#they're the friend group i wish i had

[etheriankid]

best friends squad shenanigans

[lukmarc10]

god i miss these dorks

[strugglingyetvibing]

so, i know this is peak 'living under a rock' behavior, but i have never seen friends before, right?

and i don't have hbo max so i can't really stream it, but i recently found the first season on dvd, and i figured i would buy it and give it a shot, see what all the hullabaloo was about, and if i didn't like it, i only had the first season, so it's not like i wasted money on like the whole series or something

well, the downside of only having the first season is that i only have the first season

i am hooked, and i desperately want to know what happens next!! for those who may not know/remember, season one ends on a giant cliffhanger with a twist that i absolutely did not see coming, and now i don't have a way to watch season two to find out what happens

i now fully understand what all the hullabaloo was about, and while the show definitely dates itself now and then and sometimes i roll my eyes at some of the characters, i genuinely quite liked it! hopefully i'll get a chance to watch the next season sometime soon (maybe i can finally convince myself to get hbo max, it has a lot of stuff i want to see in addition to friends, so maybe it's finally a good purchase)

[horsemage]

I think we should bring back basic etiquette lessons such as shutting the fuck up when you’re watching a movie in a group that is not exclusively your friend group 🙂

[koka-mi]

vent under the cut you don't need to read if you don't want to!!!!!!!

I honestly hateee opening up or oversharing with ppl. it's kind of like eating for me where it feels okay in the moment but then afterwards I just feel awful. it feels like I'm attention seeking or saying someone else's experience isn't valid for some reason and it sucks. I don't do it at all with ppl I just met but with friends I tend to get carried away with it sometimes,,,

It hurts even more because I've been distancing myself from ppl bcz I'm scared of this exact thing happening. People have messaged me before, saying I seem cool and they want to be friends. And I get happy in the moment, but then I get really anxious about accidentally getting too comfortable and blurting out personal things, because then their opinion of me will wane and they'll think I'm annoying or ungrateful. So I subconsciously begin to distance myself and take a while when responding to messages, because I'm scared of getting too comfortable with them. But now I'm anxious that they think I'm cold or distant and that I secretly don't like them. It's just a lose lose situation mannn </3

I have so many DMs I've put off responding to, and I've stopped talking in servers as much bcz I'm scared of getting close with ppl in them. I really feel bad for it, though. I've drifted from friends bcz of that and it sucks because I genuinely love them a lot. I love everyone I talk to a lot and they always make my day better--I just wish I could be the same for them. I feel like it's a chore to talk to me. I honestly don't know what to do. It's even worse when I get close to someone bcz they like what I make/post because again, now that they've seen how I really am and I've opened up, they more than likely see me as annoying or a bad person. Like it hurts enough whenever we become friends naturally talking, but if it's with someone who's seen me at my "best" and has seen things I work on or stories I've created, they ofc associate me with those things, and their expectations of me are through the roof. So when I disappoint them it hurts a lot more. I hate getting attached to people it hurts so much

[saudebazi]

im tired of watching all the stories

[minakoaiinos]

Kep1er staying together 😭🙏🤍

[lohstandfound]

ignore this.

learning to shut up when i dont have anything new to say to the discussions my mutuals are having about the treatment of the female characters in this show and fandom

even though ive just gone ahead and rambled in the tags a bunch of bullshit

[autism-swagger]

Uh oh I just got hit with a wave of irrepressible all encompassing loneliness.

[slightlytoastedbagel]

Yuka Shiraishi. btw.

[dysonbradleyreblogs]

I think I just lost 2 good friends

[lokislytherin]

lookism dnd au?

if you see this and wanna art PLEASE i’m thinking of doing this for nanowrimo and actually making it novel-length and it would be cool to have concept art! of course with credit where credit is due i always give credit

[apocalypticdemon]

being friends with someone who constantly throws pity parties for themselves is fucking exhausting.

[biborispavlikovsky]

mental illness win: using my obsession with fate to override my inability to make a decision

[thatcharmingjerk]

I've also been trying to figure out and analyze WHAT is about totk that makes it feel so different and I think one of the things might be how much more traditionally video gamey it is? Botw is like you're dropped into a Ghibli movie and you're not expected to know everyone already and it's much more untouched wilderness and fantasy creatures here and there and totk is like- okay everything is in shambles "let's go hero action man!" and everyone treats you so differently (and because I know someone who tries to find things to disagree with wants to point out how after playing botw you're supposed to know characters already etc etc, THATS NOT MY POINT!!!!!)

Anyways like the towers are great example!!!! Sheikah towers are kinda slow, they activate majestically and glow quietly in horizon but the scan towers have literal spotlights to sky like we're in Vegas and blast Link to sky and look hurriedly put together and just- ew?? And I'm not saying they shoulda made totk just into a botw 2!!! But they also kinda did make just that???? But there's also not much connection like where did the towers and shrines go???? Could some of the purah towers been replaced by some sorta zonai equilavents??? I don't know!!!!!! But what I do know is that I miss the feel of botw

Oh and also!!!!!! I think botw is much more amateur gamer friendly!!!!! You can figure things out in peace but it's not as condescending as totk!!! Where game takes you by hand to teach you to sneak or throw etc!! It also frustrates me in totk!! Anyways my point was that I think totk suits more advanced gamers better with its minecrafting gluing and building and creating all kinds of machines! Where as me a humble outdoors person am perfectly happy using different kinds of arrows and that's it!!

And yes I will probably write more of the matter too at some point!!

[insert-funny-url-here]

Just the other day I was chatting with an older woman about this exact thing. She's retired so she enjoys going on almost-daily walks around her neighborhood and the surrounding neighborhoods. Well she told me that it was really weird that in the newer constructions where the younger families live, EVERYONE has their blinds closed all the time. In fact she can tell a younger family lives in a house based on the simple fact of whether or not their blinds are closed in the middle of a sunny day. It's to the point where she can't even tell if they're even HOME and available for a visit to welcome them to the neighborhood!

When she said that, I realized that I do that too when I live in a more publicly visible apartment. I told her that I think it's because of the internet. Younger people feel like we're constantly being watched, observed, and JUDGED for merely existing. So when we're home, we just want to be alone, unbothered, and unobserved because it's the one place we can control that. She was very surprised to hear that I felt like that and she was VERY concerned for us young folk (and to be honest after talking with her I became pretty concerned too...)

People from her generation will have their blinds open all day, hang out on their front porch, and randomly visit/enjoy random visits from neighbors and strangers. If a stranger knocks on my door it's scary and if they want to stay and chat? It's a huge inconvenience and it feels super awkward and weird and I'm stuck wondering why exactly they're talking to me, when just a few decades ago welcoming someone new to the neighborhood was just what you did! In fact to not do so was rude!

It made me really worried that as the Panopticon sinks its teeth deeper into our psyches, we are losing the very essence of what makes us human and got us this far as a species: community. I find that being on the internet for hours a day tends to almost trick my brain into thinking "I've been social all day, my social need is full" when in reality I've only talked to one, maybe two people I know from my real life all day, and only for short bursts, not REAL conversation.

I find it hard to have the energy to invite friends to hang out, and when I want to I feel like I'm a big inconvenience for asking them to take a break from their busy lives for me (not that they would ever say that's the case, but it's this nagging feeling internally). I feel like while we used to be a series of large islands of local community, our islands splintered apart and started drifting away from each other. Now your island is just you, your immediate family, and maybe a couple close friends. Those living physically closest to you feel like they're miles away and unreachable, to the point where you might as well not even bother.

I guess I just have one question for you: Do you know the names of your next door neighbors?