#sorry to OP I appreciate this but need more info

[martinsharmony]

I really need a lot more info on several of these.

I think *Knowingly* for Gaslighting is a bit too strict IMO because what if they do it consistently but it's a defense mechanism so they're not 100% cognizant of what they are doing - like have named it as such and recognize it as a psyciatric disorder within themselves. I think that's too strict. For example my ex husband used to do this to me right before we were divorced - would tell me I didn't remember things correctly, etc but I don't think he even knew what gaslighting was or would admit to doing it if asked. He genuinely didn't know/realize he was doing it. It was not a misaligned perception of events though. Looking back, I know this is what he was doing. The fact that he didn't know what it was does not mean he wasn't doing it.

Also I believe a person can have Narcissist tendencies or only sometimes (when threatened or under stress) rather than full blown 100% Narcissist all the time. Similar situation with another ex in a poly situation. I don't think this person actually has Narcissist personality disorder but some of the things they did were defintely Narcissist in regard to the situation at hand.

Also what about love bombing where someone just bombs you with affection - enough to make you feel uncomfortable but then is not abusive or anything? What if they are using it to get someting or want something from you instead? (my nephew does this. I have no real relationship with him but every once in a while he pops up out of the blue and just inundates me with "love" messages. It feels weird - there is definitely something he wants and is using that to get it which I don't provide)

I kinda feel like these have to be all or nothing that's why I'm genuinely confused.

A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

[meowzcw]

I finally drew my oc A-Sans normally on here instead of kawaii doodles 🔥🔥 (By the way he stole that jacket off a coat rack like a hermit crab, that's why it's like size asgore)

(I HAD TO FIX HIM SO THIS IS A REPOST OF MY OWN DRAWING 😭)

Reblogs are appreciated ‼️

His/au backstory down below if you wanna read 🦟 just a warning it's not original or anything and there's obv a lot of hcs and things picked from the multiverse because why not I just made him for fun 🎉

it's missing some info but those parts are mostly from Frisk's side of things since they're what caused everything to happen 🐺

Frisk basically got trapped in the underground for 7 years since the barrier wouldn't open due to one of the souls dying out and one day they selfishly yet desperately decided to go through with a genocide route for the first time, they didn't want to but they felt as if there was no other way

Sans met Frisk in judgment hall to stop them obvi and he tried to talk them out of continuing but Sans sucks at saying the right things so Frisk continued on anyways- Frisk struck first and got him on the face and Sans in return charged up his very op everything attack which is a one shot kill (can explain in another post if anyone's interested 🌹 it's a bit long but in short Frisk hopped into the core and some things bugged out bad, including stats of some monsters) and Frisk struck him again in the last second.

They died at the same time and due to the fact Sans shouldn't be able to use a move like that he ended up glitching out of the timeline into a battle sequence like out-code where the fight couldn't progress or end because Frisk wasn't there to do any actions. While Frisk continued into the judgment hall, except Sans wasn't there and things started to glitch out when they tried to go past the area. so they were forced to give up and go back to how it was before the genocide route. Just without Sans there

Sans got stuck in there for a few months until Error accidentally opened up the area during a silly fight with Ink- which Ink swiftly ditched Error to go check it out

Sans grew paranoid after being in there for so long so he started fighting Ink the second he saw movement thinking it was Frisk, but he was even more confused when he saw someone that looked exactly like him just in different clothes so he panicked and teleported outta there. And since he had dust all over him at the time Ink obvi wanted to know what happened, so he went to go look for him.

Ink soon found him and reassured him that he didn't need to worry about anything since everyone in his AU was alive, but advised him not to go back since Frisk might try another genocide run and succeed.

Sans accepted that and took his advice, Ink then explained the whole multiverse business, AU's and such, since Sans was pretty confused. He then asked Sans for his name since they didn't do a proper introduction, which Sans decided to call himself "A-Sans" because pretty much everyone that's usually out of their au is a sans.

A-Sans took Ink's advice the wrong way and forced himself to stop worrying about anything involving his AU since everyone was alive unlike those in the multiverse that were more unfortunate. which was hard to do since he missed everyone, felt guilty for leaving them behind all miserable and such so he took up drinking to help him stop worrying about it all.

Now he just hangs around in busy areas to nap all day by himself, people avoid talking to him because of the dust on his face and assume he killed someone.

-End 🔥

Personality wise A is very laid back and friendly, usually sleepy. He doesn't hold grudges and he forgives easily if it isn't too bad. He doesn't blame Frisk for what they did, he just wishes he was able to do something sooner to help them out before they got to that state.

And sorry if I repeat things or explain it all weird 🙏 it was 11am when I wrote this and I didn’t slept a wink but Imk if you have any questions!

[bekolxeram]

I honestly think it's nothing personal. Someone just saw your post and felt pity because the writers often don't do this much research when it comes to the show, so OP and those reblogging the post probably thought you'd do yourself a favor if you stopped obsessing over the timeline. What they failed to notice, though, is that this is not really the focus of your analyses; you don't care about the timeline, you care about the aviation stuff. It's your passion so it's normal that you want to see it represented well or at least somewhat believable in the show. This is not a crime.

If you worry about potentially irritating people, you could always add a disclaimer on top of the post that this is just an info dump about the real world, but the show ultimately does what it wants to do so no one here should feel obligated to subscribe to your theories.

I think there are a lot of people actually appreciating your input to our fandom, but there will obviously be some who don't care and get irritated. It's normal. I get irritated all the time when I scroll on my "For you" page here on Tumblr just because people headcanon Buck and Tommy in a way that I don't. That shouldn't stop them from writing what they want, though. It just says that I'm not their target audience. I think the same's with you. If someone's really this annoyed because you write about something you're passionate about and it collides with what they believe to be true, let them. Add a tag that they could block if they don't want to see it. But don't let them dictate what you write about.

Sorry, this got really long, but I really want you to know that it's okay to be yourself here, even if some people don't appreciate it. There will always be those who don't, but there will also be those who do. I think your input is great for fanfic writing purposes at least. If you help just one person with your knowledge, I think it's enough to feel satisfied. Also, if Buck was real, I bet that your blog would be one of his favorites because he could actually learn some cool stuff about his boyfriend's profession.

Ultimately, this is your mental health and no one here can force you to do something you don't feel comfortable with. If their comments made you feel like you shouldn't impose, it's a shame but if helps your mental health it's fine. I'll miss your analyses and I'm sure plenty of people will too. But we'll have to accept it because there's a real person behind this screen and their comfort should be prioritized on this blog. But if a part of you feels like you don't want to stop, please listen to it before you make this decision and remember that it's okay to be fully and unapologetically yourself.

I actually love long posts. And this is so lovely, I teared up a bit reading it yesterday, so thank you.

I think you put into words very accurately what I wasn't able to. I made my first ever post the day 7x09 aired. (It was actually my 30th birthday.) Something happened that week, a Singapore B777 encountered severe turbulence over Myanmar, injuring 104, killing 1. The media immediately pointed out the jet "plunging 6000 ft in 3 minutes" using FlightRadar24 data. I'm not talking about tabloids, I'm talking about BBC, Reuters, Al Jazeera, reputable news agencies. Aviation experts contacted the media upon reading the articles and told them a descent rate of 2000 fpm is actually standard, more so when there are injured passengers in need of urgent medical attention. Even then the media didn't walk back their sensationalized statements until a week later. That combined with the widespread attention Boeing has gotten after the MCAS scandal and the door plug blowout earlier this year, this kind of clickbait-y reporting with numerous misconceptions always gives me the ick.

