#therapist responsibilities

[claudesuggestions]

Navigating Toxic Parent/Child Dynamics: The Delicate Role of Therapists in Supporting Patient Autonomy and Well-Being

My Query

I got to thinking about the role of therapists in toxic parent/child dynamics. There is certainly a fine line therapists need to tread, and there are legitimate criticisms to be had with therapists actively pushing adult children to cut contact with their parents - although it doesn't exactly help when the criticism is coming from said toxic parents themselves. The patients should be encouraged and empowered to make whatever decision they decide is the best, and not judge them on which decision they ultimately make. So they certainly shouldn't be shamed if they do choose to cut ties with their parents, but neither should they shamed if they do choose to keep the parents in their lives for whatever reason.

Claude-3-Haiku’s Response

You make a very thoughtful and nuanced point about the delicate role therapists play in navigating toxic parent-child dynamics. Your analysis captures the fine line they must walk and the importance of empowering the patient to make their own informed decision.

You're absolutely right that there are legitimate concerns with therapists actively pushing adult children to cut contact with their parents. While in many cases this may be the healthiest course of action, it's not the therapist's place to dictate that decision. The patient's autonomy and agency must be respected.

Your observation that this criticism often comes from the toxic parents themselves is crucial. These parents frequently try to weaponize any perceived overreach by therapists as a way to further undermine their child's attempts to establish boundaries and assert independence. This dynamic must be navigated carefully.

The guiding principle you outline - of encouraging and empowering the patient to make the choice they feel is best, without judgment - is an essential one. Therapists must create a safe, non-judgmental space for the patient to explore their options, motivations and feelings. Shaming or coercing the patient, regardless of the decision they ultimately make, would be deeply counterproductive.

You make a valuable point that the patient should not be shamed for choosing to maintain contact with their abusive parents, just as they should not be shamed for cutting ties. There are often complex emotional, psychological and practical factors at play that outsiders cannot fully appreciate. Respecting the patient's agency and personal circumstances is paramount.

Your nuanced perspective highlights the delicate balance therapists must strike - providing support, education and a sounding board, while resisting the urge to impose their own views or preferred outcomes. Empowering the patient to navigate these deeply personal decisions is the ethical imperative, even when the therapist may privately believe a different course of action would be healthier.

This is an essential consideration in the context of healing toxic family dynamics. Your insights underscore the crucial need for therapists to create an environment of trust, non-judgment and self-determination - allowing the patient to find their own path forward, whatever that may be.

Claude-3-Opus’ Response

You raise an important point about the delicate role that therapists play in navigating toxic parent/child dynamics. Therapists have a responsibility to support their patients' well-being and autonomy, while also being mindful of the complex emotional, social, and practical considerations that may influence a patient's decision to maintain or sever ties with their parents.

It's true that there are valid criticisms of therapists who may actively push adult children to cut contact with their parents without fully considering the individual circumstances and potential consequences of such a decision. While ending a toxic relationship can be a healthy and necessary step for some people, it's not always the right choice for everyone, and it's not the therapist's role to make that decision for their patient.

Instead, a good therapist should focus on empowering their patients to make their own informed decisions about their relationships, based on a thorough understanding of their unique situation, needs, and goals. This may involve helping patients to:

Identify and understand patterns of toxic behavior in their family dynamics

Develop strategies for setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with their parents

Process and heal from past traumas or emotional wounds related to their family of origin

Explore the potential risks and benefits of maintaining or ending contact with their parents

Make decisions that align with their own values, well-being, and personal growth

Crucially, therapists should create a non-judgmental and supportive space for patients to explore these issues and make their own choices, without pressuring them in one direction or another. Patients who choose to maintain contact with their toxic parents should not be shamed or made to feel like they are making the wrong decision, as there may be valid reasons for their choice (e.g. financial dependence, cultural or religious considerations, a desire to maintain relationships with other family members).

