#thats why poly am is a thing for me. i love my partners and I dont want to change them i dont want to force all this on them
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lupismaris · 4 months ago
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#nothing makes me truly reaffirm my commitment to being poly like the day after a rugby match#i love my bf. i love them wholly and truly for who they are. i dont want them to change outside of healing. y'know that being the best you.#but i dont want them to be someone else. so the fact theyre not a coddling caregiver isnt something I'm ever going to change in them.#they bring me coffee and check in on me and set reminders for my meds and tell me when they have to leave for errands with mum#but they always have to see to other responsibilities because they are that person.#and I love them for that. i love them for being a dutiful son and a pragmatic foreman who prepares for the week.#what does this have to do with polyam james you may ask? well ill tell you-#im learning as i have been for a while now#that as i am a chief caregiver for many ppl in my life including bf and now the ruggers (im a board member)#i deeply deeply DEEPLY want/need care when im in crisis or at a low point and theres no low point quite like post match#when your systems are coming down from adrenaline and everything fuckin hurts like hell and whats worse you're injured#im not good at being taken care of i acknowledge that. but to be coddled and handled with care rn?#have someone to sit with me and make me food and eat with me and help me stay tethered and hold me a bit and smoke with me#idk not even in a sex sense just to be held and cared for#thats why poly am is a thing for me. i love my partners and I dont want to change them i dont want to force all this on them#certain needs can be met by certain ppl in certain ways etc but love is love it is always love its just shown differently#as i was writing this bf called to say he was bringing home nonalc beer for me. i know he loves me. i know he cares. it's just different.#tbd im so very tired and achy and weepy today dont mind me#the match was great for the squad but im not thrilled with myself#hence wanting to curl up in a hole and not come out
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cassidyysbg · 5 months ago
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☆•The best idol•☆
{This was requested Btw. I hope you like it and this is my first so sorry if you didnt like it.}
^Idol!FEM!reader x poly!SBG^
Warnings: violence (not much tho),FEM!reader being an icon.
Before you read:
• the group is in a romantic relation ship with reader.
• reader plays the leader as the singer (the rest of the group are oc's) keila plays drums , Elizabeth plays guitar '1' and cassie plays guitar '2' .
It had been a few weeks since y/n has told her lovers and their parents about her career and relationship, and honestly, things have been great. Y/N felt a lot more confident in practice without the guilt of bailing on her partners and her future parent in laws and not providing a sufficient reason why. Y/n and her group were about to enter the stage for her first encore with her group 'dr3amy' with their debut album "girls never die." She inhaled deeply and let the breath out through her nose as the lights of the stage lit up.
Y/n's POV:
My group goes ahead of me To start our song. Before i go on stage my eyes travels the crowd of people To find my lovers and their parents. I find them in front of the crowd. A smile forming on my face as i take another deep breath and go on stage with my group waiting for me. I look at my hand mates (or friends) with a big smile on their face showing that they're happy.
I go on stage with my big doe eyes filled with joy and excitement i went To the front of the stage To grab my microphone to start my first song 'woke up' by xg (i know its a kpop song but just imagine its not lmao) another deep breath ( this is like the 3 time-) and start singing.
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When im in the middle part of the song i started To have a weird feeling in my stomac but i ignore it because I just thought it was anxiety💅 and continued To sing.
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My feeling got worst and i think 'why am i feeling like something is going To happend?' And when i look i look at the corner of my eye i see barron with a smug look on its face.
'What the-?' Im more worried like 'what is he doing here?' And when he lifts up his right hand my worried was confirmed. 'I knew something bad was going To happen!'
He was holding a knife. And he was going To throw it at me, he throws it and im happy i was alerted because that went towards my neck and fast too.
So when it goes a little close To my neck i catch it and stopped singing. I was mad , no Furious! Like how dare he ruin my performance!?
The crowd stops like its dead quiet. Everyone is in complete shock. Thats normal who throws a knife at an idol?
I look at the knife with no expression and then look barron dead in the eye that could hunt you in your nightmares. No one has never seen her so mad before even in the phantom realm.
She throws the knife back at barron but just far away To cut his left cheek.
Tyler was in complete shock but kinda proud.
Taylor was also in shock.
Logan sweatdroped and went all nervous but still proud.
Aiden falled in love with her all over again
Ben was proud. He knew it was coming.
Ashlyn was in the same emotion as tyler.
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sleepysoubrette · 9 months ago
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about me
> ᐨ Personal
> 🫀 Name - batz (or odette)
> 💒 Age - 22
> 🔨 Pronouns - she/it
> 💞 Gender - possessed magical girl
> 🧠 Sexuality - enm/poly grey neptunic lesbian
> 🫖 -shit poster, working on my mental illness haver, vaper & weed smoker, good cat parent, i dont believe in cringe culture but its girly pop we're all just just built different yknow. im not afraid to block someone to protect my peace, without warning
ᐨ Other Info
℘ Siblings - @vellex-23 @jessashrr
@stxrwalker
> ᐨ Basics
> 🎟 Likes - comics, 420, sunshine , manga and anime, adorable and goth aesthetics, video games, reading, learning
> 🩰 Dislikes - bigoted people, people ignoring my boundaries, feeling unheard, most social situations
> 🥩 Comforts - poison ivy, nana, my cat, birds of prey, fruits basket, sailor moon, sanrio, psychological horror anime
ᐨ Boundaries
⩩ DMs - ask
⩩ Nicknames - yes
⩩ Flirting - ask
> ᐨ Extras
> 🍨 - my favorite books are perfect (ellen hopkins) the merciless (danielle vega) and the catcher in the rye (jd salinger)
> 🪞 - my favorite movies are the possession, anything dc, alice in wonderland, black swan, the twilight franchise, and perfect blue
> 🔪 - tone is extremely hard for me to understand, please try and use tone tags if you can
> 🫐 - my social battery is not very good, if i don’t respond its not you, my social battery is just dead
> 🪻 - i am obsessed with comic books and always love a good info dump
> 🦢 - i am a multi-fictive and the host of a system if you’re a fake claimer go touch grass and get the fuck off my shit.
> 🎠 - our system name is the oracle system, but as a collective we use the name odette. other accounts are comatosecoquette tiredtemptress fatiguedflirt. we are a monoconsious traumagenic system! because of this we tend to identify as one being. so when talking to us you are not talking to individual alters, but rather all of us at once. we identify as a conversation, and thats why you wont catch us using any proxys! we tend to flip flop back and forth between plural and singular pronouns for us. we are collectively poly as well and taken by our amazing partner (080920) !! do not fake claim us, just block, or you can and we'll block you we really don't care. speaking of not caring, whatever your system origin you're valid!! its almost like being a system is caused by intense dissociation that causes you to forget things (like trauma) to protect you and that trauma is extremely relative or something <3
> 👛 - twitter
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cumulonimbuns · 1 year ago
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hi, yesterday i stumbled across the knights self-destruction and got so hooked i stayed up until it was three in the morning and my head hurt and i physically couldnt keep reading, and now ive caught all the way up. i am so obsessed with everything, im always a slut for angst and thats what i initially clicked for but my GOSH i am so digging the relationships between zelda and link and sidon and yona and yona and link especially. i am so so so overjoyed to see link and zeldas relationship portrayed in such a queerplatonic-feeling way, being in a qpr myself. this fic may have had a hand in making me realize me being some flavor of poly so thanks for that. i adore the zora worldbuilding youve done with the distinction between heart and treasure and how both of these are so deeply committed and emotional ways of feeling towards one another. and GOSH the angsty scenes were delicious. yona is a riot, and i am so in love with her portrayal. much like link i fucking need zelda to see this.
and just when i thought more bliss wasnt possible i find your blog and see your wonderful art of this story.
also the scene with link breaking down in yonas arms and him wresting with the gang have my heart even though my all time favorite is the sages reactions to links breakdown and his reaction to them seeing him. also link telling zelda about what clouds feel like. god im just HGN. i am never getting my brain back to normal from this. have a nice day.