Then, as you remember, the tide on BuckTommy turned drastically around that time, when a subsection of the fandom realized Tommy was staying. And that's when I started seeing takes like he only "drove the helicopter", Hen was the hero, Tommy did nothing and didn't deserve a medal. As you can see I was already in that mindset, being irritated by aviation misconceptions, I really wanted to hit back with my measly little knowledge about flying. I was already seeing people over here getting annoyed by the constant negativity and fighting, then I had an idea, why not try explaining the 5 years vs 7 years at Air Ops conundrum by bringing the intensive training for LAFD pilots into it? I mean, the introduction Tommy gave Buck during the Harbor Tour was lifted verbatim from the real LAFD website. The writers didn't even have to google the "training takes 2 years" part, it was on the same page, they just had to scroll down a little and read a few more lines.

I just thought it would be a fun little hc/potential background story for Tommy, showing how hard it is to be a firefighting pilot. On top of that, competency and dedication towards one's goal is just super hot. Even the CAL FIRE air tanker stuff I wasn't trying to persuade others that the invisible string theory is wrong. I just saw and loved the idea that Tommy always "knows a guy". We only saw one example in canon of that, him being friends with the Las Vegas fights promoter, so I was like, wait, he knew a guy with CAL FIRE too! Maybe also sneaking in some fun facts about the power and danger of water dropping in an urban environment. I never intended to nitpick, I'm just trying to bring 2 things I love together. I mean real CAL FIRE didn't even start operating C-130 until last year, and I don't give a damn about it.

I wrote about my fear of one day being mistaken as one of the Tommy bashers because my current overfixation coincides with what the haters decide to fuss about that day. I saw pushback against looking too much into the timeline first 2 times I posted about Tommy's pilot career. As I said, I planned to keep writing about things I enjoy until the day comes that I unknowingly walk into the bear trap. Honestly, I feel like this time is it.

Like many BuckTommy enjoyers, I've been a little on edge since the hiatus started. We've got attacked, harassed and bombarded daily by a thousand different reasons Tommy supposedly won't be back for S8. Then I saw those planes, I saw that hangar, and I was so excited. I had so many ideas and speculations to play with. The 8x02 title came out, I finally got a couple aviation related asks, I was so pumped. I wasn't even thinking about CAL FIRE at the time, someone asked if it was possible Tommy flew that plane realistically, so answered it. And hours later, that post popped up, explicitly mentioning my theory, with 200+ notes. It was just... a little overwhelming.

I'm not even mad at those who think I obsessed over these things too much. I just... wasn't prepared for that. I thought, comparing to the months of bad faith discourse, I was just talking planes, helicopters and clouds, that should be quite tame? I did not expect it to be actually controversial. I just don't feel the same happiness nerding out about aviation in this fandom afterwards. Maybe I just need some time to process and perhaps tone it down? I don't know. I still have many ideas in my head and those asks in my inbox.

But once again, thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings. You have no idea how good that makes me feel.

[lady-of-endless]

Okay so I had time after lunch this is info for the matchup I am 28 I have adhd, dyslexia, austism, and anxiety so I can be kind of scatter brained, I’m shy at first but once I warm up good luck getting me shut up! my hobbies are reading, knitting/crotchet, video games, and learning new things. I currently have a my dream job which is working at a public library (I work in the teen department) so I get a lot of time read. I am fan of most genera’s but I really like horror, adventure, and mystery. I do like to drink but I try to limit myself to only the weekends or days I don’t work. I have a degree in art history and a background in visual art (was gonna get a degree in visual art until I changed my mind at the last minute). MY MAIN LOVE IN LIFE IS STORIES. I love stories and art in ANY kind of form the possibilities are endless. My love language is a combination of gift giving and quality time in the sense I LOVE to share the things I love with other people. I also tend to act silly and childish like constantly talking to myself, making random noises, singing, or just trying to make people laugh and smile. Over all I just want to explore all the buestiful things that the world and life has a to offer and to share the things I love with the people I love. Sorry if this is all over the place

Author's Note: Thank you so much for this request and your patience! Hope you will like it!

I ship you with...Shanks!

(lovely gif is not mine, please show appreciation to the OP)

- Shanks knows that there's a lot more underneath that shyness so he tries to get you more comfortable around him bit by bit. He is very good at that.

- He admires that you like learning new things. It's motivating for him, Shanks wants to keep up with everything new that you're interested in.

- Please join him and his crew on weekends for a drink. The atmosphere is so friendly and welcoming. He'll love to have you around and enjoy yourself.

- Expect him to bring you books from when he's back from somewhere. Shanks is very attentive to what you enjoy. However, he might not remember your favorite genre at first, give him time.

- He'll ask if you thought of writing something. He is going to be extremely supportive if you decide to do it.

- He's all in for quality time spent with you.

- Please make his crew smile and laugh. This is the fastest way to his heart.

- Shanks also wants to explore everything life has to offer so here's something that you'll share and help each other with.

- You also said in another message that you're down-to-earth and stubborn. He needs that in his life. Shanks likes the most that you are stubborn.

[literaticat]

My debut came out a couple months ago and has sold over 16,000 copies so far, which I thought was pretty good? But I never hit any lists, sales are starting to slow down a bit, my imprint isn't promoting my book anymore, and my option offer is for 35% less than my original deal. I'm feeling pretty pessimistic and frustrated (which I suspect might be normal based on talking to other published friends, but it still sucks) and would appreciate any words of advice or encouragement you have for authors hitting the post-release sads.

(I found this in my drafts and for all I know the OP has solved their problem by now, or written in with a similar-sounding but different ask that I answered -- sorry! But hey, I kinda like it, so here we go anyway.)

I don't know if I have it in me to be a rah-rah cheerleader sweetheart here, my advice/encouragement might be a bit more of a cold-water-to-the-face type deal.

-- You are sad about "never hitting any lists" -- but most books don't, you know that, right? Nobody expected your debut book to hit a bestseller list. If it had, they absolutely would have celebrated like hell, but nobody was counting on that -- so maybe recalibrate your expectations around those kinds of things. Lists, awards, etc, are out of your control -- file them under "not happening" -- so if one day they do, you can be appropriately thrilled!

-- Sales are starting to slow down and your imprint isn't promoting it anymore -- sure, that happens, and is normal. Most of the "buzz" around books happens in "the release window" -- aka, near release time when the book is new -- at this point your book is no longer new, and your publisher has newer books to promote. While YOU can and should keep talking about your book to the extent you're comfortable, it's not surprising the publisher has kinda moved on to other books. (Though of course whenever cool things happen, like you get an award, or a great review, or whatever, that will be another potential "buzz" moment -- and you never know when some random TikTokker doing a review of your book will go viral or something! But again, you can't control that, so you kinda need to let it go.)

