#rpc confessions

[rpthoughtsandconfessions]

Hey everyone, this is my first time coming on here like this besides posting anons. It's just I've been talking to some of you (particularly OC pre-dom rpers out there) and I just wanted to make a smol PSA for those following you involving resource reblogging, interacting, and reblogging one's aesthetics <3

So here it is:

MINA'S PSA FOR THOSE FOLLOWING OC PRE-DOM WRITERS/ROLEPLAYERS:

It is important to familiarize yourself with the OC you plan to write with. The person who created the OC, put a lot of effort into developing the character and they may have important information that could either benefit or hinder your thread. It is not ideal to enter a thread without any knowledge of the OC. Additionally, if the mun of the OC perceives that you didn't care enough to learn about their character, they may drop the thread entirely. So in hindsight, just read up on the OC. It'll help so much.

Do NOT, and I repeat do NOT just reblog an aesthetic someone catered SPECIFICALLY to their OC and slap your own OC muse all over said aesthetic with ZERO credit, interaction, a follow back, etc. This is beyond rude and could really upset the person you reblogged this from. No one wants to be accused of stealing now do they?

If you are only using an OC pre-dom rper for their memes, please refrain from doing so. You can either send them a meme in return for their efforts or avoid reblogging directly from them altogether. It can be challenging for OC pre-dom players to put themselves out there, and it is discouraging when their time is wasted by someone being impolite and simply reblogging from them and clogging up their activity.

Just because they mainly write OCS does NOT make their characters any lesser than canons. Remember: all canons were once OCS to start off with. So, show some human decency and respect a fellow mun/writer. They're trying their best and just want to make friends too.

Please show appreciation for their creative efforts by liking their ooc posts, headcanons, send asks on anon, etc. If you like them, and enjoy what they are doing interact with them! Otherwise, how will they know their efforts are not in vain?

[aitahrpc]

Am I the asshole?

I had a mutual whom we literally met online like a year ago, and even met in person like three four times? Things were going well, we were bonding and making good friends... That was until her final visit to my house. We had planned for her to come at a certain time so I had time to get the house cleaned and prepared for company. (Myself being a mom and wife, I didn't want the place all messy you know?)

HOWEVER, the morning she was to come, she never once answered a phone call or text message of mine... THEN SHOWED UP EXTREMELY EARLY. Normally I wouldn't let this get to me but then after chilling in my livingroom WATCHING me scramble to continue to clean my house she proceeds to ask me if I could CLEAN MY HOUSE. Flabbergahsted, I just stammered out already struggling to chase the kids she hopped up on an ass load of sugar "Oh-Uh, sure!"

The rest of her time there things kept getting weirder... (She had already been put in check once as she played FOOTSEY with me in a theater one time while we were out... The film was Morbious... She'd NEVER let my husband or myself get me things I had been planning on getting or he had planned on getting me... It got to the point that when she found out I was looking for a new laptop, the thing showed up at my fucking door....) She even asked me once if we were just friends because I wanted to write with her... Which again I didn't know how to respond to the question, because why did it matter? We were friends... Simple.

I asked her to stop this stuff and respect my boundaries... (Due to it starting to feel a bit... Personal, as we had only just became friends....) But, she only got worse. She then during her final in person stay with me proceeded to do/watch whatever she wanted on MY tv and even stopped me from talking during shows, just so she could talk through out the entire bit.

I eventually stopped allowing her to come over, and mainly hung out on discord... Though she demanded I be in VC with her ALL. DAY. LONG. And basically be her live journal/therapist about how bad her life was and how she wanted it to end, with ZERO break. (She'd even to talk to me just after harming herself, and OPENLY ADMIT IT TO ME SHE WAS. WHICH IS EXTREMELY TRIGGERING FOR ME BEING A FORMER HARMER.) At this point she wouldn't even write with me anymore. It was basically anything and everything she wanted to do at this point. Even watching shows it was what SHE wanted. Mind you, she was replying/writing with EVERYONE ELSE on here.

It got to the point that my own mental health was going down the drain, and I started to loathe myself because I was becoming bitter to her and I was intimidated due to the fact she had over a thousand followers... I felt like I was obligated to be friends with her still due to the fact she had spent so much money on me and claimed they were gifts... (I shit you not she spent like over $1,000 AGAINST MY WISHES. I TOLD HER NO AND TO STOP. I even gave her money in return... I EVEN STOPPED TELLING HER IF I WAS DOING SOMETHING THAT REQUIRED MONEY.) It ultimately killed my entire muse to write/rp and Idk if I can ever get it back now....