I MEANT TO RESPOND TO THIS AGES AGO BUT GOT BUSY. SO SORRY BOUT THAT!
First of all, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! This made me very happy to read <3
I too am a slut for angst. I love to be hurt, but also need me that comfort. Which is why you all can take the solace in the fact that no story of mine will have an unhappy ending. SAD ENDINGS ARE FINE, I JUST CAN’T DO IT. I am not strong enough. I inflict much hurt but in the end it will be taken care of.
I’m glad the QPR vibes came across how I wanted them too!! I’ve always viewed/treated qpr’s with the same importance as romantic relationships bc they are!! So each pairing is as committed to one another as they would be to a romantic partner. It’s just how they express that love and some of the vibes are different. Another thing I’m so happy about is that you totally get where my brain was coming from with the ‘some flavor of poly’ bc in a way that’s exactly what’s happening. Like I said, qpr’s are just as valid and important as a romantic relationship, so there are some poly negotiations that goes down with all that. Making sure everyone is on the same page, comfortable, and agreeing.
It’s a bit hilarious how obsessed I’ve become with Yona. Nintendo barely gave us anything for this woman so I decided to run wild. Now I am completely insane with the amount of love I have for her, and it literally all stems from the fact I’ve turned her into my own character with all the random hc i threw on her at this point lmao. And I too need Zelda and Yona to meet.
And thank you so much for stopping by my blog to say hi and compliment my writing/art! It’s rlly made me smile. (And don’t worry, my brain is never returning to normalcy after this lmao, TOTK fan fiction/art has changed me as a person)
Here’s a lil doodle for you to show my appreciation (and a sorry for taking so long to respond fdhfhf, i know you probably don’t care, but I do)
<3<3<3<3 HOPE YOU HAVE A LOVELY DAY OR NIGHT!!! <3<3<3<3
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coeurify · 2 years ago
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I'm not sure how to word some of these things and make them make sense so bear with me please. My partner for over a year has been polyamirous and I knew that before we started dating, I personally am not but it has never bothered me up until now, like I love them but lately no matter what I do or try to talk abt it's always about the new partner. A little over a month ago was our one year and we normally would spend that day or weekend together for like date nights and things like that, but last month it's almost like they forgot? Like I texted them and asked if we were going to stay at my place or theirs and they just asked what I meant and at first I thought they were just fucking with me but then later that day they posted with their new partner and captioned it like really sappy I guess? Like it was more than they have given me in the past few months. I'm not necessarily jealous I guess I'm more so upset. I've tried talking to them about how I feel and they either brush it off or just completely ignore me, and I know that new partners are exciting and all but it just makes me super sad. And not only did they miss our one year but also my birthday and everything since then. I know this makes them sound horrid but they are truly an amazing person. I wouldn't be involved with them if they weren't. I feel like they lost interest and then the next day they are all over me, I asked them to explain a couple of things about our relationship and they just kept going on and on about this partner. I don't want to end things but it seems like they don't really care for how I feel anymore? I'm not sure what to do and they won't talk to me about what they want to do either so I'm just sitting here pondering life and crying.
mean this in the sweetest way, but fuck them. you do not sound horrid at all for talking abt how you feel and being upset. they forgot important dates (LIKE HUGE ONES!!) to talk about their new partner. it isnt the poly part thats the issue, its how they handle the relationships and how they treat YOU. being poly doesnt mean they can treat you like shit to obsess over the new person. if they wont communicate with you and hear you out, it may be good to take a step back. try again, a serious conversation where u are honest about how everything has made you feel. if they cant handle that or be mature and converse with you, let them go. you deserve better than that. you deserve as much time as someone can give, you deserve to feel loved and wanted. ik you love them, snd thats why you should try your best to talk though it.. but if they cant do that, it isnt worth it. im sending sm love and hugs babe
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fatiguedflirt · 9 months ago
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about me
> ᐨ Personal
> 🫀 Name - christina (or odette)
> 💒 Age - adult
> 🔨 Pronouns - she/it
> 💞 Gender - possessed magical girl
> 🧠 Sexuality - enm/poly grey neptunic lesbian
> 🫖 -shit poster, working on my mental illness haver, vaper & weed smoker, good cat parent, i dont believe in cringe culture but its girly pop we're all just just built different yknow. im not afraid to block someone to protect my peace, without warning
ᐨ Other Info
℘ Siblings - @vellex-23 @jessashrr
@stxrwalker
> ᐨ Basics
> 🎟 Likes - comics, 420, sunshine , manga and anime, adorable and goth aesthetics, video games, reading, learning
> 🩰 Dislikes - bigoted people, people ignoring my boundaries, feeling unheard, most social situations
> 🥩 Comforts - poison ivy, nana, my cat, birds of prey, fruits basket, sailor moon, sanrio, psychological horror anime
ᐨ Boundaries
⩩ DMs - ask
⩩ Nicknames - yes
⩩ Flirting - ask
> ᐨ Extras
> 🍨 - my favorite books are perfect (ellen hopkins) the merciless (danielle vega) and the catcher in the rye (jd salinger)
> 🪞 - my favorite movies are the possession, anything dc, alice in wonderland, black swan, the twilight franchise, and perfect blue
> 🔪 - tone is extremely hard for me to understand, please try and use tone tags if you can
> 🫐 - my social battery is not very good, if i don’t respond its not you, my social battery is just dead
> 🪻 - i am obsessed with comic books and always love a good info dump
> 🦢 - i am a multi-fictive and the host of a system if you’re a fake claimer go touch grass and get the fuck off my shit.
> 🎠 - our system name is the oracle system, but as a collective we use the name odette. other accounts are sleepysoubrette tiredtemptress comatosecoquette. we are a monoconsious traumagenic system! because of this we tend to identify as one being. so when talking to us you are not talking to individual alters, but rather all of us at once. we identify as a conversation, and thats why you wont catch us using any proxys! we tend to flip flop back and forth between plural and singular pronouns for us. we are collectively poly as well and taken by our amazing partner (080920) !! do not fake claim us, just block, or you can and we'll block you we really don't care. speaking of not caring, whatever your system origin you're valid!! its almost like being a system is caused by intense dissociation that causes you to forget things (like trauma) to protect you and that trauma is extremely relative or something <3
> 👛 - twitter
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kledface · 10 months ago
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I just need to get something off my chest cause im confused and i don't know what to do and i don't even know if i should do something and i don't know if im a bad person for this and i feel weird.
