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My baby daughter got her adorable puffin-print dress absolutely CAKED in mud crawling around the yard and my first thought was "oh no her beautiful dress"
And my second thought was "oh huh it really WOULD be easy to unconsciously steer her away from playing in the dirt. Unlike my son, whose outfits are usually some kind of solid dark easily washed pants plus a shirt that doesn't trail in the dirt like a dress does."
Anyway something something gender roles start getting shoved on kids from literal birth, but with a little time to think about things, YOU TOO can let your children of any gender absolutely destroy their clothes in the dirt pit they're digging in your garden
#all clothes provided through hand me downs and grandparents#we asked for non strongly gendered or branded things and that mostly worked for firstborn boy#but baby girl has gotten nothing but the cutest little dresses#that I am absolutely not going to stress if she destroys because it's not like they'll last until next summer anyway#at which point she'll be big enough for her brother's dirt-compatible pants#now if we can get her to stop EATING the dirt that would be GRAND#her pronouns are om/nom#literal definition of a baby
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Translated with permission!!
Here's the author's Twitter (achu_0u0) and the original post!
Note from author: Wouldn't it be hard for half-foots to go to the movie theater?
#i messed up the lining and text size a bit but shh#i plan on translating all of their dungeon meshi fancomics... sometime#first time translating anything ahhhh!#don't ask why fler is asking mei for the popcorn when puck has it#sibling thing#this took me like 6 hours btw#mostly stressing over the typesetting#i made it on a tablet with an “add text” app that doesn't let you align the text or anything#it was driving me crazy#anyways check out the author they have amazing chilchuck fanart and fancomics!#in korean though#dungeon meshi#delicious in dungeon#chilchuck tims#puckpatti chils#flertom chils#meijack chils#katrina posts#translations#achu_0u0
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#quiet borderline#borderline personality problems#borderline things#ghosting#bed rotting#bpd stigma#bpd stuff#bpd thoughts#bpd blog#actually bpd#bpd problems#stressed#bpd mood#bpd#bpd vent
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I do have good social awareness in conversations, but only in observing the results. if that makes sense? like I’m throwing stuff out blindly, but I’m good at judging whether it is received positively or negatively, and adjusting accordingly. I can see the pluses and minuses forming in their air above their head
#STRESSFUL TO SEE THE MINUSES#especially since sometimes I’m like wait why tf was that a minus#and then hours later it hits me that negative subtext could be taken from what I said#instead of the very literal thing I intended#STRESSFUL!!!!!!!!#anyway this is why my neighbours hate me
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#All the recent gomens news has been stressing me out and slowly drawing details helps to take my mind off things#good omens#crowley#did most of the colouring on paper and then just finished up in digital
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seriously have been thinking about this all night long. call me autistic but the fact that 90% of workplaces the point is not to get your work done and then be done doing it but to instead perform an elaborate social dance in which you find something to do even when you're done doing everything you need to do in order to show your fellow workers that you, too, are Working . because you are at Work . disgusting why cant we all agree that if there is no work immediately to be done. we just dont do anything
#i personally like to not be doing things constantly at all times. it stresses me out#i know there are ppl who thrive on cosntant activity#but me i like to chill out.#and the problem then becomes that i only ACTIVELY remember to do work and Find More Work To Do when im stressed#at the thought that others might want to see me working#if im ever relaxed i just dont look for stuff to do#catch 22 of modern work culture which permeates even ostensibly noncapitalist structures like public libraries#for instance: will it really kill anybody if the books get shelved by me now after a very busy day?#or shelved tomorrow morning by. well probably me since i'll be the one at the desk#not in the slightest#but it was work that wasnt being immediately done by me. therefore it was incorrect behavior#that i failed to identify because my instinct is to relax when not immediately presented with a Situation#this got me labeled as 'having no initiative' by my dad from a very early age#and even as an adult i still feel like im a child with no initiative
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the thing about some men is that they want you to remember, at all times, that you are underneath them. that with one word or look or "joke", you will stay beneath them. that even "exceptions" to the rule are not true exceptions - the commonly cited statistic that one in eight men believe they could win against serena williams.
