#speaking is half the work
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EXACTLY. the whole thought behind the “therapy speak” thing is that it was taught that “i feel that” statements come off as less accusatory than “you are” statements, and that it gives the other person you’re speaking to an opportunity to explain their intentions. it’s meant for people who aren’t trying to sound accusatory or like they’re trying to blame anybody when bringing up a concern or issue. it’s also supposed to help the other person you’re talking to to be less defensive.
the problem is that if you are being accusatory and blaming someone, how you start your sentence doesn’t matter. and to be honest, “i feel” statements have never really been all that effective. as someone who has always had communication difficulties i’ve been told this lots of times. it’s much much much more effective to just say “hey, i don’t wanna come off as sounding upset or like i’m blaming you, but it seems like…” that way if they DO feel your tone is accusatory they know you are not intentionally trying to make it sound that way.
the key is that you have to actually not want to upset or offend the other person and think something through before you talk to them, and then you have to genuinely want to care or listen to what they say in response. if you’re “feelings” won’t change than saying how you feel is just prioritizing yourself in any situation. and most people can tell when you aren’t going to listen to them.
my take on the whole “is therapy speak making us selfish” thing is no, it’s not. it’s just giving people who were already selfish some extremely annoying new vocabulary
#speaking is half the work#the other half is listening and being openminded#the idea is both sides get the opportunity to discuss how they feel without being accusatory#if you’re being accusatory it doesn’t really matter how you say it#people hate being accused of anything at all ever and get very defensive immediately#i’ve been told countless times to try ‘i feel’ statements but i never did because i thought it was stupid#be honest about what you think or what you want and tell someone beforehand you don’t want to upset them but you wanna still say something#most of the time they will respond to that level of consideration and honesty#and the people who don’t are usually manipulative and think that attempting to manipulate people with their words is the best way to get#what you want from someone#me personally…that shit does not work on me. tell me what you want and why but if you don’t i’m not going to default to what you want#in general i will do what i want unless you tell me you want me to do something different#trying to persuade me without up front telling me and giving me the opportunity to ask any questions#and then getting upset i didn’t give you exactly what you want#is like the number one reason i will avoid interacting with someone#it won’t work and it’s not my fault. it’s yours.#this is why DIRECT COMMUNICATION is the most effective#while also giving the other person a chance to RESPOND IMMEDIATELY
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The stewards of the old world are always keen to give you a glimpse of their might... According to legend, the ancients built specialized chambers to seal away false prophets.
The Arcane is waking up.
#arcane#melvik#mel medarda#mel arcane#viktor#viktor arcane#spoilers#arcane spoilers#arcane s2#wake up friends - mel and viktor are doing that thing again#I was mentally out of commission after act 2 but after sitting and thinking about this? season 1 parallels were crazy. but this. is INSANE#by the way - this is nowhere near all of them. i did not include dialogue. this MIGHT be HALF of them. i hit image limit here#at this point i don't know whose fight is gonna be crazier. viktor and jayce's or viktor and mel's lolololol#i support mage on mage violence#okay real talk. why are mel and viktor explicitly paralleled more than basically any other characters#it's bc this is the story of the Arcane literally. they are piltover and zaun's only mages respectively. the Arcane is waking up etc.#the macro narrative is about different kinds of magic rising to power again in a place like piltover/zaun which is a refuge from mages#and it's about how they clash - or work together - because the history of the rune wars is repeating itself#also viktor was a false prophet and mel... may not be#it's because the Arcane speaks through them and the show is about what that means and the consequences
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People in my fic comments will be like “Wow this story is so well planned and thought out, how do you do it?” When in reality 90% of my writing process is like
#writeblr#writing#fanfiction#fanfic#ao3#This post is specifically about The Tomb of Time#but really it’s every fic i’ve ever worked on#Half of The Words I Cannot Speak was improvised
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Hear me out. Ratiorine AU where Aventurine is a mer captured by a group of researchers and Ratio is the scientist brought on board to teach him how to speak and access his intelligence levels.
