#self help for assholes

[lawrenceofbessarabia]

i hate how as soon as i started drinking the recommended 3L of water daily i started feeling drastically better. skin clearing up, random pains dissipating, brain working better, etc etc. i know hydration is important and that the body is mostly water i knooooow okay? it's just annoying how i never feel thirsty abd yet apparently still need lots of water to survive, like some kind of bullshit cactus

[viktors-filipina-girlfriend]

I need them so bad. (They're fictional and an asshole)

[francesderwent]

thinking about snarky cultural/theological commentary and. the thing about snark is this: it’s easy, and it’s instant gratification. it’s easy because you’re playing to a likeminded audience. you get the way they think, you know the sort of things they find ridiculous, and so you know what’s going to play well with them. it’s not that hard to come up with a zinger that’s going to earn you applause from your own side. it’s also pretty easy to make another human being who’s not on your side look stupid, because we’re stupid creatures and we all have plenty of exploitable weak spots. it’s preaching to the choir, and it’s preaching meanly to the choir. and then, your snark bears all its fruit right away. you get the glowing feeling of having scored points against the enemy while being patted on the back by your friends for being so brave. if you succeeded in being snarky, you get the rewards of snark that very instant.

on the other hand, seeking to share the truth you possess in a mode in which it could actually be received—that is, says St Thomas, according to the mode of the recipient—that’s hard, and it’s so far from being instantly gratifying that you may never see the fruits of it in this life. not only are you not thinking about your likeminded audience, you’re not even going to trot out the truth simply in the way you understand it and call it your best effort. rather, you have to try to get inside your interlocutor’s frame of mind and understand how the truth you know is going to fulfill their own priorities and longings. you have to understand them so well that you see the truth of their position, even if that truth is buried very very deep, and then see how that truth connects them to the truth you see. you have to be insightful, and compassionate, and so, so patient. you don’t get to score any points, with anybody. your interlocutor might still get annoyed with you and turn around and make you look stupid. but you can’t just say “I’m going to speak the truth and I don’t care who hears and how they take it”—you have to care how they take it, because the truth is relational, it’s given and received, not just spouted into a void. and frankly you have to care how they take it because you have to care about their salvation.

don’t get me wrong, there are times in every person’s life when they will be called to stand up and be counted, to put fumbling words to what they hold most dear even if they can’t make everyone understand. but I don’t know that it’s a virtue to be always focused on being seen saying the truth, with no consideration given to who hears you and what they’ll hear in it—and it’s certainly not a virtue to be always focused on being seen saying the truth in a mean and funny way. “instruct the ignorant” is a spiritual work of mercy. but instruct the ignorant does not mean “instruct the ignorant while making the knowledgeable laugh and/or high five.”

[kingofanemptyworld]

hey you know what would be fun? a fic where the Royal Guard follows through with their plans to make Ichigo the new Soul King and Grimmjow promptly loses his shit because what the actual fuck Ichigo has already given these people literally everything, twice, and this is how they repay him? recruits Nel and Harribel and Urahara and Yoruichi (after Nel sits on him for a while because Jesus Christ Grimmjow you can’t storm Soul Society by yourself no matter how much you’ve powered up) and it’s the Ryoka Invasion all over again except with pissed off arrancar instead. I just think it would be neat

[kacievvbbbb]

Look I like Roger enough, I understand what he represents and I generally don’t think he was a bad dude. I do however think he was shit at interpersonal relationships because, what the fuck. Whitebeards crew is infinitely more well adjusted and I’d say he arguably had the more traumatic death.

Like what even, what kind of planning leads a 53 year old man to sire a child knowing he is dying of an incurable illness and is about to turn himself in to be excuted by the marines where he will cause so much chaos it is literally still turning the world on its head 22 years later. He knew he was going to cause so much of a stir that he literally disbanded his crew and told them to spread far and wide to keep them safe. Because he knew the marines would hunt them far and wide But yet he still brought a baby into the world. Babe. What the fuck? What even is that? What was the thought process. I sincerely hope it was an accident and not a deliberate attempt to bring about a new era.