To start this off, i struggle to tell the difference for myself between platonic and romantic love, like, i deeply love my friends, but its in a friendly way, but like, its no different from how i would treat my partner, yknow. I struggle to know if there's a difference between the love i have for my friends and the love i have for my partners, but putting the name partners on it makes it feel more defined and it makes me massively stressed and i don't know if thats because of anxiety from my last relationships or if im not relationship material or what. I think my friend is hitting on me and i don't know why and i don't know what to do because like i love her but i dont know if its like that like i definitely wouldn't mind but she's with another one of my friends and granted i think they're both poly i have no idea if he would even be okay with it or if im reading too deep into this and like sure he's got other partners too but i think she's only with him so she could be monogamous and just cool with him being poly like i don't know and i don't get it but she says things in gaelic that are like i love you and my love to me and i dont know if she's being overly friendly or if this really is the case like she doesn't say these things to anyone else that I've seen so maybe its just a really close friendship? But she's also made other comments in other places when i marked that maybe i wished i had someone to cuddle me in a private place and i just wanted to get it off my chest and she made comments that she would totally cuddle me but like, i don't know, i feel dumb for questioning this but i just don't get it and i don't want to hurt her or let her down gods know i dont want to pursue something because im still hurting from the longest relationship i was ever in and im terrified of something like that happening again i'd absolutely hate if she got hurt and i wasn't able to stop it again and we don't even live in the same state as each other so gods know, i didn't want another relationship let alone a long distance one but if she said something i don't think I'd want to say no and its not like a oh this will strain our friendship and let her down thing i genuinely wouldn't mind pursuing something with her but i don't know if its a part of me that is actually interested in her that way or if it would just be for the fuck of it and i hate how confusing it is i just want to understand and i don't want to say something and sound like a self absorbed asshole even though i probably am and i hate that about myself but i also don't want to say nothing and make her feel like im leading her on because i genuinely love her but i don't understand the signals and i don't understand myself and i dont know if i want help i just need to get it out
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devondespresso · 1 year ago
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thanks for the tag love! doing mine in a reblog because theres no way im remembering all these tropes lol
Age Gap: -2
i feel like this tag just tells you what the author thinks age gap means like sometimes its 5 years and sometimes its 30. not for me if it feels like theres a power imbalance in romantic relationships. i don't think anyone actually tags age gap for friendships
Codependency: 10
im a platonic stobin bitch babeyyy of course a codependency tag is a green flag. fandoms definition of it is more just mutually very clingy as opposed to actual irl or unbalanced codependency
obsession/possessive/jeleous: 0
it can be done well or done really wrong. im all for a good "that's MY funky fella" when related to trauma (again stobin) but a lot of romantic possessiveness has the potential to go really disrespectful to the partner? like they can have friends either calm down or get run over please (its only really that bad if the story pretends this is cute or romantic and not severe dick behavior)
opposites (grumpy/sunshine etc): -1
doesn't really direct my focus but i am wary of making characters one personality trait to fit the aesthetic
Enemies to lovers: 0
eh. depends on the author and can be really good (characters expanding their worldview and growing) or really bad (why are you attracted to them? after everything they did? please just date x side character instead they're actually nice to you)
sex to feelings: nah
i can't handle nsfw anymore so im not reading this but it makes sense to me
fake dating/relationship: -1
honestly didn't expect my own answer but i just can't remember being invested in most fake dating aus (the exception being ones that had a fake relationship between steddie where steve is eddies albi after s4 abd explores the consequences of word getting out)
friends to lovers: 3
super cute but you get tired of hearing "i don't want to mess up our friendship over some feelings" over and over
Found Family: 10 (a million if i could)
im literally writing an au where steve gets adopted by dustins mom. this shit keeps me alive
hurt/comfort: 10
break the bitch and get them some self care and that's what i call storytelling. my default state of mind. im just now realizing all my writing is hurt/comfort
love triangle: -7
ew. the exception is season 2 stranger things stancy vs jancy (AND ONLY S2!! they didn't need it in s1 or s4 at all) because its interesting to explore how nancys trauma crumbles her closest relationship and how she can't say anything interesting she's drunk in a bathroom. really wish that was portrayed as a new thing that stemmed from being unable to shake association with barb and steve and problems with how they both dealt with trauma instead of just. she actually had a crush on Jonathan and he didn't ask her out fast enough. thanks i love a character emotionally cheating for a year before the interesting drama acts on that for her. (but hey thats what fic is for) (also post s1 stoncy fic slays)
open/poly: 0
haven't dipped my toes into that. stoncy is cool tho and love that its the solution to love triangles
mistaken/hidden identity: 3
the logistics can't be too stupid but otherwise love these
monsterfucking: no nsfw. monsterkissing? 0
again no nsfw. kissing vampires is cool but that's also like vanilla mf isn't it. usually don't run into sfw monsterkissing outside that
pregnancy: no.
severe squick. its deeply disturbing to me (not like seeing pregnant people in general just it being a plot in fic. surrogacy and wholesome building a family is fine as long as its kinda a background detail) (just from personal fear, being ace, and inability to handle smut and stuff)
second chance: -3
not impossible to do well but i often find myself asking why they broke up or why it suddenly works now
slow burn: 0
contrivances irritate me but also plenty of good ones where they just take their time falling in love
soulmate aus: 3
i just think they're neat. if platonic stobin aren't also somehow platonic soulmates i edit the worldbuilding in my head and im on my merry way
idk who tf has already been tagged so uhhhhh @stobinesque @spoookysix @wuffgang-ameowdeus-moozart @loser-jpg @nymime and anyone else who wants to join 💕
Trope rating game
I'm so late but I love these! tagged by @zerokrox-blog ❤️❤️❤️
rules: How much do these tropes affect your decision to click on a fic? -10 -> very dissuaded 
0 - don’t care either way 
+10 -> very enticed 
nope -> if it’s a hard no and you’d never click on a fic with that tag or or you even have the tag blocked or you’d insta click out of the fic if it wasn’t tagged.  Bonus points for explaining the rating and whether it’s conditional.
Age gap: 0
Definity depends. I don't seek it out but anything like 10 years or less doesn't freak me out too bad.
Codependency: 10
I love it so much it's ~embarrassing~ But I think thats the funny thing with what I write and what I like in fic in general, it's almost all stuff I'd hate in real life?? What does that say about me?
Obsession/Possessiveness, jealousy: 10
See above!
Opposites (grumpy/sunshine etc): 2
I don't seek it out persay but its almost always cute as hell.
Enemies to lovers, Enemies with benefits: -2
I'm such a true love/fluff addict, I usually dont got the patience. But I have seen sooo many good fics with that trope though, I respect the writers.
Friends with benefits: -2
Just say you love each other already jesus christ 😭😭 (Did I mention I have no patience??)
Sex to feelings: -1
See above
Fake dating/relationship: -1
Same ish with friends and benefits! I'm such a baby gee wiz.
Friends to lovers: +2
It's cute!
Found Family: 10
Love it soooo much. Adore, adore, adore, adore!
Hurt/Comfort: +5
The guarantee of comfort, always gets me going.
Love Triangle: -10
Make em all fuck or get out of my face honestly.
Poly, open relationships: 0
Eh, I like reading the occasional like closed poly relationships or threeway but open ones just dont get me. Maybe because of bad experiences?
Mistaken/hidden identity: 3
I like them....the stupidier it is the better and no i do not know why!
Monsterfucking: +10
Yeahhhhhhhhh, I'm a fan. Definite fan. Mega fan.
Pregnancy: 5
Omegaverse or not, I like it. Which again. actual pregnancy is one of my top 5 fears. Whats up with that?
Second Chance: 0
Eh, don't look for it don't mind it. Im such a little bitch with angst it's not even funny.
Slowburn: 0
Can take or leave.
Soulmates: +5
It's cute!