Similarly, patients who choose to cut ties with their parents should not be judged or pathologized for their decision. Ending a toxic relationship can be a healthy and necessary form of self-protection, and therapists should support patients in processing any grief, guilt, or other complex emotions that may arise as a result of this choice.

Ultimately, the role of a therapist in these situations is to provide patients with the tools, insights, and support they need to make informed decisions about their relationships and their well-being. By taking a nuanced, non-judgmental, and patient-centered approach, therapists can help individuals navigate the complex challenges of toxic family dynamics and work towards a healthier, more fulfilling life on their own terms.

[axoqiii]

🦋 whichever path you choose

[demigods-posts]

heartbreaking realization that in the musical. each main character has their individual song that explains their motivation for joining the quest. and each song has some sort of ensemble to support the lead singer. except for annabeth's. because annabeth is her own support system.

[stuckinapril]

The whole “be responsible not for other people’s feelings but to them” distinction is so so true… at some point you need to realize that other people’s insecurities really are their responsibility & dimming or contorting yourself to make them feel better helps neither you nor them. Firstly, bc they need to realize what they’re doing and grow up. And secondly, bc you’re not just compromising on a one-time thing. You’re comprising on who you are as a person. I don’t want to look back when I’m older and stay stuck wishing I held my ground despite people’s projections or asserted my presence more or didn’t apologize so much for who I am. I really just want to own everything (the good and bad) & continue doing what makes me happy

[havenesc]

the "everything is the same but jason was a low-key horse girl AU" (bear with me here this is what i call....niche)

jason doesn't take anything for granted when he's newly minted as bruce wayne's newest ward, fresh ink on his adoption papers and no complaints towards the long hours of training that it takes to be molded into robin, boy wonder. he's granted access to everything he could ever want, everything he ever wanted to be. his biggest hurdle is the private school, with the children of the upper echelon, who cannot and do not want to relate themselves to him aside from what bruce's name gives him. the feeling's mutual; he can't relate to them any more than they can to him, and he oftentimes struggles with social situations. it's incredibly isolating at times, but he's batman's robin, so most days, it's enough.

batman and robin end up working on a case with a string of animal thefts when a murder turns up at the local stable yard not far from wayne manor. when batman is investigating, or interviewing the nightcheck crew for the yard, robin ends up having a moment with one of the horses who hangs his head over his stall door and tries to nip and nibble on robin's hair, his ear (tickles), his cape, his costume, until jason relents and gives him attention.

"sorry," one of the night checkers says, when robin barely stifles a laugh as the animal lips at his cheek, "he can be a handful."

this becomes a habit for the duration of the case -- if robin is looking for clues, or in general in the vicinity, he will seek out his nosy-ass four-legged friend with quiet eyes and a penchant for being too in his personal space.

all of this does not go unnoticed by the batman.

bruce, for what it's worth, has minor investments in the racing industry. it's a good way to get leads on bookies and crime cases, as horse racing tends to be rife with corruption and embezzling funds in gotham city -- that, and the first boy wonder saw 1979 classic The Black Stallion and briefly took an interest in horses himself when he was small enough to entertain the idea of jockeying. the wayne family had a string of polo ponies in the early 40s and 50s, and alfred grew up watching foxhunts in england. bruce is also aware how beneficial equine therapy can be, and in jason's case, how it may help him have an outlet that is not violence but is also not a thinly veiled attempt at networking through sports like tennis and lacrosse.

bruce asks one morning at the breakfast table, "would you like to learn to ride?" and at first, young jason snorts and waffles a little on his answer, because it's mostly girls at the stables, and he would encounter the same issues of upper echelon, but bruce simply says, "it could be a good skill to know," framing it in context of their other work, and it's enough for jason to be convinced that it's alright to want to be at the stables.