-- You've been offered less money for your option book -- that for sure happens, particularly when the first book sold for an unusually high price. Like if you got, say, 80k for the first book, which is significantly above "normal" for most books, and now they are offering 55k for the next book, (which is still above normal for most books!) it probably means you are just not close to earning out the first book yet, OR, this next book is a real departure and in a less-popular genre or something. Am I right about any of this?

In any case, though what they offered is out of your control, there IS a certain amount of control you have over next steps. I'd suggest you talk to your agent about it. Is what they offered insulting / way off-base for the kind if book that it is? Would it be a good idea to put a pin in this and wait it out to see if you earn out this year? Should you decline the offer and try your luck elsewhere? OR, is this actually a good offer for the kind of book it is, and a good publisher/editor, and you DO want to proceed? I don't know the answers here at all, obviously, since I am not in your shoes and don't know all the info -- but hopefully your agent will have great advice for you.

Do you see a theme here?

The things that are out of your control are legion, and while it's totally natural to have feelings about them, it's quite draining to give all your emotional energy over to freaking out about them long-term. Indulging long-term frustration and pessimism is damaging to your mental health, and keeps you from doing things that are actually IN your control. (Like, writing a killer next book, for example!) -- so I say, feel your feelings, but also, do what you have to do to let them go so you can move forward.

Let's do the serenity prayer, Publishing Edition:

Book Gods, grant me the serenity to accept the things that are out of my control -- the courage and energy to do the things that are in my control -- and the wisdom to know the difference.

[thevirginwitch]

Hi, sorry to bother you. I felt the need to point out a bit of misinformation in one of your reblogs. The Satanic Temple is NOT an alt-right organization. They're one of the most well-known and outspoken advocates for reproductive rights, queer rights, social and racial justice, religious freedom, and separation of church and state. They have fought and won lawsuits against government institutions imposing christofascist law on Americans. They are anti-fascist in every sense of the word and OP lumping them in with ACTUAL neo-nazi groups is incredibly misinformed and misguided.

Hey @captain-crackship! I appreciate you spending the time to send this to me. I was also under the impression that The Satanic Temple was a "good" organization, up until a year or two ago. When reproductive rights were under fire here in Texas, I was fully convinced that they could help me get an abortion - I personally even went so far as to get myself a "membership card" - since then, there has been a LOT of info to come about about them - you can read more about it here. This blog post (and the entire site itself) is also a great resource for queer Satanists and even has several articles on The Satanic Temple and its problematic practices.

Unfortunately, because of the organization's title and reputation, I think a lot of pagans/witches will jump to defend The Satanic Temple whenever possible, in an attempt to avoid agreeing with Christians and other organized religions (I mean, come on, they've all been fighting against The Satanic Temple for God knows how long). However, this has much less to do with religion itself and more about human rights and organized religions.

That being said, I obviously need to throw in that Satanism itself is not bad or harmful, the church is just corrupt. I just don't think they need anyone's money.

Also! Here's a link to an updated post from the OP of that reblog you mentioned. The OP did mention that the organization itself isn't far-right, but higher-ups involved in the church have some problematic history of being nazi apologists, white supremacists, far-right learning, etc. Hopefully this clarifies things!

[matchadobo]

Just a question hope it doesn't sound rude ,but how do you feel about shanks??? As a kid fans because I heard many hate shanks after he attecked kid.

hiii it's not rude at all i appreciate these kind of questions about op. unlike some dudebros, i actually love them both 🥺 it's me and my affinity for red heads!

but on a serious note, let me clarify that i'm only caught up until wano while i am aware that kidd got fucking decimated by shanks when the former reached elbaf. and that's the only info i know about it, not too into detail about what started what.

i view this as something normal (but with bias, is fucking unfair!!) because kidd is not the main character nor does he contribute anything more to luffy. his part may have come to an end after the fight with big mom, i believe he was just shown to have a big three on the worst gen and to slowly introduce members of the worst gen since the story progression seems to be doing that. urouge and teach are the only homies not showcased and elaborated.

and ofc, oda did that sorry excuse of a battle to showcase how goated shanks is. it's all oda ever does! shanks only appears rarely and when he does, he'll do something legendary!

i view shanks as someone very cool and strong! he'd been an emperor for two generations sheeesh 🤩 and in a husbando perspective, he's really fucking hot 🤪 he's the kinda man that treats women as fucking queens much like sanji but less on the vanilla part and more on the filthy worship part. ATLEAST I VIEW HIM LIKE THAT

with shanks' relationship with kidd, i believe it's kinda cruel that my sweet boy got oneshotted 😞 but it's a display of shanks' might and he as an emperor for two generations says a lot about that situation. he stands waaaaay higher than kidd so it's unrealistic if my pookie didn't get powdered 🤣

i don't hate shanks that he attacked kid, it's just normal pirate skirmish to butt heads and see who's stronger. besides, i've read smwhr that oda needed a means to let shanks have the poneglyph sooooooo

i still hate the fact that kidd's been taking Ls!! why was he done dirty like that??? but on a completely bias note!! i still believe kidd is still alive! let the delulu live!

[recreationaldivorce]

Hello. I'm the op who posed that 'idf was the nakba terrorist?' question to tamarrud. I know you mean well and you are probably very frustrated with the situation as a whole, but I would appreciate it very much if people already in the know don't shame my little provocative action for the sake of spreading the truth to those who don't in fact know yet. As you may be aware, we are still working with the issue of the media branding the resistance as terrorists and consequently giving IOF the full grace of pardon. I intended to attempt a little snowball show so that it may reach more people and hopefully end the war/genocide earlier. Honestly, I didn't much expect tamarrud to answer, much less answer so thoroughly. If you still have the desire to spit in my face for not doing enough, be my guest. I suppose some therapeutic outbursts is called for considering the death toll hasn't stopped, but that still doesn't mean I wouldn't judge you, as you judge me.

No you don't need to reply to this. But you can do whatever. This isn't even an ask, this is half because I'm communicating primarily through asks because for some reason my messaging in tumblr is now simply nonexistent and I can't comment on posts either.

I'm sorry. I got upset and I know logically it's not appropriate. I know people are still being killed. I just wish people would blare this information in ads and big screens in the west so the zionists can finally be shut down and the IOF could be persecuted after 75+ years of freedom from the law and the murders. will. end.

If I could hack the news where I got this info from to big ads in big cities, I would DO IT. Can anyone else do it? It's on Middle East Eye, I got it from there...

a. i wasn't personally attacking you, i was just expressing surprise that people didn't know. also a lot of people who didn't know reblogged that post, my surprise was directed just as much at them as it was at the anon.

b. honestly i think it's fine to be annoyed at people still not knowing basic facts about the nakba and the origin of israel, when the palestine liberation movement, headed by palestinians, has been trying desperately to get the world to understand their plight for over 75 years now. the information is readily available, just because it's not being spoonfed to you by the mainstream media doesn't mean there aren't tons of books and articles and resources out there, available for free online and possibly at your local libraries and bookstores too. it's not a huge ask for people who claim to be in solidarity with a colonised people to learn the basic facts about the history of their colonisation.

