#survivornotvictim

[teashh]

//Girlhood And Roses And Azaleas//

TW: SA

I entered many places

As a young girl with innocence

Braided into her hair with ribbons.

But I left those places behind

with my girlhood in pieces.

Twist by twist, my innocence was undone.

My mother had burnt the edges of

Those cotton and silk strips

To stop it from fraying.

But the ribbons wore thin

When old men with insatiable hunger

Tried to pry open my legs before

first blood had slid down my shins

Along with my dreams

My young body was a treasure chest

and their hands were pliers

And my girlhood was sanded down

Against the edges of their fingers

Sharpened to the beginnings of

A womanhood that was honed

With a knife and bruised bones.

And the ribbons crumbled away to dust

When I remembered

The first time I felt my hands

being guided against my will.

I was a marionette and he pulled the strings

Even before my language had hardened itself

Against baby teeth.

Blood, it seemed

Was not thicker than water.

My hair neatly oiled by a mother

Smelling like jasmines and coconuts

Warm with whispers of safety and love

Was left with baby flyaways

The kind seen on a small child still

Adjusting to the outside world than the womb.

I wear my hair open now

Cascading to my shoulders

A remnant of a girlhood

that was Mine first.

I wear it like a goddess

Like Draupadi when she soaked it

In the blood of men.

I wear it down like the women before me

who clawed their way into womanhood

From a girlhood that was buried

With them under roses and azaleas

By shovels and yellow teeth.

I wear it down

And I keep the ribbons in my pocket

And sometimes I

weave it through the tendons

In my wrists

Because my girlhood belongs to me

and some day

I will braid it through my hair again.

Inspired by Betty by Tiffany McDaniel, Would've Could've Should've By Taylor Swift, and the Quote "A woman is not born, she is made" by Simone de Beauvoir

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[thatgirljonni]

I really try not to let it bother me and to get on with my life. To remain positive and trust in the universe and God for my future. But its just not that simple. Having a toxic parent destroys you and you won't understand the feeling unless you yourself have a toxic parent/have been victim to traumas caused by a parent. Its hard. It really, really changes you and more often than not, the change isn't for the better. I just want to fucking heal and move on with my life. I don't want to be constantly triggered or hurt when she takes jabs at me. It's fucking exhausting. #narcissists #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissisticabuse #endnarcissisticabuse #covertnarcissists #malignantnarcissist #healfromnarcissiticabuse #innerchild #healingyourinnerchild #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #depression #anxiety #ptsd #trauma #sociopathicabusesurvivor #survivornotvictim. https://www.instagram.com/p/CG83Y2FhpfX/?igshid=1r1mev2z9mred

[doingbetterthanexcellence]

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[kalikillsthedemon]

The universe said to me "You are gonna be happy...but first, Im gonna make you strong." 🙌 #yoga #yogatherapy #meditation #zen #tao #strength #stability #composure #restfulness #thedarknightofthesoul #iamthedarkness #iamthelight #balance #survivornotvictim #strongerthansheknows #strongerthanyouthink #catsofinstagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CK2k9nvDEkd/?igshid=1i2fuod2krl5k

[gaviwarrior-blog]

Reflection is good for the soul. It will take you places where you're no longer whole, And show you a new season, A different reason For this pain you've endured... #reflection #NotAVictim #SurvivorNotVictim #metoo #gavrielapowers #gaviwarrior #gavi #poetry #millennial #healing #lovewarrior #thoughtwarrior

[pbcnita]

It's your life, you tell your story, just don't leave out the parts where you as an adult are held accountable for your choices and actions. #ifimmatellitimmatellitall #nosecrets #survivornotvictim #yourtestimonymatters #bustyourthroatchakraopen #freeyourself #betheauthorofyourstory #newchaptersmustbewritten #makethemamazing #yourlifeyourchoice #shadowworkmustbedone #healingandtransformation #workisrequired #staystrong #characterdevelopment https://www.instagram.com/p/B9uKyYnnd4Z/?igshid=1lhhdc3bdc8km

[sassy911-dispatcher]

#controllingmychaos #ptsdwarrior #survivornotvictim #itsoknottobeok #ifmywoundswerevisible https://www.instagram.com/p/B0C_5hQBmxt/?igshid=1he9cunsfaqe9

[dramericanhero]

