isn't exactly 'secretive' about his sex life. He just thinks everyone is a little too blasé about revealing details about their private life. Call him old-fashioned, but he is perfectly happy to keep his experiences between him and his lovers.

Of course, Wade has to poke the bear, or rather, the Wolverine. He's desperate to know what over 200 years of trudging through the world as a hunka-hunka burning love produces in the bumping uglies department. What kind of kinky shenanigans could a mutant Edward Scissorhands get up to? And that healing factor? That meant all-nighters to him.

"Peanut, have you ever heard of 'pegging?'" Wade leans over the couch, encroaching Logan's personal space in a way that would be concerning if Althea hadn't made a rule about drawing blood in the tiny apartment.

Logan nods, not looking up from his book. "Yeah."

Wade fist pumps. "Someone in some universe owes someone five bucks for that one. Hell yeah, feminist king. Have you ever tried it?"

"Why do you care?" He licks his finger before turning to the next page.

"I'm curious like a cat, Wolvie-bear. Except satisfaction has nothing to do with me coming back. Who was the lucky girl?"

"I'm going to stop talking now. I suggest you do too." Logan remarks with a flash of his middle claw.

Several days pass before Wade brings up something like that again. Waltzing into Logan's room, an interdimensional add-on that was part of the perks from the TVA.

"So, Babygirl, do you pitch or catch?" Wade mimes the baseball gestures. "Are you more of a gun or a holster? Gifted or receiver? One or a zer-"

"Depends on the person."

"Ooooh~, look at you using gender-neutral language. What makes you decide?"

Logan closes his laptop with a sigh. "Bub, listen, I really don't talk about this stuff with people I'm not sleeping with. It's nothing personal, I just really prefer not to get a reputation."

"So if I blow you, I can ask about the past of the X Mansion pass around party bottom? Deal." Wade starts in on Logan dramatically.

"I'm not that easy, Bub. We may have had some moments in the car, but I'm not a cheap date. You haven't even told me about your past."

"I've joked about Scout Master Kevin many times!" Wade flops onto the bed, jostling Logan a bit.

"That shit doesn't count, and you know it. You haven't mentioned anything to me that wasn't horribly traumatic. I'm starting to think you don't even like sex." He teases lightly.

Wade shouts. "How dare you! Vanessa and I had a great sex life." He drives his pointer finger into Logan's chest.

Logan bats it away, rolling his eyes. "I never hear about it."

"Well, that's..."

He looks at Wade, meeting his eyes. "Bub, I'm perfectly happy to talk about this kind of thing, but I need you to start taking it seriously. I'm not entirely sure you have taken anything seriously, but I'd like to know what you're into in a way that isn't you joking about mortal wounds giving you a stiffy."

"That one is only half a joke." Wade mumbles, smiling nervously at him.

"After the Honda, I know, Bub."

They begin to have more serious conversations over the next few weeks. Wade opens up about some of the things he's done, with Vanessa, past girls, and even a few guys. It takes a while of Wade being vulnerable, for real this time, but eventually, he starts to get some information out of the Wolverine.

Wade sidles up to Logan on the couch. "Okay, so, who introduced you to pegging? I have to know? I told you about Vanessa wanting to try it out." He waits with baited breath, hoping he's done enough to earn Logan's trust on this.

Logan raises an eyebrow. "Clarification, are we talking strictly about a cis woman using a prosthetic, or are we including trans women using their own?"

"Great question, let's say the store-bought kind."

"I think I heard about it from a couple of bra-burning girls in the 70s? Tried it out with one of them, probably around 78'. It was pretty okay. I think it got a lot better around the early aughts."

"And Jean?"

"Oh, you wanted specifics? Not there yet, Bub." He pats Wade's leg before getting up to go to the kitchen. His hips swinging just a bit more to add a sassy emphasis.

"Logie-bear! Wolvie! Peanut! C'moooonn!! I've been a good boy!" He begs.

Wade begins to plan date nights. Logan said he wasn't a cheap date, so Wade's going to make sure he feels respected. Wade even breaks out the second-cheapest wine from the nearest liquor store. The good stuff. He makes a full meal twice a week. He even brings home some yellow roses for Logan.

One night, over dressed-up ramen, Logan looks at Wade with something hungry in his eyes.