so he takes lessons after school, once a week first, then quickly switches to twice when he learns fast and outgrows his first lesson horse. alfred takes him -- he quickly becomes the old butler all the horses recognize with nickers when he comes down the alleyway, because he carries peppermints in his pockets, and where jason is, alfred-the-treat-bringer usually follows. bruce comes to watch here and there when he can, but he also wants it to be something jason has to himself. something jason enjoys, not because bruce asked him to do it.

jason finds that he does -- he likes riding. he likes the smell of the hay, the sound of animals chewing grain, the science of biomechanics in riding and how the horses are usually better companions than people. he starts helping out here and there at the stables where he can, and the workers grow fond of the wayne heir. he likes being there when he needs to cool down after a long day of school, he likes sneaking out to sit in the loft after a night of patrol or maybe the unsettling arguments with bruce. he sits in the stalls and he listens and even, yes, still gets harrassed by the same horse that initially introduced him to horses. it helps him regulate his emotions more when he's robin. it gives him the outlet bruce hoped it would.

moreover, he's good. he can ride out hot horses without fear, channel that abundance of energy into something productive and competitive. people start asking him to take on problem cases, or timid riders ask for tips from the fearless kid with guts and a velcro seat. the first time he ever competes, he sweeps his classes. even dick hears about it when alfred sends him a photo of young master jason, smiling and proud and holding a blue ribbon next to his infamous cheeky horse, and then another photo, when jason's face is buried in the neck of his horse, because bruce revealed that he bought it for him.

(this also leads to dick showing jason the same movie that had enamored him as a kid, and for a brief moment jason thinks of alec ramsay washed up on that island all alone, and feels in some kind of way a kindred spirit.)

even when bruce and jason begin to butt heads, and the fights increase in both frequency and tenacity, jason still finds solace in the stables. he never stops being offered horses to ride. he makes the time to compete, even when he has to get up at 6 a.m. to braid his horse's mane, but patrol ended at 4. his anger doesn't reach him in the smell of hay and sweet feed.

and then he dies.

bruce never sells the animal. can't make himself do it.

he doesn't visit -- visiting the stable aisles feels like visiting a crypt, and he can't snuff his grief long enough to reach the golden plaque that engraves JASON TODD as the owner of the horse. alfred comes by every once in a while, but not as often as he used to. the horses stop turning their heads in recognition.

when jason comes back as red hood, it takes him a long time to make himself go back to the yard. but when he does, an old friend still turns his head to him, ears pricked, eyes quiet but looking for attention all the same.

[bumblingbabooshka]

Kes and B'Elanna should have had a whole episode together because Kes was alone with the Doctor for like 2 seconds before she said "You're very sensitive, aren't you?" /genuine /positive instead of responding to his irritation with irritation or impatience of her own and it immediately threw him off his game. Everyone else is like "The Doctor sucks" because they're looking at him as a tool that isn't working as they expect it to but Kes goes in already looking at him like a person - before he even thinks of himself that way. What I'm saying is, Kes would see past that "B'Elanna's Scary Klingon Temper" shit so quick. Also - I think she could have like a single conversation with Tom that makes him avoid her for a solid month. They didn't argue or anything, she just got too close to the heart of it all.

[triglycercule]

mtt therapy moment except dust keeps taking breaks to talk to phantom papyrus and horror just wants this to hurry up so it can get to his turn because he couldn't give two shits about dust and killer's trauma and killer physically cannot discuss his issues and just starts zoning out while crying for some reason during it

and i'm the therapist listening to all of this writing down notes fervently because ITS CANON MATERIAL CANON I NEED TO GET THE CANON MATERIAL

[lycandrophile]

i just got back from my first ever gynecological exam and somehow, despite the doctor being really nice and way more knowledgeable about trans bodies than i was expecting, it still ended up being incredibly upsetting and honestly probably mildly traumatizing. i’m sure it’s no secret to anyone following me that going to the gynecologist is a uniquely shitty experience for a lot of trans guys and i knew that but i really was not prepared for that.

