#the transphobia being the worst

[trans-androgyne]

I feel a lot of belief that “trans women obviously have it worse than trans men” it comes from assuming men & women are opposites & that their experiences must be opposite as well. As in, if trans women experience one thing, trans men must experience the opposite—but that’s not how it works in practice. Trans women being demonized and sexualized doesn’t mean trans men aren’t as well. Trans women feeling less safe after transition doesn’t mean trans men feel more safe. And transmasculinity being considered disgusting mutilation doesn’t translate to the opposite for transfemininity! I just wish we would stop comparing experiences as though they can be quantified & pitted against one another.

[uncanny-tranny]

I'm going to preface this by saying that I have really complex feelings about this, and much of it is inspired by my personal experiences and a bit of learning about what other trans people experience. If I come across as messy, it is because of these reasons.

There's this unshakable feeling I have that when allies and even other trans people talk about trans people, transition and motivation for transition, and anything related to such, that there's only certain things that x type of trans person can (and should) experience and talk about.

Like, when people talk about FtMs/trans men/transmasc people, a common idea is that we're motivated to transition to game the system, to manipulate people into treating us better because we're now seen as men. A huge reason I never even bought into that idea is because, since transition (especially medical), I have been treated worse than I ever have been. Since transitioning and being on testosterone, I've been catcalled, had people insist I hand my number over, and I have to emphasize that I've never experienced these things until a couple of years ago (to clarify, this was in my real, corporeal life). I honestly can say that, while transition has saved my life and soul, I am treated worse by others than I ever had been pre-transition. However, because the idea of transmascs is that "they were victims of misogyny and they only want to escape it through transition" is popular even among some trans people, I feel like it's almost... taking something away by acknowledging that. Add to this that I'm white and that TPoC have so many experiences that intertwine with race, and that race absolutely goes into how trans people are treated.

I am not saying that my experience is the only valid or true one. I am very aware that I'm probably an outlier. However, I just notice that, time and time again, people hear what they want to hear about transness, and if people have even slightly different points of view from their experiences, it doesn't matter, or worse, those people are duplicitous and conniving.

[mag200]

this doesnt like, make for a funny witty internet story or whatever but its worth the reminder if someone harasses you in public you don't have to like, have a good snarky comeback or defend yourself you're allowed to just do what you gotta do and quietly remove yourself from the situation. maybe this is common sense but i do think it can get lost in all the noise so im saying it anyway. like this is applicable to many things but i'm personally speaking from my experience as a trans person if someone's yelling some shit at me in a public bathroom. you know. maybe you want to irl kungpowpenis them or whatever but its a choice, you don't have to. sometimes it is more important that you just survive. this like anything takes practice.

[scarah-screeeaaammss]

everyday I see a comment or tags on a monster high post where someone has so clearly missed the entire point of the message of monster high and it makes me wanna yank my own hair out

[fernisfat]

Lowkey worried this is going to come across as rude which isn't the intent but I don't know else to phrase it. What is your...genitals situation? I want to subscribe to you but I can't tell what direction you're transitioning in and I don't want to spend $5 to find out you have a dick. Nothing against transfem people I'm just not attracted to that.

Well you were right to be worried Jesus Christ 😬 Don’t even worry about subscribing actually just go ahead and block me. Maybe send me that five dollars as an apology first though

[butchdykekondraki]

kind of obsessed w this snippet of an ask i got . do you have any idea who youre talking to right now

[tirfpikachu]

i guess while you're studying the blade i shall protect dysphoric people in my humongous blanket full of secrets and treasures and awesome foreign snacks that i totally bought with real money

[vulpixelates]

YEESH my drafts are truly a salt mine lmao i really am so much happier living in my own little bubble w a handful of other lesbians huh 💀

[furballfaggot]

still no proper dni but if you watch turkey tom get away from my blog

[dreamquestofunknownkadath]

There was this post I saw a while back whose general gist was something along the lines of “Autistic men totally have it way worse than autistic women because there’s no female equivalent of the ‘neckbeard basement dweller’ stereotype!’,” a statement that is absolutely baffling to me because…were you on the Internet in the early tens at all? 