"Jean used to peg me while Scott watched. It was a whole thing."

"You're fucking kidding."

"Nah, I'd take it, then he'd take it from both of us. Plus, with Jean's powers..." He whistles. "We'd all feel what the others were feeling. It was some of the best sex I've ever had."

Wade barks out a laugh, shaking his head. "Are the rumors true? Were you really doing everyone on the team?"

Logan smirks. "Well, there were teenagers on the team, so obviously not everyone, but it was a pretty good possibility if they liked men."

Wade squeals like a teenage girl, lightly kicking his feet before leaning in closer. "And what about Ororo? That must've been crazy."

Logan shrugged. "She didn't like having her private life gossiped about, so we're gonna skip that one, Bub."

Wade nods. "Kurt? Hank? Anyone else?"

Logan thinks for a moment. "Kurt was a bit young for me. Hank was a little stuck up, but if we both had a few drinks in us, he was likely to want some action. They all..." He pauses, that deep frown that furrowed his fuzzy brow taking over his expression, something internally catching his attention. "Well, y'know."

Wade's shoulders sag as the weight of the loss that this Logan had suffered pulled at him. "Oh man, Logan, I'm so sorry."

Logan shakes his head, getting up to go to the kitchen and grabbing a beer, ending that conversation. He stays quiet, with that far away look in his eye. He goes to bed early. Wade worries late into the night. If he still had hair, he swears most of it would've been pulled out by morning.

The next day, Wade makes breakfast. Plenty of greasy sausage, just like they both liked it. Eggs were placed in such a way that the sausage smiled up at a groggy Wolverine. "Morning Sunshine, the Earth says, 'Hello!'"

Logan hums in acknowledgment.

"I was thinking about our conversation from last night." Wade worries the hem on his 'Suck the Chef' apron between his fingers. "I... I'm sorry if I brought up anything too painful. Really, I am. We don't have to talk about your sex life anymore if you don't want to."

"That wasn't your fault." Logan puts his silverware down, wiping his mouth before looking up at Wade. "I wanted to tell you."

"You said you didn't usually talk about your sex life to people you weren't bumpin-"

"If you call it 'bumping uglies' one more time, I'm going to break Althea's 'no blood' rule, I swear to God." He flashes his slowly protruding claws at Wade.

"Noted. My point is, we're not doing anything physical, though. You said you only talked about that with people you were physical with."

Logan shrugs. "I was planning on being physical with you. I just got cold feet when I realized that would've been the first time with someone I cared about since the X-Men."

Wade slides into the chair next to Logan. "Peanut... yeah, that totally makes sense. Besides some really poor choices, you would've been my first since Vanessa."

Logan sighs. "A breakup ain't the same as dyin, Bub."

"No, not at all. I'm just saying that that was still a raw spot for me. You waited until I was ready to talk about it, and you were patient. Even though you've got the most rockin' bod I've ever seen, I'm not trying to jump your bones if you're not into it too, Wolvie. We could just be roommates forever, and that's fine." He puts his hand on Logan's shoulder.

Logan huffs out a laugh. "I'm certainly not saying never. I've got needs, Mouth."

Wade pulls his apron off his lap a bit to hide his rapidly growing erection. He squeaks out a "That's fine too," before fist pumping once again. "Also, calling me 'Mouth?' You're gonna have to do that again once sexy things have started."

Logan laughs. "It's a date."

[mariacallous]

I love this comment and I also wanted to pull it out so I can go on about it more <3

It wasn't until I finally was honest with myself and accepted my gender identity that I really actually gave any fucks about personal fashion and style - pre-myself me was very much about function, and comfort, and on what I could get away with. I rarely dressed up or got formal, and I was ruled by the multi-event outfit - jeans or slacks paired with a polo shirt or sweater or sweatshirt depending on if I had class or a meeting or what have you. Working in a homeless shelter also amplified that.

Once I finally confronted reality and fully began to inhabit and realize who I was, I also had to confront the fact that not only would I need to dress more how I identified, but that from that moment on it would be scrutinized and likely attacked or demeaned.

It took a good...year or two of experimenting and gradually being bolder and building confidence to understand fit and comfort and personal preference. For a while I was essentially in a more feminine version of my previous standard, and it was rough for all involved. Between weight and learning and seasonality, it wasn't easy or great.

