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Anyhow, about a year ago I made a new friend, Eleanor. She started telling me that what Dale was doing was abuse, even though he had never punched me or injured me, and that I hadn’t done anything to deserve it. At first I thought she was exaggerating, because I’ve known women that got it so much worse than me. And Dale can be really sweet and supportive when you least expect it. We’ve had a lot of good times, believe it or not. Anyhow, Eleanor kind of opened my eyes up. So I started standing up to Dale about how he talks to me, and told him I was thinking of moving out for a while. And what’s happened is that he’s gone nuts. I swear, something has happened to him. He’s backhanded me twice in the last eight months, and another time he threw me over a chair and my back went out. So I finally moved out. For now I’m not planning to get back with him, but I guess it depends partly on what he does in the abuser program.
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men- Chapter 1: The Mystery (Lundy Bancroft)
#Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men#Why Does He Do That?#Chapter 1: The Mystery#Lundy Bancroft#abuse#domestic abuse#V#books#quotes#Grishaverse#Malyen Oretsev#Alina Starkov#grishanalyticritical#Seeing Grishaverse in other works#anti Mal#anti Malina#Sorry#but this whole passage screams 'Mal'.#Except for that part about opening eyes.#Rather than realizing a new friend's right#Alina's more likely to begin to avoid them and find a reason why they're morally corrupt#therefore wrong.
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anyway literally everyone is going through something all the time!!! everyone is wounded!!! everyone is human & no one makes it out of this life unscathed!! maybe try approaching people in good faith instead of always defaulting to the worst possible interpretations of each other
#the way people will pounce at the opportunity to unload on someone the second they have perceived A Wrongdoing#and then justify that with trauma like. i have been Traumatized so therefore i am allowed to make this other person feel like shit#never mind that life is not a binary set of right and wrong choices/beliefs and you are never going to agree with someone 100% of the time#and that disagreement ≠ the other person being a terrible human being. please god allow for some nuance and grace#stop putting people on pedestals stop with the unproblematic king/queen culture stop reducing other people to the image of them in your head
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If I see one more person genuinely saying that Mephone is actually a child because of the new episode I swear to god they will never find the bodies.
#THAT'S WHAT COBS WANTS YOU TO THINK GODDAMNIT#HE'S INFANTILIZING HIM!!!! BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT ABUSERS DO!!!!!#THEY BRUSH OFF THEIR VICTIMS'S TRAUMA RESPONSES AS “IMMATURITY” OR “SENSITIVITY” TO MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE THEY'RE WRONG FOR REACTING THAT WAY#COBS BRUSHES OFF MEPHONE'S COPING MECHANISMS AS JUST HIM BEING A STUPID KID BECAUSE HE REFUSES TO ACCEPT THAT#HIS ACTIONS JUSTIFY MEPHONE'S BEHAVIOR!!! SO HE CAN SHIFT THE BLAME FROM HIMSELF!!!!!#ABUSERS WANT YOU TO BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE JUST A STUPID CHILD SO THEY CAN MAKE YOU INFERIOR TO THEM AND THEREFORE EASIER TO MANIPULATE#He was born WALKING. TALKING. THINKING. BECAUSE HE'S A ROBOT THAT WAS BUILT FOR WAAAAAR!!!!!#HOW IS THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND!!!#thank you for listening to my ted talk#inanimate insanity#mephone#mephone4#mephone4 ii#ii mephone4#steve cobs#deli talks
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idk how to draw him yet
#the umbrella academy#five hargreeves#my art#i love not using references and therefore getting details wrong because IDGAF!!!!!#blood
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Fascinating how Polites, the character who is the personification of Odysseus' optimism and is only in 5 songs, is more grieved and appreciated than Eurylochus, a character who is his own person and is in 11 songs.