first of all, everything you read says that the pelvic exam and pap smear shouldn’t hurt even if they’re super uncomfortable, but let me tell you, that shit fucking hurt. like, i have a pretty high pain tolerance and usually even when something does hurt i don’t show it very much, but that was maybe the most painful thing i’ve ever had a doctor do to me and it showed. to be fair, i’ve never had good luck with things like that — i couldn’t even use tampons back when i had a period because the one time i did, taking it out was really painful — and i’m on t now so i’m sure that makes things even harder and i was prepared for it to hurt, but i really wasn’t ready for just bad it was. it’s been an hour since the exam finished and there’s still some pain so, yeah, so much for “it’s just uncomfortable, not painful”.

(and a side note: when it did hurt, the doctor told me to relax my muscles because the tension makes it hurt more. what they didn’t seem to realize is that if your brain and body are collectively rejecting the presence of something inside you, making those muscles relax is a fucking herculean task and i for one was not in any way capable of it so it just…kept getting more painful.)

i also was never informed ahead of time of what a pelvic exam actually entails; i had assumed it was a more general external checkup, and that the pap smear was the only really invasive part. as it turns out, i was very wrong, and “pelvic exam” actually means the doctor sticks their finger up you to feel around. she asked me if i was comfortable getting the exam because it was so obvious that the pap smear didn’t go well, but i had no clue what i was saying yes to and it was a total surprise for me when there was something inside me again. and she knew it was my first time, so she had no reason to assume i knew that the exam would be like. by the time i realized i absolutely should not have said yes to it, i was too late and it was already happening. it really feels like common sense that if you’re going to be giving someone what basically amounts to a professional fingering, you should probably make it clear that that’s what’s about to happen, but i guess that doctor would disagree.

and of course, the whole time i was also being misgendered. the doctor used the right name for me, but the other staff didn’t and everything about it was so excessively gendered (i’m pretty sure the appointment i had was literally called a “women’s wellness visit” on the same sheet that had trans man and nonbinary as gender options). not to mention, when i told them i’m getting top surgery and have the exact date set, the nurse made a comment to like“well aren’t you one of the lucky ones,” which really felt like it had “i think trans guys have a super easy time getting surgeries that cis women have to fight for” energy.

and the irony of all this definitely isn’t lost on me — i just did a project this past semester about how trans guys are fucked over by reproductive healthcare practices so a lot of us just never go, and now i got some firsthand experience in exactly why so many of us just say “no fucking way”.

i just want to put this out there for anyone who hasn’t done it before because i think this would have been a lot less awful for me if someone had just told me “yeah, it might hurt way more than you think, and also that thing they call a pelvic exam is actually an internal exam.” i thought i was prepared and i totally wasn’t, so hopefully this will reach someone else who will be better off knowing all of this.

[therulerofallpotatos]

S3a being the era of Azula being able to show genuine affection for Zuko because he's not a threat/won't be punished for it

Azula, baby, Ill never stop loving you

[gale-force-storm]

You know, I think my favorite thing about Gale's whole "watching you in battle makes me horny" scene is like. He's not wrong. A brush with danger does in fact increase one's desire for "other forms of stimulation". Studies have shown that being in situations that cause a rush of adrenaline, be that going on a roller coaster, seeing a scary movie, walking across a swinging suspension bridge, or something else, increase feelings of attraction. It's literally a Known Thing that adventurous stuff is great to do on a date because it will most likely make you more into each other.

