#she was literally a grandmother

[fandomsandfeminism]

Yall wanna hear a kinda funny, kinda sad story about my grandmother and hetero-normativity?

Ok, so... when my grandmother was in her 50s (I was an infant), she met a woman at the Unitarian Church. And, as can happen when you meet your soul mate, this event made it impossible for her to deny parts of herself that she had fiercely hidden her whole life.

All the drama- their affair being found out, the divorce with my grandfather, the court battle over who got the house, happened while I was a baby. Even in my earliest memories, it's just Mama Jo and Oma, and my grandfather lived elsewhere (first his own apartment, then a nursing home, then with us.)

But here's the thing- no one ever explained any of this to me. No one ever sat down and was like "hey, Rosie, so do you know what a lesbian is?" It was the 90s. It was Texas. I think my mom was still kinda processing all this, and just assumed that like... I was gonna figure it out. Don't mention it, let it just be normal. Like I think my mom thought that if she explained the situation, she would be making it weird? I dunno.

But like. In the 90s, in all the movies I had seen and books I had read, do you know how many same sex couples I had seen? Like. 0. Do you know how many "platonic best friend/roommates" I had seen? A lot. I had no context, is what I'm saying.

I literally thought this was a Golden Girls, roommates, besties situation until I was like...I dunno, 11? 12?

It was actually their parrot, an African Grey named Spike, imitating my grandmothers voice saying "Johanna, honey, it's getting late", that triggered the MIND BLOWN moment as I realized that *there's only one master bedroom and it only has 1 waterbed* when all the pieces finally clicked.

Anyway. I think it's a real important thing for kids to know queer people exist, for a lot of reasons, but also because kids can be clueless and it's embarrassing to have your grandmother be outted by a parrot because everyone just thought you'd figure it out on your own.

Anyway, here is my grandma and her wife, my Oma, after they moved to Albuquerque to be artsy gay cowboys and live their best life. They helped run a "Lesbian Dude Ranch" out there (basically just with funding and financial support. As Oma has explained "traditionally, most lesbians don't have a lot of money" so they wrote the checks and let the younger ladies actually run the ranch.)

[thenightflower]

I’m not even gay and I think she’s a cougar/milf.

Reminder that Gabrielle de Lioncourt is canonically 50 when she dies and she is very hot. Please remember both of these things are true 🌸

[fujii-draws]

Grovyle, Celebi, and Dusknoir creating the most intricate plan regarding the most appropriate time to meet Hero and Partner again in the present while they’re next to the Passage of Time. How they’ll explore the present first as a trio for a couple more weeks/months, have Grovyle and Celebi reunite with the two whilst also giving a Big Heads Up regarding Dusknoir; where they’d then go on to see whether or not they truly want him there, and take the necessary action based on their decision. (Whether it’s a unanimous ‘fuck no we don’t want him back’, 50/50, or completely okay with starting over.) Nodding in agreement towards the plan and stepping into the portal together.

They then proceed to immediately get spotted by Hero and Partner just relaxing on the beach.

[atopvisenyashill]

do u kno what’s funny is renly is right that the justification the maesters use for robert getting the throne is meaningless in the end but he also makes it seem like it was so many years ago that a baratheon lord married a targaryen princess and this man is talking about his grandma.

[weebsinstash]

I'm so angry. They told me to wait so Allister could pass things on his own and so little has come out of him they want me to come back but they want me to come in through an appointment in the afternoon instead of the urgent care and, they're literally having me come in 3 hours before they close.

That's not enough time for them to do anything, to monitor him, administer multiple enemas, anything. I'm not even sure the deobstipation is worth it because i guess I need to clarify, that's just a fancy word for "digging stuff out by hand so you can like only get so much out as far as your fingers can reach anyways despite how risky the procedure is"

They genuinely should've just done it like weeks ago if they thought he would need it at all. They kept having me come back over and over and over and over despite me literally telling them I had to crowdfund his veterinary care and now I'm going to be spending almost 2 grand in payment plans over the next year. They could've just spent one day giving him as many enemas as possible until he was empty but then we have to give them time to even work, so....

