#things I have learned

[lokisprettygirl]

Here is some unsolicited advice if you're feeling left out by the fandom as a writer (I don't consider myself as one, I never have but I have been through all of these phases and came out the other side with the "Don't give a fuck" attitude which works very well for me now)

Write a story for yourself, publish it for five to ten ardent readers who are always there whether you tag them or not.

If people are not responding to your tags, ask once and if you're still not getting a response, do them a favour and remove them.

Don't beg people to read your stories. That's a huge no no. From personal experience I'm saying this and it only makes you lose the ones you have already because deep down they feel you're complaining about them only.

Be humble enough to accept that if a story isn't being read then there's a slight possibility it's not written that well, I detest fake positivity and self appreciation, you can love what you have written but also accept that what you imagined in your head may not have translated well on paper (Sometimes it is indeed you, but as long as that story made you happy it was worth writing and publishing)

If you do write only for attention commit to it. It's not going to work if you're not giving something in return. So many mutuals of mine stopped reading my stories (even though that's the whole reason why I even became mutuals with them) because I didn't read theirs in return, people message me all the time to read their fics and when I don't they never bother with me again. That's how it works unfortunately.

[gibbearish]

love when ppl defend the aggressive monetization of the internet with "what, do you just expect it to be free and them not make a profit???" like. yeah that would be really nice actually i would love that:)! thanks for asking

[mjax1]

Things I have begun to do in 2024

Care less about what people think of me and my choices

Let myself prioritize things. If I can't do something and have to wait, I accept that.

Learn how to wear thongs and fishnets.

Take and send spicy photos to my husband on a nearly weekly basis. With zero shame over how much he loves me and how much I love him.

Do better about morning routines with my kids and how to make it suck less.

Realize I have just as much wisdom to add to my family as anyone else.

[aroaceleovaldez]

i had a thought of "do people not know what AUs are anymore?" and then i remembered nobody explains fandom stuff to new people anymore so it is entirely plausible people genuinely don't know what AUs are and nobody has explained it to them, so for today's lucky 10,000:

"AU" stands for "Alternate Universe" or "Alternative Universe" (same difference) and is basically any thought scenario for a fandom that isn't canon and can't fit within the canon universe. If it takes place in the canon universe but something is notably different, that is typically what's known as a "Canon divergent AU," because it diverges from canon.

an AU can be absolutely anything. There's a couple of widespread pan-fandom au scenarios that often get thrown around, like coffee shop aus, genderbend aus, hanahaki aus (hanahaki is a whole thing in itself i'd recommend researching on your own), etc. One you might hear sometimes is "crossover AU" which is when you have characters from one fandom interacting with characters from another.

You can have as many aus as you want. They can be whatever you want and you can do whatever you want in them. It's a sandbox for you to play around in and explore how things would be different or how the characters would act in those circumstances or environments. Maybe they have different relationships with each other. Maybe they behave slightly differently. Or you can just say "Okay, [x] is true. How did they get here? How would things have to be different for this to occur?" which can also be fun.

If you are ever confused about why people ship something that seems completely out of the blue or doesn't make sense to you in the canon setting, there's a good chance they like it in an AU setting! Not everything everybody is interacting with is necessarily the canon! Not everybody wants things to exist in canon and just want to explore playing dolls in a different sandbox and that's okay. And their sandbox might look a lot different than yours, and that's also okay. You have the freedom to make your sandbox whatever you please. Do whatever you want forever. Get funky with it. AUs are fun.

Okay that's my schpeal. everybody go have fun and play nice now.

[salamispots]

it got turned into a 17" x14" pillow instead haha

[mercurio-shadowz]

Some mid to late 30’s Sonic and Shadow designs/ideas -w-

Sonic is and will be on his prime for a long time. i hc that Chaos energy users live longer xD (That includes Silver n Knux)

Also they’re married but still act like they hate each other lol

[rameiixo]

another animation exercise, with okarun !