I've cut ties with her, but even now I still have to ask.... Am I the asshole for bailing on someone even though they spent so much money on me?

P.S Even to this day, she keeps trying to contact me.

[indierptea]

I wish people would stop sending death threats to others just for sharing different opinions than them.

[pixelpaladin24]

Little confession about roleplay ai

If this character ai existed 12 years ago, I never would've written Loki myself.

The reason I started writing him for others is because nobody wanted to write with my oc girl. I'd get 2-3 replies for my oc girl, then the thread would get lost/the roleplayer would block me/they'd tell me they're not interested in continuing/didn't even reply my messages.

I was so devastated that I decided I'd write Loki when my friend quit and handed him over to me - and I decided I'd write him for EVERYONE, especially oc girls. And because of this, I've met extraordinary people. I've made friends.

But this was not what I originally wanted...

And ever since then, I refuse to indulge writing my oc girls with other people. Even though everyone says they love my writing, it dies as soon as I do it with my oc girls. It happened so many times that I deleted my girls' blogs.

Mystery. Especially when everyone is so loud about being "acceptive" of ocs, and especially, oc girls.

I've been conditioned in the rpc that I can write men better - nobody said it precisely but I can see it from the responses - and I should, because nobody ever gives a fuck about my oc girls, no matter how fleshed out they are (sometimes even more fleshed out than my oc boys, who, in comparison, are way too popular).

I've been at this game for 12 years, and I still can't wrap my head around this.

But, back to my main topic; with this character ai thing... I can write my oc girls. I get actual replies. I don't get ignored. I can feel fuzzy and happy, and I get to be inspired because someone, even if it's just a generated response, is "interested" playing with my oc girls. And they're not abandoned. The fact that I got a lil' notification that "Gale wants to chat with you" gave me actual happy tears this morning. I haven't even written with that Gale before. I mean what the fuck.

I'm not turning away from the tumblr rpc completely. But it's so nice that ai can and WILL scratch an itch I've had for 12 years.

At the end of the day, it does no harm and brings joy.

I feel accepted, even if it's just a bot.

And that's just so fucking sad and wonderful at the same time.

[ramblerpc]

I tailor my level of interaction with my mutuals to how much they interact with me. I'll often start out interacting with them, but if I get primarily radio silence back from them, I'm not going to waste my energy. If I reblog their promo once and they can't be assed to reblog mine, then I'm never giving them another reblog. If I like a few of their posts or reply on them and they don't bother to interact back... I'm not going to continue liking or replying on their posts. If they never answer memes I send and/or never send me memes back, I'm not going to keep sending them.

The fact of the matter is, interaction needs to be a two-way street. Reciprocate, people. Even if it's so much as liking a post or responding to a comment they left on your post. I am not going to waste my energy on someone who can't be bothered to acknowledge my presence. There are more ways to interact and engage with your mutuals than simply answering memes they send and replying to threads with them.

And don't go blaming "anxiety" on it, either. You can be anxious to do it and still do it. If you're too anxious to ever acknowledge someone's existence, that to me breaches into the territory of a mun who cannot or will not communicate with their mutuals if there's an issue, and that is an even bigger problem. If you don't reciprocate even in small ways, then you have zero room to complain about people never interacting or sending you things. Put in some effort.

[antonblastdeluxe]

The fact that confession blogs still exist on 2023 enabling cowards to vagueblog about others in the community with no consequences is absolutely jarring to me.

[rpc-coffee]

i went through all this trouble to join a site, and now i don't even want to apply... smh

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[windsfavored]

anonymous &&. said... (Hello, new anon here) How long have Ren and Kazuha (Milla's) been in a relationship? and how did you guys decided to write these 2 together?