This isn't even an ask, this is half because I'm communicating primarily through asks because for some reason my messaging in tumblr is now simply nonexistent and I can't comment on posts either.

that sounds like you've been shadowbanned, it happened to me a while ago too. basically it's a measure that's supposed to only be applied to bots but for some reason it gets applied to human users too (functional webbed site). luckily one of the few areas where staff actually do do their job is lifting shadowbans, i got mine lifted by contacting @/humans. you may need to get a non-shadowbanned friend to tag them for you as your account won't appear in people's notifications while shadowbanned. or you can message them on a sideblog, sideblogs will still work if your main blog is shadowbanned.

[aitathrowawaylmao]

@bonbongiveshell hi, I'm OP, and I just want to say that E is somebody I have repeatedly tried to get rid of, which is why my question was whether or not I was TA for losing my temper, because I can't help her or stop talking to her. I would never and actually have never kept somebody as a friend of mine just to direct my anger at them; that is so unbelievably cruel no matter how bad my anger issues may have been or are. I just wanted to clear this up because I must've not been clear enough about the fact that I'm trying not to hurt E at all, I try my best despite failing a lot. There's more info under the cut (I felt compelled to explain myself sorry cause the ask was sent like weeks ago 😭)

E will sabotage my schoolwork and my grades, and I actually have no idea how I've escaped somewhat unscathed with the amount of times I've lost my temper. If you don't count the knife thing. I always apologize except for that time after the attempted theft. I know she will destroy things because I have witnessed her try it and told her to fuck off. Once I was in the classroom hiding during PE and she came in to pour water onto my classmates' bags because they'd gotten into an argument with me. I was pretty upset because of that argument and I'd lost it, yelling at her not to destroy other people's property and since I was the only one who stayed behind, I would be blamed.

Moreover, I tried multiple times to flat out tell her not to speak to me: one notable instance was when she showed porn to me in school and I told her that was disgusting, so she apologized and did it again and I ignored her for a week. Without me to harass, E directed everything to J to the point where J was overwhelmed. Like I said, E hates the teachers and anything we say to those teachers about E needing help will be perceived as an attack. She will take action. It's a little ironic because she got J in trouble for a playful shove once while we're expected to let stealing, property damage, and being impolite slide.

Currently I am not talking to E, so she's diverted her attention and energy to cracking inappropriate pornographic jokes with (at?) teachers and other classmates. J and I have come up with an ultimatum to give to her, with R ready to become involved if needed, but we have to wait because I'm stuck in a group project with E and I don't want her to tank our grades just to get back at me. Lord save me 😭😭

Just another example of her uncooperative behavior, I once was doing a live dissection for biology (group of 5) and E had ignored my time sensitive instructions for the specimen and destroyed it while I was holding the scalpel, and it was just not a great time. I did not physically harm her but what I said was quite horrible. I apologized profusely. All of us had to redo it and got a deduction. For this, I was most definitely the asshole, but I didn't like her behavior either.

To everybody who thinks E has undiagnosed issues, she almost certainly does. She has self diagnosed herself with OCD and anxiety and a bunch of other disorders, and whilst the validity of those self diagnoses isn't something I can really speak on, I have ADHD and I don't act like that. Plus she refuses any and all efforts on J, R, and my part to help her with her OCD or whatever her diagnosis du jour is. I really try to at least treat her seriously to her face no matter what I personally think. I agree that having a disorder is not an excuse for this kind of behavior, I'm just kind of stuck. Thank you for everybody who gave their thoughts I really appreciate it and sorry this got so long. If you want to ask anything else I'll try my best to answer? 😭

(And yes she says her mother is unhinged of the yelling and throwing things variety and her father is a doormat, and I really do sympathize, but she's also extremely lax with my money/property/stuff when I try to take her out for lunch or offer to have her sleep over)

AITA for repeatedly losing my temper at my kinda-friend? I (17F) have anger issues and I'm working on mitigating it, however, losing my temper always involves yelling and insulting people. Usually I think this is bad and apologize profusely when I lose control.

However, this kinda-friend (16F) who I'll call E, has absolutely no respect for other people's personal belongings, space, or time. She always grabs and plays with my things during class, or our mutual friend's items (16F), and as all three of us are artists, we carry around pretty expensive equipment. (Think Micron ink pens, Winsor & Newton paint, Derwent pencils, etc., just as reference. Thankfully no Copics lmao.)

The mutual friend will be referred to as J.

So, E has been told by both of us to stop taking our art supplies and playing with it, to the point where I'll yell sometimes, and she absolutely refuses to listen to us. She'll claim that she's forgotten what we've told her and put down the item just for her to pick it up again five seconds later. The problem is that she sometimes breaks these items or injures us - she'll play with my x-acto blade and cut me, or break J's graphite pencils, or push my watercolor palette off the desk. I've really tried to be patient about it, but it's proving to be difficult.

J is quite soft spoken, so I end up doing most of the reprimanding. E also brings up inappropriate topics that make J and I uncomfortable, as well as disturbing us when we're busy and then sulking when she doesn't get our immediate attention - once I told her three times to let me do my classwork before snapping, and E cried. She never does anything in school and hates all of our teachers, so she's pretty rude to them. All my work gets copied by her. She really annoys me, but I do feel terrible that I seem to lose control so often around E, since no one deserves to be yelled at.

However, this all came to a peak today when R (16M) and I won prizes for winning a mini-game and asking an interesting question during a seminar at school respectively; the gift was a black notebook that I didn't even like, which is an important tidbit to keep in mind. R left his gift still wrapped in his bag when he left the classroom for break time, so it was just J, E, and myself in there. Upon seeing what I had unwrapped, E went to R's bag and opened it - since all four of us are friends, we thought E was just being "jokingly" invasive as usual and were on alert, but didn't stop her.

J asked what she was doing and E said she was grabbing the gift out of R's bag. This caught my attention, so I asked why she was doing that. E told us that she wanted the book, and when J reminded her that the gift was, in fact, not hers, E said (and I wish I was kidding because this is replaying in my head in 4K HD right now like oh my god pls) "I know. It should be mine." Had she asked for my notebook, I would've given it up happily. I've got too many empty sketchbooks and notebooks at home.

I immediately stood up, but allowed J to handle the situation because I didn't trust myself not to react violently. J eventually lost her temper too and that's when I jumped in and started my yelling routine. I always feel bad whenever I do this, because it's not something I enjoy, but in this particular situation I just can't muster up the guilt? E is extremely irritating, but she tells us she has a horrible home life, so I try to be understanding. Except this was just completely intolerable. R even said that he'd predicted this would happen and to just give her the damn notebook - I vetoed that so we wouldn't enable E.

I really don't know if my reaction was overblown because I shouted a lot and said things like "you were given a brain - use it" and "you're a terrible person with no morals". It's ridiculous to say all that because it's (at the end of the day) high school drama, but I really can't understand why she acted that way. I don't know if I'm in the wrong in this situation. I wish she would listen when we tell her nicely not to do something, but even when I was blowing up at her, she was just smiling as if it was a joke. Should I apologize? I've apologized before when I lost my temper, but I have completely lost all will to be civil with her after this. The teachers are tired too - when she disappears from class or talks back, they just let her be. We can't really go to them because she'll feel betrayed and then get mad at us, which is a whole ordeal, because she's known to destroy and sabotage other people's items because of a grudge.