#aventurine#hsr aventurine#dr ratio#hsr dr ratio#hsr#honkai star rail#star rail#ratiorine#raturine#aventio#mermaid au#mer!aventurine#see ok listen#aventurine is a very smart fish and while he cant speak Human#he can communicate by impressing the idea of something on someone#which is why his speech bubbles are all abstract things bc he communicates by sending the idea of what he wants to say to ppls brains#and hes clever hes our cunning merchant gambler#so while he was initially captured by some researchers to be studied#hes able to charm them up and get them on his side... thus allowing him to have more luxury than the average experiemental subject#ofc none of this reallt matters when the researchers wont let him go free but its the smalle victories...#eventually hell work his way up to freedom#ratio is the poor sap who was dragged into the study half way to teach aventuring how to Be Human basically#he accepts the proposition bc everyone deserves to have knowledge! even fish!#my art#comics#scribbles
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when your main characters start dating after years of writing so they finally get to be like this
#rare WIP preview from me#this is in like. 10 episodes. lmfao#its been really hard working this far ahead#my editor isnt giving me any feedback and my friends are very busy so it's felt quite lonely#which is fine! for my friends I mean. but its my editors job to give me feedback...#but the webtoon editors are extremely extremely extremely overworked and my series is set to end so I understand its low priority#its not her fault its webtoons fault. however. its still demotivating...#oh well l m a o#I should be much further ahead ngl LMFAO I want like 12 done but I come back in 2 weeks.#we'll see#when I get really stressed out I go full gamer mode#and usually I'll sink like 60 hours (like 5 days) into a game and then I'm good and move on#but this recent game that grabbed me is. its too much actually#bit uncontrollable ngl I think its an ADHD thing I mostly have just quit playing videogames at all#cause its like yeah being stressed cause theres too much work to do is not going to be helped by losing a week and a half to a game...#and yet.#anyways the game is satisfactory#my friend bought it for me and we've been playing together#and our shared file has. 100 hours on it. and we still havent beaten the game#we're close to beating it and it's not like we're rushing or anything#cause its fun to fuck around and zap eachother or whatever#but it's got me doing math. the exact kind of math I love to do. optimization#and its reminding me yeah in another life id have been an engineer#I'm glad I'm an artist but its always weird like yeah this is easily a path I could have gone down#'artists hate math' speak for yourself doing math calms me down! I love math!#I love math and I love business. I'm almost the perfect artist but I hate advertising so. we can't have it all#anyways theyre so fucking cute its sickening. I love them so much. I could cry#WIP#lineart#time and time again
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Bonus under cut vvv
Later that same day:
And... I made an Emily redesign too...... *sniff sob /j* it's not final (like all my redesigns) I'm just trying get better at this design stuff and where better to do it except my current fixation ehhh?????
Long Emily design explanation/rant thing ignore it probably but pls dotn im desperate: I wanted to make her more round and soft cuzzz I love those typa designs I'm just a sucker for circle characters. Made her actually black and not fuckin gray cuz its a transformation to look more human and gentle(for me they go between two forms, their true ones that we see the first time we see them snd their human/softer ones if they ever interact with actual humans which... they usually dont.) Not a demon form tfff. In this version I wanted to put Emily in animal inspired features like... the sheep nose, ears, and hooves. Because she and Sera know that humans and about all beings love animals. Birds have sharp features mostly so they don't look as welcoming as they want to seem. I wanted Emily to look sheep likes and pretty much all the seraphim look more sheep like to make Lucifer stand out as the only one who was symbolized as a snake/goat(still don't know if I'll make him goat or make Lillith goat. I'll decide when I get there lmao). Justtt overalll wanted Emily to look more round, welcoming, and cute. I kept the freckles lighter than her skin color(even tho that's SUPER not accurate to what actually black people look like with freckles but whatevr) because it reminded me of fawns and.... sure Emily is a sheep but I still wanted to incorporate other cute animal traits with her cyz y not.
