#rules of conduct

[muddyorbsblr]

i completely forgot that i have the first entry to 'rules of conduct' ready to go, so i'll upload that tomorrow while i'm still working on part 3 of 'the final Lady Sharpe'

imma give y'all this tho…

now i say this is a 'collection' but really i have no ideas right now on where else to put this particular pair of blorbos so…if you have any mundane scenarios you'd want them to put a smutty spin to, feel free to send me an Ask and i'll put it into the writing queue 💖🫡

[gabrielle-writes]

Weekly Lore 17: The Rules of Conduct

Established around 250 years ago as a result from the leaders of the Vessel's Teachings of the time, alongside the Academies Leadership, pushing against the City Council to change the treatment of the Undead for the better.

At the time, the general mentality of seeing them as slaves and such was already starting to change, being seeing as outdated, laws recognizing them as Citizens of Bravo already signed and applied. However, old habits die hard, and many mages and civilians still hung up on the old ways without fear of repercussion.

The Rules of Conduct, unlike many Bravien Laws, have what is called "Immortality Status", meaning that they can't be revoked, and only the ones they directly affect can call forth some kind of change. They determine when it is acceptable for a mage to use Control Magic on an Undead, what can and can't be asked of them according to their jobs, specific protections against sexual assault, aggression and coercion, how Soul Pearls are chosen to be brought back, safe spaces when in training and recently brought back, and many other minutiae. Their writing, at first, didn't involve the Undeads, but with the Vessel's Teachings support, they were directly brought to the discussion and helped in writing the Rules.

As the years passed and the input of Undeads respect, it allowed for the Undeads to become a tight community, with all of the ones with a high ranking working tireless to make sure the Rules are respected. As a result, the breaking of the Rules of Conduct by Living, specially mages, are harshly punished, and the slight suspicion of this being the case resulting in extensive investigations; if the suspected is a mage, the investigation is led by non-mages and non-Undeads of the Academy of War.

[marmota-b]

THIS

I have my kneejerk topics, too. They're not social justice topics, which may make me feel a bit superior in that context, but that's rubbish.

And yes, please, always treat everything said by strangers online on good faith FIRST. That's such a basic tenet of kindness and conversations that don't immediately take a nosedive. It's no wonder everyone is at one another's throats these days if "innocent until proven guilty" is exchanged for "guilty with no room left for proving innocence." Most of us online are strangers accidentally wandering into foreign spaces unaware of the unwritten rules, in this context.

Actually, I think this does link in with a wider conversation that I have been thinking for a while Tumblr maybe needs to hear.

There's a common meme on this site now that no one here has any reading comprehension skills. The best one is, of course, the original "No offense but reading comprehension on this site is piss poor/How dare you say we piss on the poor" post, which gave rise to the nickname "pissing-on-the-poor website". There's also the "I like pancakes/How dare you say waffles are terrible" one. Both of these are great, because they're silly jokey ways to show two closely related phenomena that are probably the commonest ways to fail a reading comprehension check.

The first is someone reading certain catchphrases or buzzwords in the post, and based on their own biases or prior experiences or whatever else, their brain simply fills in what it reckons the poster is saying on the topic. Instead of reading the rest of the sentence and digesting it, the reader then just uses their assumption as the interpretation, and reacts to that.

The second is closely related, because it also uses biases and prior experiences to to interpret the post, but rather than ignoring what the OP is actually saying, it instead performs a series of gymnastic leaps to construct a whole new assertion on the OP's behalf that simply isn't there.

There's also a third, of course; that one is people being so eager to feel smug and superior over someone they perceive as Bad that they wilfully assume the OP is stupid or being serious when they're actually joking. And if the reader hadn't been so blinded by their desire to get to look down on someone, they'd have seen the very obvious tells, sometimes even including sentences like "Obviously this is a joke." (I think we have all seen examples of these. Also, in a bid to avoid as many reading comprehension fails here as possible, this does not include misunderstandings borne entirely of neurodiverse struggles to parse intentions; but, neurodiverse people are just as likely as neurotypicals to have ego play a part in their misinterpretation of others, and that is what this point is about.)

And the thing is... actually, we are all capable of any of these. I imagine a sizable chunk of people reading until this point were probably thinking "Lol, yeah, people are so stupid," but na, nage, I'm not having that. Literally everyone does these sometimes. And it becomes a particular risk when the topic under discussion is something that might brush against an issue that is a pressure point for you, like a social justice talking point that you are forever having to argue with internet strangers about, for example. Your brain holds schemas! And sometimes it likes to pattern match things before it deigns to tell you about its findings! And that can hit you right in the emotions, which if they are strong enough, really can shut down all rational thought.

But. This brings me to the real point of the post.

Because the thing is, we have all saddled up and gone to war under these conditions, or at the very least been strongly tempted to. And a vital skill that literally everyone has to learn, sooner or later, is:

Before you hit 'reply', double check the post to make sure you fucking understood it.

And that does not mean "simply re-read, confirm your bias, carry on." It means, "Is it possible to read this post from the point of view of someone who doesn't intend it the way I've taken it? If I put myself in the shoes of an innocent, could they still have written these words? Is there another interpretation for these phrases?"

And you do have to do this step. You simply do have to. Because if your desire is to 'clap back' and call someone a gargling knobskin made of garbage, fuck me sideways but you must see that it is imperative that you check if they actually deserve that kind of treatment first. You cannot spend your time claiming that we must all choose to be kind and then not bother doing your due diligence before screaming a person's various and assorted bigotries at them. If you misread it, and they were innocent - you are the raging aggressive cunt in this situation.