But eventually, you learn, you grow, you get comfortable, and I began to better navigate everything. (I am being completely serious when I say that transitioning made me more of a feminist, because you get to confront the casual and blatant misogyny combined with the transphobia and other bigotries, and that part of all of that involved confronting beauty culture and the insanity of women's clothing and fashions. I'm not saying I'm the best or even consistent with handling that, but it was eye-opening and sobering.)

And so much of the comfort and growth came as a result of thinking about what I liked while suiting me best, and I've always had an affinity and love for the clothes and aesthetics of the 60s-80s - Joan Holloway became even more of an icon at that point - and so I decided to lean into it, and try to make it work for me but also not be just cosplaying.

I like colors and patterns, the fit-and-flare. And, by making it enjoyable and also something more connected to me and who I am and how I felt, it makes so many other things more bearable. And we all need that, at this point.

I think it's also a matter of just going with it. Some days I want to be like a normie Shiv Roy, some days I'm imperialcore bureaucratmaxxing, other days I vamp and vant to be left alone.

I found out that I can at least have some control over something with my outfits and look, and that while that may be all I have control over that day, it isn't nothing, either.

I also really believe that there aren't many rules when it comes to fashion and style, and that the main thing is to find something you can live with and have comfort with.

[spiltcandycoatedpunkblood]

really want to say a lot on this radfem inspired narrative about enforcing a gender binary based on biological differences and how anyone vaguely masculine is a threat, like for example with the problem society has with gender neutral bathrooms and also 'safe spaces' that shove anyone aside who isn't a 'woman or nonbinary person' (aka woman lite and stereotypically androgynous and white and skinny), and how we're applying this to the queering of gender and just applying a shit coat of paint to stereotypical presentation and portrayal of gender, but i'm too tired for that, so here's just this.

[wombmoth]

The fact that he thinks that being critical of men is an uno reverse, aka the same thing as women being abused and oppressed on a daily basis tells you just about how much male ""feminists"" understand about female subjugation. (Also lol @ the complete strawman claim of us saying only men are abusers and women do no wrong, bc clearly acknowledging that men makeup the majority of violence and sexual assault against women is the same thing as saying women can do no wrong and every single man is a rapist)

If you have no problem comparing

A. being raped, abused, and having your bodily autonomy controlled by the state

with

B. going into a female dominated space and seeing women say "I'm tired of men raping and killing us and if men can't change as a whole then I would like to minimize my interactions with them as much as possible, for my own safety and sanity. I have been raped and repeatedly hurt by men and I despise them."

Its pretty obvious you have no understanding of the extent that patriarchy oppresses us, and you actually have no real interest in helping women, you just want to be able to say that you think women are equal and then be coddled and completely exempt from criticism.

Because why else go into female exclusive spaces to wag your finger and "not all men!!1" us?

Do you chastise that one guy who is really cool but kind of ""weird"" around women?

Are you similarly going into male dominated spaces and telling men to stop talking about how worthless we are and how we deserve to be raped? Or did you decide that that isn't your problem?

Posting this on its own for the girlies

[krstsole]

Just wanna say that I think Ekko and Mel slander makes sense when you understand that 85% of the Arcane fandom views both of them as characters less worthy of fandom attention.

In their eyes, they are afterthoughts to more interesting relationships, so when someone in the 15% dares to give them anything outside of dutiful lamentations ("Mel and Ekko deserved better!"), they can't help but feel those analysis would be better suited for a character they *actually* like and so they lash out.

Fans of both characters have to constantly argue that these characters have loved and have been loved. They want Mel "independent" because she doesn't "need love" and they want Ekko focused on The Tree and the unnamed Firelights because they want it to be easier to carve both of them out of the interpersonal narratives that attaches fandoms to characters in the first place.

They want Mel and Ekko to "save the day" because they don't want their roles in the story to interfere with other characters that they like. Better for them to beat the Bad Guys™ than to be given more material that would validate their personal connections with other characters in ways that the fandom would prefer to ignore.

And the fact that Ekko and Mel are completely different characters who have never once interacted with each other and yet somehow both of them are being treated the same way with how the fandom constantly diminishes their relationships with the rest of the main cast leads me to believe that it does have something to do with the One Trait they do share.

