#thinking thoughts feeling feelings

[vide0n4sty]

i don't think that people properly recognise that in (healthy) DS dynamics, it is THE DOM that is serving THE SUB. which is why the concept of (cishet) femdom often comes across as like. way less progressive and empowering sometimes than the other way around

like (to get on my soapbox again) reinterpreting secretary (which is maybe the healthiest DS dynamic we've seen on screen, barring their initial lack of communication) to say "oh lee should have been on top, lee should have pegged grey" whatever reads as soooooooooo antithetical to the movie, and, like, to a degree antifeminist, because. here is a woman telling you "i am fragile, i need someone to tell me what to do, i need a man to devote his service to me solely" and you're saying "actually, she should be the one providing that service to him"

you know what i mean? doesn't that read as crazy disempowering to you??

like i know the concept of a woman submitting to a man (and, again, in the space of secretary, a young vulnerable woman submitting to an older man who's her boss) can be scary. but just slapping fandom goggles and saying "nooooo if we put femdom on it, it's fine, it's empowering, i don't have to examine my fears and actually think about the nature of DS" is not the way thru it

[themuseoftheviolets]

thinking about emdora today

[silverselfshippingchaos]

ahhhhhhhhh

[bacchuschucklefuck]

couldnt draw my thang for mid-autumn so treated myself to a calne redesign instead

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

[ticklingtimetickstotest]

[jeanivere]

arthur morgan tiddies and tummy thats all im gonna say

[chloesimaginationthings]

Elizabeth Afton bets on losing dogs in FNAF..

[hinamie]

in spite of everything, I had fun <3

[clarisse-doodles]

inspired by this post, in which Damian does not know what Vine is

[joshuamj]

Okay, but what if EoW!Zelda had to impersonate Link

[raynewolferune]

DC x DP Prompt: Bruce is bad at emoting but at least ghosts are empathic (too bad bat kids are not)

Was reading Twincognito on AO3 when I stumbled across this gem again:

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" “Danny, Tim. I was just…checking in. Is everything alright?” Curse his inability to make meaningful conversation when it wasn’t a life or death situation.

They glanced at each other and shrugged.

Then Danny hauled himself out of the bed and walked over to Bruce.

Bruce tried not to let too much excitement show on his face. "

~

Now I really want to read a story where Bruce adopts Danny post Meta trafficking and is being his usual emotionally constipated self. His kids keep getting mad at him because he's treating their new meta brother who was trafficked poorly (generally being stilted in conversation with him, walking away hurriedly mid-conversation, avoiding Danny when he's feeling really awkward, etc). They think Bruce is discriminating against Danny for being a civilian, meta, dealer's pick, but really it's just Bruce being horribly socially awkward. Danny knows this because of ghost empathy and find the whole thing hilarious. The whole thing comes to a head with the Bat Kids staging an intervention in the Bat Cave.

[pineapple-frenzy]

Book 2 au: sparring sessions and short hair katara

They like to have sparring sessions in order to keep their bending skills sharp. They allow themselves to go all out and not hold back at all cause they know if anyone got hurt, Katara could just heal them

But anyways, wouldn't it be kinda funny if Zuko accidentally burned Katara's hair tho? Aofkqldkkajfjd

The "I think we can save the hairloops" line is from @linnoya-writes thank you for that!! :>>

[ruporas]

need to exist in your warmth (id in alt)

[hhhhunty]

How funny that she never considered that.

[idolomantises]

Man is it just me or are a lot of TV shows nowadays are written to have big emotional episodes in scenes with very little build up.