This is really lengthy. I apologize. I just feel terrible about the situation because I don't feel any guilt for my anger like I probably should. So, AITA?

What are these acronyms?

[zettaiunmeis]

HI THANKS TO @raventrigonsdaughter LETTING ME KNOW THAT OG GAME CARMEN AND JULIA USED TO BE PARTNERS BEFORE CARMEN WENT ROGUE, LET ME PROPOSE: VILE!JULIA.

details under the cut because this got Long

jules is part of the either the same class the ~infamous~ black sheep

and they don’t? really like each other? like julia is still kinda Serious and she doesnt really appreciate the vile squad goofing around and tossing water balloons or whatever and black sheep finds julia a little too uptight even if she’s interested in a lot of the same things (history, etc.)

black sheep’s speciality is Being SLick, as we know, but julia’s is patterns (and also historical artifacts)

ok but the important part of this is that bc julia’s is patterns, she ends up being like a scout or smth along those lines bc she can analyse patterns and report back to help plan the caper

and that basically means that when she graduates, she ends up in far more long cons than any of the others

anyway, after black sheep gets in trouble for the water balloon thing, the faculty decide she’s far too mischievous, and so, they assign her a partner — julia

(side note: its kind of the same thing that ends up happening to jean-luc and antonio a bit later on, but thats more because they work well together, and less bc either one of them needed a grounding influence)

anyway black sheep and jules again. do not like each other. but that doesnt mean they dont work well together — julia’s got an eye for patterns, and black sheep has every thieving trick in the book ready and waiting up her sleeves (alongside an instinct for thievery)

slowly, as they are forced to work together more and more, they kind of reach a less tense partnership and then one day black sheep makes a history joke and thats how they become friends

like julia is still very pointedly Not friends with the rest of the vile squad bc they’re still very reckless and immature, etc

but shes sort of seen black sheep when she’s been more grounded and less hyper/feral and she?? kind of doesnt mind??

bc grounded black sheep isnt constantly trying to prove that she’s The Best and grounded black sheep isnt trying to prove that she’s more than just the teacher’s pet — she’s kind of just having fun with julia and julia’s been so serious about her training that she hasnt really made any other friends and…. its nice

its nice to have black sheep loudly slip into the seat next to her and and tease julia about whatever recent historical discovery she’s researching and pull her out of her own head once in a while

and its nice to have black sheep glance over in the middle of class when sheena — sorry tigress — whines about something or the other and roll her eyes in the same way julia feels like doing, even if something strange sticks in her throat when carmen does the same with gray

she can’t pinpoint the exact moment, but at some point, she starts thinking of black sheep as her friend and it’s an exciting enough thought that she’s got a little smile on her face next time black sheep slips into the seat next to her in professor maelstrom’s class

and at some point julia stops being just julia to black sheep, and starts being jules because we’re in a school for thieves, but we’ve already got plenty of ~jules~ right here and thats sincerely the worst joke i’ve ever heard and oh really ~jules~? bet i could find an even worse one

and like all the usual stuff is still happening in the background — shadowsan-black sheep rivalry, gray and the Squad being black sheep’s friends, the phone and player, etc.

its just that now, black sheep has a bit of a calming influence and that does help!

and they work well enough that most people assume that julia and black sheep will be partners after graduation 

even crackle acknowledges it — despite the jealousy he feels at the knowledge

so things continue and all this happens, but then comes finals.

things go the same. black sheep gets perfect scores in all of her exams, except stealth 101

julia — now the historian — can’t help but check for whether black sheep graduated too and just as she does, she hears crackle say it: she didn’t pass

and she wants to go to black sheep and ask if she’s okay because everyone knows how much black sheep’s wanted this, how much she’s been working for it, but by the time gray’s been dragged off by tigress, black sheep has disappeared and julia has no idea where she’s gone

so she waits for a bit in the cafeteria and in the dorms and anywhere else she thinks that black sheep would be and she sees… nothing

and about twelve hours after the results, the faculty pulls her for her first mission (for context, this is before the whole,,, hear the true name of vile thing) which is basically being a plant for the morocco mission, by pretending to be an archaeology phd student from oxford who’s come to study the findings in the excavation

and she’s busy enough with that that she barely gets to think about black sheep or graduation or anything other than the near-overwhelming anxiety that comes with the horrifying ordeal of potentially being Known but she just manages to figure out like,,, guard rotations, as well as the exact objects that are at the site for the vile squad to steal

and then she’s out before they even get there — julia’s pattern recognition and historical knowledge made her pretty useful when it comes to planning capers so it meant that she’s always travelling around the world ahead of each caper, but would also make her a pretty invaluable asset to vile, so they can’t afford to get her caught

julia doesnt hear about black sheep nearly messing up morocco until much later, and even then, she doesn’t have all the info

all she can do is wonder why the hell the faculty would fail someone who somehow managed to sneak out of vile island without anyone realising until much later

and yes, maybe a part of her misses her old partner, but she knows that it wouldn’t matter anyway — she was the mole, and she’d barely get to work directly with carmen so.

but then cut to a year later, when a vile counterfeit operation in boston is suddenly sabotaged

cut to the moment when, julia, despite not having seen her in a year, is still able to somehow recognise black sheep’s work

its Slick. its the Slickness that tips her off, and part of her is reluctant to tell the faculty who it is, but her allegiance demands it and she tells the faculty and she hates herself for it when she sees the murderous rage on each of their faces

and somehow, that — her ability to recognise this carmen sandiego — gets her in a new position, as a mole in interpol, passing on the information they get as they try to track the scarlet super thief as well

and then one day, in poitiers, julia sees her

its black sheep. it’s undeniably black sheep under that red trench coat and julia wants to go and talk to her capture her and bring her in to vile but her new partner ~chase devineaux~ is everything that once made her turn away from her interest in law enforcement and he orders her to call for backup while he tries to stroke his own ego

she does, of course, but maybe she delays it a bit, if only because she’d rather let carmen sandiego get away than have devineaux’s ego get any bigger

and the rest of the season goes much the same except after julia ends up in acme, she reports to vile about everything that’s going on, and they no longer suspect devineaux of helping carmen etc etc

and she can’t help but somewhat sympathise with what carmen’s doing — she’s returning invaluable historical artefacts and julia’s always loved history and- it’s just… altruistic. and that’s admirable. and that’s the only reason i feel so torn about helping vile. that’s it, that’s the only reason.

and then comes the chasing paper caper

what was originally the first real conversation between julia and carmen goes completely differently

(note that most vile operative outside of jules’ graduating class do not know of her existence bc she barely interacts with most of them since she’s more a spy/mole who’s out of the picture by the time anyone else gets on the scene)

carmen still needs to be able to spy on paper star without anyone noticing, so she still goes for the seat right in front of the cute short-haired girl sitting alo- and oh my god jules?

and its the first time julia has heard that nickname in over a year and oh God they were just friends this should Not hit this hard what the Heck

and carmen still sits down and just quietly grills her as to what the hell is going on bc she Knows that jules is a always a mole and never an active part of a caper and she doesn’t?? understand??

and jules is kind of in a daze, but she’s been Trained so she feeds carmen her cover story:

she defected from vile when she saw how they were treating historical artefacts — melting down gold, selling priceless works of art to the highest bidder, etc. etc. — and that since then she’s been silently helping interpol with taking down vile ops, etc.

and it takes a bit but carmen kind of starts to believe it — she knows julia loves history with all her heart, and she’s… well, she’s never been the kind of recruit that carmen’s expected to see in vile anyway, so. it’s not out of the realm of possibility, is it, for julia to be a defector working against vile? after all, isn’t she the same?

so she starts looking around, while waiting for paper star to make a move, and she ends up noticing the briefcase in the seat next to her, and for some reason, those initials — clearly chase devineaux — make her want to scowl

“new partner?” “oh… its… well, work. work... partner” “oh.”

uhhh anyway i might actually. write this? idk don’t count on anything lmaooo.