[astearisms]

catalysts, protectors

[rapidhighway]

the thing that caused me so much grief last night but now i feel better about it fdnghgdfggd

[crispyliza]

I've got you all figured out fanartists

[imdoingwhateverisnext]

Authenticity or Likability

These days a lot of focus is placed on people and things that are liked and disliked. I used to want everyone to like me and I wasted a LOT of energy fretting over people who didn't like me. It sounds silly and counter productive, and it is. Trying to be well-liked caused me to develop a sort of alter ego. I was being disingenuous. I eventually became the type of person I don't care for at all; a person who is inauthentic and fake.

I became an anxious people-pleaser. I wasted so much time and energy keeping other people happy, I literally forgot what I liked and enjoyed. Even worse, I attracted and was surrounded by people and personalities that I didn't enjoy. In a way, I forgot who I was. It has taken years of solitude, inner work and soul-searching to remember how to make myself happy.

I place the people in my life into two different categories; the drainers and the fillers. If my goblet is full, I want to share it with someone. I will even empty my goblet completely for someone I really care about. Fillers will refill my goblet with ease. Drainers will empty it and walk away without a thought; often quickly returning when they see my goblet is full again. Miraculously, the drainers always seem to know the status of my goblet, even if I haven't seen them or spoken to them in years.

I had a misguided belief that if I treated people a certain way, they would in turn do the same for me; aka the Golden Rule. As a result, I was keeping these leech-like people in my life. They would suck up every thing I would give them, and leave me feeling empty and unfulfilled and exhausted.

Leeches as well as fair weather friends will abandon me and disappear at the first sign of trouble. They can't be bothered by my needs. As soon as I stop being beneficial to them, they are gone. For better or worse, as I learn to like myself flaws and all, I prefer to lean into my own genuine personality as much as I can.

I used to hate to be alone. Now I prefer my own company to exhausting people who wouldn't even be bothered to piss on me if I was on fire (unless it somehow served their needs). Being alone and being lonely are two totally different things. The saddest type of loneliness I have ever experienced was while I was in a committed relationship with another. Believe me, if choosing between them being alone is preferable. If I knew back then that loneliness is a state of mind that I have some control over, I would not have wasted so many lonely years with someone else.

In addition to learning to like myself, I have given myself permission to like and to dislike things. This sounds simple and logical, but it isn't easy for a people-pleaser to have negative opinions. I was taught growing up, 'If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all'. Now I embrace my own negative opinions and feelings as long as they are honest and thoroughly considered. Why would I try to entertain those who don't care for my company? Why would I cater to leeches? Why would I continue to fill the goblets of the drainers? I don't like them.

[blkwtrs]

moth, miriam, joseph, sam

polyfragmentation is a thing

there’s a lot more than i thought there was

we’re in a relationship?

[batsyheere]

"So, handling your archnemesis," Danny starts. The room falls quiet, heads slowly turning to look at the man as he writes the words on the chalkboard. When finished, the characters somehow both messy and neat at once, Danny places the chalk back down and claps his hands.

"I typically call them fruitloops. Often they're in a better position than you are- older, richer, more powerful. They may have some sort of status that protects them when facing the public."

Tim wondered where Dick was right now, and if he was laughing. His brain was lagging like a computer as he tried to process what Danny was saying, and how seriously a few of his fellow teen vigilantes were taking this.

"Some of their more common tactics are-" the chalk was picked back up, and Danny writes as he speaks.

"Manipulation, isolation, conditioning, and empathy."

MICE.

Tim stares at the board, and quietly slips put his phone.

-What have I done to deserve this.

Enjoy your lessons Tim-

His head thumps against the desk. Conner leans over, gives him a pat on the shoulder but returns to taking notes as Danny goes on to explain the conditioning tactic.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

The peach tree beams so red, How brilliant are its flowers!

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[cozylittleartblog]

Columbo and the Knight (1984)

put me in the universe where Columbo ran through the 1980s and had a crossover episode with Knight Rider. I think they deserved it, and I am not just saying that because they're my two favorite Old Shows. @telebeast wrote a little fanfic blurb about it and I HAD to visualize it into a comic (which is also the longest comic I have finished thus far at five pages...), so writing credit goes to them.

Autism W!

[hinamie]

i'm exactly as normal about him as I thought I'd be