#I'm being a hater but meh :/ it's just kind of baffling to me. Don't get me wrong. Polites plays his purpose for the musical#and it is neat how Jay took one line from him in the Odyssey and got silly with it and basically created his own character.#but like... All we know about Polites is that he's nice... that's literally it. He's Odysseus' optimism personified. which is why he died.#And it's not as though it isn't sad that he died. It's just that we got to know Eurylochus longer and truly get to know him more#is it because with how little people know about Polites other than “uwu sweetiepie” people like that so they can headcanon more?#is it because Eurylochus is “too complex” and therefore “not likable”??#idk. I'm gonna be burned at the stake for this I know it. but I don't understand it.#like during “Love in Paradise” it wasn't “Open Arms” that made me sad. It was “How much longer...” and “Waiting...” that made me sad#I mean I'm an “UwU sweetiepie” too (not right now though clearly lol) so maybe I'm “meh” about him because he's just “me”?#Mad rambles#shot by odysseus#epic the musical#polites#eurylochus#hm. maybe I shouldn't tag this but I'm actually really kind of curious as to why people cling to him so much?
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@josuyasuweek-2024 day 1: part-time jobs / food / meet-cute au
stealing food at lunch break
#josuyasu#josuyasu week#josuyasu week 2024#all yall giving josuke all kinds of fancy jobs are dead wrong. he works at owson and spends all of his pittance of a wage on hair products#okuyasu works at tonios of course and therefore has very good food for lunch#also i ended up covering it with the hands but yea the apron has the lil ts from tonios outfit#his lunch is supposed to be curry katsu on deus suggestion#lovisas art#josuke higashikata#okuyasu nijimura
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you know how we so often get completely confidently incorrect assertions about how and why tim became robin? i genuinely do feel like i see just as many utterly confidently incorrect assertions about how and why steph became robin too. it's fascinating how there is just as much telephone about her as there is him.
for every "tim showed up at bruce's house with a bunch of pictures and said that if batman didn't make him robin immediately he was going to send the photos to every newspaper on the east coast" there's a "bruce asked steph to be robin because he was mad at tim" or "tim asked steph to fill in for robin after his dad made him quit"
like. i'm not going to pretend that "mistakenly thought tim was cheating on her so got mad, completely ghosted him, then showed up in the batcave in a handmade robin costume to take the job his dad forced him to quit as revenge" is a good story, but it is the story. & just like alpod you do see so many completely confident but utterly incorrect descriptions of what exactly happened floating around.
#like don't get me wrong i do respect the power of#'i do not like it therefore i have rewritten it personally in a way that makes sense to me'#but that is still unfortunately not what happened#and even the most innocuous 'hey how did this happen in comics' usually gets all the people out with all the incorrect info lol#please tell me where exactly you read that because it's not in the one i got
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too eepy after work to have a life, stardust? smh
#in fast and food#loop isat#siffrin isat#in stars and time#isat#kitscribbles#oddly my comfort au and vent au wrapped into one#dear whoever said that there isnt much i can do with this au. yeah youre not wrong#lmao what's Sif gonna do#wish to keep his friends in the capitalistic pit of death of never moving out of town to chase their dreams because they cant afford to?#smh you dont need timeloops for that#therefore no loop u_u or at least not conventionally#could someone help me find that art someone made of Sif having a doll loop and i think that doll coming to life#if i ever go that direction id like to credit them#that there is my inspiration#art#fanart#tfw you cant think of a personality for your stuffie so you just overlay a personality over your own and give them that#have you ever tried to cut sharp points into felt. let me tell you it does not like to remain sharp
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RULES OF BEING OTHERKIN #1
Being authentic and true to yourself is the only way you are 'supposed to be/act like' (insert entity). If anyone else disagrees it only tells you about them.