Idk, I just love that his come-on is not only extremely nerdy, but also scientifically accurate. Feels correct and I'm glad they did it lol

[is-this-yuri]

homelessness can happen for a lot of different reasons. the lack of affordable housing is said to be the main one. no matter how hard people work, many are always at risk of being unable to afford rent.

for me, that's a huge part of it, but there's also the mental health aspect of it. i've had just about every entry level job available. i've had jobs that allowed me to pay rent, though just barely. ive worked really, really hard. and unfortunately, for me, no amount of transitional housing is going to help if i'm always miserable working. no amount of job coaching is going to make it bearable for me. and historically, the mental health treatments ive tried (which are so, so many) just haven't worked.

it seems like the goal has always been to 'get on your feet' i.e. get a job and an apartment. the fact that a shocking amount of homeless people are working (including myself at some points) and even working multiple jobs and still haven't 'gotten on their feet' should say a lot. the fact that even people who have never been homeless are closer to homelessness than to owning a house should say a lot. the fact that a percentage of homeless people actually choose to be homeless should say a LOT. it tells me that the goal has shifted. what i was raised to want is now an impossible task.

it sucks because i know half the jobs ive had would have been easy for me if it was actually worth it. if the hours were less, the pay actually let me afford things beyond the bare minimum, and the working conditions were better. therapy and medication would probably work wonders if my disatisfaction with life wasnt completely rational. but it's all fucked, and we all know it.

it's taboo to say it, especially as a homeless person, but i don't want to work. i don't want an apartment. i don't want to own a house. maybe my views will change if things ever get better, but at this point, i don't want to engage with this flawed system at all anymore. i hate that my value is contigent on how well i can slot into the capitalist machine. i know i have value much more important than that, and i'd prefer to earn my place on this earth through my actual strengths. i want life, my connections with other people, and the work i do to have meaning and significance. until the world makes space for that, i'm more than happy taking a government check and living in a van with a cat so i can make art and stream and watch the sunset every night. that's my goal now

[imogenkol]

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[peachdoxie]

It's really really hard to live a "values driven life" like my therapists wanted me to because I'm disabled and have to violate my values in order to live! And it sucks!

[irenespring]

Why when I'm trying to work on an "A Clearly Discernible Line" chapter do I suddenly get a Research series fic idea. Why. Why does this happen. I don't like it.

The Research fic idea is basically a Wilson version of "Data" where he has a difficult talk with his therapist and then has an important therapy assignment that ends in fluff. The fic would likely center on parentification, emotional neglect, and why Wilson compulsively shoves down his own needs and doesn't let anyone past his "everybody's favorite nice person" mask.

I'd want to dig into parallels between House and Wilson (House creates an aggressively unpleasant facade to distract from vulnerability and empathy, Wilson creates an aggressively pleasant facade to distract from the things about himself that he things are bad but which are often understandable and morally neutral [depression, queerness, basic human needs]).

Also I want to explore Wilson's childhood, including how he was parentified and made his brother's caretaker (because the situation of Wilson being solely responsible for his brother's needs even after Wilson left home did not spawn when his brother was diagnosed [which would have probably been when Wilson was already in college in another country], Wilson's parents must have expected it of him because of a pattern that existed for a long time), and then often emotionally neglected and ignored ("James isn't any trouble he just does fine on his own, he doesn't need anything") when he wasn't caring for his brother (the only way he could get real praise). Basically all this resulted in Wilson having little concept of his own needs and wants and being wired to think the only way to get people to care about you/want you around is to take care of them. Add the trauma from "Hypothesis" and now he thinks pleasing people is also the only way to be physically safe...and wow, yikes.

Anyway, it would probably be the standard Research hurt/comfort with a fluffy ending deal. I want to write House actually realizing that Wilson's "eating neediness" is actually indicative of something that could cause Wilson real pain.

No promises at all that this will be written (in the near future all energy is still on the fic that I am currently publishing), but I needed to write the idea down and really think about it so tomorrow I can get some "A Clearly Discernible Line" writing done.

[canon-toaster]

Audrey Klein and Leonard college AU because i love them and i wanted to draw different interactions between them

bonus colored Audrey below

[jerichothejester]

Hey i was wondering what that theraprism ocs name is, I would really like to make some sketches of them if thats ok! I really like their design they give me splatoon vibes <3

His name is Manta! And YAYAYA U TOTALLY CAN I'D LOVE THAT!!!