Tagging with no pressure! @spectrum-spectre @letscrank @devondespresso @jjoesjonas @pearynice @heavenlycrashes @henderdads @hammity-hammer @homosexual-having-tea
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laldupattewali · 2 years ago
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I AM THROWING UP THE IMPLICATION BEHIND THIS????? HUEH
IS THIS THE FUCKING REASON FELIX DID NOT FUCKING IDEK WHAT TO CALL IT THANOSIFY??? KAGAMI THEYRE ALL SIBLINGS??????? AND THE FUCKING PARENTS ARE PUSHING THEM TOGETHER KNOWINGLY?????
also like major majorly fuck gabriel he deserves the cataclysm cant wait till the bitch is dead
HE STOLE THE RING FROM NATALIE????????????
why is this suddenly an episode reaction- eh well
wait- they both have rings???
this is gonna be causing so many issues for my poor boy
the hand gesture is sending me she is not the cat here sir
NO CUZ TIKKI FUCKING TOLD YOU WHATS THE POINT OF COVERING YOURSELF NOW MAAM
ASDFGHJKLKJHGFDFGHFD HE GOT CHANGED BEST MANS FR FR
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LOOK AT HIM U GUYS BABY BOY SUNSHINE LOML COMRADE MAYO
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them.
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FOR A SECOND I THOUGHT THAT WAS THE PLACE WITH EMELIES STATUE KDKJNCNS BUT ALSO WHAT IS THE POINT OF BEING RICH IF YOURE NOT DOING THIS HES SO VALID FOR THIS LOML GEN
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confidence suits her so well YES EVERY SINGLE TIME
she fucking beat his ass in that game btw
is natalie gonna get fucking akumatised istfg
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kagami yaar meri jaan
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i forgot how much i fucking hated lila
just here watching GABRIEL calling MARI the "toxic" one my gUY
i love kagami and how straightforward she is about stuff and communicates even tho she has issues
i also hate lila but idc enough about her i just wanted to say that cuz kagami is still naive in places and uk the fandoms about to hate her for believing lila when literally everyone else did too
so what im seeing here is kagami first got akumatised cuz of lila but mainly her feelings towards mari and is now again getting akumatised also cuz of lila but now her feelings are towards adrien?
like ive said before and will say again MAKE THEM POLY ATP FFS
also where tf is luka um- random but why exactly wasnt he with kitty section tf
AWWWW THEYRE CLOUD WATCHING
ok did marc or nath make those clouds cuz i-
i hate it here
that was surprisingly and a comparitively more straightforward lucky charm THATS SO 🤌🤌🤌🤌🤌🤌
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sims moment fr fr
theyre such good friends stop
talking of which that beginning thing was really toxic having a partner i would NOT want my friends doing that atleast not on our first kiss
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ALL IM FUCKING SAYING-
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MAY I INTRODUCE U TO THIS LITTLE THING CALLED POLYAMORY
i am done. im glad they didnt kiss because they werent in the mood anymore i fucking hate gabriel and lila. kagami i hope you get the best and all that you deserve. i am lowkey scared for nathalie.
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wearequeer-andwearehere · 2 years ago
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Yk I never really wanted to get married
I'm poly so the whole thing seems like a hassle of making my partners possibly feel like one one I love the most because I am married to them, I'm also aro/ace so who knows how marriage would work for me and I'm also autistic so just the concept of having a wedding seems like a nightmare- the lights, the people, the sound, the uncomfortable clothes, the social pressure- I cannot do it. The pure thought of having a wedding makes me want to scream
But recently I started dating this boy... and holy shit.
He is the one. He is the one I want.
All of my partners aside from him I am dating more casually, I love them but I wouldn't consider any of it very serious relationships.
Don't get me wrong I love all of my other partners just as much, but him oh my god.
I want to spend my life with him. I want to be with him forever. I want to live with him to make a life with him.
The thought of me proposing to him makes me all blushy and the thought of him calling me his husband makes me scream with joy and I will actually cry of happiness if I take a second to imagine what our first dance would look like and oh my god I am such a fucking simp for him damn.
I don't know if he feels this way. I mean, marriage is out of the question since we live far apart and because of other circumstances and we have only been officially dating for a few months (we have known eachother and have been flirting for far longer then that) but oh my god him.
He tells me how much he loves me and we get along wonderfully, he professes his love everyday and in the sweetest of ways each time, fuck, he even referred to me as his husband once.
I know this is the man I want, I know I want to show him off to my family, I know I want to spend my eternity with him but fuck man the distance in the relationship is killing me.
I don't know. Maybe one day I will get over my irrational fear and disgust of weddings, maybe we will even last long enough so we can get engaged.
I don't know why I am sending this. Maybe for other possibly younger queer people here? Maybe finding the right one and shit can be hard but oh lord will you be happy when you find them. I have never felt so happy in my entire life, just thinking about him makes me almost weep of joy.
OMGGG thats literally the sweetest thing EVER im so so so happy for you!!
Maybe there’s some way u can tailor a wedding to ur likes, clothes u like a comfy quiet area so ur sensory issues aren’t bad only a few ppl ur close to, or just a quiet wedding w the two of u!!
Argh that’s literally so sweeeet I want that type of love!!! I’m so so happy for u im so happy u found someone who makes u happy!!! Queer love & joy is beautiful <3
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teddy06writes · 4 years ago
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could we have more sapnap x karl x quackity x reader maybe about how reader joins, or how the relationship is revealed, or angst, also is there a reason that anon asks are turned off? i mean it might just be me also cause i cant switch to anon, ik that hairbrush anon loves this blog and wants to request but they cant cause anon is turned off, (i know hairbrush anon irl so thats how ik this for some background context) sorry if this is rude
anon: “ Your karlnapity fanfics are sooooo good. I was wondering if you could make another one, it could be about literally anything and I’ll read it. Keep up the great work! “
sapnap x karl x quackity x reader
trigger warnings: swearing, mentions of panic attacks
premise: how you joined the Karlnapity poly cue
{also the anon thing was fixed once I got this ask}
“belp” talking
‘blep’ texting
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You didn’t meet them intentionally, far from, actually, you had only met Alex, the first of the boys you’d met, by pure chance.
Well, pure chance, and an asshole who didn’t look where he was going outside A hall.
~~
You had just emerged from your first class of the year, a debate class, with maybe 50 students total, and were immediately slammed into by some jerk who didn’t even stop at first.
You had fallen into someone, who after making sure you were stood up right began to cuss the guy out in Spanish.
“You got something to say to me, dick?” The guy had asked as he turned around.
“Yeah bitch! Why the hell did you push them?”
If you thought this dudes 5′ 9′’ ass wasn’t gonna square up to a huge football player you’d’ve been wrong.
“They were the one who didn’t fucking move, so don’t fucking start with me!”
“Bro you literally slammed into them! You could’ve fucking moved man!” He shoved the guys shoulder, “You didn’t have to take the asshole route, yet we’re still here.”
“Listen Dick, I don’t give a shit, they were in the fucking way.”
“Man your really looking for a fucking fight are you?” He shrugged off his back pack and let it drop to the ground.
The guys laughed, pushing up his sleeves, “I could take your scrawny ass any day, chicca.”
Before he had a chance to blink a fist had been launched toward his face, catching him right in the jaw.
He stumbled back, looking almost as surprised as the guy you’d tripped into, who was looking down at his own fist, clearly in pain.
“Oh you little bitch!” The jock growled, moving to punch him back.
Quickly you scooped up his bag, shoving it into his arms, “We gotta go!!” You shoved the guy, grabbing your saviors hand and tugging him along as you started to run.
As you dodged around campus, trying to lose the yell of the jock behind you the guy who you’d dragged with, offered, “I’m Alex.”
“(y/n),” You slowed to a stop, “I think we lost him.”
Alex nodded, wincing as he examined his knuckles.
You took his hand, checking over it carefully, “It’ll bruise hard, you might not have full dexterity for a while. That’s what you get for punching someone without preparing,” You chuckled, glancing around, “My dorm’s not more than five minutes away, if you don’t have another class to get too, we can go get you some ice.”
“That’d be good.” He winced.