#going to start a small 'series' where I document stuff I learn that is otherkin specific. This is for myself as well as anyone who might#be struggling with things I used to/am working on(otherkin specific). hopefully this will reduce any mental pitfalls other otherkin may#fall into as they explore their identity and help out someone.#this 'rule' took a LONG time to fully understand and grasp. for the longest time I would consciously or subconsciously#think I was less Loki if I did or was something 'Loki would never do. until i realized I do exactly and experience exactly what Loki does#and experiences because...Im literally Loki. (talking about incarnations here). I felt pressured to be a certain way because 'Loki would#never (insert). being aroace is on of them. i tried to convince myself I wasn't aroace#and when I finally ran out of reasons i felt i was 'less Loki' because mythologically hes like the opposite. but Loki IS aroace. because#Im Loki. and Im aroace. so loki is SUPPOSED to be aroace because Im loki and im being exactly how loki is being. because im loki. being#myself. therefore being exactly like Loki. again - incarnation.#anyway....if anyone else struggles with this I hope this helps someone. its a really sucky place to be in honestly.#godkin#deitykin#alterhuman#otherkin#divinekin#nonhuman#alterbeing#therian#I think I will be learning a LOT more as I keep exploring and I will note down any 'rules' I learn - more like lessons but rules personally#sound more right for me. rules i will live by (yknow unless i find out im wrong but...im going to trust myself more and right now i feel#like this rule is true. so im using it as such unless i find out im wrong in future.
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still updating starwatch and I really hope this event gives us some family drama
#manifesting so hard#i am prob completely wrong but no one has pointed out that lucio is aprince#not a king#therefore not an acting monarch unlike guess who - emperor sigma#anyway what if lucio is adopted because sig could not be bothered to make an heir#and he chose to rebel (ah the youth)#and i think white diamond's monologue from su fits the idea perfectly#mik draws#lucio overwatch#sigma overwatch#overwatch 2#siebren de kuiper#lucio correia dos santos#overwatch
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Once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, thrice is a character motif.
#I know you can argue that Amane is purely viewer-driven and therefore an actual coincidence#But I am Looking at that timeline convo that basically goes#Amane: Thanks for helping me with homework‚ Kotoko! I didn't think you were such a nice person. I really like how egalitarian you are!#Kotoko: I WILL KILL YOU IF YOU DO ANYTHING WRONG#Like that was entirely on Yamanaka. Nothing to do with us.#milgram#kotoko yuzuriha
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the fact that he spends all his time grooming kids into believing they're mature enough to consent and then turns around to condescend to them about how young and stupid they are and how they actually don't understand anything makes my fucking blood boil. i need to kill him
#“i'm so much smarter than everyone else 😏” yeah dude maybe because you only surround yourself with literal children#of course he's also just wrong. he's not smarter than them. and the tower is not the highest point in the world.#and his “ideals” and “values” are not any more real than utena's.#he just doesn't have perspective enough to see that#he thinks that he knows some inherent truth about the world. that it is cruel and therefore he must be too.#and that because utena believes in something better it must mean she just doesn't understand anything at all#and yeah she doesn't understand everything. but neither does he#and at least she's self aware enough to know that she still has things to learn#revolutionary girl utena#parallels#akio#utena#m
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(Tfw you're the most reliable person in the roster and you're only like 12)
Httyd 2 is where the Hooligans start to think Elder may be too carefree and naive to be chief, Snotlout is too gradious to do the job right, and find that they truly appreciate the wise, diplomatic nature of Younger. Maybe we should make the little guy chief instead 💁
Bonus:
#1 most irresponsible older brother 😂
(Speech bubble text beneath readmore:)
Hiccup the Younger: If I had a gold piece for every time Gobber told me to usurp my brother for the throne of Berk I'd have three gold pieces and at this point I'm starting to think he's being serious
Little Fishlegs: Well, why not? It's a very honorable position– and you'd be great at it!
Younger: Sure, but that's Hiccup's job. It's not like I WANT it. Besides, Snotlout's the runner-up heir, not me, so I'd have to challenge him, too. I'm in Last Place, Fishlegs. Maybe it's better that way.
Little Fish: You sell yourself too short. Most of the tribe would be happy to see you on the throne instead of Snotlout. Heck, they're prefer you to Mr. Elder! All the adults say Mr. Elder is too immature. Gobber even says they're going to approach Stoick personally about lifting your rank.
Younger: Very funny.
(Silence)
Younger: WAIT— ARE YOU SERIOUS?!
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Astrid: Shirking your heirly duties, as usual.
Astrid: You know, maybe Gobber's right, and Minicup should usurp you and take over the tribe.
