#stealing this because OP was a TERF

[adhdemizel]

Analog horror series about your friend getting a boyfriend

[gemharvest]

[titles-for-tangents]

That’s a pooka

Do it for the vine

[lockhartandlych]

stealing this because op is a terf. this would make such a baller tattoo.

[velvetvexations]

op of the werewolf comic was literally drawing himself, not "detransitioning her". presumably because he, being trans, didnt want to represent himself as a girl. thats common sense i fear

No, listen, it is vitally important we put a 19-year old on blast for drawing a boy in a meme instead of a girl.

I seriously can't stress this enough. This bullshit is all they ever talk about. They don't care about trans women except the ones who are compliant and into the same fetishes, they just want to hurt people and feel like martyrs online. Presumably hate crimes, transphobes legislating us out of existence, and campaign ads directly exploiting incarcerated Black trans women in support of a presidential candidate that wants us all dead, that's all, I don't know, too depressing, I guess? The TMEs stealing our memes and liking Rocky Horror, that's the real danger.

They call me a crypto-TERF because I think it's physically possible for a trans woman to cause harm to a trans man, and yet, I don't see them on any TERF's blocklist!

God, can you imagine not being on a TERF's blocklist? That would be so humiliating for any transfeminist with thousands of followers that regularly engages in aggressive activism!

Are they scared of actual, genuine transmisogynists? Is that it? Are they just cowards? Because they'll release the hounds on a nineteen year old drawing a silly meme where the girl happens to be a boy this time instead, but blogs that actively fantasize about murdering everyone with XY chromosomes, what, that intimidates them?

Or maybe they're just scared of seeing what TERFs actually think since they're so insecure in their femininity they have to pretend transphobes see them as women and only hate them exclusively. If you spent literally five seconds on a TERF's blog the fact that they feel the same contempt towards cis men would be glaringly obvious and that would emotionally obliterate these people. They wouldn't survive. Literally they would die because the idea of one person in the world mentally classifying them as men makes them have a screaming panic attack, which is also why they think getting included in a "hey guys" in a group that otherwise consists entirely of cis women and a parakeet is a deliberately cruel assault on the very soul of trans women everywhere rather than something to shrug off and politely ask to be excluded from in the future. I wish we were teaching trans girls to FUCKING COPE ONCE IN AWHILE instead of insisting that no, actually, you should have a fucking hysterical meltdown over fucking everything at all times regardless of context because no one will ever love you except for other trans women, assuming they aren't tainted by cooties from close proximity to t-boys, and you should never make friends or have sex with anyone else.

And isn't "this person drew themselves, a boy, instead of a girl, and that's bad" at the heart of it? Because just like TERFs, they see trans men as casualties in the gender war at best and willful traitors at worse. Usually both! Men will get "I want to impregnate him" jokes and that's fine, because like, sexual harassment and invalidation of one's identified gender isn't bad on principle or anything, it's entirely a matter of social karmic balance, men oppress women therefore you can do or say anything you want to a man, but like, make sure you only go after trans men, okay, because they might "socially murder" you by making a post about how you were objectively an asshole to them on their blog but saying things like that to a cis man could result in ACTUAL FUCKING MURDER WITH A FUCKING BASEBALL BAT.

[princessefemmelesbian]

A PSA

Okay I normally don't make posts about TERFs like these because I prefer to reblog them from trans people who know more about this stuff then I do but I just gotta say this, and if I'm being for fucking real I can't believe this even has to be said:

Stop posting screenshots of TERF posts and saying "op was a terf so I'm stealing this post! 🤪"

Seriously, stop it. You're not doing anything good by taking TERF talking points and reposting them to your blog. All you're doing is allowing TERF rhetoric to continue to spread and sanitizing it so that people become desensitized to it and don't recognize actual TERF rhetoric when they see it.