#suggestive#ig???#tw suggestive#art#fanart#digital art#artists on tumblr#hazbin hotel#hazbin hotel charlie#hazbin hotel vaggie#hazbin hotel emily#chaggie#chaggily#two and a half halos#unholy trinity#the chaggilu shipnames arent ass but unholy trinity isnt solely them snd taahh is too long#so ive come up with somrthing new and has nothing rlly in the tag alrady#why that name? because 1. Charlie is pure but is the princess of hell. 2. Vaggie “betrayed” heaven for giving mercy to a child.#3. Emily is still an angel who went against heaven to speak up for the people of hell being exterminated#they are all just soo pure snd deserve the worlldd i swearr.... but to other peoples eyes(atleast soem) they arent good ppl and omgg 😭#plsss dont sleep on this ship name i came up with it in 5 seconds so i worked soooooooooooooOoo hard on it /sarc#but srsly plssssss use iyttt#rainbowmoth#varlie#royalhalo#charlie x emily#charlie x vaggie#emily x vaggie#THATS THE NAME THATS SUPPSED TO BE BETWEEN THE OTHER SENTENCES BUT IM NOY GONNA REWRITE THEM CUZ IM LAZY#unholy virtue
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Me watching parkour civilization for the 1st time: 'The book was written in parkour' thats so funny, sure this series is a little silly but its got alot of funny moments even with all the vine booms :)
Me, another watch through and two weeks later: See everybody gets the capitalism metaphor in prkciv but- what most people dont realize is that it goes beyond that: the prison industrial complex. See, the people in parkour prison are forced to parkour not only for food but constantly and in many difficult ways. AND because we know that parkour operates as a form of currency in this world, the prisoners are being forced to do something that should result in them being paid, for nothing ! Which bares resemblance to how in the real world, privately owned prisons are able to make a profit by---
#sparrow speaks#parkour civ#parkour civilization#evbo#parkciv#I wish this was a joke#I also had another bit but I think this half thought out shitty connection is better#uhh I know parkour as a form of currency is iffy for most of the series as they use parkour for other things but still#the other bit was going to be talking about the world building implications of evbo not fully understanding how to read the pakrour langaug#and question if they speak in parkour or not#because we either have- parkour as a dying language few still know how to read or- we go with the idea of literacy itself being something#not really taught to the noobs#which works slightly better with the capitalism thing but still
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WYLL approves of valiant acts of defending the innocent or the defenceless, and appreciates kindness towards children. Peaceful, but decisive actions resonate with him, and those that take a genuine interest in him and the struggles he faces are also well-liked by him.
#bg3edit#gamingedit#baldursgateedit#baldur's gate#bg3#wyll ravengard#wylledit#userewbie#(hope it's okay if i'm tagging you ♥)#edits#this came out terrible cause i had to go to work mid making it#and i lost my flow#but i couldn't give up posting his sweet face so have it anyway :(#he says this to tav during the party but have you considered this is basically the core of who he is as a character#if only half the world would choose empathy and resilience and selflessness every single time!#if only baby girl!#anyway i'm kissing him on the forehead and wishing him sweet dreams as we speak#also i had to fight for my life trying to find art and models that didn't have mizora in it i'm--
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Variety's Actors on Actors | Hayden Christensen loving Diego Luna's work + Diego's reactions
#hayden christensen#diego luna#star wars cast#i warned people I wouldn't be normal about this interview when it dropped#and I did not lie#the way these two just spent half this interview just complimenting each others work#hayden speaking absolute facts here btw#ugh i just love them both so much#my gifs
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Tim I noticed a lot of indigenous patches on your jacket, are you Native?
Idk what my dad was 'cause I never knew him, but yeah my mom is (or... Was.. I guess..) Muscogee, the tribe native to the part of Alabama I'm in.