Astrid: NO— YOU'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO AGREE!!!
#half brothers au#httyd 2#httyd au#(i forgot to include baby tooth i offer my gravest apologies)#how to train your dragon#my art#logically minicup knows he'd be fantastic at the chief thing#it just rubs him the wrong way to think the tribe would only choose him because elder was half-assing the job#especially since he KNOWS elder is better than this#meanwhile elder is more than happy to relinquish the stressful duties of being heir to someone who has a chance at living up to their fathe#therefore it's actually elder who sells himself too short#and younger just wants nothing more than to see him succeed
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I am so convinced that Alastor and Lucifer know each other.
It's been bothering me how fast our favorite aroace got into a fight with our favorite depressed father figure in episode 5. Prior to that episode, we constantly see how Al doesn't have rivalries. He has pests that sometimes he'll give enough attention so he may put them back in their rightful place.
He barely gives Vox the time of day. He straight up forgets who Sir Pentious is within 24 hours. This one's not a rivalry, but the bitch didn't even get rid of the Egg Bois like he was supposed to in episode 3. Al takes most people so unseriously.
But the King of Hell? It's on sight. Two seconds of breathing the same air and he's ready to square up.
I would LOVE if it was because he actually cares for both (or either) Charlie and the Hotel. Neither of which Lucifer seem to believe in. It would be very characteristic of Alastor to be a petty bitch.
However, I think the more likely option is that he's taking his anger with Lilith out on Lucifer.
And I think Lucifier is doing the same thing.
He looks to the family photo after Charlie mentions going to Heaven. I have money on Lucifer knowing exactly where Lilith is and what she has done. About the deals she has made to get there.
#And therefore radioapple will bond over hating luci's ex#lmao i'm honestly probably wrong#but i legit have been thinking about this since watching the episode#hazbin hotel#alastor#lucifer morningstar#charlie morningstar#lilith morningstar#dad beat dad#vivziepop#radioapple#appleradio#alastor hazbin hotel#hazbin hotel alastor#radio demon
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I've always had feelings for you. If you're going to like girls, can it be me instead?
Ciize Rutricha as PANG PLUTO | EP. 4
#ciize rutricha#ciize apichaya#pluto#pluto the series#pluto series#gmmtv#lana.gifs#pluto.gifs#ciize.gifs#do i like pang? not really. but ciize is my wife therefore i support her right to play characters who do wrongs#asianlgbtdrama#userbon#usersasa#uservix#userrelisa#userfrantaglia#rinblr#tuserrowan#userrlaura#userrzey#userjamiec#vishingwell
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End of Empathy (time for violence)
[First] Prev <–-> Next
#poorly drawn mdzs#mdzs#wei wuxian#lan jingyi#jin ling#lan sizhui#We are back to the present! Honestly I think I'm going to try and truncate the rest of this arc.#I LOVE yi-city and I really appreciate all of the support the yi-city lovers have given me. And the patience of those who aren't.#But it's been two months. And I need to move this along </3#Anyways; I love the start of ep 3 so much. The worried concern of the juniors is so cute#but the crown jewel by far is wwx responding like a parent that's very hungover but trying so hard to be nice about it#like 'shhh shhhh guys hi I'm up now. Can you keep the volume down. Can you get me some water and my sunglasses from the glovebox.'#and of course the incredible wham line of 'Xue Yang Must Die.'#'Is YX irredeemable? I'm pro 'everyone is capable of change and deserves a chance.' So Im of the camp of 'if he had the opportunity...maybe#The issue is that this setting has no structure to provide those opportunities. You are perceived as a threat therefor you must die#XY is a very interesting parallel to the YLLZ because they both meet the same fate: outsiders determining that they need to be killed#plus both did war crimes. I know it's easy to forget the YLLZ actually did do some of the things he was accused of (most wrong)#but wwx also has blood on his hands. He also sought revenge in pretty twisted ways. Both were given opportunities to step away and refused#The difference is that we empathize with and like XXC & SL and A-Qing. The Narrative says they were wronged and that is an injustice.'
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