After taking him back to your dorm and getting his hand iced, he disappeared, saying he was late to meet someone, and you rarely saw him again except for your debate class, where you hardly spoke.
~~ You’d met Nick not too long after, though this time, pure chance was more purely your friend George catching you sneaking out of a party you didn’t want to be at.
“Seriously (y/n)? It’s barley even been an hour!” The brit yelled.
“It’s way too loud in there,” You hissed, motioning to the frat house, “I can’t hardly think, let alone stand it.”
“George! Get back in here! Clay challenged someone to a drinking contest and it about to start!” Someone yelled from the house.
“Yeah, in a second Sapnap!” He called before turning back to you, “Stay a little while longer?”
“I don’t want to be here.” You growled, but he was already dragging you back towards the house, saying:
“Come on, it’ll be entertaining if he wins and if not, well, it’ll still be pretty funny.”
Sighing, you allowed yourself to be pulled back inside, following George through to where Clay stood across a counter from a curly dark haired man, and Niki, a woman you’d met a few weeks prior, quietly pouring shots.
“Now the only reason I’m letting you do this Wil, is cause I know you won’t be able to do more than three.” She muttered, sliding the shots between them.
George laughed, “This is gonna be great!”
You sighed, moving to stand back against one of the walls, next to a dirty blonde man, who said, “You don’t look to happy to be here.”
“Not a fan of the noise.” You muttered, rubbing at your forehead.
He nodded, “Makes sense, one of my boyfriends doesn’t like the noise either. I’m Nick.”
“Didn’t George just call you Sapnap? What is with people around here and having weird nicknames?” You shook your head with another sigh, “I’m (y/n).”
“I dunno. Half the people I know at this school have weird nicknames,” He began to point at various people around the room, “Dream, Fundy, Skeppy, Hbomb, Quackity’s around here somewhere. Hell I even know someone who calls himself ‘Technoblade’.”
“Sounds like a prick.” You chuckled.
Nick nodded, “Oh he is.”
You continued to talk for a while, watching as Wilbur tried to out drink Clay, and failing miserably not to laugh when he nearly fell down, totally wasted.
“Hey, uh I think we should head out. I feel bad leaving Kar...” Alex trailed off as he realized you were standing with Nick, “Hey, your uh, (y/n) right?”
“Yeah, Alex, you almost busted your knuckles trying to fight McAllen outside debate with Fenner.” You chuckled.
Nick turned to Alex, “You what?!”
“uhh...” he stuttered nervously.
“You told Karl you fell!”
“In my defense he pushed- no not even- he slammed into (y/n)!” Alex said desperately.
“He did, Alex was just defending me,” Alex grinned at your addition, “But...” his face fell, “This one also is essentially just an angry chihuahua.”
“Dude!”
Nick chuckled, “Their right. You are an angry chihuahua.”
Alex rolled his eyes, glancing at his phone, “We should go, Karl’s texting me angry emojis.”
Nick nodded, “It was nice to meet you (y/n).”
“You too.” You smiled, and then they were gone again.
~~
You didn’t meet Karl for almost a month after that, only encountering the man in the colorful sweater when you had been left sitting alone in the dining hall, after a late night study session.
Niki had left a few minutes earlier, but it was long enough that he’d assumed you’d been sitting alone.
“Oh hey, sorry I’m late!” He had called, just a hair too loud.
You blinked up at the mousy haired boy, confused for a moment, before motioning for him to sit down, “It’s okay.”
The few people still left in the hall barley paid attention, so you stifled a laugh, “I wasn’t waiting for someone, my friend just left actually.”
His face got red, “Oh, I- sorry- I’ll just leave then.”
He started to stand up but you held out a hand, “No- uh- you, can stay. I don’t mind.”
He grinned, “I’m Karl! Karl Jacobs!”
“I’m (y/n). Thank you for trying to save me from mild embarrassment.”
“It was nothin, just don’t think people should have to be alone.”
You giggled, “Knight in shining armor.”
That made Karl grin even more, giggling a bit as he asked, “Whatcha working on?”
“Oh, Niki and I were just studying for finals, it may be a few weeks away but I want to be ready.” You chuckled.
“Man, I’m glad I’m only taking one class this semester.”
“Lucky.” You sighed, tucking the last of your papers into folders and stowing them away in your bag, “No late night cram sessions for you then.”
“Nah, my boyfriends’ll rope me into helping them study.”
“Thats the price you pay.” You chuckled.
He nodded solemnly, “A price I am very willing to pay.”
“They sound like lucky guys.” You smiled wistfully, quietly wondering why all the cute guys you’d been meeting were dating, either other people, or each other.
Karl not noticing the almost bitterness in your voice chirped, “Yup!”
~~
“Come on! They’d love you!” Karl exclaimed.
You’d been becoming friends with Karl over the last few months, and now he was begging you to go and meet his partners.
“Are you sure?”
“Yeah!” Karl was practically bouncing up and down, “Your like the best! I want my boys to meet you!”
You groaned, letting your head fall into your hands, “Fine.”
“Yay!” Karl giggled, tugging at your wrist, “Come on!”
You looked up from the table at him. “Right now?”
“Yeah, I was suppose to be meeting them at the library.”
Sighing you stood up, “I hate this.”
He smiled sympathetically, “Sorry.”
You slipped your bag over your shoulder, and followed him out of the dining hall towards the library, trying to ignore the stupid feeling in your stomach at his hand in yours.
Upon reaching the library Karl excitedly dragged you over to a table in the corner where your stomach dropped upon seeing who was sitting there.
“(y/n)?” Alex asked.
You chuckled, “Snapmap and Chihuahua boy, I didn’t realize this Karl was your Karl.”
Karl looked confused, looking back and forth between you and his boyfriends, “You guys know each other?”
“That one talked to me at a party when my friends all but ditched me,” You pointed at Nick, and then too Alex, “That one tried to fight someone who bumped into me.”
“Thats- you know what, I’m not gonna ask.” Karl said, plopping down next to Alex.
You sat down on the opposite side of the table next to Nick, “Karl you text in angry emojis?”
~~
Over the next few weeks Karl continued to drag you along to various study sessions, movie nights and other things you assumed would normally just be the three of them, making you confused heart even more confused.
It was strange that they willingly let you intrude on there dates, and any time you tried to bring it up with Karl he’d just brush it off, and if you mentioned it to Nick or Alex, they’d say something about how they were good with it cause Karl was.
And then one night, you were all piled up on the fire escape of the boys apartment building, Alex had just gotten back from a seminar, and was half curled on Nick’s lap, legs stretch across Karl, who was also leaning against Nick.
You quietly hummed a song you heard Wilbur playing, freezing as Karl tugged on your hand, pulling you closer to lean on him, Nick’s arm stretching just a bit farther to wrap around your waist as well, almost cementing you into the moment.
“I like this.” Karl murmured.
Alex nodded sleepily, and Nick looked at your over Karl’s head, “(y/n), uh- I guess we’ve been meaning to- uh- to ask-”
“He means, do- do you want to join this relationship?” Alex asked, cutting him off.
You blinked, surprised, and Karl quickly started talking in your silence, “You don’t have too, we just figured, you know, we, really like, you and- it- we think you like us-”
Cutting him off, you grabbed the sides of his face, quickly pressing your lips to his, and then pulling away, you leaned over to kiss Nick, and then Alex.
“I knew there was a reason you kept letting me in on your dates!”
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oh-for-fic-sake · 4 years ago
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The Deal Part Three
Summary: august doesn't know how to lose.
Warnings: Adult Situations +18, Slight Smut, Mentioned Threesomes, M/M, M/F/M, poly relationship, Toys, Seduction, Dom Sub, BDSM, Praise Kink, Swearing.