When you screenshot a TERF post and say "op was a TERF" all you are doing is validating TERF points whether you agree with them or not. Because every post a TERF makes, even if it seems benign, is connected to their rotten, transmisogynist ideology. You cannot divorce TERF statements from their true intentions. I think a lot of TMEs on this site really underestimate the fact that TERF is a harmful hate movement. Every statement a TERF makes, even if it seems harmless or actually feminist, is ultimately going to be tarnished by the fact that they are made with the intention of targeting trans women and wanting them dead. If a post is about how men are awful or are "raised" to be a certain way and is made by a TERF, then congratulations, you just found transmisogynistic rhetoric that is actually about trans women and their apparent "male socialization". If a post is about how lesbians should be allowed to not like men and how men are forcing themselves onto lesbians, but a TERF made it, then it's not actually a lesbian-friendly post. It is a transphobic post about how transfem lesbians apparently "prey" on cis lesbians(which they also think straight trans men are, let's make that very clear) by merely existing. Same for any post about the word queer or the beauty industry or periods or anything of the like. Even if they don't explicitly say it, TERFs are inherently lumping trans women in with(cishet) men and trans men in with women/lesbians and THAT is the true meaning of the post. You're not making it any better by reposting it from them.

TERFs know exactly how to make their posts seemingly benign and genuinely positive on the surface so that people get sucked in to thinking that they are truly for the feminist cause and actually have good points to make. But all of it ultimately serves the purpose of continuing transmisogyny, and when you post screenshots of their posts and go "I really wanted to reblog this post but op was a terf so I'm stealing it! 😇" all you are doing is giving terfs a platform and saying that we should listen to them. You're exposing trans women to beliefs and opinions of people who ultimately wish to harm them and do NOT have the same innocent intentions that you believe they have from looking at the post at first glance. You are not helping women. You are not helping feminism. You're internalizing TERF rhetoric, and you're allowing other people to internalize it, too.

It's one thing if you don't realize a post was made by a TERF before you reblog it, and then you delete it afterwards. But if you know someone is a TERF and intentionally repost their vile, sickening rhetoric wrapped up in pink feminist bows and go "I like the message of this post but op is a terf so 🤷🏾‍♀️" then you may as well be reblogging it directly from them, because you're still agreeing with TERFs at the end of the day.

What can you do instead? You can reblog feminist posts from amazing and intellectual trans women who actually are genuine about the cause and actually know what they're saying. They have way better views on feminism and misogyny and lesbophobia and the patriarchy then a radfem who thinks woman=vagina and man=penis ever will, trust me. Uplift their voices instead of stealing from conservative hate groups. It really is that simple.

[ysabelmystic]

Stealing this because OP is a TERF but unfortunately on this aspect they are kinda correct (a broken clock is right twice a day…)

We must initiate crabmageddon

[girlwarlock]

people I'd like to know better tag game

I didn't actually get tagged in this but i saw @nonbinary-bosmer tagged and decided to steal it from them. They, in fact, did say "anyone else who feels like jumping on the bandwagon"

Last Song: Final Countdown (in major key)

Favorite Color: Poiple. ahem. Purple. Specifically cool, lavender-ish purple. I do like pink, but purple is my true love.

Last Book: I am chugging through @drchucktingle's bury your gays very slowly (bc a lot of chapters get a little too real and have to put it down and then forget to pick it back up because [jazz hands] memory issues~)

Last Movie: so. we have the movie adaptations of the magic boarding school books by the transphobic author on dvd (from when they were coming out; these dvds are old as shit, they still have some of the "people aren't quite sure what's supposed to be on a DVD"-ness of early DVDs) and sometimes watch them while ranting about ways they could be better stories. so the third movie of that is the last thing i watched.

Last TV Show: ummm… probably agatha christie's poirot? the show with david suchet? also on dvd. but it's been long enough that there's uncertainty...