The Making Fun of Awkward Nerds Industrial Complex absolutely did not spare women in the slightest. You could go onto the image boards, or encyclopedia dramatica, or later on, reddit, and find hundreds of posts and articles and threads mocking female nerds for being “cringe,” having interests like anime and cosplay, lacking social skills, and, because the extra layer of misogyny was at play here, the ultimate crime a woman can commit, being fat, “ugly,” or otherwise unattractive to the people mocking them… many of whom were fat awkward (male) nerds lacking in social skills themselves, because that was just the nature of the userbase of these sites. Have you never heard the name “Pixiteri”? 

To refute OP’s point more literally, yes, there was a female equivalent to “neckbeard,” and it was “hambeast.” Yeah. And all of this was just what was directed at cis women— not even touching on the profound transmisogyny that permeated these spaces. 

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly, I always find it weird how many instances I've seen of cis people wanting a token trans friend who, in reality, is self-loathing enough to hate their own existance and see cisness as the ideal. It's almost like a power-trip fantasy to find a trans person who despises either the way they are treated or their existance just to prove to themself that the only existance that's meaningful is a cis one.

And you can tell which cis person wants to meet token trans people if you don't give them the satisfaction of being the self-despising trans person, or even if you aren't completely self-hating.

[deliciousmicroplastics]

genuinely so pissed about gender reveal parties like what if your kid was intersex? what if they turned out trans? you cannot predict the type of person they will grow up to be and frankly it is revolting that cis people throw parties about genitalia and legislate the rest of us into the closet

[watermelonflavoredwrath]

Do not let them take you.

Do not let them steal your life.

They want us dead.

They want us all dead.

They want to crush us under their boots so freshly licked by cowards.

So live.

Live to spite them.

Live to be another voice screaming the truth so we might be heard

Live and protect each other.

Live.

Please live.

Do not let them steal your life.

Do not let them take you.

[rolandkaros]

nobody has any obligation to read this i just need to rant. not directed just general feelings that i'm feeling.

genuinely one of the most disheartening things is to constantly realize how few cis people are really aware of the pervasiveness of transphobia. like i live in one of the furthest left lgbtq+ cities in america and i go about my day assuming everyone i meet is transphobic until proven otherwise. and some of that is definitely paranoid but a lot of it is from my own experiences with coworkers, fellow students, roommates, friends, healthcare providers etc..

and i think there's also this genuine air about a lot of cis people where, they're okay with trans people as long as we stay in our corner and don't get too close. i think all the time, if you are cis and you call yourself an ally...how would you feel if your sibling came out? your parent? your best friend? how would you feel if you had a kid and your kid came out to you as trans? would that be hard for you?

because in truth i think there are a lot of cis people who don't acknowledge how uncomfortable they are with transness, and i can support this with my own experiences because i've had multiple people who i've come out to tell me later that they weren't really on board with my transness at first, they didn't like it, felt uncomfortable, etc., but over time they grew to be accepting. meanwhile, when i came out to them they called themselves allies and claimed to be fully accepting and supported.

so idk, i'm sitting here like, is it really that surprising that these sportspeople are transphobic? and how is it that so few people were aware? i mean i remember saville literally retweeted something transphobic like two months ago (and then deleted it) and it seemed to go totally under the radar even though it was all over my twitter feed.

and i understand a lot of it may just be the algorithm, because as a trans person i will get more trans news. but it still sucks because i feel like trans people are so often left to fight our own battles, and then cis people come in and are like 'omg this sucks! i can believe this is happening to you! this is so surprising to me, i'm so disappointed!' like where have you been? why is it surprising? why is it disappointing? have you seen the atmosphere around trans people in the world right now? it's been like this the whole time and it's getting worse.

and again i don't blame people for not knowing but i guess it just sucks to hear over and over again that people find it surprising. so much casual transphobia goes unchecked, i've just come to expect it as a part of day to day life. it's only natural that it permeates sports, especially with how aggressive the transmisogyny is getting. and so many cis people just have no concept of it. i get that it's just the nature of it, it's not necessarily anybody's fault. but again, it just sucks to realize that something that affects trans people so much so often is just not on a lot of cis people's radar 90% of the time.

[negativepeanuthoarder]

Looking at twitter has me all:

[gaylittleguys]

am I being cursed or something why do people keep tagging/commenting my art saying that it’s a different thing than it is.