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I think being able to connect ocs in these most beautiful and touching relationships. And you can explore heartbreak and grief and it’s just. Idk it makes me so happy to be living and be rping with friends and creating these connections that tug at my heart because they mean so much to me.
#kidlat and dulcie were life changing#dulcie in general had so many friendships that make me smile and wish I talked more about them#like tala and dulcie#blade also had such beautiful friendships also FESTER FUCKING LANE!!!!#but like Altan and blade. Daniel and blade. ohhhhhh#raine. you know. you know who I’m talking about !!! (sidehero)#but also like. the way io and raine keep up with each others art. and they don’t even know#raine and chelle and six and virk#VIRAINE REAL BTW#and then hayumi and noumu#and my god I wish I had rped Hayumi more. because that guy was so sweet and cute and I think the small friendships I made with them#still make me smile#nightfall :deadge:#courage :deadge:#I got shy all of a sudden so this where I end it but there’s so many oc relationships that mean the whole damn world to me#Jack and dae-hyun special shout-out#ok bye
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having good & true friends will literally save and protect you in a million unfathomable ways. like okay we have written so many times about lovers. but the way a platonic friend laughs and cries with you. the way they hold your hand at 14 years old and at 34. the way they keep a little silver tie to you, touching base over and over and over. how you can go years without talking, only to re-meet and discover: oh shit! you're still cool!
there are people who have been in my life for more than half of it, and i have loved every version of them. do you know how fucking beautiful that is. yeah love will save the world. but the way friends love you is gonna save the you.
#and before one of u is like '' i have no friends :(" i used to be there too actually#abusive partner cut me off from ALL of 'em. i didn't think i was lovable#it made me EXCEPTIONALLY shy. i still am actually!!!!#i just ... started saying ''yes.''#i would take pictures of flyers in my library and go to whatever events they had#i started taking community classes#if someone mentioned like ''i am gonna start x group'' i actually took a deep breath#and approached them to be like . okay i want in.#i started making the first move with new people - a small compliment#a smile or a little joke. just to share the space with them.#i have MASSIVE social anxiety. bad parent and bad relationship will do that to ya.#but i just... kept going. and going. and going. to each of these little things. and then...#like. .... idk i just am very blessed. i have a STUPID number of friends#a lot of which i reconnected with. bc it turns out love is never wasted. adult life just.#like. gets in the way. but also... i loved u as a weird little kid. i love u now as a weird big adult.#i promise i PROMISE ur friends are out there. u just have 2 find them. and btw#i didn't make friends with everyone. but i did get a lot of people to smile or laugh.#aint that something.#this process took me something like 2 years. it was HARD!!!!!!!!!!#i love u!!! hard things are often worth it!!!
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
Plain-text version:
Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
#hlep#original#mental health#my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it#i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support#and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of#huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the#longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel#i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop
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THE brothers
#fma#fullmetal alchemist#fmab#alphonse elric#edward elric#dragon doodles#ohh I have been SO very soup but these guys have been rummaging around in my head as of late I had to draw them I Had to#I really really like these two lots. punching walls#been going through the fma manga for the first time (previously have only seen fmab) and. it's so insanely peak ?#still need to read the last few volumes... smiles with tears in my eyes...#anywyas I have things I ABSOULTELY should've prioritized over this to do still. but. it was good for me to make and finish something#been having a really hard time with that lately
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the theme is same faces
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tridentarii: the building block was "lions" (corona's mane of hair and king vibes + ianthe's scar lionking swagger) but i think i lost that plot at some point. regardless peep the earrings for symbols of their twisted mutualism. also they have dimples <3 bc on corona they're perfect and on ianthe (when she smiles wide enough) they're sickeningly dissonant
the nonas: harrow has curls bc i think the only thing funnier than saddling a nun who's been shaving her head since infancy with fast-growing hair is for that hair to be horrible messy springy curls that are barely spared from frizz by the sheer grease #bathingisn'tsafeformern. please also applaud my restraint in adhering to canon and not giving nona dimples. she deserved them
the sixth: came to me fully formed honestly. palamedes calls camilla beautiful enough for the alexandrites so i just let my heart and sapphism take the wheel here. for pal when i first read gtn i visualized him very differently but other artists made such a compelling case for scruffy pal that now i can't see him any other way
