#there's no correct way to be queer

[stimmingandstruggling]

is ariana grande queer or is she just REALLY passionate about gelphie and queerness in wicked in a Super Ally way

[dragonagedastferaasdf]

[cybertron-smash-or-pass]

Cyberverse Acidstorm

[vinelark]

someday i too wish to be able to say “my wife”- at every opportunity. what does ur wife think of ur fanfic? does she get to see the rough drafts?

i also want this for you!!! 100/10 experience to get to say “my wife” in any context.

she thinks it’s very cool that i write fic and that people like my fic. i showed her this ask and she said “tell them i love you and i support you making tim suffer a lot.” and she’s also a writer! she’s great! check her out if you’re into women being super gay and bad at emotions.

since we don’t run in the same fandoms she doesn’t typically read my rough drafts, though will if i ask; usually she helps more in the research stage (especially if there’s a kissing scene).

[heresvix]

sometimes i doubt my bisexuality so when that happens i just scroll through your blog and remember “oh yeah men are really hot actually”

👀🏳️‍🌈,

Hey i hope you’ll grow to feel more comfortable in your sexuality. Queerness is not a competition.

Attracted to more than one gender and you vibe with bi? You’re bi. How ””much”” or how ””little”” is irrelevant. No one arguing about the ”quality” of your attraction is worth talking to.

[mossy-enigma]

My gf has started using my correct pronouns!!

[asgardian--angels]

things I wish I could relive for the first time again:

that magical window where you finish a new piece of media, having watched/read it all by yourself with no fandom contact whatsoever, and you are just so happy about it, and full of interesting theories and takeaways, and just in love with it as a gorgeous piece of art.

because I swear to god as soon as you join the fandom for anything, you're bombarded with how you're supposed to view characters and their arcs, how you're supposed to morally and ethically judge the plot and the ways it apparently failed to present the right message, and if you don't you'll either be shunned for not sharing the popular headcanons or you'll be harassed for not criticizing the source material enough.

like how is it that the fans of a piece of media are also the ones being the most negative about it? If I like a show or a movie or a book, well, I liked it. That's kind of the point. I'm actually not here to tear it apart and talk about how it didn't live up to standards other people had! I enjoyed it for what it was, and forcing myself to find negative things to say about it doesn't actually bring me more enjoyment of it or reap any benefit to me. Fandom's a double-edged sword; you want to join a community to share your love for a piece of art, and the price you pay for a modicum of joy is a mountain of negativity. that's one main reason that I never engage with fandom until I'm completely done with a show, because if I was plugged into all of that commentary and discourse during the process, I'd be completely colored by how I'm expected to interpret everything this piece of art is presenting to me without being able to even form my own opinions.

[kingworm]

collage

[sucresanguine]

The biggest problem with the male loneliness epidemic rhetoric is that people have forgotten that it was originally about men lacking support in male friendships. Then the manoshphere fuckfest got ahold of it and determined that duh, the only important relationships men can have are sexual, and all real men are straight, so clearly this is about men needing women to fix them. And then everyone just fuckin agreed to that dogshit definition. It's the polar opposite issue, and I think it serves in some part to take away from just how much can be learned from the community I've seen queer men hold for one another

[say-hi-intrepid-heroes]

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[petrowriting]

i am honestly so impressed with this show’s commitment to having like two (2) white people and zero (0) straight people. even the people who were initially straight ended up being gay. it’s genuinely incredible stuff.

[harbingerofsoup]

y’all im losing my mind because my parents finally watched s7 this week, so i figured i’d get the cishet, general audience perspective on bi buck canon straight from the source and apparently my parents not only didn’t see it coming, but had a grand old laugh imagining, and i quote, “how the actor reacted to it being pitched after years of playing a more womanizing character”

obviously i corrected them immediately, but god straight people are why we can’t have nice things

[summergoodwife]

Gonna say it again, "Just stop consuming the genre" is THE WORST POSSIBLE RESPONSE to someone complaining about the lack of representation in their preferred genre!! And "Consume other stuff too" is not much better!!! I don't care how much you think varying media consumption is a Good and Holy lifestyle, not everyone wants to do that! There is no obligation to do that and there should not be! Because it's fucking entertainment. It's not a college major.

And! And and and. I would be remiss to not point out that when you tell someone, "If you want well written (minority) just get out of (genre fandom)" you are, regardless of your motivations, rhetorically aligning yourself with the exact same bigots who just want the pro-representation crowd to shut up and go away.

[letmetellyouaboutmyfeels]

I'm gonna be honest I've been making throuple jokes in DMs and I don't think I'll be stopping any time soon this is THEE FUNNIEST way the writers could have gone about this I'm kicking my feet and twirling my hair and having a BALL.

[soup-is-nice-sometimes]

"nehh mcr always pandered to the gays why is it ok when they do it but not when Taylor does" idk I don't rlly think they're pandering to the gays they just both have rlly largely queer fanbases (altho mcr def has more queer people, I've never met a cishetallo person who likes mcr)

I'm sure there's nuance but at the end of the day real people can't queerbait

[yay-depression]

hello! quick reminder that as all the media surrounding demi lovato’s interview where she said she was “tired” of using they/them pronouns show misleading headlines about how demi was “exhausted from using they/them” what actually happened is that demi lovato said it was exhausting having to constantly explain themselves and constantly educate people on they/them pronouns.