[bumblingbabooshka]

Thinking about marriage/women's rights on Vulcan Some may think that T'Pring not being allowed to divorce Spock was because he was going through the pon farr but if she were allowed to divorce him at all she probably would have done that a long time ago, confirmed by T'Pol when she's speaking with Koss, who isn't suffering from the pon farr. She says that he can choose another mate (without invoking a fight it seems: note the difference between a 'mate' and a 'challenger') and after he makes it clear that nothing she says will change his mind about marrying her, she finally threatens to declare a kal-if-fee. It's clear that Vulcan women cannot divorce/refuse to marry a man they've been betrothed to under any circumstances if A) He himself doesn't consent to ending their marriage or B) She doesn't have someone else waiting in the wings to be given to in his stead. Though, if the challenger she selects fails to win the fight, she'll have to marry her betrothed anyway unless (again) he decides he doesn't want her after the challenge. That seems like an incredibly unfair system, heavily biased towards men. SNW is an alternate universe in many obvious respects but most egregiously in that T'Pring has a lot of non-canonical agency over her relationship with Spock. It's interesting to me that Vulcan society has women in many positions of power and treats women as equal to men from what I've seen despite these laws. We don't really see Vulcans exhibiting a misogynistic attitude towards women in general but in TOS (perhaps because of its general writing style but it's still interesting to note) both Sarek and Spock take on patriarchal attitudes specifically regarding wives. Amanda says that 'of course' Sarek commands her because "he is a Vulcan and I am his wife." It's worthwhile in my eyes to note that she specifies 'wife' instead of attributing this attitude to women as a whole. Again, with TOS' writing style it wouldn't be out of place for her to say "he is a man and I am a woman." Spock, while in a pon farr induced irritation, states that it's "undignified for a woman to play servant to a man that isn't hers" - again implying that there's something specific about being a Wife in Vulcan society which is different from being a woman in general and demands subservience to a husband. This could perhaps stem from the extreme sense of ownership that Vulcan law has permitted men to have over women. A woman legally cannot point blank refuse marriage. There is no option which guarantees she won't have to marry her betrothed other than death. When T'Pau speaks of T'Pring she refers to her as being 'property' and Stonn, before being interrupted, states he's made 'the ancient claim' - we don't know what this is because he gets cut off but it's obvious they're both using the language of Vulcan law. Men are permitted true freedom to choose. If a woman wants to choose someone else to be with there is no option available to her other than the kal-if-fee which might result in the death of the one she wants to be with. And, if her lover fails, her husband can still just decide he wants to marry her and she'll be forced to. T'Pring gives two scenarios: One where Spock 'frees' her and one where he doesn't - it's still ultimately his decision which is clear when he ends the conversation with "Stonn, she is yours." This again isn't just because of the pon farr as T'Pol also goes through this. Koss can choose another mate and when the option is talked about there's no implication that this would result in any sort of fight (both by the casualness of its mention and by the fact that there's no formal word for it unlike the kal-if-fee.) Also, the fact that Koss does eventually grant T'Pol a divorce and it's all fine means that T'Pol isn't lawfully required to have another man waiting if her HUSBAND doesn't want her. It's ONLY required if SHE doesn't want her husband. Tradition must take precedence over individual desire UNLESS!!! You're a man. Then it's fine. Like, your parents might not be happy but legally you're golden.

[transmascutena]

the poor little meow meow-ifictation of saionji in this fandom has got to stop i can't take it any more

[backpackingspace]

I am once again thinking about how odysseus who witnessed the horrors that the captured women went through (one of his main duties in the iliad was taking the women back home and making sure they were as comfortable as possible and safe because he was the only one trusted not to violate them further due to his devotion to penelope. And in the odyssey part of the reason circe sent him to the underworld was so that he'd have to listen to all these women's stories (before he could talk to the prophet) ). Who was one of the few that saw women as people and respected their space and opinions. And was then put in those exact same situations. I don't have the motivation right now to do a full literary analysis of this (I'll site the sources too) but oh man one day I'm going to write a full essay on this.