hello  hello  new  anon!  ✨  kazuren  started  way,  waaay  back  over  on  our  original  blogs.  (  erabundus  and  momijiba  respectively.  )  milla  and  i  actually  made  our  accounts  within  a  few  days  of  each  other.  basically  as  the  story  goes,  i  made  ren's  blog  first  and  just  so  happened  to  reblog  a  gifset  from  milla's  account  —  which  drew  their  attention  to  the  genshin  rpc  and  led  to  them  creating  kazuha.  we  started  writing  together  before  wanderer  was  even  released;  i  think  our  first  couple  interactions  with  one  another  kind  of  ended  up  retroactively  retconned  because  all  we  really  had  to  go  off  of  for  ren's  character  at  that  point  was  the  drip  marketing.  i  had  actually  been  writing  scaramouche  on  and  off  for  years  prior  to  that  point  —  but  i  was  sick  of  having  to  remake  my  headcanons  every  single  time  hoyo  decided  to  throw  a  few  lore  crumbs  into  an  artifact  set,  so  i  decided  to  temporarily  retire  his  muse  until  he  was  finally  playable  and  i  had  a  more  solid  foundation  to  work  with.

in  any  case,  we  wrote  together  for  a  while  and  started  messaging  OOC  —  first  through  tumblr's  terrible  IM  system  and  eventually  graduating  to  discord.  kazuha  and  ren  ended  up  having  very  fun  chemistry  together  so  i  decided  to  take  the  plunge  and  ask  milla  if  they  were  interested  in  shipping.  something  important  to  note  is  that  we  generally  DON'T  plot  out  too  much  for  kazuren.  (  like,  ever!  )  we'll  have  general  ideas  like  wanting  kazuha  to  propose  or  ren  telling  him  about  the  fatui,  but  in  practice  we  kind  of  let  them  play  off  of  each  other  and  see  where  it  takes  them.  i  think  it's  led  to  their  relationship  feeling  a  lot  more  authentic  than  something  meticulously  planned  down  to  the  very  last  detail.  for  instance,  they  only  actually  got  together  in  the  first  place  because  a  stupid  joke  about  potassium  snowballed  into  an  argument  —  which  led  to  ren  confessing  he  only  wants  to  give  kazuha  a  good  life  and  kazuha  confessing  in  turn  that  the  only  way  for  that  to  happen  would  be  if  ren  was  a  part  of  it.

it's  been  almost  TWO  IRL  YEARS  since  they  started  dating  and  a  little  over  one  since  they  got  engaged.  we  fully  plan  on  writing  out  their  wedding  at  some  point;  we've  talked  about  potentially  making  it  a  dash  event  so  everyone  can  have  fun  with  it  —  we'll  see  what  happens!  whatever  the  case  may  be,  i'm  so  so  happy  i've  had  the  opportunity  to  write  this  ship.  it's  changed  my  brain  chemistry,  it  lives  in  my  head  rent  free,  they  are  the  guys  ever.

ALSO  it's  only  because  of  kazuren  that  i  had  the  chance  to  meet  and  get  to  know  my  best  friend,  and  for  that  i'll  be  forever  grateful. 

[damnfandomproblems]

5850:

Not to beat a dead horse, because I'm pretty sure we're all actually in agreement that some people use concrit as an excuse to troll or be gross, and some people think they're being polite but worded things badly...but people are actually right on the money with RPers being obscenely sensitive, and it's easy to believe them when they say they are being civil because I see it too. It gets worse the younger people you're around. Maybe it's because the RPC attracts a certain subset of people who really want validation, or who are dealing with stuff at home and don't actually want anything that isn't shining positivity, even if they think they do, who knows. But the scenario where someone asks for feedback, then reacts disproportionately if they get anything that isn't a perfect compliment, isnt a new thing. I looked at two confession blogs and found these in five minutes of searching.

https://www.tumblr.com/roleplayerconfessions/678565733649842176/get-over-yourself-you-asked-how-your-portrayal

https://www.tumblr.com/confessionsofa-roleplayer/179831150654/i-find-myself-always-hesitant-to-give-feedback-to

https://www.tumblr.com/confessionsofa-roleplayer/159494723029/a-partner-claimed-they-were-looking-for

https://www.tumblr.com/roleplayerconfessions/673105147180826624/note-to-self-send-me-honest-feedback-on-my

https://www.tumblr.com/confessionsofa-roleplayer/169621860191/what-they-say-send-constructive-criticism-about

https://www.tumblr.com/roleplayerconfessions/672554002970525696/its-hard-being-autistic-in-the-rpc-people-ask

So...it's a thing, yes.

Posting as a response to a previous problem.

For convenience:

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[angie-long-legs]

// a little psa ! 📣

please do not send me irl descriptions of abuse you've been through. the reasons are as follows:

I'm not comfortable responding to something so serious in character. I absolutely understand the desire to bring this to a character like angel dust given his story, and since I frequently write about his abuse, I can see how it would make sense to share your own experiences with him. However, I am only comfortable discussing fictional abuse publicly and ic. Responding to confessions of irl abuse in character feels trivialising.