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August hummed running a finger back and forth on the rim of his glass as he watched the screen,you were on the bed rocking onto your new toy like crazy.
"She really does this everyday?" Clark asked from beside him with a frown, but august could see the kid was turned on, licking and biting his lip as you fucked yourself desperately with your new vibrator.
"Everyday, for a week now..." august hummed twisting his chair to and fro flicking his gaze from the subby on screen to the soon to be sub sat beside him.
"... am i? Am i not enough?" Clark asked tentatively blinking at agaust in a way that made the agent smile smugly.
"Its not that kid, shes gone without playing our game for soo long she forgot how addictive it is, how much she needs it" he explained.
"Needs? Have... i mean shes missed it?" Clark uttered feeling less confident in his ability to satisfy you by the second.
"Probably not, well not untill our little experiment"
"Why?" Clark asked still not understanding
"Being a sub is... more then just sex, subs need to submit its therapeutic for them... when in a scene they just let themselves go, all worry and stress disappear. All they need to do is live in the moment and obey" august began slowly as he stopped swaying his chair and faced clark head on pinning him with a look.
It was there, the curiosity. Good. Its what he hoped for, it was why he'd called clark there to 'catch up'
It was time to make his move, top the man of steel whilst having you making your own little porno in the background to help things along.
"So she cant truly relax without it?" Clark muttered still unaware of the agents motives.
"In a sense yes. She craves being dominated, its as natural to her as being a goody two shoes is for you" august purred placing his drink on the glass computer table fendingnoff a smirk as clark took the bait.
"Hey! Im not a goody two shoes-" the kryptonian grunted offended.
But august was prepared, he'd planned this meeting meticulously and his anwser rolled off his tongue with a laugh.
"Your thirty five years old and have absolutly no run ins with the law, no parking fines no speeding tickets hell you never even had a single detention in your entire shcool life! Or have you handed in an assignment or book report in late"
"But i killed a man- i took a life" clark tried to argue but was waed off with another laugh.
"Zod was no man, he was a fucking alien... no offence, you took a life to save billions... so its not really making you a badass"
"Lazer vision is pretty badass..." clark huffed slumping back in his seat now looking like a classic putig brat.
"Oh? Is my litttle clark sulking?" August cooed gravely voice making clark pause at the sultry tone... he must be hearing things.
"Im not sulking! And im not your anything!" Clark growled snapping at the agent.
"Behave yourself!" August growled leveling him with a look, and couldnt help smirk again as clark shut himself up and flushed.
Your desperate cries called out over the moniter as you rutting onto the toy the wet sounds adding to the scene.
Clark flushed finalky turning away from august making the agent preen. Oh he had him in the palm of his hand already~
"Good boy. You are arent you? A very good boy clark- the best" august purred leaning forward gazing at the younger man with a cheshire grin, that only grew wider as clark flushed brighter and shuddered.
"I.. err well yes" clark panted shiftingnin his seat tryingmto keep his eyes on the screen as you wailed and yelped trying to draw out a climax.
"Oh whats this? Your going all shy on me? Tell me is it because i called you a good boy~ do you like praise clark?" Augusut grinned leaning closer still to the now frozen younger male
"N-no its err... i should go-" clark started shuffljng backwards needing to get out of here, because it was true. He loved praise especially in the bedroom, he loved being told how good he was.
August purringnat him whilst he eyes were fixed on you rollingnaroundnin bed toying yourslef into a sexual frenzie was... making him think of thingsnhe probably shouldnt.
"No. Sit, stay... thats it, theres nothing to be embarrassed about, many powerful men enjoy being praised" August growled latching onto clarks arms holding them to the arms of the seat.
"Being taken care of, told what to do~" august purred standing befor the mighty man of steel leaning close to his face.
Clark gulped but didnt move back, he didnt pull away like he should have.
Instead he eyed augusts lips, clark had the overwhelming urge to.aste them.
It confused him, he'd never ever dabbled in same sex relationships, never experimented. Never shared a woman with another before that fatefull night.
But for some reason august was apealing, drawing clark in. August was apble to overpower him, not physically but he commanded obedience.
August held a dangerous cocksure demeanor that clark rarely saw.
"Is that what you want? Clark~ do you want to be controlled and praised just once? More then once?" August hummed dippjng closer and closer, clark couldnt help tipp his head up.
"Y/n is always such a brat. Just look at her, desperately trying to fuck herself into a coma, despite knowing we hadnt allowed her to touch her pussy" august pulled the pffice chair clark was sat in to closer to him, making the kryptonian drown in his scent, the cologne and sweet arousal that was alreading sworling arohnd him.
Clark swallowed dryly, unsure what was happeningnto him, the sounds of yu moaning a crying ot so sweetly, the praise and authority radiating off august in waves.
It was the same dominant aura and comanding deep voice that had made crks cock twitch in both threesomes they had indulged.
Clark had tried denying it at the time, convincing himslef he was cuaght up in the erotic forbidden act. It was just a thrill of the moment thing. It didnt bmean he wanted the older dominating alpha male and all his bravado.
August grinned shifting forward again filling clarks vision, for a human auguast was large, almost as large as he was.
"Sure she'll listen when she feels like it but... I can't help thinking she needs a role model..." clark hummed absentmidely nodding agreeing falling further into his own haze.
"Someone else to show her how she should behave... someone who will get rewarded for being soo good... maybe a good boy?" August purred finally taking the plunge and weaving jis way around the man. His words coiling around the younger male ensnareing him in his carefully constructed web of teasing words.
Clakr gasped as his chin was captured by the agent forcing him to look him in the eye.
"Would you like that clark? Do you want to be not just a good boy, but my good boy-our good boy?" The words hung in the air, winding the man of steel.
"W-what?" He stuttered tryingnto fathom what the older man meant. But couldnt deny the excitment in his gut.
Did he mean it? Would he really include clark in this kink? Make it official and let these forbidden threesomes continue?
"Oh dont play coy, i know what your thinking~ its natural to be curious, just think we could all be one~" august whispered movjng his thumb over clarks bottom lip.
"We could all play together and all get what we need." He purred smirking as clark gave all the right signs, eyes wide, pupils blown wide shifting in his seat as he cock rose, curtesy of both his praise and the loud wanton moans from you bringing yourslef to the edge of rapture yet again.
"You get the praise and love of a little brat, and a strict dom, y/n gets a role model, a dom and keeps her life partner" august listed shifting on his feet again reeling clark in with low coos full of promise.
The agent curled his hand, cupping clarks cheek coaxing him closer luring his face closer.
"A-And you?" Clark dared to utter, feeling both excited, anxious and overwhelmed, he wanted nothing but to jump at the chance, but was frightened at the same time.
He would admit he'd been a little jealous of all the praise you'd got from august in both encounters.
Closingnhis eyes imagining it was him! That the older influential man had been calljng him a good boy, had been teling him how impressed he was, how proud he was!
Clark was embarrassed and had quickly shook away the desperate thoughts. He wasnt gay, why would he have such thoughts?
He summarised he was just too needy and had gone without. You told him how brilliant and big he was, how sexy and strong and fantastic he is in the bedroom but... with august it was different.
The older male praised down at him! Cooing and fussing at him in a different way. Treated him like a sub and clark liked it. Probably too mucn.
"I get the little brat i've been missing and a very very good boy"
"So what do you say, do you want to let go? Be free and experience things you'd only dreamt of?" August preened keeping clarks attention fixed on him asmhe manipulated him, august had noticed clark had a praise kink.