[cupstealer]

Re: your last ask.

I am also no longer into the fandom side of hockey anymore and hardly ever read fan fic anymore. (A senior thesis will do that to a person 😔) Buut I want you to know that I think about contact high on a regular basis. Once a week maybe type of regular, when I’m wishing I was reading something fun and not a science journal. Is that weird?! I mean I know that sounds a little crazy- but it might be the greatest fic I’ve ever read. While I was reading it I got the sense that it would be one of my favorites, but I had no idea how much it would still ruminate with me a year and a half later. I don’t think I can recall a single other rpf work like I can that one. You are such an amazing writer! And I hope you continue to write- whatever it may be that your writing about! 💕

(Sorry to keep putting these on y’all’s dash, but it’s the only way I can THANK these anons and they definitely need thanking.)

Your timing OP ;.; I really got this ask when I needed it most. 💕 Thank you thank you thank you! Sorry for the delayed response—it’s so hard to figure out how to thank somebody and explain how much words like this mean while not sounding like a flu patient or something.

To answer your question, it’s not weird! There are absolutely fics that live rent-free in my head to the degree that I’m basically sponsoring them on a permanent residency program [cut to footage of bring it if you really want it by staraflur]. And god, what an honor that Contact High is like that for you 🙏 Contact High is my favorite thing that I’ve written. A lot (pfff, all) of the content was so self-indulgent for me, just utter wish-fulfillment, which I usually try to dial back, but I wanted to see what might happen if I really leaned in instead. (The thing with toothpaste/walking in on someone actually happened to me when I was staying over at a friend’s house in high school... Sorry again to her brother, I promise I barely saw anything.) There isn’t a single element of that fic that I wasn’t excited about while I was writing it. And it’s that much more touching when the work that feels the most ‘me’ is someone’s favorite.

Anon, I hope you get some free time to read fun stuff soon! You deserve it. And good luck on your thesis! Defend that sumbitch like you’re Connor Murphy (no idea if it’s the kind of thesis you defend, but you get my meaning). Thank you again 💕

I am still writing, by the way! Just as slow as ever though, and for a very mixed bag of subjects! No hockey lately, though I have a few unpublished 1988 WIPs that I haven’t touched in a long stretch yet haven’t let go of either. Every fall, I pump myself up to roll up my sleeves and edit/finish this genre-confused frankenstein of a haunted house-type fic, and I haven’t given up hope yet! (Plus if I finish it, I can finally read jezziejay’s witch Jonny fic—which got posted while I was writing mine, and I made myself bookmark it for later so I wouldn’t be influenced or in my head about any overlap even though they’re almost certainly totally different in every way. I’m dying to read hers ;.;)

Hmm I hesitate to say this, but... If anyone is really interested regardless of fandom, there’s also an unorthodox fic I wrote as a Christmas present for my sister back in 2017 that she keeps telling me to post. (I know, and it gets weirder from there.) I think I want to but I’ve hesitated for several reasons. First: I need to re-do the ending now that I’m not scrambling to finish it on Christmas Eve. Second: It is a pairing that does not exist and kind of bananas. More info under the cut if you’re interested.

Basically, years ago, one of my sisters and I had a looong conversation about who was worthy of being shipped with Stacker Pentecost from Pacific Rim, and when none of the characters from the movie satisfied us, we reached out into the vast universe of basically anyone from any media to find him love, guess-and-check style. After literal hours, I brought up one of my favorite under-appreciated characters, Linus Caldwell from Ocean’s Eleven (Matt Damon). Which makes no sense, but doesn’t it a little? It became a running joke, and then a running a joke that I was gonna write it, and then not a joke. Ain’t that the way?

So yeah—Third: I’m hesitant to get somebody excited about a new hockey fic only to open the email and see it’s a batshit crossover that literally no one (except my sisters) is asking for. That being said, I started it as a joke/challenge, but ended up making something that I find quite a fun little ride because I was so loose with it (because, like, who’s ever gonna see this, right? Some real dance like nobody’s watching shit). I’ve written a bunch of stuff never meant to see daylight, but this fic in particular feels complete. It just has a lot going on (Hidden identities! Never Been Kissed-style fake student/professor tension! Chase scenes! Cameos! Close-up magic! Heist crew banter! Idris Elba’s North London accent! My total lack of military knowledge!). Also it’s over 30k words. (Yeah.)

Is there any interest in me posting this?? To be clear, I’m definitely not expecting it to be popular or anything, but taking the time to fix it up only makes sense if I know at least two people will lay eyes one it, lol. You don’t have to know both films really well for it to make sense, but familiarity with the Ocean’s trilogy and characters probably helps a lot for context since it takes place in between those movies. Goes without saying that no offense will be taken if there isn’t clamoring demand amongst hockey rpfers for 30k of Pacific Rim crossed over with a George Clooney movie franchise in a fic that has neither giant robots nor giant monsters (nor George Clooney, in any appreciable quantity)... Think I’m capable of taking that sentiment on the chin. 🤙

[tatakaeeren]

*spreading snk positive* hello! I will be honest here for a moment. I wish people could appreciate things without saying nasty stuff, not just snk, everything in general. Don't like a ship? A character? A canon trait or info? Thats fine. You are also allowed to discuss it, as long as you know how to be civil about it. Can't respect people's opinion? Well then, learn it. Learn how to respect people and to appreciate what you have. What do i mean? Be glad a studio picked up snk to animate. On the studio there are working people and they make a wonderful job, but they are human too and are mistakes happens. Understand that. Be glad that snk is a wonderful story, it has its up and downs, but it is amazing! I was once bummed out with snk, but then i got invested again because of the theories going on. Be glad you had amazing characters to follow, to see them grow and struggle. The good points should always shine brighter than the bad ones, for example, season 3 levi vs kenny, amazing animation. Truly beautiful. Season 4 titan fight on cgi? Pretty neat, i liked the new approach. Second op on the scene armin appears with blood? Gives me goosebumps. Season 3 finale, Erwin last stand and Levi fight, amazing. Season 1 first titan fight we see, thrilling it got me on the edge of my bed. Appreciate more and hate less, this way you will get more and more amazing things and life will be brighter. Sorry for the rant! Thank you for reading ❤

THISSSS!!! I agree 100%! thank you for saying this! I honestly can’t add anything else you said it all :’). Don’t apologize for ranting! ( I love rants) and everything you said needed to be said, and every word you wrote has a deep meaning, beautiful :’) 

[lady-of-endless]

Hi!!! I would like to request to request a one piece matchup (any gender)!

