#these are daily strugges

[gladiatorcunt]

many such cases of a seeing a blog rb from me and it ends up being apart of my mutual’s family of blogs

[sassybluee]

Allow me to whine for a second. But since I posted my first cql fic, I've been getting kudos emails daily. Considering I started writing fics during the boom of mdzs/cql hype, and how many fics I have posted across different fandoms, I've always gotten quite a few kudos in my daily emails. It's a nice boost and I like seeing who's been reading.

I haven't been posting as much over the last year, partly cuz it takes me longer to complete a fic and tbh I'm also not as inspired as I used to be. So I have noticed my daily kudos emails gradually dropping in numbers over the last year, which is fine and expected considering my output has shrunk. But all this to say today I got 2 kudos overall which is the lowest I've gotten in years and I'm like oh god what if I just stop getting daily kudos altogether. What if everyone hates me. What if I'm in my flop era?

[theegreenmuse]

⋆˚✿˖° 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐚 𝐌𝐢𝐝𝐝𝐥𝐞 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝: 𝐌𝐲 𝐉𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐔𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐧𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃 ⋆˚✿˖°

🪷 Being a middle child often comes with its own unique set of challenges. You're sandwiched between the overachieving firstborn and the pampered youngest, often feeling like you're in a constant battle for attention and validation. For me, this dynamic has been even more complicated by my suspicion that I might have ADHD—yet I remain undiagnosed.

The Middle Child Dilemma

🪷 Growing up as the middle child, I always felt like I was walking a tightrope. My older sibling was the trailblazer, the one who set the standards. My younger sibling, on the other hand, was the baby of the family, often receiving a level of attention and care that seemed to bypass me. In this mix, I found myself striving to be seen, to carve out my own identity amidst the noise.

The ADHD Mystery

🪷 From a young age, I noticed that my mind worked differently. I struggled to focus on tasks, my thoughts constantly racing from one thing to another. Simple assignments took me twice as long to complete, and I often found myself daydreaming during important moments. It wasn't until I started learning more about ADHD that I began to connect the dots.

ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, is a condition characterized by persistent patterns of inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. For many, it goes undiagnosed for years, often misunderstood or mistaken for mere laziness or lack of discipline. I suspect that I might have ADHD, but I haven't been officially diagnosed yet. This uncertainty has been both a relief and a source of frustration.

Navigating Life with Undiagnosed ADHD

Living with undiagnosed ADHD feels like running a race with untied shoelaces. You're constantly tripping, trying to catch up, and struggling to understand why you're always a step behind. Here are some of the specific struggles I face:

1. Focus and Productivity: Completing tasks feels like an uphill battle. My mind wanders, making it difficult to stay on track with my goals, whether it's for school, work, or personal projects.

2. Emotional Regulation: ADHD can impact emotions, leading to heightened sensitivity and frustration. I often feel overwhelmed by emotions, swinging from highs to lows without warning.

3. Interpersonal Relationships: Maintaining relationships can be challenging. I sometimes interrupt others unintentionally or struggle to follow conversations, leading to misunderstandings.

4. Self-Esteem: Constantly feeling like I'm not living up to my potential has taken a toll on my self-esteem. I often compare myself to my siblings and peers, feeling inadequate in comparison.

5. Feeling Invalidated: When I tried to talk about ADHD with my friends, I felt laughed at and dismissed. Coming from foreign families, they often didn't understand or validate my feelings. This lack of support has made it even harder to navigate my struggles.

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Finding My Path

Despite these struggles, I'm determined to find my path. I've started to adopt strategies to manage my symptoms, even without a formal diagnosis. Here are some steps I'm taking:

1. Educating Myself: Understanding ADHD and its impact has been empowering. Knowledge is power, and the more I learn, the better equipped I am to manage my challenges.

2. Creating Structure: Implementing routines and organizational systems helps me stay on track. I use planners, to-do lists, and reminders to keep my tasks in order.

3. Seeking Support: Talking to friends, family, and even online communities has provided a sense of understanding and validation. I'm not alone in this journey, and connecting with others who share similar experiences has been comforting.

4. Mindfulness and Self-Care: Practicing mindfulness and self-care routines helps me manage stress and stay grounded. Techniques like meditation, deep breathing, and journaling have become essential tools in my toolkit.

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Looking Ahead

While the journey with undiagnosed ADHD is challenging, it's also a journey of self-discovery and growth. I'm learning to embrace my unique way of thinking and to find strength in my struggles. Being a middle child has taught me resilience, and navigating life with suspected ADHD is teaching me perseverance.