It does not matter that you reacted from an emotional place of normally having to defend yourself either, by the way. Sure, that makes the quality of your human soul better than that of the average Redditor who just enjoys anonymously hurting people, I guess? But it's also irrelevant. If you messaged someone and called them a misogynist because you performed several mental somersaults and landed on your own sore spot when they meant no such thing, you are the attacker. You owe them an apology. And yeah, sure, you can explain your over-reaction as the product of your normal experiences if you like, but that is only an explanation, not an excuse. You are still the asshole here. You still need to apologise and mean it.

And you could have avoided it if you'd done that due diligence, as you should have. If you're going to take a swing, make sure it's the right target. This was once described to me as donkey people - they don't think, they just kick. This is admittedly a little unkind to donkeys, who always do their due diligence, but I feel it's an apt metaphor.

TL;DR: If you feel moved to angrily reply to something, first make sure you've interpreted it right. Don't be a donkey person. And if you ask for clarification, people are innocent until proven guilty. Ask nicely. If they are a bigot, you can then smelt them for parts.

[pearlsforthesoul]

LIVING by OATH (life swear)

Two people decide to marry. Ages ago it was marked by ceremony that represented a significant change in one’s life. At some point, the people involved decided to make a promise out of it or an oath something that when given is the ultimate marker for any subject, product or deed. An oath was a high commitment to high-ness and a person made a pledge toward that height Marriage oath: Consisting of…

[academicelephant]

I think it's hilarious that the only thing he [God] has to say twice is don't fuck people you're not married to. Thou shall not kill - once, right? Honor the Sabbath - once. Don't covet your neighbor's wife, don't commit adultery - it's the only thing that got two commandments. So like basically don't kill, honor the Sabbath, don't fuck people you're not married to, SERIOUSLY don't fuck people you're not married to! It's the only one that got double billing.

- James Sexton, a divorce attorney (x)

[yridenergyridenergy]

Kyo referring to instructions he shared on sukekiyo-online for sukekiyo's shows. He mentions there that we should be polite and explain the way it works to newcomers too, so... I'll translate it for non-sukekiyo-online members too, then?

For Jet-Black Ceremonies, the rules are like before: don't talk, don't make a sound, dress in black, stay seated, only clap after the credits.

For standing/wilder shows though:

Dress as you want, and feel free to act crazy but respectful to the other fans during the songs.

However, do not talk or make a sound at all in between songs, even if Kyo is trying to provoke it.

There is no dress code but Kyo recommends either wearing black clothes or something "crazy".

For the encore, it should only be called as: suke -- kiyo -- sama!

And at the end of the show, do what he's referring to in that Twitter post: say goodbye to people around you (or even greet them before the show) and exchange sweets.

[fjordfolk]

Melis has started policing and guarding around Luna (despite them being superfriends lately) which yknow. Annoying but workable, except

Luna is, of course, the most sensitive fragile soul to have ever lived, so 1 harsh, disproportionate "correction" from Melis and Lunert has decided her life is over and she will just. have to dissolve i guess

[skullzy20]

Do you think the corpus and grineer have protocols to follow if there's ever a tenno on their ship (or just in the area)

[kunosoura]

The worldbuilding combo headspace I’m in right now is contemplating the gundam newtype thing where fantastic powers emerge between humans in the cold void of space to connect them, with a twist of that sort of xianxia/cultivation approach to magic where every culture, school, and society has their own philosophies about how and why they cultivate and use energy, shaped by their histories, environments and values, where you for instance see people living on an icy moon adapt by cultivating an inner heat, or a clan of spacer nomads who have adapted their bodies to surviving a vacuum Add in that Firefly twist of focusing on the fringes and never quite letting the story do more than pass through the wealthy, shiny parts of the setting because there’s nothing I find more boring than scifi stories about officially commissioned spaceship captains working for a government (sorry Star Trek!).

[ddarker-dreams]

alhaitham is arguably one of the most insufferable yans because criminal activity is so much extra work. he'll come home to you, your ankle tied to a bedpost with iron shackles, and sigh about the time spent blackmailing some person who was advancing your missing person's case too much. he's staring at you now. he definitely wants some appreciation for his due diligence. what are you even supposed to say.

[augment-techs]

[girderednerve]

went to the library staff meeting this morning & once again had a manager tell lower-level staff to be more proactive about managing patron behavior, however a) our patron code of conduct is literally three vague bullet points, b) there is no staff training or job aid offered to suggest how exactly staff should intervene in touchy situations, and c) we are paid minimum wage. why do managers love doing this? it does not work

[fauvester]

was flipping thru the petticoat affair book at a bookstore and man I forgot the extent to which these ladies just HATED peggy eaton's vibes. Like the accusations were bad enough but she also just sounds unpleasant to be around

[ectospacecadet]

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If you have any questions you’re always free to go to my ask box, I’ll be happy to answer any questions you guys have, that’s always fun to do. ^^

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I’m setting these boundaries now just to avoid any issues in future and to just be completely open when it comes to what I am and what I am not ok with. A lot of these are just common sense but I feel like I should mention them anyway.

See you around!

- Ecto

[amongie]

i love making a post venting my frustrations with the isolation and abuse homeschooling facilitated for me just for, 8 notes in, someone to write a long essay being like "well ackshually"

bitch i was abused horrifically. i was alone and isolated. dont come at me with "homeschool kids DO get socialization" no i am literally a walking example that most of us dont. i dont care what good, progressive and homeschool parent youve met that did the bare minimum, do you know how many children have been abused to death with no one in their life to help them because they were isolated and homeschooled?

[wolfsbanekisses]

Y’know it’s kind of funny how werewolf centered this blog is considering I am so vampire coded irl