[lgbtlunaverse]

Half the internet talking about how we just need to be more niceys to men and misogyny is the fault of mean internet feminists and the other half going "Let's try seperatism again!" I'm so tired. I want to be in community with men, especially marginalized men whose political goals align with mine, while trusting that any critique of misogyny won't immediately turn them into fascists. Is that too much to ask?

[milowing]

"in the original myth medusa was a rape victim!" i'm literally banging my head against the wall

[ronanlynchbf]

see too many ppl still defending jdepp or running with the "mutual abuse" angle so here's a video presenting basically all the (publicly available btw! for anyone to be able to look up!) information on this case. Let it be known if you still support jdepp i am assuming you have never done a grain of research into this in your life and just ran with public opinion and misinformation

[drunkenclown555]

HUGE AND HONESTLY PROBABLY REALLY TRIGGERING RANT/VENT UNDER READ MORE

Person(s) this is about are blocked so if they see it then that's their own fault for bypassing the block to stalk me.

Also tagging @greasy-ugly-nasty because he's my boyfriend and he defended me through the entire ordeal.

TW/CW: Harsh language, addressing "you" but not targeted at anyone who is supposed to be reading this, ableism and sanism, SA, CSA, grooming and conditioning, rape, incest, abuse, mentioned drugging, misusing feminism to silence male abuse victims, mentioned transphobia and general queerphobia, mentioned triggering (CPTSD, OCD) and flashbacks (CPTSD, DID), dismissal of (trans) men (feelings, experiences, trauma, opinions, identity, ect), guilt tripping (and emotional abuse), ableism/sanism against systems, sanism targeting mania, gender essentialism, mistreatment of male abuse victims, victims being talked over, villainization of grooming and conditioning victims, villainization of "bad" victims, villainization of disabled/mentally ill people, villainization of "bad" trauma responses, probably more so read at your own risk and take care of yourself, thank you.

^ Woman who called a male grooming, rape, abuse and incest survivor an enabler* and misogynist** while he was actively having a mental breakdown about people being absolutely disgusting*** to male abuse victims

* Also called my bf (grooming, abuse and rape survivor) an enabler (because shes convinced you should just be able to snap out of it and man up or whatever the fuck)

** She tried to make it out like I was "talking about misandry when I specifically said " people who call themselves misandrists" (two very different things, which is why I specified)

*** See: victim blaming, justifying/celebrating abuse, shaming, vilifying, minimizing, ignoring, silencing, sexualizing and romanticizing, ect ect, so on so forth.

Insane superiority complex on this lady I dont even fucking care anymore, stop acting like your shit doesn't stink, you aren't a feminist you're just repackaging misogyny and using it against people you deem evil or lesser (cough cough, men, especially vulnerable men and queer men, cough cough). Gross as all hell. Rich people piss me off sooo bad, get off your inebriated equine (high horse).

Bringing this beautiful poem back too because it really fucking fits this whole "I know more than you about the very thing you've experienced because I am smarter than you and if you disagree then you're aggressive/stupid/childish/bigoted" mindset she has going on.

Imagine trying to faux-intellectual therapy-speak "I know more than you"-argue with a mentally disabled person with dyslexia and dysphasia. Thinly veiled ableism at its "finest", truly. Also telling someone with moral OCD they're a bigot for finally standing up for themselves? Dude just slap proud sanist in your bio and gtfo you're disgusting.

I'm so happy I dont have to tiptoe when talking about literally anything and walk on fucking eggshells anymore, I'm so happy I'm not waiting for you to yell at me for being dumb or selfish or whatever, I'm so fucking relieved this stupid "friend"ship is over. You didn't give a fuck abt me at any point, I was just an obedient doormat and attack dog. Using me like your fucking token transsexual, the fucking audacity to pretend I didn't respect you when you could literally blame me for shit that wasn't my fault and I'd apologize because of how much I respected your judgement.

"This friendship isn't built on respect", yeah no shit, it sure as hell isn't me disrespeting you tho. Writing off me having a mental breakdown as me being sensitive/unreasonable/aggressive and acting like the only thing you did wrong was "Mix two different friend groups". I didn't (and honestly probably still don't) have a problem with your friends (except Rhaa for the thinly veiled transphobia). Acting like I was being aggressive when I asked them not to react to me venting with question marks when I specifically went out of my way to not be mean Oh you fucking hate my guts lmao.