the second: also let my heart take the wheel here. wanted to draw a man carved out of hardwood so i did <3 at the caliber of necromancer that g1d is i know he probably wouldn't have so much scarring but the heart wants what it wants (cool factor). in my head and in my heart they're from wake
naberius: i don't have anything to say in my defense. i rewatched teen beach movie, found the perfect face claim and set the wheels of fate in motion. i think babs is hot the way a ken doll is hot, y'know? it takes yanny piloting his flesh mecha for him to be gender (<- testimonial from my masc nb friend)
#the locked tomb#nona the ninth#ianthe tridentarius#coronabeth tridentarius#nona tlt#harrowhark nonagesimus#camilla hect#palamedes sextus#gideon the first#pyrrha dve#naberius tern#the whole point of this post is me wanting to see if i can make the same face express different characters distinctly. had fun#i had to do pal okay pal had to be there. i had to cleanse from drawing babs#YES IM A CURLY GIRLY which means i will give curls to anybody i can get away with. i refuse to make corona settle for measly beach waves#i coulda never been a boe soldier the amount of product i go through..... sorry i'm shilling for that house haircare#i was going to do gideon-in-harrow and pal-in-babs too but i couldn't stand to see babs's face contorting into pal's smile so i stopped#i might still do it but not now#doodles#mine
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iñaki godoy studied luffyology at the esteemed monkey d'university. he graduated top of his class. latin honors. he's on his way to get a phd. oops wait he's already got it. my god. the talent on this young man. he's got that natural troublemaker face. the class clown at the back of the class kind of energy. a kid who's hiding something in his hand. u take one glance at this guy and u know he's not up to no good. but would u follow him anyway? are u kidding me. look at him. of course u would.
#one piece#one piece live action#opla#Iñaki Godoy#episode 1#still on episode 1 but i cannot stop smiling#like. none of this would work without luffy#for u to believe in this world and its wacky kooky crazy laws and realities u have to first believe in luffy#and by god did iñaki make me believe#hes so. earnest. like. yeah. luffy. you are gonna be the king of the pirates.
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Tender moments shared
#its more sketchy and some of the anatomy isnt to my liking but im still happy with it#if it makes me smile all silly goofy when i look at it. well. thats good enough for me babyyy#fellas is it gay#yes. yes it is.#Obi-Wan is currently kissing a path down Cody's chest. Cody subsequently discovers that the light brush of Obi-Wan's beard#tickles.#hence Cody giggling and smiling the dopey bastard#hey your honour?#yeah theyre in love. case dismissed#kraftykelpie's art#codywan#cody x obi wan#obi wan kenobi#clone commander cody#cc 2224#marshall commander cody#sw fanart#sw tcw fanart#sw the clone wars#star wars
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one second sir.
#nate's ''old man yaoi'' agenda still going strong i see#avs lb#nathan mackinnon#gabriel landeskog#colorado avalanche#nategabe#nate#gabe#avs#the watermarks in the last gif make me insane but i couldnt not include gabes smile at nate
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his laugh is everything (4/?)
{cr. 0613data, dwellingsouls}
#bts#btsgif#dailybts#btsedit#yoongi#min yoongi#suga#bts suga#*gif#rékagif#layoough#usersky#i can still make a 5th one so the series shall continue - idk when but i will make it#also listen!! i know the seesaw one seems more like a smile BUT HE CHUCKLED I HEARD IT so its a laugh for me (a very dear one) so thats tha
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September 20, 2024 - Singapore Source: F1TV
#im sorry but is this not the cutest thing you've ever seen???#I could watch this forever and itd still make me smile#oliver bearman#f1#formula 1#kimi antonelli#Rene Rosin#ferrari#mercedes#prema racing#f2#ollie bearman
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#my art#monkey d. luffy#one piece#dracule mihawk#sir crocodile#mihawk a little more moustachy and very OOC smile#the croc is from almost a year ago but i still find it neat#just normal drawings#hoping to draw less fanart and more original stuff this year. or at least really try to go out of my comfort zone#also plz no inappropriate comments about the croc#luffy and mihawk make good templates to experiment on. maybe cuz they're simple and shaped + wide brim hat#i seriously have a mihawk disease#i really like drawing low angles#i was looking at pics of tsurumi from GK and i was like mihawk could have a moustache like that#i think mihawk is the cutest guy in one piece.#April Edit: modified the luffy pic slightly. the shadow cutting off in the middle of his neck was bothering me for months
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I hate these fucking gays
#house md#james wilson#gregory house#hilson#THEY MAKE ME SO SICK!!!!!#i wish death upon them#LORD STRIKE THEM DOWN!!!!!!!#anyway for the first drawing a made a small little writing thing#my eyes caught between his bright eyes and his warm smile.#i wasnt sure which one of the two held more pride for the fact that i was by his side.#i cropped it out because i thought it was kind of cringe but i still think it was kind of cute!!!#so yeah just adds some context to the drawing!!