Sweet/Spicy/Savory: can i pick two lol. among these three… probably spicy? but close running between spicy and sweet. can we have spicy caramelized onions please? it doesn't have to be an "or" situation

Last Thing I Searched Up Online: so the very last thing i searched was a twitter user's handle from a screenshot i saw on tumblr because it looked like a terf handle (the direction of my hunch was right, i'm not sure if they were literally a terf, but their twitter acct was certainly displaying vitriolic transphobia; a tweet of theirs that lacked direct vitriol against trans people was being used as a kind of "it's frustrating that people don't change their minds when presented with evidence!" dunk against terfs and their right-wing allies, but like. the twitter OP's intent recontextualizes it? whatever, didn't wanna get into it with the tumblr OP or the person who put it on the dash so we just let it go), but right before that it was "slow cooker caramelized onions" so that's the kind of whiplash a search history can have 😅

Current Obsession: Slay the Princess. I saw an animation someone made for a line the Opportunist delivers and it made me super interested in the game and now i'm obsessed. mind the trigger warnings (it's a game that benefits from as little spoiling as possible but there's a list of specific triggers on the dev's website if you have anything that might be an issue) but otherwise extremely good, you should very play it.

And now, tagging some people! @bite-my-grimy-fleshy-ass @kittyopteryx @xiaokuer-schmetterling @zias-dreamshades. if you weren't tagged, don't worry about it! You're still Extremely Invited to participate and tag me as if you had been tagged for it!

[angel-in-shibari]

op is a terf and duh steals pics.

do you mind telling me which post, asshole? because I've reblogged like fifty things today. you're not as helpful as you think you are, you cunt

[confessions-official]

I understand why people do it, but it makes me so uncomfortable when people repost a stranger's art because OP belongs to a group they disagree with (TERFs for example).

As much as I recognize the desire to not give OP a platform, seeing someone steal their hard work, fanart, or videos and repost them always gives me such an ick.

In all other areas, it seems that stealing someone else's work and reposting is widely acknowledged as inappropriate, and it's spooky to wonder where Internet culture might go in the future and what wider groups might get pulled in. Proshippers get a bad rap for example, but in a few years, will we see antis straight-up stealing their fanart and reposting it? Or people stealing from those who belong to other political affiliations? Or religious individuals who aren't TERFs, but who've somehow been lumped into this same "bad" group by religious association, regardless of the LGBT-positive posts they make?

I hope it doesn't spiral, but it's frightening to me to see how many people who seem to have high influence in their corner of the Internet will flip their "you shouldn't steal people's work" morals on a dime as soon as OP belongs to a group they don't like.

 

[zordonmlw7]

Stealing because op is apparently a terf.

[nervoustragedyluminary]

I'm still not sure that OP wasn't bait intended to "peak" trans women by making up a hyper specific scenario where going "that Afab is a fake tranny and an evil detransitioner because as we know all detransitioners are the same and hate trans women" would somehow be protecting people ..... I mean look at the effects its having:

like IDK maybe this is a common issue with "TME"&dyadic cis Afab people pretending to be "AMAB" trans women in order to purposefully give bad advice and sabotage people's transitions and use the community like a club? If so why is this anon the first I've heared of it and why does the answer seem to be "tell everyone this bitch is a Cis Afab whose lying about being trans to steal tranny valor from real trans people" and not "tell people this dyadic person socially transitioned to man then detransitioned and started calling herself transfem so doesn't have the experience of reversing a T puberty or going on E "?

but I'm just seeing a lot of responses that are basically "this is why trans women can't trust anyone else they're all out to get us and anyone mentioning the existence of intersex people is automatically bad faith and just hates real trans women and gender is actually binary and anyone who isn't binary is trying to steal tranny valour " is just idk a terf couldn't have done better to try to make this into a" evil afabs stealing trans women's spaces" discussion..

Like "words no longer have connection to reality and her thinking she was male in the first place was delusional" seems like terf rhetoric slipping out from behind the mask

"detransitioners are all the same and all do this"

"this happens all the time"

"this is why trans unity can never work its a trojan horse for watering down trans womanhood"

Like idk I'm sure the OP is super happy at contributing to making a bunch of trans women feel unsafe and like they have to be constantly looking over their shoulders and doubting other trans people.

