#the help

[thejakeformerlyknownasprince]

Reading Visser One’s book she always strikes me as one of those white women settlers that wanted to “save” Native Children from their culture.

This led to the Stolen Generation in Australia and residential schools in North America.

Heck when we see her in the series she is literally piloting a women of color’s body and cosplaying motherhood.

She thinks she is so much better then the colonist that want to just burn up villages.

She’s a white women liberal putting on a gentler face to what is at its end brutal colonialism.

It’s worth noting that alien invasions have been metaphors for colonization since War of the Worlds

I completely agree. There's a blog post I can't now find about older white women reacting to The Help by talking about how their housekeepers, nannies, cooks, etc. were "part of the family." Which — first of all, no. Your employee is your employee. The rights and respect you owe to your employee will always be different from those you owe to your family. Do not devalue their work, and thus the traditional work of women, by pretending that it isn't labor. But secondly...

"We're friends" or "we're family" sure is easy to say from a position of power. Anyone short on power but long on common sense understands the importance of ingratiating yourself to those in charge. Anyone in charge can choose to delude themself that this time when the kid goes "I love you, Miss Hannigan" they mean it. Such is the nature of power.

Like, one I think about all the time: my professor whom we called Professor Trelawney behind her back because she would constantly spout pseudoscience in class. She's not the least favorite teacher I've ever had, but she's on the short list — and on the day I graduated, she introduced herself to a family member as "Sol's one of my favorite students, and I'm probably Sol's favorite teacher." Why? Because I got her to think that. Why'd I do so? Because the semester before, Dr. W had knocked down my grade for "irrelevant discussion" after I argued with his statement that Ireland should still be ruled by England. I keep Dr. W, and the subsequent effect on Prof Trelawney, as my touchstone when I'm handling student conflict. Because. Such. Is the nature. Of power.

As people pointed out after watching Crash: any rich lady can hug her housekeeper any time she's feeling sad, and the worst the housekeeper can do is quit. Most housekeepers with any grasp of social norms wouldn't hug even their favorite boss even on her worst day, at least not without first getting explicit permission. Such is the nature of power.

And these are all softer examples, of positions that you have the legal right to walk away from. (Whether or not you can afford to quit your job is obviously a whole other ballgame.) When it's not just school or work, but it's your guardian or the person who literally owns you... Fuck. Kiss ass or die, I guess.

And if you want concessions, you'd better put in all the emotional work to get them. You have to be sad about being less powerful than the help-giver, but not too sad. You have to be completely helpless in the face of random misfortune, or else you don't deserve help. You have to be grateful when the help arrives, in such a way that makes it clear the helper mad your problem all better but that your problem was completely intractable without their intervention. Most of all, you better do it with a smile: I love you, Miss Hannigan.

[jamiextartt]

FILMS WATCHED IN 2025: 10. The Help (2011)

[without-ado]

“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”

l Kathryn Stockett, The Help

[why-i-love-comics]

The Penguin #11 - "Penguins (Usually) Can't Fly" (2024)

written by Tom King art by Rafael De Latorre & Marcelo Maiolo

[grits-galraisedinthesouth]

Meghan Markle & her 12+ bags arrived in Santa Barbara via a Boeing jumbo jet. Great idea having them as a sponsor. (Video)

I wondered how many suitcases were required to transport nearly a dozen brand new winter coats to the Games.

The Daily Mail has the video footage of the jet arriving in Santa Barbara. How was she there for five (5) days?

Flight on Feb 11th from Vancouver to Seattle to Santa Barbara

Did they arrive on Friday? Flight on Feb 7th from Santa Barbara to Vancouver

Canadair jets lease for $8,000 per hour.

Video:

She didn't even bother to carry 1 of her dozen new coats off the plane. She left it for the help. Several shopping bags, 4+trunks, xtra large duffle (maybe security/driver). 🤦‍♂️

Nice Vacation

"Prince Harry and Meghan had an early Valentine's dinner date with close friends Michael Buble and his wife Luisana. The two couples spent over two hours at an Italian restaurant after they completed their first full day of engagements in the ski resort. The dinner date was at the upmarket Il Caminetto where they spent Valentine's Day last year during a two-day event to promote the Invictus Games. 

People Magazine: The couple have been warmly welcomed by friends and family of the competitors as well as skiers who are in the resort for a holiday. They delighted a 1,000 strong crowd at a celebration event to open the games in Whistler where competitors will take part in adaptive winter sports, such as the skeleton and biathlon.

SECURITY

Plans were not given in advance for security reasons, and a source close to the couple said: 'This was always planned. Meghan is going home to be with her children.

'Meghan left the Games in Dusseldorf early after five days to go home. This is Prince Harry's event and she is there to support him, but this was planned. 'It comes after Meghan was said to have told fans at a wheelchair basketball game in Vancouver on Sunday that she was missing her children. Harry meanwhile, will stay in Canada to watch the rest of the tournament for injured service personnel and veterans, which will end with Sunday's closing ceremony. While this means the couple will be apart on Valentine's Day this Friday, aides said that Meghan had always planned to leave and let Harry attend the remaining events solo."

[five-milfs-and-a-twink]

PATTI LUPONE FANS

I just found a part of her website with a list of books and a few albums that she loves, figured I'd share :)

https://www.pattilupone.net/picks_links.html

AND ALSO

I've never been more proud to be a cellist

[ohjamescook]

get to know me ♡ [8] favorite movies ♡ the help (2011)

♡You is kind. You is smart. You is important.♡

[lamorchemoveilsoleelaltrestelle]

Jessica Chastain in The Help (2011)

[spacius]

movie quotes bios 💋

directed by (your favorite director)

may the force be with you

- from star wars (1977)

i’ve a felling we’re not in kansas (your city/country) anymore

- from the wizard of oz (1939)

there’s no place like home

- from the wizard of oz (1939)

make your lives extraordinary

- from dead poets society (1989)

as if!

- from clueless (1995)

after all, tomorrow is another day!

- from gone with the wind (1939)

you is kind. you is smart. you is important.

- from the help (2011)

just keep swimming

- from finding nemo (2003)

no matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.

- from dead poets society (1989)

o captain! my captain!

- from dead poets society (1989)

i'm american (your nationality), honey. our names don't mean shit.

i’m the king (or queen) of the world!

- from titanic (1997)

the things you own end up owning you.

- from fight club (1999)

the first rule of fight club is: you do not talk about _____ ____

- from fight club (1999)

i may not always be right, but i am never wrong.

- from little women (2019)

i can't get over my disappointment at being a girl.

- from little women (2019)

[cadillacdeville]

Célia & Johnny

[feelslikesugarin-me]

Celia Foote was a coquette icon

[lovedpoetical-ly]

The Best Movies I Have Ever Watched

meet the robinsons

stuck in love

sundays at tiffanys

my girl

the perks of being a wallflower

all the bright places

a portrait of a lady on fire

freedom writers

everyones hero

the great gilly hopkins

the help

seven pounds

deja vu

silver linings playbook

what happened to monday

collateral beauty

my first summer

the world to come

elisa & marcela

shutter island

[why-i-love-comics]

The Penguin #2 (2023)

written Tom King art by Rafael De Latorre & Marcelo Maiolo

[nellarw95]

Happy Birthday Jessica 🥳🎂🎈🎁🎉

March 24,1977

Buon Compleanno 🥳🎂🎈🎁🎉

24 Marzo 1977