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a non-comprehensive guide to my favourite characters in claymore, the best manga you've never read (more under the cut)
don't know what I'm talking about? here's a crashcourse.
#disclaimer: 60% of the added detail is under the cut is my own personal headcanon but im also just correct#anyway#blatantly copying my best friend's template for when they did it for their favourite niche media#its so fun to make art for stuff not that many people know about. im free from the shackles of expecting an audience#this is just for me#also. one of these things is not like the other. hi dauf#“why didnt you draw rigardo too” because i just dont find him that interesting :/ sorry dude#killer performance at pieta! still the most underwhelming member of the first generation#hm....what else#im surprised at how claymore never experienced a resurgence in popularity. in a perfect world this shit does numbers on sapphic tumblr#but oh well#its been 10 years but im still here#i will singlehandedly bring about the claymore renaissance if i have to#okay time for general tags >#claymore#norihiro yagi#manga#teresa of the faint smile#clare claymore#irene claymore#quicksword irene#miria claymore#phantom miria#helen claymore#deneve claymore#ophelia claymore#rippling ophelia#jean claymore#drillsword jean#god eye galatea
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Don't u just love it when kamado tanjiro leaves the sun jobless
#oh my baby#he is so precious#all that trauma and he is still smiling for his lil sis#shit like that makes me cry#tanjuro kamado#demon slayer#kimetsu no yaiba#kny spoilers#nezuko#kny#tomioka giyuu#shinobu kocho#mitsuri#kny season 4#gyomei#zenitsu#giyuu#obanai#sanemi#kny × reader#rengoku#kny fluff#kny smut#tanjiro × reader
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three superheroes, anpanman! for @sopekooks ♡
cr. jung-koook
#btsgif#dailybts#btsedit#bts#bangtan#sopekook#hobi#yoongi#jungkook#usersky#usersan#usermaggie#userkelli#tuserandi#raplineuser#*jk#*yg#*hs#*gifs#tw flashing#happy birthday my darling crystal!#can you believe that another year passed already? it's crazy#I hope you have an amaaaaaazing day today#that you're being showered with all the love#that you laugh a lot and eat great food and that people tell and show you how wonderful you are#thank you for being here with me for another year. I'm just. SO very fond of you my angel#even when we don't talk much I hope you know how much I adore you and that I'm always rooting for you#you're my longest bts tumblr mutual that is still here and I love you so much#(this clip was supposed to be in last year's set already but I didn't have the file yet back then! so here it is now!#they're sliding right into your heart <3 jungkook's smile makes my heart melt :(((( )
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coming over here to say your Megumi is, as always, incredible
thank u so much i love my boy <3
tht reminds me i am slacking on my nwt megu quota
jjk atla!au with @philosophiums
#my art#jujutsu kaisen#jjk#fanart#jjk fanart#fushiguro megumi#megumi#jjk atla!au#atla!au: art#atla!au: illust#lmhs#i still prefer him in green but i went to all that trouble making him that nice coat itd b a shame if he didnt get any wear out of it#ik i gave him gloves in tht design also but covering megumi's hands while he poses goes against my religion#gloves r the hand coverers.....they cover the hands.......#and that simply will not fly in this household#idc that ur literally at th north pole megu sorry u can put them on after#speaking of hands#when will my kotobukiya hand model return from war so i can stop contorting my hands in front of the mirror smh#getting ref for bottom right made my fingers cramp :(#how can i claim 2 b a megumi fan when my hands r not nearly as dexterous as his :((( he wld b ashamed of me#sighs anyway ! the boy <3 sorry if u wanted canon megu#canon megu is on the shelf right now smile :)
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