If I remember correctly she came to Alabama from Oklahoma (where a lot of Natives were displaced to in the 1800s) to "get back to her roots."
But yknow, I was separated from her in childhood (which tbh is upsettingly common for Native families) and I was raised in a very white very Catholic asylum so I'm not as connected to the culture as I'd like to be.
-Tim
#OOC: Olea speaking#this is kind of a self-indulgent headcanon but HEAR ME OUT it adds a lot to Tim's character specifically#we're talking about a character who was separated from his mom in childhood and locked up in a psych ward#suffers from chronic physical and mental illness made significantly worse by the institution that was supposed to be helping him#forced to regulate his emotions more than other people have to so he isnt misinterpreted as a threat#struggles with addiction#had to work twice as hard as anyone else in his friend group just to be given the same opportunities#a much more common experience inside BIPOC communities#and he clearly has ties to the land (especially the park) nobody else has#you know how in season 2 Alex starts yapping to Jay about how the park is cursed?#maybe he was right#maybe that *thing* has been here for hundreds of years#and nobody was ever able to settle the land so eventually the Department of Conservation turned it into a state park#and Tim isnt some random “patient zero”#but he has ancestral ties to the land and was more receptive/at risk to Operator Sickness (but was also more resistant to it long term)#JUST SAYIN 👀#im half Katu and I desire my comfort character to be a halfie with me we need more non-white rep in mh#ask.txt#marble hornets#mh#tim wright#afterlife au#slenderverse#Native!Tim
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Had a thought yesterday
[Clean version + bonus below]
#my art stuff#digital art#gravity falls#stanford pines#w.d. gaster#undertale#glitch#static#secret code#transparent#gaster!ford#journal 3#bright glasses#beware the man who speaks in hands#me and a friend are half-baking concepts with this#Gerson I’m coming for you next >w>#been a WHITE since I sat through drawing a character that I’m not gay over and isn’t me#I needed that lil stanley to push me through - these are difficult times#I must admit it was really nice drawing something out of lore passion reasons again though#Staring at sixer that long was contorting my face out of uncomfortable awkwardness though#I don’t like staring at the brother in law (in TWO ways) - especially when he looks so similar to MY guy#brother in law specifically cus a friend of mine who I call MY twin has latched unto him#but also cus he’s Stanley’s brother - I suppose#but the other one much more.#I needed something to look at to get a break and just smile at instead of being awkward man#yes I know the text is lopsided and messed up - I work with CSP and I was TIRED
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i have NOT been losing my mind for weeks over ruben’s horrified Psychic Scream after ivy and oisin died and buddy running to ruben to cure him from Slow and lucy saying ruben was her really good friend just for people on this stupid website to say that the rat grinders didnt care about each other. im going to kill myself
#i fucking HATE IT HERE sorry im only ever here to BITCH nowadays#but like how can u be so wrong on the watsonian AND doylist perspective#THE TRG DID NOT HAVE A CHANCE TO REVIVE EACH OTHER HALF OF THEM WENT DOWN IMMEDIATELY!!!!#AND DND VILLAINS ARENT ALLOWED TO BRING PPL BACK BC IT UNDERMINES THE CAST/HEROES’ VICTORIES#sam speaks#sorry im normal now#been tech-ing a show and very busy with work so no art yet but im working on it
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Okay, as a former film student, there is ONE PART of James' apology that is GENUINELY viable that people keep criticizing him for:
He was going to use $3,000 to make a short film.
This IS possible, done all the time, normal, and FINE.
I've seen professional films that are 2 hours long that were made on a budget of $8,000 or less.
If you could do that, then $3,000 to make a short film is MORE than fine, especially if it was all going to the actors.