women's gymnastics is often not seen as real gymnastics. whatever the fuck non-euclidian horrors rhythmic gymnasts are capable of, it's often tamped down as being not a sport. some of the most dominant athletes in the world are women. nobody watches women's soccer. despite years of dancing and being built like a fucking brick, men always assume they're faster and stronger than i am. you wouldn't like what happens when they are incorrect. once while drunk at a guy's house i won a held-plank challenge by a solid minute. the party was over after that - he became exceedingly violent.
what i mean is that you can be perfect, and they still think you're ... lacking, somehow. i hope you understand i'm trying to express a neutral statement when i say: taylor swift was the possibly the most patriarchy-palatable, straight-down-the-line woman we could churn out. she is white, conventionally attractive, usually pretty mild in personality. say what you will about her (and you should, she's a billionaire, she can handle it), but a few things seem to be true about her: 1. she can write a damn catchy song, and 2. the eras tour truly was a massive commercial success and was also genuinely an impressive feat of human athleticism and performance.
i don't know if she deserves the title of "woman of the year," i'm not debating that in this post. what i am saying is that she was named Woman of The Year, and then an untalented man got onstage at the golden globes and made fun of her for attending her boyfriend's football games. what i am saying is that this woman altered local economies - and her dating life is still being made into a "harmless" punchline. the camera panned, greedy, over to her downing a full glass of champagne. congratulations taylor! you are woman of the year! but you are a woman. even her.
fuck, man. write better material.
a guy gets onstage at a college graduation and despite the fact like half the crowd is made up of women, he spends a significant proportion of it warning these people - who spent possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars on their education - that they were lied to. that the "real" meaning of femininity is motherhood. that they shouldn't rest on the laurels of that education-they-paid-for but instead throw it away to kneel at a man's heel. imagine that. sweating in your godawful polyester gown (that you also had to pay for!), fresh out of 4 years of pushing yourself ever-harder: and some guy you've never met - who knows nothing about you - he reminds you this "win" is a pyrrhic one at best. you really shouldn't consider yourself that extraordinary. you're still a woman, even after years of study.
god forbid you are not a pretty woman, but if you are pretty, you must be dumb. god forbid you are not ablebodied or white or cis or straight or good at swallowing. you must be beneath a man, or else they are not a man. the equation for masculinity seems to just be: that which is not a woman or womanly (god forbid). anything "feminine" is thereby anathema. to engage in "feminine" things such as therapy, getting a hug from a friend, or crying - it is giving up ones manhood. therefore women need to be put in their place to ensure that masculinity is protected.
this is something i have struggled to explain to terfs - they are not doing the work of feminism, but rather the patriarchy. by asserting that women and men must be (on some secret level) oppositional and in conflict, they also assume that being a woman is akin to being another species. but bigotry does not stem from observational truths or clarity - that is what makes it bigotry. there was nothing in my childhood that made me fundamentally different from my brother. we are treated differently nonetheless. to assert there is some biological drive that enforces my gender role is to assert that women have a gendered role. men do not see women as equal to them not because of biological reality - but instead because the core tenant of the patriarchy is that women aren't full, realized people.
we are told from a very young age to excuse misbehavior as a single man's choice - not all men. it is not all men, just that one guy. all women are gold-digging bitches who belong in the kitchen - but if a man is mean, bigoted, or violent to you, it's just that particular guy, and that means nothing about men-as-a-whole. it is only one guy who got mad when you gently rejected him. it is only one guy who warns her this trophy is heavy, are you sure you can hold it? it is only one guy who smashes her face into the cake. it is only one guy talking into a mic about hating our bodily autonomy.
i have just found that they often wait until the moment we actually seem to be upstaging them. you sit in a meeting where you're presenting your own findings and he says get me a coffee? or you run to the end of the marathon and are about to finish first and he pushes your kids out in front of you. you win the chess game and they make some comment akin to well, you're ugly away. we can be the billionaire and get the dream life and finally fucking do it and yet! still! they have this strange, visceral urge to say well actually, if you think you're so great -
it's not one just one guy. it's one in eight.