A weakness. A need who was august to pass up useing the little kink to get the subby he wanted~
"I...I'm..." clark hesitated looking passed august to you on the screen who was digging around beside your bed looking for something.
"All you have to do is say the words clark, just say yes sir and you can have all the pleasure and praise you could ever hope for~ both you and y/n we could make this permanent"
"See look? Just watch, y/n needs her dom, needs to be tamed again we could do it clark... you can show her how to be good again~" august breathed over clarks cheek side steppjng him to reveal the screen.
And clark did look, groaning as he saw that you had rolled over and was straddling a different suction cup dildo stuck to a little hand mirror face up on the bed slapping your own ass as you bounced frantically.
"Just say those words and we can help her together" august hummed into his ear like the devil on his shoulder, tempting him
Clark gasped feeling augusts breath on his neck, his wisters ghosting the delicat skin.
Then in a bold move the older man pressed a soft feather light kiss to the kryptonian's neck.
And it worked
"I... y-yes, can we? Please sir" clark breathed out stuttering and jumbling his words unable to hold back his pleading.
"Good boy clark~ such a good seet boy you are~ i knew it, knew youd be brave enough, you've made me soo proud" august showered him with praise biting off a victorious grin.
Clark mewled closingnhis eyes for a second beaming a smile feeling this strange relaxation take over, suddenly he felt free, and small.
It was a feeling he craved, being the strongest all the time was a heavy burden to bare, now he could feel powerless for once.
August chuckled and pressed another kiss to clark this time on his cheek making the younger male's cheeks glow.
August couldnt get enough, the power trip of having the man of steel under his command was far to intoxicating.
"Now why dont you go get our little brat and we can tie her up and show her that good subby's get rewards" august prompted him stepping around clark completely letti g himstand up.
Clark nodded and shot off out onto the balcony and leapt into the sky eagwr to please his new dom and do as he was told.
August took his seat agin wrappjng his fingers around his glass of scotch and raised the glass to the screen that now had both his subs onscreen, as clark wrangled you into his arms wrapping the bedsheet arohnd you.
"Mission accomplished" he hummed smirking as clark wrapped you in your soiled bedsheet before you both disappeared off screen.
He stood and knocked back the last of his drink and padded across the pent house heading to the play room just as he heard both of hos little subs land and enter his home.
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rainbow-neko-artblog · 2 years ago
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heyo! i don't know much about the otherkin community, so this is genuinely curious and not like making fun of you or anything /hon. you said "i myself and my bf kin are poly with multiple partners" so does that mean kins can have partners separate from your own? /gq
OH don't worry! A lot of my friends ask me kin questions when I bring it up. I don't take offense to questions, only genuine/blunt insults haha. Just keep in mind I don't represent the kin community as a whole yeah? This is just my take on it.
In a way, yes. I look at kins as my past lives. People I used to be. From different worlds or timelines, ect. They were all "Me" at somepoint. Maybe as a different species, a different body, a slightly different personality, but still my soul all the same. Thats why dispite being a DID system i can still kin people, its more like my beleife, feelings over facts, but one i cherish all the same.
That being said it's foolish to beleive that in every past live I can match up with my partners past lives.
Examples: My Bf Kin and A Kin I have of an old man named Klein.
My current partners, Ben and Collie, Are kin with my Bf's partners Senpai, Garcello, and Kapi. My friend Comet (who none of us date, hence the 'friend' title) and my partner Ben have kins with Gf and Pico but neither are actually from the same canon as my BF- but since they're similarly sourced we treat them as such.
Meanwhile my Kin, Klein, is dating a man named Phillip, who is kinned by my close friend and qpp Trash. Trash does not date me, Collie, OR Ben, but I would say the Klein and Phillip relationship is one of the deepest and romantic kin connections I have, and we rp them and portray them as such. Klein and Phillip love eachother a lot. However I don't love Trash romantically. Even though Klein used to be me and I still act as him sometimes.
Kins can often be confusing, and uncertain just like any spiritual beleife, and just like with any Polyamourous relationship it's important to communicate things like kin relationships with your current partners. If Ben and Collie told me they felt uncomfortable with my Kin relationship with Trash about Klein and Phillip then I would respect their wishes and stop talking about it with Trash- but my partners are into kinning just as much as I am, and they know it makes me happy. So we don't stop eachother from experiencing that.
To put it plainly yeah. My Bf Kin may be dating all these people, Gf, Pico, Senpai, ect, but I am not dating everyone who kins his partners. That would be a ludacris coincidence. But his feelings for them may shift my veiw of the characters, or draw them in ways that make me personally happy.
Hope that helps!
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polyamorouscultureis · 3 years ago
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ok so I am pretty new to polyamory so I don't quite know how I am supposed to be feeling about a situation I am in and would love some guidance. Me and my girlfriend and are in an open relationship, we started off casual mostly on my part bc my last relationship got way too serious way too fast but we've ben together a few months now and about two months ago I wanna say? she started dating another person. she texted me after they impulsively made out and the girl is poly so thats all good. neither me or my gf have been in an open relationship or done anything to do with polyamoy before so we are just kinda figuring it out. but my gf and her new gf have been moving quite fast and they now live together and we are now in super lockdown so I haven't seen her in a few months. we text sometimes but mostly just abt being excited to see each other again. last night I get a text that is a photo of her and her gf with matching rings on. they are engaged. i sent some texts in reply, mostly just saying we should talk on the phone but my gf has a day job and has not gotten back to me yet. I feel like she should have told me that this was going to happen right? I understand it must have been pretty impulsive but still. also the fact that they have been spending so much time is something I was happy abt bc she has had company but now I can't help but feel jealous and left out. any advice about anything here would be really appreciated. I'm rly sorry about how long this got my god
Wow, this is a crazy story.
I can see where you're coming from. It's pretty shocking that no one mentioned to you that they might propose and I'm having trouble imagining why they didn't. If my gf got engaged without anyone letting me in on it beforehand, I'd feel jealous and left out, too, and I'd wonder if there was a reason they didn't tell me. On the other hand, if I was planning to propose to my gf, I wouldn't be able to keep it from her partners because I'd want help picking a ring, and a time and place, and maybe even having them involved. And even if I wasn't close to those partners, I'd at least mention that I was thinking of marrying her to make sure everyone was comfortable with it - since polygamy is still illegal, I'd want to make sure no one felt like I was trying to prioritize myself, and that no one else had a better reason to want to marry her instead of me (needs the legal benefits more, for instance). I know a lot of poly people will have weddings without the paperwork, or stay engaged forever, but it doesn't seem like that's the case here.
I'd definitely find a time to talk to your gf privately and express how you're feeling, hopefully when her gf isn't around. It's awesome that she's so happy with her new gf, but it's not ok to keep you completely out of the loop.
Keep me updated on this situation, I'm curious to see how things go and I'm rooting for all three of you! Take care of yourself in the meantime. <3
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mugiwara--ya · 3 years ago
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  💕 💕 + one piece, fma and haikyuu!!
OKAY okay i said i was gonna answer this so i will. i'll start easy.
haikyuu!!: kageyama/hinata, hinata/kenma, kuroo/kenma, yeah im basic like that and also not up to date jsdkjs and as to why. look. theyre just. they. th. yeah. yeah.
aaaand im not into fma sorry!!!