If you want to make a short film unprofessionally and for fun, you can 100% put up posters saying "I'm making a film, volunteer actors needed!" And people will sign up for free purely off the novelty of BEING in a movie. I've made 4 short films where that was the exact case, including an animated film I did by myself in a MONTH for a school assignment (here's the link if you're curious).
The one thing you NEED to spend money on for your set is something called "crafty," or more commonly known, "lunch." You need to buy food to have on set, enough for everyone that isn't something shitty that will put everyone in a bad mood. Having crafty is essential to filming if you're even REMOTELY serious.
Listen. Somerton's apology is absolute dog shit. But this is the one thing he said that is genuinely okay and normal and fine. Don't put it into people's heads that they need a massive amount of money to pursue their passions. You don't need a Marvel budget to film a fun action film in your backyard.
From the way he talks about his process, yeah that's shit. You don't need to completely throw away a script because it's the wrong fucking SEASON outside, all you need to do is retool your story and rewrite it. That's a sign he's a bad writer. A lot of the other things he says about Telos is also a load of all BS.
But the $3,000 thing is fine. Whatever.
#i think this is what originally persuaded me that he was being honest the first time i watched this when i was half awake#because i have experience in that field and actually know how it works#so i was sitting there agreeing with him which then conditioned me to agree to everything else#so. whoops.#criticize literally any other part of this thing but the $3000 movie is fine and normal#dimond speaks#james somerton
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warning signs
#i should’ve been doing hw but this was so fun i spent way too long on it#talking heads#speaking in tongues#true stories#little creatures#fear of music#remain in light#sorry this feels annoying when tags barely work half the time eek
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“Through the Looking Glass”
Sorry for giving anyone Deja Vu!
To explain...
This comic was actually the FIRST propaganda piece I began drawing for the Finals before deciding to finish the other one instead. I wasn't sure I'd come back to this idea after Mint made their own funny jokes about the mirror-verse situation, but my sister (who gave me the idea for this) wanted to see it finished, so! ✨
Btw, Noir's really close to making a comeback..!! Can his tourney story end a happy one?! Will he escape the constant cycle of trauma?!
@kirbyoctournament
#Noir Fontaine#Mirror Noir#Rope MF#Chain Mofo#Kirby OC Tournament#'Ropes are almost as good as industrial strength tungsten-carbide chain for keeping your counterpart close FOREVER'#Though some brief research told me it isn't even that hard to saw through handcuffs with a hacksaw!#Between the blade/collar and failing to escape his mirror clone I'm just going to say Noir is simply weak to metal! XD#(I guess that's where his half fairy side comes into play?!)#Speaking of chains I hope I got Chain Mofo's colors close?!#There’s still hope Noir Gang! Just a little more...!#While I will definitely be busy through the rest of the month and maybe a few days after cause the Dess Cut is looooong…#…If Noir pulls through I will work hard to whip up (omigosh rope pun?!) some kind of appropriate victory treat...!
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Something about how Singed and Viktor say the same things to someone manipulating them (Ambessa and Singed himself)
"I've been expecting you." (They're dramatic lol). "He isn't a monster, he was once a man. / But he isn't a specimen, he's a man."
The way they refer to Vander is telling. Singed uses past tense (he was once a man but not anymore, there is no humanity left) and Viktor uses present (he is still a man and he needs help, I will not sacrifice his humanity for your cause)
#how they think about experiments and humanity#also thinking about how singed looked at vander - a man with children and specifically daughters - and wanted to bring him back to life#as a tool for himself. for his work of course#and the way he speaks about vander in ep 5 suggests he wanted to get the mind back as well but wasn't able to on his own#'it seems i haven't found the right catalyst' when the catalysts are his daughters#and AGAIN we hear singed's music box playing along with the ost#ugh its all very good#arcane#arcane season 2#arcane season 2 spoilers#arcane spoilers#viktor#viktor arcane#singed#singed arcane#vander#vander arcane#warwick#warwick arcane#mettys posts#metty posts#sorry for the brackets my analysis brain is only half on tonight
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