#posting my drafts#i want to stress im a taylor swift enjoyer. sorry.#also if someone wants to venmo me for the radfem hate i get daily i need like 60 bucks#someone stole my taylor swift official merch quarter zip :(#the point im specifically making in the tswift paragraphs i hope is clear which is like.#taylor is not threatening their ideas of masculinity or femininity. she is incredibly milquetoast. i mean i love her#but there's nothing about her that challenges the status quo. EXCEPT for her success.#and that's what pisses so many men off: the success.#so if THE VISION of white heteropatriarchy STILL is being treated this way.....#what do you think is happening to minority populations??#i just feel like be annoyed w/her about real things but being weird about her dating someone is like#soooooooooooooooooooooo fucking annoying. like ya know????#[said with the knowledge i need you to be soooo normal about how you interpret this entire piece and also these tags]
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I HATE how this turned out WITH A PASSION.
#art#fanart#my art#original art#splatoon#splatoon art#splatoon fanart#Splatoon fan art#I’m stressed#Splatoon Marie#Marie splatoon#Marie#marie cuttlefish#Splatoon Marie fanart#squid sisters#hypno Marie#hypnomask marie? bc Callie is hypnoshades idunno ugh#I’m gonna rip my eyes out with a spoon this is so awful I HATE THE CLOTHES#I COULDVE DONE BETTER#one thing I do love though is my art style and more especially the shading part#ugh eating my shading#I’m noticing that I didn’t shade some parts lmfao but it’s part of my charm#some things are better left unfinished <3 because I have adhddddd#oni masks oni masks oni masks oni mask oni teeth oni teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth te#don’t ask me why I’m so obsessed with teeth I do not know myself. I just am.#labeling this as ‘something I did when I was bored after having a crisis’ because those are usually not that good.
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committing yaoi crimes
#dungeon meshi#kabumisu#kabru#mithrun#my art#squeezing them in my hands like stress toys and whacking them against the table. i like them#i drew the first 3 with like a modern fantasy au thing in mind for some reason#laois right before committing another microagression: Urethra!#he tried to be an ally 5 injured hundreds dead
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One thing i've run up against when dealing with fandom and characters making less than ideal choices is that people seem to treat a character's decision being sympathetic, the decision being understandable, the decision being reasonable, and it being objectively the best solution for the situation, as synonymous. When those are 4 very different things.
#fandom#complaining and whining about fandom#'oh x didn't make any sense' and it's a character working with incomplete information#or in a super high stress situation having to act quickly#or a deeply traumatized character making a choice that even for their situation makes no sense but they couldn't help it#and sometimes it actually is the best solution and still not sympathetic because it betrays someone close to them for the greater good!#all of these things can be true!