AND AS FOR ONE PIECE. yeah im putting this under a read more bc it turned into a massive hc dump LMAO dont say i didnt warn you
send a  ‘💕 + fandom’ to my ask box and I��ll tell you my favourite couple/ship from the fandom. two 💕💕 and I’ll tell you why
one piece. alright. breathes in. look. i am PHYSICALLY UNABLE to ship monogamous relationships in one piece. i simply cannot. i am poly myself and i live vicariously through them. everyones been with everyone and sometimes, sometimes they go back to each other. the grandline is just one massive polycule. so yeah. that being said!
zosanlawlu. all four of them. every configuration of them has different dynamics and i love every single one of them, theyre complicated theyre stupid theyve been THROUGH it and LOOK i have so many reasons and headcanons but WAY TOO MANY to list here in PUBLIC so im just giving you the bare minimum (he said and failed and also died) (honestly i could probably write a separate post about how i see their relationships specifically if anyones interested, either that or just DM me i love talking about them jaldkfalksdf) (also. here onwards is just. hc dump LOL)
so. so alright. you take these four. put them at the very center of everything. and you let em go wild.
law? marines look in the mirror and tell themselves "do NOT fuck the pirate" and fail every single time. drake? smoker? koby? law's been there. he doesnt give a fuck. dr. heart stealer. probably not even attracted to them he just likes the power trip lol. and besides the marines and various one night stands? penguin and shachi. theyve been his partners for years and anyone who intends to stay as more than a one night stand or friends with benefits or whatever has to go through them first lol (i blame @slashseeker for this i love you and your massive brain), and they accepted the straw hats immediately no matter how much law INSISTED theyre JUST allies
also. headcanon: law and kid fucked at LEAST once and kid will NOT let him forget about it. law insists it will never happen again. it will absolutely happen again.
then.
sanji. i'll keep this short. my favorite bisexual disaster. hopeless romantic. dont get me started on the sanji fanclub bc this post will never end. i WILL mention acesan because come on, ace was sanjis biwakening, you know that i know that we all know that.
oh and pedro. sweet beautiful pedro. sanji you fucking furry. moving on!
zoro....zoro. he's easy but he'll never take it further. he rarely spends the night and if he does he's out of there first thing in the morning. he's simply not interested. he has his hands full with his captain and the cook...and law, well, law was an easy addition to their lives once luffy Assimilated him into them. things just HAPPENED on that submarine on the way to wano and that was that. (also, if they want to share him with their lovers, well, he's not about to complain lol)
and lastly. luffy. luffy has everyone wrapped around his finger. he knows this. yet at the same time hes absolutely clueless as to what hes ACTUALLY doing. like one day usopp will tell him "how do YOU OF ALL PEOPLE manage to keep this many boyfriends at the same time wtf" and luffy will go. what the hell are you talking about. then usopp will explain it to him. and luffy will say "ohhhh i get it. wait so then youre my boyfriend too? haha nice :)". usopp has yet to recover.
and look. look ive talked way too much already and i could keep going and going about luffy specifically but. luffy loves in a way thats simply unique to him. and hes selfish! he'll take and take and take but he always knows exactly what to give to his people, often even better than what they themselves know they need.
A N Y W A Y this got WAY OUT OF HAND as i knew it would and i didnt even talk about the specifics of their relationships LMFAO so uh. yeah. take this. take this and never speak of it again (unless...)
ty for the ask djflkjsdlkfjs
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notable-phlyarologist · 4 years ago
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Okay so a little while back my friend @inklesspen shared a chat we had in which I explained a bit of my homestuck quadrant romance headcanons. Given that I am now attempting a tumblr, I figured it was as good a time as any to elaborate on those. Feel free to remix as you please.
So okay to start I'm going to address why I find quadrants useful. I see people sometimes say things like, "As humans we just aren't fundamentally able to understand kismesisitude," or "Quadrants were concieved of as a joke and shouldn't be taken seriously," but I personally find them an interesting and helpful way of categorizing and referring to different kinds of love, at least with other homestuck people. Given how often our media presents things that seem like kismesisitudes, or how they've cropped up within my own life, I think it's nice to have language to refer specifically to those sorts of things.
However, I do think that, talking from an in-universe standpoint, there are a lot of aspects of the quadrant system as its presented to us that are heavily colored by the whole fascist alien empire deal. So one of the things I do with regards to my headcanon-ing of quadrants is I try to pick apart what seems fundamental and emotional, what differences and similarities there are between the quadrants, and what seems like an enforced aspect or something tacked on culturally or systemically. That's how I came upon my auspictism headcanon.
Within the English language, we only have the one word for love, which we use for romantic love, platonic love, familial love, etc etc etc, and it carries certain connotations along with it when we use it. This all-encompassing nature of the term love in English is part of why I break from the explicit description of the quadrant system-- love in English does not just refer to matespritship. You can love your best friend, you can love your rival, you can love the gang of dumbasses you roll with to play dnd. So that's my starting point-- the quadrants are not distinct from the human concepts of love but rather a specific categorization of largely universal feelings.
Now, as it is presented to us quadrants are divided along two axes. Sexual and nonsexual, and loving and hateful. Troll society in general seems to romanticise hatred and violence in a big way, emphasizing the importance of black romance in doing so, but I don't think these terms are exactly right, even just with regards to what we see within the story's canon (especially john's hatecrush on terezi). See, the connotations of hate or enmity in english imply things like wanting to not interact with the other party, wanting to tear them down, and i feel like thats not a useful way to refer to kismesisitude because while there is rivalry there you don't want them dead and you don't want to stop interacting with them.
Rather, you want to compete, there's a sort of passionate drive within a rivalry to show what you can do, to tease and rile up so you're both actively doing. This is how I prefer to think of the red-black axis-- rather than love or hate, red is about passivity and black is about activity, red is about contentment and comfort while black is about passion and striving for more. That's not to say either of these are exclusive to any particular quadrants, nor that you need to do kismesisitude One Particular Way or it doesnt count, relationships and emotions aren't clear cut! These are general categorizations to give you an idea of what a relationship is like, not titles a relationship gains when you prune it to look just right.
The idea that blackrom has to specifically be hatred falls within that same headcanon of cultural bleed that permeates my auspictism headcanon. It's a romaticization, a mutation of the idea over milennia of fascist propaganda and rule. The same can be said for the idea that you can only have one relationship of each quadrant, and you want to fill all four-- again, relationships are fluid and dynamic, and as a poly gal myself i find the idea of having, say, three moirails and zero kismesises a perfectly valid and fulfilling experience as one of each.
All that im mind, here at the specific thoughts I have about each quadrant.
Matespritship ❤: A matespritship is a sexual relationship defined by contentment and safety-- the kind of partner you'd want to spend all day in bed with, make meals together with, whose arms you fall into after a long day of work for quiet calming cuddles. That sweet, lovey-dovey, everlasting honeymoon phase kind of feeling, defined by kindness and support.
Moirailship ♦️: A moirailship is a nonsexual relationship defined by contentment and emotional needs being met. The kind of person you can always vent to, chatter to, always find an open ear with or be an open ear for. Moirailship is defined by communication and openness, activities together with a moirail often being secondary to simply being with them and talking with them.
Kismesisitude ♠️: A sexual relationship defined by passion and action. The kind of person who drives you to act, to better yourself, who you in turn tease and encourage even as seeing them succeed spurs you onward as well. The kind of person you wrestle with in the grass, who drives you a little bit crazy but you can't get enough of it. If it sours it can turn to hate, sure, but its not about hating your partner its about wanting to chase each other.
Auspictism ♣️: A nonsexual relationship between three people defined by action and social needs being met. I've talked about this in the text post, it's the sort of those-three-people relationship where you're scheming together, cracking jokes together, doing things together, always in motion. Usually there's one person who's ostensibly the leader, but that's not the crux of the relationship.
Thus concludes all of my thoughts on quadrants as far as I can remember at the moment. Drop me a line if you want clarification or smth, haha.
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