I have my own fair share of trauma from abuse, and when things on here delve too far into the realm of reality, it can become triggering for me. I find it very healing to write about fictional abuse because there is a safety net of "it's not real" (dissociation 😎), and without that net, things like this can hit a little too close to home.

It wouldn't be fair of me to post a description of abuse publicly on my dashboard where followers of mine could potentially see it and get triggered. Yes, I extensively tw everything I post here, but I cannot censor an ask with a read more, and even if I could, I feel like an irl description of abuse breaches what is acceptable to post in the rpc. For the safety of my mutuals and people who follow this blog, I don't feel it is appropriate to post an anonymous account of abuse.

that being said, here's a little message to the anon in question:

don't worry, I'm not upset or triggered by your ask! this is a precautionary measure to assure I don't become triggered by similar asks in the future, and I will be reworking my rules to include a request not to send content like this.

I'm very touched that you felt comfortable sharing this with my portrayal of angel dust, and I can tell you he is absolutely rallying for you - and so am I! I'm truly sorry that you experienced such insidious treatment from someone close to you, and I hope you have people in your life who are supportive and caring and that you are healing a little more every day. you didn't deserve any of it. I am thinking of you, and I wish you all the best.

I hope you find comfort in this crazy, messed-up character the way that I do 🩷

[rpthoughtsandconfessions]

OP: "Hello I'm ______ :)))! Btw if you wanna plot/write together sometime please feel free to let me know!" Me: "Hello!! :D I'd love to plot/write with you sometime!" OP: *Excitedly* YAYAYAYAYAYAYA- *Proceeds to talk about how FULL their inbox is and how they are never not have anything to do, along with anything and everything NOT related to the original reason they approached you, to begin with.* Me: "...."

[strebcr]

🚩 !!

send me a 🚩 and i'll share my unpopular rpc opinions and hot takes.

bonus points if you include a specific topic to talk about, like follower count, softblocking, graphics, etc.

I do not care for rpc confession blogs. They not only have some of the most dogshit takes I've ever seen, but nine times outta ten they feel like gulit tripping and vauge posting with extra steps. Like I've been here since I was 18, I completely understand having gripes with the rpc. But there are far better ways to go about it. Gulit tripping randos on the dash to rp with you ain't it, whenever I see a reblog from a confession blog I just roll my fucking eyes. 😔

[indierptea]

DA RULES

Talking about fandoms or rpc's is OK, namedropping specific roleplayers is not

[demonsfate]

maybe somewhat controversial but saw somethin on a confessions blog saying this and i guess i do kinda miss when rping felt... sillier at times? like with both the existence of magic anons & dash commentaries. things just feel Stricter or More Serious now? not sure how to put it. dash commentaries do still happen, but not as frequently as i used to. like GOSH, i remember 5+ years ago, i'd have my character saying something bizarre and it would BLOW the entire dashboard up. like almost all my mutuals would be commenting on it, a lot of "silly drama" would happen because of it. some would agree with my muse, some would prosecute them. that doesn't really happen anymore. though, i also understand. i get that ppl have boundaries, but sometimes it really feels like you have to walk on eggshells lest you upset somebody.

i recalled one time this character was just being AWFUL to mine (mine who has done nothing wrong lol) just hurling insults, mistreating them, whateves. so y'know, there were dash commentaries about this and it eventually lead to the other mun getting very upset that their character was being "villainized". and it's like ... don't ... write an antagonistic muse if you don't want that? or the very least, don't write them BEING antagonistic toward innocent people? i mean, when ppl's muses & anons used to bully abaddon, i actually loved it. because indeed deserved it, he's a horrible horrible person who mistreats and kills the innocents. and plus it's just fun ok? i love conflict - regardless if it's angsty, serious, or silly conflict.

and magic anons... i get it can be a flawed concept. (ppl can send their Thinly Disguised Fetishes in it - not that i care but obvs other ppl would rightfully care) but i still thought it was very fun because it's like temporary or mini aus. it plunges characters into otherwise impossible scenarios and then give you new thread concepts based on those scenarios. i'd say even to this day, i still accept magic anons. but that feels pointless to say because they're virtually nonexistent anymore.