My name is red and I use any pronouns. I'm an intp! I am a fairly excitable person and I talk a lotttt, though afterwards I need a long time to take a break as social situations tire me out a lot. I'm very much the type of person who would love to watch a movie just so they can talk over it about fun facts lol. I enjoy medicine, art and horror! I am not squeamish at all and enjoy the more macabre aspects of life. I'm very physically affectionate, though I often struggle with words to properly articulate how I feel to my loved ones. I also enjoy gift giving. I also struggle with failing asleep a lot during the day, I don't think I've ever stayed awake for a full lecture in my life. I can be a little spacey and I'm in my own head a lot. It's not that I don't like talking to people, it's just easy for me to get lost in my thoughts. I hope this was enough info! Sorry if it wasnt

Author's Note: Hello Red, thank you for this request and your patience. Hope you'll like it!

I ship you with...Nico Robin!

(lovely gif is not mine, please show appreciation to the OP)

- I can't tell you how well you two would get along.

- Robin has many interests and is very curious in general. At first, she will be intrigued by you.

- It's great that you talk a lot because she enjoys being a listener and she is a good listener.

- You'll notice her looking at you a little more. She'll pay extra attention to you when you talk and will have so many questions.

- She understands very well your need to have a break from all of that social interaction. She'll smile softly, nod, and give you some space.

- The fact that you are such an affectionate person is exactly what Robin needs. Once she starts receiving affection from you, bit by bit she'll open up more and feel more comfortable to talk about her past.

- Robin will admire how excitable you are.

- You know her outfit with the hat? Take that hat from her mid-conversation and put it on your head. Robin is going to have such a nice blush on her face.

- Also, she will get a bit worried about your sleeping schedule. She'll look into ways for you to fall asleep at night, wanting to help you.

- Of course, you two end up talking about macabre stuff from time to time, scaring the others a little bit as they walk past you two.

- Will ask you to teach her more about medicine, art, and horror.

[plutoswrath]

This is an uncomfortable aspect to ask about (and I’ve sent in many lol) but this is personal for me and I understand this aspect essentially from just living it... but need further understanding. My North Node is in Aquarius on my 7/8 house cusp (it manifests as BOTH I use to think it had to be one or the other, but BOTH occur simultaneously) I also have the asteroid Dejanira conjunct NN on the 8 house side. Basically what I’ve experienced is I always have healthy relationships (7H) (I also have Saturn in 7) but at the same time will have a toxic relationship (8H) occurring as well. This has gone on thru my life - parents were split and relationship w Dad was not healthy, and I’ve repeated this pattern w friendships in school and so on... My husband whom I’ve been w since 2009 had a best friend who’s entirely “narcissistic” but I’m soooo irresistibly drawn to him and my North Node is on his Ascendant exactly conjunct my Dejanira, also my moon is conjunct his moon/Lilith conjunction in his 8H (my 4H) (but literally ALL of our planets are conjunct it’s so insane and sickens me - we’re over a year apart) we were essentially a trio of besties and nothing ever happened between me and my husband’s former best friend but the feelings were there for both of us and he went kinda nuts (honestly so did I - I’m in therapy lol) and we stopped being friends in 2018 ... so I’m also best friends w this same guys sister (they don’t get along and she had actually reached out to me a few times and this past summer her and I reconnected) and now she’s getting married soon and I can FEEL HIM AGAIN (after finally getting over him!) and I’m entirely terrified of this dynamic replaying but it’s on my North Node and he’s so manipulative but can draw people in and is so deceiving and I’m afraid he’ll rope my husband or even me in even tho I know better bc I literally am a moth to a flame w him and I lose all control. The Dejanira thing is a pattern tho bc after we stopped being his friend in 2018 I had a female best friend who I became very close w and she literally got physically abusive w me in January this year and now her and I are taking time apart and I feel thrusted back to the past now. (He actually introduced me to this girl and blamed her on “stealing?” me - actually most of my friends I know thru him and I actually feel like I replaced him for all these people which is weird when you think about the fact that all of mine and his planets are conjunct). I’m SO SORRY this is long and hasn’t been a direct question - Can you give me insight into my own Aquarius North Node being on my 7/8H cusp w Dejanira? I felt like the back story would help/was needed, I’m so sorry it’s a lot. It’s just so hard bc I genuinely care about this asshole too (our moons are conjunct! in 8H/4H lol). Can you tell me about my North Node/Deja being on his Ascendant too? Are him and I bound together? How does him being the Ascendant make him feel when contacting my North Node and Deja? Any info you can offer like even in general with what I shared, and is this like a curse that I can break? Will it just continue on throughout my life? THANK YOU 🤍🤍🤍

Hello! I’m sorry but I’ll take the opportunity now to adress something important here. This is nothing personal against OP, but rather a well meant, general advice:

Over the years that I’ve been on here and studied astrology, sometimes I get messages of people telling me about very personal, negative experiences and they try to trace it back to their birth chart and particular placements/aspects, tell me about the personal conclusions they drew out of their experiences or ask for advice on how to counterattack certain negative energies, etc. And I get it, I do think astrology can be a wonderful tool to try to get to understand you, your life and your potential better and I actually embrace and appreciate people being open and vulnerable with their experiences.  Often times though, I get messages of people telling me about very concerning and precarious situations, including straight up abuse and emotional manipulation and just down right trauma in the making, but finishing the message with questions like ‘Is it because I’m a Scorpio?’ or ‘What placements make me do that or cause that to happen?’. These messages are not just concerning by itself, especially when minors send me them, but it really rises the qestion, if astrology is the right thing to look into for a solution for your circumstances now? I especially don’t want to confuse newbies and young people with the illusion of astrology as an answer to all of your problems, because when you deal with precarious situations like abuse or something similar, I think astrology also bears the danger  to get lost in it’s interpretation of seemingly possible outcomes, and thus can lead to more harm and maybe prevent people from getting help or taking actual, physical action. Because after all, not every manifestation of the parts of ones birth chart, but also synastry don’t have to manifest. There are a lot of external forces influencing your life that have nothing to do with your birth chart, which can, and can’t trigger various areas of your chart. I think abuse and trauma shouldn’t be justified by ones own birth chart placements. With that I’m not denying the negative aspects about astrology, and the ability to explain life by it, but I think if people are in dangerous and traumatizing situations it’s not good to feed even further into false believes by telling people that they themself can be the root of the abuse. And this is not me denying the actual negative parts of astrology (because yes, planets such as Pluto and Saturn or asteroids like Chiron do point to hurt, negativity and trauma), but this is simply me saying that even by a simple message I can usually tell and feel when people can take the astrological advice and answer or if someone gets confused and the astrological knowledge can feed even more into the negativity and hinder them from healing and seeking help.  I’m not only concerned for the people at the other side of the screen, but as the person offering astrological help and guidance I think it’s also my resonsibility to decide when to share that info or not. Astrology and other divine practices can improve your life and help you, but please know that they should be used wisely, always. 