Continuing to push me to "talk" (argue with you) after I told you like four times that I was actively manic and having a mental health episode that made me unable to express what I was thinking and that I didn't want to talk (argue with you) because I was manic and then saying I should have "thought about that before I said inflammatory shit/vented at all"??? Like idk if you know this miss "I'm better than everyone" but when you are actively having a manic episode and a mental breakdown you dont really fucking think too much!!! Considering the fact YOU'RE MANIC AND HAVING A MENTAL BREAKDOWN. Not even mentioning the fact I WAS trying to be calm and collected and articulate myself despite how hard it fucking was. Like way to out yourself as not knowing shit (or giving a shit!) about severe mental illnesses. You dont fucking know shit so stop pretending you do, its embarrassing and quite honestly ableist and sanist. Fucking get a grip.

Also dont even get me started on the "well he should have thought about it before talking" when my BF told you I was especially sensitive about the topic you were arguing at me about at the moment due to the fact I very recently formed an alter who literally only exists to make me relive being sexually and physically abused and most likely fucking drugged. How fucking dare you honestly! You don't know what DID is like! You don't know what C-PTSD flashbacks so vivid you cry and scream and puke are like! I fucking hate singlets so much!!! How dare you, as a singlet, try to claim that a system needs to "calm down" after YOU triggered them! I'd be impressed by how confident in yourself you are if you weren't being such a fucking dick! The nerve, honestly!

Your comfort when talking about things you haven't experienced and TALKING OVER people who HAVE experienced it is fucking concerning. The fact you, as a cis woman, felt so incredibly comfortable talking to a male rape, grooming and incest survivor like you knew more than him on the topic is actually fucking nauseating. You aren't a man, you aren't a male rape survivor, you aren't a male incest survivor, you aren't a male grooming survivor.

I know damn well this whole fucking mindset you have is because you dont think men can be victims, you wouldn't have said shit if I was a woman or if the topic was about women. Pretending you're a feminist when you're actually contributing to the exact rape culture your swear up and down that you hate is fucking disgusting. This mindset is the exact reason boys and men who are raped dont speak out, because people like you think they're "lesser" victims. You are contributing to the culture that made ME refuse to open up about being groomed and raped. That is the culture YOU have chosen. The one you are so proud of that you're willing to berate a grooming, rape and incest survivor because he DARED to disagree with you. You are a horrible person and I want you to realize that before you go full fucking gender essentialist "men and boys deserve it."

TLDR: The person claiming I'm an enabler because I got groomed is an actual enabler.

[musical-chick-13]

The problem is. When I go, "Oh, this system is bullshit" and try to live outside it. My choices are still defined by that system. And that makes me feel really weird.

[spookykestrel]

I've been awake for an hour and I've already slipped and fallen on the ice and am having an unrelated meltdown in the bathroom at work

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Can I ask when the last time “dick worshipper”, etc. has actually been used by a radblr woman? Not a black-pill orbiter; they’re awful to everyone and don’t tend to last long here. I mean from someone in radblr, claiming to be a radical feminist or supporting radical feminism. I know it used to be fairly common years ago. So did political lesbianism, which pissed everyone off for different reasons. Most of those people either left or just don’t show up in my circles anymore, and those that do again don’t last long. So where is this coming from? I see it referenced but no recent examples. I am seeing a hell of a lot of recent homophobia from women in radblr though. Every woman I’ve seen addressing the homophobia has stated the misogynistic terms aren’t okay, again, even though from what I’ve seen it hasn’t happened for a long time. Whereas I’m seeing a ton of defensiveness and doubling down in regards to the homophobia. And there seems to be this demand of all lesbians and non-lesbian pro-separatist women to denounce the “dick worshipper” type comments, and it’s like, A) they already have and B) if they’re not the ones who said it can you stop conflating pro-separatist arguments with that shit? Again, this is just what I’ve seen. Maybe the “dick-worshipper” comments are all over some areas of radblr, but they’re not from anyone I follow or have seen on my dash for years. I’d say for the last four or five years the only time I’ve seen it is from women asking not to be called that--which, I agree, I don’t want to be called that and I don’t want to see other women called that. It’s just, I haven’t been called it or seen it for a long time, so something’s not adding up.