You can see it in the disingenuous( IMO) "I'm sorry my post stirred up the transmisogyny of those theyfabs who only ever bring up icky intersex people to attack the real trans people it wasn't my intention uwu shame on those delusional theyfabs if a cis man was doing that to them (which was a bait ask anon that I saw someone beign sent previously) they'd totally understand but they can never understand how unsafe trans women can be made by cis interlopers because they don't face danger from cis people unlike you.... I'm one of the good ones"

Like if you thought it might stir up transmisogyny why would you post it in the first place ? Why not instead ask "how do I warn people that my friend is giving misinformation without being an asshole " or "how do I talk to her about why what she's doing isn't okay without accusing her of being a transtrender" or "how do I remove this bad faith transphobe/ chaser who thinks she's playing 4d chess from my life?"

Instead it just comes off as "trender Discourse 2.0 the AFABs are coming for your trans womanhood and anyone who talks about intersex people is bad faith and to be shunned because they're just looking for excuses not trying to in good faith show possible scenarios where the OP might be being misleading as this ask echoes a lot of terf transmeds and separatist rhetoric "

[tignya]

Stealing this because the OP that brought this to Tumblr was a terf and needlessly added that fact to the post itself

[redheadbigshoes]

There’s a post that appeared on my dash and I’m stealing the ask op received because op is a terf:

“Many of my friends in real life are bi women. I have never looked down on them for their bisexuality, thought it automatically meant any stereotypes applied to them, or said I don't want to date bi women or any of the other things lesbians get called ‘biphobic’ for.

However, I have discovered that I think the people who are the most biphobic are often (well it's straight men they're in relationships with) but it's often themselves. They are the ones undermining their own bisexuality by calling themselves basically gay, or acting like their OSA is a tragic affliction that they wish they didn't have because they think their SSA is "better" or "purer" or whatever, and at the same time denying they can appear straight. For example, a lot of them have told me they overwhelmingly prefer women, think almost all women are attractive but only think 5 celebrity men are attractive, yet they are all in relationships with men now, so clearly they found more men attractive and were downplaying their attraction to men to overcompensate for not "feeling gay enough" and honestly it's so silly because some of us have real problems I'm sorry. Just be honest to yourself about who you are. I don't understand. I can understand this behaviour and these feelinas as a teenager where vou usually don't have adult responsibilities and problems yet, but people are still acting like that into their 20s when they're fully in relationships with men too”

Some things I want to comment about this:

- Not dating bi women as a lesbian doesn’t necessarily mean you’re biphobic, but if you don’t date them based on generalizations or any other biphobic reasons, yes that’s biphobic.

- Yes I think it’s not talked about enough how a lot of the time the people who’re most biphobic aren’t lesbians, but are men who’re in relationships with bi sapphics. 1) people seem to put the blame on women/fem-aligned people and other minorities way more often than putting the blame on men 2) I also think people don’t talk about this enough because the way they’re (men) biphobic is often based on fetishization which for a lot of them might seem like they’re accepting of their partner’s sexuality when they actually aren’t.

- I completely agree a lot of the time the biphobia comes from the bi community (not saying it’s most of the times, but it’s enough) and I rarely see people talking about this (and people totally should).

- I honestly don’t know what OSA and SSA mean.

- Probably the reason why a lot of those bi sapphics this person is talking about are in relationships with men (even though they seem to prefer women) is because it’s easier to be with men as a fem-aligned person, because it’s a very accepted relationship (m/f one, especially cis).

- Yeah maybe some of the people they mentioned are downplaying their attraction to men to “feel gay enough”, but I also think it’s a huge influence the thing I said right above.

- Tbh I do understand this feeling of wanting to be accepted by the community you’re in, and I probably relate with a lot of bisexuals who feel like they’re intruders or anything like that in the LGBTQ+ community (not in the same way though). I think this feeling is totally valid and you’re not a teenager for feeling bad about this.

[lastoneout]

I started to realize I was ace during this time and fuck was it rough. I had to spend years unpacking internalized aphobia just to come to terms with my identity.