If you suspect you might have ADHD or are facing similar challenges, know that you're not alone. Seeking help, whether through professional diagnosis or self-education, is a vital step toward understanding and managing your unique brain. Together, we can navigate this journey, find our strengths, and thrive despite the obstacles.

Feel free to share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below. Let's support each other on this journey to self-discovery and growth.

With love,

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐆𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐧𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐞

[sammy-sexy-masochist]

I swear, Nellie has this sixth sense for teasing me at the worst moments. Like today, I brushed against some nettles on our walk — just a tiny sting — and she leaned in all close, smirking, "You sure you’re not enjoying this a bit too much? Are you wet again, Sammy? You really can't help yourself, can you?"

Like, come on! She knows damn well that those things wouldn’t normally get to me. But she says it with that glint in her eye, that deep, sexy voice… And I melt.

[lenanello]

Alle sagen, man muss sich selber finden, um glücklich zu sein. Aber niemand redet darüber, wie schwierig das ist.

@lenanello

[sariahgonzales626]

The struggle is real

[silenzi-interrotti]

Carə lettore futuro...

Interrompere il silenzio si è rivelato più complicato di quanto pensassi. Lungo la strada ho perso e dimenticato tanto, forse troppo. Pezzi della mia vita che non ritorneranno più e che forse hanno creato una crepa tra ciò che sono e quel che ero. Ma se mi guardo indietro, la distanza non mi spaventa più.

Quando si ricostruisce qualcosa si lasciano sempre indietro dei pezzi, quando si fa qualcosa per la seconda volta il risultato non sarà mai perfettamente identico alla prima. Io non tornerò mai ad essere la persona che ero in quella vita. Ci sarà sempre tristezza in questo. Ma a volte lasciare andare è l'unica scelta possibile. Non si può trattenere tutto, neanche sè stessi. La distanza tra me e quella persona crescerà con me, ogni giorno, per il resto della mia vita, ma sarà per sempre ciò che mi ha permesso di essere la persona libera che dovevo essere.

Interrompete i silenzi, anche quando fa paura.

Siate coraggiosi.

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Dear future reader...

Breaking the silence turned out to be more complicated than I thought. Along the way I lost and forgot so much, perhaps too much. Pieces of my life that will never come back and that may have created a rift between who I am and who I was. But if I look back, the distance doesn’t scare me anymore.

When you rebuild something you always leave behind pieces, when you do something for the second time the result will never be perfectly identical to the first. I will never go back to being the person I was in that life. There will always be sadness in that. But sometimes letting go is the only choice. You can’t hold everything back, not even yourself. The distance between me and that person will grow with me every day for the rest of my life, but it will forever be what allowed me to be the free person I was meant to be.

Break the silence, even when it’s scary.

Be brave.

[catsforthewin]

If you need it, dead but still here.

[tipzyness]

you ever look at a couple and go damn I wanna be a part of that

[dreams-interrupted]

Today is always the greatest challenge one must face…for there is no greater joy than to succeed in conquering your fear of tomorrow

[earlgraygoose]

The psychotic feeling of thinking you're outgrowing clothes but in truth they r just shrinking in the dryer....

[theegreenmuse]

⋆˚✿˖° 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 "𝐆𝐨-𝐓𝐨" 𝐅𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝: 𝐀 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 ⋆˚✿˖°

🍵 Have you ever felt like you're the friend everyone turns to during their darkest moments, yet when they're happy and thriving, you're left in the shadows? This is a struggle I know all too well. Being the "go-to" friend for advice and support can be both a blessing and a curse. While I'm grateful for the trust and connection, it can be exhausting and disheartening when my own needs and feelings are overlooked.

The Weight of Being the "Go-To" Friend

🍵 From an early age, I found myself in the role of the listener, the comforter, and the advisor. Friends would come to me with their problems, seeking solace and guidance. I took pride in being able to help, feeling a sense of purpose in offering support. However, over time, this role began to feel like a heavy burden.

1. One-Sided Relationships: The most challenging aspect of being the "go-to" friend is the imbalance in relationships. When friends only reach out during their negative episodes, it can feel like your worth is tied solely to your ability to provide support. Their happiness and successes are shared with others, leaving you feeling like a footnote in their lives.

2. Emotional Drain: Constantly being the emotional anchor for others can take a toll on your own mental and emotional well-being. Offering advice and comfort requires energy and empathy, and when this isn't reciprocated, it can lead to feelings of exhaustion and burnout.

3. Unacknowledged Advice: It's frustrating when friends seek your advice but don't take your words into consideration. You invest time and effort into helping them, only to see them disregard your suggestions. This can leave you questioning the value of your input and the authenticity of the relationship.