I kept telling them over and over that there was a risk I would spend so much money on vet care that I couldn't euthanize him and all of these treatments have almost completely drained my funds and then they tell me "oh jsyk constipation is like an extremely agonizing way to die uwu". I would have to forward money and completely empty out my savings account to afford rent and his treatment if they want surgery today. My rent might even be late and unlike my last landlord who was an individual unit owner, this is a management company that will charge you $75 late fees after so many days

Every appointment has been over 100, 200, 300 dollars and I've had like 5 or 6 of them at this point and he's still not pooping, at least not a lot; he's dropping marble sized pieces kind of, everywhere. I just. Jesus fucking christ if he isn't getting better like??? I can't??? Do anything else? I can't be homeless in this area; there are literally homeless addicts breaking into my locked apartment building to sleep in our laundry room and the stairwell. I cannot be homeless again.

I just also. There's trauma there too. I can't do what my mom constantly did and drive myself into debt over an animal and risk my housing if there's not a good prognosis. That abusive crazy cunt literally stopped trimming her aggressive dog's nails until the poor thing literally started becoming paralyzed and then she was working 12, 16 hour shifts and leaving this poor thing along in an apartment to pee on pads and her carpet. And SHE'S the one who has Allister's mom :(

I just. Have to see. Maybe I'll give them a phonecall and see if I can come in earlier. I'm just so mad. They never even gave me a quote for how much it would cost to euthanize him. I might have to put down my happy cuddly baby or wait for him to conpletely deteriorate. I can't wait to open up commissions no one will want or be happy with so I can financially recover from my cat dying.

[the-girl-who-didnt-smile]

Lost Child, Come Home

[iminthetunnels]

mom had a company christmas party and they had a raffle or whatever. y’all she won the biggest prize…. $500 fiskcksoofodor so she immediately got all of sasha’s presents. a mailbox, a vacuum, a jellycat donut, and got him a coloring set (he’s been rly into coloring) and with my $100 target gift card i got him some more flashcards and playdoh. he is so blessed!!!! wow<3 we’ll also be able to get a tiny lil tree like last year and put up some important ornaments. not to mention all the gifts he got from all my friends, THANK U!!!!!!

[pergaminaa]

I dunno why but in my brain Asterin is always taller than Manon. Manon is like 5’7 (same height as Aelin) but Asterin? She’s probably 5’10 or 5’11 she just has this tall energy. And also I think it’s because of what she represents to Manon? She’s her light, her lifeline, her support. Asterin is someone Manon can lean on and she will never let her down. She’s always there to support her, to guide her, to call her out when she’s fucking up and also— she’s always there to protect her.

Fuck, I’m going to cry now. But yes Asterin is definitely taller than Manon this is all I’m saying here.

[whaleiumsharkspeare]

My grandmother has dementia and we visit her pretty often but we aren’t always all together. My mom and dad visit her every single week but us kids aren’t always available. Today all us were together so we visited her and here are her takeaways about all of us:

Mom: is doing the best she can, raised three kids, and is very proud of them

Dad: drives a big brown truck and is good at carrying chairs (he’s a semi truck driver for UPS)

Brother: is a hard worker and very tall (he’s over 6 foot)

Sister: is about to graduate and works at the library

Whaley: has a dog

[sparklecryptid]

Sometimes I am struck with the reminder that none of my family’s history is what would be considered ‘normal’ at all

[boycritter]

is my mom capable of being. normal. about me being sick?

[elevenenthusiast]

Some of the stranger things cast members on twitter are catching fire for hanging out with Noah but knowing people they’re gonna switch up on them in like a month watch lmao

[nullians]

I need to flee this place asap this woman is getting more horrendous by the day

[godblooded]

honest to god whenever anyone’s like ‘you can’t cast the same person as two people!’ i’m like… i’m glad you’ve never met a doppelgänger.

[coffeeandcalligraphy]

ok day 1 of using a mobility aid (a cane!), anybody with experience have advice? any help or words of wisdom are appreciated!

[dykesynthezoid]

I love my mother and I always certainly appreciate when she still decides to cook for me as an adult but also there is an evil demon inside of her that makes it so every steak she ever cooks for her entire life will be well done beyond recognition