And like I remeber this one post that went around that in retrospect I pray wasn't true, where someone was talking about how they were the president of their college's lgbt+ support club and one day someone who was a cis heteroromantic asexual showed up and they had to pull them outside and tell them they weren't queer and weren't welcome at the club. And like god that post fucking haunts me. Can you imagine being that cruel? The OP was fully painting themselves as a wise community leader who was correcting this misguided straight person and people were fucking patting them on the back for it and talking about how they were so proud of OP for protecting the real queer people from straights like that who want to invade our spaces and steal our resources.

I really, really hope that post was fake because I have spent so much time thinking about that ace person and worrying about them, wishing I could find them and tell them that OP was wrong and cruel and they belonged in that group.

And god forbid you HC a character as ace, that shit was a one way ticket to getting harassed and labeled a homophobe. And that shit hasn't even completely gone away, it wasn't that long ago that people in the MP100 fandom were just being openly and unapologetically aphobic because they didn't like ace Reigen HCs.

I also remember at least one prominent queer youtuber legit saying in a video that they didn't think there was anything queer about being asexual. That shit hurt because I really looked up to that creator, and tbf they have changed, but like that was just par for the course back then. You never knew if another queer person was safe or if they were going to turn out to think ace and aro people were special snowflakes who just wanted to pretend they were queer for funsies and thus should be unpersoned.

And Thomas Sanders basically had his entire internet presence nuked just for saying he thought ace and aro people were queer. Siding with aspecs was legit social suicide back then.

This shit also absolutely went hand in hand with transmedicalism, biphobia, and basically any movement that sought to separate queer people. TERFs have openly admitted that ace discourse was a recruitment tactic, because once they got you to believe one group of queer people was the enemy it was much easier to convince you to hate others. Aspec exclusionism and biphobia were the gateway ideologies, and tbh in some places they still are, that's why it's so important to recognize that TERF rhetoric is more than just hating trans people, they are smart enough when recruiting other queer people to not start with the transphobia.

And god the ace/aro exclusionist stuff really did go right into biphobic monosexual discourse(you can't use monosexual it lumps queer people in with straight people and besides biphobia isn't real it's just misdirected homophobia) those arguments were just copy + pasted from aspec discourse, and then transmedicalism and on and on to the next group. It's always the same arguments, the only thing that changes is the target. This is why anyone who EVER uses the argument that a certain type of bigotry is just a different type that's been misdirected is instantly sus to me. It's always an exclusionist dogwhistle used to try to deny whatever queer person is the enemy of the week a seat at the table.

But yeah, I try not to fault people who got swept up but changed and have put in the work, but it is still heartbreaking to think about how much aspec culture has just been completely lost because of that shit. We had solidarity and symbols and communities, and we've had to start over because half of us are too traumatized to bring back cake and dragons and the black/white rings and the rest just don't know because there's no one left to teach them. And it also sucks to see hateful stuff that was born out of that era still get passed around because the context is gone. It's just...beyond tragic. It really is.

I don't think younger/newer users fully grasp the shit show that ace discourse was around 2014-17

It was so hostile that, to this day, discussions that begin to derail just enough can make me physically nauseous, some specific mockery trigger crying sessions years later. We lost most accounts with any sort of ace positivity. There was no information, no support, and all this damage was done predominantly by other queer people.

All this to say that you, however you identify yourself, should be engaging with aphobic comments the same way you do any hate. We don't sugarcoat or try to be comprehensive with people who are blatantly racist, homophobic or terfs, so why give it a pass just because it's coming from a queer person? I see how this tolerance goes and it's done enough damage as it is.

[area51-escapee]

Sometimes I see posts across platforms even from other trans people and I’m like. Hey. Hey. You know we can’t “reclaim” terf ideology right. You can’t make Trans Exclusionary beliefs and ideas somehow trans friendly. You can’t steal a post because “op is a terf” and have all transphobic context suddenly erased. You know what they mean by “males” and “females” right. You have “terfs dni”, “this blog hates terfs”, “fuck off terf” in your bio but do you know what their rhetoric actually looks like. Do you understand that you can’t make bioessentialism trans inclusive. Please tell me you understand.