While I don’t understand why every month isn’t sexual assault awareness month, I know it’s observed in April. And before I lose my nerve I’m going to share this before I go to sleep, if for no other reason, for the people who truly have no one to turn to when it happens to them. I was fairly certain I didn’t want to tell anyone what happened so I didn’t. I told 5 people because I didn’t want to bother anyone else and I didn’t want to field the questions that might come up (and i still don’t but i will, just not tonight please). Instead I coped the only way that made me feel totally in control and safe, which was something I had been robbed of in February. People might get mad that I got another tattoo, others might question why the hell I’d want a permanent reminder of what happened. My answer is: I don’t need you to understand why I did it, I just need you to respect that it was the thing I had to do to take back part of what he stole. I’ve loved this quote for years and always hoped I would never be able to relate to it as a survivor of anything and yet...here I am. And for what’s its worth. To my closest friends who wonder why I didn’t tell you: I didn’t want to tell anyone, but I’m sorry for not turning to you when you’ve supported me through everything else. #survivornotvictim #sexualassaultawarenessmonth https://www.instagram.com/mkamericanhero/p/Bv59HLslvon/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=tn5l71tksmve

[andreafrancine-blog]

I don’t have many pictures of my early childhood.  I have very few pictures of my half sister and me.  We spent most of my childhood in separate states after our mother was murdered.  I was placed in foster care in Ohio and later adopted.  She went to live with her biological father.  We didn’t see each other for 9 years.  I have a great adoptive family, and I love my adoptive siblings, but I miss the years with my half-sister J.  Another thing our mother’s murderer stole from us.  We will never get those years back.

[bebadassin-blog]

In a society where our character is judged by the length of our skirts In a society where mothers are used to hushing their daughters if they have been inappropriately touched by an uncle In a society where rape is as common as the red tobacco splatter in the corner of a government building In a society where the depth of our cleavage determines the depth of our intellects In a society where independence is considered an invitation In a society where every other girl has a a #metoo story You are not a victim, but a survivor. Always remember! #metooindia #wethewomen #survivor #believesurvivors #survivornotvictim #bebrave #bebadass #sisterhood https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo35P5-H4rc/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=14540kte4swwb

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[markiewilliamsfitness-blog]

Sharing some thoughts I had tonight.. “Ashley Smith” was my given name You called the shots, the “tricks”, the game. Never would have imagined why or how, But the past is past, bitch look at me now. Never again to be bought or sold. You bear the name “Young” but you grow old. And no matter what lies you speak or say, The truth will be told, I’ll have my day... But until that time, I continue to grow, As others watch, some wonder, few know. From then to now is like night and day, I got myself here, I did things my way. And when I’m asked why I do what I do, I always pause and then think of you. The reason is complex and hard to explain And it’s not even worth it to mention your name. So instead I say, I came from a dark place, And had so many monsters I needed to face. The weights that I lifted, then lifted the weight Of the sorrow and pain, the anger and hate. It’s a lie to say I will ever be whole Too much of my life you destroyed and you stole. But I’ve found my peace and thank God I’m alive. Because I know by His grace I will always survive. ~Markie Williams 📸 @monicachurch #survivor #strong #truth #speakup #survivornotvictim #lifeafterabuse #athlete #champion #womenpoweringwomen #bodybuildingmotivation #bikiniathlete #fit #fitnessmotivation #fitnessinspiration

[thatgirljonni]

Please #innerchild #healingyourinnerchild #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #depression #anxiety #ptsd #trauma #sexualassaultsurvivor #narcissisticabusesurvivor #sociopathicabusesurvivor #survivornotvictim #election2020 https://www.instagram.com/p/CHKiN21hKvs/?igshid=2zgs2yyhryps

[doingbetterthanexcellence]

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[kalikillsthedemon]

One of the biggest dangers of living with a narcissist is that they manipulate, gaslight, project and groom you into actually questioning the truth=facts=reality. You begin to feel like you are crazy. But you are not crazy, because only sane people question their own behavior and modify it...you are dealing with a narcissist. I dont think I can handle watching the news anymore because it triggers me...but I know that this is exactly the goal of the fear that is being manufactured by the current administration. Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain and you run the risk of letting him do anything he wants without anyone to report it. 😑 #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #surviving2020 #survivornotvictim #triggered #gaslighting #projection #manipulation #distortion #abuse #grooming #alternativefactsarelies #reportersaskhardquestions #democracydiesindarkness https://www.instagram.com/p/B-rpx-BACr1/?igshid=1pitogafrht6p