#speaking is half the work

[halfricanloveyou]

EXACTLY. the whole thought behind the “therapy speak” thing is that it was taught that “i feel that” statements come off as less accusatory than “you are” statements, and that it gives the other person you’re speaking to an opportunity to explain their intentions. it’s meant for people who aren’t trying to sound accusatory or like they’re trying to blame anybody when bringing up a concern or issue. it’s also supposed to help the other person you’re talking to to be less defensive.

the problem is that if you are being accusatory and blaming someone, how you start your sentence doesn’t matter. and to be honest, “i feel” statements have never really been all that effective. as someone who has always had communication difficulties i’ve been told this lots of times. it’s much much much more effective to just say “hey, i don’t wanna come off as sounding upset or like i’m blaming you, but it seems like…” that way if they DO feel your tone is accusatory they know you are not intentionally trying to make it sound that way.

the key is that you have to actually not want to upset or offend the other person and think something through before you talk to them, and then you have to genuinely want to care or listen to what they say in response. if you’re “feelings” won’t change than saying how you feel is just prioritizing yourself in any situation. and most people can tell when you aren’t going to listen to them.

my take on the whole “is therapy speak making us selfish” thing is no, it’s not. it’s just giving people who were already selfish some extremely annoying new vocabulary

[sunnylucy31]

People in my fic comments will be like “Wow this story is so well planned and thought out, how do you do it?” When in reality 90% of my writing process is like

[alkalamity]

Hear me out. Ratiorine AU where Aventurine is a mer captured by a group of researchers and Ratio is the scientist brought on board to teach him how to speak and access his intelligence levels.

[deoidesign]

when your main characters start dating after years of writing so they finally get to be like this

[anonymouscheeses]

Bonus under cut vvv

Later that same day:

And... I made an Emily redesign too...... *sniff sob /j* it's not final (like all my redesigns) I'm just trying get better at this design stuff and where better to do it except my current fixation ehhh?????

Long Emily design explanation/rant thing ignore it probably but pls dotn im desperate: I wanted to make her more round and soft cuzzz I love those typa designs I'm just a sucker for circle characters. Made her actually black and not fuckin gray cuz its a transformation to look more human and gentle(for me they go between two forms, their true ones that we see the first time we see them snd their human/softer ones if they ever interact with actual humans which... they usually dont.) Not a demon form tfff. In this version I wanted to put Emily in animal inspired features like... the sheep nose, ears, and hooves. Because she and Sera know that humans and about all beings love animals. Birds have sharp features mostly so they don't look as welcoming as they want to seem. I wanted Emily to look sheep likes and pretty much all the seraphim look more sheep like to make Lucifer stand out as the only one who was symbolized as a snake/goat(still don't know if I'll make him goat or make Lillith goat. I'll decide when I get there lmao). Justtt overalll wanted Emily to look more round, welcoming, and cute. I kept the freckles lighter than her skin color(even tho that's SUPER not accurate to what actually black people look like with freckles but whatevr) because it reminded me of fawns and.... sure Emily is a sheep but I still wanted to incorporate other cute animal traits with her cyz y not.

[leafatlaw]

Me watching parkour civilization for the 1st time: 'The book was written in parkour' thats so funny, sure this series is a little silly but its got alot of funny moments even with all the vine booms :)

Me, another watch through and two weeks later: See everybody gets the capitalism metaphor in prkciv but- what most people dont realize is that it goes beyond that: the prison industrial complex. See, the people in parkour prison are forced to parkour not only for food but constantly and in many difficult ways. AND because we know that parkour operates as a form of currency in this world, the prisoners are being forced to do something that should result in them being paid, for nothing ! Which bares resemblance to how in the real world, privately owned prisons are able to make a profit by---

[deimcs]

WYLL approves of valiant acts of defending the innocent or the defenceless, and appreciates kindness towards children. Peaceful, but decisive actions resonate with him, and those that take a genuine interest in him and the struggles he faces are also well-liked by him.

[guardian-angle22]

Variety's Actors on Actors | Hayden Christensen loving Diego Luna's work + Diego's reactions

[ohgreat-moretapes]

Tim I noticed a lot of indigenous patches on your jacket, are you Native?

Idk what my dad was 'cause I never knew him, but yeah my mom is (or... Was.. I guess..) Muscogee, the tribe native to the part of Alabama I'm in.

If I remember correctly she came to Alabama from Oklahoma (where a lot of Natives were displaced to in the 1800s) to "get back to her roots."

But yknow, I was separated from her in childhood (which tbh is upsettingly common for Native families) and I was raised in a very white very Catholic asylum so I'm not as connected to the culture as I'd like to be.

-Tim

[kindlespark]

i have NOT been losing my mind for weeks over ruben’s horrified Psychic Scream after ivy and oisin died and buddy running to ruben to cure him from Slow and lucy saying ruben was her really good friend just for people on this stupid website to say that the rat grinders didnt care about each other. im going to kill myself

[dimonds456]

Okay, as a former film student, there is ONE PART of James' apology that is GENUINELY viable that people keep criticizing him for:

He was going to use $3,000 to make a short film.

This IS possible, done all the time, normal, and FINE.

I've seen professional films that are 2 hours long that were made on a budget of $8,000 or less.

If you could do that, then $3,000 to make a short film is MORE than fine, especially if it was all going to the actors.

If you want to make a short film unprofessionally and for fun, you can 100% put up posters saying "I'm making a film, volunteer actors needed!" And people will sign up for free purely off the novelty of BEING in a movie. I've made 4 short films where that was the exact case, including an animated film I did by myself in a MONTH for a school assignment (here's the link if you're curious).

The one thing you NEED to spend money on for your set is something called "crafty," or more commonly known, "lunch." You need to buy food to have on set, enough for everyone that isn't something shitty that will put everyone in a bad mood. Having crafty is essential to filming if you're even REMOTELY serious.

Listen. Somerton's apology is absolute dog shit. But this is the one thing he said that is genuinely okay and normal and fine. Don't put it into people's heads that they need a massive amount of money to pursue their passions. You don't need a Marvel budget to film a fun action film in your backyard.

From the way he talks about his process, yeah that's shit. You don't need to completely throw away a script because it's the wrong fucking SEASON outside, all you need to do is retool your story and rewrite it. That's a sign he's a bad writer. A lot of the other things he says about Telos is also a load of all BS.

But the $3,000 thing is fine. Whatever.

[theswedishpajas]

Had a thought yesterday

[Clean version + bonus below]

[coolcarabiner]

warning signs

[desultory-novice]

“Through the Looking Glass”

Sorry for giving anyone Deja Vu!

To explain...

This comic was actually the FIRST propaganda piece I began drawing for the Finals before deciding to finish the other one instead. I wasn't sure I'd come back to this idea after Mint made their own funny jokes about the mirror-verse situation, but my sister (who gave me the idea for this) wanted to see it finished, so! ✨

Btw, Noir's really close to making a comeback..!! Can his tourney story end a happy one?! Will he escape the constant cycle of trauma?!

@kirbyoctournament

[jack-ackles]

i don't want to be the person who says this but did luke newton just washed all his own and nicola's hard work and efforts down the drain? like,, seriously man? couldn't have waited atleast ONE more week?

also, i am not the person to ship celebs in real life but if they kept up this whole pr since all these months.. couldn't he have waited one more week? the reason that this whole pr was done.. wasted!!

[okitanoniisan]

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