To you OP: First, I apologize that I answer just now, but I was torn on how to answer and adress my concern. Dejanira on the NN can indicate an individual that is meant to outgrow pain live for healing, there’s also a possibility to influence others positively with their experience. Especially if the 8th house is involved the experiences one might  And with Dejanira conjunct his Ascendant he might see you as an improvement to have around in his life, and thus he could even form an obsession with you.  But in all honesty, if he’s truly a narcissist, cut him out of your life once and for all, or the cycle will repeat. I hope you will be able to leave all of these people behind and can live your life with healthy, supportive people. I wish you all the best and apologize again that I just answered now. 

[floralkittygambler]

Need Gay Assistance (May Unintentionally Offend, Sorry)

Aight, this has been on my mind for years and idk how to approach the topic. Idk if its offensive but I dont mean it to be. This is a genuine question, and I may sound moronic for asking. If I do cause offense, please know its far from intent but I need to get this off my chest.

See this?

May I ask: Why is the rainbow used for homosexual male rep? I know it’s used for gay pride (for all identities and sexualities) but I was thinking - and this is most likely my dumb arse for having more of a fixation on colours - but like... To rep pride makes sense, like all the colours and variety proud and together. But I was thinking: If gay only swings one way... Shouldnt it be similar to the lesbian flag and something like pansexual (or any of a wider sexual/romantic pref) have a rainbow? Is that stupid? Is that a stupid thing to ask? Am I more focused on colours? 

Because I like equality and I like colours so it’s a thumbs up for me but like... do the colours actually have a meaning to them? I mean, Id presume so but then again I dont even fuckin know if national flags colours have a major significance outside of the Japanese flag. So like- I PRESUME the colours have symbolic meaning but Idk- I just started thinking about flags one day and this shit been haunting me ever since. But Im scared to ask and seem like a knob. Like Im curious. But Im bad at tact. 

Can someone answer and maybe link some sources I could learn from? I love colours and meanings and designs so it’s gotta have history right? Like a meaning why each flag specifically uses a set palette. Like why does ace get purple for example? I gotta know, it’s been keeping me up and Im interested but again, I dont wanna sound like a dick. Nor do I know where to even start. So if anyone has any answers, Id appreciate it. I also recently found out my fav colour can be used as lesbian rep but it’s not in the les flag (lavender) so Im so confused yet intrigued. Also do pride flags have to just be stripes or has anyone ever considered doing what some countries have in their flags, like little stars or circles or triangles - and the reasons? Because that’s another thing Ive never understood (Again, most I know is the Japanese flag and the stars on the US flag). Like... Flags are really diverse when you think about it- It reps something and we’re just like ‘flag’. 

I need answers. Im curious and dont know where to begin. I mean this genuinely and w/o offense. And laymans terms as much as possible please, only because I sometimes take longer to absorb new info on some subjects more than others (esp if just in words). 

Also also, has anyone ever made a rainbow shaped rainbow flag? If not, there yer go. That’s the op flag of pride to rep everyone, plus it can double as a limbo event! Fun with flags! Or is limbo rarely played now?

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OP Review #4: Quintessential Quintuplets

Sorry for this being a day late- I was trying to post it last night and my internet went out (thanks, college). But now we’re all good- back with another OP to review. This time it’s for the very ~interesting~ anime titled Quintessential Quintuplets. Let’s get into it.

The Quintessential Quintuplets has two seasons, one opening per season, titled “Gotoubun no Kimochi” and “Gotoubun no Katachi” (fun extra info: gotobun means quintuplet, kimochi means feeling(s), and katachi means shape/form).  Here we go!

“Gotobun no Kimochi” (link to OP)

Category 1, Artstyle/Animation: As I’ll come to explain going further into my review, this opening is pretty average and typical. That can also be said about the animation itself. It’s nothing crazy, they’re usually sitting or spinning around so I can’t imagine it was too much of a challenge to animate. No spectacular animation featured here, I’d argue that it looks the same quality as the animation in the show (if not worse). .5/2

Category 2, Song: I always appreciate when they get the voice actors to sing in the opening, it always feels a little extra special~. We have all of the quintuplets singing in the first opening, switching off for different parts of the song when their character is on screen. The song itself is catchy but nothing above your standard anime opening song. I haven’t gone out of my way to relisten to it a single time since finishing the last episode so… replayability is pretty low. I appreciate that the song is about the show though, that’s cool too. 1/2

Category 3, Relevancy: I have no idea if there’s any foreshadowing, as I have no idea who he ends up with. They reference the show a bit within the opening, with the girls sitting/standing in locations important to their characters. Nothing much aside from that, it did the bare minimum to be attached to the show. It really doesn’t connect to the show on any level, they don’t care about the plot or the characters, it’s not much more than hot girl? Now let’s draw them spinning naked. .5/2

Category 4, Originality: Not very original. They’re either running, sitting, spinning, or singing throughout the entire opening. Not that doing any of these things makes an opening bad, but when that’s all an opening is… idk, do something cool? Show some cool scenes? You’ll see what I mean, they do it better in OP 2. .5/2

Category 5, Bias: No bias points here. I don’t have strong feelings for this opening either way. 0/2

Quintessential Quintuplets opening one, “Gotobun no Kimochi”, scores a 2.5/10. Not very great. It does what it needs to do, not much more.

“Gotoubun no Katachi” (link to OP)

Category 1, Artstyle/Animation: The animation for this opening took a HUGE jump compared to the first. It looks crisper and better than the animation in the show itself (but season 2 just looks better in general). Lots of nice colors, it’s still pretty typical, but it at least looks clean. 1.5/2

Category 2, Song: The song is pretty similar to the first in type and replayability… low replayability. I also don’t look at this song a lot outside of the show itself. They have the girls singing again, which is cool, and the song is again very relevant to the show itself. They!! Count!! 1/2 

Category 3, Relevancy: They actually have some cool and inventive shots and ideas in this one, unlike the first. In the first opening they cheap out with a lot of fanservice-y shots that have nothing to do with the actual plot (yeah, of course the show has a lot of fanservice, but why does that have to be in the OP too T-T), but in the second opening they get a lot more plot-related. They have shots of the sisters when they’re little, shots of Fuutarou and the mysterious girl, and then the girls have a lot better shots of them doing things related to their character (instead of just smiling at the camera in front of a colorful void or something). Wow, action! A lot better. They also throw in more side characters too, it feels like they aren’t trying to bait people in with hot girls!! anymore, they actually care a bit about the plot. 1.5/2

Category 4, Originality: It’s nothing groundbreaking, but it’s a lot better than the first. They only spin ONE time in this opening! And they aren’t naked!! That’s an immediate 10/10. They actually do things related to the characters, they aren’t just running/sitting the whole time, the shots just look better in general. Good improvement. 1.5/2

Category 5, Bias: Not many bias points here. I appreciate the improvements but it doesn’t make it suddenly a great opening just because its better. Just a little .5/2 for my appreciation that they tried a little harder.

Quintessential Quintuplets opening 2, “Gotoubun no Katachi”, scores a 6/10. A lot better than the first one. Still not great, but I appreciate the improvements and it feels like they tried a lot harder to make a good opening, not just a passable one.

Quintessential Quintuplets openings... nothing special. The first one really tries to draw certain types of people in with the fanservice and safeness of the opening, but the second one tries a bit harder to give the show some justice. Give the show a chance... it’s a shitty show but... it’s my shitty show... ♥♥♥

-zantids