this was all i was gonna discuss in this post, but i can also understand why the rpc is often... less engaging anymore? why we have a problem with communication, why we have a problem with less anons being sent out. this isn't a generalization, of course - there are other reasons why this happens. but this is something i've personally experienced in the past, and it makes me think it could be the same for other people. it's just the fear of being blown up at, again - upsetting somebody.

i've seen people be legit hateful towards the anons they get A LOT. like an old rper i've stopped writing with would literally call the anons "assholes" and trying to "ruin fun" because the anons would just comment on the threads or ask questions regarding the threads? and it's like i thought that was supposed to be a common thing... anons like that just help add insight to how the muse is feeling regarding a thread or somethin. but the way they reacted was so unnecessary hostile? when they could've politely told anons to stop or just... fucking deleted the anons like lmao. and it's not just this too but i've seen other people just react bitterly to certain anons they get. or this one time where somebody REQUESTED for CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM and i sent an anon giving my criticism, can't remember quite what it was but obvs i said nothing mean or insulting - i just told them a problem i noticed and gave tips on how they could possibly improve (AGAIN, THEY ASKED FOR THIS) and they later went on their blog talking about how they got ANON HATE???? HELLO????? so yeah, i understand not liking certain anons you get or whatever. but ppl react to them with so much hostility, that it makes everyone else afraid to send anons anymore because they'd rather say nothing than upset the user, especially if they're gonna be potentially villainized for something that is virtually harmless.

then there is just talking to people ooc. hell, i've had somebody who followed one of my old blogs (this was like a few years ago iirc?) and their rules had that blood was one of their triggers. so i told them that i tag that so they don't have to worry and they literally said something like "I didn't ask you to :/" and that's it??? and then they were just rude to me the entire convo until we eventually unfollowed lol. not to mention all the skype & discord contacts i add over the years and then we just stop talking in no time...

anyway, i'm not saying everyone is like this at all! there are MANY super cool people in the rpc, many people i have a lotta fun writing with here. but when you look back at all the bad experiences, or even looking at the bad experiences at are currently unfolding, it makes more and more sense why a lotta the "silly" rp aspects that ceased to exist. why there are no more magic anons, and why dash commentary & anons in general are becoming more and more scarce.

it was this post that inspired me to talk about this. which i actually don't agree with everything op said. in fact, i wouldn't even say the primary issue of current threads is romance or smut. more so, i noticed that fluff / slice of life threads with no conflict is what makes up for most threads nowadays it seems lmao. which is also understandable, because again - it's a popular known issue within the rpc that it's hard to have conflict in threads, lest somebody legit gets their feelings hurt OOC!!! hell, this has happened to me a few times because i often play antagonistic muses. which again, is another issue that makes people feel like they're constantly walking on eggshells. but anyway, it just inspired me to think about and discuss this.

[ramblerpc]

So we can't post too many aesthetic posts, we can't post too many headcanon/ musing posts, we can't even interact with our mutuals lest we get called clingy or weird what can we do then in the RPC if we can't make posts or interact with our mutuals?

[the-haunted-office]

A little confession from the mun, with it being munday, and I felt like opening up about it.

Something that I feel insecure about a lot is, I get worried that people in the roleplay community think that I don't find their muses interesting because my muses don't express physical or sexual interest in theirs, because I know how big of a thing that is in the rpc. It's okay that that's a big thing in the rpc, I'm not knocking that at all, but it's true that the majority of my muses don't comment much on physical appearances or come onto people right away or easily or flirt as openly and that sort of thing. I just hope that people don't take that as meaning that I personally am not interested in their muse or don't find them interesting, because I feel like some people in the past have taken it that way.

My muses are more geared towards getting to know other muses on a more personal and intellectual level, and admittedly that's largely due in part because that's how I operate as a roleplayer. Like, I'm open to shipping and all, but I also thrive more on the plotting and world-building and relationship building end of things. I love putting our muses together into deep introspective threads where they really get to pick at each other's brains and inner-workings and go out and do things together and get into trouble together.

But yeah. Take it from me, even if my muses think yours is cute or pretty or even if they're attracted to yours sexually, they're not likely to express it in an overt way. They're likely to be more subtle about it. And I really really hope you guys don't take that as me personally not thinking your muses are interesting! Like I said, it might sound silly for me to be saying this here and now, but I have had past experiences where people have taken it personally that myself and/or my muses weren't explicitly commenting on the physical appearance of their muse or openly flirting with them, and it's made me a little insecure myself I guess.