Because if so babe I need to see the recipe or I’m afraid we can never let you cook again

[topaziraphale]

"Stop saying Crowley won't help Aziraphale in S3 he'd go back to him in a HEARTBEAT and nothing would stop him" I get it no one likes the idea of Crowley being bitter after what happened for a long period of time but like can we at least acknowledge that he's currently going through probably the most emotional pain in his life since falling? Can we agree that he's opened his heart entirely - something you couldn't pay him to do unless the world is literally ending and he's desperate - to Aziraphale, and got shot down? Can we understand that he did it AGAIN only to lose Aziraphale again? Not that what Aziraphale did isn't without Crowley's own shortcomings (hiding the truth of Heaven's cruelty from him) but like,,,,

The appeal here isn't Scorned Crowley Doesn't Love Aziraphale Anymore, or Never Wants To Help Him Again, the appeal here is Crowley learning enough self respect to not just walk back right to Aziraphale like nothing happened after Aziraphale has had a pattern of consistently refusing him. Going years ping-ponging between "We're not friends I don't even know him" to "That's what friends are for right?" and "We're friends, why would you even say anything?" and "Friends? We're not friends. We are an angel and a demon!"

Like I get it, Crowley is a heartbreakingly forgiving person. Of course he's gonna forgive Aziraphale, I'll be surprised if he didn't forgive him by the time he walked out the bookshop door, but gdi he could at least grant himself the luxury of being at least a little irritated for longer than however long it takes to make a globe and some books float and angrily cry out to God in his flat. But due to the change of pace and dynamic that is establishing part of the conflict for Season 3, I just really like the idea of him for ONCE prioritizing himself and being like "Okay, fine. We'll get back at it when you're ready, then," instead of just taking Aziraphale back like his words and actions meant nothing to him, when clearly they have an effect on him.

What is Aziraphale going to learn if Crowley just accepts what he did so quickly, like he always has the entire time they've been friends? Idk maybe I'm just projecting too much darkness on their dynamic but I mean, if the pattern of Aziraphale pushing Crowley away/disrespecting him one day and then being fine with his friendship the next + Crowley never stopping to be like "Hey, that's not cool, at least give me a little credit" or smth was fine all along and will continue to be fine in the future, then why, after 6,000 years of being friends and loving this demon, can Aziraphale still not accept that Crowley is just fine the way he is, and instead got excited to promote him to an angel in a heartbeat once the opportunity presented itself? You can't blame all of it on Heaven when Aziraphale has demonstrated his free will/defiance to Heaven so many times. Or, I don't know, I guess maybe we can? Maybe I'm just craving too much angst to the point where I'm letting it cloud my analysis of canon. Idk.

[metanarrates]

in some ways this is true + a beautiful way for kdj to help yjh in a way that only he ever could, but this is still another instance of kdj removing himself from the situation and firmly placing himself in the role of reader and yoo joonghyuk in the role of character. while this does solve the present issue (yjh's identity crisis brought about by insecurity and fear at kdj continually killing himself) it actually exacerbates the core issue in their relationship - yjh desperately wants an equal companion, but kdj keeps hiding behind the fourth wall and keeps removing himself from yjhs life. even his act of help creates a certain distance between them because he doesn't treat them as being on the same level. he doesn't think he can save anyone because he doesn't exist in the same world as everyone else.

at the end of the day, kdj still is not treating yjh's feelings of care towards him as valid, and not understanding that issues like this will keep cropping up as long as kdj keeps engaging in self sacrificial and emotionally distancing behavior. one issue down! one gigantic rift still widening!

[republicansaredomesticterrorists]

Meanwhile war criminal Netanyahu had successful prostate surgery. The election of Trump has given fascist Netanyahu a green light to escalate. Trump, and his evangelical base, will never reign in Netanyahu. They will continue to pour gasoline on the fire. Republicans are fiercely and openly anti-Muslim/anti-Gaza/anti-Palestinian.