4. Feeling Invisible: When your friends are happy and thriving, and you're not included in their joyful moments, it can make you feel invisible and unappreciated. It's as if you're only needed when things go wrong, and your presence isn't valued during the good times.

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Navigating the Struggle

While being the "go-to" friend can be challenging, it's important to find ways to navigate this role without losing yourself in the process. Here are some strategies that have helped me:

1. Set Boundaries: Establishing boundaries is crucial for protecting your own well-being. It's okay to say no when you feel overwhelmed or when your own needs must take priority. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup.

2. Communicate Openly: Have honest conversations with your friends about how you feel. Let them know that while you value the trust they place in you, you also need their support and acknowledgment. Communication can help balance the dynamics in your relationships.

3. Prioritize Self-Care: Make self-care a priority. Engage in activities that recharge your energy and bring you joy. Whether it's spending time alone, pursuing hobbies, or seeking professional support, taking care of yourself is essential.

4. Seek Reciprocal Relationships: Surround yourself with people who appreciate and value you, not just for your ability to provide support but for who you are as a person. Cultivate relationships that are balanced and reciprocal.

5. Reflect and Reassess: Reflect on your friendships and reassess their impact on your life. It's okay to distance yourself from relationships that drain you and focus on those that uplift and nourish you.

Embracing Your Worth

Being the "go-to" friend is a testament to your empathy, compassion, and strength. However, it's important to remember that your worth is not solely defined by your ability to help others. You deserve to be seen, heard, and appreciated in all aspects of your relationships.

If you resonate with this struggle, know that you're not alone. Many of us navigate the complexities of friendship, striving to find balance and fulfillment. Let's support each other in this journey, recognizing our worth and seeking relationships that uplift and empower us.

🫂 Feel free to share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below. Let's create a community where we support and uplift each other, recognizing the value we each bring to the table.

With love,

- 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐆𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐧𝐌𝐮𝐬𝐞

[sammy-sexy-masochist]

This world is definitely not made for me…

I was so fed up with my own resilience one day, I literally typed "how to feel more pain?" into the search bar.

Guess what? The results were all about how to make you feel 𝓵𝓮𝓼𝓼 pain. Like, seriously?

[zoe-manolatos]

To unfinished business with MS. Caitlin..... The Wawa girl.

[hear-me-out-j]

Living in Los Angeles

The past few days, I've been working hard. Working paycheck after paycheck, saving to pay the rent on time. It's hard when you're the only one working. Husband can't find a job, younger sister looking too. My dad is slowly declining on his health. Giving him the best I can for him, cooking healthy, giving his medication. I'm not struggling. Not as bad, thankfully.

Tears in my eyes as this woman approaches me. Selling me these beautiful bracelets I've seen. Asking for me to buy some, so she can get some shoes for her kids. For her boy. I can see her face, exhausted. She's tired, worn out, not giving up. For her kids. I've been here before. I look through her small container, found this beautiful light blue, small crystal balls with a butterfly charm bracelet. My husband found one to his liking, a brown simple bracelet with a owl charm. It was only 4 dollars. I've just gotten my tips, 8 dollars exact. Perfect. I took them both, put on both bracelets on each other. You can see her eyes shine as she see our interaction with each other. She thanks us. We thank her as well and wished her the best of luck.

My husband didn't really understand our conversation. We were talking in Spanish. I explained to him that she was trying to earn money enough to buy shoes for her son. I see his face drop a little. He then looks at the bracelets we had on and proceed to say to me.

"4 dollars were way too cheap for these"

we both thinking the exactly same thing. If only we could help her a bit more. We spent our day appreciating the things we had. Even if we are struggling, we are still living, enjoying each other presence. Feeling happiness we can give others to brighten their days for many more.

[panafsha]

Why do people get annoyed of life just by saying "I'm struggling" Everyone has to struggle with whatever they do. You cannot stop living!!! You cannot keep on saying I'm loser, I don't have ambition, I'm undesirable. This is such a disrespect to yourself.

"If there is no struggle, there is no progress" By Fredrick Douglass

Everyone in life struggles.

*Rich struggle to keep up with their richness

*Bosses struggle to keep up with the name of the company, and to get the task done.

*Employees struggle to complete their deadlines, keeping up with their bosses, time management.

*Parents struggle to make sure that their kids are well independent to face the world.

*Kids struggle to cope up in life.

*School and colleges and universities struggles to make sure that they provide good education and knowledge to their students with best facilities and learners.

So so many people struggle. But in the end when results come out positive it feel worth it. But still after good results struggle will not stop.

All life demands struggle.