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People keep on asking for more Baby Robin and Papadile so here is more Baby Robin and Papadile. Now never ask anything from me ever again
#My art#One Piece#Long post#Sir Crocodile#Nico Robin#Alternatively panel 5 would've been a close up of Crocodile's face from Robin's POV where he looks like he's giving her a death glare#Not intentionally he's just a big scary bastard with a Resting Murder Face and Robin is a small traumatized child#But I wanted to focus on the silliness of the moment so you get the goofy version instead#IDK man there's just something very funny to me about the idea of Robin just randomly info-dumping about a subject she's read about#And Crocodile being like ''?????????????????????? The fuck you talking about??''#Robin leaves the ship's kitchen and Crocodile just stares at the tomato like ''...It's a fruit? Forreal?''#(Meanwhile Robin is sweating bullets like ''I called his favorite vegetable a FRUIT right in his FACE he's going to KILL ME'')#Robin grew extra feet from the bottom of her feet to reach the counter and that actually isn't me trying to explain bad art away#In the original Papadile comic there was a panel of Robin doing the dishes with extra feet to reach the sink but I cut it out#(It was a stress relief comic I did not feel like drawing a complicated background in detail) (BUT YES I THOUGHT OF IT)#Nico Robin Age 11 is *more* than capable of cooking Crocodile just does not trust her with his food. At least not yet#She did start doing the dishes unprompted and continues to do so (mostly out of fear). Croc told her she didn't have to but allows it#IDK a lot of people seem to headcanon Crocodile as incapable of cooking and like. Surely Mr ''I don't trust people'' knows how to cook#Like he doesn't have to be a master chef or anything but and maybe he enjoys not HAVING to cook (pain in the ass with one hand + knife/hook#But surely he can cook decent enough. SURELY#Botanists don't @ me I know the ''tomato is a fruit'' thing isn't fully accurate this is just a silly little haha comic
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My poor, sensitive nervous system... 😭
Gotta make sure to get plenty of rest!
#sensory issues#sensory overload#autism#autism spectrum disorder#autistic#actually autistic#autistic experiences#neurospicy#autism memes#autistic culture#autistic things#neurodivergent memes#autistic memes#memes#autism awareness#autism things#autism experiences#post traumatic stress disorder#actually traumatized#trauma#trauma survivor#fight or flight#nervous system#adrenaline#autistic burnout#autistic community#mentally tired#tired#tism posting#its the tism
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Charizard is a weird axolotl in my minds eye. in my dreams too
#my art#pokemon#artists on tumblr#charizard#pokemon art#original character#my designs#doodle#sketch#sorry for not posting polished things i am so stressed
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Rottmnt Possessed AU
So… It all started with this art of Ghost Leo that I drew quite some time ago.
And then I had an idea.
Do you remember how Gram-Gram died, did the Hamato glowy thing, turned into light and possessed April at the end of season 2?
Well-
What if?
I present to you The Disaster Twins who refused to be separated by such dumdum thing as death.
#before they were one soul in two bodies#now...#my art#art#sketch#rottmnt possessed au#rottmnt au#rottmnt#rise of the tmnt#rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles#rise leo#rottmnt leo#rise donnie#rottmnt donnie#disaster twins#rise disaster twins#ghost leo#this au has been dusting in my drafts since june wow#i'm still working on it#my first au#like ever#i'm stressed#I wasn't sure if April's costume change was from the possession or just a ninpo thing#but her look was vastly mirroring Karai's#so I decided it was the former#and did the same to Donnie and Leo#I don't have any specific plans for this au for now
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time for my oddly specific dni that is a joke and not real. ofc tag how many apply to you. dni if you:
like ranch dressing
think you “Get” the movie inception
are an only child
were/are into supernatural AND sherlock but NOT doctor who
were born after st patricks day 2002
dont like fruit or vegetables
took german in high school
have happily married parents
have a strong preference for the xbox over other consoles
have a name that was one of the top 100 in your country the year you were born
have or want more than two dogs
are a libra
are against writing/highlighting in books (like morally against it, even other people doing it in books that arent yours and have nothing to do with you)
have never worked customer service
like thunderstorms
are a man who works in tech
dont remember your dreams
dont have a favorite color
regularly wear jeans to bed
look good in hats
#i have a lot of anxiety so again i must stress this is jokes#many of these things apply to some of my dearest friends#a few of them apply to me. its whatever#ok to rb
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alternative: he pissed off another force god
#and if he offered to adopt you then what?#kanan jarrus#star wars rebels#swr#sw rebels#my art#fanart#digital art#art#star wars#star wars fanart#swr fanart#artists on tumblr#caleb dume#kanan jarrus fanart#rebels#star wars rebels fanart#life's been stressful#thank god this little guy exists#the joy I got out of drawing this silly thing almost made me forget my problems
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