All you fools that ran around shouting “Genocide Joe” and interrupting Harris campaign events were doing the bidding of Republican political operatives who came up with that whole “Genocide Joe.” Now you have the blood of Palestinians on your hands, the very people you thought you were trying to protect. You were all warned that a Trump victory would make things worse for the Palestinians. Soon you’ll have the blood of Americans on your hands as well when Trump implements his Project 2025.

Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. Think long term and what the consequences will be for your endgame. If you don’t like this message then unfollow or block me. If you want to bitch at me you’ll get blocked.

[lord-squiggletits]

Honestly it annoys me that pride, ambition, and generally having a big ego are always villainous/evil-coded personality traits because personally I think if you genuinely are a prodigy at what you do you are 100% within your rights, perhaps even deserving, of flaunting your skills and being proud of the fact you can do something that only a small fraction of other people can do. Is it even ego at that point if you genuinely are as good at your field/skill as you say you are? Are people not aware that becoming a prodigy at something is something that takes lifelong sacrifice and practice sometimes to the point of giving up on having a normal life, relationships, etc even potentially destroying your own health???? God I fucking hate how pride in your own skills and ambition are so villain coded all the time. As if it's evil to want to be good at something and be recognized for what you rightfully earned

[katsigian]

Hey what if we left people the fuck alone when it comes to their ships, yeah? Let people enjoy what they want to enjoy in this bleak fucking world instead of barging in with some lame and unneeded moral grandstanding. "UMM actually here's why your ship is problematic 🤓" how about we stop being judge-y and self righteous instead? What are you a cop? Because policing someone's ship in your 30's is embarrassing

If someone wants to ship their OCs with a certain dynamic or with a specific type of character, then that's FINE. Stop being a clown and vague posting about them. Unless there is something obviously wrong (i.e. underage and so on), your opinion need not be expressed in the most bitch-coded vaguepost

[s0fter-sin]

they really 50/50’d the thunderbolts with characters i like and characters i couldn’t give less of a shit about

[lawrenceofbessarabia]

miserable hermit-maxxing is what i am calling my "resolution" to stop a) moping about how no one ever calls on me and b) overextending myself for people in the hopes that they'll like me more, and instead using that time and energy to learn and do all the things that have been eluding me, like calligraphy and the linux system past a practitioner's level.

because i can't shut the fuck up about anything apparently i'm gonna give the act of being a normal scholarly type person a cutesy name and post about it on my ghost town of a blog. also i guess this post can serve double purpose as a sort of reading log.

papers i am reading:

Forsythe, George. Pitfalls in Computation, or why a Math Book isn't Enough. The American Mathematical Monthly, Vol. 77, No. 9 (Nov., 1970), pp. 931.

Frédéric Goualard. How do you compute the midpoint of an interval?. ACM Transactions on Mathe- matical Software, 2014, 40 (2), ￿10.1145/2493882￿. ￿hal-00576641v1￿

books i want to read (dw the recommendations from my mutuals will show up here when i recover them from our message chains)

Carson, Anne. Eros the Bittersweet: An Essay (1986).

Fine, Cordelia. Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference.

How Linux Works, 3rd Edition. (i own this in hardcopy i just keep forgetting to read it)

articles/misc. literature i've had open in my tabs for months:

https://www.jstor.org/stable/24461835

[some-pers0n]

I still stand by the idea that fiction can help you far more than self-help books. One story that is a good-faith and well-written tale about your specific niche of mental health struggles is worth a hundred self-help books

[styona]

Oh, honey... I know, I do fucking know...

[hasarjunadoneanythingwrong]

I’m sorry but yeah Starscream kinda tracks

STOP I KNOW ALREADY

[dailykugisaki]

Day 347 | id in alt

Kugisaki hasn't been around Gojo enough to gaf about him LMAO.